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May 9, 2013
Women Take Stand for Better World in San Diego
Mother’s Day is fast approaching and as we prepare to celebrate the mothers in our lives we often neglect to recognize the most important mother of all: Mother Earth. On Sunday, May 12 at 1 p.m., thousands of people around the globe will stand together in silence for five minutes in local parks, schools, churches and other gathering places to promote a better world for future generations. The result will be a 24-hour global wave of humanity standing to motivate and invigorate others to realize the dream of a better world for all.
In San Diego, women are invited to gather and stand in Balboa Park at the fountain in front of the Reuben H. Fleet Science Center along with organizers, Laura Rubinstein and Joan Morris. Women will gather on Sunday starting at 12:45 pm. At 1 pm they will sound a gong and bells, to signify the start of the 5 minutes of silence. Ms. Rubinstein began organizing the local Standing Women Mother’s Day silence events in May of 2007.
Since May of 2007, thousands of women have stood together in 75 countries and on all the continents of the globe to show their support for the world of which they dream. Inspired by a story written by Sharon Mehdi of Ashland, Oregon, The Great Silent Grandmother Gathering, collectively they decided that it was time to take a stand to make a difference. By standing for a moment of silence, participants will recognize the importance for all of the children of the world of issues such as safe drinking water, clean air, food for all to eat, access to basic education, adequate health care and safety from violence. 
The event is not limited only to women, however, and many men have stood since 2007. Julian Koss of Sarasota, Florida actively promoted the 2007 event in his state. “We’re all obligated to leave for our children and the ‘seven generations to follow’ a better world,” says Koss.
About San Diego Standing Women Organizer
Laura Rubinstein has dedicated her career in marketing consulting and hypnotherapy to women entrepreneurs. She started a website she refers to as an online retreat for women called WomenInJoy.com. According to Ms. Rubinstein, “As women recognize the strength we have to influence positive change and make decisions accordingly, our world will become a safer, healthier and more loving place to live.”
Contact: Laura Rubinstein, 619-940-6569 or laura at transformtoday.com
April 16, 2013
How To Get Confidence
As a woman, who you are naturally is full of power so it is amazingly simple to get confidence. Let me call attention to who you are and why you can be confident… We have the ability to bring life into the world. I would call that magical. Did you know that you can make someone’s day with a smile or a caring gesture? Of course you do.
Women have been the guiding consciousness of society for centuries. The thing is, however, many of us forget how power-full we are and slip into feeling less than, taken advantage of, or never seem to get the respect we deserve. What if the reason these things are happening is because we simply forgot who we are.
Remembering that you are powerful means taking responsibility for having what you want in life. Whoops, I said it… the R word. Yes, imagine living from this paradigm: You can have anything you say you want if you’re willing to make the decisions that will ensure you get it. Sounds easy right? With enough practice it will become a habit.
Three Steps to Gaining Confidence and Personal Power
Step 1: Be honest. Ask yourself, “What am I feeling?” Name a feeling that doesn’t involve another causing it. For example, are you feeling tired, lonely, sad, upset, angry, guilty, ashamed, frustrated, etc. It is best to use words do not imply blame. When you blame someone else you don’t feel powerful. In fact, blame gives your power away to someone else and leaves you stuck. Instead, own your feelings and acknowledge them to yourself.
Step 2: Ask yourself, “What do I really want to feel?” Typically it is to feel loved, to have friends who celebrate you, etc. Answer it with the underlying essence of the feeling you want to experience.
Step 3: Ask yourself, “How can I provide that for myself? It may mean ending a friendship, speaking less to a family member, asking for a hug, taking a bath, doing something special for yourself, or simply giving yourself some time off. Whatever is authentically in your highest good for you to do, go for it.
If you go through this process over and over, you will begin to notice something happening over time. People don’t upset you as much. Those who used to take advantage of you disappear or change their attitude. Most of all you feel great. You generate joy because you decide to!
