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May 13, 2014
Part 4: Getting Healthy – Can I Do This?
Before I decide to coach someone on getting healthy, I meet over coffee to discuss their readiness. In that initial conversation, the question “Can I do this?” often comes up. Usually it is based on trial and failure from the past.
The question is not a good question. “Can I do this” immediately put’s doubt and negativity on the table. “Can I do this” attaches a ball and chain to any positive effort you attempt. In my meeting, the potential coachee has to get to a point of not asking “Can I do this?” but saying “I can do this.”
It is not positive thinking. It is not some incantation that holds a magic spell. It is simply a decision that you make in your mind to follow through, with help, until a small goal is reached. Results fuel belief which causes us to take more action and get more results.
The Bible says to be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Every intentional action begins in the mind. Every positive life-change that you control finds it’s starting line in the mind.
My little book, “Break Through Weight Loss” has so much more to say on this including never doing this journey alone and getting your mind right. This is why I get people started with my 10 day jumpstart. 10 days is all it takes to see results. Watch for more on that as well.
Next Post: Now is the Time!
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May 9, 2014
ROSEMONT as a movie?
Hey everyone,
I have some exciting news! My book ROSEMONT is headed toward the Big Screen. Over the past months, I’ve been in talks with screenwriters and production companies and am now taking the steps to develop the story into a movie!
Here’s more info about it.
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May 8, 2014
Part 3 – How to Get Started in Losing Weight
Did you know
Our bodies are about 60 percent water. Water regulates our body temperature, moves nutrients through our cells, keeps our mucous membranes moist and flushes waste from our bodies. Our lungs are 90 percent water, our brains are 70 percent water and our blood is more than 80 percent water.
We are ‘water bodies’ and as such we need lots of it to lose weight and maintain health.
Many of you are asking “how do I get started in losing weight?” This is it:
DRINK MORE WATER!
Think of it this way. Let’s say you have a bowl that is caked with dirt. You chip off the dirt and fill the bowl with water but not to overflowing. If you let it sit, eventually the water is evaporated and the dirt is left there again. To get rid of the dirt you have to overflow the bowl which will wash away the dirt.
Losing weight and water are like that. If you do any exercise at all, even just taking a walk, your body chips away fat. But if you don’t drink lots of water, the fat isn’t washed out of your system.
I don’t like the “taste” of water so I add a shot of lemon juice. That rebalances the alkalinity and helps me lose the pounds. Here’s my schedule of drinking 8-10 glasses per day:
When I wake up and start to make my coffee I have a drink of water. (total water count: 1)
By the time I get to work, I try to finish a 24oz sport bottle of water (total water count: 4)
By noon, I finish one more 24oz water bottle (total water count: 7)
By this time, my body is washing out the extra “dirt” in my system so I’m hitting the restroom pretty regularly! But look! By noon or so, I’m only 1 drink away from my minimum goal of 8 drinks.
Then by the time I get home from work, I’ll drink another 24ounces. (total water count: 10)
It took 3 days to get use to this schedule but within those 3 days I’d lost 3 pounds. Doesn’t sound like much but multiply that over a month and you can be on track to lose a solid 10-15 pounds. Can you imagine?!
So for the next 10 days, follow the above plan and I guarantee that you’ll lose weight. Before you do so, make sure you reread part 1 2.
The next blog answers the question “Can I do this?”
If you have a CONFIDENTIAL question about weight loss, ask it here:
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May 3, 2014
Makenzie: Five Years Old
Today is my ‘oldest’ daughters birthday. There won’t be presents. There won’t be cake. You won’t find our family all together dining at her favorite restaurant or sharing stories of past celebrations around the table.
Makenzie has graduated from all of that. Her final birthday celebration was five years ago today, a month before she died. I guess, putting it that way, my oldest is now my youngest. She’s five years in heaven (if there were a measure of time in eternity).
As I watch the sun paint its beauty across this morning’s sky, I miss my five year old. I miss her dance. I miss her smile. I miss the way she snorted when she laughed and I miss her random hugs. I tear up thinking of the unmerited “I love you, Daddy” that she’d giggle to me at all times of the day.
Yet in my morning solemness, I am grateful. Because this Daddy’s heart first and foremost wants to know that my kids are safe. Makenzie is. God made sure of that. He loves her more than I do, if that were even possible. She is with Him, waiting for me.
And so I’ll ponder her life today. I’ll roam the halls of my memories. At times, I’ll smile and I’ll moisten. I’ll be quiet and I’ll laugh. All because of my little five year old who is finally home.
(Read Makenzie’s Story Here or type her name in the search bar at the right for more blog posts about her life)
Peace!
May 2, 2014
Part 2: You have to have a big ‘WHY’
Many questions about health dive right into goals, strategy and tactics. We are curious about how to do something. We seek out what the keys are. But the question that not only gets you to the starting line but keeps you motivated throughout the journey is why. Why do you want to get healthy? Why do you want to lose the extra winter weight. A strong why will keep you going. A strong why will focus your choices. The bigger the why the bigger the success.
