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April 27, 2020
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Please vote for The Seller of Sin, a book about a couple in troubled marriage. The book is rated in Amazon 4.7.
This is insight in human relationships, various cultures and dark psychology portrait of marriage. The Seller of Sins
Please vote for The Seller of Sin, a book about a couple in troubled marriage. The book is rated in Amazon 4.7.
This is insight in human relationships, various cultures and dark psychology portrait of marriage. The Seller of Sins
December 10, 2019
How to recognize supportive people?
When you walk on the hard path of betrayal and disloyalty, you will be frustrated. Everyone will be the same for you, the face you can't trust. Someone who will screw you. Another one who will use you and take advantage.
This is not the right way if you want success.
The first step to recover from traitors is to forget the past.
Don't look back, you are not going that way. It means:
If someone rejected you in the past, let him stay there. Don't beg for return and don't accept if he changes mind.
If someone called you after the century passed, don't accept this call. Ignore and go forward.
The second step is to stop comparing people. We are different, and if someone reminds you of the bad person in the past, this is not a pattern. It might look like this, but you will not repeat the same mistake twice, or you will fix it faster than before.
The third step is to accept changes. Don't afraid of changes, even it looks worse than your previous condition. Fear means that you are in a good way.
The fourth step is to recognize real from fake opportunities. A mixture of illusion and hope is a dangerous thing and beware of people who are promising too much.
How to recognize fake people on your way?
They hesitate.
They delay their decisions.
They make excuses for why they did not do what they promised.
Their promises are big, like "the world will hear about you".
They use too many sweet words.
What makes difference from amateur toward professionals?
Professional people use short and effective sentences.
They act on time and offer concrete things.
They say to you in forward what you can expect in some projects.
They are not involved emotionally. They don't call you darling and sweetie.
They have examples and names behind them, that is a proof of how their strategies work.
If you can take a look at someone's profile in social networks, it will tell you more than you thought. You want a review for your book? Did someone promise you to publish and edit your books for small money or free?
Just take a look. If you see a blank site or site spammed with tags and many avatars without links and a real photo, this is the impostor. Also, they ask donations for their funds and your vision is not interesting them. They use I, not WE in conversation.
Everyone wishes success nowadays, and it makes spaces for frauds and manipulations easier. You can spend money in vain or lost time for something that will not work out. Someone can offer you money if you invest money and then you will go through a complicated process to return your money back or you will get robbed online.
The business world is cruel, but the point is to find real connections and eliminate fakes. Time will show you the way, and intuition will show you where is the illusion and where is the reality.
This is not the right way if you want success.
The first step to recover from traitors is to forget the past.
Don't look back, you are not going that way. It means:
If someone rejected you in the past, let him stay there. Don't beg for return and don't accept if he changes mind.
If someone called you after the century passed, don't accept this call. Ignore and go forward.
The second step is to stop comparing people. We are different, and if someone reminds you of the bad person in the past, this is not a pattern. It might look like this, but you will not repeat the same mistake twice, or you will fix it faster than before.
The third step is to accept changes. Don't afraid of changes, even it looks worse than your previous condition. Fear means that you are in a good way.
The fourth step is to recognize real from fake opportunities. A mixture of illusion and hope is a dangerous thing and beware of people who are promising too much.
How to recognize fake people on your way?
They hesitate.
They delay their decisions.
They make excuses for why they did not do what they promised.
Their promises are big, like "the world will hear about you".
They use too many sweet words.
What makes difference from amateur toward professionals?
Professional people use short and effective sentences.
They act on time and offer concrete things.
They say to you in forward what you can expect in some projects.
They are not involved emotionally. They don't call you darling and sweetie.
They have examples and names behind them, that is a proof of how their strategies work.
If you can take a look at someone's profile in social networks, it will tell you more than you thought. You want a review for your book? Did someone promise you to publish and edit your books for small money or free?
Just take a look. If you see a blank site or site spammed with tags and many avatars without links and a real photo, this is the impostor. Also, they ask donations for their funds and your vision is not interesting them. They use I, not WE in conversation.
Everyone wishes success nowadays, and it makes spaces for frauds and manipulations easier. You can spend money in vain or lost time for something that will not work out. Someone can offer you money if you invest money and then you will go through a complicated process to return your money back or you will get robbed online.
The business world is cruel, but the point is to find real connections and eliminate fakes. Time will show you the way, and intuition will show you where is the illusion and where is the reality.
December 18, 2018
How to make a good review?
I started as an indie author before a year ago. Like every writer, I met with various kind of people. Many of them supported my work and I am very grateful to them. Also, some authors underestimated me, in a way “you need to learn a lot, to read more books from other authors, don’t rush with your stories. “
Every author needs a review. In this way, a book will get free marketing, because readers will grab a book which is recommended. Which was the movie you last saw in the cinema and why? For sure, it was the one which media recommended. Later you decide did you like it or not. The same is with books, you wish to see why people brag about a book, what is so special there? Impressions are very important.
