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July 11, 2018
Is Civility Dead? Here’s our Opinion Plus 4 Things to Do
Is civility dead in our culture? We say no! If you want to lead with civility and tolerance even when others are intolerant of your opinions or perspective, it’s going to be a challenge. Unfortunately, we’ve reached a point of hate for each other just because we have different perspectives, and it’s a serious problem.
Let’s commit to do our part as honorable leaders by doing these four things:
Guard your own character first. Avoid using uncivil tactics to advance your arguments.
Be direct and honest, but keep strong boundaries on your words and actions. Set an example of someone who can disagree politely and factually with those with whom you disagree.
Speak up when you experience the intolerance of others, those who resort to negative name-calling that is hateful and viscous. Consider how we can respectfully not tolerate those who use incivility as a weapon to advance their ideology.
Get a free copy of the Honor Code on the Leading with Honor website, and share it with others. Pay special attention to Articles 2, 6, and 7.
Please comment below on your experience and advice too. Also, read the entire article on this topic – “Where is Dr King Now? A Civility Emergency”
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July 10, 2018
New Results: Annual Reviews Lower Employee Engagement
Author Stuart Levine makes it official: employees don’t want annual reviews, and reviews aren’t working well as most managers think (it’s just checking another task off the to-do list in most instances). Instead, ongoing coaching by your managers gets better results.
In Lee’s book, Engage with Honor, he calls it having a better results vs. relationships balance as a leader.
Please check out the Forbes article, and add your comments below – thank you
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July 8, 2018
On This Day in Leadership History, July 8th
On this day in leadership history in 1776, Col. John Nixon gave the first public reading of the U.S. Declaration of Independence to a crowd at Independence Square in Philadelphia. More than 200 years later, we’re still quoting this declaration to get unity and clarity as a nation.
What’s the leadership lesson for you? Communicate, communicate, and over-communicate. Your important message needs to be stated more than one time.
Declaration of Independence – Wikipedia
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July 6, 2018
Coaching Clip: Exercising the Freedom to be Civil and Respectful
In this leadership coaching clip from Lee Ellis, he shares his strong concerns with the growing lack of civility in our culture. Then he offers his past personal and professional experiences to help leaders develop the skill of being civil and respectful with other people.
It’s a powerful tool to build an honorable leadership influence. Please add your comments below, too. Sign Up free to receive these clips in your inbox.
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Leading with Honor Wisdom for Today, July 6, 2018
“…no conflict can be solved so long as all parties are convinced they are right. Solution is possible only when at least one party begins to consider how he might be wrong.” – Arbinger
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July 5, 2018
Leadership Bio Clip – Walt Disney
Leaders learn successes and lessons from other leaders – watch this interesting biography of entrepreneur & producer, Walt Disney.
What attributes do you notice in his leadership? Please comment below – thank you
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July 4, 2018
Happy Independence Day! 3 Ways to Preserve Our Freedom
Happy Independence Day from Lee Ellis and Leading with Honor!
Also, check out Lee Ellis’ article – “3 Ways to Lead in Preserving Our Independence”
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July 3, 2018
Where is Dr. King now? A Civility Emergency
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As the well-known, dramatic story unfolds, “Humpty Dumpty sat on the wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the king’s horses, and all the king’s men, couldn’t put Humpty Dumpty together again.” Coincidentally, this nursery rhyme has me thinking about an important leadership issue.
During this Independence Day season, I’m concerned that our freedom is being threatened. Now is the time for honorable patriots to speak up and do our part on this issue. We must take a stand for civility in our culture, and it’s a basic responsibility as fellow colleagues and citizens.
What is Civility and why is it important?
The word “civil” ties back to the Latin word for citizen, and the core meaning is the idea of people living together as a society under a government. The other well-known and related definition of the word civil is being courteous, respectful and considerate of others. To have and maintain freedom requires a degree of civility and tolerance for each other.
Just over fifty years ago Dr. Martin Luther King set the standard for civility when debating highly contested issues. Out of that era, our society learned a lot about respectful tolerance for others—it has been a foundational ethos over the past 30 years in the issues of race, gender, and religion, and it’s made us a better nation because of it. We had our differences in the past, but there was a general attitude of civility in debating them.
Today though, the tragic change is tolerance for being intolerant of others who have different ideas and views.
“When people reach a point of hate for each other because they have different perspectives, then you have a serious problem.” [Tweet This]
Emotions are Contagious
From my past work in human behavior and performance, I know that emotions are contagious. Positive emotions give positive energy and make it easy to live and work together. Negative emotions bring negative energy and make it difficult to work together. We all know this principle from time spent with our work teams as well as relationships with family and friends. And the same thing applies to our culture.
Now we’re seeing intolerant and rude conversation on a mass scale. Some media outlets and politicians ignore the boundaries of civility, aggressively promoting disrespectful personal attacks on others who don’t share their views on politics or social issues. And social media has provided a layer of protection, allowing individuals to lash out in vicious ways at people they don’t even know. These actions aren’t illegal, but they are certainly anti-social and attack the civility needed to maintain a free society where we can live and work together.
Another Civil War?
A recent Rasmussen Poll showed that “thirty-one percent (31%) of U.S. voters say it’s ‘Likely’ that the United States will experience a second civil war sometime in the next five years, with 11 percent saying it’s ‘Very Likely.’” This poll seems to confirm what I’m feeling—that we’re crashing over the boundaries needed in a civil society.
Underneath this breakdown in civility is the subtle mindset that “the ends justify the means”. [Tweet This]
This is the bone-chilling Communist manifesto that we experienced in the POW camps, so I’m highly sensitive to this type of attack on freedom and independence. This abandonment of truth and civility can happen in our American culture, a business boardroom, a dysfunctional family relationship, or a dispute with a neighbor. No one can escape it, but we have an opportunity to do our part in arresting it.
What can we do?
If you’re agreeing with this article, then you’re part of the tribe that has decided to live and lead with honor! Regardless of your personal and professional perspectives or your allegiance to your like-minded group of people, you know that the true essence of influence and courage is taking a stand in a civil way regardless if that civility is returned in kind. For more on this challenge, see my coaching video this month and hear my personal story.
Here are four things that we can do –
Guard your own character first. Avoid using uncivil tactics to advance your arguments.
Be direct and honest, but keep strong boundaries on your words and actions. Set an example of someone who can disagree politely and factually with those with whom you disagree.
Speak up when you experience the intolerance of others, those who resort to negative name-calling that is hateful and viscous. Consider how we can respectfully not tolerate those who use incivility as a weapon to advance their ideology.
Get a free copy of the Honor Code and share it with others. Pay special attention to Articles 2, 6, and 7.
If Humpty Dumpty takes a fall, it will be very difficult to put him back together again. Take a stand for our freedom and independence, stand and advocate for civility…in a civil way. LE
Training Your Team in the Skill of Civility
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[1] Source: Rasmussen Reports
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July 2, 2018
Get a Boost of Resilience! Free infographic
In the dog days of Summer, get a boost of resilience! Which of these 12 areas of resilience are you the strongest?
Explore the entire, free infographic, and please comment below on your best resilience traits –
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The #1 consulting point that Lee gives clients – See Inside
The #1 consulting point that Lee gives clients is to know yourself. Self-awareness is like gold for the aspiring honorable leader!
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