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May 19, 2013
Hot Ice Series Reviewed
Recently my Hot Ice series had been reviewed by Erotica For All. The reviews have been very favourable indeed - yes, I'm grinning - so I thought I'd share them here and pop the cork on a bottle of bubbly.
Hired Review
Hired is book one in the Hot Ice series by Lily Harlem, and let’s just say that as soon as I finished this one I immediately pulled the next one up on my Kindle!
It tells the story of Brooke Ambrose, a woman who is given an opportunity to earn one hundred thousand dollars just for spending a week on a paradise island with a famous hockey player. She’s reluctant at first, but when she thinks that she can use the money to get her through nursing school and launch her career, she decides to go for it. She’s not expected to talk to him if she doesn’t want to, or spend time with him. She’s just supposed to be there to make sure he doesn’t go off the rails. An easy job for plenty of money.
However, Logan Taylor isn’t just a hockey player – he’s also a gorgeous bad boy, and although he and Brooke don’t hit it off to start with, the ice between them eventually breaks. After they come to a truce, things quickly heat up between them and Brooke is left with her head in a mess. She wants Logan, but she’s a girl with morals and struggles with the reason she was on the island in the first place, and she must keep the secret, even if it will cost her her future.
Hired is a real page turner. We quickly get to know the female lead, who’s a nice girl just looking to get ahead in life. Very soon, Logan appears and the book begins to sizzle and steam. I don’t want to give too much away, so I’ll just say that this is an erotic romance with a fascinating plot, plenty of twists and turns and some smokin’ hot sex. I’d definitely recommend this to fans of erotic romance – you don’t have to like sport, either, as the hockey element isn’t too overbearing.
Cross-Checked Review
Cross-Checked is the second book in the Hot Ice series. I started this one immediately after finishing book one, as I was already hooked. This book deals with Brick, another of the Orlando Vipers hockey team and Carly, an Olympic athlete. They meet as they’re volunteering for some charity work, and we quickly learn that Carly has had a crush on Brick for some time. She’s surprised to learn that he knows who she is, and that he’s interested in her.
Resisting his charms, Carly’s determined to keep him at arm’s length until she’s sure he’s not just after a quick fling. However, it’s not easy to keep Brick away, he’s sexy and persistent, and before long the two of them have given into their passions. What follows is a really fun romp with some kink, some laughs (of the good kind!), and a healthy dollop of romance. I was totally engaged with this novel from beginning to end, I just couldn’t stop reading. I loved the characters, their chemistry and their adventures, and as with the last book, this one made me immediately want to read the next one.
Overall, another brilliantly written erotic romance from Lily Harlem, one that I can heartily recommended.
Slap Shot Review
Slap Shot is book three in Lily Harlem’s Hot Ice series. This time, we’re told the story of Rick “Ramrod” Lewis and event planner, Dana Wilcox. They meet at an event and are immediately drawn to one another. Unfortunately for Ramrod, Dana’s troubled past has made her swear off men for several years. He manages to talk her into a quickie – but then she runs away and refuses to speak to him again. However, the determined captain of the hockey team won’t let her brush off what happened between them, not without a damn good reason.
Dana doesn’t want to divulge her reasons – she’s worked incredibly hard to escape her past, and doesn’t particularly want to revisit it. However, Ramrod has wormed his way into her affections and persuades her to give him a chance. As is often the case, things don’t run smoothly, and the couple are subjected to more than one troubling issue before they’re allowed their happy ending.
This has been my favourite book of the series so far. I really like the character Rick/Ramrod, and the novel’s storyline. It’s intriguing, action-packed, erotic and romantic. I’m really looking forward to moving onto the next book in this excellent series.
Teamwork Review
Teamwork is book four in the Hot Ice series, and my favourite so far. It tells the story of Welsh nurse Fiona, who ends up treating hockey player Raven for injuries he got while playing. She knows nothing about the sport, but does know that Raven is possibly the surliest patient she’s ever had. The only saving grace is that his friend and teammate, Todd is sexy and much more pleasant. So pleasant, in fact, that he arranges for Fiona to go and work in Orlando for a few weeks in order to get Raven back to peak fitness. She jumps at the chance, especially since there’s a conference in Miami that she never thought she’d be able to get to. But because Orlando is much closer to Miami than Wales, she’s really getting a good deal.
Once in Orlando, Fiona’s delighted to go out on a date with Todd, and would be even more delighted to jump into bed with him. However, when Raven confuses matters by kissing her until her head spins, she wonders how she can possibly be attracted to both men, especially when they’re so different.
However, it soon becomes apparent that Raven and Todd work as efficiently off the ice as on, and when they set their minds to taking her to bed – at the same time, who is she to resist?
I gobbled Teamwork up in just a few very satisfying bites. I loved the change in setting at the beginning, and how the action was so seamless. The polar opposites of the two men really kept me interested, and when they got what they wanted – well, wow! These are amongst some of the hottest ménage scenes I’ve ever read – phew! I very much enjoyed the twists and turns and didn’t see them coming – my very favourite kind of book. I’m really looking forward to next instalment in this series. Hot stuff, Lily Harlem!
Wow, that's sure made me happy dance! Such kind words and it's thrilling to know that the stories and characters I had in my head worked so well when I put them down on the page.
Keep an eye out for High-Sticked, coming soon (m/m), and just so you know, I'm getting my head down on the 6th book right now which will be a return to m/f.
Thanks for reading.
Lily x
Breathe You In - Sunday Snog
Welcome to Sunday Snog hosted by fellow Brit Babe Victoria Blisse
My latest release is Breathe You In a super sexy romance set in England. Here is an excerpt that captures Ruben and Katie at a frantic moment...
Excerpt
We fell into our hotel room. Ruben kicked the door shut and dropped the key to the floor. Next thing I knew I was up against the wall, my wrists held above me in just one of his hands. He was staring down at me, his nostrils flaring as he breathed fast.
“Tell me this is it,” he said, palming my left breast through my dress with his free hand.
“Yes, this is it,” I panted.
“You and me?”
“Yes, you and me.”
He smiled, not in his usual sweet way but in a downright predatory way. “And what do you want?”
Excitement and anticipation swirled in my belly. Between my legs I was buzzing for attention. “You, Ruben, fuck me. I want you to fuck me.”
He gritted his teeth, but only briefly because then he caught my mouth in a wild kiss.
I pushed against him as he drove me harder into the wall with his body. There was nothing weak about him. He had me held tight with his chest, belly and legs all taut with muscle and his lust as powerful as any force I’d ever known.
I matched him kiss for kiss, looped my right leg around one of his. Tried to move my arms but couldn’t.
“Like this,” he said, suddenly releasing me and spinning me to face the long mirror next to us. “Bend over. Put your arms out.”
I stooped and pressed my palms onto the cool surface. He yanked my short dress up to my waist and tugged my knickers off. Cool air washed over my bum and legs.
His movements were swift, precise, and within seconds his cock was nudging at my pussy from behind.
Spreading my legs to make his entry easier, I watched in the mirror as he concentrated on his task, his hair flopping forward and his tie hanging loose, tapping against the small of my back.
But he didn’t penetrate me with his cock. Instead, he plunged two fingers into my pussy.
I shunted forward and gasped, the filling as sweet as it was intense.
“So wet for me,” he said, withdrawing and pushing back in, just teasing my G-spot the way he was so damn expert at. “You’re perfect for me.”
I forced myself to continue watching his reflection. He was tall and wide looming behind me, and still wearing his suit it seemed extra sexy, extra forbidden that we’d sneaked away from the celebrations to satisfy our sudden carnal urges.
