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July 19, 2015

Colorado Mission Trip


And he's off . . . again.
I am definitely missing my little buddy. He left early yesterday morning to head to Colorado for now his 5th mission trip without the rest of us.  In 4th and 5th grades, he went on a trip to do service projects in Waco. In 6th and 7th grades, he went to Arlington to work with backyard Bible clubs. Now he got to step out a bit further (okay, a lot further) to work with one of our partner churches in Castle Rock, Colorado. He came home from his trip to Arlington in March with his heart set on Colorado. He's one of the oldest kids on the trip, so that will give him an opportunity to be a leader of some sort. 
His team will be serving and working pretty much non-stop every morning and afternoon, leading a sports' camp for kids in the community, working on a bike restoration project to get bikes into the hands of kids that can't afford them, helping out in a food pantry, and doing various other service projects that come up.
Of course, they will have a few extra fun activities planned, like zip-lining, swimming, and dinners out. Sounds like they will have a lot to be proud of when they come home and will have some great memories. I bet they'll be pretty tired, too, since their days start earlier than most school days!
Proud of my boy, thankful for the people that partnered with him financially to make it possible for him to go, grateful for a church that gets our kids mission-minded very early on, but missing him, too. 

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Published on July 19, 2015 18:59

July 15, 2015

While we hung out with cows . . .

We all looked forward to July 14th this year. In fact, it's one of the few dates I had anything written on the calendar at all for the entire month.

COW DAY! (AKA--Chick Fil-A's Cow Appreciation Day).

Here's the deal. You dress up like a cow, you get a free meal. Sounds kinda silly, I know, but when you get the whole family involved and make it a yearly tradition, it's almost like another holiday! We get new people to join us every year, too, so it's a lot of fun.

                                         Our first year                               Juan David's first year
  THIS YEAR!   

However, little did we know that while we all ate and hung out with other cows, God appointed that same hour for my grandmother to slip into Heaven.

She lived quite a long life, widowed three different times. I lived too far away to ever have a chance to get to know her well. In fact, I think it's been about ten years since I last saw her. But I prayed for her daily, at least for the last six months, not knowing how little time she had left. I prayed for two things for her every day--joy and purpose. I don't know that I'll ever know how God answered those prayers, but I believe He did in some way.

I wish I could have taken one last trip to see her, but I'm glad my oldest brother recently felt that burden and did have that chance last November. I know it overjoyed her to see him and his children.

I hope my uncle doesn't mind that I stole this off of his Facebook page, but I love this picture. Not only do my dad and my uncle both look great in the picture, but she's wearing my favorite color.

Pink is my happy color for some reason, so it makes me hope that the day they took that picture was a happy day for her, one filled with a sense of joy.

Love you, Grandma. I bet Heaven is amazing.






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Published on July 15, 2015 13:26

July 11, 2015

Remembering Sentencia

July 11, 2013. A very, very, very long awaited day. A lot of "blood, sweat, and tears" led up to it, five years of blood, sweat, and tears.

When we set out to adopt, we wanted a little girl. When we found her, we fell in love with her brother, too. At least one of them. (We didn't know there was another one.) We came so close to adopting them, so, so close. Then we lost them both.

That's when we met the other brother. He helped me grieve. He gave me back the opportunity to say goodbye. He gave me closure. I loved him, too.

Another family stepped up for the first two. At least I knew they'd be part of a family. At least I knew they'd stay together. Until the split. It broke my heart in two. He let her go because he loved her and wanted the best for her.

She had a new family. He was included as part of another family. The "other brother" became part of ours. I still loved all three of them as if they were mine. I knew I always would. I always will.

"If you had the chance to still adopt my brother, would you do it?" Julian asked me one morning as we sat and talked over breakfast that first summer in Colombia.

"Of course we would, but another family has embraced him now. I just want him to be happy."

I never imagined I would have a chance to live up to my response to Julian that day. I never thought another chance would ever come our way.

