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The Wonders of Autumn

Happy first day of fall!In honor of the start of another autumnal equinox tonight, I'd like to share some of my favorite fall photos.All of the photos I'm sharing were taken in recent years in the beautiful Pocono Mountains of Pennsylvania--in my opinion, one of the most breathtaking locations on Earth to view this miraculous time of year (and also one of my favorite places!) I love fall! The older I get, the more I've come to appreciate the beauty of this season. Everywhere the eyes can see, you're surrounded by a cornucopia of natural signs that the world is full of astonishing transformations. I'm so thankful that my home is geographically located in a place of such wonder and awe, where I can appreciate all four changing seasons to the fullest. Get out your sweatshirts, boots, and hot cocoa; sit back and relax and let the season consume you. It's about enjoying the simple things: Leaves gently falling without a sound, or the rustle as you walk through them. The smell of autumn coursing through your body. Snuggling into layers of clothing. Campfires and s'mores, the fire's heat soothing your soul.A dog's child-like enjoyment of being outside, free to frolick in seasonal bliss.Getting lost in a good book under the shade of a colorful tree. Wherever you are, I hope you can appreciate the beauty of the changing of the seasons, and let it bring you closer to all of God's creations. Please feel free to comment your favorite thing about this gorgeous season we call FALL!I wish you the happiest of fall seasons on this first official day of autumn!Keep On Reading!KristenKristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHAvailable Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-jackson-036604126/CLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS FOR FREE!

The Perfect Life...Or Not?

Have you ever noticed that social media paints a perfect picture?Everyone posts their 'best self'.Smiling faces, joyous moments, positive highlights.Photo-shopped images with flattering filters. Perfect. I mean, it makes sense. And I admit I'm just as guilty of this as everyone else on the planet.Seriously.I don't want the world to see my early-morning puffy eyes, or my hair graying at the roots before my next application of hair color.So of course I'm not going to post those pictures. Nobody wants to see that.The definition of 'perfect' in the Miriam-Webster dictionary is "being entirely without fault or defect: flawless." But there's a problem with this picture we're painting. Humans, as a rule, are flawed.There is no such thing as a "flawless" person, it simply doesn't exist. Though we tend to be glaringly aware of our own faults, we still fall into the trap of believing that others live in glorious perfection. We see the evidence of the perfect marriage, beautiful house, and happy children traveling the world while enjoying their awesome vacation right there smiling at us from Facebook, so it must be true, right?The picture is the 'proof.' Perfect.What the pictures don't show is how hard the couple has to work to keep their marriage working. Maybe they hardly see each other because of their work schedules, and that vacation is the only chance they have to reconnect. Could the mortgage payments on the beautiful house and the upkeep expenses be sinking that couple further and further into debt so that they feel like they're drowning in bills?The children, going through a rebellious stage, may be smiling for the first time in weeks while traveling. We can never really know what is going on in someone else's world. Social media pictures only depict a very small glimpse of the complete picture. Two recent stories pulled on my heartstrings and inspired me to write this blog post. One personal, and one in the media. The first: My husband and I found out some casual friends, who we thought were candidates for the title of the 'perfect couple', are currently in the process of divorcing. Nothing could have shocked us more, and it rocked our world. The second: Chris Watts. A Colorado man who confessed to murdering his pregnant wife and two beautiful children. If you look at Shannan Watts' Facebook page, they appear to be a poster-family of happiness. Clearly, a misguided impression. It was reported by Fox News that "Shanann Watts' Facebook account paints a portrait of a happy family, with a constant feed of photos and videos of her family, friends and herself. Her comments are typically upbeat and say how happy she is, whether she's running errands, playing with her kids or promoting a health program. She posted a photo on June 19 of some texts with her husband after sending him a sonogram. He replied that he loved the baby already. She posted: I love Chris! He's the best dad us girls could ask for." Two months later he took their lives. (Click here to read the article.) I'm not sure what the answer is. Things aren't going to change. People will still post their 'happy' photos. Yes, including me.But I worry about our youth growing up thinking that perfection in life is attainable, and it worries me deep down inside.Will teenagers compare their lives to those of others, and in their own eyes always fall short?Could seeing all the falsley 'perfect' people on social media make them feel 'less than' they truly are?The answer is: I don't know. There's no simple solution. No bandaid to make it all better. Of one thing I'm absolutely sure. No one is perfect.No one.Next time you're scrolling through the newsfeed, stop and pause. Remind yourself that a picture only shows one moment in time.Just a glimpse. You may not be perfect.But neither is that person smiling up at you from the screen."No one is perfect. But many people are going to end this day in gratitude, at least for being alive." - Terry MarkKeep On Reading!KristenKristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHHAVEN'T READ KOTW YET?: CLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS!Available Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-jackson-036604126/

