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July 14, 2011

Gay: Fact or Myth...

I know most people already know these things. But I sometimes wonder if everyone does. So I'm posting these facts and myths I pilfered from this web site, because I think they are simple, spot-on, and fundamental when it comes to the LGBT community. And the myths really are myths, for those who haven't been exposed to anyone in the gay community. What you see in the mainstream isn't always as it appears in real life, with the everyday LGBT community...especially not what you get from Hollywood. I often feel as if we're being portrayed in films and TV shows like the African American Community was portrayed in older films like Gone With the Wind. In other words, if you watch films like the most recent Sex in the City, only a handful of gay men are like the gay men you'll see there.


Myth.

* Most Lesbians Or Gays Regard Themselves As Members Of The Opposite Sex.

Fact.

The majority, if not all gays and lesbians are very happy with their gender. In many ways, their sexual identity is seen as a celebration and an affirmation of their gender, not rejection of it.
People often confuse homosexuality with transsexuality and or transvestism. Transsexual people feel as if they were born into the wrong body and should be the opposite gender. Transvestites are people who often dress in the clothing of the opposite sex.
Most transvestites are heterosexual.

Myth.

* Homosexuality Is A Form Of Mental Illness And Can Be Cured.

Fact.

The American Pshychiatric Association removed homosexuality from its list of official mental illnesses in 1973. The American Psychological Association followed suit in 1974. And so have most Psychiatric and psychological associations around the world.

Myth.

* All Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual And Transgender People Can Be Identified By Certain Mannerisms Or Physical Characteristics.

Fact.

Only a very small percentage of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people have stereotypic mannerisms and characteristics.
As with heterosexuals, homosexuals and transgender people come in many shapes, sizes and different colors. It is fair to say that some heterosexuals portray a variety of the so-called gay stereo typical characteristics.

Myth.

* Lesbians And Gays Could Be Cured By Having "Good Sex" With A Member Of The Opposite Gender.

Fact.

Remember, you cannot cure homosexuality. Many gays and lesbians have had satisfying heterosexual sex in their life time, but most gays and lesbians would never choose to be sexually active with members of the opposite sex and would resent and challenge the idea that heterosexuals have a corner on the market of "good sex".

Myth.

* You Are Either Heterosexual Or Homosexual. Very Few Are Bisexual.

Fact.

The studies of Dr Alfred Kinsey and his associates are most frequently cited on this question.
Their data suggests that, in fact, few people are predominately heterosexual or homosexual. Most people fall somewhere along the continium between these two ends of the scale, and therefore have the capacity to experience both affection and sexual feelings for members of both sexes.

Myth.

* Gay, Lesbian And Bisexual People Should Not Be Teachers Because They Will Try To Convert Their Students To Their Life Style.

Fact.

It is impossible to convert heterosexuals to become homosexuals as it is just as impossible the other way around.
Based on what is known about sexual attraction, this is simply not possible.

Myth.

* The Majority Of Child Molesters Are Gay Men And Women.

Fact.

Statistics have shown that paedophelia or child molestsation is perpetrated by mainly heterosexuals.
In fact, over 90% of all reported molestations are carried out by heterosexual males.

Myth.

* No One Knows What Causes Homosexuality.

Fact.

This is a complicated and controversial issue.
To date there has been no real conclusive research that shows the causes of either homosexuality, bisexuality or for that matter, heterosexuality. Some believe it is predetermined genetically or hormonally. Others believe that we are all predisposed to all variations of sexual and affectionate behaviour and learn our sexual orientation.

Myth.

* In A Homosexual Relationship, One Partner Usually Plays The Role Of The Husband And The Other Plays The Role Of The Wife.

Fact.

This is not neccessarily so. Most gay and lesbian couples work to develop relationships based on principles of equality and mutuality where they are loved for who they are and not for the roles they play.
This comes back to sterotypical role play. They are ususally just two men sharing roles and two women sharing roles.

