Another 5 star winner from the girl who generally doesn't care for non-fiction! I was completely riveted and engaged in this. Getting acquainted with the power and widespread nature of this insidious movement was naturally scary and disturbing. And by the end of the book, where it is clear how our past administration's political structure was embedded with these ideas - and gave clear green light to hate, and to the widespread dangerous growth of these ideas, well that is downright frightening, and the political climate we are standing in. I had never even heard of Stormfront. How naive indeed I was about the power and impact of White Supremacy. Deeper than I even understood and that my rose colored glasses could take in. Basically they put up Trump as the figurehead for how their ideas would help America and themselves. It became the underlying politic, and their hate and their power flourished to levels that are so frightening. We have deeply understood what is at stake. And yet their movement is flourishing, enjoying a revival of heights never imagined.
But the real grab of the story - is my obsession with resiliency and transformation. That has always been the thing that has kept me going. Growth mindset. My dissertation was even on resiliency from traumatic experience. I wouldn't have even picked up this book, if not for the knowledge, that a person was going to make a radical transformation, have a complete awakening, and naturally, I want to know how he did it. What are the circumstances that would make a person completely change every belief system they had ever held dear, and leave their family, community, religion, even when they were the 'heir apparent.' I had never even heard the name Derek Black before. I do not run in those circles. It takes a lot of courage to renounce all the beliefs and acts you have had a role in instigating, and believe me, we need that courage now more than ever, for folks to be able to stand up for humanity and each other. To be able to apologize and be accountable, and to be a part of the change and the healing. Throughout the book, I was asking myself a lot of the questions his liberal college community was asking themselves and each other. Does ostracizing him perpetuate the hate and divide? What do I make of the fact that at least five people thought otherwise, and that the college eventually also stood for that same principle, maybe he will learn and experience something if we befriend him. So numerous people, most of minority status, decided otherwise. They wanted to befriend him, get to know him, and more importantly, have him get to know them, and their stories. That is indeed what changed Derek's mind. His respect and love for the people he met and who had the courage to openly debate with him. Perhaps there is something in there we can learn from in our current situation. Perhaps there is a way where hate can be transformed with intimacy and relationship that cannot exist up against the irrational hateful arguments. And of course, in order to awaken, Derek had to lose not just the adoration and his role as the heir apparent, he had to lose his entire family and community and mentors. His parents, grandparents, sisters, and his beloved niece. You can't help wondering what will happen to the niece as she grows and remembers her extremely fond memories of Derek. Maybe she even reads the book. And lastly, would it have ever been possible for Derek to have separated, if he hadn't fallen in love. If he hadn't had someone to support him through it. If he hadn't had the community that was 'holding' him through this. What incredible courage of these five individuals to believe in their ability to change his mind, simply by love and friendship, humanity, rigorous debate, logic, and patience. What incredible courage that was, for folks to invest in his personhood, and take the chance they would invest in his. And to let yourself fall in love? The biggest risk of all. That was fascinating, and one can't help really being astounded by the power of one young girl who can change the world. Isn't that what we tell our kids and tell ourselves? That one person can change the world? That one person standing up for what's right against a mountain of hate, can make the entire tide turn? That is the story of Purim, the holiday during which I read the bulk of this riveting book.
Another question I have had, is where do we go from here with the deep divides? How is healing possible? We do not listen to former QAnon folks and former white supremacists to just be shocked and horrified. We want to know how to do it. How to connect with loved ones, with under-educated and under exposed people. We want to know how to stop the hate. Books like this, and the courageous people who undertook the journey, as well as the project to publish it, well add Eli Saslow to the list of people who are changing the world with Derek's Story and Life.
I wanted to mention something about Eli Saslow, and the access he was given, not just by Derek and his close current allies. But how Grand KKK wizard Don Black, and I think even David Duke sat for interviews with him as well. The author was permitted to come along on these vulnerable family visits, and listen in. He spent countless hours interviewing Don Black, Derek's father and scion of the White Nationalist/Supremacist world. And Don answered honestly and vulnerably. The let Eli in. I can only wonder now, what do they make of the book? If they couldn't understand what had happened to their beloved son and heir apparent, does any of this narrative shed some light for them? Is there a chance that like what happens in the Mormon community, where ex-Mormons have a hell of a lot of community support for the questioning and the exiled, could such a community exist for former white supremacists? For former QAnon, where the questioning go? Again, this takes me back to the neice. I want to know if there is a sequel.... How the family puts it together now.
But the access, I had the association to Michael Wolff's Fire and Fury. (Am I getting the name of that author right? That was like 15-20 exposes ago, I have read at least ten, and that was my first.) One of the astonishing things about Fire and Fury, especially to Michael himself, is how deeply they let him in. How open they were, how much access to the crazy he was actually given. You'd think they would hide it better, but they did not. He was invited in to see everything. That's how deeply the Trump administration believed they were doing right and were for the good of America. They were shocked when Fire and Fury did not give them the adolation they expected. They believed they were selling their ideology, when the world was getting to see first hand and inner look. Every subsequent book had backed that vision up, and Trump began and continued an outward distrust of the press or anyone who dared to criticize, judge, expose, and dim his light. But they let him in fully and completely. The way the book reads, Steve Bannon was his major source, and Steve himself pretty much co-wrote or ghost wrote the thing. This felt similar. One is deeply in the mind of Don Black, and whether or not you can sense any possible room for conflictual feeling, one thing is true. As much as he is deeply embedded in white power as the bulwark and stalwart of his identity and foundation of his relationships, he also loves and respects his son, and doesn't want to lose him entirely. And theirin, is the first crack of conflict. When your son and heir apparent leaves you, loves you and leaves you, and says We Were Wrong, there is no way that that doesn't bring in some room, however slight for reflection. Letting Eli Saslow in on your process, is yet another sliver of window, that allow one to see, like those brave five at New College, maybe the crack is indeed how the light gets in.