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Exercises from a professional

The other exercises I did were from Fat Is A Feminist Issue II, by Susie Orbach. Where II differs from the first book is that it is meant to be used beyond reading. People reading the first one had set up groups, and so this edition gives information on running a support group effectively and includes several psychological exercises.
There were about nine, which were primarily visualization exercises. Some did not do much for me because they were going after issues I had already resolved. There was one, "Mirror Work" that did nothing for me and I'm not sure why. There are some body issues that I seem to have skipped, and that might be the reason. I know that sometimes there was wording that indicated an expectation that the participants have been at their ideal weight, and I never have been, at least not knowingly.
That's okay. The introduction stresses that if your mind goes somewhere else, or it wanders and comes back, or if you initially aren't good at visualizing, that any of those possibilities are okay. You just need to be open. For me, there were three that were especially meaningful.
The Chinese Dinner:My birthday this year was based on this one. It helped me see that some of the things that I worried about were not necessary, and that there were alternatives to some legitimate obstacles. It's easy to get weird about food. Since food is a necessary component of life and a frequent component of socialization, that needs to be dealt with. I found this one helpful.
The Ideal Kitchen:I think I will base my birthday next year on this one. It was helpful in looking at what I want and need, and one key realization was that I don't like to cook.
I don't hate cooking or dislike cooking, and I do get some satisfaction from the fact that I can do it, but it is not something I would do for fun. It is frequently necessary, but it is also completely reasonable to look for shortcuts and ways to make things more convenient. When I am trying to improve nutrition in a specific area, if it is going to significantly increase my workload, I'm probably not going to do it. A does of realism is often helpful.
Fat/Thin Fantasy:This was definitely the most emotional for me. You are supposed to visualize yourself at a party first, and in detail. Once you have that picture set, you have to imagine that your body is growing, and you are becoming quite large. After adjusting to that, you shrink to your ideal weight.
The purpose is to see how the different sizes change you, and what you do differently, but the hardest thing for me was the feeling of scrutiny. That anyone would be seeing me getting fatter in front of them was so mortifying, reducing should have been a relief but that was excruciating too. I don't like people seeing my body, in any of its forms.
That is a problem, and I guess the Throwback Thursday photos are one way of dealing with that, and then weekly or daily selfies will probably be the next stage. I'm still growing mentally. Physically, I may not be ready to shrink yet.
At some point I will probably need to go through the various exercises again. Some of them are meant to be done multiple times, because you can focus on different aspects (especially Part of the Body).
I will say that right now that thought doesn't thrill me. Some of them were really hard. However, I know that I learned things. I also know that I can face my weakest points and survive, and be okay with myself. That's important to remember too.
When you're working on yourself, these things happen. You just need to expect it.
And Family Ghosts is still under review.

House/Body exercise

Another crazy day, but Family Ghosts is publishing. I was hoping it would be done now, but it has not been the full possible twelve hours yet.
I keep thinking about whether I should take a hiatus from the blogging, but it still feels necessary for now. So here I go.
The other exercise that came from my mind started as a completely different thing. I had done a series on earthquake preparedness, and wanted to do a home audit of things we needed to fix.
That idea grew into an idea of a full home audit for things needing repair and improvement. Initially I had been thinking of big things, like bolting the house to the foundation, and small things, like switching to closed loop picture hangers. What I realized was that beyond earthquakes, there would be similar combinations. Some things could be done quickly by me, or fairly inexpensively by a professional, but the idea of the assessment was to know.
I don't remember exactly when the idea came to go over my body too, but I live in this body, like I live in my house, and it would be paying attention to my environment.
I thought I would be looking for specific areas to improve. Since most sources claim that targeting specific areas does not work, I was not sure there would be a point, but it felt like the thing to do.
I have already repaired one minor home thing. I have also shared the list with my sisters so that we can establish some consensus and buy in.
They have only seen the home list, but that part had been a good experience.
The body audit was more interesting.
I can see lots of flaws all over my body, for most of which the only potential way of improvement is a general focus on improved diet and more activity. I also found good things.
I ended up seeing that there are some body parts that function well. They have strength.
My worst spot, other than my stomach (really the abdomen if we are getting specific) is my right leg. That's where the infection and fever left it scarred. The skin is rough and discolored, and there is a bulge.
I was able to feel compassion on that area. It's not the leg's fault I got sick. Despite its appearance, it functions well. I can walk for a long time. I hadn't thought about it for ages, but I remembered how much my leg hurt then, and it hurt for a long time. I am grateful that is done. It is also a reminder of what can happen, and that I need to take good care of my immune system and blood sugars.
I have known what is wrong with my body for a long time - that's why I disconnected. There is also a lot that is right with my body, and it was important to take time to remember that.