Myth.

* One Homosexual Experience As An Adolescent Will Play A Large Part In Determining Whether A Person Will Be Homosexually Orientated As An Adult.

Fact.

Many gay and lesbian people have had early heterosexual experiences but identify as gay or lesbian. This can be said the same for many heterosexual people who have had sexual experiences with a person of the same sex but continue to define themselves as heterosexual.
Sexual orientation for most people goes well beyond just sexual acts.

Myth.

* Homosexuality Does Not Exist In Nature, Therefore It Is Not Natural.

Fact.

Historians tell us that homosexuality has existed since the earliest of human societies. Anthropologists report that homosexuals have been a part of every culture.
One study of non-western cultures, reported that 64% of the respondants considered homosexuality as "normal and socially exceptable".

It is also a well known fact that same sex behaviour is "natural" between animals.

Myth.

* All Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual And Transgender People Choose To Be That Way.

Fact.

The only place where choice seems to come into play is when they decide how they will acknowledge their identity. Choosing if and how to 'come out' and choosing who to tell.

I hope these facts have been helpful.
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Published on July 14, 2011 07:21

July 13, 2011

What Challenges Do Modern Royals Face?


I think it's interesting that the day my book, The Buckhampton Country Club and the Rogue Prince, is released, I run into an article like this about Prince Albert and his new wife.

I can assure everyone that I know nothing about Prince Albert II, nor do I care to know about him. I actually did date a guy a few years ago who was related to the Kelly family in Philadelphia, and who knew Princess Grace personally. But that's as far as my connection goes. The "rogue" prince in my book is strictly ficticious and so is the country where he reigns.

However, I still can't help thinking of the challenges all modern royals seem to be facing these days. While celebrities are coming out of the closet, while single women are having babies without getting married, and while everyone seems to have lightened up on the rules, royals all seem to be stuck in the same mold they've been stuck in for hundreds of years. And we expect them to remain there. Although it seems like a fairytale exsitence, I'm sure it must have more than a few pitfalls. And frankly, I don't know how they do it.


Princess Charlene & Prince Albert II Sleep In Separate Beds On Honeymoon: Report (VIDEO)
The Huffington Post Ellie Krupnick
First Posted: 7/13/11 12:30 PM ET Updated: 7/13/11 04:09 PM ET

There's been no kayaking, rodeos nor star-studded red carpets for this royal couple's first trip abroad. Instead "Good Morning America" reports that Prince Albert II and Charlene Wittstock's honeymoon has been the trip from hell.

Apparently, the Monegasque newlyweds, have spent their South African sojourn with fake smiles plastered to their faces. And Albert was ten miles apart from Charlene for one night and reports say the newlyweds are sleeping in separate beds.

These two just can't catch a break. Rumors began flying even before the wedding about Charlene's unhappiness with Albert, who continues to be dogged by paternity scandals. And last week, "GMA" wondered if the marriage wasn't cursed. The supposedly unhappy union, says the French press, is merely a plan to produce a legitimate heir for Prince Albert II, whose children (had out of wedlock) cannot inherit the throne.

But Princess Charlene's father tried to assure the press that the couple's love is true, saying that marrying his daughter to a prince is like "winning the World Cup."

Poor Charlene and Albert -- we really are rooting for you.

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Published on July 13, 2011 16:02

Kobo, Big News, Now in Germany

I think this is big news. I have two Kobo e-readers, love them both, and order almost all my books through Kobo. And I like the Kobo Look Book so much, I just bought one for my mother (She's been reading on the iPad and wants just a plain e-reader.)

And now Kobo is launching a German e-reading store. Here's the link. All my books are on Kobo, and I hope they'll be part of this new German e-reading store. I've been published by a lot of German publishers over the years, and I still get a lot of e-mails from German readers.
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Published on July 13, 2011 07:50

The Buckhampton Country Club and the Rogue Prince, and Two Versions of Cover Copy


Today is release day for my new m/m romance, THE BUCKHAMPTON COUNTRY CLUB AND THE ROGUE PRINCE. This may become a series. We're still not totally sure yet.

