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256 pages, Hardcover
First published July 12, 2018
I haven’t (yet) read The Cresswell Plot, but I remember when it came out and I first heard the name Eliza Wass. I didn’t know the work of her late husband, the musician Alan Wass, but I knew that he had passed because she made reference to it in her author biography. So when I saw the concept of this book, The Life and Death Parade, I was eager to read it and find out how she described the loss of a loved one and the grieving process. What I didn’t realize, however, until I just looked it up, is that her husband only passed away 3 years ago. I can only imagine the strength it took to, first of all, even finish The Cresswell Plot in the midst of his death and, second, write such an intimate look at grief as she has done in this book. I’ve said this before: it seems to me that many authors have “the book of their heart,” the one that is for whatever reason more special than all the others. It feels to me like this is that book for Ms. Wass.
Although this is a short novel - certainly the shortest I’ve read in a while - it’s incredible to me how Ms. Wass is able to pack so much emotion in here. I used the same amount of page flags for this 246-page book as I normally use for books with 400 pages! As someone who has...let’s say, “issues”...with economy of words, I greatly admire someone who can so beautifully tell a whole, satisfying story with such spare prose. It’s not like, oh, Ernest Hemingway and his ridiculously short sentences; rather, Ms. Wass has an ability to make darn near *every single word* count. Long story short, I have a tendency to ramble, especially in writing (if you’ve read my reviews, you know this, ha!), so I admire packing the same intensity of a 400-page book in a mere 246 pages.
The reason I wanted to read this book is that I often seek out books that explore loss and grief, because I lost my sister to domestic violence ten and a half years ago and I still struggle with it, every single day. I tend to gravitate toward novels that explore the variety of ways we humans grieve, how we each handle devastating loss in our own way. I will admit - and this is not something I’ve said “out loud” before - that I often feel I must be doing the grieving process incorrectly, because I remain so affected by my sister’s loss more than ten years later. Maybe I am searching for the “right” way to do it, which is why I seek out books like this one? For whatever reason, I’m glad I did read this one, because it really is a beautiful examination of loss, grief, and faith. Kitty’s struggle with the death of her boyfriend, Nikki, at far too young an age is presented with respect. Her desire to find some way to reach Nikki, to talk to him, her intense need to just have him back -- these are all things I have felt in the past ten-plus years. If I heard of something like the Life and Death Parade? I would be all over it just as eagerly as was Kitty, you better believe that.
There were so many sentences, paragraphs, and sections of this book that I just felt so connected to. I teared up a fair amount, because I’d read something that sounded like it could have come from my own mouth, and because I really felt Kitty’s pain (not to mention that of his brother, Macklin, and his little sister, Holly). At one point, Nikki’s dad, Kitty’s guardian, tells her she seems to be “drifting.” She tells the reader:
I didn’t say anything--what could I say? Of course I was drifting. What else could I do? Only a cold person could say, The boy I loved is dead, so let’s make lemonade out of corpses! To do anything else but drift would be to corroborate with the world, to agree to all this madness. To say it was okay that people died. To say something good could come out of it. (p. 135-136)
And, when he tells her she needs to decide “what it is that you want,” she tells us:
I thought my answer so intensely I almost believed he would read my mind: But what if I can’t have what I want? Because what I wanted was impossible. What I wanted was the world to right itself and start over. I could be generous; I could give the world another chance, if it would just give me Nikki back. (p. 136)
I include those two passages as just two examples of many that, as I said, could have come straight from my own mouth, head, heart. I truly hope that writing this book helped Ms. Wass to work through the fact that, I’m sure, she continues to struggle with the loss of her husband. Also, the inclusion of Alan Wass’ lyrics before each of the four parts of the book made it feel even more special for the reader, like Ms. Wass was sharing a piece of him with each of us. They are beautiful lyrics in their own right, honestly, but knowing that they are the words of the man she loved most in the world and lost too soon, well ... I want to thank her for sharing that with us.
Thanks so much to Rockstar for letting me take part in this tour, and to Disney-Hyperion for the beautiful copy of the book. Thanks especially to Ms. Wass for such a heartfelt story that connected, and resonated, with me deeply. If you are drawn to books that explore the human condition, the loss and grief we all must go through at some point in our lives, I encourage you to pick up The Life and Death Parade. These are words that will stay with me for a long time.
Rating: 5 bright, beautiful stars
**Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher for purposes of this blog tour. This review is voluntary on my part, and reflects my honest rating of and thoughts on the book.