From Academy Award winner and bestselling author Diane Keaton comes a candid, hilarious, and deeply affecting look at beauty, aging, and the importance of staying true to yourself—no matter what anyone else thinks. Diane Keaton has spent a lifetime coloring outside the lines of the conventional notion of beauty. In Let’s Just Say It Wasn’t Pretty, she shares the wisdom she’s accumulated through the years as a mother, daughter, actress, artist, and international style icon. This is a book only Diane Keaton could write—a smart and funny chronicle of the ups and downs of living and working in a world obsessed with beauty.
In her one-of-a-kind voice, Keaton offers up a message of empowerment for anyone who’s ever dreamed of kicking back against the “should”s and “supposed to”s that undermine our pursuit of beauty in all its forms. From a mortifying encounter with a makeup artist who tells her she needs to get her eyes fixed to an awkward excursion to Victoria’s Secret with her teenage daughter, Keaton shares funny and not-so-funny moments from her life in and out of the public eye.
For Diane Keaton, being beautiful starts with being true to who you are, and in this book she also offers self-knowing commentary on the bold personal choices she’s made through the years: the wide-brimmed hats, outrageous shoes, and all-weather turtlenecks that have made her an inspiration to anyone who cherishes truly individual style—and catnip to paparazzi worldwide. She recounts her experiences with the many men in her life—including Warren Beatty, Jack Nicholson, Al Pacino, and Sam Shepard—shows how our ideals of beauty change as we age, and explains why a life well lived may be the most beautiful thing of all.
Wryly observant and as fiercely original as Diane Keaton herself, Let’s Just Say It Wasn’t Pretty is a head-turner of a book that holds up a mirror to our beauty obsessions—and encourages us to like what we see.
Diane Keaton (born Diane Hall) is an Academy Award-winning American film actress. Her first major film role was Kay Adams-Corleone in The Godfather movies. She starred with director and co-star Woody Allen in "Play It Again, Sam," "Sleeper," "Love and Death," "Annie Hall" and "Manhattan." She has starred in many other films and worked as a director, producer, and screenwriter.
A number of books of her photography have been published.
"Let's Just Say It Wasn't Pretty" lives up to it's title. For me, let's just say it was a waste of time. Too much introspection, too many complaints about getting older and too much name dropping. I read about half this book before giving up and just skimming to the end.
I always looked forward to seeing Diane Keaton on the red carpet at the Oscars. Her outfits were so refreshing and unique! She never fell into that herd mentality of beaded gowns and slits up to the waist. She was all style and class. I admire her and love her movies but this book just didn't do it for me. It was like reading someone's diary and almost fell into the category of "gibberish". But if she writes another one I'll read that one too.
I've been a big fan of Diane Keaton for as long as I can remember. I loved her early Woody Allen films (especially "Love and Death", "Manhattan" and "Annie Hall" which I own on DVD) and she continues to make movies I want to see. I haven't read her first memoir yet called Then Again but I really enjoyed this one.
The thing that is great about Diane is she is so true to herself, doesn't follow trends and is unique and funny. She writes well and I highly recommend this book.
Here are some of my favorite quotes -
She is a fan of Cary Grant and this is a quote of his that she likes - "I pretended to be somebody I wanted to be, and I finally became that person."
"And every day for the last few years I have a little chat with myself. 'Okay, Diane... your hands still wash your face. You can still feel hot water. See's Candies peanut brittle is still your favorite dessert. The wild parrots on the telephone wire outside your bathroom still sing to you every morning, and just like them, you're still a live animal. Be grateful for what you have, you big jerk.'"
"Maybe my smile could help me make it through the day. Maybe I could stop being so aggravated if I wore a smile." Later she quotes Charlie Chaplin and his "You'll find that life is still worthwhile if you just smile."
I enjoyed reading Diane's thoughts about some of the men in her life such as Woody Allen, Warren Beatty, Al Pacino and Jack Nicholson. She's had quite an interesting life.