A week of exercises

No, I don't mean aerobic exercises, though that is happening, and there is a physical component.
In this time of self-examination, I had mentioned having various exercises to get through, though I did not write about them in detail. They came about through a combination of intuition, internet searches, and sometimes they were even things that professionals wrote to do in books.
The exercises in Dennis Rozema's Behind the Mask: Adolescents in Hiding did not do a lot for me. Reading about his patients was more interesting, and I felt like I might be missing something if I did not go through the questions, but it's been a while since I have been a secretive teenager. His patients tended to be more self-destructive than I ever was, so even when I was fourteen it might not have been as revelatory as it could have been. Now, almost three decades later, and a lot of time and effort put into openness, it loses some of the impact.
That doesn't mean it might not be helpful for another adult; these things are context dependent. There were things I did that might not be helpful for anyone else. Some of them did not seem like they would be helpful to me, or they worked differently than I thought they would.
I guess one important point in that is that you need to be open to feeling your way. That means a willingness to listen to subtle things, but also it means being open to various kinds of discomfort. You may think that something sounds stupid, but it still feels necessary. That means you need to be open to being silly, and vulnerable. You will not always be confident.
(But actually, those things are kind of necessary for dealing with your issues anyway, so it is not remarkable that they would be helpful in finding ways to identify and deal with the issues.)
My "silliest" thing was trying to clear out my chakras.
I knew that I was disconnected from my body. I did a Google search on "getting in touch with your body" and before I could finish typing it out, one of the suggestions was "getting in touch with your chakras". I was drawn to that.
I did my regular search too, and it led me to http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14660/20-ways-to-get-in-touch-with-your-body.html. I have tried many of those, and many have been useful. Some I will try when I get a chance. Some felt silly. Notice that theme.
Anyway, the chakras search led me to http://www.eclecticenergies.com/chakras/open.php.
I decided I would do this. I planned on it several times, and then didn't get to it. I finally did do it, and felt nothing.
That wasn't too surprising. I really hate yoga. (Judge me however you want.) Many of my friends love it, and the things that they tell me that they get from it, I get from different sources, so I don't worry about it too much. However, having felt nothing with this particular exercise, I had still felt that it was important to do. I tried to figure out why.
I think I found it toward the bottom of the page:
"Warning: don't use this meditation for the Crown chakra while you don't have a strong Root chakra (you need a strong foundation first)."
Looking at it a little more, there are two things that I am taking away from that. One is that I have areas where I am strong, but they are built on areas where I am weak. I am not going to reach my full potential without going back and strengthening that foundation. What I have done despite being weak in the first three chakras is great, and I am happy that I could do it, but it is time to stop neglecting them.
I also got a visual image of all of the different areas being connected, and that it is best for everything to be balanced. That is merely a flash of a mental image, and yet it conveys connectedness and progression, and other thoughts may be added to that later. These are images I will go back to.
So even thought it felt like nothing, it was something. You need to pay attention to that.
I know this is very late. I am quite busy now, but part of that busyness is that Family Ghosts will be out there tomorrow, so I would say one great thing that you can do for yourself is buy a new book.

