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Challenge Yourself!

My First Book!

I’m very excited to announce that I’m releasing my first nonfiction book!
This is a project I have been working on for a while now. I wanted to share my journey into how I learned to build my self-esteem and turn my internal critic from hurting me to helping me build confidence. This is a book that goes through my journey and gives you the techniques I used to become a positive force!
Would anyone be interested in a copy of the book? If anyone is interested please comment below with your name and email address. If you don’t want to share your information on my blog you can also contact me directly on my Ask Me Anything page.

Defeating Your Self-Bully: A guide to stop beating yourself up and start building confidence for a life you deserve

 

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Blurb:
Are you ready to start on a journey to improve your self-esteem and build your confidence?
If so, this is the book for you. You can learn to believe in yourself and start a journey to a meaningful you.
If you find you are one of those many people who suffer from beating yourself up daily, you have a self-bully. This book can help.
Learning to change your internal voice to positive self-talk is a tough journey to start. All of us have an internal voice and your voice should be helping you not hindering you. We all deserve success and happiness.
In this book there are simple actions and powerful approaches to help you stop beating yourself up and start building your self-esteem. Inside you will learn:


Understand why you have a self-bully




Give your bully a name and face




Learn to talk to your bully




Heal yourself and your internal critic




Remove negative friendships




Realize you self-worth




Become a positive force


This book will help provide you with ways to improve the way you talk to yourself and give you the tools you need to grow your confidence. Inside you will start your self journey to become confident and build a life of fulfillment. If your inner voice only fills you with negative thoughts it’s time to start defeating your self-bully!

Be Beautiful

A beautiful quote and a reminder to be a positive force through life!

Need for Connection

When listening to friends and family I realized that many of us are missing out on some of our most basic wants and needs. I started thinking about what we, as people, need to feel positive.

Personally, I have a really have a hard time placing my needs before others. I forget to figure out what I need and worry about fulfilling what others need.

I thought about Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, of course that is the most popular, especially in psychology. In the basics we need physical well-being, such as being able to breathe, sleep, and eat. We also need shelter and a feeling of safety.

Of course these basic physical and safety needs have to be fulfilled before we can focus on deeper emotions and building self-esteem. Lets look at the need for connection today.

Not every person we meet will help you with these needs and that is vital to remember. The most important people in our lives need to contribute to your needs.

In a world where technology has brought people together yet made them feel less connected we can find it a strange world to navigate. We can play games with our friend in Japan but at the same time we sit at a table with friends and family and find ourselves distracted by our own phones. The key here is to find moderation. Find ways to limit technology. When out with people try to connect with them without a cell phone.

Humans have a need for connection. We need to feel loved and accepted. Positive people in your life will help you feel this connection. They will contribute warmth, love, and belonging. Those who add to the feeling of connection will help you gain self-respect. We all want to be seen for who we really are inside, this means finding people we can trust and ones who are positive influences in our lives.

What about your needs? What makes you feel appreciated, supported, and like you belong? Is feeling a connection important to you? I would love to hear from you on what needs you would like to have filled to feel connected. Please post in the comments below on your thoughts.

 

Everyone Is Just Trying to Make It Through

If your like me and want to work on enjoying life we have to make adjustments in our thinking. This means giving people the benefit of the doubt.

For this blog post I wanted to help people alter their thinking to realize that everyone is facing problems and trying to make it through this thing we call life.

Yes, even that guy who cut you off.

This is a perfect example for this exercise, actually, let’s look at the guy who cut us off, sped down the road 20 miles over the speed limit, and most likely flipped off some little old lady who was going too slow. Many of us get angry at this person, even give into road-rage, wanting justification that the near accident was not our fault. I’m guilty for yelling at my fair share of crazy drivers. Which just happened to me and I wanted to share how I started to change my reaction.

Let’s start by adjusting our thinking in something as simple as chaos drivers. Most of us automatically assume that these crazy drivers are running behind, being jerks on purpose, and should have left their house ten minutes earlier. It’s true, maybe some of them are running late or just enjoy being jerks on the road but let’s look at another possibility.

What if they got a phone call from the hospital? What if their mother was dying of a heart attack?

I can tell you now, if my mom ended up in the hospital I wouldn’t care who I upset on the drive, I would want to get to the hospital as soon as possible.

If you start looking at this driver as someone who is going through something, someone who is in a hurry not just because they are late but because they are in pain it makes it easier to sympathize with the driver. Hope they make it to their destination safely and that whoever they are meeting is going to be okay. This simple adjustment takes away the anger and frustration and replaces it with empathy.

Changing this mentality not only gives you compassion for another’s journey but also allows you to let go of the anger at the other person. We never know the pain and suffering another person is going through. We can never compare our problems with that of another. Show kindness and support.

Be a positive force in other people’s lives.

Welcome!

Welcome to the site of Be A Positive Force!

I’m dedicating this website to influencing others be positive and live full lives.

For a long time I only saw the negative in life and for the first time I’m starting to see the positive. I want to share my journey with everyone as I grow and change.

My name is Renee Hines and I’m learning to live a full life!

I would love to hear from you so please feel free to contact me, email me, or share a comment below!