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Someone Has Led This Child to Believe: A Memoir

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This is the beautiful follow-up to Somebody’s Someone, Regina Louise’s harsh, often brutal, but always compelling” (Booklist) debut memoir about growing up in the US foster-care system. In this book, Louise once again draws on her experience as one of society’s abandoned children to tell how she emerged from the cruel, unjust system, not only to survive, but to flourish.



After years of jumping from one fleeting, often abusive home to the next, Louise meets a counselor named Jeanne Kerr. For the first time in her young life, Louise knows what it means to be seen, wanted, understood, and loved. After Kerr tries unsuccessfully to adopt Louise, the two are ripped apart—seemingly forever—and Louise continues her passage through the cold cinder-block landscape of a broken system, enduring solitary confinement, overmedication, and the actions of adults who seem hell-bent on convincing her that she deserves nothing, that she is nothing. But instead of losing her will to thrive, Louise remains determined to achieve her dream of a higher education. After she ages out of the system, Louise is thrown into adulthood and, haunted by her trauma, struggles to finish school, build a career, and develop relationships. As she puts it, it felt impossible “to understand how to be in the world.”



Eventually, Louise learns how to confront her past and reflect on her traumas. She starts writing, quite literally, a new future for herself, a new way to be. Louise weaves together raw, sometimes fragmented memories, excerpts from real documents from her case file, and elegant reflections to tell the story of her painful upbringing and what came after. The result is a rich, engrossing account of one abandoned girl’s efforts to find her place in the world, people to love, and people to love her back.

248 pages, Paperback

Published July 10, 2018

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590 reviews39 followers
March 13, 2019
A while back I was lucky enough to win a tour giveaway for this amazing book by Regina Louise. I had been looking forward to reading this book and was so excited when it arrived. If you're not aware of this book, it's the memoir of her life being abandoned by her parents and struggling through the foster care system where no one seems to pay her any mind or give her the opportunity to find love among those around her.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I was deeply moved by Regina's story and found her writing to be unique in the way that it reflects her age and experience through the different stages of her childhood. She does a wonderful job telling her story, even the parts that must be some of the hardest no only to think about, but to openly share with the world. As you read through this book you will experience her own sense of self therapy through sharing her experiences with you, the reader. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you have the chance to read this book, I highly recommend it.
815 reviews89 followers
July 4, 2019
this book rarely left my hands and since the movie "i am somebody's child" premiered on lifetime in april, regina louise's story hasn't left my mind either.

within every scene of that film and within the pages of this book i see myself. i see my inner child longing to be somebody's someone. i see my adult self trying her hardest to become a person in the world. through her honesty and vulnerabilty, i have seen a part of me i was scared to admit still existed.

this book is haunting because it's real. this, this right here is her story. a heartbreaking beginning that slowly transforms into a triumphant and hopeful ending. this is her story. her truth. and i am so happy to have been given the chance to read it.
7 reviews
May 17, 2019
Yes!!!

I absolutely loved this book!! It was the true version of Regina ' s life. The book provided true insight and facts about Regina. I feel like I know her personally. I also can relate to some of her described feelings and emotions from the book because of being born to a teenage mother, and an absent father. Being one to overcome the obstacles, and achieve greatness despite all obstacles. Being one who is currently on the path to earning her PhD, and being one who has adopted a daughter to complete my family. I can relate, in not all, but some ways. Thank you for sharing your story, Regina. You are an inspiration!
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219 reviews
October 7, 2018
An amazing person. I'm honored to have met (and gotten a hug from)her. Read in 2 days. I would have finished it earlier but I ran out of time! A compelling story.
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231 reviews3 followers
April 22, 2019
Breathtaking ❤️
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57 reviews1 follower
January 22, 2022
Sheds light on the torment of the foster care system which continues to be a disservice to children most in need of love and stability. Louise's story acts as an inspirational guide for those who raised themselves up from destitution into self-actualized dreams. As a social work student, I am grateful to have gained insight into what children in the foster care system must endure as well as how social workers can impede their healing and growth.
10.8k reviews35 followers
June 6, 2024
THE HEARTBREAKING, YET MOVING AND INSPIRATIONAL MEMOIR

If you’ve read Regina Louise’s first book, ‘Somebody’s Someone,’ seen the Lifetime movie, ‘I Am Somebody's Child: The Regina Louise Story,’ seen her interviewed on TV, etc., then you know about her infuriating (not at her, but at the “system” which victimized her for so long), heartbreaking, yet ultimately INSPIRATIONAL story.

