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Co-Coaching: "I'll Coach You if You Coach Me" (New version)

In co-coaching, you coach a friend for a half-hour and then your friend coaches you for a half hour. 

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I explain why it's often a great thing to do and how to do it.

And this Saturday from 10 AM to noon at the main branch of the San Francisco Public Library, I'll do a workshop on how to co-coach. It's free. HERE's more info on it.

Planning for Retirement: A Checklist

It's scary to think about retirement. It's usually like the Roach Motel: You can check in but you can't check out.

The checklist I posted on PsychologyToday.com today may help you decide whether to retire and what you'll want to do in retirement. 

The World's Shortest Course in Ethical Selling

We all sell, whether we're a salesperson or not. 

A caller to my radio show asked for my thoughts on how to be a good salesperson. 

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I posted an edited transcript of what I said to him.

We Need a Better Solution for People With an Anger Problem

Reading the recent story of a person who killed her four-month old grandson a few days ago started me thinking about all the misery caused by people's overreactions: from school shootings to cop shootings to teachers yelling at their students.

That made me think about how we might improve our current strategy for helping people with anger issues. I discuss that in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Deciphering A Stranger's Eye Contact

For years now, six days a week, my doggie Einstein and I take a 45-minute hike around a lake that is so popular that each time, I pass 100  people walking in the opposite direction.

During those walks, I've made an informal study of people's eye contact as they approach me and others walking in my direction.

As a result, I have identified five types of eye contact and have developed hypotheses as to what they mean. I discuss those in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

When is Good Good Enough?

We're always having to decide when good is good enough.

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer guidance on how to make that decision regarding whether to quit your job, change careers, get serious with a romantic partner, rent that apartment, etc. 

Questions to Ask Yourself at the New Year

At the New Year, we're urged to reflect. That may be easier if we have prompts to trigger our thinking. 

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer prompt-questions for each of life's big decisions: job, career, relationships, money, recreation, and The Big Picture.

Give and Take with Adam Grant, Top Contrarian Self-Help Expert

Adam Grant is the youngest tenured professor at Penn/Wharton and has been rated its best teacher for four years in a row, Also, he writes regularly on work and psychology for the New York Times.

In February his new book will be published , Originals : How non-conformists move the world. The publisher sent me an advance copy.

In the book, Grant forwards a number of contra-intuitive recommendations. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer few of those, followed by my reactions.

New Year's Eve and Day for the Psychologically Vulnerable

If life is chipper, it's easy to bring in the New Year joyously. But if your life is less than, well, bubbly, and especially if you're psychologically frail to begin with, bringing in the New Year can be depressing or anxiety-provoking.

As usual, a how-to article can't turn a pained person into a joyous one who will revel in 2016's arrival but perhaps one or more of the salves in my PsychologyToday.com article today might help.

"I Don't Want to Bring My Baby into This World:" What's ahead in 2016 and beyond

The frivolity of a Christmas party gave way to quite a discussion about the future. I describe it in my PsychologyToday.com article today.