Rachael Phillips's Blog, page 8
November 21, 2012
Some ramblings...
Preparations for the pantomime, Aladdin, are going well and the set is coming along nicely. I can't wait to see it all up and in place. My costumes, for the role of Princess Belrubador, are lovely, thanks to the wonderful women helping with wardrobe. Amazing job! Julie is doing a fine job directing and the cast are superb so I'm hopeful for a resounding success (at least I hope so because I have sold quite a few tickets!)
It's very special as it's the first panto I've been in. I have done musicals and a play but never panto. Rehearsals have impressed me and properly tickled me. I can't wait to hear the children's responses to it all when they watch from the audience: 'Behind you!' etc. Ella is very excited about going to watch her mummy in Aladdin. I just hope she doesn't wonder why another man is flinging me over his arm and kissing me! I'll try to prepare her before she goes!
It is also a very emotional time as my parents are coming, along with both my sisters, their partners and my older sister's three children. Having my Dad there is very important for obvious reasons. I can't help but wonder if it will be the last visit Dad makes to stay with us but I am thankful he is coming as I had also wondered if he ever would again. My younger sister is driving my parents here, which is great, and they will all stay the night so it's a great opportunity to spend time with them all and have them close.
I do have one worry about this panto. I worry I may lose it and get emotional. 'But pantos are funny!' I hear you cry. Yes, they are, and this one is especially so, but at one point we all sing together and there's a line that is liable to reduce me to tears for the performance my parents are attending. You see I'll know they are sat watching even if lighting means I can't see them. It's a very poignant line and it's amazing how songs suddenly hold so much more meaning when life and events takes a turn...
'Through the years we all will be together, if the fates allow...' I'm sure most of you will recognise the line; it happens to be one of my most favourite Christmas songs.
We will be spending Christmas day at home, just the four of us, and will spend boxing day with family. This Christmas is very important and I know we will all make sure we all will be together. We may even hang a shining star up on the highest bough!
Whatever happens I'm going to make the most of every moment and every opportunity to spend time with loved ones over the coming weeks because, hey, you just never know do you?
Rambling over - the weather's coming in thick and fast. Wind, rain and dark clouds in abundance. It's going to be a great school run!
It's very special as it's the first panto I've been in. I have done musicals and a play but never panto. Rehearsals have impressed me and properly tickled me. I can't wait to hear the children's responses to it all when they watch from the audience: 'Behind you!' etc. Ella is very excited about going to watch her mummy in Aladdin. I just hope she doesn't wonder why another man is flinging me over his arm and kissing me! I'll try to prepare her before she goes!
It is also a very emotional time as my parents are coming, along with both my sisters, their partners and my older sister's three children. Having my Dad there is very important for obvious reasons. I can't help but wonder if it will be the last visit Dad makes to stay with us but I am thankful he is coming as I had also wondered if he ever would again. My younger sister is driving my parents here, which is great, and they will all stay the night so it's a great opportunity to spend time with them all and have them close.
I do have one worry about this panto. I worry I may lose it and get emotional. 'But pantos are funny!' I hear you cry. Yes, they are, and this one is especially so, but at one point we all sing together and there's a line that is liable to reduce me to tears for the performance my parents are attending. You see I'll know they are sat watching even if lighting means I can't see them. It's a very poignant line and it's amazing how songs suddenly hold so much more meaning when life and events takes a turn...
'Through the years we all will be together, if the fates allow...' I'm sure most of you will recognise the line; it happens to be one of my most favourite Christmas songs.
We will be spending Christmas day at home, just the four of us, and will spend boxing day with family. This Christmas is very important and I know we will all make sure we all will be together. We may even hang a shining star up on the highest bough!
Whatever happens I'm going to make the most of every moment and every opportunity to spend time with loved ones over the coming weeks because, hey, you just never know do you?
Rambling over - the weather's coming in thick and fast. Wind, rain and dark clouds in abundance. It's going to be a great school run!
Published on November 21, 2012 06:30
November 17, 2012
Progression and a gift
Hi it's been a while again however I have been very busy writing and rehearsing for pantomime, Aladdin. It's been great fun and wish I could watch the show myself! Ella is settling well into school and has lots of friends. Ridiculous numbers of party invitations so her social life is sorted for the next few weekends! She also has two boyfriends and another fiance so has achieved quite a lot since September! She is enjoying it which is the main thing at this stage.
I have been finding more time to write and finally finished the final story in Series III: Anastasia - The Epic which, at 17,000 words, is a novella really and the longest Anastasia story to date. I really got into this story as it's her final and biggest mission. The poor girl needs a rest after this one and she begins to plan her future in her mind. When her brother asks for her help in one last mission she can't say no, especially not now she knows why he is so desperate to help the innocent victims caught up in the world of the drug cartel. There is a lot of action and also a lot of insight into the world of people trafficking and the importance of family to the teenage Anastasia who is now questioning her place and purpose in the world. Being a teenager is hard; there's a desperation to be grown up but a desire to have fun. Anastasia's going to have some new adventures in Series IV which will take her in a different direction with Anastasia working on achieving her ambitions. There will no doubt be some crimes and mysteries to solve along the way as she joins forces once again with her friend Charlotte who she hasn't seen since the beginning of Series III.
I have also created a Series III Omnibus which contains all nine stories from Series III. I have dedicated this eBook to my Dad, Jack. It means a lot that it is dedicated to him especially because I know he'll enjoy the stories which feature planned military ops and plenty of action for those that enjoy reading about the world of crimes and justice prevailing. This book will be free from 17th to 21st November as my gift to you all to say thank you for all the support with the books and other things. Please download and have a read. It's great to imagine a teenage girl taking on the crime world and it's excellent escapism. Please leave a review if you like or at least click on the 'like' button on Amazon for the book. The links for each territory are listed below.
I met with Fergus this week and a lady called Christine from a website company. She is going to build a website for the Anastasia books. It's exciting to imagine a website just for Anastasia and hopefully it will help her reach more people around the world. The website should be ready in the New Year hopefully. I look forward to bringing you news about that. It's great to have some positive things to focus on.
Fergus has also asked me to write some more stories about an animal which will be read aloud books for children of all ages. I am really looking forward to writing these and test stories on Ella have gone down well. Watching her face as she listens in amazement and then asks me lots of questions about the character is great to see. More details will be released in the near future. If any of you have young children who love to draw animals then keep an eye on my blog and facebook page (www.facebook.com/rachaelphillipsauthor) as I will be looking for lots of pictures for the stories. I may even have a little competition to select winners whose drawings will appear on the covers of the books.
There's lots going on at the moment and plenty to keep me very busy which is great. It seems Anastasia's journey is continuing and a new chapter is beginning. We have a lot in common ;)
Happy reading and please spread the word. Amazon has recently arrived in India and Japan so welcome to new Amazon territories. I hope you all enjoy the books. The journey has begun...
