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Depression Is a Liar: It Is Possible to Recover and Be Happy Again - Even If You Don't Believe It Right Now
Depression is living in a body that fights to survive . . . with a mind that tries to die.
Depression is fear, despair, emptiness, numbness, shame, embarrassment and the inability to recognise the fun, happy person you used to be.
Depression is the incapacity to construct or envision a future.
Depression is losing the desire to partake in life.
Depression can cause you to feel completely alone - even when you're surrounded by people.
Worst of all, depression can convince you that there's no way out. It can convince you that your pain is eternal, and destined to oppress you for the rest of your days. And it's when you're in that horrifically black place, staring down the barrel of what you truly believe can only be a lifetime of wretched agony, that your thoughts turn to suicide - because depression has convinced you that it's the only way out.
But depression is a liar.
Recovery IS possible - and I can prove it to you.
My name's Danny Baker, and for four years, I suffered from life-threatening bouts of depression that led to alcoholism, drug abuse, medicine-induced psychosis, near suicide attempts and multiple hospitalisations. But over time, I managed to recover, and these days, I'm happy, healthy, and absolutely love my life.
"Depression is a Liar" is a memoir that recounts my struggle and eventual triumph over depression. I wanted to tell my story to show people with depression that they're not alone. Of course, I also wanted to share the lessons I learned on the long, rocky, winding road that eventually led to recovery - particularly with regards to relationships; substance abuse; choosing a fulfilling career path; perfectionism; seeking professional help; and perhaps most importantly, having a positive, healthy attitude towards depression that enables recovery. Above all else, however, I wrote this memoir to give sufferers hope, and to show them that no matter how much they're struggling, that recovery is always, always possible.
Free Bonus Content
To further help people recover from depression and help their loved ones better understand the illness, all readers will also receive the following bonus content: Online Course 1: My Recovery Blueprint: How I overcame depression in three straightforward steps and how you can do the same. In this course, I'll detail the exact steps I took to overcome a debilitating, suicidal depression and transform myself into the extremely happy, healthy person that I am today. While doing so, I'll also cover how to deal with some very common causes of depression including spending too much time with toxic people, anger, being prisoners of what others think of us, perfectionism, negative thinking, worrying about things beyond our control, and many, many more. Online Course 2: How To Tell Someone That You Have Depression. In this course, we'll talk about how and when to tell those around you that you have depression. Bonus Videos: 15 Things I Wish People Knew About Depression; The 15 Best And Worst Things You Can Say To Someone With Depression; Why Your Teenager (In Particular) Needs To Learn About Depression - Before It's Too Late; and How To Support A Loved One Who Suffers From Depression. You'll be able to join over 4,000 people who receive a free supportive email from me each morning with an encouraging, uplifting quote to help them get through their day. You'll also be invited to join a private Facebook support group I founded where you can talk about your depression with other sufferers.
Depression is fear, despair, emptiness, numbness, shame, embarrassment and the inability to recognise the fun, happy person you used to be.
Depression is the incapacity to construct or envision a future.
Depression is losing the desire to partake in life.
Depression can cause you to feel completely alone - even when you're surrounded by people.
Worst of all, depression can convince you that there's no way out. It can convince you that your pain is eternal, and destined to oppress you for the rest of your days. And it's when you're in that horrifically black place, staring down the barrel of what you truly believe can only be a lifetime of wretched agony, that your thoughts turn to suicide - because depression has convinced you that it's the only way out.
But depression is a liar.
Recovery IS possible - and I can prove it to you.
My name's Danny Baker, and for four years, I suffered from life-threatening bouts of depression that led to alcoholism, drug abuse, medicine-induced psychosis, near suicide attempts and multiple hospitalisations. But over time, I managed to recover, and these days, I'm happy, healthy, and absolutely love my life.
"Depression is a Liar" is a memoir that recounts my struggle and eventual triumph over depression. I wanted to tell my story to show people with depression that they're not alone. Of course, I also wanted to share the lessons I learned on the long, rocky, winding road that eventually led to recovery - particularly with regards to relationships; substance abuse; choosing a fulfilling career path; perfectionism; seeking professional help; and perhaps most importantly, having a positive, healthy attitude towards depression that enables recovery. Above all else, however, I wrote this memoir to give sufferers hope, and to show them that no matter how much they're struggling, that recovery is always, always possible.
Free Bonus Content
To further help people recover from depression and help their loved ones better understand the illness, all readers will also receive the following bonus content: Online Course 1: My Recovery Blueprint: How I overcame depression in three straightforward steps and how you can do the same. In this course, I'll detail the exact steps I took to overcome a debilitating, suicidal depression and transform myself into the extremely happy, healthy person that I am today. While doing so, I'll also cover how to deal with some very common causes of depression including spending too much time with toxic people, anger, being prisoners of what others think of us, perfectionism, negative thinking, worrying about things beyond our control, and many, many more. Online Course 2: How To Tell Someone That You Have Depression. In this course, we'll talk about how and when to tell those around you that you have depression. Bonus Videos: 15 Things I Wish People Knew About Depression; The 15 Best And Worst Things You Can Say To Someone With Depression; Why Your Teenager (In Particular) Needs To Learn About Depression - Before It's Too Late; and How To Support A Loved One Who Suffers From Depression. You'll be able to join over 4,000 people who receive a free supportive email from me each morning with an encouraging, uplifting quote to help them get through their day. You'll also be invited to join a private Facebook support group I founded where you can talk about your depression with other sufferers.