“I’ll never get enough of you,” he said, fingering me, “or your sexy pussy.”
“Mmm…oh yes…but…” I needed more stimulation so let go of the mirror and searched out my clit.
“Oh, no you don’t,” he said, pushing me away, “that’s my job.” He took over with his free hand, working and rubbing, building me up.
I locked my knees and whimpered a complaint when he removed his fingers but then braced as he pushed his cock into me that first inch.
He gripped my left hip, kept working my clit. “I’m in Heaven when I’m in you,” he said, sinking balls deep and a long low grunt of pleasure erupting from him.
“Me too,” I gasped. “When you’re in me.”
Palms still on the mirror, I took him all, so deep he nudged right up to my cervix. I adored this position, I’d forgotten how much, and being able to see the bliss on his face as he withdrew and plunged back in was sublime.
He held me tight. I was a little unstable, my concentration wavering from my legs to my pussy. An orgasm was blooming. His fingers were wicked, unrelenting, feeding a pressure in my clit that was demanding more, more, more.
“Ruben,” I gasped. “Oh, God.”
I don’t know how I managed to stay on my feet as the coiling wave of bliss unraveled through me. Ruben had me pretty well held at my hips and the mirror supported me a little, but still, I felt like I was crumbling, floating. I bucked for more, jerked away. It was so much and the intensity stole my breath.
My climax crested and rolled, and I opened my eyes again, concentrated on Ruben’s reflection.
“Ah, yeah, squeeze me like that,” he said, releasing my clit and clutching both my hips. “It’s gonna make me come…ah…ah…” He tipped his face to the ceiling, closed his eyes and buried himself to the root. “Fuck, yeah…” He sucked in a deep breath. His tie settled for a second, and his chest expanded beneath his clothes.
His orgasm looked and sounded beautiful, and I knew I’d never get enough of seeing and hearing it. We were meant to be, Ruben and I. We were in perfect synchrony to weave love and time together.
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I hope that whet your appetite for Breathe You In available on Amazon US and Amazon UK.
It is already getting some great reviews…
“This book is so wonderful I can't even begin to express my feelings about it. Packed full of emotion. The writing is wonderful, the setting so vivid, and the relationship between this couple as it grows is so very real, so, so brilliant.”
"Breathe You In is both sexy and sweet, tragic and hopeful. The level of emotion Ms. Harlem evokes not only from the characters but the reader as well shows a rare gift. In a few short pages, she managed to make me cry, laugh, and yearn for this couple to connect. Breathe You In has become my favorite title by Ms. Harlem to date. As always, I can't wait to see what else she has in store for her readers."
"Lily Harlem really pulls at the heart strings with this unusual set up for a romance. The characters are strong and the emotions gut-wrenching in places. Of course there are scorching hot love scenes, filled with great passion but there is a lot of romance, plot and back story here too. I think it all comes together beautifully to make a cohesive erotic romance that isn’t just about the sex. It’s much, much more than that. This is an interesting set up for a love triangle that you’re just not going to expect and you will soon find yourself engaging with the fabulous characters Lily has created."
Thanks for reading
Lily
May 18, 2013
Sneak Peek Sunday #SneakPeakSunday
Thanks for visiting my home on the world wide web. Sneak Peek's are always tempting fun and today is an enticing snippet from my erotic novella Dangerous to Know. There is nothing romantic about this book, it's about whore fantasy and the lengths one woman will go to in order to make her seedy cravings reality. Before you read any further you should be reminded that this book is on the extreme end of my erotic writing and is strictly for 18+
“You really want to be a whore?” he asked. His breath was hot and reeked of tobacco. “My whore?”Both relief and excitement tumbled in my groin. He was going to play my game, thank God. I nodded up at him and he leaned against me, his chest just touching my excited nipples and his steely cock pressing into my hipbone. He was slightly out of breath—from our fast walk or sexual excitement?Sliding his hands up and over the balls of my shoulders, he pressed and urged me down onto my knees. I sank obediently. I wasn’t proud of the huge glut of pleasure that surged through me at being forced into position to suck a stranger’s cock for money, but I couldn’t deny it. It was alive, real, a part of me. It was one of the most erotic things I’d ever done.As my bare knees adjusted to the gritty, dirty pavement, he unzipped his pants, revealing snug red boxer briefs.“I like it good and firm,” he said. “No teeth and make sure you swallow.” He pulled out his cock and jerked it forward. It was thick and wide, the domed head deeply colored and the shaft twisted with heavy, bulging veins.My greedy mouth watered to taste him. I could smell him, musty, not fresh from the shower like my boyfriends had been when I’d sucked them off. No, he was raw male, meaty, overdosed on pheromones, and his cock had been nestled in those briefs all day. It was what I wanted—a whore didn’t deserve fresh dick. Sweaty, unconcerned cock was what whores were used to.
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Weekend Writing Warriors #WeWrWa #8Sunday
Welcome to Weekend Writing Warriors. This week a snippet from Stockholm Surrender, a story about kidnap, lust and forbidden love.
Shit. Why hadn’t I screamed a few minutes ago when I’d had the chance? He was crazy. A madman. I should have known. Oh, why had I been having all these delusional fantasies about him coming back for me? I was a fool, a hopeless, romantic, sex-starved fool and now I was going to die for it.A whimper of fear escaped my lips.“Penny,” he whispered. “I won’t hurt you. I just need a lock of your hair.”My eyes were filling. “My...my hair?”“Yes, if I was a real bad guy I would take a finger or a toe to send to your father, but a lock of hair will do.” He clenched his jaw and raised the knife. “Now keep the hell still.”
You can read the prologue to Stockholm Surrender, Stockholm Seduction for FREE. By popular reader request I wrote the full length novel to tell the rest of Penny and Ty's epic journey, titled Stockholm Surrender (because of Stockholm Syndrome and becoming infatuated with your hostage taker) and it's a clean sweep of 5* reviews on Amazon.
Here is the blurb...
My soul was in turmoil. Ty Winters had not only kidnapped me in Oz, my heartstoppingly gorgeous surfer had also stoked my darkest desires, bringing all my fantasies to the surface.So Oxford wasn’t going well. Until, that is, he creeped from the shadows—desperate, sexy, dangerous and wanting a piece of me, literally!He teased me with a taste of his carnal skills, leaving me burning with frustration then forced to stand by as he fought for his beliefs using my lust-addled body as his most powerful weapon.Oh, my kidnapper knew just how to get what he wanted, giving me just what I needed, while hiding our relationship from the British foreign minister and police. Because sometimes two people are meant to be, even in the most unconventional circumstances and twisted situations. We could fight the world, but we couldn’t fight our passion.
Dirty Birdies!
Please join me at Dirty Birdies today, a great blog full of erotic romance chatter and news. I'm sharing an excerpt from my hot new release Breathe You In.
May 17, 2013
Saturday Spankings #SatSpanks
Welcome spankers, it's so great to see you here. This week a little snippet from Enchanted Submission, my fairytale fantasy story which is about a recently divorced Beast - a respected Dom - and a newly submissive Rapunzel. They're having some naughty fun in the BDSM club frequented by all of those characters from childhood stories, but now, well now they're all grown up and playing hard and dark!
Excitement blazed through her. It was his family crest. A blank paddle would have been thrilling enough, but the thought of one which would pattern her buttocks with his symbol, his sign, claiming her as his property as her skin reddened was deliciously horny."Do you understand what I am going to do to you?" he asked.Rapunzel nodded.The room fell absolutely silent. Rapunzel's arousal was like another physical presence dancing around her. She wanted him to inflict pain, make her come, she needed it like she needed to breathe. She wanted to know how much he would give her, when would he stop? How much would it turn him on to see her red, thrashed and at his mercy?
