V.M. Roberts's Blog, page 2
October 18, 2023
Maternal Talent
I'm usually unsure of my blog topic from one month to the next. This one came to me suddenly while texting my family one morning. I routinely text them at least once a week (days differ) to say 'hi' to let them know I'm thinking of them. I love my family, and I want them to know it.
Thus, this article is about my maternal first cousins (and their offspring) and my siblings. Hold on, and please bear with me. Organizing what I want to say is not easy. The words are in my head, running around screaming to get out. I'm going to do my best not to confuse you.
Lawson is my maternal grandfather. My mother was the last live-born child of his 4th wife. Hence, the main focus of this article pertains to my first cousins (and my siblings) from my grandmother Elsie's lineage.
Lawson Franklin Foreman (Maternal Grandfather)
Wife #1 Sara (9 Children)
Wife #2 Daisy (8 Children)
Wife #3 Irma (3 Children)
Wife #4 Elsie (6 Children)
Although I had the privilege of knowing some of my mother’s sisters and brothers, I was too young to know them and their children fully as a child. I have become acquainted with their great-grands and great-great-grands. Can you imagine how long this article would be if I explored all the gifted talents of my extended family?
The children of my grandfather's wives are no longer living. My generation now carries on the Foreman name. If my ancestors were living, oh, how proud they would be of their offspring. Considering when my ancestors lived, they didn't have the freedom and opportunity to develop and hone their talents. I'm sure they were quite talented in their own right.
But those talents probably remained hidden. The social environment and culture were not one for openly displaying talents and skills if they did not involve using them for the betterment of said suppressors. Suppression of African Americans was the norm, let alone openly expressing their natural talents.
Talent is set apart from knowledge in that it is not a learned behavior. A talent is something an individual is instinctively born with.
According to the Bible, we're all born with distinct talents and gifts that set us apart from each other. It is through talents that we can find our unique calling in life to serve others. My family serves others well with their unique talents and is worthy of this shout-out.
My family's gifts are absolutely invaluable. Anyone can have a gift and not use it. However, I've seen over and over how dedicated my family is to using their skills to help others - uplifting people, mentoring, being a comfort, listening, and encouraging.
Their talents range from music to drawing, writing, culinary, health care, and social services. If anyone is omitted, it's not intentional. I tried to capture as many as possible.
My First Cousins
TJ is no longer with us. He was our family songbird. (Continue to RIP. We love and miss you.)
Vernest, another singer. Whew! To hear her sing is angelic.
Joy is gifted with artistic talent. Draw on cousin!
Lawrence. Watch out when he sits down at a piano or organ. He'll have you shouting for days. He's one bad dude!
Karen is a nurse. Empathy and compassion are at the forefront of this profession. Thank you, Karen, for sharing your talent with those who cannot care for themselves.
Tonion. Her sweet, melodic voice is soothing and comforting.
George, Jr. and Mike served in the military. Thank you for your service, cousins. What is this if it's not caring for others? Serving your country is the ultimate display of service to others.
George, Jr., and Brian are gifted pastors. A pastor must be humble, hospitable, gentle, peaceful, patient, gracious, empathetic, and nonjudgmental. I could go on forever, but you get the picture. Continue to serve God, cousins. The calling is well-suited for you.
Marcel. Her voice is strong and commanding.
Hope is no longer with us (Continue to RIP. We love and miss you). She was a gifted teacher by profession, and writing was her hobby. She became a published author.
Deborah (my sister) was a singer. I didn't know she could sing until I heard her sing in Grandma Elsie's church one day. (Continue to RIP. We love and miss you).
Mable (my sister). Another singer. Her voice is soft and enchanting. She serve her country as well. Thank you for your service, Mable.
Offsprings and Cousins Lineage
Elijah (TJ) is an author.
Tatiana (Tonion) sings. She sang at my wedding, Open My Heart (Yolanda Adams). She did her thing! Whew!
Olivia (Marcel). Her Strawberry Short Cake and Coconut Cake. Bake on, Libby! Bake on! I can't begin to tell you about her baking talents. Those cupcakes! Yummy!
Darryl's (Marva) is a baker. Delicious cakes!
GeAld (Marva) is an artist.
Terricita (Sara-Wife #1 (Melinda). An actress is born. Suffolk's own, Terricita has graced the screen in Mama's Hands and No Weapons Shall Prosper.
Eboni (my niece) is an awesome artist, who is creates wonderful tattoos.
Timarah (my niece) is on the road to becoming a successful singer.
I love and appreciate you all. Keep doing what you're doing, even if you take a break. I know it's only for a short while because that amazing talent is not going anywhere.
V.M. Roberts
I salute you, from my heart to yours.
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
Thus, this article is about my maternal first cousins (and their offspring) and my siblings. Hold on, and please bear with me. Organizing what I want to say is not easy. The words are in my head, running around screaming to get out. I'm going to do my best not to confuse you.
Lawson is my maternal grandfather. My mother was the last live-born child of his 4th wife. Hence, the main focus of this article pertains to my first cousins (and my siblings) from my grandmother Elsie's lineage.
Lawson Franklin Foreman (Maternal Grandfather)
Wife #1 Sara (9 Children)
Wife #2 Daisy (8 Children)
Wife #3 Irma (3 Children)
Wife #4 Elsie (6 Children)
Although I had the privilege of knowing some of my mother’s sisters and brothers, I was too young to know them and their children fully as a child. I have become acquainted with their great-grands and great-great-grands. Can you imagine how long this article would be if I explored all the gifted talents of my extended family?
The children of my grandfather's wives are no longer living. My generation now carries on the Foreman name. If my ancestors were living, oh, how proud they would be of their offspring. Considering when my ancestors lived, they didn't have the freedom and opportunity to develop and hone their talents. I'm sure they were quite talented in their own right.
But those talents probably remained hidden. The social environment and culture were not one for openly displaying talents and skills if they did not involve using them for the betterment of said suppressors. Suppression of African Americans was the norm, let alone openly expressing their natural talents.
Talent is set apart from knowledge in that it is not a learned behavior. A talent is something an individual is instinctively born with.
According to the Bible, we're all born with distinct talents and gifts that set us apart from each other. It is through talents that we can find our unique calling in life to serve others. My family serves others well with their unique talents and is worthy of this shout-out.
My family's gifts are absolutely invaluable. Anyone can have a gift and not use it. However, I've seen over and over how dedicated my family is to using their skills to help others - uplifting people, mentoring, being a comfort, listening, and encouraging.
Their talents range from music to drawing, writing, culinary, health care, and social services. If anyone is omitted, it's not intentional. I tried to capture as many as possible.
My First Cousins
TJ is no longer with us. He was our family songbird. (Continue to RIP. We love and miss you.)
Vernest, another singer. Whew! To hear her sing is angelic.
Joy is gifted with artistic talent. Draw on cousin!
Lawrence. Watch out when he sits down at a piano or organ. He'll have you shouting for days. He's one bad dude!
Karen is a nurse. Empathy and compassion are at the forefront of this profession. Thank you, Karen, for sharing your talent with those who cannot care for themselves.
Tonion. Her sweet, melodic voice is soothing and comforting.
George, Jr. and Mike served in the military. Thank you for your service, cousins. What is this if it's not caring for others? Serving your country is the ultimate display of service to others.
George, Jr., and Brian are gifted pastors. A pastor must be humble, hospitable, gentle, peaceful, patient, gracious, empathetic, and nonjudgmental. I could go on forever, but you get the picture. Continue to serve God, cousins. The calling is well-suited for you.
Marcel. Her voice is strong and commanding.
Hope is no longer with us (Continue to RIP. We love and miss you). She was a gifted teacher by profession, and writing was her hobby. She became a published author.
Deborah (my sister) was a singer. I didn't know she could sing until I heard her sing in Grandma Elsie's church one day. (Continue to RIP. We love and miss you).
Mable (my sister). Another singer. Her voice is soft and enchanting. She serve her country as well. Thank you for your service, Mable.
Offsprings and Cousins Lineage
Elijah (TJ) is an author.
Tatiana (Tonion) sings. She sang at my wedding, Open My Heart (Yolanda Adams). She did her thing! Whew!
Olivia (Marcel). Her Strawberry Short Cake and Coconut Cake. Bake on, Libby! Bake on! I can't begin to tell you about her baking talents. Those cupcakes! Yummy!
Darryl's (Marva) is a baker. Delicious cakes!
GeAld (Marva) is an artist.
Terricita (Sara-Wife #1 (Melinda). An actress is born. Suffolk's own, Terricita has graced the screen in Mama's Hands and No Weapons Shall Prosper.
Eboni (my niece) is an awesome artist, who is creates wonderful tattoos.
Timarah (my niece) is on the road to becoming a successful singer.
I love and appreciate you all. Keep doing what you're doing, even if you take a break. I know it's only for a short while because that amazing talent is not going anywhere.
V.M. Roberts
I salute you, from my heart to yours.
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
September 9, 2023
Don’t Sell Yourself Short By Making Your Job Search A Jungle In Recruitment Land
Don’t Sell Yourself Short By Making Your Job Search A Jungle In Recruitment Land
Everyone and everything has a history. I’ve never considered the origin of the resume until I started putting together this blog. Does it matter? You may be thinking, perhaps not. I thought it would be interesting to gauge the use of a resume now compared to then.
What is a Resume?
… A document an individual uses to present an employable background, skills, and accomplishments, primarily in search of employment. However, the document may be used for social club membership, college enrollment, or a portfolio. A typical resume summarizes relevant job experience, highlighted skills, and education.
Resume Fun Facts
*In 1482, Leonardo da Vinci created the first resume
*In 1508, a traveling Lord in England offered a handwritten letter of introduction and called it a resume
*Between 1930 and 1960, resumes went from being on scraps of paper to being an expectation
*In 1940, resumes started to include random information such as age, weight, height, marital status, and religion
*In 1950, resumes started to include outside interests such as sports and club memberships
*In the 70s, resumes were created using digital typesets and word processors (the very first computers!)
*In the 1980s, VHS resumes were used!
*In 1983, Microsoft Word was launched – creating a new template for resumes
*In 1987, fax machines were widely used to send and receive resumes
*In 1994, the Internet and the World Wide Web went public and changed the way resumes were submitted
(Check out this article for additional information https://careerorigin.com.au/fun-facts... )
Leonardo da Vinci
You can thank da Vinci for his ingenuity later. He’s credited with drafting the first resume when he penned a letter to the Duke of Milan to gain his patronage. Mr. da Vinci ensured the letter focused on his strengths, which closely aligned with the Duke's needs. For example, he highlighted his ability to make safe and unattackable covered chariots.
21st Century Job Search and Resume Use
We all know at least one person who currently needs career guidance, a polished resume, and a cover letter. Where do you start? Looking for a job is a job. I’ve been there many times. This isn’t anything new to me.
How do you expect to find the job you want if you are stuck revising, revising, and revising your resume? The job posting won’t be available forever. How do you know what to include on your resume and cover letter? Do you have more than one resume for various jobs that interests you?
Let’s step back for a minute. If you’re between 16 and 65 (perhaps), at some point, you or someone you know will be seeking employment, whether full or part-time.
Does this sound familiar? I sent out 25 (or more) resumes, and not one employer contacted me for an interview. I don’t know what to do. My savings are low. My parents can’t continue to support me. My bills are due. How do I get an employer to notice my resume and cover letter?