200 pages, Paperback
First published October 1, 2013
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January 17, 2016
Somewhat flummoxed by all the ratings and reviews for this being so glowing.
This book is an autobiographical account of someone's depression it's relatable to me in parts but that's about it.
The author had a poor understanding of depression as he was going through it and to me still did even by the end. Despite the fact he's now writing about it and telling people how they can get through it.
By the end of the book he concludes
"If people currently suffering from depression knew what I went through and then saw me in my ardently happy moment when I’ve achieved my dream, then wouldn’t they be inspired too?"
Depression isn't as rational as this if it was it'd a lot easier to get through. Surely the author can understand that after we've just heard his struggle with depression for years?!
This and similar simplifications on the part of the author became infuriating to me after a while.
I give this two stars and not one, mostly because it's good to have an author talk about depression in any way and I did relate to it somewhat. That being said that is all this book has going for it.
In my opinion for a better book on experiences with depression see
Reasons to stay alive from Matt Haig
This book is an autobiographical account of someone's depression it's relatable to me in parts but that's about it.
The author had a poor understanding of depression as he was going through it and to me still did even by the end. Despite the fact he's now writing about it and telling people how they can get through it.
By the end of the book he concludes
"If people currently suffering from depression knew what I went through and then saw me in my ardently happy moment when I’ve achieved my dream, then wouldn’t they be inspired too?"
Depression isn't as rational as this if it was it'd a lot easier to get through. Surely the author can understand that after we've just heard his struggle with depression for years?!
This and similar simplifications on the part of the author became infuriating to me after a while.
I give this two stars and not one, mostly because it's good to have an author talk about depression in any way and I did relate to it somewhat. That being said that is all this book has going for it.
In my opinion for a better book on experiences with depression see
Reasons to stay alive from Matt Haig
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
January 9, 2016
I found this to be quite a frustrating read.
I suffer with mixed state bipolar, and at times felt attacked by the authors perception on mental health and "if I can do it, you can too" attitude. It almost feels like being told to cheer up in the midst of a depressive episode.
I suffer with mixed state bipolar, and at times felt attacked by the authors perception on mental health and "if I can do it, you can too" attitude. It almost feels like being told to cheer up in the midst of a depressive episode.
December 21, 2015
This little book is a bit of a game changer for me.
I could have written the first 80% of it myself. Our lives differ in a number of ways. At 27, I have 2 children, 2 degrees, and 2 marriages under my belt (the second of which I'm incredibly happy in). But I have felt so many of the things Danny Baker writes about. I am also a perfectionist who 'needed' a perfect grade at university. I made attempts on my life as a teenager, usually as a result of not feeling good enough or having my heart broken. Until recently I had mapped out my future in academia because it seemed the right thing for me to do.
Danny's story about putting his faith in himself and the journey of life has spoken to me. 3 months ago I left my life long plan of being an academic for my own artistic passion of sewing, one I didn't even know I had until a year ago. However, diving into a passion hasn't been quite as positive as I'd imagined. I'm still struggling with my perfectionism, anxiety, and self-loathing. I've made the jump, but I'm still seeing my art as a job and another thing for me to get 'right'. I'm still struggling with my depression.
I recently found a medication that works for me, and I'm thinking of attempting CBT again. Having read this book, and seen how someone so similar to me can do it, I'm starting to wonder if I can too.
Thank you, Danny Baker, for rekindling my hope and faith. I'm not there yet by any means, but the first time in a long time, I think I might one day just get there too.
I could have written the first 80% of it myself. Our lives differ in a number of ways. At 27, I have 2 children, 2 degrees, and 2 marriages under my belt (the second of which I'm incredibly happy in). But I have felt so many of the things Danny Baker writes about. I am also a perfectionist who 'needed' a perfect grade at university. I made attempts on my life as a teenager, usually as a result of not feeling good enough or having my heart broken. Until recently I had mapped out my future in academia because it seemed the right thing for me to do.
Danny's story about putting his faith in himself and the journey of life has spoken to me. 3 months ago I left my life long plan of being an academic for my own artistic passion of sewing, one I didn't even know I had until a year ago. However, diving into a passion hasn't been quite as positive as I'd imagined. I'm still struggling with my perfectionism, anxiety, and self-loathing. I've made the jump, but I'm still seeing my art as a job and another thing for me to get 'right'. I'm still struggling with my depression.
I recently found a medication that works for me, and I'm thinking of attempting CBT again. Having read this book, and seen how someone so similar to me can do it, I'm starting to wonder if I can too.
Thank you, Danny Baker, for rekindling my hope and faith. I'm not there yet by any means, but the first time in a long time, I think I might one day just get there too.
September 12, 2016
This book is so boring, it's basically a diary of the authors life whilst also advertising the fact he's wrote a novel (seriously he must mention it every other line) there's no 'self help' and nothing that could help someone who is actually suffering depression.
September 25, 2020
First hand account and has a very positive note. Would be an ideal read for anyone who wants to start to read more about mental well-being.
August 23, 2018
Zzzz
While the message the book is trying to get across is a good one the book itself is self indulgent, and mind numbingly boring. I did read the book in its entirety in hope that it would improve, it didn’t!