Thanks for reading...
Lily x
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May 16, 2013
The Glass Knot facts...
I thought I'd share with you some facts about my m/m/f novel The Glass Knot. It's been one of my most popular books to date, with a whole heap of 5* reviews, and I have to say, I do have a real soft spot for these characters. Here's the gossip...
The Glass Knot is a story that came to me slowly to start with but then as the plot unfolded in my mind, became a whirlwind, a rush of need to get it written down.
If I'm ever having a low day I read the reviews on Amazon for Josh, Nick and Laura's story and it always makes me feel better. They were great characters to hang out with even though their sexy journey was a difficult one. The fact that people enjoyed me telling their tale makes the hard days of being a writer worth it and I thank readers with all my heart for leaving reviews.
Little facts about The Glass Knot...
1. The Glass Knot sat on a Harlequin editor's table for eight months, they wanted to publish it but ultimately didn't think their readers were quite ready for the heavy m/m and m/m/f sex scenes.
2. The village, Little Mickleton, where Josh and Nick live, is a real place that I've been to many times with Mr H.
3. I enjoyed the male sex scenes and the m/m aspect of writing this story so much that it gave me the confidence to write High-Sticked, the fifth book in my Hot Ice series. Unlike my other hockey stories this one is about two men and the problems one of them faces with coming out as a gay athlete. (Due out at Ellora's Cave very soon.)
4. I wrote the majority of The Glass Knot sitting in my back garden. We had a nice run of weather and I set up a parasol, a little table and chair and wrote and wrote and wrote. I had a citronella candle burning at my side to keep away the flies and when the sweetpeas came into bloom, I had a small jug filled to the brim on my desk.
5. Josh's character is based on a man I used to date. His looks, his easy-going ways and his profession. He wasn't gay or bi though like Josh is, he very much liked women!
6. The Peniche Hotel in Marbella, where the theesome meet at the beginning of The Glass Knot, is a fabric of my imagination though I did loosely style it on Don Carlos, a really lovely 5* hotel that Mr H took me to as a treat one weekend a few summers ago.
7. The cover was created by Posh Gosh and I adore the detail at the bottom which shows a hazy Cotswold skyline.
8. I picked cars for Josh and Nick that I hoped reflected their personalities. Nick has a Bentley and Josh a Subaru. Laura has a beaten up old VW Beetle she calls Dumbo. (I had this exact car many moons ago.)
9. This is the one book of mine that Mr H has never read.
10. This is one of my favourite scenes...
Josh was already getting busy. “Oh, yeah, you’re so wet,” he said, sliding the tip of his cock into my entrance.As always I willed my pussy to relax. His wide glans stretching tight flesh as it rode in was an enticing mixture of pain and pleasure. “Ah, ah, ah…” I panted, gripping his shoulders and drawing my knees up high. I needed to make myself as open as possible.“Take me,” Josh said breathily. “Take all of me.”I shut my eyes and relished the sensation of his thick cock riding over my G-spot—the hard, flared head stimulated it just right, bring it to life. As I let out a long, juddering breath he reached maximum depth.“Oh, yeah,” Josh groaned, locking his arms and staring down at our joined bodies. “That’s so hot to see you taking all of me.”“Tell me about it,” Nick said from behind Josh. He was between our legs, bending over Josh’s back. I saw his jeans flying off to the side and then heard them landing on the floor. “I had so many images in my head of you two together, but nothing as amazing as this.” He smoothed his hand over Josh’s shoulder.Josh twisted to kiss him, a real wet tongue affair with lots of appreciative moans.I’ve died and gone to heaven.Being penetrated and watching them kiss at the same time was off-the-scale sexy. I tweaked my breasts and ground my clit against Josh. “You two are so fucking sexy when you kiss,” I groaned.Josh broke his connection with Nick and stared down at me, as though fascinated by my statement.I thrust my hips up. “So fucking sexy when you kiss,” I repeated breathlessly.He dropped over me, and chased for my tongue with his. He tasted a little different now, of Nick, a new enticing flavor lacing his.He began to rock, pulling in and out just a little, rubbing my G-spot and grinding against my clit. Pressure grew; a lovely warm build-up of sensation that would soon have to be released.Suddenly Josh ceased all movement. He twisted to look at Nick.“Just relax,” Nick murmured.“Oh, God,” Josh groaned, his eyes glazing and his jaw hanging slack. “Really, now?”“What?” I panted, also stilling.“Yes,” Nick said in a darkly low voice.“Oh, oh…” Josh groaned. Beneath my palms his arms tensed to rock, but there was a slight tremble in them.I shifted to peer over Josh’s shoulder. Nick had his head bent, his fingers busy. I didn’t have to see to know he was fingering Josh’s anus.Nick lifted his head and looked at me. His eyes were on fire with desire, his face alive with want. In that moment he was more handsome than I’d ever seen him. More real and more open than he’d ever allowed himself to be in front of me. “Laura,” he said, near desperation on his face. “I want…”“Yes,” I said, “Yes, do it.” What could be hotter than both of us fucking Josh? What would make him come harder than that? We both loved him, we both wanted him. We could both have him. At the same time.
Thanks for reading, you can grab your copy of The Glass Knot from Amazon US or Amazon UK and check out all the reviews there too.
Lily x
PS - Another similar story, The Silk Tie, is starting to rumble around my psyche so watch this space!
The Glass Knot is a story that came to me slowly to start with but then as the plot unfolded in my mind, became a whirlwind, a rush of need to get it written down.
If I'm ever having a low day I read the reviews on Amazon for Josh, Nick and Laura's story and it always makes me feel better. They were great characters to hang out with even though their sexy journey was a difficult one. The fact that people enjoyed me telling their tale makes the hard days of being a writer worth it and I thank readers with all my heart for leaving reviews.
Little facts about The Glass Knot...
1. The Glass Knot sat on a Harlequin editor's table for eight months, they wanted to publish it but ultimately didn't think their readers were quite ready for the heavy m/m and m/m/f sex scenes.
2. The village, Little Mickleton, where Josh and Nick live, is a real place that I've been to many times with Mr H.
3. I enjoyed the male sex scenes and the m/m aspect of writing this story so much that it gave me the confidence to write High-Sticked, the fifth book in my Hot Ice series. Unlike my other hockey stories this one is about two men and the problems one of them faces with coming out as a gay athlete. (Due out at Ellora's Cave very soon.)
4. I wrote the majority of The Glass Knot sitting in my back garden. We had a nice run of weather and I set up a parasol, a little table and chair and wrote and wrote and wrote. I had a citronella candle burning at my side to keep away the flies and when the sweetpeas came into bloom, I had a small jug filled to the brim on my desk.
5. Josh's character is based on a man I used to date. His looks, his easy-going ways and his profession. He wasn't gay or bi though like Josh is, he very much liked women!
6. The Peniche Hotel in Marbella, where the theesome meet at the beginning of The Glass Knot, is a fabric of my imagination though I did loosely style it on Don Carlos, a really lovely 5* hotel that Mr H took me to as a treat one weekend a few summers ago.
7. The cover was created by Posh Gosh and I adore the detail at the bottom which shows a hazy Cotswold skyline.
8. I picked cars for Josh and Nick that I hoped reflected their personalities. Nick has a Bentley and Josh a Subaru. Laura has a beaten up old VW Beetle she calls Dumbo. (I had this exact car many moons ago.)
