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48 Nguyên Tắc Chủ Chốt Của Quyền Lực
Quyền lực có sức hấp dẫn vô cùng mạnh mẽ đối với con người trong mọi thời, ở mọi nơi, với mọi giai tầng. Lịch sử xét cho cùng là cuộc đấu tranh triền miên để giành cho bằng được quyền lực cai trị của các tập đoàn thống trị, từ cổ chí kim, từ đông sang tây.
Quyền lực là thứ mà rất nhiều người mong muốn nhưng không phải ai cũng dễ dàng đạt được. Vươn lên những vị trí cao hơn trong thang bậc xã hội thường được xem là một khát khao rất con người. Nhưng, liệu có phải chỉ những tài năng xuất chúng mới có thể đạt được điều đó? Không hẳn vậy. Bởi ít ai biết rằng, để giành được một vị trí quyền lực thực tế vẫn mang tính công thức.
Qua nghiên cứu lịch sử nhân loại, với những nhân vật có quyền lực nhất tự cổ chí kim, Robert Greene đã khái quát nên 48 nguyên tắc tạo nên quyền lực một cách có cơ sở khoa học. Mỗi nguyên tắc đều được tác giả phân tích, giải thích rõ ràng, mang tính thuyết phục cao và cực kỳ hấp dẫn. Một số quy luật đòi hỏi sự khôn ngoan sắc sảo, một số cần sự lén lút và một số khác hoàn toàn vắng mặt lòng thương xót… Nhưng dù bạn thích hay không thích, tất cả những quy luật này đều có nhiều ứng dụng trong các tình huống thực tế của cuộc đời.
Phi luân lý, xảo quyệt, nhẫn tâm và dồi dào tư liệu, “48 nguyên tắc chủ chốt của quyền lực” của Robert Greene hoàn toàn có thể giúp bạn vươn tới những đỉnh cao quyền lực và cũng có thể giúp bạn đạt được tột đỉnh vinh quang.
Quyền lực là thứ mà rất nhiều người mong muốn nhưng không phải ai cũng dễ dàng đạt được. Vươn lên những vị trí cao hơn trong thang bậc xã hội thường được xem là một khát khao rất con người. Nhưng, liệu có phải chỉ những tài năng xuất chúng mới có thể đạt được điều đó? Không hẳn vậy. Bởi ít ai biết rằng, để giành được một vị trí quyền lực thực tế vẫn mang tính công thức.
Qua nghiên cứu lịch sử nhân loại, với những nhân vật có quyền lực nhất tự cổ chí kim, Robert Greene đã khái quát nên 48 nguyên tắc tạo nên quyền lực một cách có cơ sở khoa học. Mỗi nguyên tắc đều được tác giả phân tích, giải thích rõ ràng, mang tính thuyết phục cao và cực kỳ hấp dẫn. Một số quy luật đòi hỏi sự khôn ngoan sắc sảo, một số cần sự lén lút và một số khác hoàn toàn vắng mặt lòng thương xót… Nhưng dù bạn thích hay không thích, tất cả những quy luật này đều có nhiều ứng dụng trong các tình huống thực tế của cuộc đời.
Phi luân lý, xảo quyệt, nhẫn tâm và dồi dào tư liệu, “48 nguyên tắc chủ chốt của quyền lực” của Robert Greene hoàn toàn có thể giúp bạn vươn tới những đỉnh cao quyền lực và cũng có thể giúp bạn đạt được tột đỉnh vinh quang.
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Published January 16, 2012
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Robert Greene
218 books20k followersThere is more than one author by this name on Goodreads.
Best-selling author and public speaker, Robert Greene was born in Los Angeles. He attended U.C. California at Berkeley and the University of Wisconsin at Madison, where he received a degree in classical studies. He has worked in New York as an editor and writer at several magazines, including Esquire; and in Hollywood as a story developer and writer.
Robert has lived in London, Paris, and Barcelona; he speaks several languages and has worked as a translator. In 1995 he was involved in the planning and creation of the art school Fabrica, outside Venice, Italy. There he met Joost Elffers, the New York book packager and discussed with him his idea for a book on power and manipulation, the ultimate modern version of Machiavelli's The Prince.
Robert and Joost became partners and in 1998, The 48 Laws of Power was born. The book has been a national and international bestseller, and has been translated into 17 languages. In 2001, Robert released his second book, The Art of Seduction, which is more than a sequel to The 48 Laws; it is both a handbook on how to wield the ultimate form of power, and a detailed look at the greatest seducers in history.
The third in this highly anticipated series of books, The 33 Strategies of War, hit bookstores January 2006 and offers a strategic look behind the movements of War in application to everyday life. In addition to having a strong following within the business world and a deep following in Washington, DC, these books are also being hailed by everyone from war historians to some of the heaviest hitters in the rap world (including Jay-Z and 50 Cent).
The popularity of these books along with their vast and fiercely loyal audience proves these are profound, timeless lessons from historical leaders that still ring true in today's culture. Robert currently lives in Los Angeles.
Best-selling author and public speaker, Robert Greene was born in Los Angeles. He attended U.C. California at Berkeley and the University of Wisconsin at Madison, where he received a degree in classical studies. He has worked in New York as an editor and writer at several magazines, including Esquire; and in Hollywood as a story developer and writer.
Robert has lived in London, Paris, and Barcelona; he speaks several languages and has worked as a translator. In 1995 he was involved in the planning and creation of the art school Fabrica, outside Venice, Italy. There he met Joost Elffers, the New York book packager and discussed with him his idea for a book on power and manipulation, the ultimate modern version of Machiavelli's The Prince.
Robert and Joost became partners and in 1998, The 48 Laws of Power was born. The book has been a national and international bestseller, and has been translated into 17 languages. In 2001, Robert released his second book, The Art of Seduction, which is more than a sequel to The 48 Laws; it is both a handbook on how to wield the ultimate form of power, and a detailed look at the greatest seducers in history.
The third in this highly anticipated series of books, The 33 Strategies of War, hit bookstores January 2006 and offers a strategic look behind the movements of War in application to everyday life. In addition to having a strong following within the business world and a deep following in Washington, DC, these books are also being hailed by everyone from war historians to some of the heaviest hitters in the rap world (including Jay-Z and 50 Cent).
The popularity of these books along with their vast and fiercely loyal audience proves these are profound, timeless lessons from historical leaders that still ring true in today's culture. Robert currently lives in Los Angeles.
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November 4, 2011
I think this is a horrible book. Written well enough, sure, whatever, but just so very, very wrong, unless you have no morals. At least with Machiavelli you could make the excuse that he wasn't so much advocating what he said, but merely describing reality. This guy is advocating evil. As I read it I couldn't help wondering how many politicians actually think this way.
If I ever met someone who actually liked this book and wanted to live their life according to it, I would never hire that person, never work for that person, never do business with that person, and would try to avoid any and all relationships with that person. I would like to be quite remotely located physically from any such person.
The sad part is I think the author is just plain wrong. Sure, you can find powerful people who have engaged in the behaviors he espouses (I think it's hard to call them "laws") and have been successful, but how many people live life this way and merely end up in the gutter with no friends, no money, and no power?
True power comes from being good, not to mention being happy, which is philosophically quite a bit more important than being powerful, although ultimately they are one and the same.
If I ever met someone who actually liked this book and wanted to live their life according to it, I would never hire that person, never work for that person, never do business with that person, and would try to avoid any and all relationships with that person. I would like to be quite remotely located physically from any such person.
The sad part is I think the author is just plain wrong. Sure, you can find powerful people who have engaged in the behaviors he espouses (I think it's hard to call them "laws") and have been successful, but how many people live life this way and merely end up in the gutter with no friends, no money, and no power?
True power comes from being good, not to mention being happy, which is philosophically quite a bit more important than being powerful, although ultimately they are one and the same.
March 10, 2013
When it comes to morality and ethics, people are used to thinking in terms of black and white. Conversely, "The 48 Laws of Power" deals primarily with the gray areas. At the risk of sounding melodramatic and trite, I say that most of the Laws covered in this book can be used for great evil or for great good. It depends on the reader. There is really nothing wrong with most of the Laws.
Each Law comes with true stories from history about those who successfully observed it and those who foolishly or naively transgressed it. Robert Greene has an interpretation for each story. Though each Law is self-explanatory, Greene's explanations are not padding, fluff or stuffing to make the book longer. They actually give greater clarification and depth. Greene's insight even extends to crucial warnings about how the Laws could backfire.
There are two reasons to read this book:
1. For attack: To gain power, as have others who have carefully observed the Laws;
2. For defense: To be aware of ways that people may be trying to manipulate you.
Each Law comes with true stories from history about those who successfully observed it and those who foolishly or naively transgressed it. Robert Greene has an interpretation for each story. Though each Law is self-explanatory, Greene's explanations are not padding, fluff or stuffing to make the book longer. They actually give greater clarification and depth. Greene's insight even extends to crucial warnings about how the Laws could backfire.
There are two reasons to read this book:
1. For attack: To gain power, as have others who have carefully observed the Laws;
2. For defense: To be aware of ways that people may be trying to manipulate you.
January 8, 2009
i learned to be eviiiilll with this book....haha actually this book made me realize how shady people can be. Plus how smart you and ambitious you should be about succeeding in life. You got to stand out in this world. If you roll with the bunches you'll become lost. You always have to have a good reputation or if you have a certain reputation you better use it to your advantage (damn im evil hahaha). This book will expose and teach you alot about the real world. One of my first books i really read and enjoyed. it motivated me to keeping learning about myself and people. i highly recommend it.
October 16, 2022
This is a manifesto for misery.
It's a book about crushing your "enemies", mistreating your friends, screwing over anyone and everyone to get ahead. But... for what? Anyone who genuinely thinks power is the ultimate goal of life needs a hug, not a (deranged and deluded) book praising the behaviour of totalitarian dictators (some responsible for the deaths of millions) as people to be admired and emulated.
The publishers of this book did us all a favour by designing the cover to look like a literal red flag -- if someone I knew recommended this book I'd run very far away.
It's a book about crushing your "enemies", mistreating your friends, screwing over anyone and everyone to get ahead. But... for what? Anyone who genuinely thinks power is the ultimate goal of life needs a hug, not a (deranged and deluded) book praising the behaviour of totalitarian dictators (some responsible for the deaths of millions) as people to be admired and emulated.
The publishers of this book did us all a favour by designing the cover to look like a literal red flag -- if someone I knew recommended this book I'd run very far away.
August 28, 2011
I hated every word of this manual for the soulless. It's a perfect example of exactly what's wrong with Big Pharma, big business, Wall Street, and in short capitalism as it's currently practiced. This book, which is kinda-sorta a synthesis of many previous Me First directives (Machiavelli leaps to mind), is a handbook on how to fuck over everyone you come in contact with, in order for you to get "ahead" and "succeed". It'd be awesome for sociopaths and wanna-be-CEOs. It plunged me into despair. Parts of it actually raised gooseflesh on my arms while I was reading, I was so freaked out.
Repellent. Utterly amoral. Reprehensible. Negative 300 million zillion stars.
Repellent. Utterly amoral. Reprehensible. Negative 300 million zillion stars.
