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April 8, 2014
Why I Write Supernatural Fiction
The supernatural has always been a part of my life so my writing is automatically embedded with elements of a numinous nature. The supernatural is thoroughly tied with my spirituality. Ever since I could remember, I would look at the natural world and be in complete awe of the intricate workings of it. I felt that I was a part of ethereal miraculous machine called life and I was a breathing, living soul. The spirits loomed around me as I laid on the grass looking into the clouds. I could feel the whole of myself and knew in my heart that I was a part of something invisible, indestructible, terrific, and powerful. I knew this because I was me. My thoughts were my own. My mind worked differently from my siblings, my parents, my friends. I was individual. I was free thinking. I danced on my toes on the hard wood floors, spinning songs with my feet and laughing lyrics in my heart. I picked flowers because I thought they were beautiful like me. I cried tears of fear when I first witnessed the infinity of stars twinkling. I knew that the sky was a canvas and a new painting was waiting for me each sunset. Poetry was in each breath I drew. I sat at the knee of my great-grant mother listening to her ghost stories and dream divining to catch glimpses of the divine. I saw eternity in my mother’s eyes and temporary sanctuary in my father’s arms. All of this was not by coincidence. It was sacred space made by something. Something that created me and placed me in a time and space to relish it. I have always known that I was a part of something supernatural. There had to be something inside this physical form that held the emotional galaxy of my being. Creativity flowed from my fingertips as I learned to pen the dark twists of my imagination. Fear pulsated from my bones when I learned that my dreams were not mere unconscious fancies but messages tapping into that enormous thing that connected my mortal and immortal self. The supernatural is a part of who I am. My words are merely a reflection on me. Learn more about me, my books, and my journeys through the supernatural, flights of fancy, and adventure through sci-fi/fantasy and poetry at www.violettemeier.com.
April 5, 2014
Author DK Walker shares with his views on what stops a book from being great.
Author DK Walker stopped by my blog last week to share his insights on writing. I was graced by his visit and gained great insight by his words. Here is what he said:
“What stops a good book from being great? Well it’s the fluff of course…” By Author DK Walker
And please don’t confuse the title of this blog with a Fluffer; although the better the fluff in your book the stiffer the reader becomes in anticipation of the next ‘BIG’ moment in your story (sorry I couldn’t resist). Still scratching your head at exactly what ‘fluff’ is? What I label fluff is the story between the big moments in a book.
Most books have 3 big moments; the beginning, the middle, and the end. The beginning of a book is where the author sets the table and invites the reader to stay a while. A poorly set table and you’ll have a disinterested reader closing your book after a few chapters and later using it as a coaster on their nightstand. The middle of the book is what I like to call when sh*t hits the fan. Here the reader is having a ‘WTF’ moment and now they are so enrapt in your book they can’t put it down. Lastly is the end of your book where hopefully a great climaxed was reached and that ‘WTF’ moment has either been resolved or enough wiggle room has been left to produce a sequel.
Yeah I know you’re still scratching your head wondering where the hell the fluff I alluded to earlier is. Well the fluff is the story that’s between the beginning, middle and end. In some author’s mind they can’t wait to write about as many ‘BIG’ moments as possible and not properly placing a few over the top moments with a well-placed, thought out, and thought provoking story line.The more substance you place in your fluff, the bigger your three moments of a book will be. Take time out to give each main character of your book credibility as to what part they’re playing. Don’t just paint an abstract picture of their role in your book and expect the reader to connect when it comes time to use them in a big moment; that’s a poor fluffer if you ask me (could you send in the next Jane; sorry I still couldn’t resist).
Let’s take a look at how fluff is used in almost all forms of entertainment. Some comedians use audience interaction before they get into their next big joke; that’s fluff, but its engaging fluff that makes you feel part of the joke. Wrestling (yes I said wrestling; I apologize to anyone in the South reading this… I meant rasslin’) uses women wrestling in between their big matches to give the audience a chance to settle down from the match they just saw and get ready for the big match that’s coming. And yes, this is fluff too; the Tits and Ass kind. Even the most action packed movies have lulls in the action to make the next big scene POP.
As an author you want your book to be talked about in a good way and in order to do that why not take the time to properly make those special moments in your book mean something. In my first book; The Ugly Side of Sex, I made sure that the fluff (in this case character interaction) between my two main characters was so engaging that I made the reader feel like a Peeping Tom given privy to the most erotic conversation they will ever hear. So when I moved forward in my story the reader had been properly engaged since I kept their anticipation mounting with (yep, you guessed it) good fluff.