She recalls in this 2018 book how in her therapist’s office in 1998, “Nearly two decades past emancipation from foster care, I was STILL confounded by the weight I carried, the baggage of feeling unwanted, unavailable---to myself… My life had reached a junction. Sure, I was a successful hairstylist by then, and loved the time I had with my clients… but even so, in my personal life I walked around in circles as though I’d witnessed too many wars… I sometimes couldn’t sleep, eat, or find meaning in the everydayness of every day. Grief and loss held me hostage…” (Pg. 5-6)

She notes, “To this day, I’m not sure I’d recognize my mother if she were to pass me in the street… I’ve never known the exact date, or the conditions, under which my mother determined it was a good idea to leave me and my sister with people who let a grown man---Uncle Alphonse---indulge himself on the innocence of her adolescent childhood, only to then sneak away in the night. Now I tell myself that my young mother [her mother gave birth to Regina’s older sister at age 13] did the best she could with what she had, and at the time her best probably dictated that we would be better off… with the devils she knew as opposed to the ones she didn’t.” (Pg. 17)

Her father was the singer Tom Brock, who released one album: “His lead song… debuted on the pop charts at number ninety. Yet his album was a dud.” (Pg. 21) He abandoned her to the child care system when she was 12. She recalls, “This was an incredibly impressionable time for me. And without knowing the socio-racial implications of what it meant to be displaced, black, and female, all I wanted was to be NEEDED, to be celebrated, and to be accepted for the gutsy girl I saw myself as.” (Pg. 42)

During a trip to the ice cream parlor to celebrate her birthday, “I’d moved closer to Miss Kerr… Miss Kerr placed her arm around me and scooched me even closer. I don’t ever remember feeling so safe, so okay with being touched before that moment. I was amplifying, her kind of joy… And in those moments, it wasn’t about my being black or Miss Kerr being white. In those moments, it was more about the freedom from the oppressive weight of failed dreams. I sank into her embrace, and somewhere in the holding on, I made a wish to never have to let her go… I fell in love with Miss Kerr shortly after that trip to the ice cream parlor… No one from my bloodline or otherwise came to visit, called, or wrote me love letters about how they missed me…” (Pg. 43)

She recalls, “Instead of pining over my parents’ rejection of me, I fell deeper in love with the way Miss Kerr called me ‘sweetheart’ when we weren’t at the shelter… The way she said it… made my heart feel … like anything I thought to do was possible simply because I’d been called a sweetheart… I was head over heels when---because of my running away one day to get to her house… I was allowed to sleep over at Miss Kerr’s… Miss Kerr invited me in AND called the overnight staff at [the home] to explain the situation, and that she’d bring me back the next day. She presented me with my very own toothbrush… I took my time to brush: I wanted that moment to last… the girls from ‘The Waltons,’ had nothing on me… ‘You can be anything you want, sweetheart,’ Miss Kerr told me one day… Her words baptized me into the river of believing. I COULD be whatever I wanted to.” (Pg. 46-48)

Gwen Forde, “was to become my social worker/nemesis for the duration of my status as a ward of the court… Gwen Forde’s job was to make sure that I got … somewhere to live; a decent family that would take me in as one of their own; and, to Gwen’s preference, a family that was black… ‘You do know, Regina, that you ARE black?’ was both the systematic indictment, and accusation disguised as a question that lay beyond my childish abilities to understand… Was it not enough to be excommunicated from my family of origin, cast as an outsider?... Perhaps it was just one more reminder for her not to feel her own shame of what it meant to be rooted in an identity that was both invisible and startlingly inescapable.” (Pg. 56-57)