While the message the book is trying to get across is a good one the book itself is self indulgent, and mind numbingly boring. I did read the book in its entirety in hope that it would improve, it didn’t!
January 21, 2016
This book kept popping up on my Facebook timeline, so I thought I'd give it a read. Really glad I did. Danny's description of the bleakness and desperation of depression is spot on - so much so that I'll be recommending the book to friends and family so that they can understand me better when I'm in the grips of a depressive episode.
The important thing to learn is in the title: Depression is indeed a liar. It feeds you untruths that can become all-consuming and it can be extremely hard to stop listening to those untruths. Well done, Danny, for continuing to bolster yourself against the inevitable onslaughts! Keep on fighting the fight!
The important thing to learn is in the title: Depression is indeed a liar. It feeds you untruths that can become all-consuming and it can be extremely hard to stop listening to those untruths. Well done, Danny, for continuing to bolster yourself against the inevitable onslaughts! Keep on fighting the fight!
December 20, 2023
I was emailed a copy of this book by the author's "Real Depression Project".
1 Star
Disappointing Read 2020
Oh boy... how to put this into words. First I want to state that I'm not judging the author's mental health journey. I understand that everyone is different. It's a shame however, that the author did not and still does not seem to appreciate this. They came across as extremely naive throughout the book, even once they reached the point when they really should have known better. They say at some point that they were inspired to tell their story to show others there is a way to live depression free and let us know how to do this.
The thing is the reason we discover that was behind the author's issues is ultimately something that someone has almost complete control over especially since they were in a privileged enough position to be able to make the changes and get the help they needed, when they needed more or less at the drop of a hat so their suggestions are only truly going to be of use to those who are equally privileged.
Unless people have a supportive family or friend network, have enough money to pay for therapy or self help books and have the ability to physically remove themselves from the main reason for their struggles then this book is not for you. Also I wouldn't advise anyone who is in the depths of depression or suicidal or anyone who hates unnecessarily extreme cursing read this. I have no issue with swearing in books if there's a point to it but the author uses the f and c words more often than felt appropriate, when is the c word ever appreciate for a mental health book?! As well as this there are many descriptions of their excessive drinking as well as their self harm and suicide fantasies.
Another reason that I didn't gel with this was because I came away partially feeling like this book was just one big long promotional pitch for the author's debut novel.
I gave it one star rather than zero as I identified with the self-hate the author described.
1 Star
Disappointing Read 2020
Oh boy... how to put this into words. First I want to state that I'm not judging the author's mental health journey. I understand that everyone is different. It's a shame however, that the author did not and still does not seem to appreciate this. They came across as extremely naive throughout the book, even once they reached the point when they really should have known better. They say at some point that they were inspired to tell their story to show others there is a way to live depression free and let us know how to do this.
The thing is the reason we discover that was behind the author's issues is ultimately something that someone has almost complete control over especially since they were in a privileged enough position to be able to make the changes and get the help they needed, when they needed more or less at the drop of a hat so their suggestions are only truly going to be of use to those who are equally privileged.
Unless people have a supportive family or friend network, have enough money to pay for therapy or self help books and have the ability to physically remove themselves from the main reason for their struggles then this book is not for you. Also I wouldn't advise anyone who is in the depths of depression or suicidal or anyone who hates unnecessarily extreme cursing read this. I have no issue with swearing in books if there's a point to it but the author uses the f and c words more often than felt appropriate, when is the c word ever appreciate for a mental health book?! As well as this there are many descriptions of their excessive drinking as well as their self harm and suicide fantasies.
Another reason that I didn't gel with this was because I came away partially feeling like this book was just one big long promotional pitch for the author's debut novel.
I gave it one star rather than zero as I identified with the self-hate the author described.
December 8, 2015
This book needs to be read by every parent, teacher and doctor! No one knows when their child may be sucked into the blackness of depression and mental illness. Danny has provided a clear window into the pain and thought processes of a young person with depression which I have not found available anywhere else.
Had I read this while my children were young I would have known the signs much earlier and perhaps known how to talk to my teen to get the necessary help. When teenagers start to show signs of mental illness it is very easy to put it down to normal teen angst and assume they will get over it. By the time we realized something was wrong it was very wrong.
Over the last few years I have read all the literature on anxiety, depression and mental illness that I could find. Much of it has been very useful in a clinical way but nothing gives you the knowledge of what is actually going on in the young person's mind like Danny's raw portrayal.
Thank you Danny for your honesty, it has been a huge help to me and I think it should be recommended reading for everyone.
Had I read this while my children were young I would have known the signs much earlier and perhaps known how to talk to my teen to get the necessary help. When teenagers start to show signs of mental illness it is very easy to put it down to normal teen angst and assume they will get over it. By the time we realized something was wrong it was very wrong.
Over the last few years I have read all the literature on anxiety, depression and mental illness that I could find. Much of it has been very useful in a clinical way but nothing gives you the knowledge of what is actually going on in the young person's mind like Danny's raw portrayal.
Thank you Danny for your honesty, it has been a huge help to me and I think it should be recommended reading for everyone.
May 13, 2020
I received this as a free ebook from Danny Baker's Facebook page.
Danny writes honestly of his struggle and victory over mental illness. I found some of it too self indulgent which editing might've helped.