Contrary to most authors I believe that writing a book is just as easy as writing a paragraph, but because I say it’s this easy don’t take the easy way out. Do some research; find some obscure, but meaningful references to lend to the depth of your character. Don’t over think the process, but please don’t under think it either. Have fun, be free and creative as your mind will allow without muddying the written waters. Most of make sure you give the reader some goooood fluff, so once they put your book down they’ll know they had a hummer of a good time.
Learn more about DK at:
https://en-el-publishing.com/Purchase.htmlhttps://www.facebook.com/dk.walker2http://enelpublishing.wordpress.com/https://twitter.com/DKWalker1https://twitter.com/enelpublishinghttp://www.skillpages.com/dk.walker/2https://www.facebook.com/EnElPublishing
March 27, 2014
My Writing Process...The Finger Dance
People always ask me, “How do you write a book?” My answer is plain and simple. I just write! There is no special formula that I use. I don’t use story boards or outlines. I don’t read writing manuals or attend seminars. I don’t go to writer’s workshops or subscribe to magazines. I try not to read books in my genre so that I won’t absorb any other writer’s ideas. I simply get a story in my head and write it down.
First, I make sure my surroundings are moderately quiet; the children are in bed and the hubby is doing his own thing. Usually this occurs in the wee hours of the night since my children inherited my excessive need for attention. After I am completely comfortable and have no one around to distract me, I sit at my computer and start typing. Although I flow better using pen and paper, I promised myself that I would make my life easier and just type straight into the computer.
I place my fingers upon my keyboard and allow the story to unfold before me. I usually have no idea what I’m going to type. I just allow my fingers to dance. It is a surreal experience. Sometimes I am in awe of what is transpiring on my computer screen. It is as if an external force is propelling my fingers and I am only reading what is being written. I simply write. I let my imagination soar. I allow the story to go where it pleases.
If you want to write a book, just write. After your book is written, then the true work begins: editing, publishing, marketing, etc… Until then, just write!
First, I make sure my surroundings are moderately quiet; the children are in bed and the hubby is doing his own thing. Usually this occurs in the wee hours of the night since my children inherited my excessive need for attention. After I am completely comfortable and have no one around to distract me, I sit at my computer and start typing. Although I flow better using pen and paper, I promised myself that I would make my life easier and just type straight into the computer.
I place my fingers upon my keyboard and allow the story to unfold before me. I usually have no idea what I’m going to type. I just allow my fingers to dance. It is a surreal experience. Sometimes I am in awe of what is transpiring on my computer screen. It is as if an external force is propelling my fingers and I am only reading what is being written. I simply write. I let my imagination soar. I allow the story to go where it pleases.
If you want to write a book, just write. After your book is written, then the true work begins: editing, publishing, marketing, etc… Until then, just write!
February 19, 2014
20 Ways To Know If A Man Loves You!
Women always ask their girlfriends, “How do I know if he loves me?” Ladies, it’s really not that difficult to know. Contrary to popular belief, men are not as complex as we think they are. Men are pretty simple people. Most of them are straight forward and easy to please if they love the woman they are with. Many men don’t lie about their feelings, we just hear what we want to hear and see what we want to see.
Men are not very verbose when it comes to love. Their actions speak a heck of a lot louder than their words. If you want to know if a man’s love is true, look at what he does. Talk is cheap!
Here are 20 tell tell signs that he really loves you:
1. He sometimes calls you for no other reason than to hear your voice.2. When something extraordinary happens to him, you are the first one he calls.3. He puts you before everyone in his life (besides his children).4. Making time is never an issue.5. He is thoughtful and considerate.6. He loves being with you even if sex is not possible.7. He respects you and your family.8. He is supportive of your dreams and goals.9. He tells you he loves you.10. You not only his wife/girlfriend, you are his best friend.11. He is generous.12. He is completely faithful. He does not engage in any sexual activity (touching, kissing, sex-texting, sex talk, sex, oral sex, etc.) or emotional activity (secret friendships, secret dinners, etc.) with any woman or man besides you.13. He will not let pride get in the way of your relationship.14. He still sees your beauty as you age.15. He accepts you just the way you are, flaws and all.16. He will never abuse you physically, mentally, verbally, or financially.17. You can trust him around women.18. If you have children from a previous relationship, he loves them like they are his own.19. He cares about your physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.20. He isn’t a selfish lover.
