The Red Pill Handbook

by Anonymous

A community project to gather together the essential body of knowledge from the /r/TheRedPill subreddit. It's meant as a free resource for everyone, and includes the sidebar posts, posts that were written by TRP Endorsed contributors, gilded posts and comments, and popular posts with over 500 upvotes. The second edition now stands at 117,000 words.

Genres: Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction, Relationships, Personal Development

425 pages, ebook

First published December 22, 2014

About the author

Books can be attributed to "Anonymous" for several reasons:

* They are officially published under that name
* They are traditional stories not attributed to a specific author
* They are religious texts not generally attributed to a specific author

Books whose authorship is merely uncertain should be attributed to Unknown.

See also: Anonymous

Reviews

[Sergiy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This one is the absolute GOLD. If you in any sort familiar with Red Pill and share its ideas READ this book. I had so many insights, "aha" moments and new levels of understanding about inter gender dynamics because of this. If you are not familiar with Red Pill, I would highly suggest to start with Rollo Tomassi's first Rational Male book and read this one after that. I think every man should read both of them.

There can be written entire books on some of the included chapters / posts. Due to this work I was able to examine all my past relationships with completely new perspectives, views that I had never had before. It was like eye opening.

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- "Why do my eyes hurt?"
- "You've never used them before"
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You literally become like Neo in the Matrix and able to see "hidden" power dynamics between people about which you were completely ignorant before. There can be a point where it is enough for you only to see some pictures / videos of a couple, and you understand the complete dynamic of their relationship, why each partner behaves in a certain way, what causes that, and which actions are needed, if one of the partners wants to change something.

During reading, you understand that a lot of people are sidewalkers, who just go with the flow / script, and don't really understand why they are behaving in a certain way or control in any sort their actions (i.e. getting married). Most of them are just doing "the right thing" instead of focusing on something that is beneficial for them.

The only part that I didn't like is about feminism, there is almost no value in those chapters, the only thing it brings is negativity, but still, it was interesting to see the Red Pill perspective on this.

This book completely debunked myths about vulnerability, unconditional love and egalitarianism. There are not many things that can change your fundamental beliefs, but this one is one of them. It is like you will never see the world in a previous way again.

One thing I want to warn you is you become more harsh about your intimate expectations with the opposite sex. It is like, if she didn't behave in a way that you want, or if she ever slips up - she is GONE. Next. Like you have never had her before. I love that part. In your head there is no space left for Disney fairy tales, what's left is enlighten self-interest. Me first.

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"It is always time and effort better spent developing relationships with new, fresh, prospective women than it will ever be in attempting to reconstruct a failed relationship"
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One interesting thing I want to point out is that if you have intimate relationship you actually WANT to believe that Red Pill concepts aren't true, that your partner is a unicorn, and not all women are like that (NAWALT), but every time that relationship ends, you instinctively come back to Red Pill, again and again, and again. It takes time to internalize these concepts and it is your choice whether to do it or not.

