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Story of The Goose and Golden Eggs

Go – Get Your Golden Eggs…

A farmer and his wife were living on small poultry farm which consists of a very few chicks and geese. Every morning they used to collect eggs to sell in the tiny hilly village of northern India.

One especially blessed night of Sharad Purnima – they prepared a sweet payasam (rice-kheer) and placed it under sky for special rays of moon to add medicinal value to the dish as part of their old tradition. But one of geese finished that sweet dish during very early next morning and she surprisingly gave a golden egg to astonish the farmer couple. Now, that blessed hen started giving one golden egg every morning. The amazed farmer coupled thanked God for giving them a live factory to produce one golden egg every day. They started expecting more from that hen. But she was able to give only one golden egg a day. Both first tried pleasing the goose and then torturing her to get more golden eggs. But were getting only one egg every day. Out of their frustration and greed, they made that special goose killed and also daily supply of golden egg.

 

Important components in this Story –

What is produced (the Golden Egg)           2.  by the production asset (the Goose)

Farmer’s Focus was only on getting the Golden Egg and Their Mistake was neglecting the Goose.

Moral of the Story: If one adopts a pattern of life that focuses only on golden eggs and neglects the goose, one will soon be without the asset that produces golden eggs…… And on the other hand, if he/she only cares of the goose with no aim towards the golden eggs, soon won’t have the wherewithal (means) to feed oneself or the goose.

Effectiveness lies in the balance – P / PC Balance.

Excessive focus on P (Production/Desired Results) may ruined health, worn-out machines, depleted bank accounts, and broken relations.  Too much focus on PC (Production capability – the ability or asset that produces the golden egg) is like a person endlessly going to school, never producing and living on other people’s golden eggs – the eternal student syndrome.

We mainly deal with 3 kinds of Assets viz. Physical (Car, Bike, AC etc.), Financial (Investments) and Human (Customers and Employees).

If we only focus on golden egg – the more profits – and ignore servicing and taking care of our esteemed customers/employees, ignored their concerns etc…we will be out of business. We are killing our goose who has the capacity to produce golden egg for us.

 

Life is all about having Golden Egg by rightly feeding to the Goose. To get golden egg from anything or any relationship – feed the goose aptly and effectively.

 

Desired Happiness in Married Life (Golden Egg) will automatically flow when we give due respect, care and love to our spouse (Goose).
Appreciation and Appraisals (Golden Egg) will bestow upon an employee when he/she gives due importance to work-n-workmates (Goose).
Enjoyment (Golden Egg) will be in abundance when we will exercise regularly and make our body (Goose) fit-n-healthy.
A Student’s Mark-Sheet (desired Golden Egg) will be high on digits when he will sincerely devote his time (Goose) in attending lectures and preparing topics.

 

The following may be few suggestions to feed the goose and get the desired outcome from every personal or professional relations by Build strong Emotional Bank Account and continuously depositing in that instead of withdrawal. Deposit will increase the Trust and ease the communication.

Understand the Individual

The essential point is to understand others deeply as Individuals, set the expectations accordingly and then treat them in terms of that understanding. Or in simple words, Treat others as you like be Treated by them.

 

Attending to the Little Things

People are very tender, very sensitive inside. I don’t believe age or experience makes much difference. In relationships, the little things are the big things. The little kindnesses and courtesies are importantly big deposits in your emotional account. Small discourtesies, little unkindness, little forms of disrespect make large withdrawals.

 

Keeping Commitments

Keeping a commitment or a promise is a major deposit; breaking one is a major withdrawal. In fact, there’s probably not a more massive withdrawal than to make a promise that’s important to someone and then not to come through.

People tend to build their hopes around promises…so adopt a philosophy of never making a promise we can’t keep.

 

Clarifying Expectations

Whenever you come into a new situation, it’s so important to get all the expectations out on the table. People will begin to judge each other through those expectations. And if they feel like their basic expectations have been violated, the reserve of trust is diminished. Clarifying expectations sometimes takes a great deal of courage.