Regarding the cover copy below, I'd like to add that this synopsis was edited and rewritten by someone other than me. I don't know who and I'm not going to ask. I love all my publishers and for all I know the new cover copy might be better than mine. But trust me, I would never use the word happenstance in cover copy, or in conversation. It reminds me of a TV commercial I saw earlier this week for a new Jennifer Aniston movie where they promised viewers "ensuing hillarity." I'm sure Jennifer Aniston never uses this phrase either. It's something we learn to live with and it's done all the time. But I do want readers to know I work hard to give them detailed, quality cover copy all the time, and more product info than other web sites. So now there are two choices.

Here's a link, the cover copy I didn't write is below, and I'll post unpublished excerpts later this week.

Parrish Bundy has just lost his father, and gained a traveling circus, a chocolate factory, and plenty of power and money. As the heir to the Bundy empire, Parrish knows the rules- but now that he's in charge, he plans to make changes. And now that he owns one of the most prestigious country clubs in the east, The Buckhampton Country Club on eastern Long Island, he's finally able to let his hair down.

Across the Atlantic in a small European country there lives a handsome young prince named Richard who is even more dissatisfied with his controlled life than Parrish. Richard has always been aware of his royal obligations, and he's always put his people and his country before his own needs- still he longs to know what it's like to be a normal gay man who has the ability to choose his own destiny.

When the two men meet by happenstance, sparks fly in the hushed environment of the Buckhampton Country Club. But will social responsibilities, long-standing family rules, and deeply ingrained royal obligations ruin their chances to spend the rest of their lives together? And will they be able to overcome the harsh realities of being openly gay in the public eye in order to live their lives they way they want to live them?


For those who are interested, this is the way I wrote the original cover copy:

Parrish Bundy has just lost his father and he's inherited the largest traveling circus and most profitable chocolate factory in the entire world. And now that he's in charge of one of the most prestigious country clubs in the east, The Buckhampton Club on eastern Long Island, he's finally able to let his hair down, both literally and figuratively.

Unfortunately, he's also inherited a long line of secrets shared by the most important Bundy men since his great-grandfather started the powerful empire over a hundred years ago. And Parrish isn't sure how to deal with being a closeted gay man, or if he even wants to remain a closeted gay man like his predecessors. It wouldn't be difficult on the surface. He could marry for appearance just like his father. He has a strapping young semi-pro hockey player at his disposal to take care of his needs. And he has enough money and power to keep anyone in the town of Buckhampton from questioning these needs.

But in a small European country there's handsome young prince named Richard who is even more dissatisfied with his controlled life than Parrish. Though he's always been aware of his royal obligations and he's always put his people and his country before his own needs, he longs to find out what it's like to be a normal gay man who has the ability to choose his own destiny. And he'd do practically anything to see Shania Twain in concert.

And then one night after the pressure of being a royal prince finally pushes him over the line, he sneaks out of his hotel in New York and accidentally winds up at The Buckhampton Country Club through no fault of his own. When he applies for a job as a waiter, using the pseudonym Silas King, the manager of the restaurant hires him on the spot. And when he accidentally spills something on Parrish Bundy during a funeral luncheon for Parrish's father, the two young men are immediately attracted to each other.

After a few awkward moments, they wind up spending the next few days together, from attending a country western concert in Nashville to doing a make-shift male strip show at a circus in upstate New York for a large group of very excited women. Though Parrish finds out that the waiter is really a rogue prince named Richard early on, he doesn't say a word because he doesn't want to spoil Richard's most excellent adventure. And Prince Richard meets Parrish's older brother with Down syndrome, he eats cotton candy and prune pie for the first time in his life, and he finds out what it's like to be totally and completely in love with the man of his dreams.

