Marty Nemko's Blog, page 329

The Case for Men Marrying an Older Woman

Many men are attracted to younger women. Mainly it's a visceral, physical thing although some men may value a younger woman because she is more likely to look up to him if only because he may have advanced more in his career.

But there are reasons men should consider older women as a potential marriage partner. I describe them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

A Different Approach to "Making America Great Again"

What might the planks of a Psychology Party look like? I describe them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Trust Yourself or Psychology Experts?

At some point, we've all been reluctant to follow an expert's advice: "S/he's the expert but somehow the advice just doesn't feel right."

Of course, there are times to trust the expert but the purpose of my PsychologyToday.com article todayis to provide some basis for not too quickly dismissing your own opinion. It lists a number of consensus expert recommendations that have since given way to new ones.

You Don't Have to Be Paranoid to Think Someone's Out to Get You

Sergeant Phil Esterhaus daily send-off to the cops in the iconic TV series Hill Street Blues was "Hey, let's be careful out there."

Indeed, there's plenty to be vigilant about. I offer a list in my PsychologyToday.com article today. 

Earning Father's Day: Ten Things Dads Can Do to Be Great Dads

Somehow, when the greeting card companies tell us to buy a Father's (or Mother's) Day card we jump to, even if our fathers aren't so worthy of an honorific.

What if a father had to earn his special day? We fathers can't turn back the clock but perhaps one or more of these things I suggest in my PsychologyToday.com article today we could do now might make us more worthy.

Not Your Usual Father's Day Presents

Many dads (stepdads count too)  don't need another tie, gadget, or bottle of booze. Even if they did, such gifts bear the odor of obligation rather than of affection.

Even if your dad's far from perfect, as long as you'd like to express some appreciation and/or build your relationship, Father's Day is a natural opportunity.  In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I suggest presents that These might help.

The Decline of Duty: A Cause of America's Decline...and You?

For time immemorial, discipline, responsibility (duty,) and impulse control have been key to improving humankind.

Today, alas, they often are deemed less important than creativity, celebrating difference, and questioning authority.

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I argue that's reason for lament. 

Come See My One Man Show

Come see my one-man show, Odd Man Out in Napa on Aug 6 at 7:00 PM.
 
For info, click HERE. 

The Case for Justice Over Mercy

We're in an era that seems to value mercy over justice: Grade inflation, bankruptcy laws, reduced sentences, the media's replacing "hoodlums" with "under-served," even some  psychologists blaming bad behavior largely on externalities.

Mercy feels good and is consistent with religion's valuing of forgiveness but does it yield a net good?  In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I make the argument that it doesn't.

My Favorite Ideas

At memorial services, they often play a continuously running video about the deceased. I'd want mine to list my favorite ideas. My PsychologyToday.com article today lists them.