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Living With Doubt: Making Peace with Uncertainty

Certitude is comforting but elusive, and doubt can provoke anxiety. Consider this composite based on my clients, friends, and me.

I worry…about almost everything. Did I buy the right thing? Was I too tough or too nice? How hard should I work? How hard should I play? How much should I trust that person, even my wife?! Help!

My Psychology Today article today asks questions and offers suggestions for people plagued with doubt

How to Become More Productive

I was interviewed last week and, off the air, the host asked, "How the hell are you so productive?" My Psychology Today article today paraphrases my answer.

The Case for Laziness

Yesterday, my post was How to Become More Productive. As a counterpoint, my Psychology Today article today makes the case for laziness, although I do ask a few doubting-Thomas questions.

Making the Most of Gratitude, Acceptance, and Striving

The life well-led may reduce to balancing gratitude, acceptance, and striving.

Gratitude is important because there’s much to be grateful for that's easily forgotten. Acceptance is important because much is resistant to change. Striving is important because we should be growing and achieving.

To encourage your balancing that triad, list things that you should feel grateful for, are wise to accept, and should strive for.

To prompt your thinking, My Psychology Today article today offers some examples. They're derived from my clients, friends, and me.

What Are You Looking Forward To? 29 things that could bring you out of the dump

Especially if you’re down in the dumps, you’d probably welcome something to pull you up. One thing that my clients have found helpful is rather simple: Just think of something you're looking forward to. Or if you can't think of anything, think of something you could do that you'd look forward to.

To illustrate and to trigger your thinking, my Psychology Today article today offers 29 possibilities.

My new book, Dialogues to Grow From has just been published

Quotes are a fast way to acquire life lessons and to deepen your understanding of how the world really works. But reading lists of quotes an be boring. 

So, in my new slim book Dialogues to Grow From, I stitch together quotes from 21 pairs e.g., Bill & Hillary, Victor Davis Hanson & St. Matthew. even Woody Allen, Wanda Sykes, and Joan Rivers. 

Until Thurs, the Kindle/e-book is free: https://amzn.to/3gFgprz Of course, it's not required but I'd welcome an honest review of it on Amazon.com

The Importance of Asking Why: It helps you understand another person...and maybe yourself

My Psychology Today article today offers "why" questions that can help you understand yourself better and, if you're trying to understand another person, give wordings that reduce the chances that you'll be perceived as invasive.

After each question, I offer a few possible answers that are drawn from my clients, friends, and me. Those answers demonstrate how helpful such questions can be.

Should You Be More Competitive or Less?

A case can be made for being more competitive and less so. My Psychology Today article today asks questions to help you decide what's right for you.

 

8 Words of Love: Useful ways to express your feelings

Whether it's in your Valentine’s Day card or otherwise, you of course want to express your love as you mean to. My Psychology Today article today may help.

 

If Your World is Getting Smaller, Is That OK? A case study and four questions to help you decide.

It seems that more of my clients are choosing to shrink their world. My Psychology Today article today offers a case study. It then asks questions to help you decide if you want to keep your world small, and offers suggestions in case you want to take baby steps to interacting more.