My favourite quote, "I could say that I’m not suffering from depression, but that instead, I’m learning how to be happy. I’m learning how to be happy because I’m learning to understand myself better. I’m learning what triggers those plummets into despair. I’m learning, through therapy, how to pick myself back up again whenever I do take a plunge."
This biography is a forerunner to a fictional novel that he is in the process of writing, " I Will Not Kill Myself, Olivia."
I find that his commitment to helping those suffering from depression, suicidal thoughts and bipolar disorder very laudable.
Danny writes honestly of his struggle and victory over mental illness. I found some of it too self indulgent which editing might've helped.
My favourite quote, "I could say that I’m not suffering from depression, but that instead, I’m learning how to be happy. I’m learning how to be happy because I’m learning to understand myself better. I’m learning what triggers those plummets into despair. I’m learning, through therapy, how to pick myself back up again whenever I do take a plunge."
This biography is a forerunner to a fictional novel that he is in the process of writing, " I Will Not Kill Myself, Olivia."
I find that his commitment to helping those suffering from depression, suicidal thoughts and bipolar disorder very laudable.
July 30, 2018
This book was very relatable for me, having my own struggles about my future and what is the right thing to do. I love how the book openly talks about these issues which are usually hidden from society, which I feel is needed more and more to help end the stigma of mental health conditions.
August 13, 2020
Disappointed!!!
Really offers no guidance on how to overcome depression. Absolutely no “digging deep” just a lot of I didn’t get a 95%....I don’t have a girlfriend....I don’t make a 6 figure income!
Really was waiting for the Pinnacle Moment- it never came, just last 6 min, telling people to get therapy!!?? No kidding??!! Thanks for the advice. Total waste of money on this book. Actually makes me feel depressed.
Really offers no guidance on how to overcome depression. Absolutely no “digging deep” just a lot of I didn’t get a 95%....I don’t have a girlfriend....I don’t make a 6 figure income!
Really was waiting for the Pinnacle Moment- it never came, just last 6 min, telling people to get therapy!!?? No kidding??!! Thanks for the advice. Total waste of money on this book. Actually makes me feel depressed.
December 7, 2018
Depression is a liar... but it's good at it!
So last night I searched depression on Amazon and this was the first book on the list. The title of this book jumped at me because someone very close to me is constantly reminding me that depression is a liar! By hell it's a fantastic one at that! So I stayed up till the early hours of this morning completely engrossed and have just finished while a manic two year old causes a path of destruction. Overall this book has reminded me that there is hope, to never give up and above all to love yourself is the key to getting through it! Thanks so much Danny Baker!!
So last night I searched depression on Amazon and this was the first book on the list. The title of this book jumped at me because someone very close to me is constantly reminding me that depression is a liar! By hell it's a fantastic one at that! So I stayed up till the early hours of this morning completely engrossed and have just finished while a manic two year old causes a path of destruction. Overall this book has reminded me that there is hope, to never give up and above all to love yourself is the key to getting through it! Thanks so much Danny Baker!!
February 17, 2020
This book is ok, I guess, for young people. The author is a university student who takes on too much and when he figures it out, he hospitalizes himself and moves in with his parents. I’m a grown woman. I’m married, own a house, care for an ill parent, have a grown kid, a grandchild, pets and a husband. I can’t just quit life because I’m going through a bout of depression. The solutions in this book don’t apply to me.
October 26, 2015
An honest account of depression
This book is for everyone. It helps you understand your own struggles or helps you understand others struggles. If you've ever thought someone should just 'pull themselves together' it will explain the daily battles that people suffering with depression experience!
This book is for everyone. It helps you understand your own struggles or helps you understand others struggles. If you've ever thought someone should just 'pull themselves together' it will explain the daily battles that people suffering with depression experience!
January 7, 2016
Really helped me
Seeing how Danny coped with depression and managed to come out the other end has made me see that it is something that can be beaten thank you for writing this Danny
Seeing how Danny coped with depression and managed to come out the other end has made me see that it is something that can be beaten thank you for writing this Danny
September 11, 2020
Oh boy. I have loads to say about this one.
So in my routinely depressive slump of laying in bed most of the day and taking naps in order to avoid being conscious, I would check Instagram and noticed lots of people I followed would share posts from an account called "realdepressionproject". My eyes glazed over them out of curiosity more than anything because I'm at a point in my life where I have no genuine interest in "recovering", whatever that means at this point. The Instagram account isn't verified so that only made me more skeptical but mutuals kept sharing the posts on their stories so I frequently saw them. Without fail the last slide always featured a book called Depression is a Liar alongside words of praise claiming this book was "life changing". 'That's quite a thing to say about a memoir' I thought to myself and after a few days I threw in the towel and decided to give this a chance after reading through the extremely wild claims the author made on thedepressionproject.com
"...after reading this book, you'll find yourself feeling uplifting, hopeful and inspired [to recover from depression]"
"And, if you're on the verge of suicide like I've been, I want to tell you my story to do my damnedest to convince you to put down the gun. Or to to drop the razor blade. Or to put the pills back in the cupboard- because I swear to God life can get better.
I swear to God it's possible to overcome depression and live your dreams."
'What if my dream is to die by suicide, Mr. Baker? What then?' I snickered to myself but felt it was unfair to criticize it so harshly before having read it. So I did.