But will social responsibilities, long-standing family rules, and deeply ingrained royal obligations ruin their chances to spend the rest of their lives together? And will they be able to overcome the harsh realities of being openly gay in the public eye in order to live their lives they way they want to live them?
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Published on July 13, 2011 06:58

July 12, 2011

What Do You Do When It Gets Hot In Philadelphia?


You go to Love Park and jump into the fountain. I was there this afternoon, and it was scorching hot in the city. If I hadn't had an appointment, I would have joined them.
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Published on July 12, 2011 16:19

Cover Challenges: ANOTHER Regular Bud


As I stated in a post on Monday, I've been going back and forth all week with the cover artist, Dawne Dominique, over at loveyoudivine.com, about the new cover for a new short story e-book titled, ANOTHER REGULAR BUD. If you haven't seen Dawne's work, please take the time to check it out. You will be extremely impressed.

I loved the first design she came up with. I can't begin to let readers know how happy I am to be able to work with such talented, hard working people. But I was worried the first design would confuse readers. The first story, A REGULAR BUD, attracted certain readers and I want them to know the second story follows the same theme. This isn't actually a series with the same characters, but the themes are the same. So I suggested a few things, Dawne listened, and we came up with this new cover.

I'm happy with this. I can't thank Dawne enough for getting through this with me. And I will post more when the story is released.
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Published on July 12, 2011 07:38

July 11, 2011

Eight Things Gays Still Can't Do...

Rather than post something long here, I'm linking to the article and listing the 8 things gay men still can't do below.

This is what I'm talking about when I get annoyed, slightly, when I hear people in the m/m fiction world tell me how wonderful things are and how many choices gay men still have. Yes, we do have more choices than ever before. But we're far from equal.

I've added my own comments beside the titles. But I think it's worth reading the entire article. And I could probably come up with 8 other things if I really wanted to.

No Legal Equal Employment...This has been around as long as I can remember. And, women are still fighting for the same rights. So we're not alone.

Can't donate blood...This one amazes me, as if gay men are the only people who can transmit the HIV virus. As far as I know, anyone can.

Still can't adopt in some states...If you met my hideous ex-sister-in-law (my poor straight brother made a huge mistake back when), and you saw the way she screws up her kids, you'd be happy to have to stable gay men adopting kids.

Educational discrimination based on sexual orientation...This one made me wonder at first. But if you read the article, you'll see it's valid.

Housing Discrimination: LGBTs Can't Live In Certain Communities...Well, trust me, there are certain communities I don't want to live in either. I think the right address is important. But no one should be cast aside for any reason. This is America.

Same sex marriage not allowed in most states...It would be great if all states passed same sex marriage. But we need it more in a federal level, not just on a state level. Those inheritance taxes are brutal.

Gay men can't be scout leaders...I've never even wanted to be a scout. But I'm sure there are gay men who'd get into this, and how unfair to see they can't.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell Repealed!... In A Year?...This doesn't surprise me in the least. It shows how our politicians are always more interested in campaigning than fighting for equality. Mark my words, one of these days a smart politicain is going to come along and promise change...real change...and he or she is going to go down in history.
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Published on July 11, 2011 16:25

Cover Challenges...And How Hard We Do Work For Quality


I thought I'd post this cover for my upcoming release, Another Regular Bud.

It's only a draft so far, and for the first time in a long time I just didn't think it worked. Don't get me wrong. I love it and I think it's a work of art. The cover artist nailed the suggestions I made. But I'm worried readers who've read A Regular Bud might not be attracted to it because it's so different.

Why am I posting this? Because I've been reading on certain romance blogs about quality and how it's so important to the publishing process. It is important. But frankly, it irritates me when one author, or a few bloggers, try to suggest they've cornered the market on quality e-books. And I wanted to show readers how much detail is spent working on just the covers alone at Loveyoudivine.com. We don't take it lightly; we want everything to be as perfect as we can get it. And quality is one of the most important things we think about before releasing a book.