I read a story about a woman who’s husband was deployed to Afghanistan. While he was there and unbeknownst to him, she 
decided to lose 100 pounds before his return. The video clips force tears because her why is rehearsed in a statement she said during one interview. “If he is strong enough to serve our country, I am strong enough to give this gift to him.” In another interview, she said, “The reason I lost the weight began with him but then I realized that I was doing it for me.” (Read the story).
So if you’ve identified an area in which you want to improve, you need to craft a ‘why’ statement. How do you do that? Follow these steps:
Write down all the answers to the question, “I want to (lose weight, get financially free, increase my strength) because (__________________). Brainstorm. Put down all the possibilities. Jot all your thoughts.
Look through the list and put a ‘ ’ sign by the reasons that are written in a positive light. Scratch out all the negative ones.
Of the positive statements, which one is the biggest? When you read them, which one jumps off the page or makes you feel like you’ve come alive?
Rewrite that statement making sure that it is about what you’ll gain and not what you’ll loose. (e.g. I’m not losing weight, I’m gaining strength. I’m not losing pounds, I’m gaining confidence). If you want to shoot it to me, I’ll give you some confidential feedback. Send it to me here.
Put it on a card so you can see it throughout the day.
This was mine, “I want to lose weight because I want to gain comfort for me and those who watch me.” Let me explain. First, I was uncomfortable getting up out of chair. I was uncomfortable in clothes that were too tight or didn’t fit right. I was uncomfortable walking up stairs. I didn’t like that. Second, I speak weekly in front of large groups of people. I know that if I am uncomfortable then the audience can intuitively pick that up and they’ll feel uncomfortable as well. I want the audience to benefit from what I say without any distractions.
Notice that my why was about me first and others second. Internal conviction drives external action. If you’re getting healthy because of someone else, you won’t achieve the results you’re after. Even the woman in the story above realized that it was first about her, then her husband.
So what area of your life needs improvement? Is it physical health? Is it financial health? Follow the simple exercise and return to it over and over.
What questions do you have? Ask them confidentially below:
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April 29, 2014
Part 1: It’s in your mind
Last week, I was blown away with the questions I received about getting healthy. The questions ranged from “How do I stop binge eating?” to “What does it take to get emotionally healthy?” to “Can I really do this?” “For me, these were all questions that rattled around my head as well.
Since college, I’ve dropped pounds and gained pounds. I’ve felt healthy emotionally/spiritually and felt lousy in the same. I’ve bounced around from extreme to extreme, hoping that this time, it would stick. Sound familiar?
Finally, I had a conversation with a health coach and it reminded me of a verse …
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Transformation. In Greek, it is ‘metamorpho’ which is our word ‘metamorphosis’. Yup, like the caterpillar that changes into a butterfly.
That is what I was looking for. I didn’t want to TRY something else. I didn’t want to simply HOPE that health was possible. Over the next several months, with help, I focused more on that verse than on the actually action of that verse. What I mean is that getting healthy first and foremost begins with your mind, not your body. I had to get to a point where I was convinced that getting healthy was something over which I had control. Internally and externally I had to hear myself say, “I’m going to do this!” 45 pounds later, I’m still hearing myself say, “I am doing this!”
Now, I’m able to help others do the same.
One person I began coaching was feeling so uncomfortable because of those extra pounds. In our initial conversation, she wanted to try the 10 day jump start that I use to get people on their way. I said no because I didn’t hear from her that she was going to do it – simply, try it. The reasons she gave me didn’t center on her but on someone else. She wanted to look great for her husband. That’s a good and noble reason but it is not a starting point. Eventually, she made the commitment for her in her own mind and so far has lost over 12 pounds.
The problem most people have in getting healthy in any area of their life is that they are doing it for someone else. The spouse, the girlfriend or boyfriend, even other people they don’t know because they want to look attractive. These are not the reasons that set you up for long-term success.
You have to get your mind right! You have to come to a point when you know for sure you’re going to do it and it is only then that you’re at the starting line. The correct ‘why’ has to come before the ‘what’ and the ‘how’. Remember, be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
So here are a few questions to ask yourself if you’re want to get healthy.
Why do I want to get healthy?
Is it for me or someone else?
Am I convinced that now is the time? Why?
I’d love to hear your questions. Ask it below and yes, IT’S COMPLETELY CONFIDENTIAL. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Fill out my Wufoo form!
(or click here: http://yesweightloss.wordpress.com/)
It’s in your mind
Last week, I was blown away with the questions I received about getting healthy. The questions ranged from “How do I stop binge eating?” to “What does it take to get emotionally healthy?” to “Can I really do this?” “For me, these were all questions that rattled around my head as well.