First of all, I have always liked Diane Keaton as an actress. She seems real and funny, and her characters, for the most part, are entertaining and worth the price of admission. But as a writer she sucks. This book contains nothing but a bunch of drivel. How can she make claims about being "true to yourself" when everything she writes to support that is just one long, boring overused cliche? Who are you, really, Diane? I almost had to laugh at the stuff she proffers as her "wisdom of being a wife, mother", etc., blah blah blah... I offer you some of her more 'pithy' comments: "My favorite part of my body is my eyes because of what they see." Gee, that was brilliant. "I hear with my ears. I can see trees and sunsets." Wow. Another original. "I will never marry. My love of the inward far overshadows the rewards of longevity." What the hello does that BS mean? "I fell for the beauty of a broken bird?" Gag me. "But the most thrilling aspect of my face is its ability to express feelings." Well, at least I will grant her that. She hasn't had any botox to freeze those all important facial "feelings"! Believe me, I could go on and on... So if you like this kind of new age, shallow and meaningless mumbo jumbo, then this is your book. But if you're a "real" person who is fed up with phony Hollywood celebrities who fancy themselves authors and intellectuals, then keep your distance from this particular "broken bird".
This memoir rambled a little but since it was written by Diane Keaton that just made her voice more apparent. I could easily picture her speaking the words as I read them. How does a quirky academy award winning actress cope with the aging process? The same as we all do apparently. It's DIANE KEATON! She wears her insecurities as accessories and we love her for it. We can relate. her privileged lifestyle seems balanced by the cruelty of public and reviewers who constantly judge actresses for every new wrinkle and infirmity or their choice of cosmetic surgery to remove such - both negatively. Do we expect celebrities to maintain the celluloid likeness of their youth. Well, life isn't like that even for "them". Diane tries to live in the moment, neither wishing she could go back nor dreading the future and is happier for it. And, for the record, I've always thought her beautiful.
This was only published because of the author's name. I love Diane Keaton as much as the next human but this is a truly boring, messy, naval-gazy book.
I walk away from this memoir with two conflicting feelings. First, I think Diane Keaton is a pretty genuine person. The whole book read in her voice, with nary a ghostwriter to be found. It was rambly and kooky and full of the kinds of thoughts everyone has in quiet moments but usually only shares with the people we're closest to. And I like how genuine she is. I think I'd like to have coffee with her.
But.
This book is not great. It's genuine, but it's not cohesive. I'm not entirely sure why she felt driven to write it. It's not wholly a memoir, even though it includes remembrances about her past. It's not an advice or self-help book, although she also includes musings on beauty and perspective and acceptance. It's not a humor book, or a Hollywood tell-all. I'm not sure what it is, other than a kind of monologue. And I can see how people would like it, because Diane Keaton is a definite personality and it's obvious she has something to say. Fans could potentially thrill to the conversational tone, like hanging out with her over coffee or at a park feeding pigeons. But for me, it was too lacking in structure. If it hadn't been so short, I'm not sure I would even have finished.
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Unfortunately, there is one major flaw in Diane Keaton's "Let's Just Say It Wasn't Pretty" - the book is way too short! Ms. Keaton is a gifted author, with a humorous, honest style. I was captivated by her story from the first page and found it hard to put this book down. This is a fascinating glimpse into her life, her thoughts and even her house. I loved the chapter where she talks briefly about the "Prisoners on My Wall" - her collection of 48 photos of men she finds compelling and why- running the gamut from Abraham Lincoln to John Wayne and Sam Shepard; no, we don't find out who they all all, the author teases us with just a brief glimpse. In fact, I would say this is true about every subject she shares. In her musings on her life, her relationships, her proclivity for wearing hats, her thoughts on various aspects of beauty and how it is defined in the world of the famous, she shares her thoughts and experiences yet always leaves the reader wanting to know more.