We create many negative situations by simply assuming that our expectations are self-evident and that they are clearly understood and shared by other people.

 

Showing Personal Integrity

Integrity is the inner sense of “wholeness” deriving from qualities such as honesty and consistency of character. Integrity is, conforming reality to our words. Personal Integrity generates trust and is the basis of many different kinds of deposits.

As such, one may judge that Others have integrity to the extent that they act according to the values, beliefs, and principles, they claim to hold.

 

The Laws of Love and the Laws of Life

We make a huge deposit in our Emotional Bank Account by Loving without conditions, without strings. Our feeling of Love will be experienced by others in our gesture, treatment, co-operation, contribution, communication and will help others to feel secure and safe.

 

Having wonderful communication based on Trust will help us Enjoying our relations…

 

2017 – A Happy New Year

Just wishing someone Happy New Year is not suffice to make his/her Year – a really Happy.

Happiness is a personal thing. What makes me happy, might be very stupid or annoying to you.

On a very practical note, just passing the already received Happiness Messages to Others, will not make them Happier, neither You in receiving such.

Happiness is the basic requirement for every Life. Taking ownership of happiness by contemplating and working sincerely on these pointers will surely make anyone Happy…..

Exercise Regularly

We can’t enjoy any available facility or blessings, if we are not fit and healthy. Very basic requirement.  The only need is to realize this point and inculcate a habit of exercising and meditating daily…I mean Daily. In the beginning, it may look tedious but gradually it will be the most happiest and relaxing event of your day.

Explore Your Hobbies

There’s always something other than our professional work which excites us, fulfills us or even makes us cry in awe. Go finding “that taste” in Music, Movies, Dance and Food and then give your inclination to delve in your leisure time to relax and be with yourself thru any of your hobbies.

Be Frugal

Being frugal in spending Money and Time is the most advised action.  The truth is – Money helps us buy every material happiness. Spend wisely in quantity only for quality output.

Similarly, Whenever we are spending our Time on any activity (personal/professional/leisure), help yourself to look for return-on-investment (ROI).

Time and Money are the most valuable resources in enduring Happiness.

 

Learn new Skills

Learn at least one extra skill in this year, which fits in advancing your Professional Career and stability. Learning new skills help us grow in confidence and humility.

 

Visit Good Oldies

Spread Surprises by paying a warm visit to our not-so-often-meeting friends/relatives. Happiness sprouts in meeting friends. Make few new friends, if time permits, to know their culture/thoughts/stories/experiences.

 

Express Gratitude and Be Helping

We live in an interdependent society. If we are contributing in a few lives, others are too doing the same.  When we show our thankfulness towards the nature for providing all natural resources, thankfulness towards society and our co-citizens, undoubtedly we spread positive and happy vibes.

No words can describe the experience and ecstasy of endorsing a helping hand to the needy fellows of our society. Help your colleagues, friends, family and society to the extent best possible.

 

Solo Travel

Ownership comes with Traveling Alone, as well a sense of achievement. Solo Travel gives a 100% self-indulgence with an opportunity to dive deeper inside at our own ease. Freedom is synonyms for Solo Travel.

Cleanliness

Our surrounding, our living, our working space require positivity which do come from cleanliness. One can easily experience these if ever get a chance to visit progressive European and western countries. Also cleanliness in our thoughts helps us enjoy and spread happiness.

 

Understand and Accept

One of the biggest stumbling blocks is – we wish others to understand our feeling and act accordingly. We can simply be Happy if we reverse this equation and start understanding every situation or people and accept the things as they are. Seems difficult but most promising.

 

Lets’ try these pointers to make every day of 2017 – a truly fulfilling and blissful Year.

 

You Ask – Nature Reveals

Life lies in a pause…

This line punched me deep inside and inspired me to take a break from mechanical routine life filled with working, sleeping, eating….and to explore thyself in closeness to Nature who like a loving Mother, always believe in giving what we desire and require.