I read and review about 22 books. My intention was to expand my knowledge, make my English better and to help authors who are dear to me. I chose them by myself because I am allergic to recommendations like: “Read and review my book. Purchase it. ” This reminds me of sellers door to door. Those are one I slam the door in their face.
If you want to be a helpful reviewer, here are some tips:
Be honest. If you say that something is good, and indeed this is barely worthy of reading, say what you really think. Just, say it short and clear. Don’t insult the author personally, because this is unethical.
Don’t talk about yourself and your work in the review. Amazon will get banned if you promote your work under other’s book reviews.
Don’t preach. Every author takes a good effort, hours and hours of writing and editing are in one book, so don’t talk from heights about the book.
Prove that you really read a book. Once a woman wrote a review, a negative tips about my book and she admitted that she only read the first chapter. If you did not read the book, you are not qualified to judge the content.
Don’t judge a book by the cover. Once a man reported my book cover, which is a symbolic one, without reading what is a book about.
If you don’t want to make a review, say it polite to the author, by the email. Say it short, I don’t like it, I can’t give a review. You don’t need to write the Bible why you don’t like it and burst your ego.
It is important how to say something, not just what you wish to say. If you say “sorry, I think this book needs editing”, it is not the same as you say ” you have no clue about writing”.
Great authors like Agatha Christie were rejected many times before they got famous. You never know how far the author can go.
Every author needs a review. In this way, a book will get free marketing, because readers will grab a book which is recommended. Which was the movie you last saw in the cinema and why? For sure, it was the one which media recommended. Later you decide did you like it or not. The same is with books, you wish to see why people brag about a book, what is so special there? Impressions are very important.
I read and review about 22 books. My intention was to expand my knowledge, make my English better and to help authors who are dear to me. I chose them by myself because I am allergic to recommendations like: “Read and review my book. Purchase it. ” This reminds me of sellers door to door. Those are one I slam the door in their face.
If you want to be a helpful reviewer, here are some tips:
Be honest. If you say that something is good, and indeed this is barely worthy of reading, say what you really think. Just, say it short and clear. Don’t insult the author personally, because this is unethical.
Don’t talk about yourself and your work in the review. Amazon will get banned if you promote your work under other’s book reviews.
Don’t preach. Every author takes a good effort, hours and hours of writing and editing are in one book, so don’t talk from heights about the book.
Prove that you really read a book. Once a woman wrote a review, a negative tips about my book and she admitted that she only read the first chapter. If you did not read the book, you are not qualified to judge the content.
Don’t judge a book by the cover. Once a man reported my book cover, which is a symbolic one, without reading what is a book about.
If you don’t want to make a review, say it polite to the author, by the email. Say it short, I don’t like it, I can’t give a review. You don’t need to write the Bible why you don’t like it and burst your ego.
It is important how to say something, not just what you wish to say. If you say “sorry, I think this book needs editing”, it is not the same as you say ” you have no clue about writing”.
Great authors like Agatha Christie were rejected many times before they got famous. You never know how far the author can go.
October 4, 2018
Lost in the virtual world
I am representing my first book, inspired by traps in the virtual world. The Internet is a place where people come to hang out or find love, but what they find is not always what they expected. Even people are behind their computers, their thoughts and expressions are alive. If you say something ugly you will not hurt just an Internet user, you will hurt someone's soul.
Why people commit a suicide because of something that is said on the Internet? You might ruin someone's life by a threat, an insult or your behavior. This is the age of cold-blooded and ruthless people. The Internet brings an updated version of Darwin's theory: only the strongest survive.
What reviewers said:
This is the first book by the popular blogger Kristina Gallo, and it’s a well-written, perceptive look at the problems encountered by people on social media. It’s a big subject to take on and won’t be the first to be written. Social media is a relatively new phenomenon and most people are still finding their way around it, discovering both the advantages and the pitfalls. Kristina covers everything from internet dating to fake identities, ‘virtual cheating’ and requests for nude photographs. What she describes will be familiar to many users of Facebook, particularly women. She also takes a good hard look at the many dangers that can befall the gullible and easily manipulated. Like the real world, the internet is a place full of very real dangers. A place where people are not as they seem. A place where people can be unpleasant and duplicitous. All in all, a very interesting read and one I’d recommend to anyone interested in this subject.
This is an intuitive narrative about how much our lives have changed with the development of the internet and social media – it certainly made me reassess my own. It is open and honest, as is the author about herself. It is entertaining and informative with a comprehensive account of the pitfalls we come across and is interspersed with real case studies. I particularly like the tongue in cheek humor that surfaced every once in a while, although the subject matter should be taken seriously and the pitfalls noted.
It is not written in the author’s first language but is none-the-less extremely accomplished and adds another dimension to the narrative in that it emphasizes the topics discussed in that we speak on the internet with people from other countries who are not quite so gifted as the author is in our own language.
I found it fascinating as someone who has been subjected to much of what is written, although not responded in quite the same way; it is still intriguing to know just how far some people will go.
This is a young person’s experience of the internet and I suspect a lot of these approaches have been experienced. There is, in fact, a whole raft of other experiences that older people come up against that the author, if not already experienced, will come into contact with, but not for a very long time.