February 13, 2013
This book belongs in the category of sad-but-true. For those who have a moral objection to the amoral approach of the authors presentation, I understand your feelings, but I think you miss the point. No matter how we feel about the dubious power plays that have occurred throughout history and that occur in our contemporary private and public lives, the fact is that they exist. Here are 48 approaches to power that you will either attempt to use or you will experience them being used against you at some point in your life, whether you agree with it ethically or not. If you are one who chooses to never use power over another, at least educate yourself to recognize the subtle and not so subtle ways others will attempt to use power against you. Many a despot would have been dis-empowered had their subjects been aware of the mind-games we humans have consistently used against one another throughout history. It may even be that the lack of this knowledge is as responsible for the abuse of power as the propagation of it.
Full of fun and interesting historical anecdotes, this is a thoroughly entertaining read.
Full of fun and interesting historical anecdotes, this is a thoroughly entertaining read.
May 7, 2011
For all the readers and reviewers who don't "get" or like this book, here's what you are not getting: It is fact. This book is not teaching anyone to be amoral. It is teaching you how people really are in the real world. It separates the behaviors and tactics of people in history who have succeeded and failed into the 48 "Laws". It is an explanation of power in the only way it can be expressed.
If you don't want to be a deceitful heartless prick who does whatever he can to whomever all for personal gain, then I praise you. However, YOU STILL NEED TO READ THIS BOOK to protect yourself from aforementioned amoral deceitful pricks. I read this book with this understanding(which Greene also suggests in the book), and came away from it very enlightened. Live your life as you see fit, but I always recommend facing reality in its purest rawest form, and this book really uncovers the seedy underbelly of how powerful people interact with one another.
If you don't want to be a deceitful heartless prick who does whatever he can to whomever all for personal gain, then I praise you. However, YOU STILL NEED TO READ THIS BOOK to protect yourself from aforementioned amoral deceitful pricks. I read this book with this understanding(which Greene also suggests in the book), and came away from it very enlightened. Live your life as you see fit, but I always recommend facing reality in its purest rawest form, and this book really uncovers the seedy underbelly of how powerful people interact with one another.
May 31, 2016
If the author is evil for writing this...am I evil for enjoying it?
January 11, 2014
I completely misunderstood what I was about to read when I got this book. I foolishly thought it was going to be a strongly researched and thoughtful historical investigation into the nature of power with 48 astute observations similar to Good to Great or other thoughtful research.
This books is probably written for and is appealing to the shallow and overconfident who seek to take more from the world than they give by using the perpetually infantile "well, they're doing it!."
If you are committed to understanding the human condition and pushing our socio-evolution to higher and higher levels of mutuality, collaboration, and "peace on earth, good will toward" one another, this book is either comedy, parody, or pathetic. Maybe the author has his tongue in his cheek like Rush Limbaugh who makes bazillions whipping the ignorant into a frenzy. I find that annoying. I find this book annoying.
More concretely, there are two ways to research or investigate a subject; one is to know already what you believe and then find examples that you can stick into your belief system. A good example of this is Creationism. Another good example of this is this book. The other, more...what shall I say, interesting way is to wonder about something, investigate it, look at your findings and see what what you can make of it - even if you don't like what you find.
The world, in my view, is moving - slowly - to a more beautiful way to think about power (Read Robert Greenleaf's The Servant Leader for starters, then read something like The Joy of Work by Bakke and, again, Collins' Good to Great where we find great leaders "looking out the window" when things go well and "looking in the mirror" when things go badly).
You can't talk people out of listening to Rush Limbaugh and those people will love this book. I think I just wandered into the wrong bar. My bad.
This books is probably written for and is appealing to the shallow and overconfident who seek to take more from the world than they give by using the perpetually infantile "well, they're doing it!."
If you are committed to understanding the human condition and pushing our socio-evolution to higher and higher levels of mutuality, collaboration, and "peace on earth, good will toward" one another, this book is either comedy, parody, or pathetic. Maybe the author has his tongue in his cheek like Rush Limbaugh who makes bazillions whipping the ignorant into a frenzy. I find that annoying. I find this book annoying.
More concretely, there are two ways to research or investigate a subject; one is to know already what you believe and then find examples that you can stick into your belief system. A good example of this is Creationism. Another good example of this is this book. The other, more...what shall I say, interesting way is to wonder about something, investigate it, look at your findings and see what what you can make of it - even if you don't like what you find.
The world, in my view, is moving - slowly - to a more beautiful way to think about power (Read Robert Greenleaf's The Servant Leader for starters, then read something like The Joy of Work by Bakke and, again, Collins' Good to Great where we find great leaders "looking out the window" when things go well and "looking in the mirror" when things go badly).
You can't talk people out of listening to Rush Limbaugh and those people will love this book. I think I just wandered into the wrong bar. My bad.
October 12, 2017
الحياة تغيرت كتير بعد لما قرأت كتاب ديل كارنيجي" كيف تكسب الاصدقاء و تؤثر فى الناس" ..اه ..
و بداء أعمال الناس المحترمة كمحترم و الناس الغير محترمة ـ كمحترم طبعا !
..
و لما الواحد دخل الحياة العملية و شاف الدنيا اكتر و اكتر و اتفتحت عينة على حاجات تانية ( زى الحقد و الغيرة و الحسد و حب الشر للغير ..) و غيرها من الصفات القبيحة .. أكتشفت للاسف انك مش لازم تكون شخص سيء ، بس لازم تعرف الناس دى بتفكر أزاى و ازاى تتعامل معاهم...و متنساش انك و انت بتحارب الوحش أنك تتحول لوحش .
..
من القواعد الجميلة هناك و اللى كتبها روبرت جرين بحرفية و واقعية بالغة ..
1- لا تشرق أكثر من الرئيس .
2- قل دائما أقل مما هو ضرورى
3- مش لازم تقول للناس على نواياك
4- العزلة تضيف الى المخاطر اكتر مما تحميك
5- أتقن فن الظهور ( البرادعى أستاذ فى كده )
6- اعرف كويس انت بتتعامل مع مين حتى لا تصيب أحد بجهالة
7- أعمل من بنها ( لان مافيش حد يحب يحس انك اكتر منه ذكاء )
8- ركز مجهودك فى مكان واحد
..و غيرها و غيرها ...
..
الكلام ده يا جماعة فية ناس بتعرفة بعد لما تعيش على سطح الكوكب اربعين و خمسين سنة ..
و نص الناس دى مش هتعرف تطلع منه بجملة مفيدة عن ازاى هو نجح ؟ او يديك نصيحة فى حياتك ؟
أحب اقول للناس بعد قرائة الكتاب ده ..
أهلا بيكم على كوكب الارض
على الرغم انه ماينفعش تكون مثالى فى عالم غير مثالى.. برضو او تتحول لوحش لما تحارب الوحش ( اوعى تنسى انك انسان )
#تعديل
الكتاب موجود في مكتبة ديوان ترجمة العبيكان ، بس انا بفضل ترجمة تاينة جبتها من ديوان برضوا بأسم (السطوة) أبحث عنها علي الانترنت موجودة بوفرة جدا
كتاب فن الاغواء لو حد لقي منة نسخة عربي يعرفني
و بداء أعمال الناس المحترمة كمحترم و الناس الغير محترمة ـ كمحترم طبعا !
..
و لما الواحد دخل الحياة العملية و شاف الدنيا اكتر و اكتر و اتفتحت عينة على حاجات تانية ( زى الحقد و الغيرة و الحسد و حب الشر للغير ..) و غيرها من الصفات القبيحة .. أكتشفت للاسف انك مش لازم تكون شخص سيء ، بس لازم تعرف الناس دى بتفكر أزاى و ازاى تتعامل معاهم...و متنساش انك و انت بتحارب الوحش أنك تتحول لوحش .
..
من القواعد الجميلة هناك و اللى كتبها روبرت جرين بحرفية و واقعية بالغة ..
1- لا تشرق أكثر من الرئيس .
2- قل دائما أقل مما هو ضرورى
3- مش لازم تقول للناس على نواياك
4- العزلة تضيف الى المخاطر اكتر مما تحميك
5- أتقن فن الظهور ( البرادعى أستاذ فى كده )
6- اعرف كويس انت بتتعامل مع مين حتى لا تصيب أحد بجهالة
7- أعمل من بنها ( لان مافيش حد يحب يحس انك اكتر منه ذكاء )
8- ركز مجهودك فى مكان واحد
..و غيرها و غيرها ...
..
الكلام ده يا جماعة فية ناس بتعرفة بعد لما تعيش على سطح الكوكب اربعين و خمسين سنة ..
و نص الناس دى مش هتعرف تطلع منه بجملة مفيدة عن ازاى هو نجح ؟ او يديك نصيحة فى حياتك ؟
أحب اقول للناس بعد قرائة الكتاب ده ..
أهلا بيكم على كوكب الارض
على الرغم انه ماينفعش تكون مثالى فى عالم غير مثالى.. برضو او تتحول لوحش لما تحارب الوحش ( اوعى تنسى انك انسان )
#تعديل
الكتاب موجود في مكتبة ديوان ترجمة العبيكان ، بس انا بفضل ترجمة تاينة جبتها من ديوان برضوا بأسم (السطوة) أبحث عنها علي الانترنت موجودة بوفرة جدا
كتاب فن الاغواء لو حد لقي منة نسخة عربي يعرفني
July 27, 2021
This is like a how-to manual for sociopaths. My office is full of them.
The most useful part of this book is that you might more quickly identify the type of sociopaths who circlejerk over stuff like this in your workplace. Usually the same sort who got their online MBA writing thesis papers on books like this one, the art of war, and seven habits of highly effective people.
Every one of the 48 rules of power has an example of "obeying the rules: great success" and "didn't obey the rule, probably died a miserable failure". All of these examples are generally from like 900AD and involve politics from the 4th dynasty of Burma or some stupid irrelevant shit like that.
The author has an attitude that everyone is a horrible person who is out to get you if you don't do so first, and his contempt for people seeps through when he constantly refers to people who don't play the power game as "fools" and "suckers".
If you've ever used the term "cats-paw" unironically, you might enjoy this book!
The most useful part of this book is that you might more quickly identify the type of sociopaths who circlejerk over stuff like this in your workplace. Usually the same sort who got their online MBA writing thesis papers on books like this one, the art of war, and seven habits of highly effective people.
Every one of the 48 rules of power has an example of "obeying the rules: great success" and "didn't obey the rule, probably died a miserable failure". All of these examples are generally from like 900AD and involve politics from the 4th dynasty of Burma or some stupid irrelevant shit like that.
The author has an attitude that everyone is a horrible person who is out to get you if you don't do so first, and his contempt for people seeps through when he constantly refers to people who don't play the power game as "fools" and "suckers".
If you've ever used the term "cats-paw" unironically, you might enjoy this book!
February 2, 2023
Robert Greene took all the philosophies from Sun Tzu, Machiavellian, and many others and extrapolated them to the current world to help us understand more about the real world and the people living in it. He tells us how to distinguish between right and wrong and the best ways to behave when we are facing a crisis. The only thing you must be careful while reading this book is that you should pick up the ideas that will be helpful for you from this book and try to see whether it is morally correct in your case before trying to implement it.
“LAW 4
Always Say Less Than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.”
December 30, 2014
The book is little more than a collection of conflicting laws that are supported only by anecdotal evidence. Good for entertainment and historical vignettes but no real substance or takeaways here.