Anastasia Series III Omnibus:
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00A823NJA UK
www.amazon.com/dp/B00A823NJA US and India
www.amazon.de/dp/B00A823NJA Germany
www.amazon.es/dp/B00A823NJA Spain
www,amazon.fr/dp/B00A823NJA France
www.amazon.it/dp/B00A823NJA Italy
www.amazon.jp/dp/B00A823NJA Japan
I have been finding more time to write and finally finished the final story in Series III: Anastasia - The Epic which, at 17,000 words, is a novella really and the longest Anastasia story to date. I really got into this story as it's her final and biggest mission. The poor girl needs a rest after this one and she begins to plan her future in her mind. When her brother asks for her help in one last mission she can't say no, especially not now she knows why he is so desperate to help the innocent victims caught up in the world of the drug cartel. There is a lot of action and also a lot of insight into the world of people trafficking and the importance of family to the teenage Anastasia who is now questioning her place and purpose in the world. Being a teenager is hard; there's a desperation to be grown up but a desire to have fun. Anastasia's going to have some new adventures in Series IV which will take her in a different direction with Anastasia working on achieving her ambitions. There will no doubt be some crimes and mysteries to solve along the way as she joins forces once again with her friend Charlotte who she hasn't seen since the beginning of Series III.
I have also created a Series III Omnibus which contains all nine stories from Series III. I have dedicated this eBook to my Dad, Jack. It means a lot that it is dedicated to him especially because I know he'll enjoy the stories which feature planned military ops and plenty of action for those that enjoy reading about the world of crimes and justice prevailing. This book will be free from 17th to 21st November as my gift to you all to say thank you for all the support with the books and other things. Please download and have a read. It's great to imagine a teenage girl taking on the crime world and it's excellent escapism. Please leave a review if you like or at least click on the 'like' button on Amazon for the book. The links for each territory are listed below.
I met with Fergus this week and a lady called Christine from a website company. She is going to build a website for the Anastasia books. It's exciting to imagine a website just for Anastasia and hopefully it will help her reach more people around the world. The website should be ready in the New Year hopefully. I look forward to bringing you news about that. It's great to have some positive things to focus on.
Fergus has also asked me to write some more stories about an animal which will be read aloud books for children of all ages. I am really looking forward to writing these and test stories on Ella have gone down well. Watching her face as she listens in amazement and then asks me lots of questions about the character is great to see. More details will be released in the near future. If any of you have young children who love to draw animals then keep an eye on my blog and facebook page (www.facebook.com/rachaelphillipsauthor) as I will be looking for lots of pictures for the stories. I may even have a little competition to select winners whose drawings will appear on the covers of the books.
There's lots going on at the moment and plenty to keep me very busy which is great. It seems Anastasia's journey is continuing and a new chapter is beginning. We have a lot in common ;)
Happy reading and please spread the word. Amazon has recently arrived in India and Japan so welcome to new Amazon territories. I hope you all enjoy the books. The journey has begun...
Anastasia Series III Omnibus:
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B00A823NJA UK
www.amazon.com/dp/B00A823NJA US and India
www.amazon.de/dp/B00A823NJA Germany
www.amazon.es/dp/B00A823NJA Spain
www,amazon.fr/dp/B00A823NJA France
www.amazon.it/dp/B00A823NJA Italy
www.amazon.jp/dp/B00A823NJA Japan
Published on November 17, 2012 04:19
October 11, 2012
The ups and downs of the rollercoaster ride called life
Where has the time gone?! I have been neglecting my blog and social networking because I don't seem to have much time lately. Admittedly I have hosted a couple of play dates and Amy has activities three mornings of the week but I honestly thought now Ella is at school until 3pm I would have more time to get things done. Apparently not!
I have been writing less, possibly from burn out from writing so much until now or maybe because I have had too much else on. I'm not sure. We've been spending more time together as a family and had a great trip to Chessington World of Adventures Saturday and we all had a great time. We were very lucky to go for free as when you book online Chessington offers a rainy day guarantee so if it rains for an hour or more on the day of your visit then you get to return for free! So on my birthday in May we went and it did indeed rain... all day. Soaked may not describe how wet we were but our rain coats got a good testing that's for sure. Glad to say it was dry Saturday and no wet weather to dampen things down.
I did email Chessington before we went, to double check the rainy day offer would be honoured at the gates, and they replied: "We are delighted to confirm it did rain all day on your last visit"! It did make me laugh that they were so delighted that our visit in May was a wash out! It seems the girls are going to share their parents love of fast, white-knuckle rides - nothing phased them so far. I love the feeling you get on a fast ride. The lurching of my stomach as the pirate ship tilts to practically vertical, the rush from the speed as the runaway train launches itself around the tracks and the thrill of sharing adrenaline fuelled hysterics with those around you.
Sadly though life is like a roller coaster: there are amazing, thrilling and exhilarating moments but... they can't last forever. Like anything in this world, what goes up must come down and I suppose I am of an age where I will have to face increasing downs as I face losing those dear to me.
Things with my Dad have progressed and it's been a wake up call that he is indeed ill. Don't get me wrong-we hadn't forgotten but I guess as he seemed to be coping ok we put it to the backs of our minds. I also think we were all hoping that somehow it wasn't real. Recent news that his Mesothelioma has spread to his lymph nodes means a renewed realisation that we are going to lose him. And once again there is that awful ticking clock hovering over us because we don't know how long he has left.
Dad has started radiotherapy and hopefully it will ease his pain and prolong his life. We are going back to visit in half term, in a couple of weeks time, as I am desperate to spend time with my parents; it's hard being miles away from them. We are renting a lovely cottage on a farm not far from them so hopefully Dad will be up to the trip to visit us there and spend some time in the countryside. He'll love it.
So I have decided that I am going to spend this weekend completing the final story in Anastasia Series III, which is as yet unnamed. It will be a good distraction from things I can't control. This story will be a mixture of action and emotion which seems a fitting reflection of my current emotional state! Anastasia will be ridding the world of more criminals before she begins new adventures in Anastasia Series IV. Series IV will bring a change of focus and direction for the young Empress as she pursues new ventures. I am looking forward to completing Anastasia's adventures in Series III and beginning her new journey in Series IV.
India now has Amazon.com and since they have had access to Amazon I have had increased downloads and borrows. Great news. Thank you to everyone who is downloading and reading about Anastasia's adventures. Please leave a review and share the things you liked about the stories when you get chance.
Well, it is almost time to collect Ella from school so I need to wake Amy up ready for our long (5 minute!) walk.
The journey has truly begun... enjoy the ride.
I have been writing less, possibly from burn out from writing so much until now or maybe because I have had too much else on. I'm not sure. We've been spending more time together as a family and had a great trip to Chessington World of Adventures Saturday and we all had a great time. We were very lucky to go for free as when you book online Chessington offers a rainy day guarantee so if it rains for an hour or more on the day of your visit then you get to return for free! So on my birthday in May we went and it did indeed rain... all day. Soaked may not describe how wet we were but our rain coats got a good testing that's for sure. Glad to say it was dry Saturday and no wet weather to dampen things down.