9. This is the one book of mine that Mr H has never read.
10. This is one of my favourite scenes...
Josh was already getting busy. “Oh, yeah, you’re so wet,” he said, sliding the tip of his cock into my entrance.As always I willed my pussy to relax. His wide glans stretching tight flesh as it rode in was an enticing mixture of pain and pleasure. “Ah, ah, ah…” I panted, gripping his shoulders and drawing my knees up high. I needed to make myself as open as possible.“Take me,” Josh said breathily. “Take all of me.”I shut my eyes and relished the sensation of his thick cock riding over my G-spot—the hard, flared head stimulated it just right, bring it to life. As I let out a long, juddering breath he reached maximum depth.“Oh, yeah,” Josh groaned, locking his arms and staring down at our joined bodies. “That’s so hot to see you taking all of me.”“Tell me about it,” Nick said from behind Josh. He was between our legs, bending over Josh’s back. I saw his jeans flying off to the side and then heard them landing on the floor. “I had so many images in my head of you two together, but nothing as amazing as this.” He smoothed his hand over Josh’s shoulder.Josh twisted to kiss him, a real wet tongue affair with lots of appreciative moans.I’ve died and gone to heaven.Being penetrated and watching them kiss at the same time was off-the-scale sexy. I tweaked my breasts and ground my clit against Josh. “You two are so fucking sexy when you kiss,” I groaned.Josh broke his connection with Nick and stared down at me, as though fascinated by my statement.I thrust my hips up. “So fucking sexy when you kiss,” I repeated breathlessly.He dropped over me, and chased for my tongue with his. He tasted a little different now, of Nick, a new enticing flavor lacing his.He began to rock, pulling in and out just a little, rubbing my G-spot and grinding against my clit. Pressure grew; a lovely warm build-up of sensation that would soon have to be released.Suddenly Josh ceased all movement. He twisted to look at Nick.“Just relax,” Nick murmured.“Oh, God,” Josh groaned, his eyes glazing and his jaw hanging slack. “Really, now?”“What?” I panted, also stilling.“Yes,” Nick said in a darkly low voice.“Oh, oh…” Josh groaned. Beneath my palms his arms tensed to rock, but there was a slight tremble in them.I shifted to peer over Josh’s shoulder. Nick had his head bent, his fingers busy. I didn’t have to see to know he was fingering Josh’s anus.Nick lifted his head and looked at me. His eyes were on fire with desire, his face alive with want. In that moment he was more handsome than I’d ever seen him. More real and more open than he’d ever allowed himself to be in front of me. “Laura,” he said, near desperation on his face. “I want…”“Yes,” I said, “Yes, do it.” What could be hotter than both of us fucking Josh? What would make him come harder than that? We both loved him, we both wanted him. We could both have him. At the same time.
Thanks for reading, you can grab your copy of The Glass Knot from Amazon US or Amazon UK and check out all the reviews there too.
Lily x
PS - Another similar story, The Silk Tie, is starting to rumble around my psyche so watch this space!
May 15, 2013
Guest Blogger - Chris Unity Bowness
Please welcome special guest Chris Unity Bowness. Chris is a relationships and sex mentor and runs the Consenting Adults Magazine. Today Chris is chatting about using erotic fiction as a starting point for couples spicing up their bedroom dialogue. So grab yourself a tipple, put your feet up and soak in his thoughts on Aural Sex, take it away Chris...
Balls, pussy, cock, tits, fuck, these are usually the first things we think of when it comes to suggestions of talking dirty. Often it's the words and language we get hung up on and the surrounding connotations rather the seduction and the content as a whole. It's situations like this can start off as small niggles we avoid in our relationships but often the cycle reinforces itself and can start to affect other areas, with our partners, this can lead us to begin feeling stuck in a cycle; feeling hopeless to ever becoming unstuck. Acknowledging these situations before they set in or having the ability to unravel them once they have by embracing the situation is something that would help in many relationship situations.
Talking dirty in our sex play is just one of those situations, something that on the surface seems simple but underneath it there is layers of connotations of not only the individual words but the hangups that ours and our partners roles in life mean we shouldn't be saying such words. Words usually only said out loud when stubbing our toes or dropping a glass of red wine on the carpet. All this when added together can see us shying away from embracing communication during sex all together and eventually sometimes sex itself.
Consext.
If you relate to this issue then you are not alone! However, the key to opening up filthy communication is context and by context I don't just mean the words themselves but the situation they are used in. There are some great sexy ways and techniques you can do to help you; if it's something you're dreading coming up or is something that has already arisen then there is something for all.
It is important to remember that we live in a digitalised world often communicating via texts, computers and social media often typing more words in a day than we actually speak. The rise of sex texts shows that flirting and communicating our fantasies via the written word is almost second nature often adding to the confusion as to why we struggle to make the leap to communicating them out loud. The leap from written to oral may only seem a small step in itself but mentally it's giant leap. This is even more so when emotions become involved take the mulling over a situation in your life to the point of anxiety only to have that complete moment of clarity the minute you speak aloud to someone else about the issue. Talking taps into a whole deeper Psyche, it connects with the body and emotions bringing a whole new level of vulnerability with another person or persons into the equation.
When bringing naughty words into context in real life it is important to have some foundation stones going forward as to what and why. One of the most important things to remember is that positive yes consent is sexy. Wholeheartedly accepting someone's request of you when you say yes but also the empowerment that offering your consent to someone or a sexual situation asking for it to be done can not only enhance sex lives but also impact relationships throughout. We all have a deep desire and longing for that day our lover came home, unexpectedly and described exactly what they were going to do with you and you willingly accepted. However, turn it around, you put yourself in the role asking to be seduced and taken in the way you would like to be and having that proffer accepted no reservations or guilt.This also leads to vulnerability shared moments of trust, confidingness; that stepping into the unknown with a glint of fallibility on show, between you and someone else shared vulnerability is the biggest builder of intimacy in a relationship...yes even above sex.
Penetrate with words.
Without a shadow of a doubt the best tool to help you not only put situations into context but also the words; full of love, sex, intimacy, desire, passion, love, lust and down right dirty fucking is Erotica. Using Erotica can unlock the leap from thought to the audible, not only hearing yourself but also unlocking the imagination of what you would like done, can help you gain a whole new skill in your sex lives. Furthermore, Erotica gives us a wonderful safe environment whereby those words; no matter how suggestive; rude or explicit they are; or even the characters saying those things, are not us and we can trick ourselves into saying them because essentially we can blame it on someone else. They give us a great playground to try out and experiment with the words and phrases of someone else, teasing ourselves and our lovers fantasies with someone else's imagination and in time making those words become our own. This is why role play is one of the biggest areas of fantasy and sex play allowing us to throw off our daily shackles and take on characters in situations we'd never get ourselves into and allowing us to say and do things we never could as ourselves. Using Erotica to unlock our filthy minds is just the same thing.
In recent times Erotica has become synonymous with E.L. James and the 50 Shades Trilogy and we can be grateful that she has brought it into the mainstream. However, for me, it does not lend itself well to unlocking the mysteries of filthy words and in the past I have always recommended Xcite books which contain of whole plethora of sub genres, themes, styles, fetishes and fantasies of erotica using every word, description and contextual situation you could imagine and quite probably some you haven't even thought of. However, as a start I suggest heading over to Brit Babes where you can find a whole range of the very best of British Erotic authors and their stories covering a whole host of themes. Read as much as you want, or can! Get used to the authors; their styles; themes and don't feel ashamed to make Erotica your choice or genre, I don't!