Who has time to research the proper way to create a resume? It’s too time-consuming. If you don’t take the time to present yourself the way you wish an employer to see you on paper, you’ll never receive that call or move beyond the first step of obtaining that job you’re hoping for.
Unfortunately, most people do not take the time to truly consider their overall skill set, how to structure it on a resume, or how to write a presentable resume. A resume is not about graphics. Fancy resumes with pictures, colors, and designs are usually tossed 99% of the time. A hiring manager is looking for a solid work history, accomplishments, and highly desirable skills that align with the employer.
You probably think that on-the-job skills are the only information to use on a resume. This is not true. I’ll use myself as an example. In college, I was a writer for the newspaper and the yearbook. What skills did I use to complete my assignments besides writing?
I volunteered as an organizer or assistant each year for school functions when my children were in school. At my former church, I was the Acolyte coordinator, served on the church’s governing board, wrote for the church newsletter, and taught Sunday school. Imagine the skill set I developed over the years, which has transferred into the workplace.
When creating your resume and cover letter, consider your social involvement with community activities. Professionally, you don’t list those things on your resume. However, you can highlight the skills used in your cover letter and relate them to your jobs.
The point I’m trying to make. . . don’t sell yourself short. Revisit your resume every six months. Consider a new skill that you developed and add it. List in your notes two to three ways how that skill was used.
We can’t see into the future. People enter the job search market for many reasons – full or part-time-(sometimes it’s not our doing)-layoffs, quitting, returning to work (short retirement), college graduate, or a job upgrade.
Consider the job you want and prepare yourself to go after it.
Your Job Search Lab
Creating a resume and cover letter is not an easy process. However, accomplishment of your job search goals is attainable. Don’t be afraid to reach out for guidance.
Job Search-Challenge Test
*Is creating your resume a challenge?
*Is composing an effective cover letter a challenge?
*Is passing the first round of the job interview a challenge?
If you answered YES to two or more of these questions . . .
Your Job Search Lab can guide you . . . “Helping You Open Doors To Your Future”
Services
*Resume Development
*Cover Letter Development
*Zoom Meeting 1-Review Resume and Job Search Goals[1 hour]
*Zoom Meeting 2-Mock Interview Guidance [1 hour]
*List Of Interview Questions and Consultation
*Interview Thank You Letter Development
Your Job Search Lab-Industry Resume Specialization
*Banking
*Culinary Management
*Customer Service
*Education
*Finance
*Food Service
*Government
*Health Care (Clinical & Administrative)
*Purchasing
*Procurement
*Retail
*Warehouse
Email: yourjoblab@gmail.com
Follow Your Job Search Lab on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?...
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
Everyone and everything has a history. I’ve never considered the origin of the resume until I started putting together this blog. Does it matter? You may be thinking, perhaps not. I thought it would be interesting to gauge the use of a resume now compared to then.
What is a Resume?
… A document an individual uses to present an employable background, skills, and accomplishments, primarily in search of employment. However, the document may be used for social club membership, college enrollment, or a portfolio. A typical resume summarizes relevant job experience, highlighted skills, and education.
Resume Fun Facts
*In 1482, Leonardo da Vinci created the first resume
*In 1508, a traveling Lord in England offered a handwritten letter of introduction and called it a resume
*Between 1930 and 1960, resumes went from being on scraps of paper to being an expectation
*In 1940, resumes started to include random information such as age, weight, height, marital status, and religion
*In 1950, resumes started to include outside interests such as sports and club memberships
*In the 70s, resumes were created using digital typesets and word processors (the very first computers!)
*In the 1980s, VHS resumes were used!
*In 1983, Microsoft Word was launched – creating a new template for resumes
*In 1987, fax machines were widely used to send and receive resumes
*In 1994, the Internet and the World Wide Web went public and changed the way resumes were submitted
(Check out this article for additional information https://careerorigin.com.au/fun-facts... )
Leonardo da Vinci
You can thank da Vinci for his ingenuity later. He’s credited with drafting the first resume when he penned a letter to the Duke of Milan to gain his patronage. Mr. da Vinci ensured the letter focused on his strengths, which closely aligned with the Duke's needs. For example, he highlighted his ability to make safe and unattackable covered chariots.
21st Century Job Search and Resume Use
We all know at least one person who currently needs career guidance, a polished resume, and a cover letter. Where do you start? Looking for a job is a job. I’ve been there many times. This isn’t anything new to me.
How do you expect to find the job you want if you are stuck revising, revising, and revising your resume? The job posting won’t be available forever. How do you know what to include on your resume and cover letter? Do you have more than one resume for various jobs that interests you?
Let’s step back for a minute. If you’re between 16 and 65 (perhaps), at some point, you or someone you know will be seeking employment, whether full or part-time.
Does this sound familiar? I sent out 25 (or more) resumes, and not one employer contacted me for an interview. I don’t know what to do. My savings are low. My parents can’t continue to support me. My bills are due. How do I get an employer to notice my resume and cover letter?
Who has time to research the proper way to create a resume? It’s too time-consuming. If you don’t take the time to present yourself the way you wish an employer to see you on paper, you’ll never receive that call or move beyond the first step of obtaining that job you’re hoping for.
Unfortunately, most people do not take the time to truly consider their overall skill set, how to structure it on a resume, or how to write a presentable resume. A resume is not about graphics. Fancy resumes with pictures, colors, and designs are usually tossed 99% of the time. A hiring manager is looking for a solid work history, accomplishments, and highly desirable skills that align with the employer.
You probably think that on-the-job skills are the only information to use on a resume. This is not true. I’ll use myself as an example. In college, I was a writer for the newspaper and the yearbook. What skills did I use to complete my assignments besides writing?
I volunteered as an organizer or assistant each year for school functions when my children were in school. At my former church, I was the Acolyte coordinator, served on the church’s governing board, wrote for the church newsletter, and taught Sunday school. Imagine the skill set I developed over the years, which has transferred into the workplace.
When creating your resume and cover letter, consider your social involvement with community activities. Professionally, you don’t list those things on your resume. However, you can highlight the skills used in your cover letter and relate them to your jobs.
The point I’m trying to make. . . don’t sell yourself short. Revisit your resume every six months. Consider a new skill that you developed and add it. List in your notes two to three ways how that skill was used.
We can’t see into the future. People enter the job search market for many reasons – full or part-time-(sometimes it’s not our doing)-layoffs, quitting, returning to work (short retirement), college graduate, or a job upgrade.
Consider the job you want and prepare yourself to go after it.
Your Job Search Lab
Creating a resume and cover letter is not an easy process. However, accomplishment of your job search goals is attainable. Don’t be afraid to reach out for guidance.
Job Search-Challenge Test
*Is creating your resume a challenge?
*Is composing an effective cover letter a challenge?
*Is passing the first round of the job interview a challenge?
If you answered YES to two or more of these questions . . .
Your Job Search Lab can guide you . . . “Helping You Open Doors To Your Future”
Services
*Resume Development
*Cover Letter Development
*Zoom Meeting 1-Review Resume and Job Search Goals[1 hour]
*Zoom Meeting 2-Mock Interview Guidance [1 hour]
*List Of Interview Questions and Consultation
*Interview Thank You Letter Development
Your Job Search Lab-Industry Resume Specialization
*Banking
*Culinary Management
*Customer Service
*Education
*Finance
*Food Service
*Government
*Health Care (Clinical & Administrative)
*Purchasing
*Procurement
*Retail
*Warehouse
Email: yourjoblab@gmail.com
Follow Your Job Search Lab on Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?...
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
August 10, 2023
It Just Doesn’t Make Sense-It’s A Shame And A Scandal
It Just Doesn’t Make Sense-It’s A Shame And A Scandal
I planned a different topic for my August Blog. But then, Extended Stay in Chesapeake happened.
There used to be a time when you received good service and products. Customer Service valued your business and treated you with respect. Companies don’t care if a customer complains about their product or service. Your dissatisfaction is none of their business. Their faithful customer base is locked in.
Is it me? When was the last time you were not happy with a product or service you received? Did you complain? If so, to whom?
I’m sick of it. I’m going to start speaking up more than ever. I personally don’t have money to waste. I try to make every penny I earn count.
Check this out. In the past two months, I experienced the following. (Don’t get me wrong, for the most part, I’m satisfied with my purchases. Sometimes things slip through the cracks).
PetSmart Grooming: We had a quick weekend getaway (Friday to Sunday). Our German Shepherd, Piper, stayed at Petsmart Hotel. We scheduled her for grooming that Sunday morning because we would pick her up at noon. Ten minutes from the location, I received a call saying Piper’s appointment was canceled at 8 that morning. I responded, “We’re ten minutes out from picking her up, and you just now decided to call me?” Would you have complained to PetSmart?
Lowe’s: We purchased a mountable microwave. Lowe’s scheduled the installation with their contractor for Monday, July 31. A day later, I received an email from the contractor saying the installation has been scheduled for Wednesday, August 2, between 2 pm-5 pm. We had plans for that evening. I phoned the contractor. The customer service representative said Lowe’s does not have access to their scheduling system. Why would they tell you the microwave would be installed on Monday?” That was my question as well. Would you have complained to Lowe’s?
I think you understand where I’m coming from. Sure, I know how to pick and choose my battles. But what’s a person to do when you lodge complaints, and the companies don’t seem to care?
I’ve found an avenue. I use TripAdvior and Yelp. I take the time to write thorough reviews.
Check out my Extended Stay Complaint. I posted this to TripAdvisor and called Extended Stay. Their customer service department is farmed out to an overseas company. I immediately told the representative (1) I'm already livid. Don’t make me heighten my anger toward you. (2) I’m not going to waste time telling my story twice, especially to someone who barely speaks English. (3) I want to speak with a supervisor or manager now.
Once I reached a supervisor after holding on for 20 minutes, I read the letter (below) which I wrote for TripAdvisor.
(Heading): Extended Stay, Chesapeake-Stay Away
Please Read!
It's a darn shame the rating scale doesn't have a negative zero. That's exactly how this hotel would be rated!
My husband and I checked into Extended Stay, 809 Greenbrier Circle, Chesapeake, VA 23320 on Thursday, 8/3, and stayed until Sunday, 8/6.
This hotel was chosen for its location, restaurants, proximity to family in Chesapeake, Suffolk, and Virginia Beach, and availability. We liked that it’s equipped with a full-size refrigerator and microwave (The only good thing about the room).
We arrived at noon. Some hotels nowadays do early check-in. Not this one. Granted, hotels do early check-in as a courtesy.
When we entered the lobby, no one was at the front desk. My husband called out several times, and no answer. We stood waiting, hoping someone would show up soon. Total: wait time 20 minutes.
Finally, a woman showed up and apologized for the wait. My husband had to use the bathroom, and she was kind enough to unlock one on the first floor, all the while explaining that the hotel does not usually allow people to use the employees' restroom.
Early check-in: When my husband returned from the bathroom, we inquired about early check-in.
The woman explained that housekeeping had just started cleaning the rooms. Check-out is at 11 (we arrived at noon after a 6 hours drive). We were told to wait 3 hours; check-in is at 3 pm. We sat in Greenbrier Mall for 2 hours and 45 minutes. We arrived back at the hotel at 2:58 pm.
Again, no one was at the front desk. We waited 10 minutes before a housekeeping employee showed up and said someone would be with us shortly. Another 10 minutes and the same woman showed up and checked us in.