I did email Chessington before we went, to double check the rainy day offer would be honoured at the gates, and they replied: "We are delighted to confirm it did rain all day on your last visit"! It did make me laugh that they were so delighted that our visit in May was a wash out! It seems the girls are going to share their parents love of fast, white-knuckle rides - nothing phased them so far. I love the feeling you get on a fast ride. The lurching of my stomach as the pirate ship tilts to practically vertical, the rush from the speed as the runaway train launches itself around the tracks and the thrill of sharing adrenaline fuelled hysterics with those around you.
Sadly though life is like a roller coaster: there are amazing, thrilling and exhilarating moments but... they can't last forever. Like anything in this world, what goes up must come down and I suppose I am of an age where I will have to face increasing downs as I face losing those dear to me.
Things with my Dad have progressed and it's been a wake up call that he is indeed ill. Don't get me wrong-we hadn't forgotten but I guess as he seemed to be coping ok we put it to the backs of our minds. I also think we were all hoping that somehow it wasn't real. Recent news that his Mesothelioma has spread to his lymph nodes means a renewed realisation that we are going to lose him. And once again there is that awful ticking clock hovering over us because we don't know how long he has left.
Dad has started radiotherapy and hopefully it will ease his pain and prolong his life. We are going back to visit in half term, in a couple of weeks time, as I am desperate to spend time with my parents; it's hard being miles away from them. We are renting a lovely cottage on a farm not far from them so hopefully Dad will be up to the trip to visit us there and spend some time in the countryside. He'll love it.
So I have decided that I am going to spend this weekend completing the final story in Anastasia Series III, which is as yet unnamed. It will be a good distraction from things I can't control. This story will be a mixture of action and emotion which seems a fitting reflection of my current emotional state! Anastasia will be ridding the world of more criminals before she begins new adventures in Anastasia Series IV. Series IV will bring a change of focus and direction for the young Empress as she pursues new ventures. I am looking forward to completing Anastasia's adventures in Series III and beginning her new journey in Series IV.
India now has Amazon.com and since they have had access to Amazon I have had increased downloads and borrows. Great news. Thank you to everyone who is downloading and reading about Anastasia's adventures. Please leave a review and share the things you liked about the stories when you get chance.
Well, it is almost time to collect Ella from school so I need to wake Amy up ready for our long (5 minute!) walk.
The journey has truly begun... enjoy the ride.
Published on October 11, 2012 06:35
September 21, 2012
The journeys of fact and fiction
Well it's another Friday and another week almost over. It's Ella's second week at school and my head's in a bit of a spin!It has all gone pretty well; adapting to new routines, coping with the changes and making new friends. Ella's handled it pretty well too ;) She has settled really well and made new friends. Her social life is taking off with playdates arranged which is great news that she is a popular girl already.
So, Ella's school journey. We've opted for the packed lunch approach which I am happy about. Staying for lunch commenced this week and each morning I have lovingly prepared a healthy, balanced lunch box for her. I think we'll switch to school lunches once it's colder. I was glad that we opted for packed lunches after the first day when I overheard one child tell her mum she had eaten spaghetti hoops and a slice of bread for her lunch. Cleverly the mum now writes down her selection from the menu to hand to one of the servers so she gets more balance! £2.10 per day is steep if all the child is eating is bread and spaghetti hoops! Although it's often difficult to get facts out of a 4year old!
I managed to embarrass myself slightly when I arrived to collect Ella on Tuesday. I was hearing all about the Phonics Workshop for the parents of children in her class. The parents were buzzing about how good it was, etc. I was not happy that I hadn't been informed about it and proceeded to march into her classroom, straight past one member of staff to ask why no one had told me. The woman, who I had assumed was her teacher but turned out to the teaching assistant, kindly advised me that a letter was placed in Ella's book bag telling parents all about it. She proceeded to open the book bag and present me with the letter. I felt a tad silly and promised I would check said bag daily in future! I went along to the other class' workshop so all was not lost. I also wished I had correctly identified her teacher and not marched past her!
I attended the Phonics Workshop at her school yesterday which was very interesting. The teachers explained how the teaching of phonics has changed and we were taught how to sound out the letters correctly. Sounds simple enough however there were some things I was not doing entirely correctly so it was useful.
I did have one issue with the whole phonics thing and that is the use of nonsense words. Children are presented with words that are made up to see how they cope with reading them. I first heard about the use of nonsense words, being used in phonics, through social networking because Michael Rosen campaigned against their use in the classroom. He has always been strongly opposed to phonics as a method of teaching to read and on some levels I agree but that is a whole new blog post so I will save it for another time...
So now Ella is at school am I getting more time to write? No, to be honest! When Amy (my 22month old) is asleep for a precious hour and a quarter I end up doing the social networking, marketing and very little writing. The fact that I am writing this blog is testament to that! Poor Anastasia is awaiting further instructions from me as she sits suspended in the middle of an adventure.
I am, however managing some time for my writing and am working on 'Anastasia and the Wild Irish Eyes' which is the 8th story in Series III and 28th Anastasia story in total! In Anastasia Series III, Anastasia is dealing with the dark world of human trafficking, forced marriages and the market for selling babies. Anastasia has a no nonsense approach hence advising Series III stories are for teens/young adults upwards. I like the way that with each Series you can follow Anastasia's journey as she grows up from a 9 year old to a now 15 year old and learn about her past and her future along the way.
So while Ella is enjoying her new school journey I am trying to maintain mine and ensure Anastasia continues hers! This weekend I promise to get my head down and write, write, write and write some more.
Here's to a fulfilling weekend and some kick ass action from the beautiful Anastasia. My girls' journeys have begun...
So, Ella's school journey. We've opted for the packed lunch approach which I am happy about. Staying for lunch commenced this week and each morning I have lovingly prepared a healthy, balanced lunch box for her. I think we'll switch to school lunches once it's colder. I was glad that we opted for packed lunches after the first day when I overheard one child tell her mum she had eaten spaghetti hoops and a slice of bread for her lunch. Cleverly the mum now writes down her selection from the menu to hand to one of the servers so she gets more balance! £2.10 per day is steep if all the child is eating is bread and spaghetti hoops! Although it's often difficult to get facts out of a 4year old!
I managed to embarrass myself slightly when I arrived to collect Ella on Tuesday. I was hearing all about the Phonics Workshop for the parents of children in her class. The parents were buzzing about how good it was, etc. I was not happy that I hadn't been informed about it and proceeded to march into her classroom, straight past one member of staff to ask why no one had told me. The woman, who I had assumed was her teacher but turned out to the teaching assistant, kindly advised me that a letter was placed in Ella's book bag telling parents all about it. She proceeded to open the book bag and present me with the letter. I felt a tad silly and promised I would check said bag daily in future! I went along to the other class' workshop so all was not lost. I also wished I had correctly identified her teacher and not marched past her!
I attended the Phonics Workshop at her school yesterday which was very interesting. The teachers explained how the teaching of phonics has changed and we were taught how to sound out the letters correctly. Sounds simple enough however there were some things I was not doing entirely correctly so it was useful.
