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On Being an Introvert or Highly Sensitive Person: A guide to boundaries, joy, and meaning

3.42  ·  Rating details ·  128 ratings  ·  25 reviews
In a culture that ranks sociability and extroversion above the introverted traits of deep thinking and being alone, Ilse Sand shows how to find joy and meaning as an introvert or highly sensitive person. She debates whether these traits are caused by nature or nurture, and shows how someone like this can organise their life to keep them content. What she says is appropriat ...more
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Published February 21st 2018 by Jessica Kingsley Publishers (first published 2017)
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Dannii Elle
As an introvert myself, I thought a book dedicated the study of introversion would be both fascinating and helpful in life. And, initially, that is just what this was. This discoursed on the struggles introverts face, as well as society's bias towards extroverted activities and individuals. The scale of introversion was discussed and small quizzes helped the reader to find their place on this chart. This was also peppered with snippets from other self-proclaimed introverts lives, which made this ...more
Schizanthus Nerd
On Being an Introvert or Highly Sensitive Person should have had me saying, “Me, too!” on every page. I was really excited to learn some cool new things to celebrate about being an introvert. I haven’t read any books about sensitivity so was hoping for plenty of lightbulb moments. Unfortunately I was disappointed. I felt this book read more as an introduction to introversion and sensitivity rather than an in depth study on either topic.

I expect that if you haven’t read anything about being an in
Evelina | AvalinahsBooks
This is a great book for you to read if you haven't read anything about being introverted or extroverted before. In fact, that's a thing I've seen in many reviews - but this is precisely why I loved the book. In fact, I am a highly sensitive person, but happen to be somewhere right around the middle of introverted and extroverted, having reverted back and forth several times in my life! So because of that, it was an extremely interesting read, as I've never really seen that talked about, or the ...more
Feb 12, 2018 rated it liked it
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*Thank you to the author and NetGalley for giving me a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review*

3.5 stars

I accept myself as being both an introvert and a highly sensitive person. Thanks, anxiety! So, typically, I wanted to pick this up and see what kind of "guidance" was being given. It's a pretty quick read. It has comments from fellow introverts' throughout the differing chapter topics, and there are some interactive checklists/quizzes inside, which is always a nice addition.

With bei
Jul 13, 2019 rated it did not like it
As someone who is both I am always curious to read books about either introversion or being a HSP and I was excited to see this book cover both! I'm familiar with various books, websites, etc. and was interested to see what Sand had to say.

If you're not new to being either/both then there's not a lot that will be new. She talks about what they are, how to cope in certain situations, etc. I also didn't find the writing style particularly compelling, and it looks like part of the issue is that it'
Nov 03, 2017 rated it really liked it
I'll preface this by saying that I am not a self-help reader. Until coming across this book, I have never knowingly chosen to read any type of self-help guide. I'm completely unfamiliar with the genre and its conventions, so I can't comment on the ways in which this book fits into or deviates from the usual things readers of this genre might expect. This is a practical, advice-heavy volume, and as such it's definitely a bit dry. The author self-identifies as both an introvert and an HSP, and so ...more
Nov 16, 2017 rated it liked it
On Being an Introverted or a Highly Sensitive Person by Ilse Sand is a very interesting read, as I myself am both an Introvert and a Highly Sensitive Person I knew I just I had to pick this up and give it a read.

Up until till today I wasn't able distinguish what the differences where between both, but whilst reading this the lines have become clearer and I'm able to see what trait belongs to which title. Even though I found this helpful I just wish we were given a deeper understanding of Introve
Sep 01, 2020 rated it it was amazing
A short but wonderful book on introverts and highly sensitive people. In the book, it addresses many issues that introverts faced. Rather than issues, I would say values, behaviour and personality that introverts have. Ilse managed to touch on them very well and the solution that she has provided sounds workable. It is definitely something that I can take note of. The notes that I have taken can be found in my website as it is a little too long to post in here.

Overall, I feel that Ilse has touch
Jul 28, 2020 rated it liked it
I read her other book to do with highly sensitive people and I have to say I much preferred that one. This book just seems very repetitive of her other stuff and quite vague. So I struggle to understand why she wrote it. It just wasn't anything particularly interesting and there wasn't a great structure or writing style to it.