Hers is an authentic voice, sharing without pretension. Reading this book felt like you were sitting and talking with her (and she had some interesting stories to tell!) This is no snide Hollywood-insider tell all; what we learn of her famous friends and lovers is told thoughtfully and respectfully. This is a woman who defines her life, rather than letting it define her.
I was unaware that Ms. Keaton had written a prior memoir "Then Again", I can't wait to read it, but in the meantime, I definitely recommend "Let's Just Say It Wasn't Pretty".
As a side note, one more reason I enjoyed this book was the fact that I not only admire the work she's done in movies, but I had my own personal Diane Keaton moment. While leaving Gladstone's Restaurant in Malibu one night, I passed a striking looking woman in a black gaucho hat worn at a rakish angle. In astonishment, my eyes locked onto Diane Keaton's from a distance of about 4 feet. I smiled and looked away, wanting to give her privacy, but it was memorable.
It Was Pretty Awful, May 2, 2014 Edit Review Delete Review This review is from: Let's Just Say It Wasn't Pretty (Hardcover) Vine Customer Review of Free Product (What's this?) Have you ever watched the Oscars and wondered how these "stars" were capable of reciting their lines in the movies when they flub a two-line introduction or list of nominees? It certainly has brought me to reality about their talent and their possible lack of intellect. Not so at the Tony Awards where the presenters perform on a live stage and cannot botch their lines without an instant negative response. Movie stars receive the gift of umpteen takes to get it right.
Reading Diane Keaton's book is exactly how I felt when I watch some Oscar presenters create a total disillusion. I was brought down to earth reading her book, I actually thought she was a stalwart, single woman who was not obsessed with her age or looks and could overcome adversity. Well, with good directors, she has come off that way, which I presume makes her a good actress.
In this chronicle of beauty and age obsession, Ms. Keaton jolted me into boredom and disbelief. She apparently is jealous of any woman with thick hair and has become crazed with covering her hair, which I never thought was noticeable. She is even jealous of her sisters' hair and is sure her daughter, Dexter, will always have thick, shiny hair the rest of her life. Women with thick hair often suffer thinning as they age, come on. I would want the floor to open, also, if my mother described my bra size and fitting at Victoria's Secret in a published book! What was she thinking? Her children should be off base. Why would a mother, without money problems, move her children almost every two years? Doesn't that tell us something? And hence, my reason for one star rather than two stars or more. A "movie star" can pontificate about herself or her philosophy ad nauseum but delving into your children's very personal physical or behavioral traits is unfair. The scene in Victoria's Secret was Diane's reaction to sexual freedom and fun. Unfortunately, her daughter became the focus.
I know she is quirky, which was the charm that I previously found attractive in her acting. Now, it's way over the top. In this erratic chain of essays, Keaton targets her philosophy of beauty and her possible lack of vanity. Unfortunately, it all becomes a trivial effort. She rambles.
Does she really not realize how lucky she is? She alludes to being rather shallow, but I don't believe she realizes her superficiality blinds her to reality. This book was a waste of my time. With all the bright women out there, including actresses, there are many who deserve to be published but not Ms. Keaton.
I liked this book. Although Diane does ramble on, her rambling helped me remember that I too have hooded eyes which I never liked. I purchased "The Dictionary of Dreams" because her referring to it brought back memories my grandmother getting out her dream book when I would tell her of a dream I had (and the other night I had a doozie!!). And finally she made me thankful for my thick hair which I can thank my father for and have received complements on since I first went to the hairdresser. Diane on the other hand should have listened to her mother because she does have a beautiful smile and she's stunning and pretty--all I wished I had, but we all seem to focus on our flaws don't we? But of the whole book I think my favorite line, the one I can most relate to is "I was seriously freaking out" yea, been there, done that. I am along with Diane, a part of a generation that I am proud to be part of. She was there from the beginning--the ones who changed this world in a way that no other has come close to. I at the end of the Baby Boomers (I was born in 1963--the cut off is 1964) just made and reaped the rewards of the title that folks like her who demonstrated for justice, changed music, and gave women our equal voice.