Since college, I’ve dropped pounds and gained pounds. I’ve felt healthy emotionally/spiritually and felt lousy in the same. I’ve bounced around from extreme to extreme, hoping that this time, it would stick. Sound familiar?
Finally, I had a conversation with a health coach and it reminded me of a verse …
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Transformation. In Greek, it is ‘metamorpho’ which is our word ‘metamorphosis’. Yup, like the caterpillar that changes into a butterfly.
That is what I was looking for. I didn’t want to TRY something else. I didn’t want to simply HOPE that health was possible. Over the next several months, with help, I focused more on that verse than on the actually action of that verse. What I mean is that getting healthy first and foremost begins with your mind, not your body. I had to get to a point where I was convinced that getting healthy was something over which I had control. Internally and externally I had to hear myself say, “I’m going to do this!” 45 pounds later, I’m still hearing myself say, “I am doing this!”
Now, I’m able to help others do the same.
One person I began coaching was feeling so uncomfortable because of those extra pounds. In our initial conversation, she wanted to try the 10 day jump start that I use to get people on their way. I said no because I didn’t hear from her that she was going to do it – simply, try it. The reasons she gave me didn’t center on her but on someone else. She wanted to look great for her husband. That’s a good and noble reason but it is not a starting point. Eventually, she made the commitment for her in her own mind and so far has lost over 12 pounds.
The problem most people have in getting healthy in any area of their life is that they are doing it for someone else. The spouse, the girlfriend or boyfriend, even other people they don’t know because they want to look attractive. These are not the reasons that set you up for long-term success.
You have to get your mind right! You have to come to a point when you know for sure you’re going to do it and it is only then that you’re at the starting line. The correct ‘why’ has to come before the ‘what’ and the ‘how’. Remember, be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
So here are a few questions to ask yourself if you’re want to get healthy.
Why do I want to get healthy?
Is it for me or someone else?
Am I convinced that now is the time? Why?
I’d love to hear your questions. Ask it below and yes, IT’S COMPLETELY CONFIDENTIAL. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Fill out my Wufoo form!
(or click here: http://yesweightloss.wordpress.com/)
April 25, 2014
What Do You Want To Know About Weight Loss?
“Alright, you talked me into it!”I’ve been getting tons of questions about how I lost 40 pound last year. Example FAQ’s are…
How did you do it?
Was it hard?
How long did it take?
How do you stay on track with a busy schedule?
And the list goes on. I love this because I am passionate about sharing what Kellie and I learned on our breakthrough weight loss journey. I also love to see the positive results in people that I’ve coached over the months in doing the same! Yesterday, one of my peeps said, “I’m down 12 pounds already and I feel great!”
So here is what I’m going to do about it for you. I’m going to answer YOUR QUESTIONS on my blog over the next few weeks to help you get healthy for summer.
But I need your help!
I want to know what your key questions are about healthy weight loss.
Just click the button to fill out a simple, one question survey.
(or click this: http://yesweightloss.wordpress.com/)
April 21, 2014
Perception
Perception is everything.
Dogs look at their owners and say, “You love me, you shelter me, you feed me, therefore you must be God!”
Cats look at their owners and say, “You love me, you shelter me, you feed me, therefore I must be God!”
How is it that two people can experience the same event and come away with two completely different opinions. How is that when there is a car accident there are 10 different accounts of what happened. It’s perception.
Our perceptions about life are formed through the filters of our experiences. Those experiences are often neutral in meaning. But then we choose to add a positive or negative meaning to those experiences and that shapes our perceptions.
Simply put, we decide whether life is good or bad based on how we respond to the events that happen to and around us. Over time, whether we respond in the positive or in the negative becomes our “default mode.” But you can change your defaults. You can toggle the negative off and toggle the positive on.
Are you adding positive meaning to the events around you or is your default switch stuck in a negative perception mode?
Life is life. It’s how we add meaning to it that makes all the difference and changes our perception.
Peace!
April 7, 2014
Give It; Receive It
I’ve enjoyed being able to coach a few folks on nutrition, heath and weight loss. One person I was coaching recently decided to get healthy and within a week lost a chunk of weight. Simple to do, really. Make the decision. Add fresh greens. Drink more water. Cut back on carbs. Keep physically moving.
After the initial 10 day start program, I asked what they learned so far. “I am amazed that I didn’t have to change very many things. I feel like I’m gaining a lot! I’m gaining confidence. I’m gaining comfort. I’m gaining joy.”
For me, I shared in their joy. I gained as they lost. A sense of fulfillment was wrapped up in helping someone else. I know you’ve had that experience as well. You help someone out – it benefits their life – you share in their happiness. I believe we are wired this way.
Sad is the person who only helps themselves. Frustrated is the one who focuses on taking and not giving. Bitter is the taste of selfishness.
To whom are you going to offer help this week?
(To Find out more about the 10 day start program, click here)
Peace!