That’s when the fun began…
I stepped into the room first. What a nightmare!
The carpet is extremely old and looked like it hasn’t been cleaned in years!!! The furniture was dated, damaged, and scratched. I’ve seen thrift stores with better furniture.
My husband put on his slippers and turned on the tv to wind down. He sat in the recliner to relax after such a long drive and sitting in a mall for three hours.
He suddenly removed one of his slippers and smashed a roach crawling up the wall. During our 3 day stay, his slippers became the choice of weapon for destroying roaches in the bathroom and sleeping area.
We lodged several complaints about the room, but the woman who checked us in was overly apologetic but fulfilled none of our requests.
I called the front desk several times, and the phone rang and rang, regardless of the morning when we woke up or evenings when we returned to the hotel (never anyone at the desk).
Saturday morning at 5, I called the desk to ask if someone could spray our room while we were out during the day, or if they had roach spray, we would do it ourselves. A roach was crawling on the back of the toilet. I was scared to turn my back to use it.
The young lady said she would have maintenance spray. (This was the same young lady who said I had to wait until after 4 pm for clean towels and bath cloths because they had no clean ones ready yet. I made this request Friday morning).
When we left the hotel Saturday morning, the woman that checked us into the hotel was at the desk, socializing with a guest. I asked her if she received our message about spraying our room for roaches. Her response: it’s nothing I can do about that except move you to another room.
That’s when the guest she was socializing with said, “Oh yeah, I saw some roaches in my room too”.
Needless to say, my husband and I were way beyond disgusted at that point.
Our nightmare at this extended stay:
We slept with the light on.
The air conditioning was too noisy, you either remained hot by turning off the cooling system to avoid the noise or you fell asleep when you fell asleep by tolerating the noise (I recorded the system as it ran long enough to cool the room then turned it off. You couldn’t hear the tv while it ran. Who wants to turn up the volume above 60 on a 32-inch tv?)
Something bit me in my left arm (I have photos) while sleeping Friday night (I purchased Witch Hazel pads from Walmart to soothe the itching and redness).
We checked our clothes and suitcase for roaches each morning and night. We had to ensure we didn’t have any on us when we went out and definitely not travel home with them. Those roaches belong to Extended Stay!
The shower had a big hole in the wall (I have a photo). It looked like a poorly repaired maintenance job gone wrong.
The price they charged us for 3 nights, $588 is appalling and downright robbery! I’m in the process of seeking justice from this company.
Unfortunately, our issues will probably be scraped under the rug with an “I’m sorry your family experienced that, Mrs. Boone.” Nothing will happen; no justice on the company’s part. I think we should receive a refund for half of what we paid.
Each time we entered the hallway, it smelled of marijuana and mildew. Gross!
Dining and cooking utensils provided is listed on the website. Not a cooking utensil or dining ware in the place. After seeing the room’s condition, it’s probably good the stuff wasn’t available. Probably would have brought more roaches.
This hotel is a prime example of companies taking advantage of the consumer, overpromising, but delivering little. If we had left the first night, the hotel would have penalized us financially. My family is not wealthy. We work hard for our money and should receive adequate, acceptable services that we purchase.
If corporate is keeping up with its structural needs, they should be able to pull up their catalog of properties and know which ones require upgrades and repairs. They would also know that it’s grossly understaffed and way overpriced for its condition. There is no way this property should be open for business in its current state.
STAY AWAY…FAR AWAY! Please!
I called the customer care line and gave them half of my complaints (1 (877) 651-2124-on 8/7 @9:35 am EST). The representative (who was in another country) said I would receive a call back from a supervisor in 24-48 hours. I told her I’m not going to wait that long. Put me through to management now.
As a matter of fact, call 877-651-2124 and listen to their advertisement while you’re on hold…hear how they talk about having clean rooms. That message should be scrapped. It’s as far from the truth as Philadelphia, PA, is to Taiwan!
Conversation With A Customer Care Supervisor (10 am EST) 8/7/2023
I spoke with Terry on the management line. Once I read my letter, I requested a refund for half of what we paid. Terry said it takes 48 business hours for a refund request to go through corporate.
He intended to refer my complaints to the district manager in Virginia, Veronica Barnes. He promised to look into my above complaints. I plan to go higher up the corporate ladder if I don’t hear anything within 48 hours.
Guess what? Terry followed through on his promise. I woke up this morning (8/10), and my refund awaited me.
I’m glad I did speak up! As consumers, we must start lodging vigilant complaints and stop letting these billion-dollar companies get away with their nonsense.
Enough is Enough!
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
I planned a different topic for my August Blog. But then, Extended Stay in Chesapeake happened.
There used to be a time when you received good service and products. Customer Service valued your business and treated you with respect. Companies don’t care if a customer complains about their product or service. Your dissatisfaction is none of their business. Their faithful customer base is locked in.
Is it me? When was the last time you were not happy with a product or service you received? Did you complain? If so, to whom?
I’m sick of it. I’m going to start speaking up more than ever. I personally don’t have money to waste. I try to make every penny I earn count.
Check this out. In the past two months, I experienced the following. (Don’t get me wrong, for the most part, I’m satisfied with my purchases. Sometimes things slip through the cracks).
PetSmart Grooming: We had a quick weekend getaway (Friday to Sunday). Our German Shepherd, Piper, stayed at Petsmart Hotel. We scheduled her for grooming that Sunday morning because we would pick her up at noon. Ten minutes from the location, I received a call saying Piper’s appointment was canceled at 8 that morning. I responded, “We’re ten minutes out from picking her up, and you just now decided to call me?” Would you have complained to PetSmart?
Lowe’s: We purchased a mountable microwave. Lowe’s scheduled the installation with their contractor for Monday, July 31. A day later, I received an email from the contractor saying the installation has been scheduled for Wednesday, August 2, between 2 pm-5 pm. We had plans for that evening. I phoned the contractor. The customer service representative said Lowe’s does not have access to their scheduling system. Why would they tell you the microwave would be installed on Monday?” That was my question as well. Would you have complained to Lowe’s?
I think you understand where I’m coming from. Sure, I know how to pick and choose my battles. But what’s a person to do when you lodge complaints, and the companies don’t seem to care?
I’ve found an avenue. I use TripAdvior and Yelp. I take the time to write thorough reviews.
Check out my Extended Stay Complaint. I posted this to TripAdvisor and called Extended Stay. Their customer service department is farmed out to an overseas company. I immediately told the representative (1) I'm already livid. Don’t make me heighten my anger toward you. (2) I’m not going to waste time telling my story twice, especially to someone who barely speaks English. (3) I want to speak with a supervisor or manager now.
Once I reached a supervisor after holding on for 20 minutes, I read the letter (below) which I wrote for TripAdvisor.
(Heading): Extended Stay, Chesapeake-Stay Away
Please Read!
It's a darn shame the rating scale doesn't have a negative zero. That's exactly how this hotel would be rated!
My husband and I checked into Extended Stay, 809 Greenbrier Circle, Chesapeake, VA 23320 on Thursday, 8/3, and stayed until Sunday, 8/6.
This hotel was chosen for its location, restaurants, proximity to family in Chesapeake, Suffolk, and Virginia Beach, and availability. We liked that it’s equipped with a full-size refrigerator and microwave (The only good thing about the room).
We arrived at noon. Some hotels nowadays do early check-in. Not this one. Granted, hotels do early check-in as a courtesy.
When we entered the lobby, no one was at the front desk. My husband called out several times, and no answer. We stood waiting, hoping someone would show up soon. Total: wait time 20 minutes.
Finally, a woman showed up and apologized for the wait. My husband had to use the bathroom, and she was kind enough to unlock one on the first floor, all the while explaining that the hotel does not usually allow people to use the employees' restroom.
Early check-in: When my husband returned from the bathroom, we inquired about early check-in.
The woman explained that housekeeping had just started cleaning the rooms. Check-out is at 11 (we arrived at noon after a 6 hours drive). We were told to wait 3 hours; check-in is at 3 pm. We sat in Greenbrier Mall for 2 hours and 45 minutes. We arrived back at the hotel at 2:58 pm.
Again, no one was at the front desk. We waited 10 minutes before a housekeeping employee showed up and said someone would be with us shortly. Another 10 minutes and the same woman showed up and checked us in.
That’s when the fun began…
I stepped into the room first. What a nightmare!
The carpet is extremely old and looked like it hasn’t been cleaned in years!!! The furniture was dated, damaged, and scratched. I’ve seen thrift stores with better furniture.
My husband put on his slippers and turned on the tv to wind down. He sat in the recliner to relax after such a long drive and sitting in a mall for three hours.
He suddenly removed one of his slippers and smashed a roach crawling up the wall. During our 3 day stay, his slippers became the choice of weapon for destroying roaches in the bathroom and sleeping area.
We lodged several complaints about the room, but the woman who checked us in was overly apologetic but fulfilled none of our requests.
I called the front desk several times, and the phone rang and rang, regardless of the morning when we woke up or evenings when we returned to the hotel (never anyone at the desk).
Saturday morning at 5, I called the desk to ask if someone could spray our room while we were out during the day, or if they had roach spray, we would do it ourselves. A roach was crawling on the back of the toilet. I was scared to turn my back to use it.
The young lady said she would have maintenance spray. (This was the same young lady who said I had to wait until after 4 pm for clean towels and bath cloths because they had no clean ones ready yet. I made this request Friday morning).
When we left the hotel Saturday morning, the woman that checked us into the hotel was at the desk, socializing with a guest. I asked her if she received our message about spraying our room for roaches. Her response: it’s nothing I can do about that except move you to another room.
That’s when the guest she was socializing with said, “Oh yeah, I saw some roaches in my room too”.
Needless to say, my husband and I were way beyond disgusted at that point.
Our nightmare at this extended stay:
We slept with the light on.
The air conditioning was too noisy, you either remained hot by turning off the cooling system to avoid the noise or you fell asleep when you fell asleep by tolerating the noise (I recorded the system as it ran long enough to cool the room then turned it off. You couldn’t hear the tv while it ran. Who wants to turn up the volume above 60 on a 32-inch tv?)
Something bit me in my left arm (I have photos) while sleeping Friday night (I purchased Witch Hazel pads from Walmart to soothe the itching and redness).
We checked our clothes and suitcase for roaches each morning and night. We had to ensure we didn’t have any on us when we went out and definitely not travel home with them. Those roaches belong to Extended Stay!
The shower had a big hole in the wall (I have a photo). It looked like a poorly repaired maintenance job gone wrong.
The price they charged us for 3 nights, $588 is appalling and downright robbery! I’m in the process of seeking justice from this company.
Unfortunately, our issues will probably be scraped under the rug with an “I’m sorry your family experienced that, Mrs. Boone.” Nothing will happen; no justice on the company’s part. I think we should receive a refund for half of what we paid.
Each time we entered the hallway, it smelled of marijuana and mildew. Gross!
Dining and cooking utensils provided is listed on the website. Not a cooking utensil or dining ware in the place. After seeing the room’s condition, it’s probably good the stuff wasn’t available. Probably would have brought more roaches.
This hotel is a prime example of companies taking advantage of the consumer, overpromising, but delivering little. If we had left the first night, the hotel would have penalized us financially. My family is not wealthy. We work hard for our money and should receive adequate, acceptable services that we purchase.
If corporate is keeping up with its structural needs, they should be able to pull up their catalog of properties and know which ones require upgrades and repairs. They would also know that it’s grossly understaffed and way overpriced for its condition. There is no way this property should be open for business in its current state.