Main takeaways:
- If a woman thinks she is better than you she can't respect you, if she can't respect you she can't love you. No fairy tales about unconditional love. Love is ALWAYS conditional
- In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least
- The bigger rapport break is and the longer you wait, the more comfort is required to smooth things over
- What no to be like is the only useful function that weak men serve to others
- You don't avoid getting cheated on and dumped by being "more nice". You avoid getting cheated on and dumped by becoming a man that nobody in her right mind would ever risk fucking things up with
- Low value men are invisible to women. Low value men who try to hit on them are creepy according to their definition
- Women reveal their low SMV if they give away sex easy (slut). Men reveal their low SMV if they give commitment away easy (beta). A man can show his high SMV if he shows he is able to sleep with other women (dread). A woman can show her high SMV if she shows that she have guys committing to her (beta-orbiters)
- Women don't care about how you feel, they only care about how you make THEM feel
- Any woman worth spending your life with will gladly submit/self-sacrifice a bit to show her commitment to you
- The two most powerful weapons in a man's relationship arsenal: stepping out - if she'not giving you sex, you can go get it from someone else; walking away - if she's treating you like shit, you can leave her and never come back
- Never date a woman who won't do sexual things with you that she did with her other partners
- Being attractive is not something you do, it is something you are
- Preselection, social proof and dominance are the main attraction triggers
- When you start dating a girl you might have kids with, make it clear through casual conversation early on that you WILL insist on a paternity test. She's not okay with that? Next.
- If you will ever consider marriage, make sure that she is aware that you WILL insist on prenuptial agreement
- Men pretend that a girl has an interesting and valueable personality so they can get sex from her; women pretend that a guy is sexually attractive so they can get emotional and financial support from him
- A woman's mother is a good indication of how she will become later, both physically and mentally
- With the right kind of guy, every woman wants to be submissive in bed. This is the kind of sex they enjoy the most, but also feel most ashamed about
- If a lot of women want to fuck a man, it means he is in the top 20% most attractive men. If a lot of men want to fuck a woman, it means she is just a woman
- If there is an asshole guy in her life and it's not you - watch out. The fact that she calls him an asshole means that she cares about how he treats her
- When it comes to relationships, your end goal is not to keep your girlfriend/wife with you. Your end goal is to keep a high SMV. A high SMV ensures that your girl will stay, and if not, that you will find another one
- Nothing gets her hotter than her own imagination. Plant the right seeds and she will project a fantasy on you so hot that she will overlook a lot of shit to maintain that fantasy
- Last minute resistance is the female equivalent of approach anxiety for men
- The whole idea of egalitarianism directly contradicts with hypergamy at its core. Women do not want an "equal" partner, they want someone to whom they can look up to
- If you are ever sitting by your phone waiting for a girl to text you, then you are already failing
- Give your woman 2/3 of everything she gives you - golden ratio
- There is a hierarchy of love: Men > Women > Children
- Women freeely spin plates, we're usually just oblivious
- Nothing kills arousal like pity
- Two narcissists cannot be together
- Never say "I love you" first
- ANY kind of weakness is not acceptable
- Often times "no" simply means "not yet"
- Any kind of self-qualification is a DISASTER

Favourite quotes:
- "People only care about you when you have status or you are a pretty woman. You have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps, because nobody gives a fuck about you"
- "Fact of the matter is, if she didn't shit you out of her vagina, she's got no unconditional love for you. It's tingles/cash or get the fuck out"
- "Just because you shut her down, doesn't mean that there aren't 1000 other horny blue pill men trying to build the greatest pedestal since the tower of Babel for her"
- "Touching a woman inappropriately on the first date will get you further with her than not touching her at all"
- "Women don't give a fuck about your 'feelings'"
- "Women are incapable of change"
- "Your girl is replaceable; your reputation is not"
- "Men are not born, they are created. Women are born"
- "Monogamy is a byproduct, not a goal"
- "Red Pill is not a movement, it is a personal philosophy"
- "Numbers don't diminish desire"
- "Familiarity, comfort and routine are anti seductive"
- "Demonstrate, do not explicate. Be awesome, don't tell everyone you're awesome"

[Hanibaael Naim · Rating 4 out of 5]

It's a great book to read. it's better if you have a general idea about Red Pill and its terms before reading this book.

[A · Rating 5 out of 5]

9.5/10.

There is a class of men that naturally knows how to interact with women, and a class that does not. The former is made up of sports stars, jocks, and other naturally high-testosterone men. The latter is made up of the rest of us — probably 95% of the population. We are told to take every word that women say seriously, to submit and defer to them, to ask them what they want in every situation. We are pushed away from "toxic masculinity" — from strength, confidence, and leadership. We can fulfill our duties by becoming the apex of modern man: the soy-boy.

What is the result of this? A society of listless, spoiled, emotional, depressed, and weak men. It goes against all nature, custom, tradition, and ancestral wisdom. Our past heroes — our Alexanders, Caesars, Napoleons, Columbuses, Daniel Boones — would look down at us with spite. The epitome of masculinity is the battle, the sacrifice of one's body for the protection of one's people. It is characterized by risk, courage, stoicism, self-sacrifice, and duty to higher values than pleasure.

