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When my kids were that age, they absolutely could decide for themselves what to read. They both are turning out great.
We decide together.. I'm not much for censorship but I think there are some things that would be too difficult for them at that age and if I knew that an adult topic was in a book I would let them know so they are prepared.
Also 12 is not a teenager yet - If they were older teenagers it would be different
Deciding together is always the best. Sorry, if I took your question as more authoritarian than it was meant.
I think parents are entitled to deciding what young preteens/teens are reading and watching. Instagram and TikTok both allow only 13+ to join the site because of all the adults on these sites, so why not parents?
This was a valid question. 12 and 13 year olds shouldn't just read whatever they want.
No, I didn't, because they'd do it anyway, just in secret and I always prefered that my kids could talk to me about everything, which they wouldn't if they had to hide things from me.
Sorry I just came here to say: "Really? You decide how other parents, parent?" I get your point, but it's not up to anyone at all to make those decisions but the parent, and I respect that as one being totally against censorship and a librarian who supports freedom to read - but this comment was unhelpful and unnecessary.
Give them erotica then since your so woke. It’s up to the parents discretion, my own parents didn’t have to do this for me but I’m autistic and had a strong sense of right and wrong so I wasn’t affected even if I was exposed to inappropriate stuff but I imagine not all kids are like this. You know nothing about this person’s kids.
um... yeah, if they're 12-13 it's appropriate to screen what they're exposed to and decide if they're mature enough for it.
If you really think you can control what they're exposed to, you're mistaken. It's more important that they are prepared.
It's called being a parent. You can't always protect your kids, but you do the best you can.
You should definitely let your kids read what they want. And if you're concerned, you should read it too and discuss the concerning parts so you can teach them how they should approach a situation like that if it happens to them. Because guess what? One day it may, or they may know someone that's going through it; by having been exposed to the idea in a controlled way, with a trusted adult on their side, you child will be much better prepared for the future.
Let kids read whatever they want, and you provide the context and lessons.
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Hey, If you were a parent with kids that age, would you want your kids reading sex scenes or other inappropriate content? My guess is no.
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When my kids were that age, they absolutely could decide for themselves what to read. They both are turning out great.
Alright, but this is classified as a adult book, so I can understand why she wouldn't want her kids to read it if it had anything inappropriate. That being said, I can also understand giving them the freedom to choose what they read. But did you let your 12 year old into the adult section of the library? I'm guessing no, (I apologize if I'm wrong in doing so) so it's responsible of her to check the content of a adult book before letting her kids read it.
We decide together.. I'm not much for censorship but I think there are some things that would be too difficult for them at that age and if I knew that an adult topic was in a book I would let them know so they are prepared.
Also 12 is not a teenager yet - If they were older teenagers it would be different
Deciding together is always the best. Sorry, if I took your question as more authoritarian than it was meant.
I think parents are entitled to deciding what young preteens/teens are reading and watching. Instagram and TikTok both allow only 13+ to join the site because of all the adults on these sites, so why not parents?
This was a valid question. 12 and 13 year olds shouldn't just read whatever they want.
No, I didn't, because they'd do it anyway, just in secret and I always prefered that my kids could talk to me about everything, which they wouldn't if they had to hide things from me.
Sorry I just came here to say: "Really? You decide how other parents, parent?" I get your point, but it's not up to anyone at all to make those decisions but the parent, and I respect that as one being totally against censorship and a librarian who supports freedom to read - but this comment was unhelpful and unnecessary.
Give them erotica then since your so woke. It’s up to the parents discretion, my own parents didn’t have to do this for me but I’m autistic and had a strong sense of right and wrong so I wasn’t affected even if I was exposed to inappropriate stuff but I imagine not all kids are like this. You know nothing about this person’s kids.
um... yeah, if they're 12-13 it's appropriate to screen what they're exposed to and decide if they're mature enough for it.
If you really think you can control what they're exposed to, you're mistaken. It's more important that they are prepared.
It's called being a parent. You can't always protect your kids, but you do the best you can.
You should definitely let your kids read what they want. And if you're concerned, you should read it too and discuss the concerning parts so you can teach them how they should approach a situation like that if it happens to them. Because guess what? One day it may, or they may know someone that's going through it; by having been exposed to the idea in a controlled way, with a trusted adult on their side, you child will be much better prepared for the future.Let kids read whatever they want, and you provide the context and lessons.