STAY AWAY…FAR AWAY! Please!
I called the customer care line and gave them half of my complaints (1 (877) 651-2124-on 8/7 @9:35 am EST). The representative (who was in another country) said I would receive a call back from a supervisor in 24-48 hours. I told her I’m not going to wait that long. Put me through to management now.
As a matter of fact, call 877-651-2124 and listen to their advertisement while you’re on hold…hear how they talk about having clean rooms. That message should be scrapped. It’s as far from the truth as Philadelphia, PA, is to Taiwan!
Conversation With A Customer Care Supervisor (10 am EST) 8/7/2023
I spoke with Terry on the management line. Once I read my letter, I requested a refund for half of what we paid. Terry said it takes 48 business hours for a refund request to go through corporate.
He intended to refer my complaints to the district manager in Virginia, Veronica Barnes. He promised to look into my above complaints. I plan to go higher up the corporate ladder if I don’t hear anything within 48 hours.
Guess what? Terry followed through on his promise. I woke up this morning (8/10), and my refund awaited me.
I’m glad I did speak up! As consumers, we must start lodging vigilant complaints and stop letting these billion-dollar companies get away with their nonsense.
Enough is Enough!
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
July 20, 2023
I Didn’t See That Coming
I Didn’t See That Coming
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” — Maya Angelou
Adversity means a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortune; opposition, hostility, misfortune, or hardship.
Some examples of adversity may include:
*Disability
*Handicap
*Rejection
*Proving Someone Wrong
*Growing up Poor
*Getting Fired or Laid off
*Suffering an Injury
*Suffering Discrimination
Adversity.
Who on Earth has not experienced that thing called adversity? Is there a way to control it before it happens? Do you know the answer? I surely don’t.
I’ve had enough adversity in my life to know it’s not something you push under a rug and expect it not to reappear. It’s always going to be something to upset or disturb your groove.
You hope to obtain a better job to continue providing for your family-increased pay, decent health insurance, and a supervisor with your best interest at heart. Bam! Then it happens. You go through the interview, and at the end, the director says to you, “I’m impressed with your skills and education, but I’ll never hire an African American as part of my management team.”
How are you supposed to react to that? Here’s another one. You’re excited about a job interview which seems promising. During the process, the manager slips in sexual innuendos and makes subtle advances toward you.
Your comfort level hits rock bottom. You cringe because the interview is a bust. What do you do? Excuse yourself, go to the ladies' room to regroup, then leave the building, explaining that you’re not feeling well and can’t continue the interview.
Adversity does not discriminate based on race, gender, religion, or age. When facing adversity and you’re a person with low self-esteem, have a pessimistic outlook on life because of past experiences, come from a low socioeconomic environment, and your confidence level is negative zero, facing adversities is too much to bear.
Growing up in Suffolk, Virginia, I faced more adversity than I care to admit. At that time, I had no idea that’s what it was. I only knew my childhood was a nightmare at school and home.
I was called ugly and teased so much I wondered if that was all some of my classmates saw in me. My hair was rarely appropriately combed. I wore clothes given to my mother by the people whose houses she cleaned. The clothes were old-fashioned and mildewed. The items sat in their garages marked as trash until my mother brought the clothes home for me. I rarely wore new clothes.
By middle school, my feet were so big some of my classmates called me Big Foot. I was tall and lanky, with a size nine foot by then. This teasing and belittling continued right up through high school.
My fifth-grade social studies teacher even called me ugly when my pencil fell on the floor, and I got up to get it while he was talking. He stopped talking abruptly, stared at me, and said, “Viola, sit your ugly self down!”
My 10th-grade journalism teacher asked me why I wanted to be a journalist. She suggested I seek another profession because my writing wasn’t good by any means.
I’m going to stop here. I think you get my point. My adversity multiplied throughout my life-marriage, finances, and fitting in as an adult socially.
I’ve overcome more than you could imagine. Sometimes I pinch myself because I couldn’t have envisioned my transformation either. My growth as an adult has been remarkable. As I continue to grow, develop, and learn, I honestly have so much for which I’m thankful and grateful. Guess what? I’ve met some wonderful, amazing people along my journey of transformation.
I will never stop learning and working daily to make my life better. I have a testimony. And, I want to use it to help others.
From the bottom of my heart, I can say that you should never let what others think of you define you. If you’re currently in that situation, please find a way to start working your way out of that pit. It’s a process.
Find a process that works for you. Be persistent, steadfast, and determined to climb out of the pit of degradation and negativity. If you lose some people on the way out of your dungeon of doom, it’s alright. Leave the guilt as well. So what if they don’t like the new, emerging you?
One of my favorite quotes: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” – Socrates.
Overcoming Adversity
Change Your Focus: too much on the negative can lead to a psychological phenomenon known as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Journaling: Journaling is a simple way of penning what’s going on, along with your thoughts and feelings. It’s a therapeutic process.
Block Bad Noise: Many in your circle will have opinions; most are not helpful or constructive. Some opinions can make matters worse and bring you down. This usually brings about self-doubt. Try blocking negativity in various ways, such as: practicing self-care, staying positive [seek uplifting avenues], move your mindset to a different space by engaging in activities that promote self-care and positivity, and setting clear boundaries and staying grounded.
Never Be Afraid To Try Again or Start Over: Rejection [professional or personal], is a difficult thing to accept, which makes it hard to move forward. Never allow rejection by one individual to rule or control your fate by using energy to focus on that rejection.
Overcoming Adversity Quotes
“You can use the stumbling blocks to build your success.” – Lailah Gifty Akita
“When adversity strikes, that’s when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on.”– LL Cool J
“Adversity, which looks and feels like such a determined enemy, can become a valuable ally. Only you can decide which it will be.” – Joni Eareckson Tada
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie
“Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.” – Roy T. Bennett
Quotes About Overcoming Adversity
https://www.happierhuman.com/adversit...
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” — Maya Angelou
Adversity means a state or instance of serious or continued difficulty or misfortune; opposition, hostility, misfortune, or hardship.
Some examples of adversity may include:
*Disability
*Handicap
*Rejection
*Proving Someone Wrong
*Growing up Poor
*Getting Fired or Laid off
*Suffering an Injury
*Suffering Discrimination
Adversity.
Who on Earth has not experienced that thing called adversity? Is there a way to control it before it happens? Do you know the answer? I surely don’t.
I’ve had enough adversity in my life to know it’s not something you push under a rug and expect it not to reappear. It’s always going to be something to upset or disturb your groove.
You hope to obtain a better job to continue providing for your family-increased pay, decent health insurance, and a supervisor with your best interest at heart. Bam! Then it happens. You go through the interview, and at the end, the director says to you, “I’m impressed with your skills and education, but I’ll never hire an African American as part of my management team.”
How are you supposed to react to that? Here’s another one. You’re excited about a job interview which seems promising. During the process, the manager slips in sexual innuendos and makes subtle advances toward you.
Your comfort level hits rock bottom. You cringe because the interview is a bust. What do you do? Excuse yourself, go to the ladies' room to regroup, then leave the building, explaining that you’re not feeling well and can’t continue the interview.
Adversity does not discriminate based on race, gender, religion, or age. When facing adversity and you’re a person with low self-esteem, have a pessimistic outlook on life because of past experiences, come from a low socioeconomic environment, and your confidence level is negative zero, facing adversities is too much to bear.
Growing up in Suffolk, Virginia, I faced more adversity than I care to admit. At that time, I had no idea that’s what it was. I only knew my childhood was a nightmare at school and home.
I was called ugly and teased so much I wondered if that was all some of my classmates saw in me. My hair was rarely appropriately combed. I wore clothes given to my mother by the people whose houses she cleaned. The clothes were old-fashioned and mildewed. The items sat in their garages marked as trash until my mother brought the clothes home for me. I rarely wore new clothes.
By middle school, my feet were so big some of my classmates called me Big Foot. I was tall and lanky, with a size nine foot by then. This teasing and belittling continued right up through high school.
My fifth-grade social studies teacher even called me ugly when my pencil fell on the floor, and I got up to get it while he was talking. He stopped talking abruptly, stared at me, and said, “Viola, sit your ugly self down!”
My 10th-grade journalism teacher asked me why I wanted to be a journalist. She suggested I seek another profession because my writing wasn’t good by any means.
I’m going to stop here. I think you get my point. My adversity multiplied throughout my life-marriage, finances, and fitting in as an adult socially.
I’ve overcome more than you could imagine. Sometimes I pinch myself because I couldn’t have envisioned my transformation either. My growth as an adult has been remarkable. As I continue to grow, develop, and learn, I honestly have so much for which I’m thankful and grateful. Guess what? I’ve met some wonderful, amazing people along my journey of transformation.
I will never stop learning and working daily to make my life better. I have a testimony. And, I want to use it to help others.
From the bottom of my heart, I can say that you should never let what others think of you define you. If you’re currently in that situation, please find a way to start working your way out of that pit. It’s a process.
Find a process that works for you. Be persistent, steadfast, and determined to climb out of the pit of degradation and negativity. If you lose some people on the way out of your dungeon of doom, it’s alright. Leave the guilt as well. So what if they don’t like the new, emerging you?
One of my favorite quotes: “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” – Socrates.
Overcoming Adversity
Change Your Focus: too much on the negative can lead to a psychological phenomenon known as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Journaling: Journaling is a simple way of penning what’s going on, along with your thoughts and feelings. It’s a therapeutic process.
Block Bad Noise: Many in your circle will have opinions; most are not helpful or constructive. Some opinions can make matters worse and bring you down. This usually brings about self-doubt. Try blocking negativity in various ways, such as: practicing self-care, staying positive [seek uplifting avenues], move your mindset to a different space by engaging in activities that promote self-care and positivity, and setting clear boundaries and staying grounded.
Never Be Afraid To Try Again or Start Over: Rejection [professional or personal], is a difficult thing to accept, which makes it hard to move forward. Never allow rejection by one individual to rule or control your fate by using energy to focus on that rejection.
Overcoming Adversity Quotes
“You can use the stumbling blocks to build your success.” – Lailah Gifty Akita
“When adversity strikes, that’s when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on.”– LL Cool J
“Adversity, which looks and feels like such a determined enemy, can become a valuable ally. Only you can decide which it will be.” – Joni Eareckson Tada
“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.” – Dale Carnegie
“Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Keep going. Tough situations build strong people in the end.” – Roy T. Bennett
Quotes About Overcoming Adversity
https://www.happierhuman.com/adversit...
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
June 7, 2023
Why Do I Need To Balance My Mindset?
Why Do I Need To Balance My Mindset?
I read once that your mental health can affect your physical health. This statement works both ways. A great mindset and positive outlook from day to day will help to increase how you feel physically and vice versa for persistent negative views.
Learning to believe in good and adopting a more extraordinary outlook on life is a process. I know our lives are overloaded with information from all things technology. The Internet. Cable television. Social media. Streaming. Local news. National news. All of these information channels is enough to drive anyone insane.
Stop.
Assess.
Decide.
Build.
Stop the constant bombardment of over feeding your mind with information that may not be useful for your well-being. Ask yourself one question-is the information benefitting you?
If not-redirect to something more practical, more influential in a positive manner.
Assess the information you feed your mind. I’m not saying don’t watch or listen to the news. Knowing what’s going on in your community, country and the world is acceptable.