Of course all men are different and people show their love in different ways but the aforementioned 20 signs are pretty much universal for men and women. Real love is usually displayed in the most simplistic and sincerest forms. Candy and flowers are nice but mainly hackneyed expressions. Love is seen and felt in the little things that he does daily that lets you know that you are the one for him.
So ladies, stop asking if he loves you, his actions are answering you loud and clear. Observe and enlighten yourself.
Men are not very verbose when it comes to love. Their actions speak a heck of a lot louder than their words. If you want to know if a man’s love is true, look at what he does. Talk is cheap!
Here are 20 tell tell signs that he really loves you:
1. He sometimes calls you for no other reason than to hear your voice.2. When something extraordinary happens to him, you are the first one he calls.3. He puts you before everyone in his life (besides his children).4. Making time is never an issue.5. He is thoughtful and considerate.6. He loves being with you even if sex is not possible.7. He respects you and your family.8. He is supportive of your dreams and goals.9. He tells you he loves you.10. You not only his wife/girlfriend, you are his best friend.11. He is generous.12. He is completely faithful. He does not engage in any sexual activity (touching, kissing, sex-texting, sex talk, sex, oral sex, etc.) or emotional activity (secret friendships, secret dinners, etc.) with any woman or man besides you.13. He will not let pride get in the way of your relationship.14. He still sees your beauty as you age.15. He accepts you just the way you are, flaws and all.16. He will never abuse you physically, mentally, verbally, or financially.17. You can trust him around women.18. If you have children from a previous relationship, he loves them like they are his own.19. He cares about your physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing.20. He isn’t a selfish lover.
Of course all men are different and people show their love in different ways but the aforementioned 20 signs are pretty much universal for men and women. Real love is usually displayed in the most simplistic and sincerest forms. Candy and flowers are nice but mainly hackneyed expressions. Love is seen and felt in the little things that he does daily that lets you know that you are the one for him.
So ladies, stop asking if he loves you, his actions are answering you loud and clear. Observe and enlighten yourself.
February 3, 2014
Stupidity is an Epidemic
stu·pid·i·tyst(y)o͞oˈpiditē/noun1.behavior that shows a lack of good sense or judgment. (Google)
Stupidity is an epidemic. It is a cancer of the brain that eats away at all intellectual rationalizations. It affects people from all walks of life, socioeconomic locations, religious affiliations, and cultural backgrounds. It masquerades as news stories, political discourse, “politically correct” social policing, religious and atheist banter, pop music, and most of the time simple word vomit.
People say the first thing that comes to their minds without considering whether it holds any value for them or the people nearby forced to hear it. I am abhorred by some of the things that the youth say in jest. I am stupefied by the loud and brash opinions plastered all over social media immortalizing some people’s stupidity for eternity. My flesh cringes every time I turn on the TV to see blatant agenda pushing even when the agenda goes against all human rationalization. My very soul twitches every time I turn on the radio and hear a song that presents a symphony of idiocy.
It is true that we all have our thoughts and opinions about life. Every viewpoint is valuable but if what you share is purposely deceptive, is cruel and offensive, seeks to destroy others or yourself, is inhumane, promotes degenerate behavior, seeks to dumb down not to enlighten or is aiding in the breakdown of the community at large, WHAT YOU ARE SPEWING IS STUPIDITY! Cease and desist immediately!
Thanks for your time and understanding. Have a splendid day! J
Stupidity is an epidemic. It is a cancer of the brain that eats away at all intellectual rationalizations. It affects people from all walks of life, socioeconomic locations, religious affiliations, and cultural backgrounds. It masquerades as news stories, political discourse, “politically correct” social policing, religious and atheist banter, pop music, and most of the time simple word vomit.
People say the first thing that comes to their minds without considering whether it holds any value for them or the people nearby forced to hear it. I am abhorred by some of the things that the youth say in jest. I am stupefied by the loud and brash opinions plastered all over social media immortalizing some people’s stupidity for eternity. My flesh cringes every time I turn on the TV to see blatant agenda pushing even when the agenda goes against all human rationalization. My very soul twitches every time I turn on the radio and hear a song that presents a symphony of idiocy.