Band Review: Cult Fiction

Cult Fiction is a Norwegian Alternative Indie Rock band, formed in Oslo about three years ago.
Most of the Scandinavian bands I have reviewed have been metal, so I was not surprised by the existence of darker threads in the music. Coming through as alt instead, the songs can sound gloomy at times, especially the first few times listening. There is still real emotion coursing through the songs, and sometimes passion.
One of the most interesting tracks is a cover of Pink Floyd's "Welcome to the Machine". With less effects than the original, it also has more heart.
"Ink" is one of my favorite tracks, and has some interesting guitar work. "Unspoken" and "Scoundrel" should also be checked out.
While the band did not list many Seattle influences other than Hendrix, I think fans of Soundgarden and other Chris Cornell projects will enjoy Cult Fiction.
https://www.facebook.com/Cultfictionofficial
https://itunes.apple.com/no/album/roundabout/id842858975?i=842859035&l=nb
https://soundcloud.com/cultfictionband
https://www.youtube.com/user/cultfictionofficial/videos
https://twitter.com/CultFictionBand

Band Review: Drop the Anchor

Drop the Anchor is a pop punk band from Indianapolis that has been together for three and a half years. They have one EP, In A Way It's Everything, as well as three separate singles.
The energy and guitars are generally good, but sometimes the sound is a little muddy, with the different parts not standing out. That is a personal preference, but their better defined songs are more engaging. Based on that, I would call the best tracks "Consummation Proclamation", "Actions", and parts of "Casino Destroyale", but for a completely different sound "The December I Won't Remember" makes an impression.
https://www.facebook.com/droptheanchorin
https://www.youtube.com/user/dtatube
http://droptheanchorin.storenvy.com/
https://twitter.com/droptheanchorin

1493 and all that

The other book I wanted to have read first was 1493by Charles C. Mann.
I thought it might provide some context for the next round of reading focusing on Native American history, but it ended up being much more global. 1491 was about the Americas before Columbus, but 1493 was about how that contact affected the rest of the world.
The impact was huge. From the effects of new crops on dietary patterns, farming practices, and population growth to the way the supply of silver at Potosi affected Chinese currency markets, the book is full of fascinating stories of different groups and their impact on each other. It was not specific to Native American history, but it went along well with something else.
Early in February actor Orlando Jones suggested a hash tag focusing on historic people of color that could be represented in film and television. The hash tag he originally proposed, #HistoricPOCForFilmAndTV, was a little long for Twitter, but he wisely asked Mikki Kendall for advice, who suggested #HistoricPOCMedia, and that was the thread that happened:
https://twitter.com/hashtag/HistoricPOCMedia?src=hash
(FYI, I have gone there and found things missing, so refreshing can be in order.)
Jones himself is working on a feature film about cult deprogramming pioneer Ted Patrick. He also suggested Bass Reeves, an idea that I had once wanted, and then got discouraged on. Still, it could work.
There were many interesting ideas, and one nice thing about updating the tag to focus on Media, is that you can look beyond film and television. Many of my ideas have centered on comic books, but there may also be things that work for web content.
My initial ideas focused on black women, because that is where my head has been lately. Of course I will want to see media focused on Ida B. Wells, but it also occurred to me that Becoming Rosa Parks could be an excellent mini-series. Every activist has a history that leads to their activism, and probably many of those stories could be good. With Parks specifically, I think with her early investigations of sexual assaults and the other work she did that it could be both good drama and educational.
One thing I have noticed in passing is how many people who traveled abroad seemed to have run into James Baldwin, so perhaps "James Baldwin in Paris" could be interesting. Paris wasn't just a gathering place for fascinating people when Hemingway was there.
I thought it had come from the thread and I can't find it now, but Cora Strayer could make a great character. She was a private detective in Chicago around 1900. Her ads appealing to women show some savvy marketing, but also, she was a private detective, in Chicago, in 1900! She also seemed to enjoy the company of younger men, which some people could find interesting.
http://paulreda.com/corastrayer/
The suggestion I posted that got the most positive feedback was Rear Admiral Grace Hopper, early computer programmer. At least online, people get excited about programmers. This could be the place for a web series.
There's another point here, where if you look into the history of computing, women were very much a part of it. The perception of that changed, but the truth hasn't. Screenwriting was largely done by women in early Hollywood. Cowboys were very likely to be of color, both in North and South America, though that doesn't come across in early Westerns. There is a tendency for the doers to be remembered as white men, but that's not accurate.
That leads us back to 1493. One reason slaves from Africa were valued is that they were often-skilled with horses and metalworking, because those were things that they did back in Africa. Some of them were great at leading rebellions because they could use their military skills from back home. This included women like Aqualtune. (There is lots of story potential in Palmares.)  Interesting stories, and interesting people, and it does not conform to the stereotypes that so many people still hold.
Also, the silver trade led to Japanese samurai working as guards, first in the Philippines and then in Mexico. That's pretty interesting.
There is a sad tendency to erase all of that richness. No, there wouldn't be black people there, or women wouldn't do that. Even in the time period, there was a whose series of Mexican "casta" paintings showing the different racial combinations that ignored the Asian population.
Some people will call a request for representation "political correctness", but the greater representation is more correct. People from all over the world have been bumping into each other - trading with each other, living as neighbors, making babies together - for a really long time.
I could go on and on about this, and this is already kind of long, but add that as another reason for representation. Not just because it is important for all kinds of people to be able to see themselves, not just because seeing different kinds of people builds empathy, but because the world has been interesting and diverse for a long time, and the idea that it hasn't is a lie that serves oppression.
On that note, I wish to conclude with a referral to the Tumblr page, People of Color in European Art History.
http://medievalpoc.tumblr.com/
Look at the eras on the side, and how far they go back. It's worth checking out.