But, learn to minimize the intake.
Decide what news sources, information types, and commercialized mediums are best for you.
Profit margins of outlets you choose not to engage won’t suffer.
Build a better mindset for you by redirecting your energies. Do you have a hobby? Do you enjoy reading? What about socializing with family and friends? Fun outings, movie and game night, dinner once a week with your loved ones are all fantastic ways of growing.
The possibilities of redirecting your energies is infinite. Volunteer work, a social club-bowling, book group, writing group, are additional ideas.
If you’re unable to do any of those things, start your own group or use materials to build up your mindset and share it with family, friends, or colleagues. The rewards of sharing positive vibes on a daily basis is priceless.
I’ve found my happy place: the Bible and Quotes. The Bible feeds my soul, coupled with inspirational, uplifting quotes guide me in dealing with everyday day. There’s an old saying, “garbage in, garbage out” which I believe is 100% true.
Learn to feed your mind with positive, constructive, and thought-provoking messages.
When you become accustomed to doing this on a daily basis, it puts many things into perspective.
I have apps on my phone that I refer to daily to keep me balanced and at peace. Balance your information intake. Laugh more and enjoy your life.
I leave you with a few quotes from some of my favorite topics.
Faith*complete trust or confidence in someone or something
• Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. - Martin Luther King, Jr.
• Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe. - Voltaire
• Faith does not eliminate questions. But faith knows where to take them. - Elisabeth Elliot
Hope*desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment
• We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
• All kids need is a little help, a little hope and somebody who believes in them. – Magic Johnson
• Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. – Desmond Tutu
• There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope. – Bernard Williams
• Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future. – Robert H. Schuller
Love*an intense feeling of deep affection
• Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, and penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope. – Maya Angelou
• They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for. – Tom Bodett
• Love without hope will not survive, love without faith changes nothing. Love gives power to hope and faith. – Toba Beta
Kindness*the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate
• Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life. – Jackie Chan
• Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are. – Harold S. Kushner
• Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you. – Princess Diana
• Because that’s what kindness is. It’s not doing something for someone else because they can’t, but because you can. – Andrew Iskander
Courage*mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty
• I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. -Nelson Mandela
• Courage does not always roar, sometimes it’s the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow. -Mary Anne Radmacher
• Don’t give into your fears, if you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart. -Paulo Coelho
• Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. -Mark Twain
Perseverance*continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition
• It always seems impossible until it is done. – Nelson Mandela
• Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts. – Winston Churchill
• A bend in the road is not the end of the road… unless you fail to make the turn. – Helen Keller
• It’s always too soon to quit! – Norman Vincent Peale
• The only guarantee for failure is to stop trying. – John C. Maxwell
Thankful*feeling and expressing appreciation for people and things in your life
• Express gratitude for the greatness of small things. – Richie Norton
• Always be thankful for the little things... even the smallest mountains can hide the most breathtaking views! – Nyki Mack
• Gratitude is an appreciation for every moment in your life. It is a feeling of abundance. – Brenda Nathan
• I turned my attention to gratitude and discovered that the more I cultivated a sense of appreciation for all that I had, the happier and less fearful I was. – M. J. Ryan
• ‘Count your blessings’ is such a common expression that it has become a catchphrase. Yet it contains powerful truth and meaning: Be grateful for what you have – and for what you don't have.– Robert W. Bly
Humble*not proud : not thinking of yourself as better than other people
• Humility is the ability to give up your pride and still retain your dignity. -Vanna Bonta
• Humility isn't denying your strengths; it's being honest about your weaknesses. -Rick Warren
• Humility is nothing else but a right judgment of ourselves -William Law
• Self-confidence is very important. But without compassion and humility, it's just arrogance -Anonymous
Laughter*the experience or manifestation of mirth, amusement, or joy
• Laugh at yourself first, before anyone else can. — Elsa Maxwell
• Laugh my friend, for laughter ignites a fire within the pit of your belly and awakens your being. —Stella & Blake
• Laughter connects you with people. It’s almost impossible to maintain any kind of distance or any sense of social hierarchy when you’re just howling with laughter. Laughter is a force for democracy. — John Cleese
• Laughter has no foreign accent. — Paul Lowney
Inspirational Resources
Bible Study Tools https://www.biblestudytools.com/
Brainy Quote https://www.brainyquote.com/
The Positivity Blog
https://www.positivityblog.com/
Inspirational Apps (Free)
*Always Positive
*Motivational Quotes (Lifestyle)
*Life Quotes-Daily Affirmations
Websites
30 Bible Verses for Women to Empower and Encourage
https://www.womansday.com/life/inspir...
120 Inspirational Quotes About Laughter
https://www.laughteronlineuniversity....
Goodreads-Inspirational Quotes
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/...
[VM Roberts]
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
I read once that your mental health can affect your physical health. This statement works both ways. A great mindset and positive outlook from day to day will help to increase how you feel physically and vice versa for persistent negative views.
Learning to believe in good and adopting a more extraordinary outlook on life is a process. I know our lives are overloaded with information from all things technology. The Internet. Cable television. Social media. Streaming. Local news. National news. All of these information channels is enough to drive anyone insane.
Stop.
Assess.
Decide.
Build.
Stop the constant bombardment of over feeding your mind with information that may not be useful for your well-being. Ask yourself one question-is the information benefitting you?
If not-redirect to something more practical, more influential in a positive manner.
Assess the information you feed your mind. I’m not saying don’t watch or listen to the news. Knowing what’s going on in your community, country and the world is acceptable.
But, learn to minimize the intake.
Decide what news sources, information types, and commercialized mediums are best for you.
Profit margins of outlets you choose not to engage won’t suffer.
Build a better mindset for you by redirecting your energies. Do you have a hobby? Do you enjoy reading? What about socializing with family and friends? Fun outings, movie and game night, dinner once a week with your loved ones are all fantastic ways of growing.
The possibilities of redirecting your energies is infinite. Volunteer work, a social club-bowling, book group, writing group, are additional ideas.
If you’re unable to do any of those things, start your own group or use materials to build up your mindset and share it with family, friends, or colleagues. The rewards of sharing positive vibes on a daily basis is priceless.
I’ve found my happy place: the Bible and Quotes. The Bible feeds my soul, coupled with inspirational, uplifting quotes guide me in dealing with everyday day. There’s an old saying, “garbage in, garbage out” which I believe is 100% true.
Learn to feed your mind with positive, constructive, and thought-provoking messages.
When you become accustomed to doing this on a daily basis, it puts many things into perspective.
I have apps on my phone that I refer to daily to keep me balanced and at peace. Balance your information intake. Laugh more and enjoy your life.
I leave you with a few quotes from some of my favorite topics.
Faith*complete trust or confidence in someone or something
• Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase. - Martin Luther King, Jr.
• Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe. - Voltaire
• Faith does not eliminate questions. But faith knows where to take them. - Elisabeth Elliot
Hope*desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment
• We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. – Martin Luther King, Jr.
• All kids need is a little help, a little hope and somebody who believes in them. – Magic Johnson
• Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness. – Desmond Tutu
• There was never a night or a problem that could defeat sunrise or hope. – Bernard Williams
• Let your hopes, not your hurts, shape your future. – Robert H. Schuller
Love*an intense feeling of deep affection
• Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, and penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope. – Maya Angelou
• They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for. – Tom Bodett
• Love without hope will not survive, love without faith changes nothing. Love gives power to hope and faith. – Toba Beta
Kindness*the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate
• Sometimes it takes only one act of kindness and caring to change a person’s life. – Jackie Chan
• Do things for people not because of who they are or what they do in return, but because of who you are. – Harold S. Kushner
• Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you. – Princess Diana
• Because that’s what kindness is. It’s not doing something for someone else because they can’t, but because you can. – Andrew Iskander
Courage*mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty
• I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. -Nelson Mandela
• Courage does not always roar, sometimes it’s the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, I will try again tomorrow. -Mary Anne Radmacher
• Don’t give into your fears, if you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart. -Paulo Coelho
• Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. -Mark Twain
Perseverance*continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition
• It always seems impossible until it is done. – Nelson Mandela
• Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts. – Winston Churchill
• A bend in the road is not the end of the road… unless you fail to make the turn. – Helen Keller
• It’s always too soon to quit! – Norman Vincent Peale
• The only guarantee for failure is to stop trying. – John C. Maxwell
Thankful*feeling and expressing appreciation for people and things in your life
• Express gratitude for the greatness of small things. – Richie Norton
• Always be thankful for the little things... even the smallest mountains can hide the most breathtaking views! – Nyki Mack
• Gratitude is an appreciation for every moment in your life. It is a feeling of abundance. – Brenda Nathan
• I turned my attention to gratitude and discovered that the more I cultivated a sense of appreciation for all that I had, the happier and less fearful I was. – M. J. Ryan
• ‘Count your blessings’ is such a common expression that it has become a catchphrase. Yet it contains powerful truth and meaning: Be grateful for what you have – and for what you don't have.– Robert W. Bly
Humble*not proud : not thinking of yourself as better than other people
• Humility is the ability to give up your pride and still retain your dignity. -Vanna Bonta
• Humility isn't denying your strengths; it's being honest about your weaknesses. -Rick Warren
• Humility is nothing else but a right judgment of ourselves -William Law
• Self-confidence is very important. But without compassion and humility, it's just arrogance -Anonymous
Laughter*the experience or manifestation of mirth, amusement, or joy
• Laugh at yourself first, before anyone else can. — Elsa Maxwell
• Laugh my friend, for laughter ignites a fire within the pit of your belly and awakens your being. —Stella & Blake
• Laughter connects you with people. It’s almost impossible to maintain any kind of distance or any sense of social hierarchy when you’re just howling with laughter. Laughter is a force for democracy. — John Cleese
• Laughter has no foreign accent. — Paul Lowney
Inspirational Resources
Bible Study Tools https://www.biblestudytools.com/
Brainy Quote https://www.brainyquote.com/
The Positivity Blog
https://www.positivityblog.com/
Inspirational Apps (Free)
*Always Positive
*Motivational Quotes (Lifestyle)
*Life Quotes-Daily Affirmations
Websites
30 Bible Verses for Women to Empower and Encourage
https://www.womansday.com/life/inspir...
120 Inspirational Quotes About Laughter
https://www.laughteronlineuniversity....
Goodreads-Inspirational Quotes
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/...
[VM Roberts]
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
June 4, 2023
What Did You Eat For Breakfast?
What Did You Eat For Breakfast Today?
I remember growing up in rural Virginia eating cookies, potato chips, or even a candy bar early in the morning. It didn’t matter if it was before or after breakfast. Sometimes junk food was my breakfast or dinner.
Up until a year ago, I continued to consume any type of junk food under the sun. My favorites – fruit cake, Devil’s Food cake, sweet potato and apple pie, chips, cookies, candy bars, etc., you get the idea.
I ate pork chops, pork bacon, spaghetti prepared with ground beef, pepperoni pizza, and fried chicken, which were among my favorite foods. My worse habit . . . eating sugary coated cereal-Cap’n Crunch, Apple Jacks, Honeycomb, Frosted Flakes, to name a few, for breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
I don’t eat like that anymore. What happened? My first colonoscopy stopped my fifty-five years of poor eating habits quickly. My gastroenterologist removed six pre-cancerous polyps from my colon. In addition, I was diagnosed with gastroesophageal reflux disease [GERD], which caused me to modify my diet further.