This book is a MUST read for anyone using the internet. Lost in the virtual world
Why people commit a suicide because of something that is said on the Internet? You might ruin someone's life by a threat, an insult or your behavior. This is the age of cold-blooded and ruthless people. The Internet brings an updated version of Darwin's theory: only the strongest survive.
What reviewers said:
This is the first book by the popular blogger Kristina Gallo, and it’s a well-written, perceptive look at the problems encountered by people on social media. It’s a big subject to take on and won’t be the first to be written. Social media is a relatively new phenomenon and most people are still finding their way around it, discovering both the advantages and the pitfalls. Kristina covers everything from internet dating to fake identities, ‘virtual cheating’ and requests for nude photographs. What she describes will be familiar to many users of Facebook, particularly women. She also takes a good hard look at the many dangers that can befall the gullible and easily manipulated. Like the real world, the internet is a place full of very real dangers. A place where people are not as they seem. A place where people can be unpleasant and duplicitous. All in all, a very interesting read and one I’d recommend to anyone interested in this subject.
This is an intuitive narrative about how much our lives have changed with the development of the internet and social media – it certainly made me reassess my own. It is open and honest, as is the author about herself. It is entertaining and informative with a comprehensive account of the pitfalls we come across and is interspersed with real case studies. I particularly like the tongue in cheek humor that surfaced every once in a while, although the subject matter should be taken seriously and the pitfalls noted.
It is not written in the author’s first language but is none-the-less extremely accomplished and adds another dimension to the narrative in that it emphasizes the topics discussed in that we speak on the internet with people from other countries who are not quite so gifted as the author is in our own language.
I found it fascinating as someone who has been subjected to much of what is written, although not responded in quite the same way; it is still intriguing to know just how far some people will go.
This is a young person’s experience of the internet and I suspect a lot of these approaches have been experienced. There is, in fact, a whole raft of other experiences that older people come up against that the author, if not already experienced, will come into contact with, but not for a very long time.
This book is a MUST read for anyone using the internet. Lost in the virtual world
August 6, 2018
Are you confused by your romantic choice?
What we wish or imagine is often different from what we get. Remember yourself as a child. If you are a woman, little girl you had a dream about a handsome man who will do everything for you. Maybe you fell in love with actor or face from the cover of the magazine. Maybe your dream was about a rich man who will give you a comfortable life. If you are a man, your vision could be blonde, sexy woman who will do everything for you, in the house and in bed.
Adult person woke up with knowledge. Your man is maybe bald, too skinny or with fat belly. He earns an average salary and his mother is a boring person, but you need to show tolerance. Maybe he is handsome, but his character is far from expected. He is passive, maybe not so good lover or very demanding. Which leads me to the conclusion, can we accept people as they are?
Once when you learn to accept that people are not robots you will be happier. A simple recipe is, find in your partner anything what thrills you. He is not a rich man, but he is smart and funny. He has so sexy smile and beautiful eyes, even you must pay bills together with him and you can't effort some things.
When you learn that you love some guy, even he is not the realization of your dreams?
He is skimpy, and you don't mind.
He is not so handsome, but he is very charming for you.
He is rude but you love his sarcasm.
He can persuade you to do things which you find out as boring. For example, you don't love rock, but you will go with him to the concert.
Ronald had this vision of an ideal woman in his head. He imagined tall blonde bombshell, talkative and charming, someone, who has look as a short but the rain as ga eek. Ronald met Patricia. She was brunette, with glasses. She was smart, but her boobs were small and legs short. She was not ugly, but for sure she was not for the cover of a magazine. Ronald crazy fall in love with her when she rejected to go on date. He was thinking, why this average woman did not fall on him immediately? He was a handsome one. Simply, she made him try harder with her. Then he accepted her, on the way she is.
Life would be boring without surprises. Imagine that everything is as you planned. Something is missing, isn't it? The beauty of relation is the acceptance of reality. Besides, there is one catch. If he loved you because of your sexy breasts and long legs, what will be when you will get old? One day your breast will be hanged and legs will be wrinkled. You might have stick to walk. Then you will see the meaning of real feelings. He can help you to walk with a stick or run for other, younger sexy blonde.
Can we judge those who can't accept reality in relations? For sure not, because their punishment is their superficial view. Many times stories about rich old men who married with young pretty women are an example that the wallet is key for relation. Some will rather pay for beauty, neither to accept average. Their standards are based on dreams and illusions, and they pay for it. Bernie Ecclestone is happy with Fabiana Flosi even she is more than 50 years younger than him. He catches his dream.
Love is a choice. Live with your dream, but don't get surprised when you pay the bill for this dream. Live with reality but don't get surprised when this really doesn't fit in your dream. The choice of this romantic puzzle is yours.
Adult person woke up with knowledge. Your man is maybe bald, too skinny or with fat belly. He earns an average salary and his mother is a boring person, but you need to show tolerance. Maybe he is handsome, but his character is far from expected. He is passive, maybe not so good lover or very demanding. Which leads me to the conclusion, can we accept people as they are?