It is true that we all have our thoughts and opinions about life. Every viewpoint is valuable but if what you share is purposely deceptive, is cruel and offensive, seeks to destroy others or yourself, is inhumane, promotes degenerate behavior, seeks to dumb down not to enlighten or is aiding in the breakdown of the community at large, WHAT YOU ARE SPEWING IS STUPIDITY! Cease and desist immediately!
Thanks for your time and understanding. Have a splendid day! J
January 21, 2014
Contemplating Death
For the first time in my life I came face to face with the idea of death. My life flashed before my eyes in an array of scenes of my children confused and crying, husband living without me, my family and friends mourning, my dreams turning into a raisin in the sun. Fear gripped my chest so hard that I thought I was manifesting a heart attack. The thought of not being around to see my children grow into well balanced successful individuals made me spiritually nauseous. I’m way too young to die! I don’t know what 40 looks like! I just found love! I’m not rich yet! I haven’t sold 100 million copies of my books! I haven’t traveled the world. I haven’t cured the world of one of its ills! I haven’t started a spiritual revolution! I had always imagined myself old with gray hair and wrinkles placed strategically so that my youthful beauty was still a lingering shadow.
This unfathomable fear began when I felt a lump on my neck and decided to go to the emergency room because of uncomfortable pressure. I thought I was simply having an allergic reaction to a late snack but unbeknownst to me I had a cyst lurking inside my neck like a swatter. The news made me nervous but I had no fear because the doctor said it was not harmful and he would just drain it.
They admitted me to the hospital. I wasn’t happy about that and I needless to say the night was a sleepless one. The only comfort I had was my husband spooning me in the hospital bed.The next morning my mother brought my children. Their presence made me feel better. Soon it was operation time. I was informed that there was another cyst present. It was not a bubble of liquid like its brother, it was another entity entirely. Complex and foreboding, this one earned a biopsy. Biopsy equals the prospect of cancer. CANCER!!!!! What? Who me? Not me? Can’t be! I’m immortal! LOL
The procedure was quick and virtually painless. My doctor was nice but needed a course in sensitivity training. She informed me in a nonchalant tone, “Don’t worry, the worst possible scenario is cancer.” My eyes almost popped out of my head. I kept my cool since she had a needle in my neck so I just smiled and uttered another prayer up to heaven.
Later that day, another doctor came in to discharge me. He informed me that my results wouldn’t be in a few days but the in-house pathologists confirmed through his cell evaluation that….EVERYTHING IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. Whew! My life stopped flashing before my eyes and the vision of my future gray hair and crooked smile took its place back in the forefront of my mind. Life is for the living. No more contemplating death.
This unfathomable fear began when I felt a lump on my neck and decided to go to the emergency room because of uncomfortable pressure. I thought I was simply having an allergic reaction to a late snack but unbeknownst to me I had a cyst lurking inside my neck like a swatter. The news made me nervous but I had no fear because the doctor said it was not harmful and he would just drain it.
They admitted me to the hospital. I wasn’t happy about that and I needless to say the night was a sleepless one. The only comfort I had was my husband spooning me in the hospital bed.The next morning my mother brought my children. Their presence made me feel better. Soon it was operation time. I was informed that there was another cyst present. It was not a bubble of liquid like its brother, it was another entity entirely. Complex and foreboding, this one earned a biopsy. Biopsy equals the prospect of cancer. CANCER!!!!! What? Who me? Not me? Can’t be! I’m immortal! LOL
The procedure was quick and virtually painless. My doctor was nice but needed a course in sensitivity training. She informed me in a nonchalant tone, “Don’t worry, the worst possible scenario is cancer.” My eyes almost popped out of my head. I kept my cool since she had a needle in my neck so I just smiled and uttered another prayer up to heaven.
Later that day, another doctor came in to discharge me. He informed me that my results wouldn’t be in a few days but the in-house pathologists confirmed through his cell evaluation that….EVERYTHING IS ABSOLUTELY NORMAL. Whew! My life stopped flashing before my eyes and the vision of my future gray hair and crooked smile took its place back in the forefront of my mind. Life is for the living. No more contemplating death.
July 17, 2013
Making your life count
Life is an uncertain thing and the old adage "tomorrow isn't promised" is so true. Try not to dwell on things we cannot change or stress over events that may never occur. All we have is right now. Live right now. Be happy right now. Forgive right now. Follow your dreams right now. Advocate right now. Protest right now. Always remember to love hard and live free-RIGHT NOW!
February 2, 2013
Ladies, Stay in your Lane!!!!