Diane Keaton offers some insights into her thoughts on beauty, aging, and being comfortable in one's own skin.
Her thoughts stray from one topic to another, with rapidly changing emotions and a stream of consciousness-kind of flow. It's enlightening at times, bewildering at others.
I have often mentioned in my reviews that I have the strangest coincidences in my reading selections and how they relate to my own life experiences. At the end of this audiobook, Ms. Keaton mentions a song she sung that brought her to tears for the final scene in a film.
I did not recognize the song lyrics she quoted, and so I thought about what song would trigger my own tears. The first song that came to mind was Roberta Flack's 1973 hit song, Killing Me Softly With His Song. It's a popular song from my childhood that has always made me want to cry, but it's one that I hadn't thought of in a long time.
So, having finished this audiobook, I immediately began listening to The Girl in Green by Derek B. Miller. Within the first few minutes of the story, Ms. Flack's song is mentioned and I was somewhat stunned.
How is it that this one fairly random song from the mid-70s could be brought to my attention twice in less than about 30 minutes? It was a very odd experience and made me wax nostalgic to hear it again (as well as Ms. Lauryn Hill's version with The Fugees.
I know that this is an inconsequential note and has no real relevance to either book, so why spe0nd all this time to write numerous paragraphs about it in this review?
I can only explain by saying that I write these reviews to capture the thoughts and feelings I experience as I read or listen to a book. It helps me reflect on my own perspectives and reminds me that this world is far more connected than I can ever imagine.
Off now to listen to this classic song (which, after looking up versions of it online, I now know was first sung by Lori Lieberman ).
interesting quotes (page numbers from edition with ISBN13):
"Be grateful for what you have, you big jerk." (p. )
"While smiling is lovely, laughing is beautiful." (p. )
Idk if I would say this book was engaging but it was interestingly written. I don’t know if this is an in-depth or insightful look into Diane Keaton, but the way she mused through her life in this….memoir?…was good-ish.
She talks about how she views beauty and is affected by aging. She talks about what beauty has meant to her throughout her life, and how these feelings were formed, dissected and finally adopted into her personality and how she moves through the world.
It read like a patch work quilt put together by a family that I’m only vaguely familiar with. Perhaps if I had read anything else she has written or was more captivated by her body of work as an actress, her story telling style would have made more sense to me.
Bottom line. This won’t stick with me but I’m not sorry I spent time on it.
DNF @ midway. I bought this hardback memoir @ 1/2 off. I gave it 2 stars.
Diane, God love her, has a good mind & wit galore. She however is a topic-hopper. In a few short pages she went from adages her dad shared to his love of the beach to his advice: don't buy a Calif. house on a hill or in a landslide area. To the standing o she received for her HS play to the first time she saw a penis (who cared about the latter but her?) She was an exhausting read.
She noted a 1998 PET scan indicated Alzheimer's & then no more info. This was her PET scan? A false +? Someone else's PET scan?
I can think 'outside the box' but my mind can't go 50 different directions at once as Diane demonstrated in this book. She's a good actress, but a writer...? I realize that actors and actresses are under pressure b/c of their competitive business to maintain pleasing faces and physiques/ figures, but what about goodness? generosity? friendship? a clever mind? humor? I think these qualities (& more) are part of what makes someone attractive. So her exploring features of a face or body type or couture clothing seemed superficial. She did give kudos to those who were trend starters, using the force of her/ his personality.
It was a little all over the place but I feel like that is Diane Keaton so I enjoyed it overall...especially listening to it and having her read it. A little about her childhood, a little about the movies, and her personal life now. It was a fun and quick listen.
I feel like I have just had coffee by the fire with Diane Keaton. 💜 This was a book without a huge purpose or theme. Nevertheless, Keaton’s warmth, candor, and homour shone through and made it a fun, heartwarming read.
Pretty weird book. Didn’t hate it, didn’t love it. Diane Keaton has a very interesting and all-over-the-place mind, very curious way of viewing the world.
