Around the time the Alabama Anti-Abortion bill passed, there was a conversation on twitter about romances that dealt with abortion in a positive/normalizing manner. You can find many of the tweets with #RomanceforRoe. It’s most often been treated as a moral issue instead of a healthcare issue, and that should go out the door with slut shaming. A few readers and authors chimed in with books that addressed abortion as a healthcare choice that didn’t ruin the main character’s life. Canadian author Jackie Lau pointed to two of her books which dealt with abortion, and luckily I was planning to read both next anyway.
This review is a little unfair to the books, because I’m really only focusing on one aspect, which could give the impression that they are Very Special Episodes. They are not. Each book has it’s own rich tapestry of issues and moments. Most importantly, though one character in each book deals with an abortion in their past, those abortions are not a hindrance to the Happily Ever After. I enjoy Lau’s writing very much. She brings depth and complexity to characters.
Josh Yu’s father hasn’t talked to him in 17 years. It makes Josh feel badly because his father is generally considered a good person and is a beloved teacher. When he was in high school, Josh and his girlfriend had sex without having been given the basics of sex ed. His girlfriend got pregnant and had an abortion. Josh’s ex-girlfriend has gone on to become an advocate for sex ed and is soon to marry someone else. Nothing Josh has achieved as an adult has pleased his father. It’s clear that the trauma wasn’t the abortion, but the ignorance that led to the unplanned pregnancy and the moral judgement of Josh’s father. His judgement traumatizes Josh and effectively separates him from his family.
Sarah has recently opened a sweet and savory pie shop. She’s wanted to open her own place for years, and has worked hard to gain experience and save money to the exclusion of all else in her life. After discovering her restaurant, Josh hits on the idea of having Sarah cater a Pi Day party, which is a math joke his father would appreciate. As they spend time together, they fall in love. While the teen pregnancy and abortion don’t come between Josh and Sarah, his father’s inability to let go of his disapproval does come between them.
Jackie Lau consistently does fantastic work with the complexity of family. She illustrates with compassion the way familial expectations and disappointments can be stumbling blocks as we try to go out in the world and be our own adults. Even loving families have the power to hurt with thoughtless words.
In both books, characters make the reproductive health choices that make the most sense for them. It in not the medical procedures they have that impact them negatively, but the stigma and judgement around those procedures. I believe very strongly in the power of pop culture to be a positive force in the world. We do need #RomanceforRoe. We do need to normalize making appropriate healthcare choices for ourselves. There is no point in my life that it would have been appropriate for me to be pregnant. I have never had to address a pregnancy, but I have sat with friends who have made the choice to terminate pregnancies for a number of reasons, I have talked with friends as they celebrated births, mourned lost pregnancies, and struggled with infertility. Every person I know who has contemplated abortion made the right choice for them at that moment in their life. No laws should strip a person of their right to appropriate healthcare, or hinder their access.