I finished it and liked it for the fact she expresses the experience of an introvert or highly sensitive person well but the advice and help is very vague and I won't be ta
Angela Gibson
I would recommend this book for anyone who is being introduced to personality typing. The author provides personal details, which help greatly in defining introvert behaviors and HSP behaviors. I enjoy reading self help books and applying methods to my own life; I found that this book was too basic for the research that I've already done. For anyone who is just beginning to explore self-help, this book is organized well, provides concrete and real life examples, and is helpful with self testing. ...more
Cece Lin
Jan 13, 2019 rated it really liked it
I’m a HSR, and it shows more when I’m in a relationship, it bothers me because when I’m alone I wouldn’t realize how much I’m bothered by those negative thoughts although I consider myself to be 70% positive, but when I’m in a relationship there’s always someone who can sense my mood and since I don’t want to lie to my bf I usually talk him about this and he usually needs to spend lots of time to talk me out of the mood and I’m so afraid he would get tired soon...
this books helps me a bit how t
Naomi Buchanan
Feb 18, 2018 rated it really liked it
An interesting look into what it is like to be an introvert and highly sensitive person. Ilse provides real-life examples throughout, adding even more of a personal touch to this literary work.

As an introvert myself, I found this book rather intriguing, and it describes the life and feelings of an introvert effectively.

I definitely recommend this for fans of Quiet by Susan Cain, and to those who want to delve into the minds of introverts (and to a certain extent extroverts), a little more.
Feb 15, 2020 rated it liked it
This book was pretty good, but not great. It was nice to hear from someone else who is also an introvert and sensitive, and have some of what I experience validated. Having said that, I pretty much already knew everything in this book since I have have made it a point to learn about this character type. As such, this book wasn't bad, but if you are already well versed on introverts, then you probably will not find this book enlightening. However, if you are new to this topic, it could be a good, ...more
Nov 09, 2019 rated it liked it
My therapist raised that she thought I was a highly sensitive person earlier this year (I’d also long suspected this) so I was interested to do some reading on the topic.

Honestly the book was kind of dry and I had difficulty paying attention to all of it but there were some really great insights that aligned with the ACT therapy I am currently doing. Informative but a little too introductory at times- I think if you’ve never done any sort of therapy at all the themes would be new and possibly mo
Sep 01, 2019 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is similar to others written by Isle Sand but I still foudn it helpful to read. I need to be reminded that it's OK to function slightly differently to others and that It's not weird to be so affected by smells or noise. I have foudn that I am now kinder to myself and allow myself more room in my schedule after becomign more aware of my need for it from reading this book and others like it. ...more
Diyar Harraz
The kind of book I've been waiting to come across for years! This book has absolutely nailed every bits and bobs about an introvert and as an Introvert myself, this is currently helping me to deal with what I'm going through. In this huge wide world where everyone tends to view an Introvert as something of a sore eye, this book is the best companion I could ever have had as it understands me better than anybody could have. Thank you for writing this! ...more
Richard Felix
Feb 06, 2020 rated it liked it
A quick easy to read BOOK, Bare bones basics to understanding introverted and highly sensitive person , gives clarity of understanding and agree from start to finish on day to day struggles of 2 personality traits,which is amazing this book exists and people out there , has tools to implement really useful.
A useful little manual for introverts/HSP living in an increasingly loud, extroverted world. There are some good tips not only for how to take care of yourself, but also how to let others around you know what you need and how to communicate better with other personality types.

*Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC, provided by the author and/or the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
Rico Sy
Jul 06, 2019 rated it really liked it
It’s a simple book to read about introversion and highly sensitive people.
It helps us understand ourselves and other people who have these personality traits.
It provides ways for introverts and highly sensitive people (and the people around them) how to deal with emotions and thoughts that they go through.
Aug 31, 2020 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Любить себя, быть собой, не стесняться быть интровертом - это не стыдно.

«Господи! Дай мне смирение
Принять то, что я не могу изменить,
Мужество — изменить то,
что я могу изменить;
И мудрость — отличить одно от другого».
Mar 15, 2019 rated it liked it
for me not much new information.
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For many years Ilse Sand has been engaged in counseling highly sensitive people both as a pastor and as a psychotherapist.

Before she became a psychotherapist, public speaker and author, Ilse worked as parish pastor under the Danish National Church for eleven years until 2006.

lIlse Sand has a Master’s Degree in Theology from Aarhus University, where her Master’s thesis was based on the works of Sw

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