September 17, 2025
الأرنب: فشل القيادة بسبب السذاجة
"الأرنب" يمثل القائد الذي يفشل لأنه يركز فقط على الأخلاق والاجتهاد دون فهم ديناميكيات القوة والاحترام. هذه الشخصية قد تكون محتقرة لأنها تفتقر إلى:
فرض الاحترام: الأرنب لا يفرض وجوده أو تقديره. هو ينتظر أن يتم تقديره على أساس أخلاقه، وهو ما لا يحدث غالبًا.هو يظن أن العالم مثالي وأن الناس سيكافئون الصدق والاجتهاد تلقائيًا. هذا التفكير الساذج يجعله عرضة للاستغلال.
الأفعى: فشل القيادة بسبب الكراهية
"الأفعى"، فهي تنجح في الصعود بسرعة باستخدام التملق والنفاق والتطبيل والظلم، لكن هذا النجاح هش. الناس يكرهونها ويخافونها، وينتظرون الفرصة المناسبة للقضاء عليها. هذا النموذج يوضح أن القيادة القائمة على القوة وحدها، دون احترام أو حب، غالبًا ما تنتهي بالسقوط.
النسر: القائد الناجح
أما "النسر" فهو القائد الذي يجمع بين القوة والعدالة. هو "يجرح ويداوي"، قادر على اتخاذ قرارات صعبة وحازمة، ولكنه في نفس الوقت عادل ومحبوب.
النزاهة: النسر لا يتملق ولا ينافق. هو صادق مع نفسه ومع الآخرين، ولا يدعي أنه ملاك.
الكاريزما القوية: يفرض احترامه دون أن يطلبه. الناس يحبونه ويخافونه في نفس الوقت، لأنه يمتلك قوة وشجاعة لا يمتلكها الآخرون.
القاسم المشترك بين كل القادة الناجحين هو العدل، بغض النظر عن شخصيتهم (اجتماعي، انطوائي، أو حتى "برمائي").
اقل منك كفاءة واقل منك اخلاق وسيصعد وسيسحقك هو صح سينزل بسرعة لكنه سيصعد وانت لا ...فهم نصف اللعبة التوسع وفرض النفس والظهور على البشر...لكنه لم يفهم النصف الاخر يجب ان تظهر وتتوسع وانت تستحق وتفعلها بدون تملق وتطبيل يجب ان تفعلها كمفترس كنسر حقيقي ان تطلق اجنحتك وتصعد لا ان تتملق كالافعى الافعى لا تطير الافعى بالكاد تتسلق تسمى متسلقة .....الافعى متسلقة منافقة ...اما الارنب يبقى على الارض كعبد مهما تخلق واجتهد لان الارنب لا يعرف كيف يربط علاقات مصالح مشتركة كيف يكون اناني كيف يحب مصالحه ويربط علاقات مصالح مشتركة كيف يظهر كيف يفرض نفسه كيف يفرض على البشر تقديره النسر يفرض تقديره على البشر لا يطلب التقدير ولا ينتظره ...توقف عن الكذب لست ملاك انت كائن مفترس عاطفي لديك اخلاق وبس تعامل على هذا الاساس تكذب تعاقب ...مادمت لست مفترس مهما اجتهدت ومهما تخلقت لن ياتي احد عندك ويقول لك انت تستحق يجب ان تفرضها عليهم وتاخذ بنفسك ما تستحقه
اتذكر سلسلة بريكنج باااد الاخلاق لن توصلك الى اي مكان مادمت تحتقر جانبك المفترس ولا تعرف كيف تتحرك كمفترس وتهتم بمصالحك وترتبط علاقاات مصالح متبادلة لن تتقدم خطوة في حياتك او في حياتك المهنية ....العواطف هي سبب فشلك حتى لو كنت اخلاقي وتعمل بجد لا احد سيقدر لانهم ليسوا ملائكة وانت لست ملاك انت تكذب وتمثل انك ملاك ومادمت تكذب لن تنجح في الدنيا ولن تنجح علاقاتك مع البشر...لانك في داخلك تحتقر الجانب المفترس المصلحجي فيك وهذا يجعلك لن تفهم البشر ابدا وعلاقاتك بهم ستكون فاشلة ....يقدرونك على ماذا على غباءك العبد هو من يجتهد كثيرا ولديه اخلاق عالية ...مادمت عبدا فانت محتقر مهما كانت اخلاقك عالية ومهما اجتهدت ....السيد مفترس الاسياد مفترسون ليس لديهم اخلاق عالية ولا يعملون بجد ووفاء...هم اوفياء لمصالحهم وعلاقاتهم مع البشر علاقات مصالح مشتركة هذا لا يعني انهم ليسوا انسانيين ولا يتصدقون عادي يتصدقون قد تتصدق وتكون انسان لكن بنسبة معينة مع رسم الحدود وترك مسافة الامان....البشر يقدرون من يفرض تقديره عليهم اذا تركت لهم حرية تقديرك لن يقدروك لانهم ليسوا ملائكة
ما هو الذكاء الاجتماعي هو فهم البشر ان تفهم انهم يولدون وهم يحبون مصالحهم وتعرف كيف تربط علاقات مصالح مشتركة بكل وضووح وشفافية بلا عواطف بلا تملق بلا لف ودوران لان اللف والدوران والتملق والتطبيل يسمى نفاق اجتماعي وهو شيء مذموم...ماذا عن الانسانية والصدقة هذه تفعلها لاجل الله او لاجل الانسانية وتكون في اطار محدد مع ترك مسافة الامان ....البشر كائنات مفترسة عاطفية ...اذا كنت طيب اخلاقي ستسحق وسيتم دفعك لن يقدروا ذلك لانهم ليسوا ملائكة وانت نفسك لست ملاك يوما ما ستستفيق وستكتشف ان الاخلاق لوحدها لا توصل الى اي مكان...يجب ان تفرض نفسك على العالم
October 11, 2013
يُعتبر الكتاب نسخة محدّثة وأكثر عمومية لكتاب الأمير لمؤلفه ميكافيللي؛ فبينما ركّز الأخير على القواعد الواجب اتّباعها لتحقيق الانتصارات السياسية وفرض السطوة، اتكأ روبرت جرين على حوادث تاريخية، سياسية وغير سياسية، لاستنباط قواعد تساعد في فهم طبيعة النفس البشرية بشكل عام، وكيفية تسخيرها للحصول على السطوة بالأخص في العمل.
وجدتُ الكتاب مفيدًا وواقعيًا لأقصى درجة، لكنه ليس لذوي النظرة الوردية للحياة، فغالبًا لن يصدقوا حرفًا مما جاء فيه، وسيتّهمون كاتبه باللئم والخبث. كما لا أنصح أن يقرأه خريجًا جديدًا لم ينخرط بعد في قذارة الواقع، ولم يحتكّ بدَنَس العمل أيًا كانت طبيعته، لأنه ببساطة لن يستوعب ما ذُكر من قواعد. يُفضّل أن تكون مررت بقدرٍ ما من المشاكل والمواجهات و"الخوازيق" في عملك حتى تتسنّى لك الاستفادة من الكتاب؛ فأنا من أنصار أن تُرمى في البحر لتتعلم السباحة، ثم لنتحدث بعدها عن الأخطاء التي ارتكبتها، ولن تنساها ما حييت، حتى في عملي فأنا أفضل تلك الطريقة في التدريس؛ أن أعرض المشكلة أولًا على الطالب، وأتركه يحاول فيها بشتى الطرق حتى يُرهَق تمامًا، ثم نتدارس الأخطاء التي وقع فيها لاحقًا.
والأهم أن ليس كل قارئ للكتاب بقادرٍ على الإفادة منه، فالقواعد تتطلب قدرًا من الذكاء الاجتماعي لفهمها ثم تطبيقها في الواقع، وتختلف قدرات البشر في تقدير الأمور بالطبع، كما تتباين مقدرتهم على تحديد نوع الفخ الذي يُنصب لهم وأية قاعدة تستوجب الاستخدام في اللحظة الراهنة.
سيفيد القارئ من القواعد المذكورة إن كان موظفًا صغيرًا، أو متوسط المركز، أو رئيسًا. سيجد في كل قاعدة حتمًا ما يمكنه من تسخيرها لصالحه لتلائم وضعه الخاص. ستجد في بعضها نفسك، وستجد في البعض الآخر أشخاصًا تعرفهم.
عرض روبرت جرين القواعد على النسق التالي:
نصّ القاعدة•
أمثلة على انتهاك القاعدة•
أمثلة أخرى على مراعاة القاعدة. كان من الذكاء أن يذكر أمثلة الانتهاك أولًا.•
مفاتيح للسطوة•
اقتباس من معلم•
الصورة: تساعدك على تذكُّر القاعدة•
عكس القاعدة، ومتى تلجأ له•
الكتاب حافل بالأمثلة التاريخية التي يعضد بها الكاتب كل قاعدة، وقد يتكرر نفس المثال في أكثر من قاعدة لكن بتناول مختلف في كل مرة.
وجدتُ الكتاب مفيدًا وواقعيًا لأقصى درجة، لكنه ليس لذوي النظرة الوردية للحياة، فغالبًا لن يصدقوا حرفًا مما جاء فيه، وسيتّهمون كاتبه باللئم والخبث. كما لا أنصح أن يقرأه خريجًا جديدًا لم ينخرط بعد في قذارة الواقع، ولم يحتكّ بدَنَس العمل أيًا كانت طبيعته، لأنه ببساطة لن يستوعب ما ذُكر من قواعد. يُفضّل أن تكون مررت بقدرٍ ما من المشاكل والمواجهات و"الخوازيق" في عملك حتى تتسنّى لك الاستفادة من الكتاب؛ فأنا من أنصار أن تُرمى في البحر لتتعلم السباحة، ثم لنتحدث بعدها عن الأخطاء التي ارتكبتها، ولن تنساها ما حييت، حتى في عملي فأنا أفضل تلك الطريقة في التدريس؛ أن أعرض المشكلة أولًا على الطالب، وأتركه يحاول فيها بشتى الطرق حتى يُرهَق تمامًا، ثم نتدارس الأخطاء التي وقع فيها لاحقًا.
والأهم أن ليس كل قارئ للكتاب بقادرٍ على الإفادة منه، فالقواعد تتطلب قدرًا من الذكاء الاجتماعي لفهمها ثم تطبيقها في الواقع، وتختلف قدرات البشر في تقدير الأمور بالطبع، كما تتباين مقدرتهم على تحديد نوع الفخ الذي يُنصب لهم وأية قاعدة تستوجب الاستخدام في اللحظة الراهنة.
سيفيد القارئ من القواعد المذكورة إن كان موظفًا صغيرًا، أو متوسط المركز، أو رئيسًا. سيجد في كل قاعدة حتمًا ما يمكنه من تسخيرها لصالحه لتلائم وضعه الخاص. ستجد في بعضها نفسك، وستجد في البعض الآخر أشخاصًا تعرفهم.