Once when you learn to accept that people are not robots you will be happier. A simple recipe is, find in your partner anything what thrills you. He is not a rich man, but he is smart and funny. He has so sexy smile and beautiful eyes, even you must pay bills together with him and you can't effort some things.
When you learn that you love some guy, even he is not the realization of your dreams?
He is skimpy, and you don't mind.
He is not so handsome, but he is very charming for you.
He is rude but you love his sarcasm.
He can persuade you to do things which you find out as boring. For example, you don't love rock, but you will go with him to the concert.
Ronald had this vision of an ideal woman in his head. He imagined tall blonde bombshell, talkative and charming, someone, who has look as a short but the rain as ga eek. Ronald met Patricia. She was brunette, with glasses. She was smart, but her boobs were small and legs short. She was not ugly, but for sure she was not for the cover of a magazine. Ronald crazy fall in love with her when she rejected to go on date. He was thinking, why this average woman did not fall on him immediately? He was a handsome one. Simply, she made him try harder with her. Then he accepted her, on the way she is.
Life would be boring without surprises. Imagine that everything is as you planned. Something is missing, isn't it? The beauty of relation is the acceptance of reality. Besides, there is one catch. If he loved you because of your sexy breasts and long legs, what will be when you will get old? One day your breast will be hanged and legs will be wrinkled. You might have stick to walk. Then you will see the meaning of real feelings. He can help you to walk with a stick or run for other, younger sexy blonde.
Can we judge those who can't accept reality in relations? For sure not, because their punishment is their superficial view. Many times stories about rich old men who married with young pretty women are an example that the wallet is key for relation. Some will rather pay for beauty, neither to accept average. Their standards are based on dreams and illusions, and they pay for it. Bernie Ecclestone is happy with Fabiana Flosi even she is more than 50 years younger than him. He catches his dream.
Love is a choice. Live with your dream, but don't get surprised when you pay the bill for this dream. Live with reality but don't get surprised when this really doesn't fit in your dream. The choice of this romantic puzzle is yours.
March 12, 2018
Did you date an addict?
Life in the cloud is beautiful in fantasies, but hard in a reality. Imagine that you are focused only on one thing, instead of many duties and obligations you should do the next day. That one thing is your addiction. Ask yourself, did you ever forget to eat because in your mind was only a cigarette? Did you forget to pick up kids from school because you got drunk? Maybe you did not come at a date because you were gambling. Even it sounds really bad and irresponsible, these are characteristics of addicts.
I will not talk about a medicinal basis because I have no expert knowledge about this. I wish to talk about something I saw from my experience.
These are patterns of behavior when you met with the addict.
A drunk person, a gambler, the internet freak and other addicts have many things in common.
Family, parents, job or friends are on the margin.
This kind of addicts don’t care for a real world, their world is parallel space. A day is passing with glasses of wine or another alcoholic beverage, with wins on the casino or with a number of messages on the internet pages.
They are sleepless.
Once when you discover a secret “cure” for your problems, you will ask for that in any part of the day. The cell phone is under the bed, and you need to turn it on, to see if someone sent you a message. Let’s smoke because we can’t sleep. Let’s eat, something is in the fridge.
They neglect their partners.
You sit with that kind of person in a coffee bar and he is typing on a cell phone constantly. He is broke. without money and he doesn’t want to hear to leave the casino, cause he will win this time. Any advice is useless.
They cross their limits and risk.
When you are addicted, you will do everything to come and take your medicine. You will run for a source. If your source is the casino, you will run there in hope to get money. If your source is a cybersex, you will open the internet just to see your naked lover. If your source is a cigarette, you will spend last money on a tobacco.
They hurt another people, even without the intention.
Would you steal other’s lover for the sake of the own pleasure? Would you steal money to gamble? Would you leave from work, just to drink alcohol in a coffee bar near? If yes, you are addicted.
The addict seems like a weak person who doesn’t care about reality. If you think that the addicted person is someone in rags, dirty and poor, you are misguided. They are between us. Your boss is maybe the person who is addicted to Xanax. Your colleague can be a cyber freak, and your cooperator could be a drunk man who hides his addiction successfully.
The addiction is indeed a denial. You refuse to accept that you have a problem which should be solved in another way because the solution is not in the bottom of a glass. We are all close to the bottom. One or two bad crises, you wish to get drunk, smoke or to send everything into a hell.
Lena is a smoker. She is doing her work well, but she is under the stress. When her boss is unbearable, she is going out to smoke. A day by day, she is smoking more, because every time there is a reason that she must light a fire. She is coughing, but her addiction takes over.
When we assemble the union with the devil called the addiction, we are fooled that everything will look better. Maybe at that moment, when we are drunk or stoned, the reality is pinker. Problems are still there and they will not disappear if we don’t face it.
When you are in a relationship with the addict, you are with two persons. One is original and you love her. Another person is a clone, but the evil twin. That person stands between you two because she is grumpy, moody and ready to destroy everything. You need to set free your love from a slavery because that is the only way to get her back.
I will not talk about a medicinal basis because I have no expert knowledge about this. I wish to talk about something I saw from my experience.