I'll never forget July 11, 2013, though sadly, the details of the actual day are quite blurry. I'd been in Colombia for five weeks. David slowly recovered from a pretty serious sickness, and now I myself was falling ill. I waited all morning for my lawyer's phonecall, hoping and praying to finalize the adoption that day. With a heavy heart, so disappointed that he hadn't called, I laid down for short nap. Shortly after I fell asleep, the phone rang.

"Come now!" Our sentencia was ready to be signed.

I jumped out of bed, quickly brushed my hair, grabbed the boys, and ran out the door. We met our lawyer shortly after, waited in a line, climbed the stairs for about five stories, recaught our breath, waited on a bench, and then signed a paper at a counter.

Nothing formal. No courtroom. No ceremony. Nobody dressed up. But with that paper officially signed by all, Juan David officially became our son and took on our last name.

I kept my word to Julian that we'd still adopt his brother if given the chance.

Hardest thing I've ever experienced. But I am grateful for all of it.

(Want the whole story? Hop on over to my book blog, www.unexpectedtearsbook.blogspot.com to read it piece by piece, with pictures. Or wait until it comes out in print next month and is followed by the sequel a few months later).



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Published on July 11, 2015 12:21

July 8, 2015

Unemployment

Yep, that's right. I am choosing to be thankful for my husband's unemployment. Honestly, what other choice do I have? To not be thankful doesn't help change things--it only makes it harder to deal with every day.

To be honest, I struggle. It's been over two months now. I won't deny that panicked feeling whenever I have an extra expense come up or whenever a day goes by that he doesn't get a single phone call back or line up an interview somewhere. I give it to God every morning and feel such peace. Then I come inside, and it doesn't take long for the anxiety to creep back in.

God is reminding every day, though, just how much I have to be thankful for.  Here are the things I'm thankful for regarding his unemployment.


Time. We are all off for the summer. This has never happened before. We've been blessed with lots of lunches together, unhurried dinners, movies, trips to Six Flags, and even two spontaneous trips that weren't quite so close. With no school, work, or soccer schedules to work around, it's a gift. Rest. No one has to come up with a schedule of who takes which son where at what time. Who has to work late, who needs to start dinner, what meals have to planned for what days because of time crunches, etc. Sometimes we have to fight over who wants to take one of them somewhere because we are both free to do it. Miraculous provision . Two random, unexpected gifts paid for over half of our summer. We have not had to scrape for anything. If Mike still had his job, we would have missed out on witnessing that God really does work like that. He really does just drop money from the sky. Our sons would have missed that, too.Peace. Just like we learned last year with the camper situation. When God takes something away, it means He has something better in store. We know God's got this.Prayers. I can't tell you what it means to me to hear someone is praying for him to find a job. Even someone from my writer's group wrote a comment on my story last month saying, "Praying for you daily". Knowing there are people in our life that have our back. People who tell us, "I promise you, we won't let you go under. Please don't suffer in silence. If you ever have a need, let us know." (We haven't had a need to bring up and shouldn't for awhile, but it's nice to know we're surrounded by people like that.)We are a two-income household. We have money to live on. I am reminded of that when I hear of families who lost their only source of income. Faith in a God who always has our back, and who always goes before us. Faith that every loss has purpose. Faith in a God with a track record that's not about to change.We finished Juan David's recognition of adoption without the cost of a lawyer, saving us over $1500 that we can use now.A trip to the beach (one of my biggest desires for the summer) that only cost us gas and two nights on a campground. Taking a big trip to Florida would have cost us a whole lot more. Two opportunities to be trained in leadership. A women's intensive one-day leadership retreat in August, and then the Willow Creek Leadership Summit for two days at my church the following weekend (I get to go for free because I serve in a leadership role of some kind in the church). If all had gone according to my plans, I would have been on vacation during both of them. A chance to expose the boys to "reality" and the importance of stewardship and money management, as well as faith in a God to take care of us and meet all of our needs.Timing. We just came through a ReEngage program that helped us communicate so much better with each other and take each other's needs into consideration. Without those tools, I'm not sure our relationship would be standing as strong as it is at the moment. I'm teaching a Bible study right now. There is always a trial or struggle when I teach a Bible study, and we always come out with a blessing on the other side.Extra savings. We're living off the second year(and likely final year) of a larger than normal tax refund due to the Adoption Tax Credit. The extra expenses that come up (new tires, vet bills, computer issues, etc.) haven't hurt us or put us into any kind of debt.  Julian went to Argentina before I could spend the money to buy tickets to go to Colombia with Juan David.I signed David up for his mission trip to Colorado just before Mike lost his job. I fully intended to pay for the entire amount, but instead we had to live by faith that God would provide the funds through other means. That in itself gave others the blessing to partner with the "mission" financially, and it keeps David more accountable to others, knowing that they supported him. So, while I do prefer security and routine, and while I don't like not knowing how to plan very far into the future, I am thankful for all the ways God has shown Himself to us in this trial. 
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Published on July 08, 2015 14:34