عرض روبرت جرين القواعد على النسق التالي:
نصّ القاعدة•
أمثلة على انتهاك القاعدة•
أمثلة أخرى على مراعاة القاعدة. كان من الذكاء أن يذكر أمثلة الانتهاك أولًا.•
مفاتيح للسطوة•
اقتباس من معلم•
الصورة: تساعدك على تذكُّر القاعدة•
عكس القاعدة، ومتى تلجأ له•
الكتاب حافل بالأمثلة التاريخية التي يعضد بها الكاتب كل قاعدة، وقد يتكرر نفس المثال في أكثر من قاعدة لكن بتناول مختلف في كل مرة.
June 27, 2011
Did you ever notice how sometimes the right book comes along at the right time? I bought this book way back in '01, almost as a joke--it was so politically incorrect, but mostly for the stellar historical references-- remember, he who forgets the past is destined to repeat it. Little did I realize this tome was to become one of the most dog-eared and spine-cracked books in my collection. Initially, I was trying to make sense of the havoc that schemers and liars were wreaking upon me. I used to be naive & innocent, kinda. But then I started relying on some, but not all, of the laws to survive and thrive. Some great lessons from this book:
1. Learn to control your emotions.
2. Contingency. Flexibility. Have a "Plan B."
3. Learn from your past.
4. Life is a game, don't take it personally.
What I can't seem to learn is how to conceal my intentions, and play the role of a "courtier." That said, I can unconditionally and unequivocally recommend this book, just for the mini liberal arts "Western Civ" education you'll receive. Read it, you'll have some good conversation at random water coolers and cocktail parties, you might even score a spot on Jeopardy, but you'll definitely kick some poor, weak, sots ass at Trivial Pursuit.
1. Learn to control your emotions.
2. Contingency. Flexibility. Have a "Plan B."
3. Learn from your past.
4. Life is a game, don't take it personally.
What I can't seem to learn is how to conceal my intentions, and play the role of a "courtier." That said, I can unconditionally and unequivocally recommend this book, just for the mini liberal arts "Western Civ" education you'll receive. Read it, you'll have some good conversation at random water coolers and cocktail parties, you might even score a spot on Jeopardy, but you'll definitely kick some poor, weak, sots ass at Trivial Pursuit.
July 17, 2021
A book of wisdom, a compilation of tactics, hordes of to-avoid mistakes, rich set of brilliant tested ideas for thriving.
Although many of the rules might seem devilish, they'd better be considered as lessons to be aware of in perilous social life.
This book is unspeakably well written. Everyone can definitely benefit having it read for its lessons are ones that have been tested and utilized throughout the history by bold figures.
I really enjoyed this book and learned an intense amount of knowledge.
Although many of the rules might seem devilish, they'd better be considered as lessons to be aware of in perilous social life.
This book is unspeakably well written. Everyone can definitely benefit having it read for its lessons are ones that have been tested and utilized throughout the history by bold figures.
I really enjoyed this book and learned an intense amount of knowledge.
August 3, 2011
If you want to be known as a psychopath, let this be your bible.
May 9, 2016
Definitely read this book if you're planning on being a war general soon. Or if you want to destroy your "enemies."
If you want to be happy, probably this book is useless for you. Most of the models of power ended up being killed or miserable.
This book is pretty useful--anyone who doesn't see it as satire or rates it as 5 stars, you should probably avoid in your daily life--they think you're tool and are incapable of human love.
If you want to be happy, probably this book is useless for you. Most of the models of power ended up being killed or miserable.
This book is pretty useful--anyone who doesn't see it as satire or rates it as 5 stars, you should probably avoid in your daily life--they think you're tool and are incapable of human love.
October 22, 2022
بعد 4سنوات عدت وقرات هذا الكتاب بالإنجليزية. وهذا كان رأي فيه.
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
أوت 22
انا بعد عدة شهور من النقاشات و قراءة كتب أخرى
لأن ذلك السؤال المركزي بقي يقلقني انا كرهت هذا كتاب لكن الا يوجد كتاب ديني او بحث إسلامي يبرز لي الوجه الآخر للقوة : القوة الحقيقة .
حتى الحمد الله و بنعمة الله و فضله وجدتها اليوم في خطبة لدكتور راتب النابلسي زاده الله علما و حفظه الله.
و هذا رابط و سوف اضعه في اخر مراجعتي القدبمة التي كانت في شهر ديسمبر 2018.
و أدعوكم من فضلكم لنشر هذه المحاضرة و مراجعة فقط لإبراز المعنى الحقيقي للقوة لدينا امة الإسلامية
و جزاءكم الله خيرا.
Écouter الخطبة (70) : القوة - الإيمان قوة مطلقة par موسوعة النابلسي #np sur #SoundCloud
https://soundcloud.com/nabulsi-encycl...
علما قبل بدأ بالكتابة هذا ليس راي محايد و ليس موضوعي.
انا منحازة جدا للوفاء و الأخلاص و الثقة و الصراحة و لكل القيم الفضلى .
أي نعم انا عنيدة و رغم النصيحة اصررت على القراءة.
لانني مثلي مثل اغلب أشخاص او النساء لا اعرف بضبط.
حين يتملك بنا الافتتان بكاتب او الكتاب او اي الشئ.نرغب في تعرف عليه اكثر.
ذلك م صار معي تعرفت على هذا الكاتب طبعا ليس في صالون او مكتبة بل مع كتابه "فن الاغواء "نتيجة مراحعة مستفزة من احد اصدقاء الاعزاء "عبيد"
* لا اعرف لم هذا الكاتب بذات حظي مع كتبه الاستفزاز السلبي او إيجابي .🤔
فاعجبت به حد الافتتان لدرجة انني كتبت معلقة مو مراجعة على قول الصديق الحلبي
لذلك قررت قراءة له اكثر و وقع إختيار على هذا الكتاب.الذي بصدفة وجدت احد الرفاق و الزملاء اعطاه نجمة وحيدة يتيمة.و رغم نصحه لي بعدم القراءة و بين لي الأ سباب.
لكن اجتمع عندي العند مع الافتتان و قررت ان اقرا لأكتشف سبب.
و كانت الويلات و الخيبات و إصطدمت بصخرة الواقع ☺🏔🗻 .
صخرة الحقيقة و إستيقظت من وهم الأفتتان و وجدت نفسي اسمع مستغربة و اكرر "هل هذا هو الكاتب الذي أعحبك؟ تأكدي،،
هل مازلت ستواصلين إستماع ماذا تنتظرين اكثر؟ ماذا بقي و لم يطعن فيه؟"
و رغم كل اعجاب بأسلوبه .
لا احتمل الدفاع على النفاق و ضرب القيم و الا اكون شريرة تمشي على الارض أو الساحرة الشريرة.
قررت التوقف و اقدم اعتذار للزميل
نعم انه كتاب لا يستحق و لا نحمة.
هل اعطي نجمة او اقيم من يدافع و يناادي بتملق الرئيس و استخدام اصدقاء كالكبش فداء و ان نرتكب اخطاء و نلقي بها على الأخرين و ان نخفي نوايانا و نغير مبادئنا واقوالنا حسب الظروف و الهدف واضح هو :
القوة و السلطة و النفوذ و ان نكسب م نريد .
اهلا بكم في بلاط النفاق السياسي و وحوش الانسانية و بم انني مكتفية حد التخمة بنفاق السياسي الخاص بنا لست مستغدة لسماع مزيد.
هذا كتاب لا يقرأ .لان هويتنا و مبادئنا سوف تقف حاجز متين و الحمد الله امام هذا الهراء.
بالإسم الإنسانية و القيم الفضلي و النويا الحسنى لا تقرأ.
رابط معنى الحقيقي للقوة لدى الامة الاسلامية.
Écouter الخطبة (70) : القوة - الإيمان قوة مطلقة par موسوعة النابلسي #np sur #SoundCloud
https://soundcloud.com/nabulsi-encycl....
و هذا رابط pdf.
http://www.nabulsi.com/web/article/48...
23 november 2018🌸
https://www.goodreads.com/review/show...
أوت 22
انا بعد عدة شهور من النقاشات و قراءة كتب أخرى
لأن ذلك السؤال المركزي بقي يقلقني انا كرهت هذا كتاب لكن الا يوجد كتاب ديني او بحث إسلامي يبرز لي الوجه الآخر للقوة : القوة الحقيقة .
حتى الحمد الله و بنعمة الله و فضله وجدتها اليوم في خطبة لدكتور راتب النابلسي زاده الله علما و حفظه الله.
و هذا رابط و سوف اضعه في اخر مراجعتي القدبمة التي كانت في شهر ديسمبر 2018.
و أدعوكم من فضلكم لنشر هذه المحاضرة و مراجعة فقط لإبراز المعنى الحقيقي للقوة لدينا امة الإسلامية
و جزاءكم الله خيرا.
Écouter الخطبة (70) : القوة - الإيمان قوة مطلقة par موسوعة النابلسي #np sur #SoundCloud
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علما قبل بدأ بالكتابة هذا ليس راي محايد و ليس موضوعي.
انا منحازة جدا للوفاء و الأخلاص و الثقة و الصراحة و لكل القيم الفضلى .
أي نعم انا عنيدة و رغم النصيحة اصررت على القراءة.
لانني مثلي مثل اغلب أشخاص او النساء لا اعرف بضبط.
حين يتملك بنا الافتتان بكاتب او الكتاب او اي الشئ.نرغب في تعرف عليه اكثر.
ذلك م صار معي تعرفت على هذا الكاتب طبعا ليس في صالون او مكتبة بل مع كتابه "فن الاغواء "نتيجة مراحعة مستفزة من احد اصدقاء الاعزاء "عبيد"
* لا اعرف لم هذا الكاتب بذات حظي مع كتبه الاستفزاز السلبي او إيجابي .🤔
فاعجبت به حد الافتتان لدرجة انني كتبت معلقة مو مراجعة على قول الصديق الحلبي
لذلك قررت قراءة له اكثر و وقع إختيار على هذا الكتاب.الذي بصدفة وجدت احد الرفاق و الزملاء اعطاه نجمة وحيدة يتيمة.و رغم نصحه لي بعدم القراءة و بين لي الأ سباب.
لكن اجتمع عندي العند مع الافتتان و قررت ان اقرا لأكتشف سبب.
و كانت الويلات و الخيبات و إصطدمت بصخرة الواقع ☺🏔🗻 .
صخرة الحقيقة و إستيقظت من وهم الأفتتان و وجدت نفسي اسمع مستغربة و اكرر "هل هذا هو الكاتب الذي أعحبك؟ تأكدي،،
هل مازلت ستواصلين إستماع ماذا تنتظرين اكثر؟ ماذا بقي و لم يطعن فيه؟"
و رغم كل اعجاب بأسلوبه .
لا احتمل الدفاع على النفاق و ضرب القيم و الا اكون شريرة تمشي على الارض أو الساحرة الشريرة.
قررت التوقف و اقدم اعتذار للزميل
نعم انه كتاب لا يستحق و لا نحمة.
هل اعطي نجمة او اقيم من يدافع و يناادي بتملق الرئيس و استخدام اصدقاء كالكبش فداء و ان نرتكب اخطاء و نلقي بها على الأخرين و ان نخفي نوايانا و نغير مبادئنا واقوالنا حسب الظروف و الهدف واضح هو :
القوة و السلطة و النفوذ و ان نكسب م نريد .
اهلا بكم في بلاط النفاق السياسي و وحوش الانسانية و بم انني مكتفية حد التخمة بنفاق السياسي الخاص بنا لست مستغدة لسماع مزيد.