This is essentially Diane Keaton prattling off several "proverbs" she has come up with and seems to find clever. A handful of "quirky & interesting" facts about herself are sprinkled throughout (spoiler alert: they are not that interesting). It's fine as an audio-book if you just want some background noise.
Unfortunately, my expectations of Diane Keaton to be a down-to-Earth lady were kind of shattered after listening to this book on Audible. Keaton constantly name drops, emphasizes her own self-importance, and drones on for a few chapters about her addiction to renovating multi-million dollar houses as if it were a collection of bottle caps. She also reveals her insecurities while at the same time asserts herself as a no-nonsense woman who will wear and say whatever she wants... The book's exposure of this part of Keaton's personality was particularly shattering because, though she'll wear crazy outfits and tell people off (as she recounts in the book), her deep-seated insecurities obviously pervade most of her behavior. The book discusses Keaton's question of "what is beauty" and does so in a pretty nonsensical way. Much of the book seemed jumbled and disconnected. Though certain sentences could sound quite poetic, much of the book just felt like an excuse to tell stories about herself and the people she knows. I'm a little heart broken by this book, as I used to idolize Diane Keaton, but now can only see her as self-absorbed.
I usually don't write reviews - I'm content to log my "read" library and move on, but I really enjoyed this. So much that I was shocked by all of the negative reviews.
This is the first of Keaton's works I've read (actually listened to, as it was an audiobook), so maybe coming in with no previous expectations contributed to the experience. But also after reading the other reviews, I kind of think I lucked out by picking the audiobook. I can get how if you were sitting down to read this it might get boring sometimes and you'd put it down after a few minutes.
However, I loved listening to her musing on beauty and the messiness of life while driving around town. I hated to turn off the car. Part of that is her delivery - she brought beautiful melody and emotion to the subject of beauty and emotion.
So, to anyone who is thinking about reading this, I highly recommend the audiobook.
Just a warning - she does let some language fly, so if you are traveling with young ears - beware! :)
I respected Keaten's strong sense of self—I was hoping to learn about that from her, but the "smart advice" the book cover promised never arrived. What you get is a stream of consciousness that's a neurotic mixture of disorganized complaining and awkward refection.
The shattering part to all this was realizing Keaten does not have the strong sense of self I always admired. The "bold personal choices she’s made through the years" are not bold at all or the result of some deep commitment to truly individual style as I always believed. Keaten was, and still is insecure. Her haphazard style (it IS haphazard there is no intention or expression there, she says) is mostly the result of her closing herself off.
Where is the empowering book I was promised? sigh This book should have stayed a private personal journal.
I picked this up as an audio book because of Diane Keaton's charm, figuring listening to her would be pleasant company. At the beginning, I was very aware of Ms. Keaton herself, thinking things like, "How did Diane Keaton stay such good friends with Woody Allen?" or, " I never would have expected Diane Keaton to question her own authenticity about why she wears hats...." "Hmmmm..someone should have told Diane Keaton not to cry at her own sad bits." But as time went on, I found myself just listening to the thoughts of another human being who had taken the time to wrestle with her feelings about beauty, the longing for a father's love, disease, romance, identity, and impending old age. Her last three essays were especially moving. She is truly talented.
I love Diane Keaton. I did not love this book. It gets two stars because some parts, especially listening to the author read her own book on the audiobook, were charming and quintessential Diane. Most of it sadly is a rambling stream of consciousness that ends up more annoying than endearing. I found myself getting very annoyed about the gorgeous celebrity ripping her appearance apart from young to old. She’s not ugly in the least but you’d think she had a third eye by the way she goes on about her looks most of the book. I get it plays into the title but it came across as eye rolling and trite rather than relatable.
I see from other reviews her first book was better. May have to give that a shot.
I got this book at a library book sale. I'm mailing it to my mom, who at this point maybe listens to audio books more than she reads books, but for me she will make an exception. I read part of this book standing in the pacific ocean, wearing a hat and a one piece bathing suit. COVID has really accelerated my rate of ascendance into middle-aged lady who dgaf, and this book is good for that also.
