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160 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2009
However, by the late Sixties, although we may not have done recreational drugs, we did do casual sex. We tried hard to make sex as casual as sleeping. ... People had sex because they and it were there, like climbing mountains but with less effort and preparation required, and, as we thought then, danger-free. It was late, someone would stay over or not go back to their own room. You might even really fancy someone, suddenly, or you'd think: why not? There never seemed to be a legitimate answer to that. It was on the one hand part of the vital and present task of experiencing experience, and on the other a contemporary version of good manners. Sex was a way of being polite to those who suggested it or who got into your bed. It was very difficult not to fuck someone who wanted to fuck you without feeling you were being very rude. My guess, no, my certainty, is that large numbers of people slept with friends, acquaintances and strangers that they had no desire for. I also guess that this was more desultory for women, few of whom, I regret to say, seemed as jaunty the following day as the men who waved them a cheery farewell.
But there was a large principle at state. If sex was no longer going to be a taboo then it was hard to think of a good reason not to have it with anyone who came along. It was uncool to say no. It was easier to say yes than to explain. It was difficult to come up with a justification for refusing to have sex with someone that didn’t seem selfish. The idea that rape was having sex with someone who didn't want to do it didn’t apply very much in the late Sixties. On the basis that no means no, I was raped several times by men who arrived in my bed and wouldn't take no for an answer. But not wanting wasn't the main thing. It doesn’t sound so exciting, this sexual revolution, does it? Mostly it wasn't.
The idea of voluntary learning grew into the thought that curricula should be as much the responsibility of the student as the teacher.
Our logic was as compelling as that which had made us already believe we would change everything just by our novel presence in the reactionary world. It was a takeover, but an inevitable one. A generational takeover, by the generation that thought differently. The kids would recognise our benevolent and socially radical intentions and join us in the endeavour. Institutions couldn't resist our will if we participated in them. Now we got the idea of ‘boring from within. They would become our institutions, new, compassionate, world-changing, and above all equitable.
It got to the point where in some sense we punished the brighter kids for not being underprivileged. When Allie had been at the free school for a while, she became very taken with looking at buildings in a new way that had been pointed out to her on school visits round London with the local architect. She began to think she might want to be an architect. She told this to one of the play-leaders at the adventure playground whom she had known and been friends with in the days when she bunked off school all the time. “You're getting a bit above yourself, aren't you?’ he said. The radicals couldn't always cope with education actually having an effect. If the oppressed stopped behaving like the oppressed, we didn't really like it.