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What We Look For When We’re Looking or How We Have Been Trained to See

Trigger warning: mention of childhood conditioning. Also, I’m not a therapist but do see one if you are struggling, or another professional as appropriate. In my brain there are a lot of connections that light up like little fireflies as thoughts shoot around. There’s likely a unicorn wandering about over here and a cesspool of… Continue Reading What We Look For When We’re Looking or How We Have Been Trained to See

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The Importance of Self-Development in Leadership

We are surrounded by leaders. Teachers, CEOs, parents, influencers and others who steer the course of a group and serve them. They are not only the figure heads and decision-makers: they are actively shaping the culture of the group they are leading – whether that is a conscious effort or not.  I have had a… Continue Reading The Importance of Self-Development in Leadership

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I Can’t Get No Satisfaction (From the Wrong Places)

Sometimes – no – often, I find myself working with a client who has a 100% pure impulse towards something good they want or need. It could be anything – art, beauty, intimacy, skill, authority. Anything.  But no matter how hard they try, they can’t ever quite satisfy it. At least, not until we’ve done… Continue Reading I Can’t Get No Satisfaction (From the Wrong Places)

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Our Pain is the Same

But How it Comes Out is Different.  In my work over thousands of sessions and in my travels I’ve come to realise our feelings, our pain, wishes, desires – are strikingly similar from person to person. But the way they come out is different.  Have you ever judged someone for having this, while you’ve had… Continue Reading Our Pain is the Same

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Calming Down Your Nervous System for the Homesick

This is just a short one. I realised that listening to the sounds of nature from back home in the UK made my nervous system instantly drop down into a state of relaxation. And then I wondered why that might be.  I think that if you’re away from where you grew up (in a different… Continue Reading Calming Down Your Nervous System for the Homesick

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Where are you spreading your sunshine? Aka the glorious and finite nature of your attention.

If we think of your attention an energy as a kind of light you can shine, where are you putting that effort?  And who is putting it into you?  The most satisfying relationships are the ones where the energy you put in is roughly equal (with allowances for child/ adult relationships and others where it… Continue Reading Where are you spreading your sunshine? Aka the glorious and finite nature of your attention.

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Growing Pains and Personal Evolution

Or outgrowing Your Old Life: the Discomfort of Shedding the Skin vs the Discomfort of Staying in it. One of my most important jobs as a coach is to support people through transitional times. This is a privilege for me, as it’s a unique and special journey. But it may feel very not-special while you’re… Continue Reading Growing Pains and Personal Evolution

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Figuring Out How Someone Is Broken Inside

Trigger warning/ caution: I wouldn’t do this exercise if you are feeling sensitive right now, or raw from something that someone has done. As always, seek help from a qualified professional if you need to. If, like pretty much everyone else in the world, you know someone who is unkind or has a bad habit… Continue Reading Figuring Out How Someone Is Broken Inside

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Why Do We Care What Jerks Think?

..is the shorter title I came up with so it wasn’t too unwieldy. What I really wanted to call this blog post was: Why Do We Care About The Opinions of People We Don’t Really Respect? But that was a mouthful.  Part of me wants to just say, seriously – if you know the answer,… Continue Reading Why Do We Care What Jerks Think?

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Using AI Art for Self Development

When I first heard about AI art I thought the whole thing was a bit weird and sad. What about real art – what about the artists? And then I tried it.  And I got the scariest, creepiest result – like something out of a Korean horror movie. But then I tried it again.  And… Continue Reading Using AI Art for Self Development

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