Marty Nemko's Blog, page 182

How to Avoid the Lure of Scarcity

If something is scarce, we’re more likely to want it. That’s an axiom known by everyone from marketers to people dating. That said, it's not the best way to make decisions. You really want to make these choices based on the merit, not on scarcity, To that end, my Psychology Today article today describes tactics to watch out for.

The Case Against Talking About Your Trauma

 Conventional wisdom, especially among psychotherapists and counselors, is that it's wise to "process" your trauma. My Psychology Today article today makes the case that that is often, though not always, unwise.

Dealing with Fear of Marriage

It’s not surprising that the prospect of getting married can be scary. After all, you’re publicly committing, before friends, family, the law, and if you’re religious, God, to be faithful in sickness and in health, for richer, and for poorer until death do you part. And should you choose to divorce, it’s not only potentially embarrassing but costly and stressful, often for quite a while. Plus, if kids are involved, it can be even more difficult.

My Psychology Today article today offers a composite of fears that my clients have expressed.

Dealing With Fear of College: Advice for parents.

Especially if school hasn’t been your (or your child's) thing, the upcoming school year may feel scary. 

My Psychology Today article today offers a composite, drawn from my clients, that describes a parent’s worry about a college-bound child.

Dealing With Fear of Retirement

My Psychology Today article today offers a composite story of my clients who are near or in retirement plus my suggestions.

Dealing With the Fear of Topping Out: A midlife person’s efforts to wring more from his average life

My Psychology Today article today offers a composite story of my clients who are in midlife, plus my suggestions.

Fear of Starting Out: Tips for psychology bachelor's grads and others ready to begin their career

My Psychology Today article today tells a composite story of my clients who are at the beginning of their work-life and my suggestions.

What Your Shoes May Say About You

Shoes may say something about who we are. I explore that in this article.

Hope for a Grand Explanatory Theory of Cognitive Impairment?

MIT scientists just reported that the Ptchd1 gene may underlie a number of cognitive impairments, autism and schizophrenia but perhaps others. My Psychology Today article today summarizes their findings and lays out a basis for hope that such research will lead to more effective treatments.

Smart, Attractive, and Insecure

  A recent client, despite being smart and attractive, lacked confidence. My Psychology Today article today describes what we did in the session, including suggestions.