My view hasn't changed, surprise surprise! First off I'm not going to throw a tantrum and shout from the rooftop (that I want to jump from) that this book was a pile of vomit and a fourth nap would have been a better investment of my limited time. Credit were credit is due many of his experiences are relatable and it made me uncomfortable how much I saw myself in the journal entries he included throughout the book. To say I don't see how his words are helpful for some would be a flat out lie. However...Baker sure had a knack for going around in circles; mentioning something along the lines of, "if only I could do X in Y amount of time and achieve my goals then I'll be happy again" so often it quickly became white noise for my eyes.
The whole time I read this book I found myself wondering why the author only began putting his happiness on his goals in college. I assume this wasn't the case for him in high school and before then, so why now? Are you telling me Baker never failed to complete a task until college??
Something doesn't sit right with me there.
Regurgitating cliched sentiments that have notoriously done more harm than good left me rolling my eyes. Really? Calling the act of suicide selfish?! That's a new one- never heard it before! Huh? Permanent solution to a temporary problem? News flash: the 'temporary problem' in question is life! So forgive me for desiring the only truly permanent change a human experiences; death!
In 19 year old Danny Baker's words I am a quitter and y'know what? I embrace that label. If you found artificial purpose in this life good on you, but I start to have a problem when the idea that life is precious gets shoved down my throat everywhere I go. It's precious in the same way diamonds are- because society has made it as such when in reality the utter abundance of both should be enough to prove otherwise.
On another note why is self-harm seen as a worse 'mistake' than drinking? One makes you bleed and may leave scars and the other obliterates your liver and leaves you hungover. In my opinion both in moderation are just fine. Yet both can also be addicting and amazing coping methods. Calling cutting "an even bigger mistake [than drinking]" feels too unfair. Also the sentence "They had only tried a handful of medications" is one of the most condescending ones I've ever read. You'd think the author of all people would understand why someone isn't frothing at the mouth to be a guinea pig and try yet another pill after developing bipolar from medication himself!!
Why is depression always seen as irrational? Positivity can be just as much as a liar, if not more because it's so encouraged. Sure I can see that thinking if you don't work 60 hours a week you're a failure is ridiculous, but other than going to "work" at my fast food job I do nothing productive. I have no drive to attend college and every day I wake up with dread in my heart. I can barely function as an adult. By all metrics I am a failure and that's not my depression talking. Suicide should be more socially acceptable. Hell, euthanasia needs to be legalized in more places. Life isn't for everyone and pretending the contrary is harmful. You can pry my razor blades from my bloody, bloody hands; this book didn't uplift me or inspire me for shit. If anything suicide is now more appealing than ever. You can't save everyone and that is perfectly okay; you shouldn't force someone to get better. Let people exit if they so choose to.
But what do I know, right? I'm just a depressed and suicidal 18 year old.
So in my routinely depressive slump of laying in bed most of the day and taking naps in order to avoid being conscious, I would check Instagram and noticed lots of people I followed would share posts from an account called "realdepressionproject". My eyes glazed over them out of curiosity more than anything because I'm at a point in my life where I have no genuine interest in "recovering", whatever that means at this point. The Instagram account isn't verified so that only made me more skeptical but mutuals kept sharing the posts on their stories so I frequently saw them. Without fail the last slide always featured a book called Depression is a Liar alongside words of praise claiming this book was "life changing". 'That's quite a thing to say about a memoir' I thought to myself and after a few days I threw in the towel and decided to give this a chance after reading through the extremely wild claims the author made on thedepressionproject.com
"...after reading this book, you'll find yourself feeling uplifting, hopeful and inspired [to recover from depression]"
"And, if you're on the verge of suicide like I've been, I want to tell you my story to do my damnedest to convince you to put down the gun. Or to to drop the razor blade. Or to put the pills back in the cupboard- because I swear to God life can get better.
I swear to God it's possible to overcome depression and live your dreams."
'What if my dream is to die by suicide, Mr. Baker? What then?' I snickered to myself but felt it was unfair to criticize it so harshly before having read it. So I did.
My view hasn't changed, surprise surprise! First off I'm not going to throw a tantrum and shout from the rooftop (that I want to jump from) that this book was a pile of vomit and a fourth nap would have been a better investment of my limited time. Credit were credit is due many of his experiences are relatable and it made me uncomfortable how much I saw myself in the journal entries he included throughout the book. To say I don't see how his words are helpful for some would be a flat out lie. However...Baker sure had a knack for going around in circles; mentioning something along the lines of, "if only I could do X in Y amount of time and achieve my goals then I'll be happy again" so often it quickly became white noise for my eyes.
The whole time I read this book I found myself wondering why the author only began putting his happiness on his goals in college. I assume this wasn't the case for him in high school and before then, so why now? Are you telling me Baker never failed to complete a task until college??
Something doesn't sit right with me there.
Regurgitating cliched sentiments that have notoriously done more harm than good left me rolling my eyes. Really? Calling the act of suicide selfish?! That's a new one- never heard it before! Huh? Permanent solution to a temporary problem? News flash: the 'temporary problem' in question is life! So forgive me for desiring the only truly permanent change a human experiences; death!
In 19 year old Danny Baker's words I am a quitter and y'know what? I embrace that label. If you found artificial purpose in this life good on you, but I start to have a problem when the idea that life is precious gets shoved down my throat everywhere I go. It's precious in the same way diamonds are- because society has made it as such when in reality the utter abundance of both should be enough to prove otherwise.