I hate being a pain in the ass with the cover artists. In fact, I never, ever, don't like a cover I'm sent. But this time I just have this deep down feeling it's not right, and we're going to keep working on it until we get it right. Thankfully, the cover artist is far more talented in cover art than I'll ever be. And I know she'll come up with something similar to the first book, A Regular Bud, that keeps readers happy.

I'm not always one of those who believes a cover sells a book. But I do think there needs to be continuity when it comes to books that follow a certain theme so readers know what to expect. And the new story, Another Regular Bud, though completely different form A Regular Bud, does, indeed, follow the same theme. And I want readers to know this just by seeing the cover.

I'll update this to let people know what's been decided. We may even just make a few changes to this version.
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Published on July 11, 2011 07:29

July 10, 2011

"Queer as Folk" Creator Working on Something Brand New

Russell T. Davis, the man who created "Queer as Folk" and other dramas, is supposedly working on a brand new drama. I'm a huge fan of his work...all of it!! And all I can say is amen...and I seriously hope that if he does create a new drama the folks over at the LOGO channel are thinking about picking it up. But LGBT TV is so dismal at this point, I'd settle for anyone picking it up.

It's been a long time since there was anything worth watching on LOGO. Sorry, I'm not the Buffy the Vampire Slayer type, and I'd rather watch fifteen year old reruns of the Two Fat Ladies on the cooking channel than watch Rue Paul's Drag Race. And films like Latter Days, although entertaining in some places, leave me wondering why this is the best they can do with gay drama. But, like I said, we take what we can get. "They" treat the lgbt community a lot like the African American community was treated in the l960's and 70's.

Here's the article about the new drama, and here's the link.

By On Top Magazine Staff
Published: July 10, 2011Russell T. Davies, the creative force behind Torchwood, Doctor Who and Queer as Folk, is working on a new gay drama, Nikki Finke's Deadline Hollywood reported.

BBC Worldwide Productions is producing the new show, tentatively titled Cucumber, which revolves around gay men. Showtime, which aired an American version of Queer as Folk based on Davies' groundbreaking UK version, is reportedly considering picking up the show.

"Details about the plot have been hard to come by," the site reported. "It's a good bet it's getting a hard look" from Showtime executives.

On Friday, Davies' latest series, Torchwood: Miracle Day, premiered on the Starz cable network. The action-oriented sci-fi spinoff of the BBC hit Doctor Who is helmed by Captain Jack Harkness, played since 2005 by openly gay actor John Barrowman. The time traveling Harkness is bisexual.

In an interview with gay glossy The Advocate, Davies said there was no pressure to alter the sexuality of the series' characters in bringing the show to an American premium cable network.
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Published on July 10, 2011 16:29

Thanks For the E-mails...

I just wanted to write a quick thank you post for the e-mails I've received about FIELD OF DREAMS. As I've stated, I was a little hesitant about doing an anthology like this, because I'm so fond of reading individual short story e-books myself.

But so far I've had so many nice e-mails from readers I'm glad we did this book. I'd also like to thank Lori Perkins. She's been asking me about this for over a year now and I kept putting it off to write novels. It took about a year to get it all together. For some reason I can't explain, the short story process takes longer for me than writing a full length novel. But I'm glad I finally focuesed on it and got it out there.

I'm also working on something interesting right now. I can't go into details about it at this point, but it's something I normally don't do because it's very intimidating for me. All I can say right now is that it's something I wrote six years ago and put on a back shelf. It's been in the back of my mind all this time and I finally decided to take it out and rewrite it. I'll post more about this in the future.

And, there's a new short story coming out titled, ANOTHER REGULAR BUD. This isn't actually a series with the same characters as A REGULAR BUD. But the theme is the same. A REGULAR BUD has never stopped selling...to my complete surprise...and I figured that if readers like it I might as well write something else with the same theme.
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Published on July 10, 2011 11:32