هذا كتاب لا يقرأ .لان هويتنا و مبادئنا سوف تقف حاجز متين و الحمد الله امام هذا الهراء.
بالإسم الإنسانية و القيم الفضلي و النويا الحسنى لا تقرأ.
رابط معنى الحقيقي للقوة لدى الامة الاسلامية.
Écouter الخطبة (70) : القوة - الإيمان قوة مطلقة par موسوعة النابلسي #np sur #SoundCloud
https://soundcloud.com/nabulsi-encycl....
و هذا رابط pdf.
http://www.nabulsi.com/web/article/48...
23 november 2018🌸
November 26, 2014
في مسلسل عربي، كان فيه واحد غنى بيدي موظف رشوة فالموظف بيقول له: بتديني رشوة؟ فالغنى بيقول له لأ دي مش رشوة دي عربون محبة .. فالموظف قال اذا كان كده ماشي وأخدها
الكتاب ده الصح انك تسميه رشوة .. لكن مؤلفه مسميه عربون محبة
يعني الكتاب اسمه قواعد القوة .. والمفروض يبقى قواعد الدناءة
هذه النسبية في المسميات .. هي من أشد ما كان ينتقده عبد الوهاب المسيري في الغرب
أعتقد أنه لا توجد قاعدة بهذا الكتاب إلا وكانت هناك آية قرانية أو حديث شريف يأمرنا بعكسها أو على الأقل باجتنابها
اذا أردت أن تصبح شخصا شريرا وقويا وربما غنيا .. فالتزم بما في هذا الكتاب
أو في قول آخر .. إذا أردت أن تكسب العالم وتخسر نفسك .. فاتبع تلك القوانين
الكتاب ده الصح انك تسميه رشوة .. لكن مؤلفه مسميه عربون محبة
يعني الكتاب اسمه قواعد القوة .. والمفروض يبقى قواعد الدناءة
هذه النسبية في المسميات .. هي من أشد ما كان ينتقده عبد الوهاب المسيري في الغرب
أعتقد أنه لا توجد قاعدة بهذا الكتاب إلا وكانت هناك آية قرانية أو حديث شريف يأمرنا بعكسها أو على الأقل باجتنابها
اذا أردت أن تصبح شخصا شريرا وقويا وربما غنيا .. فالتزم بما في هذا الكتاب
أو في قول آخر .. إذا أردت أن تكسب العالم وتخسر نفسك .. فاتبع تلك القوانين
June 22, 2022
I've seen many people disliking this book because it's evil. What they do not understand that this book is meant to be evil. And in its execution, it was spectacular. This book is a classic.
I think the world is a horrible place because good people don't understand evil scheme, or can't plot evil scheme when its necessary to fight the evil. As evil minds are generally ruthless in executing their schemes, they win most of the time. To fight it, you must play dirty when necessary.
That being said, this book has enormous seductive power which could transform you to a manipulating mind. Here are a few laws that I particularly liked..
Law 1: Never outshine your master.
Law 4: Always say less than necessary.
Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people's self interest, never to their mercy or gratitude.
Law 19: Know who you are dealing with, do not offend the wrong person.
Law 40: Despise the free lunch.
Law 46: Never appear two perfect.
What makes the book a fun read is that each law is bolstered by historical stories, where either observance of the law or transgression of the law is exemplified. So the reader can relate the laws to real life scenarios, even in his own life.
This is an exceptionally well written book.
I think the world is a horrible place because good people don't understand evil scheme, or can't plot evil scheme when its necessary to fight the evil. As evil minds are generally ruthless in executing their schemes, they win most of the time. To fight it, you must play dirty when necessary.
That being said, this book has enormous seductive power which could transform you to a manipulating mind. Here are a few laws that I particularly liked..
Law 1: Never outshine your master.
Law 4: Always say less than necessary.
Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people's self interest, never to their mercy or gratitude.
Law 19: Know who you are dealing with, do not offend the wrong person.
Law 40: Despise the free lunch.
Law 46: Never appear two perfect.
What makes the book a fun read is that each law is bolstered by historical stories, where either observance of the law or transgression of the law is exemplified. So the reader can relate the laws to real life scenarios, even in his own life.
This is an exceptionally well written book.
January 12, 2022
Wow. Where to start? I really didn’t know what I was getting into with this book. I found it in my Kindle library (probably bought it as a daily deal at some point) and I vaguely remembered a couple bloggers I follow have mentioned it. The premise seemed interesting (sounded to me like a lot of interesting examples of historical leadership), so I dove in. After reading one chapter, I had to go research this book more because I couldn’t figure out what I was reading.
After a quick consult with Wikipedia, I learned the book is popular with “prison inmates and celebrities” and some further research revealed how controversial the book is due to the themes of seduction, manipulation, and war (the book has been banned in some US prisons as a supposed security measure). With that context, I realize this is definitely not the usual book I would read, but my (morbid) curiosity was sparked and I like reading different points of view.
But this point of view was scary. The author describes the world as a battlefield, and we all need to manipulate and deceive each other in our quest for power. The author and I clearly have very different definitions of power – power to me is gained through trust and respect, not destruction and cruelty. My mouth dropped open almost every time I started reading about a new law and I would have to take a couple breaths to calm down. Here are some of the gems that really made my blood pressure rise:
“Our good name and reputation depend more on what we conceal than what we reveal. Everyone makes mistakes, but those who are truly clever manage to hide them, and to make sure someone else is blamed. A convenient scapegoat should always be kept around for such moments.” (Law 26 – Keep Your Hands Clean)
“If you find yourself in a lowly position that offers little opportunity for you to draw attention, an effective trick is to attack the most visible, most famous, most powerful person you can find.” (Law 6 - Court Attention at All Cost)
“Friends will say that they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste in clothes – maybe they mean it, often they do not.” (Law 2 - Never Put Too Much Trust in Friends, Learn How To Use Enemies)
“Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.” (Law 11 – Learn To Keep People Dependent on You)
Law 7 – Get Others To Do the Work For You, But Always Take the Credit…no further commentary needed on this one.
It’s also worth mentioning the multiple references to obeying your “master” throughout the book – you should protect your master's ego at all costs by only doing what’s asked of you and acting dumber than you are if necessary. All of this is terrible leadership (and life!) advice. I noticed that a lot of the “laws” are contrary to currently accepted advice on being a good leader…and a good citizen. The book was published in 1998, and admittedly I was still in high school at that time and living in a bubble under my parents’ roof, but the world hasn’t changed that much, right?? I know we’ve made advances in social equality and inclusion since then (although there’s still a long way to go), but I don’t really think this was sound counsel 20+ years ago either.
The concepts weren’t actually all bad. There are some messages in the book, like actions speak louder than words and don’t be unnecessarily cruel to people, but the whole thing is just framed as life is a war and the ultimate goal is to manipulate everyone around you. For example, in Law 14 – Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy (after a while, you can’t help but laugh at the titles of the laws!), the main example is that a big-time art dealer wanted Andrew Mellon’s business in the early 1900s. The art dealer did a lot of research on what Mellon liked and found a way to get in front of Mellon to show him his expertise and that he understood Mellon’s tastes. Mellon was impressed, hired the guy, and ended up with an art collection he loved. And the art dealer guy got the commission that he was looking for. To me, this sounds like taking an interest in someone and creating mutual value – good business advice for anyone trying to sell something. But the book made this into some elaborate spy game where the art dealer was just trying to manipulate the unsuspecting millionaire for his own personal gain.
Although I’m sure I’m completely undermining my “power” by saying this, I like to try to find the good in everything. As a result, I resigned myself to stop hate-reading the book around the fifth chapter and just accept it for what it is. I wasn’t going to agree with most of the author’s views, but each law was “supported” by an interesting story about a historical figure. Most of the examples were of egotistical men (with a few women sprinkled in) trying to manipulate and deceive each other, but there were a lot of interesting stories from ancient China and the Roman Empire, and I came away from the book with a list of some people and places I want to learn more about (preferably from less belligerent books!).
But then I got to Law 27 – Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following. You shouldn’t let gullibility go to waste and, in order to form your own cult, you just need to “simply follow the five steps of cultmaking that our charlatan ancestors perfected over the years.” I had to call it and officially mark this book as DNF, I can’t do another 200+ pages of this. This book is so confusing to me and I began to wonder if there was some joke I wasn’t getting, because the author can’t be serious. In one last ditch effort to understand, I found a 2012 article from The Guardian with Robert Greene’s thoughts on his book. He said, “I believe I described a reality that no other book tried to describe. I went to an extreme for literary purposes because I felt all the self-help books out there were so gooey and Pollyanna-ish and nauseating.” I appreciate that perspective and this book is definitely like no other I've read, but I guess Mr. Greene and I just experience different realities and his extreme is a little too extreme for me.
If you see life as a giant war that needs to be won, this is the book for you. But please don’t read it. The concepts in this book won’t give you the “power” you’re looking for in this world. There are a lot more productive books out there to guide you on how to become more influential and respected.
After a quick consult with Wikipedia, I learned the book is popular with “prison inmates and celebrities” and some further research revealed how controversial the book is due to the themes of seduction, manipulation, and war (the book has been banned in some US prisons as a supposed security measure). With that context, I realize this is definitely not the usual book I would read, but my (morbid) curiosity was sparked and I like reading different points of view.
But this point of view was scary. The author describes the world as a battlefield, and we all need to manipulate and deceive each other in our quest for power. The author and I clearly have very different definitions of power – power to me is gained through trust and respect, not destruction and cruelty. My mouth dropped open almost every time I started reading about a new law and I would have to take a couple breaths to calm down. Here are some of the gems that really made my blood pressure rise:
“Our good name and reputation depend more on what we conceal than what we reveal. Everyone makes mistakes, but those who are truly clever manage to hide them, and to make sure someone else is blamed. A convenient scapegoat should always be kept around for such moments.” (Law 26 – Keep Your Hands Clean)
“If you find yourself in a lowly position that offers little opportunity for you to draw attention, an effective trick is to attack the most visible, most famous, most powerful person you can find.” (Law 6 - Court Attention at All Cost)
“Friends will say that they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste in clothes – maybe they mean it, often they do not.” (Law 2 - Never Put Too Much Trust in Friends, Learn How To Use Enemies)
“Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.” (Law 11 – Learn To Keep People Dependent on You)
Law 7 – Get Others To Do the Work For You, But Always Take the Credit…no further commentary needed on this one.
It’s also worth mentioning the multiple references to obeying your “master” throughout the book – you should protect your master's ego at all costs by only doing what’s asked of you and acting dumber than you are if necessary. All of this is terrible leadership (and life!) advice. I noticed that a lot of the “laws” are contrary to currently accepted advice on being a good leader…and a good citizen. The book was published in 1998, and admittedly I was still in high school at that time and living in a bubble under my parents’ roof, but the world hasn’t changed that much, right?? I know we’ve made advances in social equality and inclusion since then (although there’s still a long way to go), but I don’t really think this was sound counsel 20+ years ago either.