On another note why is self-harm seen as a worse 'mistake' than drinking? One makes you bleed and may leave scars and the other obliterates your liver and leaves you hungover. In my opinion both in moderation are just fine. Yet both can also be addicting and amazing coping methods. Calling cutting "an even bigger mistake [than drinking]" feels too unfair. Also the sentence "They had only tried a handful of medications" is one of the most condescending ones I've ever read. You'd think the author of all people would understand why someone isn't frothing at the mouth to be a guinea pig and try yet another pill after developing bipolar from medication himself!!
Why is depression always seen as irrational? Positivity can be just as much as a liar, if not more because it's so encouraged. Sure I can see that thinking if you don't work 60 hours a week you're a failure is ridiculous, but other than going to "work" at my fast food job I do nothing productive. I have no drive to attend college and every day I wake up with dread in my heart. I can barely function as an adult. By all metrics I am a failure and that's not my depression talking. Suicide should be more socially acceptable. Hell, euthanasia needs to be legalized in more places. Life isn't for everyone and pretending the contrary is harmful. You can pry my razor blades from my bloody, bloody hands; this book didn't uplift me or inspire me for shit. If anything suicide is now more appealing than ever. You can't save everyone and that is perfectly okay; you shouldn't force someone to get better. Let people exit if they so choose to.
But what do I know, right? I'm just a depressed and suicidal 18 year old.
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November 1, 2015
For those seeking to understand the state of being depressed in themself or others, this is worth a read. An honest account with no preachy or self - help bits!
May 15, 2021
While I understand the author's intent and desire to help people with depression, and I do indeed sympathize with his plight as a person who has dealt with chronic depression (due to complex traumatic stress) myself— it's absolutely agonizing that I had to endure this mediocre splatter of a book since my father recommended it to me. Had it not been for my father and my love for him, I would've avoided this oafishly privileged, cartoonishly infantile and absurdly oblivious mess of a writer. An honest to god waste of money and time. I am much more displeased about the few hours I spent completing this mediocre PDF though. I really had to process that I spent precious moments of my tiny infinitesimally small life on what essentially is the gripings of a privileged white boy who can't do a minuscule amount of critical thinking? Abysmal.
I would sooner read "catcher and the rye"— both protagonists are insufferably oblivious and completely unaware of how they're perceived, but god, at least the writing is bearable and it supposedly had some merit as a novel.
My main points of excruciating pain:
- Extreme white savior complex— doesn't even begin to unpack why all these poor people are suffering (cue, rich countries exploiting them, among a hundred other factors). But oh yes, he's alive to help the poor brown people! ugh.
- Blaming this girl, "chanel", and completely lacking in any introspection. Projecting his insecurities and not learning any god damn basic communication skills/having a healthy relationship. Although granted, she's a trainwreck herself— both of these individuals are disgustingly toxic and annoying. Granted, the Chanel character is worse, but the whole story is insufferable. Sure, they're teenagers, but they're in university and I had the expectation they'd be more mature— maybe I expect too much from my peers.
- Unrelenting feedback cycle of self-punishment of his own making
- Conclusion! Just get therapy/treatment! Wow, something I've NEVER heard before, remarkable insight! Are you aware that not everyone can afford it? Are you aware, in your tiny little world, that healthcare doesn't always cover these things? Are you aware that poverty stricken people can't afford to fuck up and fuck around like you do? That they often die of systemic pressures? Are you aware that not everyone has a supportive network of people they need in order to heal? OH right he DOES get those baby insights. He peeled back a SINGLE layer off the complex problem! Color me IMPRESSED! But hm? Does he support any political means that would change it, beyond, "I'm making an organization because I am just SO BLESSED! I have to share my amazing findings :)" Does he want to support universal healthcare? Does he recognize that the reason he has charity in the first place is because first world countries take from/exploit poorer countries? NOPE! HE NEVER BRINGS ANY OF THAT UP AGAIN. I want to scream crude epithets. There is no release—just the knowledge I have wasted my fleeting and ephemeral lifespan, looking at a screen filled with the most inane, unremarkable and generally surface level analysis— a biopsy of depression that woefully lacks any significance. And knowing that this boy is getting purportedly paid for all his "services". Utter agony. We truly do not live in a meritocracy.
- Childish writing style. Won't bother to pontificate any more. I simply can't.
I'm writing this review to save you the trouble of enduring this hell. Just read , "A General Theory of Love" instead. It's a gorgeous work of art— a craft of science, beauty, and limbic resonance. The author's discernments are genuinely marvelous and important to depression and mental illness as a whole. It gives you a complex and comprehensive look at the world. And of course, reading "A General Theory of Love" over this "book" would save you the agony of reading the overhyped melodrama, the infantile writing, and the general grade 5 level insights from this poor sap's magnum opus.
TL;DR: Read "A General Theory of Love" instead of this. I would print this PDF out, only to burn it. Except that would also be a waste of paper and ink.
I would sooner read "catcher and the rye"— both protagonists are insufferably oblivious and completely unaware of how they're perceived, but god, at least the writing is bearable and it supposedly had some merit as a novel.