I did have one issue with the whole phonics thing and that is the use of nonsense words. Children are presented with words that are made up to see how they cope with reading them. I first heard about the use of nonsense words, being used in phonics, through social networking because Michael Rosen campaigned against their use in the classroom. He has always been strongly opposed to phonics as a method of teaching to read and on some levels I agree but that is a whole new blog post so I will save it for another time...
So now Ella is at school am I getting more time to write? No, to be honest! When Amy (my 22month old) is asleep for a precious hour and a quarter I end up doing the social networking, marketing and very little writing. The fact that I am writing this blog is testament to that! Poor Anastasia is awaiting further instructions from me as she sits suspended in the middle of an adventure.
I am, however managing some time for my writing and am working on 'Anastasia and the Wild Irish Eyes' which is the 8th story in Series III and 28th Anastasia story in total! In Anastasia Series III, Anastasia is dealing with the dark world of human trafficking, forced marriages and the market for selling babies. Anastasia has a no nonsense approach hence advising Series III stories are for teens/young adults upwards. I like the way that with each Series you can follow Anastasia's journey as she grows up from a 9 year old to a now 15 year old and learn about her past and her future along the way.
So while Ella is enjoying her new school journey I am trying to maintain mine and ensure Anastasia continues hers! This weekend I promise to get my head down and write, write, write and write some more.
Here's to a fulfilling weekend and some kick ass action from the beautiful Anastasia. My girls' journeys have begun...
Published on September 21, 2012 06:59
September 10, 2012
The end of chapter... a new one has begun
I am writing with emotion, excitement and a whole host of other feelings today because my first born is starting school tomorrow. She is entering the world of primary school education and will spend a lot more of her day at school than at home... with me.
I think that's one of the strangest thoughts about it all. I won't be there to teach her right from wrong anymore, I won't be there to cuddle her if she gets upset or hurt, I wont be there to make sure she's ok and being a good girl, and I won't be there to nag her! I can only hope that I have done a good job so far in encouraging her to be confident, friendly, polite, kind and thoughtful, brave and ready to call for help if she needs it. Oh and to listen!
Yes, it is probably apparent that I have always been Ella's primary carer from what I've said so far. I am a stay at home mum of two girls who writes about Anastasia when I can. I think that's why it's so emotional because things will really change for both of us. I won't have a job to return to in an office somewhere so my days aren't that different; Ella's absence from home will be very noticeable to both me and little Amy. Although I am not suggesting that it is any less emotional for working mums so please don't misunderstand me!
Ella was always fine at preschool, well except for the time when a boy there gouged her head and she still bears the scars (thankfully he is not in her class at school) yet we got through that ok so I'm sure we'll cope but it is still a strange thought because it is no longer optional - she has to be educated. She will be educated alongside all sorts of other children brought up in all sorts of ways...
Ella is a sociable child and according to her preschool is 'ready to stand up for herself while being sensitive and kind to others'. So she takes no messing which is what I truly hope will always be the case. She is a thoughtful child but has always found children who... how can I put this... I guess I have never seen her laugh, and proper belly laugh, like she does when she is witnessing a naughty child. It is quite alarming when a friend's child goes on a rampage and she is rolling around the floor laughing like never before.
Jason's response: 'She's going to go for the bad boys I just know it'. Well let's hope not and there's plenty of time for that(!) but I hope that she doesn't find herself drawn to the entertainment of the unruly child because, let's face it, there's surely going to be one in her class! Let's hope it's not her!!
If she's like I was as a child then her adrenaline will kick in way too early and she will giggle uncontrollably despite the circumstances. For example, when I was around 11 years old and in my first year of High School, our PE teacher found a condom on one of the gym mats. Now I think everyone knew it was one of the sixth formers, because I saw her drop it as she walked through the gym hall. Everyone knew, it seemed, except said PE teacher, Miss 'C' (we'll call her for privacy reasons). So as she walked up and down the line of girls in my class (all girls school) I could not stop my giggles and really couldn't to the point of wanting to cry. I was snorting and shaking like a deranged madwoman. Quite how I didn't get the blame for it I still do not know! When she carried the condom between her index finger and thumb at arms length with her head as far back as possible as if it was poisonous, gesturing dramatically and shouting "stand back girls!", then pressing her foot on the pedal of the bin and dropping it in; I almost wet myself with hysteria.
It sounds so silly but that is the problem: it's those silly things that make you react as a child. I have more control of my emotions (sometimes) now I'm more mature (don't say it!) but I guess I was always waiting for some excitement and would react excessively to the things that I shouldn't. Is Ella going to be the same? I guess time will tell but I won't get to witness those moments while she is at school and how I would love to be a fly on the wall.
Some of my memories from primary school are that I was always running around and not looking where I was going and ending up with grazed knees, nose bleeds and a bumped head. I remember my first school Sport's Day and my hair getting caught in the zip of my dress and I cried and cried. I remember making my first clay model of an animal and I chose a rhino. The next day I ran in excitedly to see it dried and ready to take home but I was left devastated to see a squashed, hard mass of dried clay because some child decided to flatten my perfect rhino (well it was to me!) with their fist and no one noticed. I remember showing the boys my knickers (I was not alone I assure you and have ceased that particular pastime!) and I remember never being kissed in kiss tag. "I'll let you off" the boys would say!
Jason recalls drawing the biggest egg he could possibly fit onto the page and the teacher saying to him in dismay, "Why have you drawn a giant egg?" To which he replied, "I thought you said to draw a big egg." The teacher shook her head and said, "No, I asked you to draw a big 'a'!" We are learning all the time without realising and, yes, sometimes we hear what we want to!
I guess when I wrote in my blog 'The Power of Emotion' I was touching upon how we teach our children that emotions are normal and how we try to help our children to understand how to handle them. I now realise that it is all going to be taken away from me and Ella is beginning her journey to learn about them all on her own during those school hours. Hopefully she will learn some other knowledge along the way too!
So while we've all been there on our own starting school journeys, it is my first time with my first child, and her first time too, and I know I am not alone with how I'm feeling. Good luck to all the children starting out on their own journeys. Listen, learn, laugh and enjoy those precious school years because once you leave the hard work really begins ;)
The journey has begun...
I think that's one of the strangest thoughts about it all. I won't be there to teach her right from wrong anymore, I won't be there to cuddle her if she gets upset or hurt, I wont be there to make sure she's ok and being a good girl, and I won't be there to nag her! I can only hope that I have done a good job so far in encouraging her to be confident, friendly, polite, kind and thoughtful, brave and ready to call for help if she needs it. Oh and to listen!
Yes, it is probably apparent that I have always been Ella's primary carer from what I've said so far. I am a stay at home mum of two girls who writes about Anastasia when I can. I think that's why it's so emotional because things will really change for both of us. I won't have a job to return to in an office somewhere so my days aren't that different; Ella's absence from home will be very noticeable to both me and little Amy. Although I am not suggesting that it is any less emotional for working mums so please don't misunderstand me!