These are patterns of behavior when you met with the addict.
A drunk person, a gambler, the internet freak and other addicts have many things in common.
Family, parents, job or friends are on the margin.
This kind of addicts don’t care for a real world, their world is parallel space. A day is passing with glasses of wine or another alcoholic beverage, with wins on the casino or with a number of messages on the internet pages.
They are sleepless.
Once when you discover a secret “cure” for your problems, you will ask for that in any part of the day. The cell phone is under the bed, and you need to turn it on, to see if someone sent you a message. Let’s smoke because we can’t sleep. Let’s eat, something is in the fridge.
They neglect their partners.
You sit with that kind of person in a coffee bar and he is typing on a cell phone constantly. He is broke. without money and he doesn’t want to hear to leave the casino, cause he will win this time. Any advice is useless.
They cross their limits and risk.
When you are addicted, you will do everything to come and take your medicine. You will run for a source. If your source is the casino, you will run there in hope to get money. If your source is a cybersex, you will open the internet just to see your naked lover. If your source is a cigarette, you will spend last money on a tobacco.
They hurt another people, even without the intention.
Would you steal other’s lover for the sake of the own pleasure? Would you steal money to gamble? Would you leave from work, just to drink alcohol in a coffee bar near? If yes, you are addicted.
The addict seems like a weak person who doesn’t care about reality. If you think that the addicted person is someone in rags, dirty and poor, you are misguided. They are between us. Your boss is maybe the person who is addicted to Xanax. Your colleague can be a cyber freak, and your cooperator could be a drunk man who hides his addiction successfully.
The addiction is indeed a denial. You refuse to accept that you have a problem which should be solved in another way because the solution is not in the bottom of a glass. We are all close to the bottom. One or two bad crises, you wish to get drunk, smoke or to send everything into a hell.
Lena is a smoker. She is doing her work well, but she is under the stress. When her boss is unbearable, she is going out to smoke. A day by day, she is smoking more, because every time there is a reason that she must light a fire. She is coughing, but her addiction takes over.
When we assemble the union with the devil called the addiction, we are fooled that everything will look better. Maybe at that moment, when we are drunk or stoned, the reality is pinker. Problems are still there and they will not disappear if we don’t face it.
When you are in a relationship with the addict, you are with two persons. One is original and you love her. Another person is a clone, but the evil twin. That person stands between you two because she is grumpy, moody and ready to destroy everything. You need to set free your love from a slavery because that is the only way to get her back.
January 5, 2018
The grass is not greener on the other side
Did you ask yourself, which kind of people is happy? People, who have everything? Beauty, money, power, happiness in love? How many times you were envious of a neighbor with a fast car and sexy wife, that you wanted to be in his place?
One day you heard the other side of a story. Wife was cheating him, he had car’s accident and he owes money to some nasty people who beat him. Then you were thinking, I am not rich and my wife is average looks, but we are a great family. So I love my life and I would not be a neighbor’s place, never.
That is the answer, you are happy when you are grateful. Your gratitude is key to happiness. Happiness is an individual event. I see my friend who is pregnant, and this is her happiness. I see my sister with her 3 children, that is her happiness. I see myself and husband on New’ years eve and this is our happiness.
Is it true that grass is greener on another side? We might use a magnifier to compare ourselves with other people, but the question is, how could that kind of lifestyle match to us?
My friend recently made a joke about register box. He said that society is big register box, with a precise plan, how life should it look. Job, marriage, children, death. Some people are frightened cause they must follow register box. Here is neighbor A, he is married, with two children. Neighbor B thinks that she must have 2 children because he is an advantage toward her. What neighbor B doesn’t know, is that neighbor A found a mistress. His register box is failed by an unknown human, a mistress. What will be if mistress decides to ruin his marriage, his perfect job, two cute sons and elegant wife? Neighbor A found dynamite which might explode overnight.
We are captivated by other lives, in a way that we like to compare ourselves with colleagues, neighbors, peers. Look at prom anniversary, how many people will go there just to show their success and make jokes about others who stuck in some trouble. I also compared myself with woman I used to know, a long time ago. Maybe I was envious, I don’t know. Then I found out some things and I would not change my lifestyle for all her money. I even imagined myself in her skin, and it did not fit me. I am a free bird with mine principles, and the only register box I believe is the one I created.
So, when you see that people provoke you or attack you, and you have no idea why they admire you indeed. You had guts to kick that register box and make your own world, where is comfortable for you. They still stuck in forced society, with their own will. There is no worse feeling than a statement that you live in kind of prison, in a cell .
Your guard is a personification of all people who told you: ” What will others think of your life?” In such way, a guard holds the key of your happiness. You are not independent mind, you are guarded by invisible authority, cause your fear is bigger than your free will. You let others choose instead of you. Ask yourself, do you live a life which you chose, or you live life accord register box?
The grass is not greener on another side. The grass is just different, and it might not fit into your garden, between your roses and tulips.
One day you heard the other side of a story. Wife was cheating him, he had car’s accident and he owes money to some nasty people who beat him. Then you were thinking, I am not rich and my wife is average looks, but we are a great family. So I love my life and I would not be a neighbor’s place, never.