She states, “Kids like me didn’t have time to pay attention to adults’ crazy ways of saying things. We were asked questions about our parents we had no answers for. The worst being: What on earth did you do to make your family not want you?... I fought for what I could: my right to be loved. And as far as I understood it, love was the color of whoever was willing to love me back.” (Pg. 58-59)

She recalls, “When those twenty-seven placements ‘failed to take,’ sometimes it was because the men in those homes wanted to have their way with me---especially the home where the Preacher lived with his wife, son, and three daughters… Years later… I learned that allegations of neglect and abuse were filed against this same family. Gwen Forde was made aware of what was going on … because I attempted, on every occasion I had, to tell her.” (Pg. 61) She adds, “I asked Gwen if it would be okay if I lived with Miss Kerr because she didn’t seem to mind the way I was… Gwen threatened to place me in … the children’s psych ward, again. Mostly; I ran from all those homes to be with Miss Kerr.” (Pg. 63) Miss Kerr’s petition to adopt Regina was, sadly, rejected by the court.

She says passionately, “All anybody had to do, really, was search into their own hearts, their own experiences with family, acceptance, belonging and togetherness, failure and loss. And imagine for us girls something more dignified, more humane… All anybody had to do was approach us from a place of worthiness, accept us in all our flawed humanity because all I---we---wanted was to know what it felt like to give and receive love.” (Pg. 104)

She suggests, “If anything, I would consider my ‘condition’ this: I had an adverse reaction to my childhood, to being unwanted, rejected, and pathologized for it. There was nothing for me to be loyal to other than my own recklessness, truancy, and the fact that no matter how hard I wanted to belong to something, TO SOMEONE, I was stuck in a system hell-bent on marginalizing my potential to want more and do more.” (Pg. 143)

She recounts, “I swore to God that one day I’d write the book … that would be there for the young girl or boy who wanted to know how to make sense of the great big world they’d been literally dropped into… I’d learned in my black studies class that this was what we black people always did. We were known for always coming back for our own: this one cared for that one… I wanted other black children lost in foster care to be more than just ordinary; I wanted every one of us to know what it felt like, sounded like, looked like to be extraordinary.” (Pg. 156)

Ultimately, Regina started her own successful hair-styling business, confronted her father [“There’d be no more secret hoping, dreaming, or rationalizing that one day my father might suddenly change, and want me”; pg. 183], and wrote her first book [“It helped me feel as though I wasn’t a freak, and although I may not have had the nuclear family model growing up, I had a story worth telling”; pg. 207]. She did rounds of TV interviews, etc., but always had to acknowledge that she did not know “Miss [Jeanne] Kerr’s whereabouts.”

Until one day she received an E-mail with the subject line, “I am so proud of you, sweetheart!” “It was from Jeanne… an old coworker… at the shelter, had read a newspaper article about me and reached out to her... She had a son… He was twenty-six years old. She was on her way to bring him back to Alabama, where she and his father, her husband, were living.” (Pg. 218) She calls Jeanne, who tells her, “You were my first child… I have something I want to give you… It is your birthright… I want to make you my daughter.” (Pg. 219-220) Ultimately, the adoption was approved, this time.

This is a truly wonderful book, and ultimately a moving and inspiring “love story,” and a beacon of hope for all who have ever felt forgotten, and unloved.

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317 reviews34 followers
August 12, 2018
Regina Louise has written a powerful picture of how a child can be lost and mistreated, yet flow through the system without a net. In Someone Has Led This Child to Me, the harrowing account unfolds and is hard to fathom, to grasp to read. This is not a light, fluffy book. Though I am glad I read it, I cannot say I enjoyed it due to the atrocities described. Louise has a way of painting a vivid picture. A solid 3.7.
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187 reviews1 follower
August 2, 2018
I won this book on a goodreads giveaway. This is a raw sometimes difficult read about a terribly treated child in the system and how she overcame her neglect. It sometimes makes you angry, sometimes very sad, sometimes depressed, and sometimes triumphant!
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272 reviews19 followers
May 3, 2019
Such an amazing book on resilience and our failed foster care system.
8 reviews
March 31, 2025
I see the movie on Lifetime!