The concepts weren’t actually all bad. There are some messages in the book, like actions speak louder than words and don’t be unnecessarily cruel to people, but the whole thing is just framed as life is a war and the ultimate goal is to manipulate everyone around you. For example, in Law 14 – Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy (after a while, you can’t help but laugh at the titles of the laws!), the main example is that a big-time art dealer wanted Andrew Mellon’s business in the early 1900s. The art dealer did a lot of research on what Mellon liked and found a way to get in front of Mellon to show him his expertise and that he understood Mellon’s tastes. Mellon was impressed, hired the guy, and ended up with an art collection he loved. And the art dealer guy got the commission that he was looking for. To me, this sounds like taking an interest in someone and creating mutual value – good business advice for anyone trying to sell something. But the book made this into some elaborate spy game where the art dealer was just trying to manipulate the unsuspecting millionaire for his own personal gain.
Although I’m sure I’m completely undermining my “power” by saying this, I like to try to find the good in everything. As a result, I resigned myself to stop hate-reading the book around the fifth chapter and just accept it for what it is. I wasn’t going to agree with most of the author’s views, but each law was “supported” by an interesting story about a historical figure. Most of the examples were of egotistical men (with a few women sprinkled in) trying to manipulate and deceive each other, but there were a lot of interesting stories from ancient China and the Roman Empire, and I came away from the book with a list of some people and places I want to learn more about (preferably from less belligerent books!).
But then I got to Law 27 – Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following. You shouldn’t let gullibility go to waste and, in order to form your own cult, you just need to “simply follow the five steps of cultmaking that our charlatan ancestors perfected over the years.” I had to call it and officially mark this book as DNF, I can’t do another 200+ pages of this. This book is so confusing to me and I began to wonder if there was some joke I wasn’t getting, because the author can’t be serious. In one last ditch effort to understand, I found a 2012 article from The Guardian with Robert Greene’s thoughts on his book. He said, “I believe I described a reality that no other book tried to describe. I went to an extreme for literary purposes because I felt all the self-help books out there were so gooey and Pollyanna-ish and nauseating.” I appreciate that perspective and this book is definitely like no other I've read, but I guess Mr. Greene and I just experience different realities and his extreme is a little too extreme for me.
If you see life as a giant war that needs to be won, this is the book for you. But please don’t read it. The concepts in this book won’t give you the “power” you’re looking for in this world. There are a lot more productive books out there to guide you on how to become more influential and respected.
August 24, 2016
Let me start by stating that I was EXTREMELY skeptical about this book, though I had heard so much about it prior to reading it (I don't know, maybe it was the mood I was in). My first thoughts while reading the preface were "Oh god...please don't let this be another book written from the point of view of an arrogant, self centered, self absorbed, narrow minded individual who only sees the world from his end of the spectrum, and believes that without his personal philosophy the rest of us mere mortals would be doomed!" I am pleased to say that I was TOTALLY wrong and pleasantly surprised. I loved this book!
I give the author a tremendous amount of credit for even attempting to take on an issue as COLOSSAL as power and sum it all up in 430 pages. As I stated earlier I was extremely skeptical and was under the impression that this book would be mainly propaganda infused and maybe laced with a little personal philosophy here and there. As I dug deeper into this great work though, I found that the author's personal philosophy actually takes a backseat to the historical references and stories that would eventually take center stage and serve as an excellent way to prove his point and drive it home. I found the accounts of the different powerful figures from ancient civilization all the way up to modern times to be very effective, logical, and convincing. It's always hard to disagree with someone when there's a clear cut example to support the claim.
Now I would not recommend this book to the faint of heart. I reiterate that as the author had to have tough skin to address the topic of power, so should the reader in order to read this book and understand it, let alone enjoy it. This book addresses power from every single angle and aspect of it; from exercising power over ones self and his or her own actions, to having power over other people and their actions. I was expecting a lot of sugar coating and flattering words (as you usually get when power is being addressed) but to the contrary there was a boldness and a distinctly honest quality about this book. That had to have taken a lot of courage...salute. The fact that this was Robert Greene's 1st book is commendable in that respect.
The word "game" often resurfaces throughout in reference to power,(to whom it may concern) I found that interesting. Power took on the form of politics(which I'm not usually into) and leadership was addressed in an almost microscopic type fashion which made the read more interesting. Some of my favorite historical figures appear throughout also to add clarity. People like Julius Caesar, Otto Von Bismarck, and Sun Tzu have recurring roles in this extreme display of excellence.
Power is more times than often romanticized and made to seem alluring and seductive, but very few people dare to explore the object of it from every angle and address the dangers that abound when it is abused; making it easy for an author to inadvertently send an unsuspecting reader of one of these "in a perfect world" type books into a merciless, unrelenting, and unforgiving environment only to be devoured due to misguidance and unpreparedness. The 48 Laws Of Power is not one of those books.
Now there are things that I TOTALLY disagree with in this book. There were portions that I read and thought to myself " I would never do anything like that." On the flip side I was glad that those parts were included also because they gave me insight in to the psyche of the person who would and actually does the things that I choose not to do. Then there are also parts that I TOTALLY agree with; parts that I read and got EXTREMELY excited about! I found myself saying "now that's EXACTLY what I would do!" I personally think that's what makes for a great read. Having the notoriously wicked villain only makes you love the heroic character all the more.
The 48 Laws Of Power has a little bit of everything in it. Power is addressed, so naturally there's deceit, greed, treachery, corruption, and scandal involved. There's a hint of romance with ancient tales like the story of Ninon de Lenclos and Marquis de Serigne. There's also a pinch of heartbreak like you'd find in the story of King Henry the 13th and Catherine of Argon: both aspects of power that I just happen to find fascinating. Surprisingly there were also instances in which those who appeared to be powerful were actually powerless for whatever reason. This book addresses power from every angle, legitimate and illegitimate, in an unbiased way and I appreciated and enjoyed that aspect immensely.
I recommend this book to the man or woman who has reached a crossroad in his or her life and has found themselves staring down the barrel of a powerful decision... either become or remain a subordinate: a life where there's a lot less risk, danger, and treachery involved...or Boss Up: take initiative and pursue a position of leadership and endure the hardships, responsibilities, and drawbacks that being a leader entails. I would also recommend this book to the person who has already acquired a position of leadership somehow, whether it be through hard work and sacrifice, or simply through inheritance. I think all such would find this book to be a tremendous help in deciding on whether to simply bask in what has already been given to you and carry on tradition, or blaze your own path and set your own rules...make your mark.
This may be an oldie to some, but I'm sure there are still a few that have yet to take a gander at this and marvel as I did. In conclusion: real will always recognize real and it is impossible for one to miss the realness that resides between the pages of The 48 Laws Of Power... Salute.
I give the author a tremendous amount of credit for even attempting to take on an issue as COLOSSAL as power and sum it all up in 430 pages. As I stated earlier I was extremely skeptical and was under the impression that this book would be mainly propaganda infused and maybe laced with a little personal philosophy here and there. As I dug deeper into this great work though, I found that the author's personal philosophy actually takes a backseat to the historical references and stories that would eventually take center stage and serve as an excellent way to prove his point and drive it home. I found the accounts of the different powerful figures from ancient civilization all the way up to modern times to be very effective, logical, and convincing. It's always hard to disagree with someone when there's a clear cut example to support the claim.
Now I would not recommend this book to the faint of heart. I reiterate that as the author had to have tough skin to address the topic of power, so should the reader in order to read this book and understand it, let alone enjoy it. This book addresses power from every single angle and aspect of it; from exercising power over ones self and his or her own actions, to having power over other people and their actions. I was expecting a lot of sugar coating and flattering words (as you usually get when power is being addressed) but to the contrary there was a boldness and a distinctly honest quality about this book. That had to have taken a lot of courage...salute. The fact that this was Robert Greene's 1st book is commendable in that respect.
The word "game" often resurfaces throughout in reference to power,(to whom it may concern) I found that interesting. Power took on the form of politics(which I'm not usually into) and leadership was addressed in an almost microscopic type fashion which made the read more interesting. Some of my favorite historical figures appear throughout also to add clarity. People like Julius Caesar, Otto Von Bismarck, and Sun Tzu have recurring roles in this extreme display of excellence.
Power is more times than often romanticized and made to seem alluring and seductive, but very few people dare to explore the object of it from every angle and address the dangers that abound when it is abused; making it easy for an author to inadvertently send an unsuspecting reader of one of these "in a perfect world" type books into a merciless, unrelenting, and unforgiving environment only to be devoured due to misguidance and unpreparedness. The 48 Laws Of Power is not one of those books.
Now there are things that I TOTALLY disagree with in this book. There were portions that I read and thought to myself " I would never do anything like that." On the flip side I was glad that those parts were included also because they gave me insight in to the psyche of the person who would and actually does the things that I choose not to do. Then there are also parts that I TOTALLY agree with; parts that I read and got EXTREMELY excited about! I found myself saying "now that's EXACTLY what I would do!" I personally think that's what makes for a great read. Having the notoriously wicked villain only makes you love the heroic character all the more.
The 48 Laws Of Power has a little bit of everything in it. Power is addressed, so naturally there's deceit, greed, treachery, corruption, and scandal involved. There's a hint of romance with ancient tales like the story of Ninon de Lenclos and Marquis de Serigne. There's also a pinch of heartbreak like you'd find in the story of King Henry the 13th and Catherine of Argon: both aspects of power that I just happen to find fascinating. Surprisingly there were also instances in which those who appeared to be powerful were actually powerless for whatever reason. This book addresses power from every angle, legitimate and illegitimate, in an unbiased way and I appreciated and enjoyed that aspect immensely.
I recommend this book to the man or woman who has reached a crossroad in his or her life and has found themselves staring down the barrel of a powerful decision... either become or remain a subordinate: a life where there's a lot less risk, danger, and treachery involved...or Boss Up: take initiative and pursue a position of leadership and endure the hardships, responsibilities, and drawbacks that being a leader entails. I would also recommend this book to the person who has already acquired a position of leadership somehow, whether it be through hard work and sacrifice, or simply through inheritance. I think all such would find this book to be a tremendous help in deciding on whether to simply bask in what has already been given to you and carry on tradition, or blaze your own path and set your own rules...make your mark.
This may be an oldie to some, but I'm sure there are still a few that have yet to take a gander at this and marvel as I did. In conclusion: real will always recognize real and it is impossible for one to miss the realness that resides between the pages of The 48 Laws Of Power... Salute.
June 16, 2023
- "قواعد السطوة" بحث تاريخي او استقراء لأحداث وقصص تاريخية من أجل استخلاص الزبدة منها واستنباط قاعدة عامة تتلاءم مع طرح الكاتب وتخدم هدفه. فلذلك قام الكاتب بإنتقاء القصص التي تلاءم مشروعه وقرأها بالطريقة التي تخدم مسار أفكاره رغم ان القصص ذاتها قد تُقرأ على أوجه اخرى ومتعددة، كما ان انتقاء القصة من صيرورة تاريخية قد يحيدها عن مضمونها الأصلي وسياقها الفعلي.