That is the answer, you are happy when you are grateful. Your gratitude is key to happiness. Happiness is an individual event. I see my friend who is pregnant, and this is her happiness. I see my sister with her 3 children, that is her happiness. I see myself and husband on New’ years eve and this is our happiness.
Is it true that grass is greener on another side? We might use a magnifier to compare ourselves with other people, but the question is, how could that kind of lifestyle match to us?
My friend recently made a joke about register box. He said that society is big register box, with a precise plan, how life should it look. Job, marriage, children, death. Some people are frightened cause they must follow register box. Here is neighbor A, he is married, with two children. Neighbor B thinks that she must have 2 children because he is an advantage toward her. What neighbor B doesn’t know, is that neighbor A found a mistress. His register box is failed by an unknown human, a mistress. What will be if mistress decides to ruin his marriage, his perfect job, two cute sons and elegant wife? Neighbor A found dynamite which might explode overnight.
We are captivated by other lives, in a way that we like to compare ourselves with colleagues, neighbors, peers. Look at prom anniversary, how many people will go there just to show their success and make jokes about others who stuck in some trouble. I also compared myself with woman I used to know, a long time ago. Maybe I was envious, I don’t know. Then I found out some things and I would not change my lifestyle for all her money. I even imagined myself in her skin, and it did not fit me. I am a free bird with mine principles, and the only register box I believe is the one I created.
So, when you see that people provoke you or attack you, and you have no idea why they admire you indeed. You had guts to kick that register box and make your own world, where is comfortable for you. They still stuck in forced society, with their own will. There is no worse feeling than a statement that you live in kind of prison, in a cell .
Your guard is a personification of all people who told you: ” What will others think of your life?” In such way, a guard holds the key of your happiness. You are not independent mind, you are guarded by invisible authority, cause your fear is bigger than your free will. You let others choose instead of you. Ask yourself, do you live a life which you chose, or you live life accord register box?
The grass is not greener on another side. The grass is just different, and it might not fit into your garden, between your roses and tulips.
December 12, 2017
Treat a lady like a whore
This old proverb found place in minds of some men who like to control every woman. Cheap opposite psychology is their way to seduce woman who is not obey to them on a way they wished.
Imagine dominant, conservative man who raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soon, Harry start to abuse her and became violent. Their marriage finished after their argument had bad end. Harry hit her with fist into eye, she was injured. That was good reason for divorce. Now, Harry sees his daughter once on month.
Did you expect that Harry regret his actions and became more soft? No, this trauma made him worse. He became playboy, but special kind of man who is focused on old , lonely women in fifties, even sixties. He is money hunter. As he said : “I can make every woman beautiful. Even if she is the ugliest at world, i can make her feels in heaven. ” He seduces them by sweet words , he talks on their languages because mostly they are tourists which visit his city. After few nights with him he is going forward on next one, because his business is done. Some women handle it with silence but other attack him and call him gigolo, especially after he doesn’t return him money.
He got involved with Olga, woman 20 years older than him and claimed that she raped him, but after she gave him money he changed story and treat her as his girlfriend. He doesn’t love her, but he loves power he got in his hands, to make her as slave and use her for his purposes.
As Harry is just a human, he falls in love recently. His heart shown him way to woman near his ages, who doesn’t want to obey to his wishes and who make joke of his traditional , rigid values. She was mocking him and even insulting, so she became real challenge for him. Problem is, that woman is married and she can’t be his love. Harry dreams about her , he even offered her to visit him, but she rejected his offer as cheap attempt to join into his circle of poor, used women.
How Harry treat his ex wife, and how he treats Olga? Olga is old slutty woman, in a mood to have sex with everyone because her quote is “life is short. ” Harry gave her kind of honor by appearing with her on public places. How he treats his ex wife, mother of his daughter? He was beating her and lied to police that she falls on stairs. If you mention his ex ,he will got mad and say that her character is not good. If you talk about Olga, he will say that Olga is not bad, even Olga is old slut and pay for sex with money to young guys as Harry.
His values are distorted, as he treats lady as whore, and whore as lady, just to save his power and raise his ego.
Imagine dominant, conservative man who raised in family under father’s authority, where woman role was to take care of children and do house work, while man was earning money. Her opinion was not important, also it was not desirable that she is much educated, because devil could posses her brain. I talk about Harry ( name is changed as i always protect my “muses”). Harry raised in big family, with 6 children. She was middle son, lived in poor conditions, without money and education. Harry is bright, not limited man, but very stubborn and bossy. He learnt this from his father. Harry got married in early twenties, with pretty wife. Soon he got cute daughter and than troubles appeared. Harry was young, handsome, and his wife was not a slave. She had her opinion, her wishes and views. She had an attitude. Soon, Harry start to abuse her and became violent. Their marriage finished after their argument had bad end. Harry hit her with fist into eye, she was injured. That was good reason for divorce. Now, Harry sees his daughter once on month.
