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This is a story of isolationism and group loyalty. How about we make it a story of compassion?

Reblogged from Kink in exile: In the last week or so I found out that Susan Wright became Fetlife's new Community Manager. Susan Wright, the woman who thinks abuse survivors in the BDSM community shouldn't go to the proper authorities because before we can seek legal help or emergency intervention "There also has to be […]

Excellent BDSM-Primer for Authors and Readers

I’ve happened across a rather well-written BDSM-primer, both for authors, but also for interested readers. As this was written for the medical profession, particularly to differentiate between abuse and BDSM and to help medical personnel learn more about the lifestyle, it is rather comprehensive. It’s called “Beyond Whips And Chains” and is free for download: […]

Pubes and Bodyhair (NSFW)

I just want to draw attention to an article I recently read which exemplarifies part of my problems with current bodyimage, mainly female, but also male. As this is quite unsafe for work, and I’ll add a few pictures of adult nature, I’ll put this all under a tag. Don’t read on if this is […]

Yes, Mr. Hoffman!

Before you read on, please watch this short video: I’ve always liked the performances of this perfectionist actor, but this little snippet of an interview not only endears him even more to me for his epiphany, no it also highlights something about which I’ve been thinking a lot lately. I’ve been reading quite a few […]

Get your ladybusiness out of my dudes: M/M romance and the problems therein

Reblogged from A Trick of Light: First, a little preamble. I've written more than one thing that's been marketed as M/M romance - including Line and Orbit (and I've alluded to my slight disagreement that that particular book deserves that particular label). But in fact I'm not especially comfortable with the idea of being an […]

And a few added comments of my own to Jesse Wave’s Blog Post

Ms. Wave posts a couple of questions. Going by how she treats them, I suppose she thinks these are mere rhethoric questions no one needs answer. I beg to differ, Ms. Wave. Unlike you I believe these questions do need answers from an author who certainly won’t warn of bi/het content. …and in any event, […]

A warning about fair warning

Reblogged from The fiction of Amelia C. Gormley: So today, a popular review site posted a predictable and very, very tired rant about girl parts in m/m romance. Over on my Tumblr, I responded with my own rant calling them out on trans*phobia, biphobia and internalized misogyny. But what gets me more than anything else […]

If you "can't" leave Facebook...

Reblogged from Paul Bernal's Blog: I've been posting a lot about Facebook recently. I gave '10 reasons to leave Facebook' a few weeks ago - but for many people that seems either to be impossible, or very, very difficult. So, what can you do if you 'can't' leave Facebook, and you want to minimise your […]

Facebook: snitchgate!

Reblogged from Paul Bernal's Blog: A story about Facebook went around twitter last night that provoked quite a reaction in privacy advocates like me: Facebook, it seems, is experimenting with getting people to 'snitch' on any of their friends who don't use their real names. Take a look at this: Facebook has had a 'real […]

A few words on equality...

Reblogged from Paul Bernal's Blog: Back in the 80s, I was a young accountant working in the City, for what was then one of the very biggest firms of accountants in the UK. This was the height of Thatcherism, where greed and selfishness were pretty much de rigueur – when an incident happened to me […]