Ladies, stay in your lane! I know that Hollywood movies like Tomb Raider, Underworld, Charlie’s Angels, Kill Bill, Resident Evil, and Total Recall have convinced many of us that we can go toe to toe with a man. I know that the women’s rights movement has made some of us delusional. Let’s be real, we may be just as smart as men but we are not just as strong. I don’t give a rat’s fat foot about how much a girl can power lift or take karate. Movies and TV have us fighting, taking punches with ease, and throwing men across the room like paper. Although nothing is impossible, I know that there are women who are trained fighters and can put a hurting on a man BUT MOST WOMEN ARE NOT TRAINED FIGHTERS! It is extremely rare for an average woman to beat up an average man. It is the exception not the rule. With that being said, why do women continue to jump in men’s faces like they are ready for battle? I’m so tired of videos like the bus driver uppercut or the ghetto girl who gets tasered. I just don’t understand it. I can understand if women were trying to defend themselves or protect their children or even express their opinion but these dumb bunnies provoke fights! Is fast food eating our brains? Is mental deficiency among our youth soaring to record heights? Is life so bad that ladies are going on suicide missions? What’s really going on?!?! Whatever it is, STOP IT!!!!!!! Keep your hands to yourself! All men aren't gentleman and they have no respect or regard for you being female. They are low lives who will try to beat you within inches of your life. Please don’t be the next internet video victim. STAY IN YOUR LANE!
January 26, 2013
15 Ways to Spot a Man Who Isn't Husband Material
Last time I wrote about the kind of women men should not marry in an effort to show that there are lots of good men left in the world and that bad women don’t deserve to have them. Now it’s time to school the women on the types of men to stay the heck away from! There are many women looking for a good man who they can one day marry. The purpose of this blog is to help nice girls find nice guys by detailing the kind of men to stay away from. I’m going to reveal some unsavory qualities that some men possess. So let’s begin 15 ways to spot a man who isn’t husband material.
1. SELF ABSORBED GUYThis guy only thinks of himself. He talks about himself and is never interested in you or anyone else in the world. He does absolutely nothing that does not benefit him. Everything about him is self serving. All conversations somehow come back to him. You are practically invisible to this man unless he needs something from you. He only wants to please himself. He doesn’t understand anything unless he feels it. Stay far far away from him. Heartache and pain follows him everywhere he goes.
2. STILL LIVES AT HOME WITH MOMThis guy is usually over 30 and lives in a room full of high school/college memorabilia. He is happy living with mom and dad has no intentions of ever moving out. As he stares up at his ceiling full of glow in the dark stickers, he smiles because he thinks he has the good life. He pays no or very little rent, is a perpetual kid, a nice guy but a true mama’s boy. This man is looking for a mother and not a wife. You will probably never live up to his mother so why try.
3. CHRONICALLY UNEMPLOYED MANThis dude is allergic to jobs. He always has an excuse about why he can’t work. “The man” is holding him down. His boss is tripping. He can’t find a job. He’s always in conflict with someone. He’s trying to get their rap career going. His foot hurts etc… and on and on it goes. He has more excuses than a jailbird but he will never find an excuse to get a job. Gigolo…gig…gig…golo is what he is and his greatest aspiration is to live off of you!
4. PORN ADDICT/SUPER FREAKThis guy lives and breathes pornography. He thinks that spitting on “it” is sexy and he needs a movie to show him all his moves. Objectifying women is his specialty and everything female is simplified into a sex object. Intimacy is as foreign as France. Reality and fantasy is a blur and he thinks sex clubs or strip clubs are appropriate places to take women on dates. Beware of that he may become too sexually out there and he may ask you to do things you are totally uncomfortable with. He is always looking for something new to do. Regular sex is too safe for him so there is always a new perversion around the corner. It’s only a matter a time before he gets too weird or may even realize he’s just gay!
5. MR. CHOKE-A-CHICKThis guy is dangerous. He will beat the brakes off of you and three seconds later try to give you a kiss. Aggression and possession is his main characteristic. Believe him when he tells you he’ll kill you. Run away and stay away.
6. JEALOUS HEARTEDThis guy gets nervous when you are talking to your brother. He doesn’t like anyone to have your attention but him. He thinks you are sleeping with everyone and he accuses you of everything under the sun. If you buy a new dress, it has to be for another man. He can’t stand your friends and if he could fit you in his pocket he would. He’s always checking your phone, email, panties, etc… Usually this guy is Mr. Choke-a-chick or a cheater. Either way, tell him to kick rocks!