Did you expect that Harry regret his actions and became more soft? No, this trauma made him worse. He became playboy, but special kind of man who is focused on old , lonely women in fifties, even sixties. He is money hunter. As he said : “I can make every woman beautiful. Even if she is the ugliest at world, i can make her feels in heaven. ” He seduces them by sweet words , he talks on their languages because mostly they are tourists which visit his city. After few nights with him he is going forward on next one, because his business is done. Some women handle it with silence but other attack him and call him gigolo, especially after he doesn’t return him money.
He got involved with Olga, woman 20 years older than him and claimed that she raped him, but after she gave him money he changed story and treat her as his girlfriend. He doesn’t love her, but he loves power he got in his hands, to make her as slave and use her for his purposes.
As Harry is just a human, he falls in love recently. His heart shown him way to woman near his ages, who doesn’t want to obey to his wishes and who make joke of his traditional , rigid values. She was mocking him and even insulting, so she became real challenge for him. Problem is, that woman is married and she can’t be his love. Harry dreams about her , he even offered her to visit him, but she rejected his offer as cheap attempt to join into his circle of poor, used women.
How Harry treat his ex wife, and how he treats Olga? Olga is old slutty woman, in a mood to have sex with everyone because her quote is “life is short. ” Harry gave her kind of honor by appearing with her on public places. How he treats his ex wife, mother of his daughter? He was beating her and lied to police that she falls on stairs. If you mention his ex ,he will got mad and say that her character is not good. If you talk about Olga, he will say that Olga is not bad, even Olga is old slut and pay for sex with money to young guys as Harry.
His values are distorted, as he treats lady as whore, and whore as lady, just to save his power and raise his ego.
December 10, 2017
Are you a bad guy or a guy next door?
Every teenage girl will dream about handsome actor, football player or singer. Hit Justin Bieber with your bra or panties, scream when you see Twilight saga and Robert Patinson, and masturbate on Cristiano Ronaldo, that are teenage dreams nowadays. That kind of perceptions come out from movies where guy is tough hero who will do everything for his fragile princess.
Now what is with guy next door, guy with pretty face and good manners, who will walk next to you and listen your problems? Girls will say, that is out, what a loser, boring, ordinary guy, he is not hot by the way.
One good story talks about Sam. He was football fan, once he stayed without teeth in crowd at stadium, then he was in prison for a few days , indeed kind of bad guy who left school to enjoy in wild life. Girls in my city were crazy about him, even he changed them more often than his clothes. He was without teeth, wow how cool, danger guy, even Steven Segal should invite him for his sparing partner. One day he hit his girlfriend , with fist in her mouth and everybody saw this. Blood was on her face, and he said that he did good score. Nobody helped her, they mind ed their own business.
Few years later that girl was travelling with bus on the way home, after she passed last exam. Sam was also there, in bus. He was not so handsome anymore. He lost much hair, he got 20 pounds on weight, and still he did not had any job. When their eyes met, Sam approached her to say hello. She looked him and she did not say nothing. Just she took her big book to read. She did not felt nothing, it was just one unpleasant moment and regret : “oh damn why i loved this creature?”
The point is, wild and aggressive guy as Sam might make your life interesting, you will have own soap opera but i hope you have health insurance or big brother who can protect you. Otherwise, you might finish with abuser .
Sometimes, bad behavior will be just phase in one life period.
Parents would say :”He will calm down in marriage. ” This is not rarity to see ex wild guy who made such noise with his car how to carry for his daughter in playground. He can be gentle father and responsible husband. It is possible that young bad guy grow up into bad husband who beats his wife. Which way will someone choose, it depends on circumstances and his choice. In any way, violence cannot be justified with problematic childhood. It will be his excuse: “they treat me so bad. ”
If you can’t deal with bad dude, pay attention on guy next door.
His ideas can refresh your mind. He could be treasure box, if you open this with right key. Maybe you will get bored at start, but later he will surprise you. Some crazy things you can do together with him because he is more flexible and adventures are not just his ego’s expressions . Teenage girls will often underestimate sweet guys, cause they are shy, on distance, with good manners. They are maybe virgins, and they wish to collect sexual experience. Later, the same girls will cry on someone’s shoulder, with deep regret , because they made bad choice.
What will you choose, that will define your love relation. If you chose bad guy, deal with him. Don’t let him to insult you, beat you, cheat you. Try to use his wild character as motivation . He might be great lover. He might love journeys, adrenaline, adventures.
If you chose guy next door, it doesn’t mean that you will get bored. If you are open minded woman, you will push him to open himself . This guy might show you how to control yourself, to be calmer and to stay more on the ground.
Now what is with guy next door, guy with pretty face and good manners, who will walk next to you and listen your problems? Girls will say, that is out, what a loser, boring, ordinary guy, he is not hot by the way.
One good story talks about Sam. He was football fan, once he stayed without teeth in crowd at stadium, then he was in prison for a few days , indeed kind of bad guy who left school to enjoy in wild life. Girls in my city were crazy about him, even he changed them more often than his clothes. He was without teeth, wow how cool, danger guy, even Steven Segal should invite him for his sparing partner. One day he hit his girlfriend , with fist in her mouth and everybody saw this. Blood was on her face, and he said that he did good score. Nobody helped her, they mind ed their own business.