We must use these values in our relationship with women. We must risk rejection by approaching women we like. We must be persistent in keeping the ideal of a chaste woman in mind while getting constantly rejected by used-up wet holes. We must be stoic in not caring what women think of us; we must only care if we fulfill our duties for the day. Lastly, we must submit ourselves to our mission, sacrificing pleasure for our obligation to higher goals. In this manner, we grow. Women want a man who has a direction and a mission, and will latch onto such a man. But a man who submits himself to a woman? What a disgusting creature, a slimy and weak chameleon.

The Red Pill teaches us how to be great men, as judged by both men and women (they align). Actionable steps include lifting weights, eating nutritionally (eat lots of meat, avoid sugar), destroying ONEitis (the malignant condition of deifying "the one"), becoming financially secure, caring less about externals you cannot change (the opinions of women), approaching women continually until you find a match, and being more decisive in your decisions. The struggle to do better in these aspects will improve your life as a man, as well as improve your attractiveness to women. Life will still have problems, but you will be much more comfortable in your own skin.

[Joshua · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good advice about relationships, self-improvement, and living the life you want to live.

Basically, be selfish, because no one else gives a shit about you.

[Петър Стойков · Rating 4 out of 5]

След емблематичния филм Матрицата (1998), червеното хапче се превърна в символ на това да виждаш реалността отвъд обществената и медийна парадигма, в която живее по-голямата част от обществото. Факт е, че повечето хора (и журналисти) не си правят труда, а и нямат време, нерви и/или желание да се замислят особено много по какъвто и да е въпрос, поради което просто приемат "обществено приетото", традиционното и като цяло това, което някой им казва или повечето други хора мислят.

Напоследък пък, "червеното хапче" се използва по-конкретно: най-вече във връзка с описания по-горе тип мислене спрямо отношенията между половете и човешката природа на сексуалността. "Глътналите червеното хапче" се самонаричат тези, които смятат, че са прозрели отвъд обичайните традиции, обществените разбирания и медийните и феминистки меми по тези въпроси.

Доколкото допусканията им са по-скоро потвърждавани от наскоро получилия популярност клон на психологията, който се занимава с еволюционните корени на човешкото поведение и бихейвиористката психология (вместо по-традиционната социална психология) може да се каже, че това културно течение, макар и постоянно да достига до идеен радикализъм, е по-скоро на прав път в противопоставянето си на ширещите се в обществото и по-голямата част на академията възгледи по въпроса.

На кратко, "червеното хапче" е свързано най-вече с правата и мястото на мъжете и жените в съвременното общество и най-общо възприетата от него идеология твърди, че традиционните джендър-роли са по-скоро резултат от дълбоки еволюционни разлики между мъжете и жените, подсилени от обществото и културата и не са, както се твърди в последните петдесетина години, изцяло обществен конструкт, подлежащ на деконструиране и своеволна промяна и отмяна.

Ако оставим теоретизирането настрана, това е тип житейска и обществена философия, според която мъжете и жените имат дълбоко заложени биологически императиви в съзнанието си и действат спрямо тях, много малко зависими от култура и възпитание. Така мъжете винаги ще търсят красиви, женствени жени, а жените търсят и ще продължават да са привлечени от успешни, властни, вълнуващи мъже.

Настоящата книга е сбор от статии, публикувани в интернет, които описват както философията, така и практическите моменти свързани с отношението между половете (връзки, секс, брак), свързани с този начин на възприемането им. Тя може да се изтегли безплатно от интернет и е създадена от аматьори в областта, така че не очаквайте да е написана в стила на настоящото ревю, но пък очаквайте да е пълна с близки до акъла, макар и неприятни истини.

