Elisabeth Sheff's Blog, page 13

Poly for the Holidays

This blog offers tips for poly people and their non-poly loved ones on how to have a happy holiday season together.

Not Trusting the Happy

One reader asks if it is possible to be happy as a secondary in a polyamorous relationship. Dr Eli says go for it -- with two cautions.

Four Types of Commitment in Polyamorous Relationships

This blog looks at four ways polyamorists express their commitments to each other verbally, with fluid bonding, via Google calendar, and with ceremonies.

Is Polyamory a Form of Sexual Orientation?

This blog explores the possibility that polyamory may be a sexual orientation from both a legal and a personal/individual view, concluding that it depends on whom you ask and why.

Adverse Features Might Contribute to Abuse in Polyamory

Isolation, charismatic leaders, and groupthink could facilitate abuse in polyamorous families.

Adverse Features Contribute to Abuse in Polyamory

This blog explores the ways in which isolation, charismatic leaders, and groupthink could facilitate abuse in polyamorous families.

Protective Features Curb Abuse in Polyamorous Relationships

This blog explores the protective features that can inhibit abuse in polyamorous families like the presence of an observer, outside perspectives, allies, and more resources.

Cheating and Consensual Non-Monogamy

People can cheat before, during, and after consensual non-monogamous relationships. This cheating can be emotional and/or physical, involving lying or broken safer sex agreements.

Are Polyamorous Relationships Sexist?

Polyamory may be sexist sometimes, but the unruly women who own their sexual desires and reject slut shaming have power in poly life, earn their own money, and control their lives.

Otherfathering and Men in Polyamorous Families

Polyaffectivity offers men a way to connect with each other and stay connected with kids, even if no longer having sex with the kids' mother. Otherfathering provides connections.