July 5, 2015

Thankful

It's all about perspective, I guess. I know, it's hard for me, too, to watch all my friends' and coworkers' posts about their lavish trips and vacations and not envy them. Not wish I could have taken a more extravagant vacation, Or updated my house just a bit more. Or had the fancy stuff that other people have.

It only takes a quick second to glance someone else's way and forget all the blessings right in front of me. Or the trips I have taken in the past. Or the updates we already made on the house. Or the fancy stuff I've collected over the years.

I suddenly don't see the relationships God gave me, the friendships He blessed me with, the abundant provision over our lives in the last two months, or the amazing difference in my health and energy level since last summer. I take for granted the opportunity my boys had to go to camp this year, an opportunity I definitely didn't have growing up. I forget to thank God for blessing us with enough to take two quick, random trips this month as a family to see my parents and later to camp on the beach. And what about that giant camper we all slept in so comfortably?

I hate it when I play the game of comparison, knowing full well how damaging it is and how ungrateful I can quickly become.

I'm trying to shift my focus back to gratitude so I can stop playing this senseless game. We will never have enough (enough money, enough savings, enough blessings, enough relief, enough pleasure, enough rush, enough time). We'll strive for one thing, and then once we have it, we think we need something else. We fight to survive one issue, and then we immediately jump to another one as soon as the first one is resolved. We take that fancy vacation or buy that wanted item only to want something even better next time.  Or if it seemed perfect, it's still not enough until we get to do it again.

Reality check. We'll never arrive at ENOUGH on this side of Heaven. The closest we'll ever come is finding complete satisfaction in Jesus' presence. Everything else I strive for is meaningless and just leaves me feeling anxious for more and more and more.

In my quest to memorize more Scripture this year, God has led me to so many verses that focus on having a thankful heart. I hope the words truly sink in the more I practice them and hide them in my heart. So I think my next few posts are going to focus on specific things (and trials) in my life that I am thankful for. If anything, they are good reminders to me, if not also encouragement to you, so we can both be "overflowing with thankulness" (Col. 2:7b).

Stay tuned.

(Check out my Pinterest board (on the left column on this blog) called Scripture memory to see some of the verses I'm working on. Okay, so I'm still not the greatest with making pins, but at least it's a start. I'm learning.)

     

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Published on July 05, 2015 16:48

July 1, 2015

Camping trip to Galveston, Texas

I wanted more than anything to take David to the beach this year once it dawned on me that he'd never had that experience yet in his life. We mentally planned a trip to Florida in late July/early August, but then Mike's job situation made it hard to stick with our plan.

I also really wanted to take advantage of our new camper this summer, so we killed two birds with one stone and headed to Galveston to camp at the beach, literally right next to the water. It turned out to be a huge blessing. I think it's one of my favorite places to camp now. Not much else compares to waking up at the crack of dawn and sitting on the beach all alone with God as the sun rises. Or watching your 13 year old experience the ocean for the first time ever, taking it in through his eyes and his delight. Or walking along the shore with your teenage sons later in the evening as the sun is setting. Or cooking out for dinner in the moonlight and listening to the sound of the crashing waves just a few hundred feet away. Or seeing your boys so amused by playing in the waves all day.

