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February 27, 2013
BDSM in Romance
It’s almost been a year since Fifty Shades of Grey was released. In one year, the book took the world by storm, offended many, turned on more, opened the mainstream eyes to BDSM and then slowly, but surely slipped away. It’s still out there, circulating through the hands of eager women, prominently on display in bookstores and inspiring talk show hosts and news anchors alike, but the initial frenzy is gone.
While Fifty Shades of Grey has already had it’s 15 minutes of fame, some would say we have E.L. James to thank for making BDSM a well-known sexual lifestyle and for giving it a little more of a positive connotation. Although people actually involved in the lifestyle disagree, saying her portrayal was inaccurate, it hasn’t stopped thousands of women from flocking to their nearest Adam and Eve or hardware store to pick up the perfect accompaniment to their night of bondage and discipline. In fact, adult novelty stores saw an overall 50% raise in sales last year and toys like ben wa balls saw up to a 400% increase.
Psychologists hypothesize that the sudden interest in BDSM is due to the breaking of the “glass ceiling,” saying that women now need a place to relinquish their control and BDSM is the perfect way to do that. I don’t think they are entirely wrong, but BDSM has been around for centuries, long before the glass ceiling came down, and women and men have enjoyed it for just as long. It has more to do with power, trust and building a connection with your dom, master or partner–however you would like to refer to them or rather, however they want you to refer to them. It’s about giving yourself up entirely to someone and trusting them to take care of you and give you the pleasure that you both want and need. There’s something very freeing about that and I think Fifty Shades was able to show that to a lot of women (a
nd men).
With that said, what erotic romance focused on BDSM turn you on to it? Are you offended or intrigued by it? Why do you think that is? I think we all have our own reasons, maybe it’s something from our past, maybe we do like giving up the power, maybe it’s just something new we’ve never tried before? Whatever the reason, if it works, it works, if not, then try something else. There are plenty of fetishes for a reason.
If you’ve been thinking about trying BDSM, be sure to do your research. Fifty Shades can be a decent introduction, but it doesn’t really get into the nitty gritty. Be sure to communicate with your partner about what you do and don’t want, what your safe word is going to be and the parameters of your relationship. Above all else, you just want to make sure you and your relationship is protected, so don’t go in blindly. Begin to experiment and keep an open mind once you feel like you have a decent grasp on it all. And don’t be afraid to include props in your play like scarves, handcuffs, candles, sex toys and even books–reading erotic romance to each other would be a great way to get it started.
August 20, 2012
Laid Bear Now Available at Samhain Publishing!!!!!
[image error]Too hot? She’ll have to take more than one taste to decide.
An Urban Fairytale Novel.
After devoting ten years to caring for her grandmother, Zora Calloway is ready for the next stage of her life—until a series of frightening phone calls reminds her of an abusive ex who might still have it in for her. At least she has someplace to run and a job waiting for her when she gets there.
But a near-fatal collision with a huge black bear on a dark, storm-swept road changes everything. She wakes up in a secluded cabin, confronted by her rescuer: a naked hunk in the form of Logan Lamere. An explosive attraction leads her straight into his arms…then she learns they are not alone.
Bear-shifter cousins Heath, Gavin and Logan Lamere had lost faith in finding their mate until Zora comes crashing into their lives. With one glance, they know she’s the one they’ve been waiting for.
Zora is stunned at how easily she succumbs to the temptation to stay for a short while. But the men have forever in mind—if they can persuade their Goldilocks to accept three bears as her mates. And keep her safe from a danger that blindsides them all.
Product Warnings
Three sexy shifters, one willing woman—the bed is just right….and so is the table…the wall…the woods… If you thought it was really all about the porridge, go to the back of the class
June 21, 2010
Rivals For Love-Now Available at Carina Press
Description
Hayden Sinclair has it all: a job she loves, supportive friends and a drop-dead gorgeous boyfriend. She should be happy—and she should say yes when Luc proposes marriage. But one thing stands in her way: Sawyer Underwood, her impossibly sexy ex, who disappeared almost a year ago.
When Sawyer returns, he has one goal in mind: to win Hayden back, and away from his long-hated rival, Luc. Sawyer’s willing to do anything it takes, and he’ll use all his powers of persuasion to convince Hayden that he’s the man for her—especially in the bedroom. But Luc’s not willing to give Hayden up without a fight!
As the two men battle for Hayden’s affections, she is torn between them. If only they could reach a compromise—then maybe she wouldn’t have to choose…
June 3, 2010
Thank you for being a friend.
Rest in Peace Rue. This is one of my favorite Golden Girls clips
