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The Case Against Coolness

My Psychology Today article today argues that we pay as big price, not just in money, for coolness, whether in relationships, career, stuff, or locale.

6 Areas of Relationship Asymmetry: Suggestions for sexual, career, neediness, and other imbalances

In a recent post, I offered four options for dealing with an asymmetrical relationship. But the advice was generic across all types of asymmetries. My Psychology Today article today offers thoughts regarding specific ones.

Ethics in Dating: 8 things you might or might not want to disclose

We tend to think of ethics regarding business, but equally important are ethics in relationships..

For example, how much should you disclose to someone you're dating or contemplating dating?

My Psychology Today article today offers thoughts on eight potential areas of disclosure.

The Asymmetrical Relationship: Possible solutions when one partner feels unfairly treated

Every relationship has some measure of asymmetry. For example, one partner is

kinder: more likely to look for the good in you and to not exert excessive retribution in response to your mistakes.thriftier: careful to spend cost-effectively and to splurge only rarely.more responsible: prioritizing what’s important.lower-maintenance: judicious in deciding when to let an annoyance slide and when it’s worth complaining and/or asking for support or help.addiction-resistant: not prone to excess.more ethical: in most circumstances, doing the right thing, even to his or her personal detriment.

Approaches

What might you do when an asymmetry bothers you but you don’t want to leave the relationship? My Psychology Today article today offers some options.

P.U.S.H.: An Approach to Reducing Anxiety

My Psychology Today article today describes the approach I worked out with a client today to reduce his anxiety.

Do You Have an Annoying Coworker? Thoughts on what to do

A nationwide survey of 1,210 workers found that "the overwhelming majority of workers struggle to deal with one or more annoying coworkers." 

In your situation, what might you want to do?  My Psychology Today article today offers suggestions.

When You’ve Been Given a Reprieve: Taking advantage of your moment of resolve

You thought you lost your love and didn’t.

You thought you’d get terminated at work and were given another chance.

You had exploratory surgery and all was benign.

At that moment of reprieve, you’re likely to think, even if you’re an atheist, thank God! And you promise yourself that you’re going to do better: be kinder or tougher, work harder or less hard, live healthier or give yourself a break, whatever.

The issue is: how to sustain your motivation. Will your follow-through be no better than with your New Year’s resolutions? Perhaps one or more of the ideas in my Psychology Today article today will help.

Why I’m Mad at Education: Advice for parents, students, and the system

You’d think I revere education. After all, I come from a tradition that venerates education, my PhD is in education, and the diploma gained me credibility.

Yet I am mad at education and my Psychology Today article today explains why.

11 Communication Musts: Keys to being heard and respected

 

Sometimes it’s not what you know or even who you know, but how you say it. My Psychology Today article today offers 11 keys to saying it well, whether a one-minute report at a staff meeting or a keynote to a cast of thousands.

Insecure, She Hides: Overcoming fear of inferiority

I have clients who feel insecure and so they hide, whether on the job, in school, or in relationships.

I had such a client recently. My Psychology Today article today offers a paraphrase of key parts of the session.