Let's get down to business.
You may already have your own stash of smut somewhere in the house, you may even have your own bookmarks of go to scenes; flickable to just when you need them most, if you have, well done you have made a good start. If not there is no need to worry as I have included some well chosen excerpts kindly donated from members of the Brit Babes and I have also included the book it's from and a link to find out more behind the saucy snippet.
The best way to start getting familiar with the words and the context they can be put in is by practicing alone. I mean if it wasn’t for practicing alone where would our sex lives be?... Our own solo play is the perfect place to start gaining confidence with sexy words and context. Next time you are in the mood for a bit of self seduction seek out one of those go to scenes is a good first step something you're comfortable and may even know inside out. Choose a safe nurturing, comfortable place you can relax glass of wine and find a section, passage even a sentence in which describes something you've always fantasised about indulging in. You can even bring it down safer at first to something not so explicit first until you get used to hearing yourself.
You may feel tentative at first which is only natural I mean this is probably the first time you've heard yourself say these phrases or words in a sexual context. Take your time to get comfy with yourself, hear and feel the words but don't force them and if you feel yourself starting to get frustrated take a break. Here is a great sample from Victoria Blisse's Naughty Rendezvous to get you started and once you're comfortable ramp it up a little. I have included more explicit passages below if you're feeling adventurous.
"I...I.. want you ... inside me. I want you to touch me, to kiss me, to ravish me. I want you, Joe, I desire you, I need you, Joe. I need you to fuck me." - Victoria Blisse Naughty Rendezvous
Once you feel comfortable hearing yourself reading out loud and this may take hours, weeks or even months take your time but once you feel comfortable try something more explicit and direct. Let yourself connect with the words and let them seduce you, explore your body as you hear yourself read. Adding this tactile approach to the task in hand will let your mind and body react to the words and phrases you like most, think about which words you like to hear in relation to your body parts. Overtime as you gain more confidence and attach sex and sensuality to these words you may find words you once scorned at taking on a whole new meaning. What phrases do you like hearing? Which turn you on?
In time your confidence will grow and you can start to use your new found words as your own foreplay. Allow your commentary to follow the action taking place and take things by pushing yourself a little further by going off guide mixing up the words and context you're reading. Eventually allowing yourself to say out loud would you want to do to yourself using your new found confidence, words and vocabulary. Testing out words and your deep desires and your response to them will in time help you gain more confidence when you bring a partner into the equation.
"Tie me up and fuck me," she said quickly before she could stop herself.
He looked surprised. No, shocked. She'd shocked him. He was a gentle person. She felt awful. Bowing her head, she wished she could take the words back. He was silent for what seemed like an eternity, and Lena forced herself to look slowly up. He had taken off his robe. As her gaze reached his midsection, she took in the most magnificent erection. She started trembling anew, and relief flooded her senses as she saw him smiling lasciviously at her.Tabitha Rayne A Clockwork Butterfly
Ultimately the aim is to have your words lead your solo pleasures guiding you towards orgasm. Once your pleasures have peaked try leading the action telling yourself how you are going to finish yourself off and talk yourself to climax.
It's good to talk...dirty.
What is great about the Erotic genre is that it's all inclusive of all relationship styles from straight monogamous couples; gay and lesbian; relationships; transgender; swingers; triads; polyamorous and everything in between. So whatever relationship you are in there is something to guide and aide you in opening up smutty talk within your relationship style.
With this new found lexicon of exciting words to try out you can take them into the bedroom and start exploring and sharing these with your partner. By replicating these exercises with them not only will you discover more about the language and words that turn you on, through speaking and hearing but also find out what your partner likes.
'Just getting my vibrator,' she said. Then she laughed breathlessly. ‘No need for lube tonight, Mr. Thorne. I'm sopping.' Then she sucked in a harsh breath that ended in a whimper. When she had recovered herself she spoke in her best naughty secretary voice. ‘Now then, Mr Thorne, what's on our agenda today? What urgent business do we need to take care of?' She continued 'I don't need to turn it on, Mr Thorne. I just need to be full, and since you're not here, the vibe will have to do. Poor substitute, really. It doesn't have your girth, nor your weight, and it's cold.'
Grace Marshall Executive Decision
When you bring lovers into the world of talking filthy use your new found confidence of showing what skills you learnt and remembering if it seems a little scary that the shared vulnerability you're exhibiting will do wonders for your relationship.
Again using Erotica to break the ice not only in showing off your skills but opening up communication. Using the safe environment of Erotica to say and hear words from each other in context opens up a whole new realm of pleasure. Start by reading your lover the parts of the stories you've been learning and gaining confidence with, understanding what they have done for you and allowing them to do the same to your partner.
Crouching on the dusty floor, Jenny hastily undid her shirt buttons. ‘Which do you prefer, receiving a BJ or licking pussy?’ ‘Tough choice. If I had to decide, it would be receiving a BJ, but it’s a close run thing.’ John reached for her pliant breasts, finding them easily despite the shadowy darkness. ‘Do you have a preference in that area?’ ‘I also like to receive best.’ The words tumbled from Jenny in an urgent rush of pentup desire. ‘Shall we sixtynine it? Keep us both happy?’ Kay Jaybee Not Her Type: Erotic Adventures With A Delivery Man
Once you are both comfortable with this let your lover choose their own passage to read or even better take a paragraph at a time. Taking it in turns forces you both to say words you may never have even dreamt of, shielded away from or once thought forbidden.
What is important here is to use this to open up communication about which words you do or don't find erotic whilst remembering to not get hung up on the individual words. Exploring together why you don't like these words or the connotations can also demystify and unlock their use. This is especially true when it comes to the smutty names of body parts a cold hard 'dick' sounds hotter and more enjoyable when it's served up as "I want you to force me to my knees and make you suck my dick."
You can try swapping paragraphs or even male and female roles, assuming you are male and female, like in the following excerpt from Lily Harlem and Natalie Dae's That Filthy Book.
Did I want to do that? Be totally honest about what I'd been doing? I couldn't make up my mind, and my mouth engaged before I could stop it. "I have a butt plug in my arse.""Fuck. Christ, Karen."I gave a strained smile at catching him off guard. Of shaking him out of character. He hadn't expected a response like that. We hadn't had phone sex in years."What does it feel like? Tell me...whore." The last word was a tagon, broken in half, and came out croaky.I could imagine him sitting on the edge of the bed, shoulders tense, fists balled as the image of me bombarded his mind. His added responsibility of staying in role, drooping his neck and causing him to gnaw on the inside of his cheek the way he did when concentrating. "It stings, but I like it.""More. Tell me more.""I have my fingers in my pussy, too. I'm imagining a vibrator in there and your cock in my arse. You fucking me until I scream."There, I'd said it."Oh, God." His tone was throttled with lust."Close your eyes, Jacob. I want you to imagine it. Picture me fingerfucking my cunt and moving the butt plug in and out.It...ah...it's fucking nice. I wish you were here. I wish you were here so badly, doing all of this to me." Lily Harlem & Natalie Dae That Filthy Book
Not only does this help you both gain confidence in words but you can have fun with choosing words and phrases for different situations and types of sex. Quite often discovering more aboutsuch words can help you realise that they didn't start off with the same negative connotations they have today. Ultimately taking those words away from their old connotations and giving them new and sexy new twists and meanings, and making them you own. For example 'cunt' has an amazingly positive history to it, empowering and ultimately one of my favourites. However, it also helps you throw off the everyday shackles and gives you a whole new language and vocabulary to use between you and your lover. To add further context to not only words but also situations and throwing off everyday shackles the idea behind Lily Harlem and Natalie Dae's That Filthy Book was just that; to show that eve with jobs, marriage and kids sex can still be exciting and new.