Peace in the Eyes of a Dog

Happy National Dog Day! Every day is Dog Day in my house. As you know, my dogs are a part of our family. Here's a little something I wrote a while back. It was intended to be a children's picture book, but I haven't done anything with it. Thought it would be perfect today.PEACE IN THE EYES OF A DOGBy Kristen L. JacksonIn the eyes of a dog, you can be you, and I can be me.In the eyes of a dog, everyone is equal and free.In the eyes of a dog, colors are all the same.In the eyes of a dog, there is never cause for blame.In the eyes of a dog, no worries, fights, or jeers.In the eyes of a dog, you cherish all your years.In the eyes of a dog, just a touch is a delight.In the eyes of a dog, the future’s always bright.In the eyes of a dog, you help me and I’ll help you.In the eyes of a dog, Sometimes help for nothing too.In the eyes of a dog, we talk and then shake hands.In the eyes of a dog, We share all the lands.In the eyes of a dog, We are best friends, you and me.In the eyes of a dog,if only everyone could see,Through the eyes of a dog…Kristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHCLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS FOR FREE!AVAILABLE NOW:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-jackson-036604126

When Your Baby Turns 24

Sometimes, as I'm sure all moms of grown children do, I just sit back and remember. The memories crash over me like a wave, salty tears spilling through my lashes.Their childhood has come and gone in the blink of an eye.Mixed emotions overwhelm me.Sadness that I can never go back to that time.Happiness that my children have grown into strong, independent men I'm so tremendously proud of.But still, I miss those days. The days when I was the most important person in their young lives.When I was 'Mommy.'Back to the days of being needed so completely.Loved so sweetly.Wanted above anyone else.As the birthday of my youngest son -my baby- approaches, I find myself becoming more and more emotional.I remember.A little flaxen-haired boy with a head full of curls and adorably bowed legs.The blankie he called 'hee-hee', his tiny fingers rubbing the satiny edge along his face as he drifted to sleep. That smile.Even back then, he was a jokester. His laughter and smile like no other, you couldn't help but laugh along with him. (Still true today!)And back then, I swear he was attached to my leg. He was my little 'Mama's boy'. Only Mommy would do, and I had to be within eyesight at all times.A three-year-old, determined to wear his favorite cowboy boots everywhere he went -and with any ensemble- sparking smiles from onlookers everywhere we went.I can picture his sweet round face as I tucked him into bed at night, cuddled up with his favorite stuffed animal, Wolfie.As is the way of children, he grew. Five years old. Racing down the block on his favorite scooter, running around with his Power Ranger toys, catching bees in a jar with his best friend. Ten years old. It was around this time he discovered the world of Harry Potter, and his life was never the same again. I remember the three of us snuggling in bed, reading the books aloud together. We did this with the series. (Yes, bonding over fiction!)Next came gaming. Runescape. Magic Cards. Pokemon.Sixteen. Driving lessons. The gym. High school. Fishing and kayaking.Carpentry at the Career Center. School-to-Work program with Deka Battery (East Penn Manufacturing.) And I blinked, and he was graduating.Soon, we were dropping him off at college. I blinked again, and he turned twenty-one.And now, blink. Twenty-four.It hits me all at once in one painful realization: my baby is grown. He doesn't need me anymore, at least not in the same way he once did. Denial is strong.How can my youngest, my baby, be nearing his mid-twenties? How did this happen?Inside, I still have the mind of a twenty-something year old. Right?As I sit here lost in memories, I know without a doubt that every parent with grown children has gone through similar bouts of missing their kid's 'Mommy' and 'Daddy' years. So (though I've tried unsuccessfully self-soothing with all things chocolate) I've come to a conclusion.Don't blink. Be present for every milestone, no matter how tiny. A lifetime passes by in blinks, so savor every second."To be in your children's memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today."-Barbara JohnsonI have to remind myself that this is true as much today as it was when my boys were small. I am not finished making memories just because my children are grown. I've only just begun. Life is about phases.Things change whether we want them to or not. It's the way we handle the change that defines us. It's okay to remember those long-ago times, and even feel nostalgic for those days. But here's a reminder for all of us mothers (and fathers) of grown children. My 'two-cents' worth, so to speak.My tiny epiphany.I need to learn to live in the moment, and celebrate each of life's phases.It's about continuing to be their 'Mom' long after you've stopped answering to 'Mommy.'They still need me. Only in different ways than before. And I need them, too.It's the mutual love and respect that we have for each other that makes me smile and keeps me going. Continuing to be important in each other's lives.Yes, the parent-child relationship changes when your children grow up. But the love -the very same love you shared when you were 'Mommy'- remains the same no matter what phase of life you enter. The love remains the same.And it will only get better from here.***I want to give a shout-out to my son, Jeremy, (yes, you'll always be my baby!) as his birthday nears. I'm so very proud of the man you've become. Patient. Self-less. Generous. Always ready to lend a helping hand for anyone who needs it. And funny. You made me laugh then, and you make me laugh now. Thanks for allowing me the honor of being your Mom. Happy birthday, kiddo! Mommy--I mean Mom--loves you!***Keep On Reading,KristenKristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHCLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS FOR FREE!AVAILABLE NOW:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthorLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-jackson-036604126/