7. BAD HYGIENENothing is worse than a funky foot, yellow teeth, musty man. Enough said. Tell Pepe Le Pew to go fumigate himself and stop violating your nostrils!
8. SHALLOWThis guy is only interested in how you look, where you work, what you drive, how much money you have, and how influential your family is. He cares more about what people think than what you think. Everything is about image. Materialistic and superficial, this guy has no regard for true depth or individuality. If you desire sincere human interaction, this man is not the one for you.
9. BISEXUAL/GAY GUYUnless this is something you are into, NO SANE WOMAN WANTS A MAN WHO SLEEPS WITH MEN! Must I say more? No. Let’s move on.
10. NO GOALSEveryone should have goals in life. Even if the goals are small ones. A person with no goals is a person existing to fill empty space. They are living an unfulfilled life. They will probably live vicariously through you and expect you to accomplish everything on your own. Your need for partnership will be inadequate.
11. UNINTELLIGENTIntelligence is the sexiest thing about a man. It shows that he is powerful and has potential to soar to new heights. Knowledge is impressive and it gives a woman a sense of pride to know that her man is ahead of the game. Intelligence isn’t just book smarts. Street smarts are important too. Every woman wants to be secure in her man’s decision making abilities. A dumb man is like a turkey wearing a thong. It just aint right!
12. PILLAR OF PRIDEPride is cool but when a man’s pride is so strong that it leads him to make dumb decisions or do downright stupid things just because he can’t admit he is wrong, this makes him a stupid individual. If a man will never compromise or his stubbornness causes everyone one around him hardship or he will sacrifice everything sacred to him just so he can get the last word, it is better to leave him alone because no one is going to deal with his foolishness but himself.
13. MR. CHEATER MANThis man does not feel like a man unless he has more than one woman. He has a wandering eye and a penis to match. He thinks fidelity is just a bank. Women are objects to be collected and traded like baseball cards. Relationships have no value. He’s always sorry. He’s always getting his clothes burned, windows broken, and house broken into. He loves drama and can’t live without it. Stay away from him if you do not wish to be another concubine in his harem.
14. NO SELF ESTEEMWhen a man doesn’t love himself, it is impossible for him to love you. He will be in a perpetual web of dysfunction that is self sabotaging and will always force you to try to save him. This man hates himself. You can see it in the way he talks, behaves, through his failures, and his treatment of you. He is always trying to find a way to be everything he isn’t. He is lost and will allow himself to be used and abused and will often use and abuse you. Run!
15. NO MORALSLast but not least, when a man does not have morals, he will do anything. His moral compass is smashed to bits and everything is game. He will cheat with your friends. He’ll invite anyone into his bed. He will do anything for money. He’s a true hustler. He feels that it is a dog eat dog world and he is vicious. He is a combination of all fourteen qualities a fore mentioned. This man is angry with the world wants everyone to suffer. He is always unhappy and will end up alone because you can’t deal with him on any level. Tell this devil to get back!
1. SELF ABSORBED GUYThis guy only thinks of himself. He talks about himself and is never interested in you or anyone else in the world. He does absolutely nothing that does not benefit him. Everything about him is self serving. All conversations somehow come back to him. You are practically invisible to this man unless he needs something from you. He only wants to please himself. He doesn’t understand anything unless he feels it. Stay far far away from him. Heartache and pain follows him everywhere he goes.
2. STILL LIVES AT HOME WITH MOMThis guy is usually over 30 and lives in a room full of high school/college memorabilia. He is happy living with mom and dad has no intentions of ever moving out. As he stares up at his ceiling full of glow in the dark stickers, he smiles because he thinks he has the good life. He pays no or very little rent, is a perpetual kid, a nice guy but a true mama’s boy. This man is looking for a mother and not a wife. You will probably never live up to his mother so why try.
3. CHRONICALLY UNEMPLOYED MANThis dude is allergic to jobs. He always has an excuse about why he can’t work. “The man” is holding him down. His boss is tripping. He can’t find a job. He’s always in conflict with someone. He’s trying to get their rap career going. His foot hurts etc… and on and on it goes. He has more excuses than a jailbird but he will never find an excuse to get a job. Gigolo…gig…gig…golo is what he is and his greatest aspiration is to live off of you!