"Fuck my cunt," he said, lowering his head so his gaze met mine again. "Fuck my cunt, that's what you used to say. Jacob, come over here and lick my wet pussy." He brushed his lips over mine. "Remember that?"I blushed—damn it, I knew I would—and memories came flooding back. Me on the bed with my legs open wide, my clit aching, throbbing, the need for him to lick it, suck it into his mouth, so strong it took my breath away. Me bending over the bed, hands on the mattress, feet apart on the rug, begging him to fuck my cunt from behind. I'd said those words and more, my God I had, but could I say them again?Lily Harlem & Natalie Dae That Filthy Book
Finishing Off
Once you are both confident with each other in regards to words and phrases you can slowly introduce them into your sex play in various ways. It is down to you both to discuss what you feel comfortable with doing as a first step but also remembering that pushing yourselves out of your comfort zone a little can help build intimacy.
● Commentating on your sex play and communicating what's happening and how it is feeling can build pleasure and confidence in talking more intimately about what you like.● In time you can use your new found confidence to help lead these moments, ask for what you want, where you want it and how. To the point where you can start sexual liaisons with phrases that instigate the situation and what you want to do with your partner.● Using words to guide each other to orgasm is a great way to ease into things or something you'd like to aim for. Watching your lover pleasure themselves whilst you lead the action, only allowing them to do what you say. Not only does this leave their pleasure in your hands or mouth on this occasion but it also means you have to be clear and direct in your words in order to guide them to climax.
I want you to massage me roughly, all over, and force me to my knees to suck you...your cock.’ My face was hot, getting hotter with the telling. ‘I want you to grip my hair in your fist while I do it, and push in and out of my mouth telling me how you need me to suck harder. I want you to tell me how it should be, where I should kneel or stand, where I should be. And I want...I want you to use your free hand to grip my chin so my head doesn’t move.’
Natalie Dae The Contract.
Finally, in those moments where you wonder whether you can go through with this, the biggest things to remember is that it's not sex that builds intimacy but shared vulnerability. These exercises will put you in a position where you have to confide many things to each other thus putting yourselves into a situation of shared vulnerability and ultimately strengthening your relationship in all areas.
Thanks so much for visiting with your wise words, Chris. Readers, do check out the scoop on Consenting Adults Magazine, and subscribe to the monthly Unity Newsletter. (Newsletter Archive)
Balls, pussy, cock, tits, fuck, these are usually the first things we think of when it comes to suggestions of talking dirty. Often it's the words and language we get hung up on and the surrounding connotations rather the seduction and the content as a whole. It's situations like this can start off as small niggles we avoid in our relationships but often the cycle reinforces itself and can start to affect other areas, with our partners, this can lead us to begin feeling stuck in a cycle; feeling hopeless to ever becoming unstuck. Acknowledging these situations before they set in or having the ability to unravel them once they have by embracing the situation is something that would help in many relationship situations.
Talking dirty in our sex play is just one of those situations, something that on the surface seems simple but underneath it there is layers of connotations of not only the individual words but the hangups that ours and our partners roles in life mean we shouldn't be saying such words. Words usually only said out loud when stubbing our toes or dropping a glass of red wine on the carpet. All this when added together can see us shying away from embracing communication during sex all together and eventually sometimes sex itself.
Consext.
If you relate to this issue then you are not alone! However, the key to opening up filthy communication is context and by context I don't just mean the words themselves but the situation they are used in. There are some great sexy ways and techniques you can do to help you; if it's something you're dreading coming up or is something that has already arisen then there is something for all.
It is important to remember that we live in a digitalised world often communicating via texts, computers and social media often typing more words in a day than we actually speak. The rise of sex texts shows that flirting and communicating our fantasies via the written word is almost second nature often adding to the confusion as to why we struggle to make the leap to communicating them out loud. The leap from written to oral may only seem a small step in itself but mentally it's giant leap. This is even more so when emotions become involved take the mulling over a situation in your life to the point of anxiety only to have that complete moment of clarity the minute you speak aloud to someone else about the issue. Talking taps into a whole deeper Psyche, it connects with the body and emotions bringing a whole new level of vulnerability with another person or persons into the equation.
When bringing naughty words into context in real life it is important to have some foundation stones going forward as to what and why. One of the most important things to remember is that positive yes consent is sexy. Wholeheartedly accepting someone's request of you when you say yes but also the empowerment that offering your consent to someone or a sexual situation asking for it to be done can not only enhance sex lives but also impact relationships throughout. We all have a deep desire and longing for that day our lover came home, unexpectedly and described exactly what they were going to do with you and you willingly accepted. However, turn it around, you put yourself in the role asking to be seduced and taken in the way you would like to be and having that proffer accepted no reservations or guilt.This also leads to vulnerability shared moments of trust, confidingness; that stepping into the unknown with a glint of fallibility on show, between you and someone else shared vulnerability is the biggest builder of intimacy in a relationship...yes even above sex.
Penetrate with words.
Without a shadow of a doubt the best tool to help you not only put situations into context but also the words; full of love, sex, intimacy, desire, passion, love, lust and down right dirty fucking is Erotica. Using Erotica can unlock the leap from thought to the audible, not only hearing yourself but also unlocking the imagination of what you would like done, can help you gain a whole new skill in your sex lives. Furthermore, Erotica gives us a wonderful safe environment whereby those words; no matter how suggestive; rude or explicit they are; or even the characters saying those things, are not us and we can trick ourselves into saying them because essentially we can blame it on someone else. They give us a great playground to try out and experiment with the words and phrases of someone else, teasing ourselves and our lovers fantasies with someone else's imagination and in time making those words become our own. This is why role play is one of the biggest areas of fantasy and sex play allowing us to throw off our daily shackles and take on characters in situations we'd never get ourselves into and allowing us to say and do things we never could as ourselves. Using Erotica to unlock our filthy minds is just the same thing.
In recent times Erotica has become synonymous with E.L. James and the 50 Shades Trilogy and we can be grateful that she has brought it into the mainstream. However, for me, it does not lend itself well to unlocking the mysteries of filthy words and in the past I have always recommended Xcite books which contain of whole plethora of sub genres, themes, styles, fetishes and fantasies of erotica using every word, description and contextual situation you could imagine and quite probably some you haven't even thought of. However, as a start I suggest heading over to Brit Babes where you can find a whole range of the very best of British Erotic authors and their stories covering a whole host of themes. Read as much as you want, or can! Get used to the authors; their styles; themes and don't feel ashamed to make Erotica your choice or genre, I don't!
Let's get down to business.
You may already have your own stash of smut somewhere in the house, you may even have your own bookmarks of go to scenes; flickable to just when you need them most, if you have, well done you have made a good start. If not there is no need to worry as I have included some well chosen excerpts kindly donated from members of the Brit Babes and I have also included the book it's from and a link to find out more behind the saucy snippet.
The best way to start getting familiar with the words and the context they can be put in is by practicing alone. I mean if it wasn’t for practicing alone where would our sex lives be?... Our own solo play is the perfect place to start gaining confidence with sexy words and context. Next time you are in the mood for a bit of self seduction seek out one of those go to scenes is a good first step something you're comfortable and may even know inside out. Choose a safe nurturing, comfortable place you can relax glass of wine and find a section, passage even a sentence in which describes something you've always fantasised about indulging in. You can even bring it down safer at first to something not so explicit first until you get used to hearing yourself.