- اتبع جرين في القواعد نمطاً محدداً:
نصّ القاعدة
أمثلة على انتهاك القاعدة
أمثلة أخرى على مراعاة القاعدة
مفاتيح للسطوة
اقتباس من معلم
صورة
عكس القاعدة
كانت القواعد بسيطة كقوانين يجاول جرين ان يرسيها او كخلاصات، وأعطى أمثلة عديدة لكل قاعدة ومن ثم اقتبس من احد المفكرين او المحتالين او الجنرالات نصاً يخدم القاعدة وصورة توضّح القاعدة او ترسخها في العقول (فالصورة تساوي الفكلمة) وأعطى لاحقاً أمثلة تعكس القاعدة. انتقاء تطبيق القاعدة او عكسها يخضع لمتغيرات ووقائع لم يذكرها الكاتب! كما ان الأمثلة اتت غالباً لمحتالين وقوّادين ونصّابين وسياسيين، وكان من الظلم حشر بسمارك بين هذه الزمرة.
- حسناً، بالنسبة للقواعد فبعضها صحيح ونراه كل يوم في حياتنا العملية والإجتماعية، واذا كان المرء لن يتصرف طبقاً لها فمعرفتها لتجنب ان تطبّق عليه ستكون مفيدة جداً له. بالنسبة للأمثلة، القصص كانت متنوعة وممتعة وستزيد الكثير للمخزون المعرفي، كما انها ستذكرك بأحداث جرت وتجري وستجري في المستقبل! بشكل عام الكتاب سيكون مفيداً لمن يقرأه.
- يالنسبة للترجمة، فقد لفتني ان المترجم قام بحذف الهوامش والإقتباسات كما قام بتغيير احدى الصور لإعتباراته الإيديولوجية وهذا أقل ما يقال فيه انه سوء أمانة وعدم احتراف.
- ختاماً، ومن خلال التجارب العملية، اذا اجتهد الإنسان فيما يقوم به وأبدع به سيمتلك الحق لأن يترقّى، لكن هذا الحق غير مضمون فإذا لم يطالب به ويدعمه بالقوة سيضيع ولذلك عليه الا يكون ساذجاً والحياة محكومة بالكثير من المتغيرات.
- اتبع جرين في القواعد نمطاً محدداً:
نصّ القاعدة
أمثلة على انتهاك القاعدة
أمثلة أخرى على مراعاة القاعدة
مفاتيح للسطوة
اقتباس من معلم
صورة
عكس القاعدة
كانت القواعد بسيطة كقوانين يجاول جرين ان يرسيها او كخلاصات، وأعطى أمثلة عديدة لكل قاعدة ومن ثم اقتبس من احد المفكرين او المحتالين او الجنرالات نصاً يخدم القاعدة وصورة توضّح القاعدة او ترسخها في العقول (فالصورة تساوي الفكلمة) وأعطى لاحقاً أمثلة تعكس القاعدة. انتقاء تطبيق القاعدة او عكسها يخضع لمتغيرات ووقائع لم يذكرها الكاتب! كما ان الأمثلة اتت غالباً لمحتالين وقوّادين ونصّابين وسياسيين، وكان من الظلم حشر بسمارك بين هذه الزمرة.
- حسناً، بالنسبة للقواعد فبعضها صحيح ونراه كل يوم في حياتنا العملية والإجتماعية، واذا كان المرء لن يتصرف طبقاً لها فمعرفتها لتجنب ان تطبّق عليه ستكون مفيدة جداً له. بالنسبة للأمثلة، القصص كانت متنوعة وممتعة وستزيد الكثير للمخزون المعرفي، كما انها ستذكرك بأحداث جرت وتجري وستجري في المستقبل! بشكل عام الكتاب سيكون مفيداً لمن يقرأه.
- يالنسبة للترجمة، فقد لفتني ان المترجم قام بحذف الهوامش والإقتباسات كما قام بتغيير احدى الصور لإعتباراته الإيديولوجية وهذا أقل ما يقال فيه انه سوء أمانة وعدم احتراف.
- ختاماً، ومن خلال التجارب العملية، اذا اجتهد الإنسان فيما يقوم به وأبدع به سيمتلك الحق لأن يترقّى، لكن هذا الحق غير مضمون فإذا لم يطالب به ويدعمه بالقوة سيضيع ولذلك عليه الا يكون ساذجاً والحياة محكومة بالكثير من المتغيرات.
من يلتزم بالطيبة طوال الوقت يسحقه المد الهائل من الأشخاص الذين ليسوا طيبين
ميكافيللي
October 7, 2012
Robert Greene has done an excellent job of distilling how power works at the macro level, among great generals, statesmen, larger-than-life seducers, and even top CEOs at Fortune 500 companies. But most of us do not experience power in the way that is presumed by these examples. Most of us experience a much more fluid, shifting, and consensus-based form of power among people whom we must work with over and over again over many years and cannot afford to treat as disposable. This book is of limited value for understanding power in such normal, everyday situations where those exercising power lack the ability to behead, poison, or even to fire those with whom they work.
The book works very well as a history of how absolute power has been accumulated, preserved, and lost. It works much less well as an set of instructions for how to exercise influence in a world where power is much more diffuse and unstable than it is in almost any of the examples that the author relies on as the basis for his "laws."
The book works very well as a history of how absolute power has been accumulated, preserved, and lost. It works much less well as an set of instructions for how to exercise influence in a world where power is much more diffuse and unstable than it is in almost any of the examples that the author relies on as the basis for his "laws."
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October 9, 2014
This book is funny, but not as much as the Amazon and Goodreads reviews. You have the people who took it seriously and gave it five stars. And then you have the people who took it seriously and gave it one star. Lighten up, Francis!
I didn't take it seriously, but instead took it for what it was: a bunch of unsourced anecdotes (a BUNCH of anecdotes...multiple per "law") draped in the author's interpretations of applicability. Okay, he has a "selected" bibliography, but every anecdote is just presented without reference so they're just some tales packaged to illustrate a point or three. Some of those interpretations are insightful, and some are...a reach. Most are just stories loosely connected to his "laws".
Greene made a bunch of money selling these "laws" and hats off to him. I wish I didn't care about what I wrote and could sell this stuff.
I didn't take it seriously, but instead took it for what it was: a bunch of unsourced anecdotes (a BUNCH of anecdotes...multiple per "law") draped in the author's interpretations of applicability. Okay, he has a "selected" bibliography, but every anecdote is just presented without reference so they're just some tales packaged to illustrate a point or three. Some of those interpretations are insightful, and some are...a reach. Most are just stories loosely connected to his "laws".
Greene made a bunch of money selling these "laws" and hats off to him. I wish I didn't care about what I wrote and could sell this stuff.
June 18, 2008
I couldn't stomach this book so to be fair I only finished about a quarter of it so I can't speak for the whole thing. A friend recommended it to me. It seemed to justify selfishness on these somewhat flawed ethics-based arguments. I think it's a recommended reading for business majors. Some folks love it. A good book to check out on power that takes a somewhat different approach is Thich Naht Hanh's "The Art of Power".
August 10, 2021
كتاب جميل وشيق في البداية، لكن مع تكرار قصص الأمثلة الكثيرة وتقريبًا لنفس الشخصيات أصبح الكتاب ممل. لو أن الكاتب حذف بعض من الأمثلة والقصص لكان الكتاب أجمل وأفيد. من ناحية أخرى صعب على الإنسان أن يغير جلده مثل الحية ويتبع كل أساليب الحيل والخداع التي ذكرت في الكتاب، ويتخذها منهاج للحياة.
اقتباسات
لا تُظهر أبدًا تفوقك على وليّك؛ أي رئيسك في العمل. الحكمة:
أشعر رؤسائك باطمئنان لمكانتهم وتفوقهم، ولا تدع رغبتك للتأثير فيهم تدفعك لاستعراض مواهبك أمامهم لأن ذلك على عكس ما تريد سيشعرهم بالتهديد والقلق منك. أظهر أوليائك على قدرهم الحقيقي وسوف يرفعك إلى أعلى مقامات السطوة.
لا أحد يثق بنفسه ثقة تامة فلدينا جميعًا نقائص تجعلنا نشعر بالخور والتهديد، وحين تُظهر نفسك وتستعرض مواهبك تحرك لدى الآخرين الأحقاد والحسد والمشاعر الأخرى التي يوّلدها الخور. عليك أن تتوقع ذلك. ليس عليك أن تخشى إثارة هذا الشعور بالدونية لدى الجميع، لكن يختلف الأمر حين تتعامل مع رؤسائك: فأكبر الأخطاء في لعبة السطوة هو أن تظهر تفوقك على وليك.
تذكر دائمًا: أن مكانتك لن تدوم مهما فعلت، ولا تدع نشوتك بما تنال من حظوة تسيطر عليك وتصيبك بالغرور.
في أي لحظة لا يمكن إلا لشمس واحدة أن تسطع. لا تحجب أبدًا نور الشمس أو تنافسها ألقًا. قف خفيًا في السماء واعمل على أن يشع نجم رئيسك باهرًا.
اقتباس من معلم: لا تظهر أبدًا تفوقك وتألقك على وليك. التعالي مكروه دائمًا ولكن تألقك على رئيسك ليس غباء فحسب لكنه قاتل. تعلم من نجوم السماء فهي لا تقل عن الشمس في جوهرها أو إشعاعها ولكنها تخفت ولا تُظهر نفسها أبدًا حين تشرق الشمس في السماء. ـ بالتسار جراتسيان
لا تثق كثيرًا في أصدقائك وتعلم أن تستفيد من أعدائك؛ الحكمة:
احذر الأصدقاء لأنهم أول من يخونك بدافع الحسد، كما أن الصداقة تفسد ولاءهم وتجعلهم يتسلطون عليك. لكن إن وظفت من كان يومًا عدوًا فإنه سيسعى أن يثبت لك جدارته وولاء وسيكون أوفى من الأصدقاء. الحق أن أذى الصديق دائمًا أشد وأخطر بكثير من العدو، وعليك إن لم تجد لك عدوا أن تصطنع عدوًا.
جحود وغدر الأصدقاء معروفان منذ زمن طويل، ونعجب أن الناس لا يزالون غافلين عن هذه المخاطر.
أنياب الغدر والجحود. أنت تعرف بالقطع ما قد يحدث لك إن وضعت اصبعك في فم الأسد ولذلك تحذر من فعل ذلك. لكن مع أصدقائك لا يكون لديك مثل هذا الحذر وإن وظفتهم يفترسونك حيًا بالغدر والجحود.
اقتباس من معلم: “تعلّم كيف تجعل أعداءك يعملون لصالحك تمامًا كما تسخّر السيف للدفاع عنك بإمساكه من مقبضه وليس من نصله الجارح. الحكيم يستفيد من أعدائه أكثر مما يستفيد الأحمق من أصدقائه”.
بالتسار جراتسيان.
استعن على تحقيق أهدافك بإخفاء مقاصدك؛ الحكمة:
تكتّم على مقاصد أفعالك لتربك وتحير من حولك وتمن��هم من الكيد أو الاستعداد لك، شجّعهم على الخطأ في تفسير تحركاتك. اتركهم في الظلام حتى إذا أدركوا ما أنت مقدم عليه يكون الأوان قد فات على ايذائك أو تعطيلك.
ضلل الناس بعيدًا عن مقاصدك الحقيقية بالتظاهر بأنك ترغب في شيء آخر: إن اكتشف الناس خدعك ومكائدك تخسر كل شيء؛ فلا تمنحهم أبدًا الفرصة لمعرفة ما أنت مقدم عليه. ضلل أنوفهم عن تشمم مقاصدك الحقيقية بالتظاهر بالصدق والتلميحات المتعارضة وبأنك تسعى لشيء آخر غير الذي تريده، فالناس بطبيعتهم لا يفرّقون بين الزائف والحقيقي، وتظاهر برغبتك في شيء آخر تعميهم عن الذي تريده حقًا.