How Vacationing Can Save Your Life

Vacations are essential to your mental health. Yes, you can laugh. It sounds ridiculous, right? But I'm completely serious, and my family lives by this motto. We believe in the healing power of family time. Time away from the normal routine, spent with our favorite people. In a typical work-week in America, we spend more time with our co-workers than we do with our spouses and our children. (Click here to learn more.)And so in my house, we place a high value on vacationing. It's not just about the destination, activities, or the money. It's about us.And we agree that is money well-spent. We've been known to book a vacation as much as a year in advance.The benefits?We pay on the trip in small increments all year.Even better?We enjoy the countdown. Actually savor it. It's all part of the fun, and gives us something to truly look forward to.Anticipation builds as we plan our itinerary, study maps, and even make reservations at popular restaurants way before our departure date.We visit Barnes & Noble to scan the travel section, and buy a book touting the best advice for travelers to our current destination. (Later, these books become informative additions to our bathroom 'library'. Everybody has a bathroom library, right?)We also keep a jar for loose change, and fill it all year to use as spending money on the trip. Each time a coin hits the bottom, we can visualize our upcoming adventure. One year, my husband and I booked a vaction to Disney World eleven months ahead, and didn't tell our sons. On Christmas day, we wrapped the vacation as a present and told them "We're leaving tomorrow!" One of our best vacations, ever.Whether you're traveling a long distance, or just enjoying a 'stay-cation' at home, time away is just what the doctor ordered. Literally. It seems like common sense, right? Stress and anxiety wreak havoc with the body and mind. Vacations help to ease these symptoms. (For more information on the health benefits of vacationing, click this link by Health Net: https://www.healthnet.com/portal/home/content/iwc/home/articles/health_benefits_of_vacations.action)I've put together a list of vacation quotes to support my theory that taking (at least) yearly vacations can save your life.You've worked hard all year, accumulating paid time off. What are you waiting for? Cash those days in, and force yourself to relax."A VACATION IS WHAT YOU TAKE WHEN YOU CAN NO LONGER TAKE WHAT YOU'VE BEEN TAKING." -Earl WilsonEveryone needs a vacation.Everyone.No exceptions. Work can be stressful. Happy employees equal smoothly running companies, and that equals less stress for everyone.Often times, employees are made to feel guilty or pressured into staying at work, and not only will the workers suffer, but the business will as well. The same is true at home.Modern families tend to put so much personal emphasis on 'doing it all' that they can forget how to just relax and be in the moment. Allow yourself to take the time away."A VACATION IS HAVING NOTHING TO DO AND ALL DAY TO DO IT." -Robert OrbenIn today's world, multi-tasking is essential to day-to-day life. Juggling work and personal time can be more stressful than waiting in line at the DMV.It is important to allow yourself a period of time where you can let it all go and actually do nothing.It may be difficult at first, but you'll catch on quickly. Your brain will thank you for the much-needed rest, and other parts of your