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Pre-NAHM reading

When I was writing up the 2013 Native American Heritage Month reading, I mentioned that there were three books I wanted to read before, because I felt like they might relate. I have read them all now. They did not relate the way I thought they might, but that doesn't make it a loss.
Two of the books were Ken Kesey novels: One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest and Sometimes A Great Notion.
I have mixed feelings about Kesey. There are strong ties between him and the University of Oregon. I have seen him speak there, and I felt very warmly to him. I never met him, but I have met people who knew him and loved him, and they are people I love, so I guess there is a transitive property there. I also disagree with him about things.
I know you're thinking it's the drugs, but it's not only that. That part doesn't come up in the books that I have read so far.
One thing that frustrates me is a sort of naivete about sex. I remember thinking about this earlier looking in one of the volumes of Spit In The Ocean, but it came up in both books. Prostitution and statutory rape are treated as relatively innocent, when they can be very damaging. That bothers me.
The language use bothers me. There is some racist language in Cuckoo's Nest, but there is also an understanding that if the orderlies are brutal, there are reasons for it. However, in Notion, the white characters are constantly calling each other the N-word and "coon". It is insulting, but playful, the way that a lot of contemporary men use "fag" and "gay".
They will tell you that they don't mean it that way, but I think we have enough celebrities who have lashed out at paparazzi using that as an insult to indicate that at least on one level those words are used as insults. Does that mean that the users really do have contempt for those who actually are homosexual? Are they comfortable with that? If not, that's probably a good reason to quit using those words as casual insults.
Jonah Hill's apology for when he did it was pretty good - more focus on apologizing than on proving that he wasn't a bad person (which is actually more effective) - and I want to reiterate something he said in it"
"Words have weight and meaning..."
They do.
I don't doubt that the language that Kesey replicates was common for the time. If you want to convey that time and place accurately, that might be a reason to use it, but I also understand there was a problem with it. It was built on lies that were harmful, and it perpetuated that. That really bothers me.
So I am reading those things, and bothered by them, and yet I don't believe that Kesey was particularly racist. I also know that while there was this idea of "free love", a lot of the people who were around then ended up having pretty conventional families with long-lasting marriages and children and a structure that probably looked a lot like the families of those who hated the dirty hippies.
It leaves me always wanting to read more. That's not necessarily because I like the writing so much. Both stories moved me, and the writing in Cuckoo's Nest worked pretty well for me. Yes, things are weird at times, since you are viewing it through the eyes of a mental patient, but I thought it worked.
Notion was hard to get into. The present tense is used, and there are jumps between viewpoints and times. There was about a thirty-page adjustment period that was really hard, and then I got into it, but I would never choose that for pleasure reading. I like more clarity.
And I guess that's why I want to read more. My relationship to Kesey is reader-author, but I think of him as a person, and so I want to know, did he believe that? Did he really think that? Did he see various nuances? Maybe the next book will tell me.
There is one thing that I really appreciate about him though. Many novelists think that literature needs to end with the often miserable death of the character. I can see why they do. Everyone dies, and so a traditional happy ending might feel like you are ignoring mortality, and the fact that the happiest ending is only temporary.
As much as I get that, there can be really good times before that. There are arcs in your life where something is achieved and resolved and you are still alive at the end. Then more things happen, but still, there are positive conclusions. So while ignoring mortality is dishonest in one way, morbidity isn't honest either.
Therefore I appreciate that the protagonists are left with a chance. You don't know what will happen to Chief Bromden as he leaves the hospital. You don't know if the river run will be successful, but in that case knowing would kind of ruin it, either way. There have been deaths, grueling ones, but there is still life too.
I did appreciate that.