I had been meaning to get around to reading this book. I really connect to this book because I myself am a product of the Foster Care system and even though I didn’t stay long, I was adopted by my aunt and uncle. I struggle as a child and dealt with abandonment issues from my mother and I couldn’t concentrate in school and I felt very dumb. Now looking back I was very depressed and being taking from my mother was very traumatic for me. Now as an adult I have gone through therapy and I’m still working on my confidence, not being insecure and not doubt myself.
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117 reviews9 followers
April 5, 2025
4.5
An incredibly heartbreaking and poignant narrative of a child who was failed miserably by the foster care system and her lifelong search for belonging and healing. The ending had me in tears because I was so so happy that Regina found redemption and a place to belong. But at the same time, I couldn't help but weep over the countless innocent children traumatized by the foster care system, some still young, some now grown up who are still desperately searching for the acceptance and worthiness that was stripped from them.

This memoir is not a light read and there is some mild language and sexual content but still I recommend reading it. It brings perspective to some very difficult subjects of the foster care system, poverty, race, class, and trauma. Powerful and thought provoking.
868 reviews7 followers
January 5, 2022
A continuation of Regina's life and how she was bounced around to over 30 homes(she doesn't get into all) including group homes and private foster homes. How all but one person failed her. Unfortunately the foster worker who tried to adopt her wasn't allowed. Though they were separated for decades, this person, the only person she felt wanted her made enough of an impression on Regina to help give her the strength she needed to rise above. She is amazing but sadly I am sure the exception in that world
261 reviews1 follower
December 2, 2023
Regina Louise was abandoned by her parents and spent her formative years in this country's twisted and ineffective foster care system. Even though she had a person who loved her and wanted to adopt her, that wasn't possible because of the various and sundry policies and regulations that often make it impossible to provide for children's needs. When will people realize that this system doesn't work for kids and take steps to make changes? (Oh, yeah, I forgot. First, U.S. society has to give a flip about children. My bad.)
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4 reviews
August 12, 2023
reading this book hits different the second time around. something about it speaks to me more, makes me feel seen. i've watched regina louise's film so many times and she actually got adopted on my birthday (11/20). i'm going to read somebody's someone.
7 reviews
March 1, 2025
Everyone needs to read this book.

I read the book in one sitting, cried and felt unexplainable hope. This book captures the beauty of the overwhelming power of unconditional love. There is a God, and he works through us.
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7 reviews1 follower
October 22, 2019
Wow!!!

I thoroughly enjoyed reading this and felt her pain and detachment from society. Horrible that anyone black or white would be treated with such disregard.
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Author 14 books11 followers
March 17, 2020
I really enjoyed reading this story of resilience. My eyes were opened to areas I never could have imagined a child might endure. This story was gripping as well as inspiring.
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223 reviews1 follower
March 28, 2020
I so enjoyed this true story of a girl who struggles, push through and then wins! Inspiring. I can’t decide who to share with first!
23 reviews
June 28, 2020
I missed that there was a 1st book, Somebody's Someone, but don't think it mattered.
Was a touching story of such a resilient young girl.
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2 reviews
July 12, 2020
This a really touching book I like how even though she was a black girl she believed that she can be with a white women because of love.
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9 reviews8 followers
July 23, 2020
The best book on childhood neglect to explain what it feels like to be neglected and pushed away as a child. This is a complicated task. She gives you a window on the complex PTSD
137 reviews23 followers
October 10, 2020
The author vowed herself to write the book she needed to read as a child growing up under the failed foster system, and it warms my heart to see how powerful her memoir turned out.
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11 reviews
February 2, 2021
Raw. Painful. Inner child yearning and healing...to a point.

Must read in book AND audiobook form.
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5 reviews
July 14, 2022
I felt every emotion while reading this book. Such a heartfelt story that truly makes you envision the life of Regina Louise. Great read!
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