How do you change something you’ve been doing all your life? It’s not easy. The journey to eating healthier foods has been one of strict self-discipline. It’s a challenge to shop and not venture down the cookie aisle. I don’t like to hear the words “Girl Scout Cookies” anymore. It’s torture.
My physician instructed me to discontinue eating beef, pork, acidic foods, and sugary products, including juices, sodas, and desserts. When he went down the list of items required to maintain a healthy colon and minimize GERD symptoms, I thought to myself, “life is over”.
But is it really? I considered my options on the ride home from the doctor’s office. 1) Keep eating poorly, visit the doctor more than I should, or adjust my eating habits. 2) Gradually try new foods to avoid painful bowel and gastroesophageal issues. This one is a no-brainer.
We don’t know when our time on Earth is up. I’d rather live the rest of my life with minimal health issues. Health issues interfere with what I’m able to do. Some things are out of my control. However, I prefer to concentrate on the things I can control. I wish to continue enjoying my family, writing, and helping others when possible.
In addition, I have Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA). The diet won’t cure RA, but the right food choices can help control the inflammation that wreaks havoc in the body.
The point of this article…If you have health conditions requiring you to change your diet, go ahead and gradually make the adjustments. You’ll be glad you did. A year ago, I would have never considered eating yogurt, let alone sugar-free yogurt, or having a smoothie three days a week with kale and bananas as the main ingredients.
Here’s to a healthier you and a healthier me.
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
I remember growing up in rural Virginia eating cookies, potato chips, or even a candy bar early in the morning. It didn’t matter if it was before or after breakfast. Sometimes junk food was my breakfast or dinner.
Up until a year ago, I continued to consume any type of junk food under the sun. My favorites – fruit cake, Devil’s Food cake, sweet potato and apple pie, chips, cookies, candy bars, etc., you get the idea.
I ate pork chops, pork bacon, spaghetti prepared with ground beef, pepperoni pizza, and fried chicken, which were among my favorite foods. My worse habit . . . eating sugary coated cereal-Cap’n Crunch, Apple Jacks, Honeycomb, Frosted Flakes, to name a few, for breakfast, lunch, or dinner.
I don’t eat like that anymore. What happened? My first colonoscopy stopped my fifty-five years of poor eating habits quickly. My gastroenterologist removed six pre-cancerous polyps from my colon. In addition, I was diagnosed with gastroesophageal reflux disease [GERD], which caused me to modify my diet further.
How do you change something you’ve been doing all your life? It’s not easy. The journey to eating healthier foods has been one of strict self-discipline. It’s a challenge to shop and not venture down the cookie aisle. I don’t like to hear the words “Girl Scout Cookies” anymore. It’s torture.
My physician instructed me to discontinue eating beef, pork, acidic foods, and sugary products, including juices, sodas, and desserts. When he went down the list of items required to maintain a healthy colon and minimize GERD symptoms, I thought to myself, “life is over”.
But is it really? I considered my options on the ride home from the doctor’s office. 1) Keep eating poorly, visit the doctor more than I should, or adjust my eating habits. 2) Gradually try new foods to avoid painful bowel and gastroesophageal issues. This one is a no-brainer.
We don’t know when our time on Earth is up. I’d rather live the rest of my life with minimal health issues. Health issues interfere with what I’m able to do. Some things are out of my control. However, I prefer to concentrate on the things I can control. I wish to continue enjoying my family, writing, and helping others when possible.
In addition, I have Rheumatoid Arthritis (RA). The diet won’t cure RA, but the right food choices can help control the inflammation that wreaks havoc in the body.
The point of this article…If you have health conditions requiring you to change your diet, go ahead and gradually make the adjustments. You’ll be glad you did. A year ago, I would have never considered eating yogurt, let alone sugar-free yogurt, or having a smoothie three days a week with kale and bananas as the main ingredients.
Here’s to a healthier you and a healthier me.
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
May 23, 2023
Interview With VM Roberts, Author
Interview With VM Roberts, Author
https://vocalexpressions.blogspot.com...
Author’s Bio: VM Roberts’ hobby is writing. It’s a passion she discovered in fourth grade at East Suffolk Elementary School. This hobby has led to publishing fiction and non-fiction titles over the past thirteen years. She has written a two-set collection of her memoirs, crime thrillers, women’s fiction, young adult novels, and a series of children’s books for a total of 26 books. She’s working on a humorous romance book of short stories and a historical fiction novel.
A Suffolk, Virginia native, Ms. Roberts resided in Trenton, New Jersey, for ten years, eventually settling in the City of Brotherly Love, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, for thirty years. These cities and their surroundings are often the settings for her writings. She currently resides in Howard County, MD.
Ms. Roberts is a healthcare administrator with over thirty-five years of experience in the industry. This experience has allowed her to serve as a college instructor for fifteen years.
She holds an MPH in Epidemiology, an MBA in Health Administration, and a BA in Journalism.
Deliah Lawrence: What is your writing process?
VM Roberts: Wow, it’s complicated. I employ the use of technology 99% of the time. When an idea pops into my head at odd times, I grab my phone, type it into the notes section on my iPhone, and email it to myself.
Ideas are constantly popping into my head regardless of where I am – Walmart, the doctor’s office, a road trip, in the middle of dinner (lol). I’ve held up the line in the market a few times, jotting things down on my phone so I don’t lose my thoughts. I’ve been known sometimes to allow folks to go ahead of me.
I maintain a spreadsheet of names, fictitious places, career titles, etc., so I don’t have to search for what I’m looking for when I need it. Random searching for things like this slows me down. I have over 700 first and last names in my spreadsheet. I use street names and names from movie characters from the 30s, 40s, and 50s. I use last names as first names and vice versa. As far as fictitious places-restaurants, colleges, and medical facilities-I place them in real neighborhoods & streets.
I Google highways, neighborhoods, towns, etc., to ensure my geographical information is correct. (Don’t you love technology?)
About my spreadsheet, when I write, I name each book title per tab [right now, I have ten titles I hope to complete by the end of December 2024]. This is where I outline my plots and subplots. The subplots allow me to keep things moving logically in the book. The order of my information is crucial. I can’t have Noble getting married in one chapter and two chapters over, she’s dating a guy from Florida (lol).
Every adult character in my books has a medical condition, is educated, and has a physical flaw. It’s the way of the world. Think about the people that you know. Do you know anyone twenty-five or older who’s not being treated for at least one medical condition? Everyone that you know has some type of education-whether formal or informal. Formal is more visible. Ask a bus driver who’s been on the job for 10-15 years. They could write a how-to book. Physical flaws are natural. Some are hidden with makeup, but it’s there.
DL: Is there any particular author or book that influenced you in any way, either growing up or as an adult?
VMR: Not really. I have favorite authors, though-Richard Wright, James Baldwin, August Wilson, Zora Neale Hurston, Alice Walker, James Patterson, Patricia Cornwell, David Baldacci, and my all-time favorite-Louis L’Amour. He writes Westerns. One of these days, I’m going to attempt a Western. I love’ em (lol)
DL: If you could choose a superpower, what would it be and why?
VMR: Heart Zapper. If I see a person who’s selfish, unkind, inconsiderate, etc. I’d zap them a new lifetime heart.
DL: If you were hosting a dinner party which three authors would be your dream guests and why?
VMR: David Baldacci (political suspense with that lawyer’s touch), James Patterson (contemporary crime writer), and Louis L’Amour (western). All three are pretty intense, detailed, and thorough writers in their genre.
DL: What are the keys to success in marketing your book(s)?
VMR: I market in the local communities where I’ve lived and worked and where my family lives. Social media is good, but I rely on my old stomping grounds to get the word out-Philly, Jersey, and my hometown-Suffolk, VA.
My husband is quite supportive as well. He’s from North Jersey and always tells his family and friends when I have a new book released. My budget is relatively small, so I determine the best use for my dollars.
Example: If you had $250 to spend over a three-month period, which would you choose-1 Facebook ad or 3 book festivals in your local communities over five months?
DL: What tips would you give to aspiring writers?
VMR: I would give them the following tips:
Never Stop Learning About Writing (it’s a never-ending process)
Don’t (try) copy someone else’s style. Develop your own.
Enrich Your Vocabulary by Reading (it really doesn’t matter what you read, as long as you read)
Research. Fiction writers do research. Contrary to what the public thinks, there are facts in fiction writing. If your research skills are not up to par, begin to develop them by researching things you know nothing about.
DL: What are three fun facts about yourself?
VMR: Here you go:
I was a writer for my high school newspaper.
I wrote for the college paper when I attended Mercer County Community College in Trenton, NJ. I interviewed Maya Angelou.
I was a writer for the Temple University (Philly) yearbook during my last two years of college.
DL: Would you like to share an excerpt from Imprints of Her Decisions?
VMR: Sure! Here’s an excerpt (In Her Care) from Imprints of Her Decision which is a book of 10 short stories:
Essex stood up abruptly and pointed her finger at her youngest brother. “Maybe if you had the guts to tell her, we wouldn’t be in this predicament. So you, mister, just shut up!”
She strode across the room to the table in the dining room, grabbed her purse, and returned. She stopped before Butler and pulled an envelope from a side pocket of the purse.
“Take this letter.” She thrust the envelope into the woman’s left hand.
“Our endearing mother died because of you. Your clumsiness and stupidity are beyond me. I don’t care how long you’ve been working with patients. You should have never tried to handle a 300-pound patient by yourself. When you caused her to fall and hit her head, she suffered a concussion and went into a coma; days later, she died. We are suing you and the nursing care agency. Your name is at the top of the list.”
Butler’s mouth dropped in disbelief! Thinking back, over the past year, she recalled the silent treatment, going out without her, the meetings with his sister and brother, and family functions without inviting her. All this time, her husband blamed her for his mother’s death.
She stared at all of them. How could they? This was unreal. The fall was an accident. The envelope clutched in her right hand, Butler left the room, tears streaming down her face. The anniversary celebration is an afterthought at this point.
Note: I Am Spivey was released May 11, 2023 and Merry Molly Ambassador was released May 16, 2023.
DL: What new projects are you currently working on?
VMR: I’m working on the following projects:
Adult
A historical novel (based in Philly)
A book of 10 short stories-romance humor (based in Virginia, Philly & Jersey)
Book #3 of a political series based in my hometown (Suffolk, VA)
Children
Book #5 of My Life With Leah Chandler Series
Glover Cousins Book #1 of a new children’s series
I try to write 4 books a year. The goal is to complete 3 more books for 2023 from the ones above. I’ve started them already. It’s a matter of making it to the finish line with 3 of them (lol).
DL: Where can readers learn more about you and purchase your book(s)?
VMR: Readers can find more information here:
Website: https://mysuffolkgirlbooks.wixsite.co...
Amazon Page: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/...
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VMRobertsAut...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suffolkgirl...
Blog: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show...
DL: Thanks so much for being here with us today. I know my readers will enjoy getting to know you and your work.
VMR: Thank you very much!
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
https://vocalexpressions.blogspot.com...
Author’s Bio: VM Roberts’ hobby is writing. It’s a passion she discovered in fourth grade at East Suffolk Elementary School. This hobby has led to publishing fiction and non-fiction titles over the past thirteen years. She has written a two-set collection of her memoirs, crime thrillers, women’s fiction, young adult novels, and a series of children’s books for a total of 26 books. She’s working on a humorous romance book of short stories and a historical fiction novel.