anatomy as well!And when you return, you'll feel rejuvenated and refreshed - ready to face life's daily challenges with a smile.My family likes to make vacation photo albums, complete with journaling about the trip.We love going back after the trip is long past, letting our memories serve as their own 'mini-vacation' in our own living room.Bonding through the memories. "I LOVE PLACES THAT MAKE YOU REALIZE HOW TINY YOU AND YOUR PROBLEMS ARE." -AnonymousIt's okay to take a break from the 'little things.'Yes, the work deadlines, groceries, soccer practice, bills, doctor appointments, and home-made meals are all important. But you'll find when you take a holiday, the importance of the day-to-day essentials seem to fade into the background, at least for a little while.You don't have to travel far, or even travel at all to find your perfect vacation spot. It can be as simple as visiting a park, or sitting on a cushiony front porch chair with a book you've been meaning to read... And remember, there is no bad vacation.Make the most of bad weather, delayed flights, and lost luggage.It's an adventure, and you're building memories with your family.I remember one year I forgot to pack underwear for my young sons. Yes, underwear. An essential part of daily attire.So...we washed them in the sink and blew them dry with a hairdryer. It's still time away, which is what it's all about. And we still laugh about it years later. You might also worry about the money you're spending. Let's face it, if you're traveling to a popular vacation spot, everything will be marked up and expensive and you should know that going in.My husband's favorite phrase is "It's just money, we'll make more." Of course it would be more practical to pay off that credit card or put extra money toward our mortgage payment. But guess what? Time spent together making memories that will last for all of us is worth it. Your children will grow up--like mine did--and you can't get that time back.And...you don't know how much time you'll have on this Earth. Don't spend all the time you're here focusing on bills and work.Make the memories now. The bills will still be there when you return. You'll pay them.And you won't regret taking some time for you."I HAVEN'T BEEN EVERYWHERE, BUT IT'S ON MY LIST." -Susan SontagIf there's really somewhere you'd love to go, set your sites on going there. Even if it seems like an impossible dream.My husband and I always joked about going to Hawaii for our twenty-fifth anniversary, never really thinking we'd be able to afford a trip that far away. We married very young, and money was always tight.Guess what?We decided to just do it.It took years of saving, but we did take that trip and had the time of our lives. You can't take those memories back, and the time we spent together was good for both of us. Set your goal, and go for it!"WHEN ALL ELSE FAILS, TAKE A VACATION." -Betty Williams What are you waiting for? Go book your next vacation now! And don't forget to pack a book.Keep on Reading ... and Relaxing!Kristen"VACATIONS ARE LIKE GETTING LOST IN A GOOD A BOOK. YOU MAY ONLY ENJOY THEM FOR A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME, BUT THE MEMORIES ARE WITH YOU FOR A LIFETIME." -Kristen L. JacksonKristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHCLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS FOR FREE!Available Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthorLinkedin: Kristen Jackson