Ella was always fine at preschool, well except for the time when a boy there gouged her head and she still bears the scars (thankfully he is not in her class at school) yet we got through that ok so I'm sure we'll cope but it is still a strange thought because it is no longer optional - she has to be educated. She will be educated alongside all sorts of other children brought up in all sorts of ways...
Ella is a sociable child and according to her preschool is 'ready to stand up for herself while being sensitive and kind to others'. So she takes no messing which is what I truly hope will always be the case. She is a thoughtful child but has always found children who... how can I put this... I guess I have never seen her laugh, and proper belly laugh, like she does when she is witnessing a naughty child. It is quite alarming when a friend's child goes on a rampage and she is rolling around the floor laughing like never before.
Jason's response: 'She's going to go for the bad boys I just know it'. Well let's hope not and there's plenty of time for that(!) but I hope that she doesn't find herself drawn to the entertainment of the unruly child because, let's face it, there's surely going to be one in her class! Let's hope it's not her!!
If she's like I was as a child then her adrenaline will kick in way too early and she will giggle uncontrollably despite the circumstances. For example, when I was around 11 years old and in my first year of High School, our PE teacher found a condom on one of the gym mats. Now I think everyone knew it was one of the sixth formers, because I saw her drop it as she walked through the gym hall. Everyone knew, it seemed, except said PE teacher, Miss 'C' (we'll call her for privacy reasons). So as she walked up and down the line of girls in my class (all girls school) I could not stop my giggles and really couldn't to the point of wanting to cry. I was snorting and shaking like a deranged madwoman. Quite how I didn't get the blame for it I still do not know! When she carried the condom between her index finger and thumb at arms length with her head as far back as possible as if it was poisonous, gesturing dramatically and shouting "stand back girls!", then pressing her foot on the pedal of the bin and dropping it in; I almost wet myself with hysteria.
It sounds so silly but that is the problem: it's those silly things that make you react as a child. I have more control of my emotions (sometimes) now I'm more mature (don't say it!) but I guess I was always waiting for some excitement and would react excessively to the things that I shouldn't. Is Ella going to be the same? I guess time will tell but I won't get to witness those moments while she is at school and how I would love to be a fly on the wall.
Some of my memories from primary school are that I was always running around and not looking where I was going and ending up with grazed knees, nose bleeds and a bumped head. I remember my first school Sport's Day and my hair getting caught in the zip of my dress and I cried and cried. I remember making my first clay model of an animal and I chose a rhino. The next day I ran in excitedly to see it dried and ready to take home but I was left devastated to see a squashed, hard mass of dried clay because some child decided to flatten my perfect rhino (well it was to me!) with their fist and no one noticed. I remember showing the boys my knickers (I was not alone I assure you and have ceased that particular pastime!) and I remember never being kissed in kiss tag. "I'll let you off" the boys would say!
Jason recalls drawing the biggest egg he could possibly fit onto the page and the teacher saying to him in dismay, "Why have you drawn a giant egg?" To which he replied, "I thought you said to draw a big egg." The teacher shook her head and said, "No, I asked you to draw a big 'a'!" We are learning all the time without realising and, yes, sometimes we hear what we want to!
I guess when I wrote in my blog 'The Power of Emotion' I was touching upon how we teach our children that emotions are normal and how we try to help our children to understand how to handle them. I now realise that it is all going to be taken away from me and Ella is beginning her journey to learn about them all on her own during those school hours. Hopefully she will learn some other knowledge along the way too!
So while we've all been there on our own starting school journeys, it is my first time with my first child, and her first time too, and I know I am not alone with how I'm feeling. Good luck to all the children starting out on their own journeys. Listen, learn, laugh and enjoy those precious school years because once you leave the hard work really begins ;)
The journey has begun...
Published on September 10, 2012 11:32
September 7, 2012
Fergus writes... another guest blog
Sandy writes from England to say how much she cried at the end of Anastasia-Where Eagles Dare.
Sandy was so delighted that Anastasia had closure in the end and knew how much her mother loved her and anticipated Anastasia finding the Album. Sandy points out that it was so important for mothers to have closure on their sons who were killed in Vietnam.
We now all know the full story of Anastasia’s origins and future. Sandy asks what now for Anastasia? Well she has a health issue with her haemophilia which will never go away. It is controlled not cured.
Anastasia is taking a break with her aunt Judith and brother John and is going to Ireland for a well earned rest.
Sandy asks about John Windsor formally based with the 101st Airborne out of Fort Campbell, Kentucky, 5th Special Forces Unit and more lately out of Fort Bragg North Carolina.
John Windsor like so many Special Forces found it very difficult to adjust to Civilian Life. The job of a Green Beret is to kill people. That is what they are trained for. It is impossible to turn it on and off like a light switch.
Children of Special Forces worldwide know not to act like other children. Never to surprise their father or jump on the back of this Automated Killer. They acted Automatically.
We deal with the relationship between brother and sister with a large age gap. John has missed having a little sister and the little sister has missed having an older brother.
Sandy asks about Barry Sadler. He was a Staff Sergeant in the Green Berets who wrote and sang “The Ballard of the Green Beret”. Unfortunately Barry Sadler was severely wounded in the Western Highlands Vietnam receiving the Purple Heart. His song Ballard of the Green Beret was top of the Charts for five weeks and in German was recorded under the title Hundret Mann und ein Befehl by Freddy Quinn and later Heidi Bruht. The Song has been adapted by many armies in many countries and adopted.
Barry Sadler was assassinated in Tennessee in 1989.
However, I must point out that this series is about Anastasia, not her brother John Windsor.
Anastasia is deeply concerned about the welfare of children, particularly disabled children, who in 2012 still suffer greatly. There is a thriving International Business in baby trafficking. Every time a childless couple accept a child from an impoverished country they are fuelling the trade.
Let’s face it. People only steal children because there is a market for them!
It is very difficult to say to childless couples, desperate for a baby, don’t accept the baby as the baby will very probably have been kidnapped at the other end of the chain.
Like all teenage girls Anastasia is horse mad and is off to the Fairyhouse Sales outside Dublin to take a look at the horses on offer.
Sandy says she has wept bucket loads of tears over Anastasia but cannot wait for more.
Anastasia is an inspiration to all teenagers suffering from a disability or illness and tries to draw a line between right and wrong. She holds it is always better to negotiate rather than kill but some people are just so bad that the only way is to put the mad dog down.
Sandy asks about Charlotte. Fear not she is still about, and old Mr Saggers and Ilya and Olga and of course Aunt Judith. The Hurley Gurley man Mr Stevens, has unfortunately died but he is never forgotten.
Fergus Wilson
Published on September 07, 2012 00:18
September 4, 2012
From one blogger to another - RIP Lesley Froud 16/8/73-29/8/2012
I follow one blog on my blog page and that is One in a Million by Lesley Froud (neé Royer). Inspirational writing written by an amazing individual. Sadly Lesley lost her fight recently with a very rare illness (hence the name of her blog), Hemophagocytic Syndrome, freeing her soul so she feels no more pain, experiences no further suffering and can experience peace once more.
