Practicing failure is a common place for pilots.
In 1932, at the dawn of the aviation age, Amelia Earhart described the value for all pilots of learning through deliberate mistakes.
"The fundamental stunts taught to students are slips, stalls, & spins.
An understanding & knowledge of some stunts is judged necessary to good flying. Unless a pilot has actually recovered from a stall, has actually put his plane into a spin & brought it out, he cannot know accurately what those acts entail. He should be familiar enough with abnormal positions of his craft to recover fast without having to think how."
For a pilot, stunting is a skill attained through practice. You go up in a plane &, for example, you change the angle of the wings to deliberately stall the craft. You prepare beforehand by learning what a stall is, what the critical variables you have to pay attention to are, & how other pilots address stalls. You learn the optimal response. But then you go up in the air and actually apply your knowledge. What's easy and obvious on the ground, when you're under little pressure, isn't guaranteed to come to you when your plane loses lift & function at 10,000 feet. Deliberately stalling your plane, making a conscientious mistake when you have prepared to deal with it, give you the experience to react when a stall happens in a less controlled situation.
The first time your plane unexpectedly stops working in mid-flight is scary for any pilot. But those who have practiced in similar stations are far more likely to react appropriately. "An individual's life on the ground or in the air may depend on a split second, the slow response which results from seldom, if ever, having accomplished the combination of acts required in a given circumstances may be the deciding factor." You don't want first stall to come at night in poor weather when you have your family in the cabin. Much better to practice stalling in a variety of situations ahead of time the way, when one happens unexpectedly, your reactions can be guided by successful experience & not panic.
Earhart advises that in advance, the solution to many problems can be worked out on paper, "but only experience counts when there is not time to think a process through. The pilot who hasn't stalled a plane is less likely to be able to judge correctly the time & space necessary for recovery than one who has."
If you practice failing every so often, you increase your flexibility & adaptability when life throws obstacles in your way. Of course no amount of preparation will get you through all possible challenges, Earhart's own story is the best example of that. But making deliberate mistakes in order to learn from them is one way to give ourselves optionality when our metaphorical engine stops in midair.
If we don't practice failing, we can only safely fly on sunny days.
How do you deal with difficult moments in life?
- At the moment sometimes/often not so well or as I'd like to!
- From current perspective, I always seem to find myself in one in the near future & it always partly takes me off guard & it feels like I found myself in a new pool of issues & don't often seem to handle it as ideally as I would like.
- A good way to think is once I am encountering failure...in reality & I am on the verge of experiencing one or in the middle of experiencing one, think of things like I am practicing a stunt as a pilot.
- I am therefore training myself how to perfect my stunt given the circumstances, conditions, biases, emotions, variables & more that exist during the experience of a slip up or failure...
- Well I think when my sister is learning how to do a backflip. The more stunts she trains herself that comes close to the reality of how backflip is done, the more stunts she can do without lots of grind (stunts closely related to the skill needed to do a backflip) the more easily & faster she will learn how to & do a backflip. & then she will of coarse have to continue training herself & doing backflips once in a while to not forget the fundamentals needed to keep up with such a skill.
- Similarly, if the goal is to be able to stay temperamentally & emotionally intact specially in times of turbulent times. The more stunts I can do without lots of grind (stunts closely related to the skills needed to stay temperamentally & emotionally intact during such times) the more easily & faster I will learn to stay temperamentally & emotionally stable.
- What does the reality of such turbulent times often look in my reality? Because I've got to replicate & learn to handle failure instead of waiting for one to happen in which case I will probably caught off guard...
- I am less likely to enthusiastically pay attention & learn (have open minded attitude & curiosity) if I get caught off guard & specially if the reality is quite painful to take in at the same time.
- I should therefore practice failure once in a while replicating the dynamics or patterns of failures I've experience in the past & continue to experience to date once in while to help me better navigate one when it comes once again!
- Instead of waiting until I make mistakes that adds up to failure...seeking them out. Deliberately making mistakes that will give me the knowledge & understanding I need to more easily overcome obstacles during future failures.
- Over the last 3 years. Each time I screwed up & failed, I learnt how not to handle things, what not to do.
- If failing is a byproduct of trying to succeed, I need to learn & master how to fail well & deliberately fail without dying, causing too much pain to myself that I break & die or get disabled just the same way my sister needed to intelligently fail & fall to accelerate the rate at which she will learn how to do a backflip.
- Long before failure comes, I do my research, make my plans, get my head straight & try to put all what I know together to prepare for what is ahead. Often, things at some point will diverge & slowly but surely, things don't go as I wish.
- Now I am smart, once the failure is said & done, I reflect on what happened & make note of where or how I could do things better next time. What to improve on...that is.
- The point here is I planned for success... no where from the start did I deliberately work failure into my equation while failure at each & every turn showed up at some point.
- Did I ever deliberately make mistake or failed → To encourage learning? (as a way to learn?) No or at least not as often as needed/desired
- How often have I tried fail in order to learn? (Note, I advised my little sister that she should plan to intelligently feel a little bit of pain as she learns the stunts needed to learn a backflip). In the same way...I've got to intelligently feel pain on my way to mastering my emotions & so on.
- If I want to avoid costly mistakes in the future when the stakes are high, then making some now might be excellent preparation.
- While remaining as close to the territory (the reality of things) as possible...