I had to remind myself to just breathe and take it all in, not to take a single minute for granted. We made it a quick trip, just long enough to get away, to appreciate the experience, and, of course, to bring home a nice sun burn.

We kept the month of June pretty full and adventurous for the boys. David's church camp in Austin, Six Flags (several times), Hurricane Harbor, St. Louis with the grandparents, Juan's church camp in Colorado, and then Galveston.  Not sure what else might come up this summer. Other than David's mission trip to Colorado, the calendar is open.


Sunrise on the beach on the first morning   Our site, literally right next to the water  Late night coffee with Mike  The boys loving every minute of playing around in the waves  A ferry ride  Coffee on the beach  Another sunrise on the beach  On the ferry  Best place to start my day  The boys contemplating if the waves are big enough to have some fun  Our view from the camper

 Our site was right where that light pole is  The sun trying to peek its way through the clouds in the early morning  Roasting marshmallows while listening to the waves


 Mickey's reaction to the ocean (Minnie wasn't as laid back)  David's first morning on a beach. He wanted to sit out there alone to take it all in.  Another ferry like the one we rode  David :)   BLESSED.  I don't know that I could have enjoyed this trip so much or have felt so blessed by it if we had actually planned it ahead of time.
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Published on July 01, 2015 20:02

June 27, 2015

Taking my own advice

I buddied up with a friend for prayer time during Bible study last night. We each shared one specific area where  we needed prayer. My request is to just lighten up a bit. I can get so wound up thinking about Mike's job situation that I throw all fun and lightheartedness out the window.  I don't want to look back at this time and regret what we missed. The boys are growing up way too fast, and I want to embrace every bit of time we have with Juan David, considering we missed the first 15 1/2 years of his life.

My friend texted me two days later saying she prayed for me to have a lighter day. I went from feeling anxious and overwhelmed in the morning hours to feeling carefree and joyful the rest of the day. David and I had a super fun day together (Juan was at camp) playing games, going shopping, enjoying a lunch date, and just doing stupid stuff and laughing about it.  I sure do adore that kid, even though I barely recognize his voice anymore. Ugh. Puberty.

Mike and I made a random decision to get out of town for a few days again to enjoy another family camping trip. Without knowing the future regarding Mike's employment or schedule, we can't plan anything too far ahead (or too expensive). But I'm kind-of enjoying this randomness. It's definitely keeping everyone on their toes. :) Plus it helps Mike from getting discouraged through this job search.

I have to be back to teach Bible study on Wednesday night, so I'll post pics of our newest adventure when we get back. :)
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Published on June 27, 2015 13:10

June 25, 2015

Journey

It's been a bit quiet around here this week. Juan David is having the time of his life, I'm sure, in Winter Park, Colorado for high school church camp.  They call it Journey.  He was pretty nervous a year ago when he went for the first time, but he came back speaking a ton of English and with the official title of "ladies man".  Let me tell you, he did not hint at even the tiniest bit of nervousness about going this year.

I have been looking through these pictures that I stole from Instagram, and I must say, I am a bit jealous of his experience. Yet when I look through all the worship pics, comments, and videos, I am reminded of God's purpose for this boy, my son.

There's so little I really get to teach him in the few years we have him, so I am thankful that we have such a great "village" to help us guide him toward Christ.
  And there it is! #419journey Ladies & Gents Getting ready for camp picture this morning! All 700 of us #419journey Praying over this tent this morning, that God will continue to move in this place like He has already began to! #419journey   I BELIEVE IN THE NAME OF JESUS! Let's do this Lord! #419journey #journey2015 WE ARE READY TO DO THIS! #419journey   #selfieswithpastors #419journey     #419journey    The view doesn't get much better than this #419journey #419journey #419journey ALPINE SLIDE #419journey GOOD MORNING FROM WINTER PARK! Set up is underway and in a few short days, you will be taking in this view #419journey #journey2015 So many great things to come this week. You YETI?!? #journey2015 #419journey           
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Published on June 25, 2015 19:11

June 23, 2015

To refrain from embracing

I joined Beth Moore's Scripture Memory group for the year back on New Year's Day. That means I committed to memorize two verses a month for a year, and then I get to attend a special retreat next year with Beth Moore along with other women who do the same. One of the ladies in my Bible study last summer really raved about the experience and challenged us to do it this year. So a few of us did.