The beginning and the end are a bit generic in their body/face/aging-positivity, but themes, symbols, and advivce keep emerging that are delightful: wear turtlenecks, but more importantly, put shirt stays in the turtlenecks themselves to keep them from sagging; Layer Cake cabernet with ice as a go-to drink, and, the reason I really want to send this to my mom is that Keaton grew up in Santa Ana (yes, yes, I've seen Annie Hall but didn't realize she is playing herself so much, I guess), just a few years ahead of my mom. Reading this book, I wonder what it would have been like if my mom had gotten into theater instead of dance/cheer (although that would have been even less acceptable to my grandparents, I expect!).
Keaton is a few years older than my mom, but my grandfather was very old so my mom and aunts and uncles grew up with a lot of the same movies and reverence for Hollywood that is on display here. As the book goes on the juxtaposition of remembrances of young vs. old Gary Cooper, embracing Victoria's Secret as superior to the dictates of underwear shopping of yore, There's a fair bit of Woody Allen friendship talk in here (one transcribed phone message from him is a shocking shift in tone from Keaton's own voice and not a voice I'd ever want to hear in my inbox) and some other Hollywood-dating tales.These are far less interesting to me than the piece about her being a serial home renovator, from which I was reminded of the Chemosphere and learned about the Petal House and the Struckus House, my new favorite piece of LA architecture, or about her daughter swimming around the pier. So yeah, mailing the book to my mom and following the author on instagram now.
What was this about? Well that is a great question! Was it about her favorite body part? *Spoiler Alert* It's her eyes. Was it about her family? Well no, not really. Unless you count finding out that her son Duke calls her "Cheeks" and her daughter Dexter wears a size 36C bra. Maybe it was about how she is a an avid home renovator. This is because she is constantly in search of her dream home and doesn't like living where others have. Maybe the message overall regardless of the random babbling is about respecting women who are unique and different because ugly is the new pretty! That just doesn't quite seem right either though. I did listen to this via audio book which is probably the only reason I was able to stay interested. I like Diane Keaton as an actress and enjoy her movies. I think she is quirky and fun. I do feel her book and her speaking was just like her acting. The wild, erratic, and outgoing woman was portrayed the same, which was great. I wish there was more. More story, more organization, more information, just... more. I do know she had written a book before this and I have not had the pleasure of reading that yet. Maybe because of that I feel this was sub-par. If you like Diane Keaton you will still like this because her personality shines through so well, but if you are looking for something meaningful I would keep walking.
This book was entertaining and easy to read in a day. I laughed out loud at some parts. I love hearing about Diane’s relationship with other people in Hollywood and about her experiences when she was growing up. However, I didn’t think this was nearly as good as “Then Again.” This would be a great beach read or book to grab when you need a pick-me-up. Otherwise, I would strongly recommend “Then Again,” which I loved.
Diane Keaton discusses beauty at length. She talks about how beauty goes so much deeper and has so much more to it than the physical appearance.
“Beauty is a feeling more than anything else.”
Personal and moving; she tells stories about her life with humor and honesty.
I listened to the audiobook and it was read by Diane Keaton herself! I really enjoyed listening to her tell stories about growing up, insecurities, movies she’s made, different stars that she’s worked with, people she’s met, and lessons that she has learned.
“Laughter leads to less stress. It just does. So, while smiling is lovely, laughing is beautiful.”
A nice read, and she does make a lot of good points! Beauty goes a lot farther than someone's face, it's all around us - one has to learn to see things differently. It's also a little about being grateful that we can see these things.
Delightful! Who wouldn't want to listen to Diane Keaton's thoughts on style, beauty, love, and aging? I recommend this especially for the quirky ladies. Her section on trying to change her looks as an adolescent was painfully relatable for me and, I surmise, every girl who grew up reading traditional women's magazines.