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Bravo! I love really great honest reviews.
SO HONEST! I love it and totally agree.
Hana wrote: "Hey, I agree with some of your points but Ben didn't actually rape her. I mean, Ben and Cody's relationship literally made me want to puke everything I've ever eaten, but he didn't rape Meg. They..."
oh, i know! i didn't think ben raped meg or anything — meg was raped in high school, in the tenth grade at a party by some boy, and that triggered her depressive episodes where she stayed in bed for months at a time, which she told cody was "mono", and she actually believed it? she knew what had happened at the party, how the boy had raped her or whatever, and she didn't seem to think that she was upset over that or struggling to cope with it, she assumed it was just mono. the big deal was that ben was the first boy meg slept with consensually, so it made what cody did with him, like, a thousand times worse than it already was, you know? ben definitely didn't rape her. she was a willing participant in that.
and yeah, the stranger did have something to do with it, but i thought it was a little silly that instead of accepting what meg was coping with, cody channeled all of her anger into chasing him down when the fact of the matter is, i doubt he cares. it doesn't matter to him how many people he drives to suicide or "helps catch a bus" as he calls it. in the long run, what matters is that meg's family is in agony and her little brother is alone now and instead of being borderline delusional, it would have been more helpful for her to... actually... do something to commemorate meg, to accept who she was/who she had been. it felt like cody made meg's suicide and her depression and what she went through all about cody, and made that man into a villain (which he undoubtedly is) instead of trying to see what happened, and to see how she didn't even notice that meg was depressed for like 5 years because she was selfish and wanted things to be okay more than she wanted to accept what was real. it felt - to me, personally, like cody didn't want the idea of who she thought meg was to be dead more than that she wanted any sort of legitimate revenge or justice for the man that she talked to who helped her to commit suicide. she was more concerned with not having to accept that she had failed meg as a friend, that she had never really known her at all, that meg was "like that" than actually resolving or coping with or... caring about her best friend's death. that's more the point i was trying to make about how she dedicated her time to hunting down the man who "killed her friend" because i absolutely don't agree with taking responsibility off of the kind of monsters who lurk on those forums and prey on the damaged.
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Bravo! I love really great honest reviews.
SO HONEST! I love it and totally agree.
Hey, I agree with some of your points but Ben didn't actually rape her. I mean, Ben and Cody's relationship literally made me want to puke everything I've ever eaten, but he didn't rape Meg. They were friends, had sex, then he ignored her completely. And I agree that he was one of the reasons to her suicide. I mean, for fuck's sake, her last message was telling him that she'll leave him alone! And the fact that Cody didn't acknowledge that her friend was depressed is also pretty bizarre. You can’t just hide DEPRESSION! But of course the 'stranger' Cody looked for had a hand in Meg's suicide. Those things are serious, have you read the author's note at the end of the book? And he encouraged her to kill herself. He got away because he was clever, and wise. But he encouraged her, nevertheless.
Hana wrote: "Hey, I agree with some of your points but Ben didn't actually rape her. I mean, Ben and Cody's relationship literally made me want to puke everything I've ever eaten, but he didn't rape Meg. They..."oh, i know! i didn't think ben raped meg or anything — meg was raped in high school, in the tenth grade at a party by some boy, and that triggered her depressive episodes where she stayed in bed for months at a time, which she told cody was "mono", and she actually believed it? she knew what had happened at the party, how the boy had raped her or whatever, and she didn't seem to think that she was upset over that or struggling to cope with it, she assumed it was just mono. the big deal was that ben was the first boy meg slept with consensually, so it made what cody did with him, like, a thousand times worse than it already was, you know? ben definitely didn't rape her. she was a willing participant in that.
and yeah, the stranger did have something to do with it, but i thought it was a little silly that instead of accepting what meg was coping with, cody channeled all of her anger into chasing him down when the fact of the matter is, i doubt he cares. it doesn't matter to him how many people he drives to suicide or "helps catch a bus" as he calls it. in the long run, what matters is that meg's family is in agony and her little brother is alone now and instead of being borderline delusional, it would have been more helpful for her to... actually... do something to commemorate meg, to accept who she was/who she had been. it felt like cody made meg's suicide and her depression and what she went through all about cody, and made that man into a villain (which he undoubtedly is) instead of trying to see what happened, and to see how she didn't even notice that meg was depressed for like 5 years because she was selfish and wanted things to be okay more than she wanted to accept what was real. it felt - to me, personally, like cody didn't want the idea of who she thought meg was to be dead more than that she wanted any sort of legitimate revenge or justice for the man that she talked to who helped her to commit suicide. she was more concerned with not having to accept that she had failed meg as a friend, that she had never really known her at all, that meg was "like that" than actually resolving or coping with or... caring about her best friend's death. that's more the point i was trying to make about how she dedicated her time to hunting down the man who "killed her friend" because i absolutely don't agree with taking responsibility off of the kind of monsters who lurk on those forums and prey on the damaged.
"no matter how hot he was or how blue his stupid goddamn eyes were, your best friend liked him and killed herself in a way that is undeniably related to him. on top of that -- he was her first sexual partner after her fucking rape, but who cares about that as long as cody gets to be in love with a boy? no one, apparently.
fucking. no. one."
Yes.