4. PORN ADDICT/SUPER FREAKThis guy lives and breathes pornography. He thinks that spitting on “it” is sexy and he needs a movie to show him all his moves. Objectifying women is his specialty and everything female is simplified into a sex object. Intimacy is as foreign as France. Reality and fantasy is a blur and he thinks sex clubs or strip clubs are appropriate places to take women on dates. Beware of that he may become too sexually out there and he may ask you to do things you are totally uncomfortable with. He is always looking for something new to do. Regular sex is too safe for him so there is always a new perversion around the corner. It’s only a matter a time before he gets too weird or may even realize he’s just gay!
5. MR. CHOKE-A-CHICKThis guy is dangerous. He will beat the brakes off of you and three seconds later try to give you a kiss. Aggression and possession is his main characteristic. Believe him when he tells you he’ll kill you. Run away and stay away.
6. JEALOUS HEARTEDThis guy gets nervous when you are talking to your brother. He doesn’t like anyone to have your attention but him. He thinks you are sleeping with everyone and he accuses you of everything under the sun. If you buy a new dress, it has to be for another man. He can’t stand your friends and if he could fit you in his pocket he would. He’s always checking your phone, email, panties, etc… Usually this guy is Mr. Choke-a-chick or a cheater. Either way, tell him to kick rocks!
7. BAD HYGIENENothing is worse than a funky foot, yellow teeth, musty man. Enough said. Tell Pepe Le Pew to go fumigate himself and stop violating your nostrils!
8. SHALLOWThis guy is only interested in how you look, where you work, what you drive, how much money you have, and how influential your family is. He cares more about what people think than what you think. Everything is about image. Materialistic and superficial, this guy has no regard for true depth or individuality. If you desire sincere human interaction, this man is not the one for you.
9. BISEXUAL/GAY GUYUnless this is something you are into, NO SANE WOMAN WANTS A MAN WHO SLEEPS WITH MEN! Must I say more? No. Let’s move on.
10. NO GOALSEveryone should have goals in life. Even if the goals are small ones. A person with no goals is a person existing to fill empty space. They are living an unfulfilled life. They will probably live vicariously through you and expect you to accomplish everything on your own. Your need for partnership will be inadequate.
11. UNINTELLIGENTIntelligence is the sexiest thing about a man. It shows that he is powerful and has potential to soar to new heights. Knowledge is impressive and it gives a woman a sense of pride to know that her man is ahead of the game. Intelligence isn’t just book smarts. Street smarts are important too. Every woman wants to be secure in her man’s decision making abilities. A dumb man is like a turkey wearing a thong. It just aint right!
12. PILLAR OF PRIDEPride is cool but when a man’s pride is so strong that it leads him to make dumb decisions or do downright stupid things just because he can’t admit he is wrong, this makes him a stupid individual. If a man will never compromise or his stubbornness causes everyone one around him hardship or he will sacrifice everything sacred to him just so he can get the last word, it is better to leave him alone because no one is going to deal with his foolishness but himself.
13. MR. CHEATER MANThis man does not feel like a man unless he has more than one woman. He has a wandering eye and a penis to match. He thinks fidelity is just a bank. Women are objects to be collected and traded like baseball cards. Relationships have no value. He’s always sorry. He’s always getting his clothes burned, windows broken, and house broken into. He loves drama and can’t live without it. Stay away from him if you do not wish to be another concubine in his harem.
14. NO SELF ESTEEMWhen a man doesn’t love himself, it is impossible for him to love you. He will be in a perpetual web of dysfunction that is self sabotaging and will always force you to try to save him. This man hates himself. You can see it in the way he talks, behaves, through his failures, and his treatment of you. He is always trying to find a way to be everything he isn’t. He is lost and will allow himself to be used and abused and will often use and abuse you. Run!
15. NO MORALSLast but not least, when a man does not have morals, he will do anything. His moral compass is smashed to bits and everything is game. He will cheat with your friends. He’ll invite anyone into his bed. He will do anything for money. He’s a true hustler. He feels that it is a dog eat dog world and he is vicious. He is a combination of all fourteen qualities a fore mentioned. This man is angry with the world wants everyone to suffer. He is always unhappy and will end up alone because you can’t deal with him on any level. Tell this devil to get back!
January 15, 2013
To women from a woman
I am a feminist. A true feminist in the strongest sense of the word. I know my strength is in my woman power and there is no need to adopt masculine attributes in order to show that I am strong. I am not a lesbian. I believe that woman was made for man and man was made for woman. I am a feminist because I am a woman and every woman should revel in her femininity.