If the story of Lesley's life was a film you would find yourself laughing out loud, crying copiously and sighing at the injustice of why so many true angels get taken away from us. She brought so much fun to the lives of those who knew her and I have some great memories from times when we went out together.
Whether this is inappropriate or not I want to tell one story I remember as if it was yesterday. Lesley and I decided to have a girly night out in Cheltenham and donned our summer dresses (not maxi in those days!) and off we trotted. We were about 20 years old. We went into one of the classier joints (or so we thought) and stood at the bar with our drinks. Mine in those days possibly Bacardi and coke and I wish I could remember Lesley's but I can't...
So we chatted and were about to look for a table when I looked down and to my utter disbelief I saw a man lying on the floor, face up, looking up Lesley's dress! I nudged her "Lesley, look!" Instinctively I grabbed my brand new drink and poured the whole lot on his face. Lesley was so gracious and simply stepped away quietly.
The landlord was sat at the end of the bar and simply said "what will it be ladies?" and replaced our drinks. The man on the floor had to flee with his tail between his legs.
It makes me laugh because of the landlord's reaction and how calm Lesley was - some women would have gone loopy and caused a huge scene but she was a good judge of situations and there are many I could mention as they are all flooding back.
Lesley was 'cool' if that word is still appropriate. She was effortlessly cool and liked things she liked. She wasn't a slave to everything others were yet her individuality and the things she liked made her even cooler. She was a free spirit and always in a good mood which is why she was so appealing to so many people as a friend. She had a great artistic flair and talent.
Lesley was one of my first friends at high school. When we started Colwell Grammar School for Girls it was quite overwhelming. She was a petite little thing and always had that elven beauty. She was quiet and nice (as I was in those days!) and I welcomed a friendly face and genuine person to be friends with.
Somehow we drifted apart as friends (as you do at high school) but we met up again when we worked at the Bank of England and became friends once more. That was when the bar incident occurred! I remember how people were drawn to Lesley and there were always people who wanted to be around her. She had a true presence.
I just wish we had had more conversations on Facebook but it's typical isn't it.... you never really appreciate something or someone until you lose them.
I know there are many people that will always love Lesley and my heart is warmed that she will never be forgotten. Her blog must have taken some writing with her illness and yet she always tried to keep everyone updated because she knew they were miles away. I loved reading her blogs and even if they made me weep at her situation, or laugh at her funnier posts on her blog and Facebook, I was always heartened by the fact that she still had that fight to write it.
She truly pushed herself to her absolute limit and I have so much respect for Lesley that there are no words to describe it. She clearly adored her son and her husband and looked beautiful, happy and serene on her wedding day. Such precious moments...
God bless Lesley and RIP. Great friend, beautiful wife of Greg and amazing mother of Ripley. You will be missed and never forgotten. I look forward to seeing you again one day. xxx
If the story of Lesley's life was a film you would find yourself laughing out loud, crying copiously and sighing at the injustice of why so many true angels get taken away from us. She brought so much fun to the lives of those who knew her and I have some great memories from times when we went out together.
Whether this is inappropriate or not I want to tell one story I remember as if it was yesterday. Lesley and I decided to have a girly night out in Cheltenham and donned our summer dresses (not maxi in those days!) and off we trotted. We were about 20 years old. We went into one of the classier joints (or so we thought) and stood at the bar with our drinks. Mine in those days possibly Bacardi and coke and I wish I could remember Lesley's but I can't...
So we chatted and were about to look for a table when I looked down and to my utter disbelief I saw a man lying on the floor, face up, looking up Lesley's dress! I nudged her "Lesley, look!" Instinctively I grabbed my brand new drink and poured the whole lot on his face. Lesley was so gracious and simply stepped away quietly.
The landlord was sat at the end of the bar and simply said "what will it be ladies?" and replaced our drinks. The man on the floor had to flee with his tail between his legs.
It makes me laugh because of the landlord's reaction and how calm Lesley was - some women would have gone loopy and caused a huge scene but she was a good judge of situations and there are many I could mention as they are all flooding back.
Lesley was 'cool' if that word is still appropriate. She was effortlessly cool and liked things she liked. She wasn't a slave to everything others were yet her individuality and the things she liked made her even cooler. She was a free spirit and always in a good mood which is why she was so appealing to so many people as a friend. She had a great artistic flair and talent.
Lesley was one of my first friends at high school. When we started Colwell Grammar School for Girls it was quite overwhelming. She was a petite little thing and always had that elven beauty. She was quiet and nice (as I was in those days!) and I welcomed a friendly face and genuine person to be friends with.
Somehow we drifted apart as friends (as you do at high school) but we met up again when we worked at the Bank of England and became friends once more. That was when the bar incident occurred! I remember how people were drawn to Lesley and there were always people who wanted to be around her. She had a true presence.
I just wish we had had more conversations on Facebook but it's typical isn't it.... you never really appreciate something or someone until you lose them.
I know there are many people that will always love Lesley and my heart is warmed that she will never be forgotten. Her blog must have taken some writing with her illness and yet she always tried to keep everyone updated because she knew they were miles away. I loved reading her blogs and even if they made me weep at her situation, or laugh at her funnier posts on her blog and Facebook, I was always heartened by the fact that she still had that fight to write it.
She truly pushed herself to her absolute limit and I have so much respect for Lesley that there are no words to describe it. She clearly adored her son and her husband and looked beautiful, happy and serene on her wedding day. Such precious moments...
God bless Lesley and RIP. Great friend, beautiful wife of Greg and amazing mother of Ripley. You will be missed and never forgotten. I look forward to seeing you again one day. xxx
Published on September 04, 2012 12:09
August 24, 2012
Sharing the joy
I have decided to run another free ebook promotion to mark my first Royalty payment from Amazon! Yes it's very exciting to receive that email confirming that payment of royalties for my ebooks has been deposited into my bank account.
It might sound odd but I had forgotten that this would happen at some point. I have been so busy keeping the girl's amused during the long school holidays and busy trying to keep up with marketing of ebooks, etc and enjoying the whole process of being a self published author that I forgot that I may be accruing royalties from downloads!
So I am going to share the joy and have made Anastasia Series II Omnibus free until end of Tuesday 28th August!
This Omnibus has all 12 short stories from Anastasia Series II where Anastasia is an established detective solving crimes and mysteries on horseback in the beautiful Kent countryside. With each story we learn more about who she really is while Anastasia and her great friend Charlotte get the job done with a little help from an array of interesting friends and characters.
I loved writing these stories and I really hope you all enjoy reading them. Reviews are very welcome so please leave a review if you enjoy the stories. No Kindle needed as you can download a free reading app from the Kindle Store so you can read the stories on your iphone, ipad, pc, etc.
Join Anastasia on her journey...
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0090P1K5U UK
www.amazon.com/dp/B0090P1K5U USA & India
www.amazon.de/dp/B0090P1K5U Germany
www.amazon.es/dp/B0090P1K5U Spain
www.amazon.fr/dp/B0090P1K5U France
www.amazon.it/dp/B0090P1K5U Italy
It might sound odd but I had forgotten that this would happen at some point. I have been so busy keeping the girl's amused during the long school holidays and busy trying to keep up with marketing of ebooks, etc and enjoying the whole process of being a self published author that I forgot that I may be accruing royalties from downloads!