You may feel tentative at first which is only natural I mean this is probably the first time you've heard yourself say these phrases or words in a sexual context. Take your time to get comfy with yourself, hear and feel the words but don't force them and if you feel yourself starting to get frustrated take a break. Here is a great sample from Victoria Blisse's Naughty Rendezvous to get you started and once you're comfortable ramp it up a little. I have included more explicit passages below if you're feeling adventurous.
"I...I.. want you ... inside me. I want you to touch me, to kiss me, to ravish me. I want you, Joe, I desire you, I need you, Joe. I need you to fuck me." - Victoria Blisse Naughty Rendezvous
Once you feel comfortable hearing yourself reading out loud and this may take hours, weeks or even months take your time but once you feel comfortable try something more explicit and direct. Let yourself connect with the words and let them seduce you, explore your body as you hear yourself read. Adding this tactile approach to the task in hand will let your mind and body react to the words and phrases you like most, think about which words you like to hear in relation to your body parts. Overtime as you gain more confidence and attach sex and sensuality to these words you may find words you once scorned at taking on a whole new meaning. What phrases do you like hearing? Which turn you on?
In time your confidence will grow and you can start to use your new found words as your own foreplay. Allow your commentary to follow the action taking place and take things by pushing yourself a little further by going off guide mixing up the words and context you're reading. Eventually allowing yourself to say out loud would you want to do to yourself using your new found confidence, words and vocabulary. Testing out words and your deep desires and your response to them will in time help you gain more confidence when you bring a partner into the equation.
"Tie me up and fuck me," she said quickly before she could stop herself.
He looked surprised. No, shocked. She'd shocked him. He was a gentle person. She felt awful. Bowing her head, she wished she could take the words back. He was silent for what seemed like an eternity, and Lena forced herself to look slowly up. He had taken off his robe. As her gaze reached his midsection, she took in the most magnificent erection. She started trembling anew, and relief flooded her senses as she saw him smiling lasciviously at her.Tabitha Rayne A Clockwork Butterfly
Ultimately the aim is to have your words lead your solo pleasures guiding you towards orgasm. Once your pleasures have peaked try leading the action telling yourself how you are going to finish yourself off and talk yourself to climax.
It's good to talk...dirty.
What is great about the Erotic genre is that it's all inclusive of all relationship styles from straight monogamous couples; gay and lesbian; relationships; transgender; swingers; triads; polyamorous and everything in between. So whatever relationship you are in there is something to guide and aide you in opening up smutty talk within your relationship style.
With this new found lexicon of exciting words to try out you can take them into the bedroom and start exploring and sharing these with your partner. By replicating these exercises with them not only will you discover more about the language and words that turn you on, through speaking and hearing but also find out what your partner likes.
'Just getting my vibrator,' she said. Then she laughed breathlessly. ‘No need for lube tonight, Mr. Thorne. I'm sopping.' Then she sucked in a harsh breath that ended in a whimper. When she had recovered herself she spoke in her best naughty secretary voice. ‘Now then, Mr Thorne, what's on our agenda today? What urgent business do we need to take care of?' She continued 'I don't need to turn it on, Mr Thorne. I just need to be full, and since you're not here, the vibe will have to do. Poor substitute, really. It doesn't have your girth, nor your weight, and it's cold.'
Grace Marshall Executive Decision
When you bring lovers into the world of talking filthy use your new found confidence of showing what skills you learnt and remembering if it seems a little scary that the shared vulnerability you're exhibiting will do wonders for your relationship.
Again using Erotica to break the ice not only in showing off your skills but opening up communication. Using the safe environment of Erotica to say and hear words from each other in context opens up a whole new realm of pleasure. Start by reading your lover the parts of the stories you've been learning and gaining confidence with, understanding what they have done for you and allowing them to do the same to your partner.
Crouching on the dusty floor, Jenny hastily undid her shirt buttons. ‘Which do you prefer, receiving a BJ or licking pussy?’ ‘Tough choice. If I had to decide, it would be receiving a BJ, but it’s a close run thing.’ John reached for her pliant breasts, finding them easily despite the shadowy darkness. ‘Do you have a preference in that area?’ ‘I also like to receive best.’ The words tumbled from Jenny in an urgent rush of pentup desire. ‘Shall we sixtynine it? Keep us both happy?’ Kay Jaybee Not Her Type: Erotic Adventures With A Delivery Man
Once you are both comfortable with this let your lover choose their own passage to read or even better take a paragraph at a time. Taking it in turns forces you both to say words you may never have even dreamt of, shielded away from or once thought forbidden.
What is important here is to use this to open up communication about which words you do or don't find erotic whilst remembering to not get hung up on the individual words. Exploring together why you don't like these words or the connotations can also demystify and unlock their use. This is especially true when it comes to the smutty names of body parts a cold hard 'dick' sounds hotter and more enjoyable when it's served up as "I want you to force me to my knees and make you suck my dick."
You can try swapping paragraphs or even male and female roles, assuming you are male and female, like in the following excerpt from Lily Harlem and Natalie Dae's That Filthy Book.
Did I want to do that? Be totally honest about what I'd been doing? I couldn't make up my mind, and my mouth engaged before I could stop it. "I have a butt plug in my arse.""Fuck. Christ, Karen."I gave a strained smile at catching him off guard. Of shaking him out of character. He hadn't expected a response like that. We hadn't had phone sex in years."What does it feel like? Tell me...whore." The last word was a tagon, broken in half, and came out croaky.I could imagine him sitting on the edge of the bed, shoulders tense, fists balled as the image of me bombarded his mind. His added responsibility of staying in role, drooping his neck and causing him to gnaw on the inside of his cheek the way he did when concentrating. "It stings, but I like it.""More. Tell me more.""I have my fingers in my pussy, too. I'm imagining a vibrator in there and your cock in my arse. You fucking me until I scream."There, I'd said it."Oh, God." His tone was throttled with lust."Close your eyes, Jacob. I want you to imagine it. Picture me fingerfucking my cunt and moving the butt plug in and out.It...ah...it's fucking nice. I wish you were here. I wish you were here so badly, doing all of this to me." Lily Harlem & Natalie Dae That Filthy Book
Not only does this help you both gain confidence in words but you can have fun with choosing words and phrases for different situations and types of sex. Quite often discovering more aboutsuch words can help you realise that they didn't start off with the same negative connotations they have today. Ultimately taking those words away from their old connotations and giving them new and sexy new twists and meanings, and making them you own. For example 'cunt' has an amazingly positive history to it, empowering and ultimately one of my favourites. However, it also helps you throw off the everyday shackles and gives you a whole new language and vocabulary to use between you and your lover. To add further context to not only words but also situations and throwing off everyday shackles the idea behind Lily Harlem and Natalie Dae's That Filthy Book was just that; to show that eve with jobs, marriage and kids sex can still be exciting and new.
"Fuck my cunt," he said, lowering his head so his gaze met mine again. "Fuck my cunt, that's what you used to say. Jacob, come over here and lick my wet pussy." He brushed his lips over mine. "Remember that?"I blushed—damn it, I knew I would—and memories came flooding back. Me on the bed with my legs open wide, my clit aching, throbbing, the need for him to lick it, suck it into his mouth, so strong it took my breath away. Me bending over the bed, hands on the mattress, feet apart on the rug, begging him to fuck my cunt from behind. I'd said those words and more, my God I had, but could I say them again?Lily Harlem & Natalie Dae That Filthy Book
Finishing Off
Once you are both confident with each other in regards to words and phrases you can slowly introduce them into your sex play in various ways. It is down to you both to discuss what you feel comfortable with doing as a first step but also remembering that pushing yourselves out of your comfort zone a little can help build intimacy.
