P.J. Ferguson's Blog, page 3

Be who you wish you were

There's a point in our path where we have to stop trying to do, or become....and just BE what it is we're trying to accomplish. Be the person we wish we were. Be healed. Be happy. Be at peace. Be successful. At some point, we have to identify as what we're striving for. Otherwise, we'll become stuck trying.

Trying becomes our mantra. Wounded becomes our identity. Failure becomes our unconscious endgame. If we stop trying and BE, then we are healed. We are strong. We can flow forward rather than holding on to vestiges of the past.

Be who you were born to be. Let go of the fears, doubts and really-bad-programming this world has imposed upon you. Be free. Flow with peace and joy. Live your destiny & your bliss.

Live as if you already are who and what you're striving for. Be that person. Think what that person would think. Do what that person would do. Free yourself from anything and everything that doesn't fit that person's best life.

Stop trying, and Be.

Are your dreams worth it?

Yoda said: "Do or do not. There is no try." I call bullshit. Sorry, Yoda. Do your best! If it doesn't work out, do your best again! That's called trying. You will do better and better each time you try. Most of us dreamers dream big. We have to grow big enough to STEP INTO OUR DREAMS.

How do we do that? A step at a time. A try at a time. A failure at a time and trying again and again. Just because you didn't do it your first time doesn't mean you failed. It just means you have a ways to go. You have more to learn, skills to develop further.

If your dream is worth it, not only will it take time and effort, it will motivate and inspire you to keep going.

Time to try something different...

If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got. Don't like what you've got? Then you need to do something different. Or you might do the same thing differentLY.

Doing something new and different can be scary, but think of it as an adventure! We're always afraid of what might happen, but good things happen, too. Chances are the worst won't happen and we'll be just fine. So, take a chance. Take a bunch of chances. Put yourself out there and do your best.

This life was meant to be explored and enjoyed, not spent hiding in our comfort zone. This is life. Get out there and experience it to the fullest. EMBRACE THE ADVENTURE!

Have you tried NOT trying?

We often try to force, control, manipulate, push & pressure life into giving us what we want. But we're not in control. Forcing things often makes things worse. And there are simply some things we have absolutely zero influence over.

Sometimes it is better to let go. Let things sort themselves out. Trust the timing of the Universe.

When we try to control and force we can create frustration, anger, resentment, and make things worse. Learn to FLOW with life rather than force it. BE CALM, not controlling. BE PATIENT rather than pushing and pressuring things that shouldn't be. Consult wisdom rather than giving into your base desires, judgments and expectations.

Try not trying for a while and go live a good life. Plant the seed of positivity everywhere you go and the best things will come back to you in their best season.

Is something not working no matter how hard you try? Try NOT trying...

Intelligent life?...

Joking but not joking... Everything is relative. Everyone's reality is relative. Everyone's perspective is relative. Nothing we know is set in stone because we see things from our own unique lens. It's important to open your mind to see things from others' perspectives. Step in others' shoes on a daily basis. Learn from others' knowledge & experience. Pay attention.

Never judge others. Negative judgments stem from fear. Period. Rather than judge, be curious. Be inquisitive. Be wise. Welcome the beauty of diversity.

And always remember that the highest form of intelligence is kindness.

Overdoing it...and unhappy?

I often find myself getting down on myself for not doing more. I often find myself trying to do more than I can, and failing at nearly everything because I'm spread so thin. If you're an overachiever or over-doer, you might find yourself in the same situation -- feeling bad for not meeting your own UNREALISTIC expectations.

This post is just a little reminder to stop doing that crap. Stop getting down on yourself. Stop trying to do more than you can. This post is a reminder to dig a littler deeper into the things that REALLY MATTER in life. This post is permission to LET GO of some things that really aren't as important, or should take care of themselves. You don't have to fix everything. You don't have to control everything. The control you think you have is an illusion, anyway.

Remember to stop and take pride and joy in the many things you ARE doing, that you HAVE accomplished. Remember to enjoy the journey. Stop expending the moment for some promise of tomorrow. Have peace NOW. Have joy NOW. Be kind to yourself NOW.

Do your best. Let that be enough. Let go of the rest. Enjoy each step of the journey.

That's the point of life!

Happiness is simple...

It's drama that makes life hard. Ditch the drama. Just be happy. Do it today, it's all you have.

Civilized brutes?

For centuries -- millennia -- societies have been confused about the meaning of the word 'civilized'. Civilization grew through people's ability to cooperate and thrive -- TOGETHER. Yet, as technology has advanced throughout these millennia, the new technologies have always been used to wage war and to brutalize the world. Is this civilized? Is this living in cooperation and harmony?

NO!

Waging war and violence with advanced technology is just a sophisticated way of facilitating human barbarism. Again, this has been done for thousands of years.

But today is a new day. It's OUR day. We are alive, here and now. It is our chance to wage peace using technology. It is our chance to use technologies great advances to bolster kindness and increase safety. Are you using technology to make the world a better place? If not, I encourage you not to fall into the trap of thinking you're civilized. Unless you create daily peace and use compassion, you're just a brute with a phone, car and fancy watch. So, with or without technology, how can you bring some civilization to the world, today?

It's not about you...

Monday humble pie day, lol. Actually, this statement isn't to bring you down but to lift you up. 'You' - 'Me' - 'I' is an interesting concept. It's an interesting illusion. It's an illusion that we are separate and disconnected. It's an illusion that we exist as a sole entity completely isolated from everyone and everything else. Yet, we have this singular experience of life that we cal 'Me/Myself" ... "I".

True wisdom comes from dissolving this illusion of the isolated, singular self. Otherwise, we end up feeling lonely. We seek our own good at the expense of others. We fail to experience empathy and show compassion. We live in fear.

By widening our gaze to understand that we are part of a family, families, communities, cultures, nations, an entire world... a world that we are part of, that we depend on... Then we realize that we are not alone. We are not separate. We are part of a big, beautiful picture of LIFE. With this wider view of life, we become conscious of how our words and actions affect everything else. We understand that the harm we cause harms ourselves. The good we do also returns to us. We feel joy and peace in knowing we are not alone. We are part.

You're not alone...

I'm with Anne Frank in believing that everyone is good at heart. In fact, most of the people I've met have been honestly good people. The thing is... good people do bad things when they're scared, desperate, &/or confused.

There's a lot of that going on in the world right now, people being scared, oppressed, and confused with bad information. There's a lot of arguing and fighting between people who MISBELIEVE they are on opposite sides from each other. The socio-political climate is making many people feel isolated, alone, and afraid.

But here's the truth: PEACE AND SAFETY ARE NEVER CREATED BY FIGHTING. EVER. We're not on opposite sides. That's an illusion by those with power seeking to keep their power by manipulation and fearmongering. We are on the same side, trying to create a peaceful, safe world for ourselves and our loved ones. The only way to make that happen is through cooperation, compassion, empathy, communication, seeing eye-to-eye and seeking honest solutions.

If you're ever feeling isolated, alone, desperate, or scared, please remember you are not alone. There are lots of good people out there who care. Reach out. Connect with those good people. Create pockets of light and joy in the world around you. You can do it. This life was meant to be loved and enjoyed and explored. Go love, enjoy and explore your life and this world. It's full of wonder and beauty--and so are you.

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