So I am going to share the joy and have made Anastasia Series II Omnibus free until end of Tuesday 28th August!
This Omnibus has all 12 short stories from Anastasia Series II where Anastasia is an established detective solving crimes and mysteries on horseback in the beautiful Kent countryside. With each story we learn more about who she really is while Anastasia and her great friend Charlotte get the job done with a little help from an array of interesting friends and characters.
I loved writing these stories and I really hope you all enjoy reading them. Reviews are very welcome so please leave a review if you enjoy the stories. No Kindle needed as you can download a free reading app from the Kindle Store so you can read the stories on your iphone, ipad, pc, etc.
Join Anastasia on her journey...
www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0090P1K5U UK
www.amazon.com/dp/B0090P1K5U USA & India
www.amazon.de/dp/B0090P1K5U Germany
www.amazon.es/dp/B0090P1K5U Spain
www.amazon.fr/dp/B0090P1K5U France
www.amazon.it/dp/B0090P1K5U Italy
Published on August 24, 2012 05:43
August 22, 2012
Fergus writes... and I comment!
"To really understand the Journey of Anastasia you really need to read Anastasia – Where Eagles Dare. I will say no more than that at this stage as Rachael has not finished it yet.Yes I am lucky because I know what is going to happen and you, dear reader, have to wait. Believe me it is worth waiting for. It will be Rachael Phillips' best to date. She gets better with every book.The type of book Rachael has written has been well thought out and is the first of its kind. It is a dynamic, fast moving, action detective adventure.It is not Miss Marple or the Famous Five. Miss Marple would be too slow for most children and it has to be fast moving and set in 2012. Anastasia is every Adolescent boy’s dream. She is lightening quick, beautiful, tall, slim with a pony tail.She is the daughter of every mother who reads the books and all have their number one concern as to Anastasia’s welfare and health. Many say it is breaking their hearts to read of her struggles with Haemophilia.For horse mad girls it is the next stage forward after the Kent Junior Mounted Police and follows Anastasia into her teenage years.The surprising element in her followers are adult men most of whom have served in the Forces either conventional or Special Ops. They all say they like the way Rachael writes the books in a way that touches on operational details without giving the detail of a Tiger Tank Manual which is what you always get from male writers. Rachael does not bog you down with details or specifications.So many have commented on Rachael’s research and detailed knowledge of Special Ops methods. Some ask how she knows specific Special Forces call signs such as Broken Arrow which should only ever be used in the utmost emergency.How does she know the geography of American Units in the European Theatre? Where did she learn how to shoot like that? Above the head of female hostages to target the male behind with one shot.Where did she find Laszlo and Zoltan from. Are they based on actual Foreign Legion members? Are they that deadly yet have a heart of Gold? What of Joe and John? They are two men who will never forget the trauma of Cambodia and Vietnam and what of their German American background? Well that is another story.Anastasia has no tattoo. Why do Special Service Operatives have a tattoo under their armpit? It is very simple. It is their blood group in case they are shot. In the field there is no laboratory to match. You need to have a solution immediately.Some ex military men say Anastasia is a well oiled and highly tuned Nemesis Operative. They all say they love Series III and are unanimous on one thing. They all say they wish Anastasia was their daughter and are most paternal in their support of her.Anastasia has reached all ages and I am certain she will make it to the movie screen.One thing all the men say is just how much they are revolted by the practise of stealing children and forced marriages and what a good job Rachael Phillips is doing to keep the matter in the Public Eye.Well done Rachael! Fergus Wilson"
I have to comment on this because Fergus has been a great inspiration to me. What started as a project to write about a girl and her horses began to take shape as my imagination went wild and then so did Fergus' as he began to input more with his knowledge of history and Special Ops. He knows so many things that I wish I could include it all in the stories and then some!I think for me I want to express the values of co-writing because together we seem to create stories that are exciting and that we both enjoy hugely! As do the many readers who express their passion for our Anastasia stories.While I research and am thorough about the facts I include in the stories the military knowledge is definitely from Fergus and some of the interesting and often strange characters in the stories? Well let's say Fergus knows and has known many interesting people. In honesty Anastasia and her great friend Charlotte in the first stories are both borne from aspects of my character (yes I know! - I am so afraid of the dark!)The characters and how they develop is borne from how I wrote the stories and the effect it had on Fergus I guess. Where he has inspired me I like to think that I too have inspired him to make the characters and stories bigger and better with every one.I never envisaged that Anastasia would grow so much and become so loved, not just by the co-authors, but by her huge following worldwide.If you don't understand how a character can impact on people's lives then you clearly haven't read the stories. Written with hard work, passion, knowledge and lots of love... the journey has begun. Rachael Phillips
I have to comment on this because Fergus has been a great inspiration to me. What started as a project to write about a girl and her horses began to take shape as my imagination went wild and then so did Fergus' as he began to input more with his knowledge of history and Special Ops. He knows so many things that I wish I could include it all in the stories and then some!I think for me I want to express the values of co-writing because together we seem to create stories that are exciting and that we both enjoy hugely! As do the many readers who express their passion for our Anastasia stories.While I research and am thorough about the facts I include in the stories the military knowledge is definitely from Fergus and some of the interesting and often strange characters in the stories? Well let's say Fergus knows and has known many interesting people. In honesty Anastasia and her great friend Charlotte in the first stories are both borne from aspects of my character (yes I know! - I am so afraid of the dark!)The characters and how they develop is borne from how I wrote the stories and the effect it had on Fergus I guess. Where he has inspired me I like to think that I too have inspired him to make the characters and stories bigger and better with every one.I never envisaged that Anastasia would grow so much and become so loved, not just by the co-authors, but by her huge following worldwide.If you don't understand how a character can impact on people's lives then you clearly haven't read the stories. Written with hard work, passion, knowledge and lots of love... the journey has begun. Rachael Phillips
Published on August 22, 2012 13:07
August 14, 2012
The power of emotion
I have to admit to sometimes assuming that people who read my blog know me but it is clear from the number of readers and the locations of the readers that not everyone reading my blog does know me. I have had an emotional day from reading a blog post by Jason Manford and decided to share... It evoked emotions in me that had long been put away and also feelings of anger that there are still so many ignorant people in the world.
It has been an emotional time lately what with the low of finding out my Dad has cancer, the highs of the Olympics, the low of poor Tia Sharp's life being taken away at just twelve years old... the list could go on. I am not looking for sympathy but the power of emotion particularly hit me this evening when my four year old daughter sat silently as the end credits rolled for Disney's 'Enchanted'.
I could sense something was wrong and I approached her and asked if she enjoyed the film. She immediately began to cry, sobbing and huge tears falling from her eyes. It broke my heart to see her in so much pain and after lots of cuddles she confirmed she was so happy she couldn't stop crying. While I cuddled her I had glimpses of the future: the pain of 'breaking friends' at school, the hurtful comments that will come from other children and the first time a boy breaks her heart. Yes I know it's all premature but the power of seeing a child distressed, especially when it is your child, is hard to take. It's part of being a mum. I tried to explain why she shed so many tears for something that should have made her smile and explain that it is a normal reaction.