A Suffolk, Virginia native, Ms. Roberts resided in Trenton, New Jersey, for ten years, eventually settling in the City of Brotherly Love, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, for thirty years. These cities and their surroundings are often the settings for her writings. She currently resides in Howard County, MD.
Ms. Roberts is a healthcare administrator with over thirty-five years of experience in the industry. This experience has allowed her to serve as a college instructor for fifteen years.
She holds an MPH in Epidemiology, an MBA in Health Administration, and a BA in Journalism.
Deliah Lawrence: What is your writing process?
VM Roberts: Wow, it’s complicated. I employ the use of technology 99% of the time. When an idea pops into my head at odd times, I grab my phone, type it into the notes section on my iPhone, and email it to myself.
Ideas are constantly popping into my head regardless of where I am – Walmart, the doctor’s office, a road trip, in the middle of dinner (lol). I’ve held up the line in the market a few times, jotting things down on my phone so I don’t lose my thoughts. I’ve been known sometimes to allow folks to go ahead of me.
I maintain a spreadsheet of names, fictitious places, career titles, etc., so I don’t have to search for what I’m looking for when I need it. Random searching for things like this slows me down. I have over 700 first and last names in my spreadsheet. I use street names and names from movie characters from the 30s, 40s, and 50s. I use last names as first names and vice versa. As far as fictitious places-restaurants, colleges, and medical facilities-I place them in real neighborhoods & streets.
I Google highways, neighborhoods, towns, etc., to ensure my geographical information is correct. (Don’t you love technology?)
About my spreadsheet, when I write, I name each book title per tab [right now, I have ten titles I hope to complete by the end of December 2024]. This is where I outline my plots and subplots. The subplots allow me to keep things moving logically in the book. The order of my information is crucial. I can’t have Noble getting married in one chapter and two chapters over, she’s dating a guy from Florida (lol).
Every adult character in my books has a medical condition, is educated, and has a physical flaw. It’s the way of the world. Think about the people that you know. Do you know anyone twenty-five or older who’s not being treated for at least one medical condition? Everyone that you know has some type of education-whether formal or informal. Formal is more visible. Ask a bus driver who’s been on the job for 10-15 years. They could write a how-to book. Physical flaws are natural. Some are hidden with makeup, but it’s there.
DL: Is there any particular author or book that influenced you in any way, either growing up or as an adult?
VMR: Not really. I have favorite authors, though-Richard Wright, James Baldwin, August Wilson, Zora Neale Hurston, Alice Walker, James Patterson, Patricia Cornwell, David Baldacci, and my all-time favorite-Louis L’Amour. He writes Westerns. One of these days, I’m going to attempt a Western. I love’ em (lol)
DL: If you could choose a superpower, what would it be and why?
VMR: Heart Zapper. If I see a person who’s selfish, unkind, inconsiderate, etc. I’d zap them a new lifetime heart.
DL: If you were hosting a dinner party which three authors would be your dream guests and why?
VMR: David Baldacci (political suspense with that lawyer’s touch), James Patterson (contemporary crime writer), and Louis L’Amour (western). All three are pretty intense, detailed, and thorough writers in their genre.
DL: What are the keys to success in marketing your book(s)?
VMR: I market in the local communities where I’ve lived and worked and where my family lives. Social media is good, but I rely on my old stomping grounds to get the word out-Philly, Jersey, and my hometown-Suffolk, VA.
My husband is quite supportive as well. He’s from North Jersey and always tells his family and friends when I have a new book released. My budget is relatively small, so I determine the best use for my dollars.
Example: If you had $250 to spend over a three-month period, which would you choose-1 Facebook ad or 3 book festivals in your local communities over five months?
DL: What tips would you give to aspiring writers?
VMR: I would give them the following tips:
Never Stop Learning About Writing (it’s a never-ending process)
Don’t (try) copy someone else’s style. Develop your own.
Enrich Your Vocabulary by Reading (it really doesn’t matter what you read, as long as you read)
Research. Fiction writers do research. Contrary to what the public thinks, there are facts in fiction writing. If your research skills are not up to par, begin to develop them by researching things you know nothing about.
DL: What are three fun facts about yourself?
VMR: Here you go:
I was a writer for my high school newspaper.
I wrote for the college paper when I attended Mercer County Community College in Trenton, NJ. I interviewed Maya Angelou.
I was a writer for the Temple University (Philly) yearbook during my last two years of college.
DL: Would you like to share an excerpt from Imprints of Her Decisions?
VMR: Sure! Here’s an excerpt (In Her Care) from Imprints of Her Decision which is a book of 10 short stories:
Essex stood up abruptly and pointed her finger at her youngest brother. “Maybe if you had the guts to tell her, we wouldn’t be in this predicament. So you, mister, just shut up!”
She strode across the room to the table in the dining room, grabbed her purse, and returned. She stopped before Butler and pulled an envelope from a side pocket of the purse.
“Take this letter.” She thrust the envelope into the woman’s left hand.
“Our endearing mother died because of you. Your clumsiness and stupidity are beyond me. I don’t care how long you’ve been working with patients. You should have never tried to handle a 300-pound patient by yourself. When you caused her to fall and hit her head, she suffered a concussion and went into a coma; days later, she died. We are suing you and the nursing care agency. Your name is at the top of the list.”
Butler’s mouth dropped in disbelief! Thinking back, over the past year, she recalled the silent treatment, going out without her, the meetings with his sister and brother, and family functions without inviting her. All this time, her husband blamed her for his mother’s death.
She stared at all of them. How could they? This was unreal. The fall was an accident. The envelope clutched in her right hand, Butler left the room, tears streaming down her face. The anniversary celebration is an afterthought at this point.
Note: I Am Spivey was released May 11, 2023 and Merry Molly Ambassador was released May 16, 2023.
DL: What new projects are you currently working on?
VMR: I’m working on the following projects:
Adult
A historical novel (based in Philly)
A book of 10 short stories-romance humor (based in Virginia, Philly & Jersey)
Book #3 of a political series based in my hometown (Suffolk, VA)
Children
Book #5 of My Life With Leah Chandler Series
Glover Cousins Book #1 of a new children’s series
I try to write 4 books a year. The goal is to complete 3 more books for 2023 from the ones above. I’ve started them already. It’s a matter of making it to the finish line with 3 of them (lol).
DL: Where can readers learn more about you and purchase your book(s)?
VMR: Readers can find more information here:
Website: https://mysuffolkgirlbooks.wixsite.co...
Amazon Page: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/...
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VMRobertsAut...
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suffolkgirl...
Blog: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show...
DL: Thanks so much for being here with us today. I know my readers will enjoy getting to know you and your work.
VMR: Thank you very much!
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
May 17, 2023
Matters Of The Heart-What Will You Do?
Matters Of The Heart-What Will You Do?
My husband and I have discussed it over the years. Lately, we’ve found ourselves talking about it more than ever-at least once a month in the past year. Things are changing in our lives as well as the world. It’s essential to keep up with the ever-changing society.
Matters of the heart are serious, at least in my eyes. As we continue to age, things like that cross our minds, but little is done about it in some households. Family is a matter of the heart that shouldn’t be ignored.
What am I talking about? DNR, POA, Will & Life Insurance
DNR
A do not resuscitate [DNR] is a medical order, written or oral, depending on the country, noting that an individual should not receive CPR should the person's heart stops beating. The individual who completes a DNR should specify what the family must due in life-prolonging situations. Sometimes these decisions and the relevant documents include other medical decisions around critical or life-prolonging medical interventions. Place a copy of the document in your medical file and keep a copy at home. Revisit the document at least once a year.
DNRs and legal rights vary by state. Ensure you do your research regarding such issues. If you cannot consult an attorney, research community groups that provide free or a scaled fee for legal consultation services. Don’t forget about universities and colleges with legal programs where a paralegal or instructing attorney can offer advice.
POA
A [general] power of attorney [POA] is a legal document allowing someone else to act on your behalf regarding financial matters.
A medical power of attorney is a legal document in which an individual names an agent to make medical decisions on the individual’s behalf. The agent can only use it in medical circumstances.
POAs and legal rights vary by state. Ensure you do your research regarding such issues. If you cannot consult an attorney, research community groups that provide free or a scaled fee for legal consultation services. Don’t forget about universities and colleges with legal programs where a paralegal or instructing attorney can offer advice.
Will & Life Insurance
You may not think you need a will. However, one is encouraged. Simply stated, a Will is a legal document that states who will inherit your assets and belongings after you pass away. Assets are not always money.
Perhaps your mother, father, or grandparents (or other close family) owns a valuable piece of furniture, an heirloom, or jewelry. These things should be part of a Will. It’s awful when a family fights or stops speaking over things when a person dies. The idea is to unite families.
As a writer, I’ve included my published books in my Will (along with other things). Each time I publish a book, I update my spreadsheet and Will. I even have instructions on what to do if I’m in the middle of a book. . .
What about arrangements and life insurance? Have you written down plans for your burial place and the money? Do you even have a life insurance policy? Or, do you think a policy is not important?
That’s another story. Consider what you can give up right now and use the money to purchase a [$55] policy instead, for your family’s sake. Matters of the Heart – remember?
Was your loved one employed? If so, was a life insurance policy available through the employer? Sometimes that's not enough. This is where the extra policy comes in. One you purchase outside of the job.
I hope you find this information helpful. As a friendly tip, consider revisiting your documents as often as needed to keep them updated.
Helpful Resources
Ensure you research the laws of your state regarding the completion of a DNR, POA & Will
FindLaw
https://www.findlaw.com/state/health-...
LegalZoom (Forms)
https://www.legalzoom.com/personal/
Will Requirements by State
https://www.lawserver.com/will-requir...
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
My husband and I have discussed it over the years. Lately, we’ve found ourselves talking about it more than ever-at least once a month in the past year. Things are changing in our lives as well as the world. It’s essential to keep up with the ever-changing society.
Matters of the heart are serious, at least in my eyes. As we continue to age, things like that cross our minds, but little is done about it in some households. Family is a matter of the heart that shouldn’t be ignored.
What am I talking about? DNR, POA, Will & Life Insurance
DNR
A do not resuscitate [DNR] is a medical order, written or oral, depending on the country, noting that an individual should not receive CPR should the person's heart stops beating. The individual who completes a DNR should specify what the family must due in life-prolonging situations. Sometimes these decisions and the relevant documents include other medical decisions around critical or life-prolonging medical interventions. Place a copy of the document in your medical file and keep a copy at home. Revisit the document at least once a year.
DNRs and legal rights vary by state. Ensure you do your research regarding such issues. If you cannot consult an attorney, research community groups that provide free or a scaled fee for legal consultation services. Don’t forget about universities and colleges with legal programs where a paralegal or instructing attorney can offer advice.
POA
A [general] power of attorney [POA] is a legal document allowing someone else to act on your behalf regarding financial matters.
A medical power of attorney is a legal document in which an individual names an agent to make medical decisions on the individual’s behalf. The agent can only use it in medical circumstances.
POAs and legal rights vary by state. Ensure you do your research regarding such issues. If you cannot consult an attorney, research community groups that provide free or a scaled fee for legal consultation services. Don’t forget about universities and colleges with legal programs where a paralegal or instructing attorney can offer advice.
Will & Life Insurance
You may not think you need a will. However, one is encouraged. Simply stated, a Will is a legal document that states who will inherit your assets and belongings after you pass away. Assets are not always money.