January 1st was easy. I wanted to learn verses on parenting. I picked I Corinthians 4:2--Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful.

Then came the 15th of the month, and I didn't have a second verse picked. I prayed about it and asked God what verse He wanted me to learn.

Ecclesiastes 3:5--A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them. A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.

Really? I wasn't quite sure where that one came from, but okay. I wrote it down in my little notebook and started to rehearse it every day.

Hmmm.  Maybe since my sweet baby boy is now an official teenager, it could be a reminder that I need to start letting go of my Mommy tendencies. (A time to refrain from embracing . . .)

Now that we're halfway into the year, I am beginning to see that it's not just my little boy that I'm having to let go of. 

Julian left Colombia to pursue a dream in Argentina. Tickets to Argentina are double the price of tickets to Colombia. We took a summer off last year to stay stateside and get some much needed rest, and now I don't know when I'll be able to see Julian again. I will miss being able to see him and Juan David cherish time together this summer.

We grew even closer to our campus pastor through the ReEngage program this spring, admitting how grateful we were to have such a genuine leader. Then he made that announcement we never expected. He left our campus a few weeks ago to plant a new church in an unreached area. I will miss his authenticity.

My principal of only three years announced at the very end of the year that she, too, will be starting at another campus for the following school year. She had confidence in me and praised me, and I will miss that.

Our friends from our small group decided to travel all over the world this spring, so we haven't seen or connected with them very much over the last few months. I miss their company and guidance.

My husband lost his job where he's worked since we first moved here almost twelve years ago. We know God has something even better in store for him, but I will miss the security and the familiarity of his job, the seniority he'd earned over the years, the insurance that let us keep the same doctors and dentists all 12 years, the flexibility in his hours, and the close proximity to home.

My dearest friends who we love like family, friends we have traveled to Mexico with on several occasions and who live just up the street are leaving tomorrow to move to Hawaii to connect with a new church ministry. I will miss our random meet-ups, our summers with Madai visiting both of us, the convenience of having them so close, and being part of the same church fellowship.

Makes me a bit nervous about any other changes the next six months might hold. I guess I am realizing the point in the verse, though. Carpe diem. Seize the day. Embrace the moment. Don't take a day, a moment, a relationship, or an opportunity for granted. Make the most of (and be grateful for) whatever you see in front of you today because it might not be there tomorrow.

I pray every morning for a friend who recently lost her son in a tragic accident, and with each prayer for her I am reminded to embrace all that I have in front of me.

Ecclesiastes 3:5--A time to scatter stones, and a time to gather them. A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.
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Published on June 23, 2015 10:56

June 20, 2015

An unplanned vacation :)

So, school's out. David's back from camp. Juan David's camp is a week away. My husband is still out of work, but our expenses have been covered for the month. What to do?

We hopped in the car and drove to St. Louis to spend a few days with my parents. Juan David had only been to their house once so far, and only to sleep. I want him to have memories like I do (and like David does) of visiting his grandparents.

It turned out to be a fun, inexpensive trip (thanks to my parents for abundantly feeding us). Mike felt rested and renewed after a long six weeks of job-hunting. The boys came back with another bonding experience under their belts. We made good use of our Six Flags season passes, including free parking even there. (FYI: Getting those season passes last October turned out to be one of our wisest purchases for two teenage boys!) In addition to all the fun, I also cherished the extra time with my mom and dad.

Here are some pics of our time there: (Unfortunately, I didn't get a single family pic or any of my parents, either. Oops.)


















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Published on June 20, 2015 08:27