I realised I have always reacted emotionally to hearing of babies and children being neglected, abused and mistreated. When I was growing up I sobbed to news reports of the starving children in Ethiopia then as a teenager I sobbed to news reports of neglected children in Romania and the images of babies banging their heads on cot bars haunts me to this day. Other stories of children being taken, abused and murdered affect me so massively I fight to keep them from my mind.
I am beginning to think it is no coincidence that in my stories Anastasia is fighting to ensure crimes against the most vulnerable in our society are stopped. If only there was more empathy in the world.
You forget that emotions are something that you have to learn to live with and deal with. My daughter made me realise that she is learning every day and she is going to have to face some harsh things in her life and learn to cope with her emotional reaction to them.
I sometimes think I am fortunate to be surrounded by like minded people who are not ignorant to the plights of others however I recalled an incident when someone I had faith in let me down and this was brought to mind after reading Jason Manford's blog post about the comments he had about Gary Barlow's decision to perform at the Olympics Closing Ceremony after suffering his own trauma of losing a long awaited child. I cannot go into more details because it is too personal and potentially detrimental.
Many people have been affected by the very things they read others have been through and the power of emotions evoked is extraordinary. When you see a small child react to an innocent film so powerfully and knowing that I can help her understand why we experience these emotions makes me wonder even more why anyone would have bad thoughts about those that are truly suffering. Clearly they have never been shown how to handle their own, very powerful, emotions.
Is it any wonder that we live in a society where children are robbing from children, children are acting so violently and shrugging as if it's because society owes them something, children are being treated so awfully because there are those who should never be parents and are raising said children to be just like them.
The power of emotion will endure and I can only hope that most parents have been guided on their emotional journeys from a young age so they can empathise with others when it is most needed and teach their children to 'do unto others...'. That is how I was raised and it had a profound effect on me and stays with me always.
Please don't make light of the plight of others unless you can be sure you would be able to stand there and accept those jokes and throw away comments if they were about traumas you have had to endure.
We have one life; is it asking too much to offer a hand of support to those that are suffering even if it is only in thought and being thoughtful enough not to trivialise their plight? Everyone has their own journey and all too often it is marred with trauma and loss. The power of emotion can consume us but it can also make us better people.
So when I read about the thoughtless comments from people about a man they don't truly know, and how he has dealt with his tragedy, it upset me to the core. I for one am impressed by a man that can make sure the show goes on because he has committed to it and I have no doubt his wife insisted he do it. For the fools who feel they can judge - let's pray you never have to experience the true emotion that is the loss of a child. One of my coping mechanisms in dealing with my Dad's illness is to listen to music and to write how I feel. So if a singer/songwriter decides he wants to go out and sing then I applaud him and I do it with a standing ovation.
Never underestimate the power of emotion and never criticise how others deal with it unless you have experienced the pain yourself. As individuals we are on a constant emotional, learning journey but as parents we are there to guide. Never underestimate the power of emotion...
It has been an emotional time lately what with the low of finding out my Dad has cancer, the highs of the Olympics, the low of poor Tia Sharp's life being taken away at just twelve years old... the list could go on. I am not looking for sympathy but the power of emotion particularly hit me this evening when my four year old daughter sat silently as the end credits rolled for Disney's 'Enchanted'.
I could sense something was wrong and I approached her and asked if she enjoyed the film. She immediately began to cry, sobbing and huge tears falling from her eyes. It broke my heart to see her in so much pain and after lots of cuddles she confirmed she was so happy she couldn't stop crying. While I cuddled her I had glimpses of the future: the pain of 'breaking friends' at school, the hurtful comments that will come from other children and the first time a boy breaks her heart. Yes I know it's all premature but the power of seeing a child distressed, especially when it is your child, is hard to take. It's part of being a mum. I tried to explain why she shed so many tears for something that should have made her smile and explain that it is a normal reaction.
I realised I have always reacted emotionally to hearing of babies and children being neglected, abused and mistreated. When I was growing up I sobbed to news reports of the starving children in Ethiopia then as a teenager I sobbed to news reports of neglected children in Romania and the images of babies banging their heads on cot bars haunts me to this day. Other stories of children being taken, abused and murdered affect me so massively I fight to keep them from my mind.
I am beginning to think it is no coincidence that in my stories Anastasia is fighting to ensure crimes against the most vulnerable in our society are stopped. If only there was more empathy in the world.
You forget that emotions are something that you have to learn to live with and deal with. My daughter made me realise that she is learning every day and she is going to have to face some harsh things in her life and learn to cope with her emotional reaction to them.
I sometimes think I am fortunate to be surrounded by like minded people who are not ignorant to the plights of others however I recalled an incident when someone I had faith in let me down and this was brought to mind after reading Jason Manford's blog post about the comments he had about Gary Barlow's decision to perform at the Olympics Closing Ceremony after suffering his own trauma of losing a long awaited child. I cannot go into more details because it is too personal and potentially detrimental.
Many people have been affected by the very things they read others have been through and the power of emotions evoked is extraordinary. When you see a small child react to an innocent film so powerfully and knowing that I can help her understand why we experience these emotions makes me wonder even more why anyone would have bad thoughts about those that are truly suffering. Clearly they have never been shown how to handle their own, very powerful, emotions.
Is it any wonder that we live in a society where children are robbing from children, children are acting so violently and shrugging as if it's because society owes them something, children are being treated so awfully because there are those who should never be parents and are raising said children to be just like them.
The power of emotion will endure and I can only hope that most parents have been guided on their emotional journeys from a young age so they can empathise with others when it is most needed and teach their children to 'do unto others...'. That is how I was raised and it had a profound effect on me and stays with me always.
Please don't make light of the plight of others unless you can be sure you would be able to stand there and accept those jokes and throw away comments if they were about traumas you have had to endure.
We have one life; is it asking too much to offer a hand of support to those that are suffering even if it is only in thought and being thoughtful enough not to trivialise their plight? Everyone has their own journey and all too often it is marred with trauma and loss. The power of emotion can consume us but it can also make us better people.
So when I read about the thoughtless comments from people about a man they don't truly know, and how he has dealt with his tragedy, it upset me to the core. I for one am impressed by a man that can make sure the show goes on because he has committed to it and I have no doubt his wife insisted he do it. For the fools who feel they can judge - let's pray you never have to experience the true emotion that is the loss of a child. One of my coping mechanisms in dealing with my Dad's illness is to listen to music and to write how I feel. So if a singer/songwriter decides he wants to go out and sing then I applaud him and I do it with a standing ovation.
Never underestimate the power of emotion and never criticise how others deal with it unless you have experienced the pain yourself. As individuals we are on a constant emotional, learning journey but as parents we are there to guide. Never underestimate the power of emotion...
Published on August 14, 2012 13:49