Perhaps your mother, father, or grandparents (or other close family) owns a valuable piece of furniture, an heirloom, or jewelry. These things should be part of a Will. It’s awful when a family fights or stops speaking over things when a person dies. The idea is to unite families.
As a writer, I’ve included my published books in my Will (along with other things). Each time I publish a book, I update my spreadsheet and Will. I even have instructions on what to do if I’m in the middle of a book. . .
What about arrangements and life insurance? Have you written down plans for your burial place and the money? Do you even have a life insurance policy? Or, do you think a policy is not important?
That’s another story. Consider what you can give up right now and use the money to purchase a [$55] policy instead, for your family’s sake. Matters of the Heart – remember?
Was your loved one employed? If so, was a life insurance policy available through the employer? Sometimes that's not enough. This is where the extra policy comes in. One you purchase outside of the job.
I hope you find this information helpful. As a friendly tip, consider revisiting your documents as often as needed to keep them updated.
Helpful Resources
Ensure you research the laws of your state regarding the completion of a DNR, POA & Will
FindLaw
https://www.findlaw.com/state/health-...
LegalZoom (Forms)
https://www.legalzoom.com/personal/
Will Requirements by State
https://www.lawserver.com/will-requir...
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
March 23, 2023
My Travel Wishlist
My Travel Wishlist
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about traveling. I haven’t done a great deal of extensive traveling for several reasons: family, money, and time.
I’ve been fortunate to have gone on annual family vacations over the years. But, nothing to the extent of what I have set in my mind to date. Now that I’m older, have put in 40 years of work in the health care industry, I truly would like to explore other parts of the United States besides the east coast. I have a travel wish list. My travel abroad list includes: Paris, The UK, and Spain.
Unfortunately, current societal conditions will not allow me to leisurely travel to a country where there’s global illness, political unrest, and other dangers lurking about for foreign travelers.
I applaud you if you’ve taken advantage of the opportunity to travel overseas or explored other US states. Perhaps there’s hope for me yet.
My goal is to take one step at a time. I have a US Travel Wish list. I’m sorry to say, I don’t function well in cold weather. So, those places known for cold or extremely cold weather, which has some of the most beautiful scenery, will not go on my wish list: North and South Dakota, Montana, Colorado, Alaska, Wyoming, and New Hampshire.
Thank you to the photographers of the Pixabay community, I’ve live my travel dreams of these states through your lenses. Your remarkable, amazing talents have allowed me to travel to those states virtually.
Before I divulge my American wish list, I will tell you where I have been. California: LA, San Diego, and Santa Monica; Georgia: Atlanta, Tybee Island, and Savannah; NC: Nags Head; SC: Myrtle Beach; Massachusetts: Cape Cod, Martha’s Vineyard; Utah: Salt Lake City. Illinois: Chicago; Ohio: Cleveland, Dayton, Columbus, Cincinnati, and Akron; Michigan: Detroit, Lansing, Ann Arbor, Battle Creek, and Saginaw; Indiana: Indianapolis, Fort Wayne; and, Arkansas: Little Rock.
Don’t be too alarmed. Some of these roads traveled were for work and others family vacations. I’ll leave you some mystery by allowing you to decide which goes in each bucket.
Traveling has an infinite road of education to be explored. There’s an enormous amount of information to learn through travel. Culture, natives, cuisine, language/dialects, political environments-local and state. Additionally, you take your knowledge with you and others learn from you.
For example, when I traveled to Detroit, I visited a restaurant that had Philly cheese steak on the menu. I ordered it. Blah! You know, I made it my duty to speak with the chef. “Sir, this is not a traditional Philly cheese steak. Let’s talk 😊.”
Without further ado, I present to you, my US, short travel wish list: Washington State, Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, Oregon, Hawaii, and California (again).
Tell me about your travels and wishlist.
Happy Traveling 💙
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about traveling. I haven’t done a great deal of extensive traveling for several reasons: family, money, and time.
I’ve been fortunate to have gone on annual family vacations over the years. But, nothing to the extent of what I have set in my mind to date. Now that I’m older, have put in 40 years of work in the health care industry, I truly would like to explore other parts of the United States besides the east coast. I have a travel wish list. My travel abroad list includes: Paris, The UK, and Spain.
Unfortunately, current societal conditions will not allow me to leisurely travel to a country where there’s global illness, political unrest, and other dangers lurking about for foreign travelers.
I applaud you if you’ve taken advantage of the opportunity to travel overseas or explored other US states. Perhaps there’s hope for me yet.
My goal is to take one step at a time. I have a US Travel Wish list. I’m sorry to say, I don’t function well in cold weather. So, those places known for cold or extremely cold weather, which has some of the most beautiful scenery, will not go on my wish list: North and South Dakota, Montana, Colorado, Alaska, Wyoming, and New Hampshire.
Thank you to the photographers of the Pixabay community, I’ve live my travel dreams of these states through your lenses. Your remarkable, amazing talents have allowed me to travel to those states virtually.
Before I divulge my American wish list, I will tell you where I have been. California: LA, San Diego, and Santa Monica; Georgia: Atlanta, Tybee Island, and Savannah; NC: Nags Head; SC: Myrtle Beach; Massachusetts: Cape Cod, Martha’s Vineyard; Utah: Salt Lake City. Illinois: Chicago; Ohio: Cleveland, Dayton, Columbus, Cincinnati, and Akron; Michigan: Detroit, Lansing, Ann Arbor, Battle Creek, and Saginaw; Indiana: Indianapolis, Fort Wayne; and, Arkansas: Little Rock.
Don’t be too alarmed. Some of these roads traveled were for work and others family vacations. I’ll leave you some mystery by allowing you to decide which goes in each bucket.
Traveling has an infinite road of education to be explored. There’s an enormous amount of information to learn through travel. Culture, natives, cuisine, language/dialects, political environments-local and state. Additionally, you take your knowledge with you and others learn from you.
For example, when I traveled to Detroit, I visited a restaurant that had Philly cheese steak on the menu. I ordered it. Blah! You know, I made it my duty to speak with the chef. “Sir, this is not a traditional Philly cheese steak. Let’s talk 😊.”
Without further ado, I present to you, my US, short travel wish list: Washington State, Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, Oregon, Hawaii, and California (again).
Tell me about your travels and wishlist.
Happy Traveling 💙
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
February 24, 2023
Intergenerational Technology Learning Gaps: Baby Boomers, Millennials & GenZs
Inter-generational Technology Learning Gaps: Baby Boomers, Millennials & GenZs
Some Baby Boomers struggle when it comes to the use of technology.
I’m fortunate. The essential use of technology has not stumped me. Computers, cell phones, email, Apps, and smart TVs were not around when we were growing up.
However, some Boomers are stumped by the machines, and their use has taken over our everyday lives. Cell phones, text messaging, selfies, banking, calling a company to pay a bill, making an inquiry, smart TVs . . . Welcome to the world of technology and the frustration that comes along with it.
The use of technology has intensified over the years. Have I been able to keep up? To a degree. But, when I become frustrated, I walk away and come back to it later . . . only to become frustrated all over again.
Who can help me? Who can assist the Boomers? Millennials and GenZ folks. There’s one problem, though. They (not all) tend to have no patience with Boomers.
When I send out a text to a Millennial or GenZ individual who’s part of my circle (family, friends, co-workers), I receive three or four more texts before I can respond. I have to read each one carefully to respond accordingly. By the time I answer, the message is old. And it’s a day or two before I receive a reply to my message or none at all.
I’m a slow typist when it comes to texting. That’s when I have to make a phone call. I’m not a fan of texting. Having said that, I find it unavoidable. It’s the way of the world nowadays. I have family members and friends who despise texting because it’s a pain in the neck.
I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, which makes it difficult to type on the small device when I have a flare-up. My eyes are not what they used to be when I was younger. These are my health issues.
What about other Boomers and their health issues? Can you imagine their struggles if no one is around to help them? Some caregivers and medical providers use telemedicine for office visits. This method became quite popular at the height of COVID.
Texting, Face Timing, and the computer (Zoom, Teams) is the primary way some of them can maintain a relationship with their families.
Many companies do business via texting. For example, I receive a text message when it's time to refill my prescription. Reply “Y” to refill or “S” to STOP. If I don’t respond, my prescription won’t be refilled.
Ever had an issue with your cable company, and they want to send a link to your phone to troubleshoot the problem? The cable remote. How confusing is that gadget for people who grew up with three channels?
Technology is supposed to be about convenience. Millennial and GenZ folks are quick technology learners. When we reach out to them for help, it would be great if they slowed down and took the time to walk us through how to work the technology instead of speeding through without acknowledging that we truly understand. Impatient. No empathy.
Does technology slow down the independence of the Baby Boomers? Will it hinder our everyday life further as it continues to evolve and we continue to age?
How can we bridge the technology learning gap between Boomers, Millennials, and GenZ generations?
VM Roberts, Author
VM Roberts
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
Some Baby Boomers struggle when it comes to the use of technology.
I’m fortunate. The essential use of technology has not stumped me. Computers, cell phones, email, Apps, and smart TVs were not around when we were growing up.
However, some Boomers are stumped by the machines, and their use has taken over our everyday lives. Cell phones, text messaging, selfies, banking, calling a company to pay a bill, making an inquiry, smart TVs . . . Welcome to the world of technology and the frustration that comes along with it.
The use of technology has intensified over the years. Have I been able to keep up? To a degree. But, when I become frustrated, I walk away and come back to it later . . . only to become frustrated all over again.
Who can help me? Who can assist the Boomers? Millennials and GenZ folks. There’s one problem, though. They (not all) tend to have no patience with Boomers.
When I send out a text to a Millennial or GenZ individual who’s part of my circle (family, friends, co-workers), I receive three or four more texts before I can respond. I have to read each one carefully to respond accordingly. By the time I answer, the message is old. And it’s a day or two before I receive a reply to my message or none at all.
I’m a slow typist when it comes to texting. That’s when I have to make a phone call. I’m not a fan of texting. Having said that, I find it unavoidable. It’s the way of the world nowadays. I have family members and friends who despise texting because it’s a pain in the neck.
I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, which makes it difficult to type on the small device when I have a flare-up. My eyes are not what they used to be when I was younger. These are my health issues.
What about other Boomers and their health issues? Can you imagine their struggles if no one is around to help them? Some caregivers and medical providers use telemedicine for office visits. This method became quite popular at the height of COVID.
Texting, Face Timing, and the computer (Zoom, Teams) is the primary way some of them can maintain a relationship with their families.
Many companies do business via texting. For example, I receive a text message when it's time to refill my prescription. Reply “Y” to refill or “S” to STOP. If I don’t respond, my prescription won’t be refilled.
Ever had an issue with your cable company, and they want to send a link to your phone to troubleshoot the problem? The cable remote. How confusing is that gadget for people who grew up with three channels?
Technology is supposed to be about convenience. Millennial and GenZ folks are quick technology learners. When we reach out to them for help, it would be great if they slowed down and took the time to walk us through how to work the technology instead of speeding through without acknowledging that we truly understand. Impatient. No empathy.
Does technology slow down the independence of the Baby Boomers? Will it hinder our everyday life further as it continues to evolve and we continue to age?
How can we bridge the technology learning gap between Boomers, Millennials, and GenZ generations?
VM Roberts, Author
VM Roberts
Edited by: Michael A. Robinson Jr