October 7, 2012
Feminine Energy Defined and Beyond
Feminine energy is our heart energy! Learn why Laura helps women explore their feminine and understand the magnanimous power they innately have. Listen to this recent interview with Inez Bracey about the Feminine Power Cards and how women can have juicier relationships and more joy in their lives. If you want your dreams to come true, tap into the power of the feminine and learn who you are authentically.
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August 26, 2012
How to Recover from a Big Fight.
Dear Coach Laura,
My significant other and I had a really big fight recently. I didn’t like the way I behaved and I know that triggered him. I am afraid this may happen again. Can you give me some advice on how to prevent reacting so badly?
Emotional One
Dear Emotional One,
You have summarized the classic behavior that indicates, “What you are fighting about is not what you are fighting about.”� Check in with yourself. What is the issue at hand? If you were arguing about something small (that you know can come up again) chances are there is a deeper issue. The key to changing the pattern is identifying what is really going on. In order to identify what is really going on, you must stay engaged in the issue without being entrenched in it. Here are the basic steps. I recommend getting professional help with them if your issue comes up repeatedly.
Step 1: Avoid making your point over and over. Let go of having to be right. Focus on what you really want. That is, to understand what is the underlying emotional triggers and create harmony within. You may want to look to what is frustrating to you about your OWN life. Are you projecting it on the relationship? If so, take ownership of that fact. That is the gift of surrendering being right.
Step 2: Be willing to be uncomfortable. Start asking yourself questions. What am I feeling? What do I want to be feeling? What do I need to really feel better?
Step 3: Allow yourself to be open to other possibilities you otherwise wouldn’t see about the situation. Think about his point of view. Contemplate it as a possibility instead of rigidly defending your own point of view.
Step 4: Commit to a win-win solution. It can only be a solution for you if it’s a solution for him too. You need to play on the same side. That is, inside your loving relationship.
In his book, Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch encourages readers to create inter-dependent relationships. If you are getting stuck in a pattern, chances are you are in a codependent pattern. Look to take more responsibility for your stuff.
Yours In Joy.
Coach Laura
May 5, 2012
Women Living Consciously
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In this book, You’ll Discover these Timeless Truths and Valuable Lessons:
Rid yourself of the “disease to please” once and for all
Recognize the diamond in the rough and polish it
Know that your dreams have no limits–empower yourself
Build your business to match your vision, no matter the economy
Survivor and victim are two sides of the same coin–you choose
Childhood trauma doesn’t equal a traumatized adult
Labels are not death sentences, they’re just words
How to live an authentic life in alignment with your highest values
Spirit exists in every experience, sometimes you just need faith
Release the darkness of the past and open up to your bright future
Living in the moment is all you really have
Love is the greatest elixir for all ills–physical, emotional and spiritual
Fear is all in your head; living from your heart is the only way to eliminate it
Maintain eternal connections with loved ones for greater peace
This anthology book celebrates the strength and beauty that all women possess. It provides a resource, a sounding board and a path for you to follow. And mostly, it speaks the truth about surviving and thriving through uncertainty, growth and sometimes seemingly impossible circumstances.
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April 11, 2012
How does one know if they are on the right life path?
Well, I believe the evidence is in what someone is experiencing. If your experiencing what you want… joy, love, passion, connection, flow, peace, inner strength, etc. Then you’re on the right path. If you’re not experiencing what you want, I suggest a journey inward. Changing outward circumstances won’t do any good until you understand what message your soul has for you.
Try this exercise:
Close your eyes and take a few slow and full breaths.
Once you feel a sense of calm, imagine yourself in your favorite most inspiring place
Simply ask your mind to take you on the right path for you
Imagine yourself moving along the path, feeling energized, excited and aware
Let yourself know you are on the right path, and the right people, right opportunities are here for you.
Ask yourself: “Are you willing to be open and move forward on this perfect path for your highest good?” If the answer is yes, breath in and acknowledge your willingness. If the answer is no, ask yourself, “What do I need to be open to moving forward on the path for my highest good?”