The Comic Reading List, Part 1

This is not a list of comics I want to read, though that is also a thing.
As I started seeing more story ideas as comics, and wanted to be able to draw them, I also started building up a list of books that I believed would be helpful. I started reading them, and then I realized it was too soon to get to many of them. This was disappointing, but every phase has its own charms, and I can adjust to that.
I did start worrying that at some point when I do read the others, and it is time to put it all together and evaluate it, that these first few read would be lost. If I write about them now then I have done some of the analysis, and I will have a record of it, so hey, as a little diversion from the heavy stuff, here are some books I read on a topic that I am not done studying!
How to Draw Comics the Marvel Way by Stan Lee and John Buscema
I'm not sure how much adherence to the Marvel style is still expected of current Marvel artists, but I think the book provides a good perspective on comic art in general and an understanding of the historic look. It combines basic drawing principles like lines of sight and proportions, but also the face shapes and the poses that were specific to Marvel. It's a pretty easy read, and kind of fun too. If you are not interested in drawing but a fan of classic comics I think you will still find it entertaining.
Marvel Comics: The Untold Story by Sean Howe:
Once upon a time I would say that anyone who wanted to work in comics should read the How to Draw book. If you wish to work in comics anywhere, there's a lot to be said for reading The Untold Storytoo.
There is a lot of interesting information, though the telling is unfortunately dry. However, if you are interested in the industry it is worth reading it anyway to be aware of some of the types of people you will encounter, the frustrations that are likely, and it would be wise to take note of the many early deaths that seem to be a result of the horrible stress and pressures. I'm not saying not to work in comics - just enter informed so you can have some guards and escape valves in place.
Figure Drawing For All It's Worth by Andrew Loomis
Professional artists love his books, and I have a few more of his on my list. This particular one is just what the title says. It is focusing on drawing the human figure and focusing on it specifically for commercial purposes, like advertising and magazine illustrations. That industry has probably changed too, but the basic ideas on proportions and making poses dynamic is certainly still relevant. He does use very idealized figures, but if you take that information and still attend life drawing sessions on a regular basis where you are seeing other types of bodies, it should work out.
FYI, everyone is mostly naked, including on the cover. It's not salacious, but yeah, lots of nudity. My sister picked up the copy I had on hold, and she was embarrassed.
Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain by Betty Edwards
This was my absolute favorite. You learn so much about the brain, and how it perceives. So yes, there is drawing information but it is not only that. I have not ruled out buying the book, or taking one of the live sessions if an opportunity comes up. One thing you will see is that drawing is a good thing to do, and using the right side of the brain to do it is a good thing, regardless of your livelihood. That was fascinating. I read the 4th edition which has updates as science learns more about brain function, so while I am sure the older versions have a lot of the information, look for the newer version.
There were nine books total, so I am not quite halfway through, and I'm not sure when I will get back to them, but there's always something interesting going on, and I guess it can't all happen at once.
For anyone interested, the unread drawing books are listed below:
The Art of Comic Book Inking by Gary MartinDraw 50 Famous Cartoons by Lee AmesCreative Illustrations by Andrew LoomisSuccessful Drawing by Andrew LoomisWords for Pictures by Brian Michael Bendis