My inclination was to visit a place close to Delhi and should be surrounded with dense greenery, small hills and tidy lakes. A place filled with tranquility, scenic beauty, mesmerizing picturesque and away from commercial hassles was on my mind.

On free advice of a good traveler friend, I opted for Sat-Tal (a place of 7 Lakes).  A 6 hour comfortable train journey from Delhi landed me at a place which is also sought after by demigods for practicing austerity. I chose V-Resorts as my staying partner because of its mesmerizing picturesque location and some good reviews about its congenial staff, affordable pricing, great food and customized services.

I read from a famous book titled “The Secret” that Universe comes in full strength to fulfill our deep thoughts/feelings. On 1st day, while standing on the top of the hill and with gratitude in my voice and feelings, I appealed Mother Nature to open itself to me; I was deeply wishing to know how she operates, what is the purpose and role of every living entity in this voluminous universe. In the midst of tranquility and closeness, I truly wanted to hear the deep mysteries, the unknown.

To my greatest surprise, while enjoying a sumptuous dinner with other guests of V-Resorts, I met Mr. Shyam Sunder Sharma – a travel guide and bird lover who came to the place with a US family to visit a nearby bird sanctuary and to closely watch amazing birds. I felt privileged to hear from Mr. Shyam Sunder on the various aspect on nature’s activities, complete food chain and role of various animals in this whole spectacular system.

Shyam : Do you think if all Tigers are dead, we all humans will be dead.

Me : No. How’s that? How we the humans, a superior race depends on the living of Tigers.

Shyam : Do you see any positive role of Eagles in the nature ?

Me : No. Eagles just eat the dead  animals. What best they do for humanity?

Shyam : Tiger plays the role of a Terrifying Manager and Eagle as a Sweeper giving tremendous benefit to the nature and human society…….

Shyam kept on explaining me for an another hour, every unknown aspect of Nature with scientific and logical explanation, he learned, observed and experienced while the bonfire was making the slightly chilling atmosphere a truly heavenly experience.

I was thrilled and in awe after knowing that every living creature has a specific role to play. It is like we all are part of a never ending story, we all are working in a Big canvas Movie where every character has a specific role to play. And no role is good or bad but every role has some significance. If there’s no villain in a movie, strength and aura of Hero will be difficult to test and appreciate.

 

Next morning, it was time to dare and experience a 4km deep forest Solo Trekking to watch different species of birds and a beautiful waterfall along with picturesque landscapes. Sitting alone and silently beside the waterfall for 40 minutes in that deep forest was seemingly the best way to connect with Nature and pleading her to make me realize my predefined role and goal in this magnanimous Universe.

Upon looking widely, I find people who knowingly or unknowingly are working as per their role, un-importantly negative or positive, getting all empowerment and facilities from the universe to perform better. You can count renowned people from business, political, professional or creative world – check their rags to riches stories; just working in sync with the universe they got fame and every facility in abundance. Whosoever plays their part sincerely, gets all due appreciation and reward. The Universe is the producer and Nature is the director for our life’s big movie. The only lacking thing with most of us is  awareness of our respective role as an artist in this universal movie.

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Mediation is the best and the only way to dive deep inside and find our strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, what comes to us naturally and what requires a hell of struggle. Self-Realization is all about knowing the self and the role to play in this larger picture.

Once realized, we will not be bothered about why and what others are doing. Rather, we start enjoying our acts and life moment-by-moment as a good watcher, as we enjoy a movie and every character played beautifully.

Reading great minds, coming close to Nature and practicing Meditation are the best tools to know thyself; to know our role and goals in this universe and lead a fulfilling Life….

Other enjoyable Activities at Sattal can be :- Bird Watching, Kayaking, Yoga, Trekking, River Crossing, ParaGliding or Doing-Nothing