Simply let yourself feel the energy of the perfect path for you. You don’t need details. You simply open your eyes. Trust that you’ve set in motion the perfect positive path for you.
To receive more guidance check out these tools: http://www.womeninjoy.com/wisdom-tools/
March 24, 2012
Peacefully Resolve Conflicts in Relationships
My husband said for the first couple of years we were together that things were going so well in our relationship that he was waiting for “the other shoe to drop” when we would have a big fight. I wasn’t surprised that it never happened. Mind you, we have areas of disagreement but they never become big issues.
As a student and coach of communications and relationship development, I am continually learning and practicing skills to enhance relationships. At one point my husband had an aha moment. He said, “I now understand why we are not going to have that big fight.” Below are some points he mentioned that I also believe are the some key elements of peacefully resolving conflicts in relationships.
1. Each partner takes responsibility for his/her feelings and his/her part in the situation. It is imperative that each partner acknowledge and reflect upon his/her own feelings and reactions to things.
2. Have a commitment/intention to put love in the space of your relationship. I will often ask myself something like, “How can I be loving to myself and my partner?” It is especially important to ask this question when you don’t feel like it.
3. Refrain from holding onto expectations of your partner behaving a certain way in order to “make” you happy. The minute you expect him/her to behave a certain way so you can feel better, you’re trapped in a no-win situation. You must make yourself happy and then be in relationship. Expectations will trap your partner into “having” to be a certain way and will lead to resentment on his/her part or disappointment on yours.
4. No assumptions. Whatever you do, don’t assume he/she did something on purpose to hurt you. Instead, give him/her the benefit of the doubt and then seek to verify what the case is. Negative assumptions is like poison to a relationship.
5. Speak the truth about yourself. Use “I feel…” and stick to feelings (not words that imply he/she did something to cause this feeling). For example, feeling words include: sad, angry, depressed, insecure, confused, afraid, jealous, sick, frisky, elated. Words that implicate your partner (that you won’t want to use) include: rejected, pushed, conned, judged. Avoid using the word “you” when expressing your feelings. Stick to “I.”
6. Never lash out. Say nothing instead. And contemplate what you are feeling. Lashing out is merely avoiding facing the truth about what you are feeling.
These take practice. I will admit I am not perfect. What is key for me is staying conscious to these principles and apologizing quickly if I’ve stepped over the line. Thus, I highly recommend keeping them present in your life and practicing them. It will make all the difference.
These principles and many more are incorporated into the Feminine Power Cards which are daily reminders and practices for living in feminine energy and creating juicy harmonious soul-connected relationships.
Wishing you joy-filled connections.
Coach Laura
July 7, 2009
Planet Success Strategies – What Are Yours?
There are so many things we have taken for granted with the many conveniences of our modern life. Running water, plastic wrappings and containers, our clothing, electronics and fast food. We have come accustomed to throwing away many of these items. We have become a disposable society. The problem is, our landfills are filling up, we are running out of clean potable water and the animals we cohabitate the earth with are dying because of our habits. What can we do?
What if each of us, create...
Planet Success Strategies - What Are Yours?
There are so many things we have taken for granted with the many conveniences of our modern life. Running water, plastic wrappings and containers, our clothing, electronics and fast food. We have come accustomed to throwing away many of these items. We have become a disposable society. The problem is, our landfills are filling up, we are running out of clean potable water and the animals we cohabitate the earth with are dying because of our habits. What can we do?
What if each of us, create one n
May 27, 2009
Personal Success Strategies â€" Beyond Integrity
Last week I was sent an email from my Facebook friend Marjorie where she asked what my Personal Success strategies are. What came to mind was revealing and may be somewhat contrary to what others have recommended. Please let me know what you think as you read this.
You’ve heard that integrity is important. I think so too. I used to think that having integrity, in other words, keeping my commitments and having things in life completed, was the key to having everything I wanted in life. ...