10 Ways to Wipe Out Weary Weather Woes

Music blares through the speakers, the twangy tunes of the alarm clock's pre-set country station fill the room, and my eyes squint as I reach for the off-button. Three dogs leap instantly from their prone positions on the floor, claws making scratching noises on the hardwood, panting in eagerness, happy to greet the new day (and, of course, eat their breakfast.)I grumble as I roll over, trying desperately to ignore all of them. I, for one, am not as happy to hear the alarm as they seem to be.Wind and rain batter the window, and the steady rat-tat-tatting on the roof makes me sink lower under my covers and squeeze my eyes more tightly closed. Utter darkness fills the room, making it that much easier to want to snuggle deeper. A moan escapes, along with the knowledge that I need to emerge from my cocoon of heat...now.I get up, moving oh-so-slowly, a yawn stretching my jaw as I sleepily stumble down the hallway. I'd love nothing more than to go back to bed, back to the cozy warmth of nighttime. For some reason on this day, I'm moving at a snail's pace, more sluggishly than usual. Despite the feeling of melancholy that pulls down on my shoulders like a cloak, I prepare and head off to work.No amount of caffeine can combat the extreme tiredness, and the feeling does not lift throughout the course of the day. The number of times I hear myself sigh is like fingernails screeching down a chalkboard, but I can't seem to stop it. Another sigh escapes, and my eyes dart around to see if anyone else has noticed. What's wrong with me today? Why is my mood so different on this particular day?Side Note: You should know that contrary to the way this sounds, I really am a morning person. I usually have much more energy in the early morning hours than in the evening. It's when I do my best work-- in both writing and teaching. I'm also not a person prone to bouts of depression. So why, on this particular day, do I feel this way? It almost seems as if my mood matches the gloomy weather outside. Could meteorology really play a hand in my emotions? I think the answer is simple and at this point, obvious: Yes.As I get older, I'm noticing a distinct correlation between the way I feel and what's going on out my window more and more. Am I crazy? And most importantly: Am I the only one who feels this way?I decided to do a bit of research, and I came across the article (and many others) 6 Scientific Ways Weather Affects Your Mood So You Can Adapt Your Mind and Body Through the Changing Seasonsby Marion Berstein. I found out that the weather truly does have a huge affect on people, and there is scientific evidence to prove it. It can affect different people in various ways. From Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)--a disorder that touts the benefits of sunlight and the effect a lack of sunlight has on your body and emotions--to a drop in seratonin that may be the cause of over-eating, this article digs into the hows and whys of how a rainy, cold day may give you a case of the blues...for real. (Click the link above to read the full article for more information.)Knowing that I can lay the blame on the elements does give my worried brain a bit of relief, and it really helps to know I'm not alone. But isn't there something we can do to help?Doing nothing means that when inches of rain puddle in the streets, there are a multitude of grumpy people just trying to achieve one goal: survive the day and go back to bed.We're wishing our days away. There must be something we can do to combat these weary weather woes. I'm no expert, but I've come up with a list of things that just might make the next rainy day a teensy bit better. TEN WAYS TO WIPE OUT THE WEARY WEATHER WOES1. Close the curtains. At home or at work, block out the gray weather by pulling the shades or curtains. Out of sight, out of mind. 2. Check the weather, and be prepared. Get into the habit of staying 'in the know' about your forecast. You can't stop the gloomy weather, but at the very least you'll be prepared...and you won't show up at work soaking wet.3. Drink coffee or tea. Whatever your preference, a hot beverage can warm you from the inside-out. Not to mention the glorious caffeine...4. Wear bright colors. Even though your hand reaches into the closet for black clothing, push those aside and dress in vibrant colors to try to fool your brain with a splash of brightness. 5. Turn on all the lights. Sunlight is lacking today, but your room doesn't have to be. False light can mimic true sunlight, so shine on!6. Play your favorite music. My favorite music often distracts me, and today is no exception. Before you know it your foot will start tapping...7. Snuggle up with a good book. Don't forget, rainy days are the best kinds of reading days!8. Soup for dinner. Your soul needs soothing today. Eat the soup.9. For each negative thought, make yourself think of a positive thing in your life. If misery loves company, then make it hang out with a good vibe. Remind yourself of all the good in your life. 10. Give a hug. Sounds too simple, right? But it's true, the physical contact with a family member, co-worker, or friend can be enough to uplift your spirits until the sun shines again!Good luck! In my hometown, we've seen lots of rain lately, so I'll have plenty of time to test the list. Remember, you're not alone. Stay positive! Have a better way to combat rainy day blues? Please share your ideas in the comments!"Into each life, some rain will fall." --Henry Wadsworth LongfellowKeep on Reading,KristenKristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHREAD THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS HERE!Available Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthor

What Makes a Birthday Happy?