My main points of excruciating pain:
- Extreme white savior complex— doesn't even begin to unpack why all these poor people are suffering (cue, rich countries exploiting them, among a hundred other factors). But oh yes, he's alive to help the poor brown people! ugh.
- Blaming this girl, "chanel", and completely lacking in any introspection. Projecting his insecurities and not learning any god damn basic communication skills/having a healthy relationship. Although granted, she's a trainwreck herself— both of these individuals are disgustingly toxic and annoying. Granted, the Chanel character is worse, but the whole story is insufferable. Sure, they're teenagers, but they're in university and I had the expectation they'd be more mature— maybe I expect too much from my peers.
- Unrelenting feedback cycle of self-punishment of his own making
- Conclusion! Just get therapy/treatment! Wow, something I've NEVER heard before, remarkable insight! Are you aware that not everyone can afford it? Are you aware, in your tiny little world, that healthcare doesn't always cover these things? Are you aware that poverty stricken people can't afford to fuck up and fuck around like you do? That they often die of systemic pressures? Are you aware that not everyone has a supportive network of people they need in order to heal? OH right he DOES get those baby insights. He peeled back a SINGLE layer off the complex problem! Color me IMPRESSED! But hm? Does he support any political means that would change it, beyond, "I'm making an organization because I am just SO BLESSED! I have to share my amazing findings :)" Does he want to support universal healthcare? Does he recognize that the reason he has charity in the first place is because first world countries take from/exploit poorer countries? NOPE! HE NEVER BRINGS ANY OF THAT UP AGAIN. I want to scream crude epithets. There is no release—just the knowledge I have wasted my fleeting and ephemeral lifespan, looking at a screen filled with the most inane, unremarkable and generally surface level analysis— a biopsy of depression that woefully lacks any significance. And knowing that this boy is getting purportedly paid for all his "services". Utter agony. We truly do not live in a meritocracy.
- Childish writing style. Won't bother to pontificate any more. I simply can't.
I'm writing this review to save you the trouble of enduring this hell. Just read , "A General Theory of Love" instead. It's a gorgeous work of art— a craft of science, beauty, and limbic resonance. The author's discernments are genuinely marvelous and important to depression and mental illness as a whole. It gives you a complex and comprehensive look at the world. And of course, reading "A General Theory of Love" over this "book" would save you the agony of reading the overhyped melodrama, the infantile writing, and the general grade 5 level insights from this poor sap's magnum opus.
TL;DR: Read "A General Theory of Love" instead of this. I would print this PDF out, only to burn it. Except that would also be a waste of paper and ink.
May 21, 2024
This book is pretty dreadful.
While I’m glad the author is finding solace through writing - who hasn’t found something at least semi-beneficial in Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way? - this entire book felt like a writing exercise prescribed by a therapist then self-published. This is what I get for purchasing a book while actively going through my own substance abuse treatment and then trying to read it almost a decade later.
From start to finish, this memoir feels like it’s lacking soul and doesn’t know where it’s going. This makes sense considering the author appears to have written it while actively battling what appears to be depression. Though maybe it’s domestic abuse? Or drug addiction? Or alcohol addiction? Or unrealistic expectations? It’s hard to say as it shifts depending on the month.
The author also spends time explaining how miserable he is: his ex is emotionally manipulative, he wants to write a novel, he’s hellbent on getting perfect grades - and then proceeds to say nothing beyond how difficult those situations were for him. And I’m sure they were! But how’d you he get through them? I guess we’ll never know!
I’m not sure what one is supposed to glean from this beyond the title, “Depression is a Liar.” And, truly, it is! I wholeheartedly agree! Depression is a lying liar! It’s the most lyingest thing around! What wasn’t hard to glean though is that this author would really like you to buy his debut novel (the first in a series!) which he mentions incessantly throughout.
Truly, my biggest gripe is that the author is so intensely unlikable, I didn’t care if there’d be any triumph by the end, I just couldn’t wait for the book to be over.
While I’m glad the author is finding solace through writing - who hasn’t found something at least semi-beneficial in Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way? - this entire book felt like a writing exercise prescribed by a therapist then self-published. This is what I get for purchasing a book while actively going through my own substance abuse treatment and then trying to read it almost a decade later.
From start to finish, this memoir feels like it’s lacking soul and doesn’t know where it’s going. This makes sense considering the author appears to have written it while actively battling what appears to be depression. Though maybe it’s domestic abuse? Or drug addiction? Or alcohol addiction? Or unrealistic expectations? It’s hard to say as it shifts depending on the month.
The author also spends time explaining how miserable he is: his ex is emotionally manipulative, he wants to write a novel, he’s hellbent on getting perfect grades - and then proceeds to say nothing beyond how difficult those situations were for him. And I’m sure they were! But how’d you he get through them? I guess we’ll never know!
I’m not sure what one is supposed to glean from this beyond the title, “Depression is a Liar.” And, truly, it is! I wholeheartedly agree! Depression is a lying liar! It’s the most lyingest thing around! What wasn’t hard to glean though is that this author would really like you to buy his debut novel (the first in a series!) which he mentions incessantly throughout.
Truly, my biggest gripe is that the author is so intensely unlikable, I didn’t care if there’d be any triumph by the end, I just couldn’t wait for the book to be over.
October 20, 2018
A remarkable story, written with candour and courage
I got this book as Amazon recommended it and assumed the author was the British journalist and broadcaster, so would be entertaining with pithy observations. How wrong was I, but I have come away having read it feeling rewarded.