[Amir · Rating 5 out of 5]

Key points:
1. Self-improvement:
a. Focus on yourself first. Go to the gym, work a lot to become rich, and also educate yourself. This will increase your “Sexual Market Value”.
b. Stop doing low-value activities: Playing video games, watching tv, surfing the net, social media, eating junk food, etc…
c. Make your “Life’s task” your priority, not women.
d. Male bonding is important. Esp for young boys.
e. Monk mode: Stop caring about women and work on yourself until you have a high value…
2. Against Women, feminism and old ways of thinking
a. If a woman thinks she’s better than you she can’t respect you.
b. Women are manipulative. And they WILL lie to you. They only stop lying if they don’t need you anymore.
c. Unconditional love doesn’t exist.
d. Don't get married.
e. You never get to take a break with women. You always have to be on top of everything. (It may not be worth it).
f. Men and women can’t be friends. (There’s no such thing as having guy friends).
g. It’s better to just listen to women and not give any solutions.
3. Self-value
a. Either fuck me or fuck you…
b. You have to be happy outside of women so much so that when it’s over you don’t care.
c. You should not be expressing your feelings to your woman. She doesn’t want it. Even if she says otherwise.
d. Women don't care about how you feel. They only care about how you make them feel.
e. Don’t fall in love with a girl you haven’t even had sex with yet.

[Zi-Xiang (Zack) · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this a very long time ago. Sometime in 2014 - 2015.

I can tell you, this book truly uplifted me. It offered me the cold, hard, harsh and unvarnished truth.

Thank you, Brother Red Pillers.

[Tim · Rating 1 out of 5]

Garbage. Plain and simple. Nothing more to be said.

[Angel · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is the in-famous Red Pill guidebook. A movement related to male self improvement with particular focus on dating and the PUA movement. It takes the form of tons of Reddit articles compiled and ordered in a moderately organized whole.

Overall the movement itself earned a bad reputation on the net due to the way it perceives women, describing them as inherently manipulative and using a certain misogynistic streak to explain the reason of their behavior.

I have to say that while the articles vary in quality from "this can actually be good advice" to "evident signs of an angry manchild lashing back at women". All of it must be taken with a grain of salt and the behavioral hypotheses provided in particular seem like bogus (no references to articles or serious experiments for example), the self improvement chapters can actually be quite good.

Some seem based on other books I've read like "The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People", "Models" or "How to Win Friends and Influence People" so it can save you a lot of time and provide a good starting point to start your journey of self improvement.

Along with dating advice, this book also provides financial advice and psychological suggestions to think better. The problem once again is distinguishing what works from what doesn't. As always the scientific method and pure experience can help you there.

Overall I think those that suffer from Nice Guy syndrome will benefit greatly from this book so I can't say it's as bad as the internet likes to present it.

Once you're finished with this book I suggest you move on to "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and "Models" by Manson if you want more dating advice.

[David · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book to become ruthless. Every single day is a warfare. Being blue pill ultimately leads to dissatisfaction and despair. Acknowledging that every man is a potential enemy is the right way to instill dark triad personality characteristics and climb up the social ladder. Those who cannot protect themselves are weeded out of existence by nature. Cunning and covert manipulation is the way to go.
As men it is paramount to attack with fearlessness, as Napoleon says ATTACK ATTACK ATTACK.

Even when our army is outnumbered by enemy forces, we mustn't lose faith. Always remember:

"Reputation is the cornerstone of power". To conclude this wonderful complete and powerful manual of manhood. Let us remind us of the marvelous quote from the matrix 1999:"This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes."

Life is no picnic and everyone is your enemy trying to advance themselves in their deep desires for financial and social success. Money is everything, confidence is the byproduct of success and after that all the women are attracted to you. Remember, always do your best that is whatever you pour your energy and wits. Give everything to the last breath. We only have one life, but if you live it right once is enough my friends.