WHAT'S IN A BIRTHDAY?What does a birthday mean to you?In the most simple of terms, it is the day you officially become one year older. For some, it signifies reaching a long-sought-after milestone like getting your driver's license, earning your right to vote, or reaching the drinking age. The importance of all the accompanying birthday trappings cannot--and should not--be denied. Eating cake, blowing out an ever-growing number of candles, birthday favors, plates, and presents. A smile that spreads as your tone-deaf family butchers the tune of the age-old birthday song. The definition of 'birthday' in the English Oxford Dictionary is this:"The anniversary of the day on which a person was born, typically treated as occasion for celebration and the giving of gifts. The day of a person's birth. The anniversary of something's origin or foundation."But what makes a birthday happy?MY FAMILY TRADITIONSIn my family, birthdays have always been a party. Often extended into a week-long celebration, this grand event is meant to recognize a loved member of your family.It's intent...one very important thing: to make someone feel extra-special. Young or old, no matter the age, it is a tradition geared toward showing our affection for each other.My parents always went out of their way to make my sisters and I feel special on every birthday. Special dinners, decorations, the cake, and even the annual 'ear-pulling' served to remind us that someone cared so deeply about us that they would go out of their way just to make us feel extra-special on that day in particular. As kids, we even had a special record (Yes, I said record. Not cd. Not iPod. Record.) that was personalized with our names that we listened to each year on the big day. I'll never forget my sixth-grade birthday, forever known thereafter as the Best-Birthday-Ever. It was the year that I was given the often-begged-for and finally-received puppy. Beauregard. My very first dog.As a mom, I like to think I've carried on those family traditions with my sons. I can only hope they look back on all of their childhood birthdays, and even their adult birthdays, knowing they are loved the way only a parent can love. Unconditionally. Unselfishly. Unfalteringly. Oh, sure, some of the traditions are silly, and as they got older maybe even a little bit embarassing. But looking back, I hope they will smile, knowing that they are special to us.The point is this: A birthday is more than a birthday.It's more than the presents, the food, the crepe paper dangling haphazardly from the ceiling, and a silly song. It signifies the importance someone holds in your life, and your need to let them know it. To share the day they were born and their significance and impact on your life. To 'shout it from the rooftops', so to speak. To remind everyone around you that it's okay to take a break and just have a party in someone's else's honor. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, GLENN!Today is my husband's birthday. We've spent twenty-nine birthdays together as a couple. That's more time than we each spent living in our parent's homes, which means we've been together more than half of our years on Earth. After so many years together, it can be tricky to find that 'perfect gift' or bake that 'perfect cake.' Since his birthday is in the middle of July, more often than not we take our vacation during his birthday week. Because of that, he often misses out on that big family party. He actually prefers it that way. It took me a long time to understand that his idea of a happy birthday is different than mine. And it's okay. As long as he feels special and loved on his 'big day' in a way that makes him smile on the inside, that should be all that matters to me.On the day of my favorite person's birth, I want him to know how essential he is to me, and to our boys. Throughout our marriage, we've had our share of ups and downs. We've struggled and rejoiced. Celebrated and mourned. But what makes our marriage work is our ability to lean on each other through the good times and the hard times. I truly don't know what I would ever do without his presence in my life. Without the party, balloons, and decorations, how can I truly express how I feel? How can I make him feel 'extra special'... without all the trappings?Well, I'm a writer. So, here's a little poem I wrote, (Yes, babe, a poem. Don't worry, I kept it short!) inspired in celebration of sharing another birthday with the man I love. (I don't usually write poetry, so forgive my amateur attempt!)This is your special day.Happy Birthday, Glenn!Birthday PoemDo you know how much I love you?Do I find the time to say?How your smile makes my heart flutter,and your dimples make me sway.Do you know how much I love you?Can you ever truly know?That you cheer me with your laughter,and the sound makes my joy grow.Do you know how much I love you?I'm not sure I can express.The many ways you calm my soul,and chase away the stress.Do you know how much I love you?In the darkness and the light?When you solve whatever problem,whether conflict, fear, or fight.Do you know how much I love you?Can I ever really tell?Your smallest touch is my solution,and it calms my rising swell.Do you know how much I love you?Did we sit down to discuss?How your loyal, calm support,keeps us going, the three of us.Do you know how much I love you?We are different and the same.Though we disagree sometimes, you never pass the blame.Do you know how much I love you?I hope you know I truly do.I'd find a billion ways to tell you,but I'll settle for "I love you."-Kristen L. JacksonHappy, happy, birthday to my best friend. I hope you truly know how much you're loved.Kristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHHaven't read KOTW yet? CLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS!Available Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthor

The Little Things...