Few years later that girl was travelling with bus on the way home, after she passed last exam. Sam was also there, in bus. He was not so handsome anymore. He lost much hair, he got 20 pounds on weight, and still he did not had any job. When their eyes met, Sam approached her to say hello. She looked him and she did not say nothing. Just she took her big book to read. She did not felt nothing, it was just one unpleasant moment and regret : “oh damn why i loved this creature?”
The point is, wild and aggressive guy as Sam might make your life interesting, you will have own soap opera but i hope you have health insurance or big brother who can protect you. Otherwise, you might finish with abuser .
Sometimes, bad behavior will be just phase in one life period.
Parents would say :”He will calm down in marriage. ” This is not rarity to see ex wild guy who made such noise with his car how to carry for his daughter in playground. He can be gentle father and responsible husband. It is possible that young bad guy grow up into bad husband who beats his wife. Which way will someone choose, it depends on circumstances and his choice. In any way, violence cannot be justified with problematic childhood. It will be his excuse: “they treat me so bad. ”
If you can’t deal with bad dude, pay attention on guy next door.
His ideas can refresh your mind. He could be treasure box, if you open this with right key. Maybe you will get bored at start, but later he will surprise you. Some crazy things you can do together with him because he is more flexible and adventures are not just his ego’s expressions . Teenage girls will often underestimate sweet guys, cause they are shy, on distance, with good manners. They are maybe virgins, and they wish to collect sexual experience. Later, the same girls will cry on someone’s shoulder, with deep regret , because they made bad choice.
What will you choose, that will define your love relation. If you chose bad guy, deal with him. Don’t let him to insult you, beat you, cheat you. Try to use his wild character as motivation . He might be great lover. He might love journeys, adrenaline, adventures.
If you chose guy next door, it doesn’t mean that you will get bored. If you are open minded woman, you will push him to open himself . This guy might show you how to control yourself, to be calmer and to stay more on the ground.
December 6, 2017
Are you the hunter or the kill?
Criticism is sensitive field. It is easy to give critics, to mock someone, but it is not easy to receive this for return and to make joke by yourself. Do you laugh to yourself, in public? Do you allow friends to tease you, even this means that they will overrate your faults and make your values smaller? There is thin line between social clown and person who loves to make jokes about yourself. If you are hunter, if you respect yourself, you will allow certain doze of criticism but you will not be a doormat.
If you ask me to whom you must be grateful, maybe my answer will surprise you. Yes, i am grateful to my parents because they give me motivation, strong will and attitude. I am grateful to my sister because she stood on my side when i felt miserable. I am grateful to my husband for accepting me as i am, even when i was the worst nightmare.
Mostly, i am grateful to my rivals, for develop my strength. As i passed my initiation , faced with many troubles and get out from biggest crises, i am grateful.
I am grateful to my double faced, ex friends. I am grateful to my ex boyfriends.
So i am grateful for betrayal.
For underestimation.
For disloyalty.
For mockery.
For critics.
For breakups.
For pushing in background.
This familiar sentence “everything happens for a reason” has real sense for me. I found reason in tiny box, under key, wrapped in so called kindness, loyalty and love. Under this envelope was disappointment and lesson “Next time you will know to whom you are dealing with. “
As i am learning fast, and i am learning with sense, i got this point. No, i will not blow on cold, neither i will be paranoid. Just, all that lessons developed my sense for logic. If it looks like bitch and talk like bitch, it must be a bitch. If it smells like shit, then it must be shit.
Sometimes, i did not see wood from the forest, but that wood was my solution. I can do it better. Just as Terminator, if i stay without one part, i will upgrade myself to better version.
Can you say that you are grateful for someone who gave you hard time?
If you ask me to whom you must be grateful, maybe my answer will surprise you. Yes, i am grateful to my parents because they give me motivation, strong will and attitude. I am grateful to my sister because she stood on my side when i felt miserable. I am grateful to my husband for accepting me as i am, even when i was the worst nightmare.
Mostly, i am grateful to my rivals, for develop my strength. As i passed my initiation , faced with many troubles and get out from biggest crises, i am grateful.
I am grateful to my double faced, ex friends. I am grateful to my ex boyfriends.
So i am grateful for betrayal.
For underestimation.
For disloyalty.
For mockery.
For critics.
For breakups.
For pushing in background.
This familiar sentence “everything happens for a reason” has real sense for me. I found reason in tiny box, under key, wrapped in so called kindness, loyalty and love. Under this envelope was disappointment and lesson “Next time you will know to whom you are dealing with. “
As i am learning fast, and i am learning with sense, i got this point. No, i will not blow on cold, neither i will be paranoid. Just, all that lessons developed my sense for logic. If it looks like bitch and talk like bitch, it must be a bitch. If it smells like shit, then it must be shit.
Sometimes, i did not see wood from the forest, but that wood was my solution. I can do it better. Just as Terminator, if i stay without one part, i will upgrade myself to better version.
Can you say that you are grateful for someone who gave you hard time?