My mind and tongue is as sharp as a double edged sword. The softness of my skin, the curl of my lips, the curve of my hips, the batting of my eyes verify my feminine wiles. I have a complete understanding of how powerful it is to be a woman. A woman’s love is unbreakable. A woman has the ability to endure excruciating pain and thrive stronger than before. A woman’s intellect and maturity is profound. It is developed higher and quicker than our male counterpart. A woman’s sexual prowess is a source of fear and admiration.
Everything man does, he does to attain a woman. He wants to make money to get a woman. He dresses nice to get a woman. He seeks power to get a woman. He measures his masculinity by his ability to get a woman. Man lives and breathes for woman. Woman is the womb of creation, bearer of life, carrier of civilizations, the essence of beauty, love personified, intelligence amplified, poetry realized, and perfection finalized.
So…..why are we satisfied with being bitches, hoes, ding bats, sex objects, self esteem deprived heaps of pitiful flesh? Why do we chase men who don’t want us and love men who degrade us? Why do we objectify ourselves by valuing nothing but our ability to lie on our backs and be the receptacle to penises attached to men who can’t remember our names? Why don’t we love our unique beauty and individuality and seek to purchase body parts to mimic what we see on TV? Why can’t we love ourselves to know we are worthy of fidelity and respect? Why do we turn to other women for love because of anger towards ungodly men? Why do we abort babies we desire to keep? Why do we dumb ourselves down pretending that intelligent isn't who we are? Why do we let others define who we are? Why do we apologize for being successful? Why do we allow our beauty to be critiqued by those who can’t truly see us? Why o’ bearer of life, crescendo of creation, can’t we just can’t be happy being woman?
I know that life is not easy and there are so many different stories and traumatic experiences that have affected our worldview but hold on to the good in you. Grab hold on to what is positive and run with it leaving negative things in the past where it will fade and die. Remember that we are not stereotypes and generalizations but a plethora of spirits that hold individual experiences and stories of our own. Don’t let not let the world steal our joy and change who we are for the worse but let us strive to be better, stronger, more confident and refined. Let us be the women God envisioned when we were created. Take pride in being woman.
My mind and tongue is as sharp as a double edged sword. The softness of my skin, the curl of my lips, the curve of my hips, the batting of my eyes verify my feminine wiles. I have a complete understanding of how powerful it is to be a woman. A woman’s love is unbreakable. A woman has the ability to endure excruciating pain and thrive stronger than before. A woman’s intellect and maturity is profound. It is developed higher and quicker than our male counterpart. A woman’s sexual prowess is a source of fear and admiration.
Everything man does, he does to attain a woman. He wants to make money to get a woman. He dresses nice to get a woman. He seeks power to get a woman. He measures his masculinity by his ability to get a woman. Man lives and breathes for woman. Woman is the womb of creation, bearer of life, carrier of civilizations, the essence of beauty, love personified, intelligence amplified, poetry realized, and perfection finalized.
So…..why are we satisfied with being bitches, hoes, ding bats, sex objects, self esteem deprived heaps of pitiful flesh? Why do we chase men who don’t want us and love men who degrade us? Why do we objectify ourselves by valuing nothing but our ability to lie on our backs and be the receptacle to penises attached to men who can’t remember our names? Why don’t we love our unique beauty and individuality and seek to purchase body parts to mimic what we see on TV? Why can’t we love ourselves to know we are worthy of fidelity and respect? Why do we turn to other women for love because of anger towards ungodly men? Why do we abort babies we desire to keep? Why do we dumb ourselves down pretending that intelligent isn't who we are? Why do we let others define who we are? Why do we apologize for being successful? Why do we allow our beauty to be critiqued by those who can’t truly see us? Why o’ bearer of life, crescendo of creation, can’t we just can’t be happy being woman?
I know that life is not easy and there are so many different stories and traumatic experiences that have affected our worldview but hold on to the good in you. Grab hold on to what is positive and run with it leaving negative things in the past where it will fade and die. Remember that we are not stereotypes and generalizations but a plethora of spirits that hold individual experiences and stories of our own. Don’t let not let the world steal our joy and change who we are for the worse but let us strive to be better, stronger, more confident and refined. Let us be the women God envisioned when we were created. Take pride in being woman.