المرأة تحب أن ترى رجلها مرغوبًا من النساء ليس فقط لأن ذلك يرفع من قيمته بل لأنه يجعلها تشعر أنها استطاعت أن تخطفه من بين براثن النساء.
الرجال يختلفون في أشياء كثيرة عن النساء، لكن في الإغواء يجمعهم نفس الشعور: ففي أعماق سريرتهم غالبًا ما يعرفون أنهم يُساقون للإغواء ولكنهم يسلمون أنفسهم له استمتاعًا بالشعور بأنه يتم استدراجهم، ويشعرون بلذة الاستسلام وترك أنفسهم لشخص آخر يتجول بهم في مدن العشق الغريبة.
الإغواء يعتمد على الإيحاء ويفسده التصريح والكلام المباشر ويتطلب منك أن تضلل من تريد بعيدًا عن نواياك الحقيقية.
“لا تجعل أحدًا يكتشف أنك تخادع، رغم أن لا أحد يستطيع في زماننا هذا أن يعيش دون أن يخادع، لكن اجعل أكبر مكرك هو في أن تخفي كل ما قد يكشف للآخرين مكرك”. ـ بالتسار جراتسيان.
إن كنت ترغب بالسطوة تخلى عن الصراحة وتدرب على فن كتمان نواياك. إن اتقنت هذا الفن ستكون لك اليد العليا.
من الوسائل الفعّالة لتضليل الآخرين عن نواياك الحقيقية المصارحة الزائفة، فالناس يخلطون بين المصارحة والصدق ولتتذكر أن غريزتهم تجعلهم يثقون فيما يظهر لهم.
كي تجعل المصارحة الزائفة سلاحًا فعالًا تخفي به نواياك ناصر المصارحة والصدق ودافع عنهما كقيم اجتماعية هامة، وانشر ذلك بين الناس على قدر ما تستطيع، وأكد تحمسك لهما بأحاديث تمس القلب ـ على أن تكون بالطبع تافهة ولا تفشي سرك.
تذكر أن أفضل الماكرين هم من يبذلون كل جهدهم لإخفاء خداعهم، فهم يزرعون الصدق في جانب ليحصدوا ما يريدون من عدم الصدق في جوانب أخرى، فالصدق مجرد سلاح إضافي في ترسانة مكرهم.
استخدم ستائر الدخان لإخفاء مقاصدك.
الخداع والمكر هما أهم استراتيجيات السطوة، لكن لكي تتقن الخداع عليك أن تستخدم ستائر الدخان التي تضلل الناس عن مقاصدك الحقيقية. من أبرع الطرق لوضع ستائر الدخان استخدام تعبيرات وجه المقامر الباردة والمحايدة والتي تصعب قراءتها. استخدامك للتعبيرات المحايدة والمالوفة يطمئن الاخرين ويستدرجهم إلى الفخ الذي أعددته لهم.
إن كنت تحسب أن المخادعين هم من يضللون الناس بالكلام المزخرف والحكايات المؤثرة فأنت مخطئ تمامًا. المخادعون الحقيقيون يتكلمون ويتصرفون بطريقة مألوفة ومعتادة لأنهم يعلمون أن المبالغة تولّد الشك والريبة، ولذلك يخفون ضرباتهم بواجهة بريئة لا تلفت الأنظار إلى مقاصدهم.
ستائر الدخان مفهوم مرن ويمكن ممارسته بطرق ومستويات عديدة لكنها تقوم جميعًا على مبدأ نفسي واحد وهو تضليل الآخرين وتشتيت انتباههم عن غرضك الحقيقي. من أكثر طرق ستائر الدخان فعالية القيام بأفعال وتلميحات تدل على النبل لأن الناس يحبون أن يقنعوا أنفسهم بأن هذا النبل صادق وحقيقي لأن ذلك يمتعهم ويرضيهم ويجعلهم ينسون أن هذا النبل قد يكون مفتعلًا وخادعًا.
من طرق ستائر الدخان الأخرى أن تجعل تحركاتك نسقًا محددًا بحيث يتوقع خصمك أن تستمر في التصرف على نفس المنوال في تحركاتك التالية. تعتمد هذه الحيلة على حقيقة نفسية وهي أن أفعال الناس تميل للتكرار في نسق معين أو على الأقل يتوقعون ذلك من بعضهم بعضا.
تذكر: أن الأمر يتطلب منك صبرًا وتواضعًا لتتمكن من إخفاء صفاتك البارزة والمتألقة وارتداء قناع معتم لا يشف عن حقيقتك، ولا يحزنك أن يحرمك القناع الرمادي من انبهار الناس بحيويتك ومواهبك لأن أغلب ما يُظهرك بمظهر السطوة ويجذب الناس إليك هو عدم قدرتهم على قراءتك.
جلد الضأن: الضأن شديد الطيبة والوداعة؛ لا يغدر ولا يخدع أبدًا. حين يرتدي الثعلب جلد الضأن يمكنه أن يتجوّل بحرية في حظيرة الدجاج.
اقتباس من معلم: “هل سمعت أبدًا عن قائد يعلن خططه للعدو قبل أن يهاجمه؟. عليك أنت أيضًا أن تخفِ مقاصدك وتموّه تحركاتك، ولا تكشف مقاصدك إلا بعد أن يصبح من الصعب مقاومتها؛ أي عند نهاية المعركة. تأكد من النصر قبل أن تعلن الحرب. كن كرجال الحرب الذين لا يفهم مخططاتهم سوى البلاد التي يكونوا قد دخلوها فاتحين“. ـ نينو دي لينكلو.
اقتصد دائمًا في كلامك؛ الحكمة:
كثرة الكلام تضيع هيبتك وتظهرك أقل عزمًا، وحتى الكلام التافه سيبدو أكثر وقارًا وتأثيرًا إن كان مقتضبًا وغير محدد ومفتوحًا على كل التفسيرات. وأصحاب السطوة يؤثرون في الناس ويرهقونهم بإيجاز كلامهم. وكلما تكلمت أكثر يزيد احتمال أن تقول شيئًا تافهًا أو غبيًا.
“عند اكتمال القمر يفتح المحار صدفته وعندها يسرع حيوان السرطان ويضع حجرًا ليمنعها من الانغلاق ثانية ويصبح المحار وجبة له. ذلك هو مصير كل من يفتح فمه أكثر من اللازم ويضع نفسه تحت رحمة المستمع”. ـ ليوناردو دافنشي.
“لقد تعلمت أن الرجل يكون أقوى حين يصمت”. الرسام آندي وارهول.
الكلمات التي تخرج من فمك لا يمكنك أن تعيدها لذلك أطبق عليها بإحكام وحاذر خاصة من السخرية، فما تشعر به من نشوة قصيرة من قولك كلمات لاذعة لا تساوي ما تدفعه فيها من ثمن بعد ذلك.
اقتباس من معلم: "لا تحرك لسانك قبل أن يتكلم من هم أقل منك، إن أطلت الصمت يسرعون في الكلام وبهذا تقرأ نواياهم الحقيقية… إن عرف الوزراء ما تميل إليه نفس الحاكم فسوف يستغلون كل فرصة لنيل المزيد والمزيد منه”. ـ هان فاي تسو ـ حكيم صيني.
عكس القاعدة: هناك أوقات لا يكون من الحكمة فيها أن تصمت خاصة عند التعامل مع رؤسائك، فالصمت قد يولد لديهم الشك والخوف منك، وأي تعليق مبهم أو غامض قد يفتح عليك تفسيرات وردود فعل لست مستعدًا لمواجهتها، ولذا عليك أن تكون حذرًا وأن لا تستخدم طريقة الصمت والاقتصاد في الكلام إلا في المواقف الملائمة.أحيانًا يكون من الحكمة أن تكون كمهرج القصر الذي يدعي الحماقة وهو يعلم أنه أذكى من الملك، المهرج يتكلم ويُضحك ويسلي ولا يظن فيه أحدًا شيئًا آخر غير الحماقة.
كما أن الكلمات قد تعمل أحيانًا كسائر دخان يخفي أي خدعة تقوم بها. جذبك لآذان المنصتين يشتت انتباههم ويلهيهم، وكلما تكلمت أكثر يقل تشككهم بك، فالناس لا يرون في الثرثارين الخبث والتلاعب بل السذاجة والخرق، وهذا عكس سياسة الصمت التي يتبعها أصحاب السلطة والنفوذ: تكلم أكثر فتبدو أضعف وأقل ذكاء من حقيقتك، وحينها يسهل عليك أن تمارس ما تريد من المكر والخداع.
احذر من البائسين حتى لا تنتقل إليك عدواهم؛ الحكمة:
بؤس الآخرين قد يقتلك – فالمشاعر معدية كالمرض. قد تظن أنهم غرقى وأنك تساعدهم بينما أنت بذلك لا تفعل سوى أن تدفع بنفسك إلى الكارثة. البائسون أحيانًا يجلبون العسر لأنفسهم وقد يجلبونه لك أيضًا. دعك منهم وخالط السعداء والمحظوظين حتى ينتقل إليك حظهم.
هناك أشخاص يجلبون السعادة لمن حولهم بما في طبيعتهم من ابتهاج ومرح وطيبة قلب وذكاء، وهم مصدر سعادة وعليك أن تختلط بهم وتصاحبهم وترتبط بهم، لكي يصيبك مما يجلبونه لأنفسهم من ازدهار ورخاء.
تعرف على المحظوظين لتصاحبهم وعلى البائسين لتبتعد عنهم. البؤس غالبًا ما يكون جزاء الحماقة، وليس هناك ما تكسبه من البائسين سوى العدوى من بؤسهم. لا تفتح بابك للبؤس مهما كان صغيرًا، لأنك إن فعلت فلن يظل وحده، بل سيجر معه مزيدًا من الكوارث. فلا تدع شقاء الآخرين يقتلك. ـ بالتسار جراتسيان.
اتقن فن الغياب لتزيد تقديرك ومكانتك؛ الحكمة:
السلعة التي تروج بين الناس يقل سعرها، وكلما زاد حضورك وكلامك تبتذل مكانتك وهيبتك. بمجرد أن يتكون لدى جماعة من الناس رأي حسن عنك يكون عليك الانسحاب حتى يزيد حديثهم عنك واعجابهم بك. عليك أن تتعلم متى تغيب حتي ترتفع قيمتك بندرة حضورك.
كل شيء في العالم يعتمد على الحضور والغياب، فالحضور القوي يجلب إليك الانتباه والسطوة ـ فتبرز أكثر من المحيطين بك، لكن تأتي حتمًا لحظة يؤدي فيها حضورك إلى أثر عكسي، ويؤدي المزيد من ظهورك وكلامك إلى تقليل مكانتك، وتصبح شيئًا معتادًا، ومهما بذلت من جهد للتميز والبروز ستجد احترام الناس لك يخف بالتدريج. عليك أن تتعلم أن تنسحب في اللحظة المناسبة قبل أن يرفضك الناس في دخيلة أنفسهم، وتلك اللعبة أشبه بلعبة الظهور والاختفاء.
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