[Царевна · Rating 3 out of 5]

Текстовете в тази книга са части от публикации и дискусии във форум, в който мъже обсъждат взаимоотношенията между половете и си дават съвети за това как да постигат целите си в тях. Обединени са от възгледа (който и аз споделям), че между мъжете и жените има съществени биологични разлики, определящи различните им потребности и поведение в любовносексуалните им взаимоотношения. Макар че в идеите им не открих нищо изненадващо и че звучат като „прозрения“ на момчета и съвсем млади мъже в процеса на порастване, за мен бяха интересни с това, че не са натоварени с упрек към жените. По-скоро се стараят да си изградят нагласа, приемаща реалността такава каквато е; да използват по-ефективно ресурсите, с които разполагат, за постигане на личните си цели; и като цяло да функционират по-успешно в тази реалност. Може би най-много ми хареса това, че любовните взаимоотношения са изцяло рационализирани, без това ни най-малко да понижава стойността им или да отнема от привлекателността им.
Единственото неудобство за мен при четенето на тези текстове беше леко тревожното чувство, че подслушвам мъжки разговор – любопитно е, макар да знаеш, че няма да бъде приятно. Не непременно заради съдържанието на казаното, а заради звученето, което му придават.

[Ignas · Rating 5 out of 5]

Shhh.

[Sephrenia Cimmura · Rating 1 out of 5]

It took me so long to get through this kitchen rag because I constantly wanted to vomit.

What is happening to men? This is all hatred and bile being spewed towards women, extreme misogyny that you ENDORSE, and reducing them to mere bodies with just one biological function?

Are you so freaking scared of equality? Can you not see how disgusting this is? Do you not read this poison and think about how your mothers, sisters, daughters would feel?
What is wrong with you all?

I cannot believe this has been allowed to be published. Women, I encourage you to read this and the TRP handbook to know what you are up against.
Men are actively, purposefully and wilfully turning into bigger monsters than the ones that already exist.

READ this book and the TRP handbook so you can detect the signs and manipulation!

You think by reading this it makes you more of a "man". All of you are pathetic, weak little worms who will never be fulfilled.

TERRIBLE excuse for a reading publication. I can't even call it a book - it would be an insult to books.

[LIGHT · Rating 5 out of 5]

Life changing experience. Personally i am an incel and this book answered all my questions literally everything. Plus the best thing about this is that there are actionable steps inside it. Which i am going to apply to change my life. Personally in my family i have 2 elder sisters and a mom so i had various aha moments while reading it. Men don't fool yourself girls in real life actually worth this way. Still read this book at your own risk this book isn't for weak minded people. But if you have the guts and you manage to read this full book it will change your life i promise you.

[MR T]

SO FAR THIS HAS IMPROVED MY PERFOTMANCE AT WORK 100%, I HAVE A DIRECT NO SHIT ATTITUDE AND IM GETTING THINGS DONE. IM LEADING PEOPLE IN SENIOR POSITIONS TO ME AND IM THE YOUNGEST IN THE TEAM. WHEN YOU RE-READ IT DOES BECOME DILUTED I JUST HOPE IT HAS THE SUSTAINABILITY. This is due to understanding the correlation between high SMV and a happy fulfilling life. However, it can make you angry and paranoid. And whilst it says its not mysogynistic as you read on, it really is.

[Cornelius Mwape · Rating 5 out of 5]

Read this book in my first year of college(19 years) maybe I was too young to read it, it’s like someone telling you the cheat codes to a game and how the game is before you even start to play it that you don’t even want to play the game anymore. Wish I read later onwards. But all in all it’s really a great book.

[Grace · Rating 4 out of 5]

As long as you’re reading it to gain insight into the absurd and ridiculous minds who subscribe to this “ideology” then good one - quite comical actually. Also great ammunition to humiliate them in an argument can be found in this book

[Christopher Kemur · Rating 4 out of 5]

Not agree with all of the ideas, but agree with most.

[Rai Keyri · Rating 5 out of 5]

Truth about women, relationship and dealing with them as a man. Anecdotes feom reddit. Almost like Reader's Digest.

[Zack · Rating 5 out of 5]

I would say this book is a must-read for every man in the modern world who suffer from gender misconceptions and foolish assumptions about what men have to do to be happy.

[Deyth Banger · Rating 5 out of 5]

Its the basic knowledge of pick up, the most important essence of the redpill world.

[Manuel Caetano · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great compilation of articles.

[Jules · Rating 4 out of 5]

Short and a little repetitive. a good intro to The Red Pill though.