Band Review: The Band of Strangers

In honor of a new "Grimm" tonight (after leaving things at an interesting point, like they usually to do), I thought this would be a good time to review The Band of Strangers. They were recommended by Bree Turner, who plays Rosalee on the show and singer Ryan Saliman's sister-in-law in real life.
The Band of Strangers is an Alt Country Rock/American band. Working out of Los Angeles, they were first started in New York. That seems appropriate for a band with such far-flung roots. Simply going over their bio page, Saliman (who also plays guitar and writes songs) has ties to Colorado before New York, Lianne Ward (instruments and vocals) is from Massachusetts, guitarist Johnny Abella has roots in the Philippines and Pennsylvania, drummer Chris Lovejoy was raised in Texas between being born in and returning to New York, and bassist Matt DelVecchio is said to have taken his music around the world and back, which definitely includes Japan, England, Portugal, and school in Miami.
(I do not know if there is any relation between Matt DelVecchio and Dan DelVecchio of Face The King. Maybe.)
Most of the band members are listed as playing multiple instruments, and you will occasionally notice different sounds coming through. With the range of expertise and experience among the members, they have a fair amount of options open for how to fill in the sounds.
Currently there is a 6-track EP available, with songs that dip into country, blues, and folk. The most Americana-esque song may be "Bait N' Pole" which references "The Crawdad Song", an American classic, but updates it with rock guitar and possibly some innuendo. Songs like "Help" and "When the Light Gets In" kind of give me a Gospel feeling, though it is not a Gospel sound (which is I guess why I'm calling it folk).
My overall favorite track was "The Black Bird Song", which stirred my emotions musically and has a video with some pretty cool animation, so check that out.
Music is available on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/when-the-light-gets-in-ep/id649989038
http://thebandofstrangers.com/
https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Band-of-Strangers/601204156561596
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8I3DGHv1SKij6vlOgF9DdQ
https://twitter.com/bandofstranger5/following

Band Review: Words & Noises

Time for another Manchester band! Today it is Pop/Rock duo Words & Noises.
The first thing that I noticed on listening is that I had already heard "Forget Me Not", having checked it out when the band released a link to the video. It had been a while, but I instantly recognized the catchy tune.
While "Forget Me Not" is probably their most pop sound, it is not the sound that I most associate with them after listening to the catalog multiple times. There is more of a tendency toward the intellectual and cerebral, like "The Lost Art of Conversation", and even the mournful, like "Love Is A Loaded Gun."
Those ended up leaving strong impressions, while tracks like "Beating Heart" and "Londinium" sped up and left completely different feelings, and "Deceive" brought in some groove. For all of that, the voice came through very clearly. This is a band that thinks about different things and is interested in different things, but still has a strong sense of self.
There are not currently any upcoming shows listed, but there will be a new single released on April 26th, available to press, radio, and Soundcloud.
http://www.wordsandnoises.com/
https://www.facebook.com/WordsAndNoises
https://soundcloud.com/wordsandnoises
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHCFrj3E-ZIIZC01FUKeFxg
https://twitter.com/wordsandnoises