"While it may seem small, the ripple effect of the small things is extraordinary." --Matt BevinIt's often easy to look to the big things in life. Small things can seem exactly that. Small. Unimportant. Insignificant. Even bothersome. If there's one thing both teaching and writing have taught me it's this:The small things are the only things that matter. It's true. If you want to achieve those huge and daunting milestones in your life, you have to let yourself enjoy the little things first. The tiny, seemingly non-essential and possibly time-consuming moments are in effect what makes those humungous events achievable.I'm not suggesting that we don't set goals. Quite the opposite, in fact. Absolutely set those goals. But don't become so blinded by making those dreams happen that you miss those moments that make your heart smile. It's not always easy. In teaching preschool, it may seem more important to get that group activity done, practice the letters and sounds, create a graph, make a journal entry. No doubt, these things are important to achieving the bigger goal: getting the children academically ready to move on to kindergarten.But in the rush to 'get it done', I have found that it's okay to allow myself to hit the pause button. I don't want to miss that special smile from a shy 3-year-old student because they drew a picture for me. Or the story they just have to share because it's important to them, even though it's time to go outside. Listening matters so much to them at this age, and everyone's busy. Teachers. Parents. It's a busy world we live in. Just pause to listen. Play with them. And appreciate that you are important in their young life and they need you in that moment. Academics are important. But so are the little things.In writing, the big goal: write a book and get published. Focusing on the end-goal can be daunting, overwhelming, and can seem quite impossible. Self-doubt is a constant stumblingblock, and at times it may seem easier to just give up. I have discovered that if I focus on the small things and take one day at a time, the huge goal seems more achievable. Just write that chapter, or even a paragraph, and before you know it the book is half-written. I need to remindmyself to pause. Think of the reasons I started writing in the first place. The need to tell a story. Letting imagination and creativity flow. The peace that comes with telling a tale. The enjoyment I get from early morning silence; just me, my computer, and utter quiet. So, here's my list of the small (huge!) things that make my heart smile, making those impossible dreams somehow possible: *Summer flowers ready to bloom*Freshly picked wildflowers in a cup*My husband's hand in mine*The sound of water flowing gently over rocks*An impromptu walk in the creek*Early morning silence*The sunrise and sunset*A gentle breeze that rustles my hair*The sound of my husband and sons laughing*A dog's muzzle resting on my leg*A good book that I think about even when I'm not reading*Toes in the sand*Saltwater on my lips*The sound of waves crashing*Sun on my skin*That special smile he saves just for me*The sweet taste of chocolate*Pizza on a Friday night*Reading my own published words*An unexpected day off*Family movie nights*HomeI challenge you to make your own list, and feel free to post it in the comments!Slow Dance By David L. WeatherfordHave you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round? Or listened to the rain slapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight? Or gazed at the sun into the fading night? You better slow down. Don't dance so fast. Time is short. The music won't last.Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply? When the day is done Do you lie in your bed, With the next hundred chores Running through your head? You'd better slow down Don't dance so fast. Time is short. The music won't last.Ever told your child, we'll do it tomorrow? And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch, Let a good friendship die Cause you never had time, to call and say "Hi"? You'd better slow down. Don't dance so fast. Time is short. The music won't last.When you run so fast to get somewhere You miss half the fun of getting there. When you worry and hurry through your day, It is like an unopened gift.... Thrown away. Life is not a race. Do take it slower Hear the music Before the song is over.Haven't had a chance to read KOTW yet? Click here to read the first three chapters!Kristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCH Available Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthor

My Dad

Celebrate your dad this weekend. My dad's been gone for 3 1/2 years. I can't believe that much time has passed since I last saw his face.Heard his laugh.Touched his hand.Shared a conversation. Watched a football game with him.Time truly does go on, though when we lost him so unexpectedly, it seemed as if the world had stopped turning for my family. We've somehow managed to put the pieces back together, though a huge chunk of the puzzle will forever be missing.But bits of him are evident in all of us.Me.My sisters.Our children.We see a picture and realize how much one of them looks like him. We hear them talking and are reminded of things he used to say. A Tribute To My DadHe was a man who loved life. Oh, he wasn't perfect, and I wouldn't want to paint him in that impossible color. He had a stubborn streak, and when he made up his mind, well, that was that. Though he wasn't perfect, he was a perfectionist. If he did something, you knew it was done correctly and with precision. Hard work was in his blood. He was a gentle soul, and he loved each of us with all his heart. My parents had the kind of marraige that is rare these days, built on mutual love and respect. It is this example I strive for in my own marraige.Dad loved music of many genres, but rock music moved him the most. The golden oldies were his favorite. I can picture just how he would tilt his head, close his eyes, and sing along letting the music take him away.He had a jolly side, and loved to laugh. Jokes were more funny when he was around, and his laughter was contagious, even if you didn't get the punch-line. He always bungled the telling of a joke, but that made it all the more fun.July 4th was a special holiday, because he absolutely adored setting off fireworks. There were times the entire neighborhood would gather to watch. He passed this love onto his grandchildren, and they continue the tradition to this day in his honor. A loyal Eagles fan all his life, I'm sure I heard his yell in my ear at the moment when our birds won the superbowl on February 4th. He would come over to watch every game in our house, and neighbors down the street could always guess how the game was going. I wish he could've seen the big win.Though my heart hurts with missing him, I also celebrate how lucky I was to be raised by this wonderful man. I would not be the person I am today if not for him. We were very similar, he and I.(I will not post a picture here out of respect for him. He was not a fan of social media, and felt very strongly that people should not share pictures this way, so I will not.) Celebrate Your 'Dads' TodayAnd so, this Father's Day, we will visit the cemetary, and think of Dad long after we leave that plot of ground. But I will also send up a prayer of thanksgiving that I still have others in my life that I can honor on this holiday.My husband, my best friend. My rock. My biggest fan. My love. In a storm of despair and loss, he has been my constant shelter from the wind. Not to mention what an amazing dad he is to our sons.My father-in-law. Another positive role-model in our lives, he always has a hug and smile for everyone. We know how lucky we are to be able to celebrate Father's Day with him this year, and hopefully for many more to come. I'm proud to call him "Dad." Whatever you're doing this Father's Day, make sure to stop and give thanks for all the dads in your life. Fathers, Step-dads, In-laws, Godfathers, uncles, pet-dads. Dads come in many forms. Life is so short. You truly never know how many more holidays you have with your loved ones. It could be days. Hours. Minutes. Celebrate them. Yes, even the things that drive you crazy today. You could be missing those little things tomorrow.Happy Father's Day!KristenClick Here To Read The First Three Chapters of KEEPER OF THE WATCHKristen L. Jackson, Author of KEEPER OF THE WATCHAvailable Now:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & NobleFind Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthor

FAN ART COMPETITION! CLICK FOR DETAILS...

I'm very happy to announce my book's Friday Fan Art Competition that will be happening this summer! Time to get ready, the contest begins in just under three weeks!Have you read KEEPER OF THE WATCH? Do you like to draw?Amateurs and Artists of all ages, everyone is welcome to participate!Draw your favorite characters or scenes from KOTW, and post your art in the comments of the Friday Fan Art Post (You will have until midnight each Friday to enter.) Each week, a winner will be announced on Saturday afternoon (cool prizes will vary, including but not limited to a signed copy of the book, KOTW bracelets, t-shirts, etc.) Each week’s winner will be entered into the GRAND PRIZE COMPETITION, to be voted on by the public to win a chance to have your art included in the next edition of the book!***Instructions Below!*** Don't miss out on this once in a lifetime opportunity to have your art featured in my novel!Here’s what you’ll need to do to enter: 1. Read KEEPER OF THE WATCH and choose a favorite character or scene from the book. 2. ‘Like’, ‘Follow’, or 'Tag' me on at least one of my social media sites and post a picture of your fan art in the comments of my post with a short explanation of how your art relates to the story. You can enter on: Facebook(@kristenjacksonauthor), Twitter (@KLJacksonAuthor), Instagram (@krisjack504), or Tumblr (KRISTENJACKSONAUTHOR)3. Tell your friends, and share the post (if possible) to spread the word!4. Let your creative side take over, and create your masterpiece!5. Every Friday, starting on June 22nd, 2018, log on to one of the above social media sites to enter your drawing! I can't wait to see your creative ideas! Haven't read the book yet?Here's where you can find it:Black Rose WritingAmazonBarnes & Noble***CLICK HERE TO READ THE FIRST THREE CHAPTERS!***Find Me On:Facebook: @kristenjacksonauthorAmazon: Kristen L. JacksonTwitter: @KLJacksonAuthorTumblr: https://kristenjacksonauthor.tumblr.comGood Reads: Kristen L. JacksonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/AuthorKristenLJacksonInstagram: @krisjack504Yahoo: kristenjacksonauthor@yahoo.comWebsite: https://kristenljackson.wixsite.com/kristenjacksonauthor