If you suffer from depression or know, or live with someone who suffers. This is a worthwhile read, some may find it rather harrowing as the author tells his story of battling depression, what it is actually like to experience the lows and the thought patterns involved without pulling punches, applying rose tinted glasses and gets to the painful truth.
Yet, despite all this, you can see a journey that without doubt has shown that this silent killer can be overcome. Ideas on how someone might be able to battle those personal demons.
I got this book as Amazon recommended it and assumed the author was the British journalist and broadcaster, so would be entertaining with pithy observations. How wrong was I, but I have come away having read it feeling rewarded.
If you suffer from depression or know, or live with someone who suffers. This is a worthwhile read, some may find it rather harrowing as the author tells his story of battling depression, what it is actually like to experience the lows and the thought patterns involved without pulling punches, applying rose tinted glasses and gets to the painful truth.
Yet, despite all this, you can see a journey that without doubt has shown that this silent killer can be overcome. Ideas on how someone might be able to battle those personal demons.
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September 8, 2020i don’t really like to rate memoirs because they are very personal and rating them seem like invalidating the persons experience but i did not really connect or feel “inspired” by this book to “overcome” and “cure” my depression. maybe self help books are just not for me but it will probably help another person battling depression, the author mentioned that professional help like therapy and meds help and i do agree with that but i do not agree with there being a “cure”, yes you can live a happy and good life with depression but there is no cure, it is a constant process that may change with years
November 13, 2020
I came across this book by chance through s Facebook advert and having experienced mental health issues in the past, I thought it would be of interest. Despite having very different backgrounds/lives, I could identify with the journey into and through depression in early life. It shows that depression and feeling suicidal, although it may not always stay at bay, is manageable and even beatable. There was a time I really never thought so and now I realise it is possible to come through and be happy.
February 4, 2020
Beyond inspiring
Danny really opens his heart and soul to us as readers in a bid to help is understand the struggles he faced over a period in his life.
Personally I find this to be so brave and admire his ability to do this. He has single handedly given me much courage and an insight as to how to tackle the issues we face in life whilst facing depression.
I have also bought a hard copy of the book aswel as the kindle version.
Danny really opens his heart and soul to us as readers in a bid to help is understand the struggles he faced over a period in his life.
Personally I find this to be so brave and admire his ability to do this. He has single handedly given me much courage and an insight as to how to tackle the issues we face in life whilst facing depression.
I have also bought a hard copy of the book aswel as the kindle version.
October 19, 2020
It was a good-easy read.
It was a good-easy read. I got to understand symptoms of clinical depression and bipolar disorder from this book. I also believe in seeking necessary help and breaking the stigma of mental health issues.
I bought this book because I was in a dire need of some help to get out of my own thoughts. It was indeed a wise and perfect choice! I recommend everyone to read this book.
It was a good-easy read. I got to understand symptoms of clinical depression and bipolar disorder from this book. I also believe in seeking necessary help and breaking the stigma of mental health issues.
I bought this book because I was in a dire need of some help to get out of my own thoughts. It was indeed a wise and perfect choice! I recommend everyone to read this book.
December 10, 2020
A must read for all sufferers of anxiety and depressiom
I read it on one night - yeh I suffer with insomnia! Danny is very honest of his journey through his university days - one that will resonate with many of us. Reading on we get to learn how we should not always heed our GPs, and to seek mental health professionals. And also Danny baring his soul has given me hope. I hope it does to you too.
I read it on one night - yeh I suffer with insomnia! Danny is very honest of his journey through his university days - one that will resonate with many of us. Reading on we get to learn how we should not always heed our GPs, and to seek mental health professionals. And also Danny baring his soul has given me hope. I hope it does to you too.
August 31, 2018
Great insight
My twin brother suffers with depression and at times I’ve found it hard to understand why he’s so negative and also why he is reluctant to get help. This book is a great insight of what it’s like for someone suffering from depression and I now have a better understanding.
My twin brother suffers with depression and at times I’ve found it hard to understand why he’s so negative and also why he is reluctant to get help. This book is a great insight of what it’s like for someone suffering from depression and I now have a better understanding.
February 13, 2019
Simply honest
When I bought this book I had Danny Baker, personality in UK as author and was sceptical but I have to say this is perfectly written by someone who wasn't afraid to bare all and accept personal responsibility for his part in recovery. I spent 20 years from first diagnosis running from proper help and can fully understand his struggle. Funny and sad, great read.
When I bought this book I had Danny Baker, personality in UK as author and was sceptical but I have to say this is perfectly written by someone who wasn't afraid to bare all and accept personal responsibility for his part in recovery. I spent 20 years from first diagnosis running from proper help and can fully understand his struggle. Funny and sad, great read.
January 15, 2022
Very personal, fluent and insightful. I really felt like I was sitting listening to Danny tell me his story. It's definitely worth a read if you be struggle with depression, but also if you want to understand what someone you care about is going through. It's an act of bravery to share such searingly painful thoughts and feelings with others.
July 13, 2022
Depression cannot be defined only in one way, but I enjoyed this book as it showed the authors perspective and personal experiences with metal health. I feel like this book is a great help for those suffering in this way who feel like they are alone. Something like this is hard to talk about let alone write about, so i believe this is definitely a good read.
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