albert ellis & robert harper

“Moreover, where frustration, sorrow, and unhappiness are frequently healthy feelings—assuming that you greatly desire something and are deprived of it—depression, despair, shame, and self-downing are practically never healthy and had best be minimized.”
― albert ellis & robert harper, A Guide to a Rational Living

“Insisting that things *ought* to go smoothly, that mishap *must* not occur, and that the important people in our lives *should* behave as we have told them so many times we *need* them to behave... is fundamentally irrational. Yet, as a species, we naturally tend to think in these distorted and self-defeating ways.”
― albert ellis & robert harper