● Commentating on your sex play and communicating what's happening and how it is feeling can build pleasure and confidence in talking more intimately about what you like.● In time you can use your new found confidence to help lead these moments, ask for what you want, where you want it and how. To the point where you can start sexual liaisons with phrases that instigate the situation and what you want to do with your partner.● Using words to guide each other to orgasm is a great way to ease into things or something you'd like to aim for. Watching your lover pleasure themselves whilst you lead the action, only allowing them to do what you say. Not only does this leave their pleasure in your hands or mouth on this occasion but it also means you have to be clear and direct in your words in order to guide them to climax.
I want you to massage me roughly, all over, and force me to my knees to suck you...your cock.’ My face was hot, getting hotter with the telling. ‘I want you to grip my hair in your fist while I do it, and push in and out of my mouth telling me how you need me to suck harder. I want you to tell me how it should be, where I should kneel or stand, where I should be. And I want...I want you to use your free hand to grip my chin so my head doesn’t move.’
Natalie Dae The Contract.
Finally, in those moments where you wonder whether you can go through with this, the biggest things to remember is that it's not sex that builds intimacy but shared vulnerability. These exercises will put you in a position where you have to confide many things to each other thus putting yourselves into a situation of shared vulnerability and ultimately strengthening your relationship in all areas.
Thanks so much for visiting with your wise words, Chris. Readers, do check out the scoop on Consenting Adults Magazine, and subscribe to the monthly Unity Newsletter. (Newsletter Archive)
Guest Blogger - Tabitha Rayne
Please extend a super warm welcome to my wonderful friend Tabitha Rayne who has dropped by today...
Craft and craft (and half a carafe?)
Hello! I’m delighted to be here at Lovely Lily’s place today. We met at Eroticon where writers and bloggers who specialise writing about the awesome subject of sex can share a whole weekend dedicated to their craft.
I always thought I’d be a painter, but got frustrated when the pictures I made didn’t match those in my head. With erotica, I feel I can match the words exactly to what I see – and that’s why I love it so much – it can be very satisfying when a scene works out like that.
While writing is my first love, I still enjoy making and crafting things. When I was editing my novel, A Clockwork Butterfly, I really wanted to actually make one – it is quite a big character in the book and I wanted to bring it alive in my physical world. So I got a wind up watch of my grandfather’s and took it apart... have you ever done that? Wow, there’s a lot of stuff inside those tiny cases! I thought, well, if it doesn’t work, I can put it back together... um, no Tabitha, you most certainly cannot! Springs, cogs whirly bits and screws went flying everywhere – it was fantastic fun. So I fixed the bits altogether and made the wings from a drinks can. There’s a tiny flash of it in the book trailer, not a lot, but never mind, it was great fun to make.
A Clockwork Butterfly is the first book I wrote as part of my erotic dystopian fantasy trilogy, The Meeting Point. It will be one year old in July. ONE YEAR OLD! I simply can’t believe it. I’m waiting for the prequel, Taking Flight to come out in July... I can’t wait to see what the cover will look like.
Another thing I enjoy is a good party – so I’ll be celebrating my book’s first birthday with a big ol’ glass of bubbly wishing Miss Lily Harlem was chinking glasses with me.
So as I gear up for my little party in my writing shed, here’s a wee snippet to get you in the mood for some sexy dystopian trilogy action.... Thanks for having me over Lily! X x x
Excerpt
Lena picked up the copper butterfly carefully in her fingertips. It was exquisite, and she never tired of studying Angelo’s craftsmanship. It gently, as if it were real, flapped its wings to reveal a new delicate carving on them. “What’s this?” She sat up, tucking her legs underneath her, and tried to coax them open again. Angelo was smiling beside her. “Touch the proboscis.” He motioned and Lena reached out to the feathery spiral. As her fingertip made contact, the wings opened again and rested there for her to see the new artwork. In the most intricate script were carved the words I love you. Lena didn’t quite know what to do, say, or think until Angelo lifted the butterfly from her and tossed it up in the air, then pushed her on to her back, showering her with ferocious kisses. She watched the tiny creature flutter this way and that around the room while her body melted into Angelo’s embrace. “I want to eat you up, ravish you, and come inside you,” said Angelo into her peaking flesh. When he was working her with his agile tongue, her entire skin became erogenous and she could barely think for the pleasure. Stars twinkled and burst wherever he kissed and Lena wriggled as his teeth joined in, raking her flesh and arousing every part of her.
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Tabitha Rayne has been told she is quirky, lovely and kinky – not necessarily in that order or by the same person. She writes erotic romance and as long as there’s a love scene – she’ll explore any genre.
Her short stories, published and upcoming, are included in anthologies from Xcite, Oysters & Chocolate, Cleis, Ravenous Romance, Mischief, and House of Erotica. She has two stand alone titles from Beachwalk Press.
Her novel, A Clockwork Butterfly is out now.
Blurb:
Lovers torn apart by duty…will Angelo and Lena be reunited?
Mankind is close to extinction. Toxins have all but wiped out the male population. The remaining fertile men are housed in manors where their seed is collected.
Lena Lee is a new collector with a rare pheromone believed to reignite human fertility. She's assigned a male who's predicted to be her perfect match.
Angelo, a clockwork butterfly maker, is held captive, his essence harvested daily by Lena. Over time, the couple begins to fall in love, something which is strictly prohibited. When their forbidden love is discovered, Lena is banished from the manor.
Torn apart by the duty that brought them together, Lena and Angelo must find a way back to each other. But even if Angelo manages to escape, he doesn't know where to find Lena. Will following the path of the clockwork butterfly lead him to his true love?
Content Warning: strong language, BDSM, and graphic sexual content, including m/f, f/f, and f/f/m sexual interaction
May 14, 2013
Breathe You In gets great review!
The Romance Reviews has given Breathe You In a glowing review...
BREATHE YOU IN is a story about being given a second chance at love, through unusual circumstances, when all hope seems lost.
Katie has been in a deep depression for almost two years since her husband, and love of her life, died in a tragic accident. Despite everyone around her feeling like she should be done grieving, she can't seem to move past the emptiness she feels without her soul mate. In an effort to seek further closure, Katie hires a private investigator to find the recipient of her late husband's heart and lungs. Katie feels she needs to know that her husband's death resulted in something good and wants to see if the person with his heart is healthy and thriving.
What Katie doesn't expect is the instant and dramatic connection she feels when she sees Reuben, the man who is alive because of her husband's death. For reasons Katie can't understand, Reuben is able to make her smile and look to the future for the first time since she lost her husband. Katie realizes she can't let go of the connection, but worries about her dishonesty with Reuben regarding what brought them together.
This story was emotional in so many ways. The author did a great job of expressing and making me feel the sadness, the love, the optimism, the confusion, and the fear that was being experienced by these characters. I enjoyed the development of Katie and Reuben's relationship and that Katie was constantly questioning her motives and her feelings.
Katie did not want to allow her attraction to Reuben to be about the fact that he held a piece of her dead husband and so she constantly evaluated her feelings and where they were truly coming from. And from the reader's point of view it was obvious that Katie's feelings were genuine. It was difficult watching the relationship develop knowing there was a huge and dramatic secret being kept by Katie that would result in a major conflict.
The author did a splendid job with the expression of Reuben's emotions as well, and that made the conclusion of the story honest and truly a joy to read.
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