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Ever By My Side: A Memoir in Eight [Acts] Pets

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Tender, wry, and ruminative, Ever By My Side is a tribute to the power and beauty of ordinary life and a celebration of how pets make it all the sweeter and richer.

"The lessons that these animals taught me have been subtle, startling, and inspirational, playing a small but vital part in helping to shape the person you see with the stethoscope around his neck." - Dr. Nick Trout

New York Times bestselling author Nick Trout has captivated readers by taking them behind the scenes into the heartwarming - and sometimes heartrending - world of veterinary medicine. In Ever By My Side, Nick turns the lens inward to offer a funny, moving, and intimate memoir about how the pets he has had throughout his life have shaped him into the son, husband, father, and doctor he is today. Using his relationships with those beloved animals to tell his life story, Nick shares the profound lessons he's learned about friendship, loyalty, and resilience. The result is a moving story that speaks not just to animal lovers, but to any reader who appreciates the bonds we have with our loved ones, be they animal or human, and the lengths to which we go to nurture those bonds.

Nick waxes nostalgic about his boyhood in a working-class British suburb, where a large German shepherd named Patch was the perfect companion to a scrawny, bookish boy in a neighborhood full of bullies. He writes about his relationship with his father, the man who nurtured Nick's dream of becoming a vet, even though he couldn't have imagined the career would lead his only son 3,000 miles away. He describes wooing his future wife and stepdaughter and (perhaps most difficult of all) their ornery cat. And he offers a poignant chronicle of his daughter's devastating diagnosis of cystic fibrosis and how a little yellow Labrador retriever played an important role in bringing joy to their family when they needed it most. Alongside Nick's warm reflections, the pets in these pages come alive as irresistible characters in their own right and showcase the power of animals to offer a lifetime of consolation, guidance, and abiding affection.

Tender, wry, and ruminative, Ever By My Side is a tribute to the power and beauty of ordinary life and a celebration of how pets make it all the sweeter and richer.

320 pages, Hardcover

First published February 8, 2011

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Nick Trout

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I’m from England and I’m a veterinary surgeon working at the Angell Animal Medical Center in Boston, one of the biggest animal hospitals in the world. If I had to sum up the best part of my career in one word it would be ‘unpredictable’ because what’s great about coming to work everyday is the certainty of surprise. It might be a Chihuahua or a Great Dane, a Maine Coon Cat or an iguana. It might be the heartache of saying goodbye to a best friend; it might be the elation of a surgical cure and a relationship to a true companion restored. It is all of this and more. What’s not to love! In my first book, Tell Me Where It Hurts I tried to capture the rush and the passion of modern veterinary medicine. In Love is the Best Medicine, I have focused more on the pets and their owners, trying to expose the more vulnerable, more emotional aspects of what it means to heal sick animals. In my latest book, Ever By My Side, I turn the lens inward and consider the animals I think of as my own pets, taking an opportunity to relive some of the defining moments of my life in which an animal took their cue, stepped up and gave me a chance to appreciate a different perspective. This is my attempt to show them off and share their subtle, startling, and inspirational lessons, which have played a small but vital part in helping to shape the person you see with the stethascope around his neck.

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45 reviews
March 21, 2011
I expected a feel good book about pets, and it was, but much more. This is a well-written book that has insight into family relationships, the twists and turns life takes and having a child with a serious illness.
A couple quotes from the book:
“…family will always be the sum of its individual members, be they human or animal.”
“What matters most is how hard you try.”
Dr. Trout grew up in England and moved to America. It was interesting to read about adjusting to “American culture”
“What was Saturday Night Live? Who was Walter Cronkite? What’s a Ding Dong? What happened at Kent State? The American car culture—and a personal favorite since I, too, have lived in New England, he shared the New Englander’s philosophy that ‘If you don’t know where you are, then you don’t belong here’!”
I won this book on Goodreads.
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897 reviews536 followers
December 22, 2010
The author of this heartwarming memoir had me hooked by page 8. He shares stories of how animals have had a profound impact in his life and on his human relationships - with his father, as a father himself and husband, and as a veterinarian. It made me laugh and cry with the memories of my own loved pets. I highly recommend for animal lovers, young and old and for book groups where it would raise some interesting discussions.
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472 reviews46 followers
October 30, 2011
I absolutely loved this book. I am a great James Herriot fan and this book has the same powerful attraction as Herriot's true-life stories as an English country vet. Dr. Nick Trout is a small pet surgeon. His background is English as is Herriot's. I was concerned before entering the pages of the book because the title is "Ever By My Side: A Memoir in Eight Acts". "Acts" has been crossed out and "Pets" replaces the word "Acts". I wasn't sure I could face the devastating loss of eight animals. In stories of one pet dying, I often have to set the book aside for a few days before I can face what I know is to come. This is a book about love of pets and family.

My favorite passages and notes to myself about the book:

"He didn't tell her off. He didn't curse her out. Dad held on tight to her scruff, reattached her leash and turned to Jack Shepherd, giving him the kind of resolute stare that transmits gratitude and a tacit appreciation of a stranger's gift, a second chance he thought he might not get."
"Sometimes," said Dad when he arrived home and relayed the story. "'a still tongue makes a wise head.'" (p. 108)

The real James Herriot was a man named James Alred Wight. (p. 113)

"Whiskey and Bess, I thought, brother and sister, and now son and daughter, the replacements for me and Fiona. Maybe it is inevitable, the transition of pets into surrogate children for empty nesters, the kids who always want to stay home. Perhaps this was what I had noticed most about my sporadic visits over the years, the increase in direct verbal communication between my father and the dogs, as though he wanted to share his thoughts with them and even sought their input, their approval. Was this part of a natural evolution in the relationship between a man and his dogs or was it a sign of isolation and loneliness?" (p. 151)

"...professional experience has taught me that I often fare better after a thorny encounter if I use preemptive communication. My inquiry as to his dog's health caught him off guard but, begrudgingly, he sounded somewhat grateful for the follow-up." (p. 233)

Not only are chocolate and alcohol poisonous to dogs but also ground-coffee. (pp. 264-265)

This book is a keeper. Buy copies for friends or loan your copy out but be sure that you get it back. It is worth rereading.
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113 reviews
June 14, 2017
I enjoy Nick Trout's writing. His stories are funny, sad, and touching in equal measure. The criticism I have on this book isn't with the writing or form of the story, but rather a choice that Nick Trout made. He promotes animal rescue and is on the board of an animal rescue organization. However, he has two purebred dogs, and while it's not elaborated upon where the first one was obtained, the second was from a breeder (presumably the first was as well). He makes the excuse that his sick daughter wanted a purebred yellow lab puppy, and if the dog were for him, he'd adopt from a rescue, but he couldn't let his daughter down who kept repeating, "Yellow and Labrador." I feel like this could have been a really good teaching moment for him. 1) Dogs should not be obtained solely for their appearance. The dog's temperament is a much better indication of a good fit for a family as opposed to "but she's so cute!" 2) Rescuing a dog saves 2 lives. You save the life of the dog that you adopt, and by adopting you make room for that shelter to be able to rescue another. Having a sick daughter is not an excuse to give into her every whim. You would think a sick child could understand the importance of saving a life in a way that a healthy child couldn't.

Nick Trout portrays rescue dogs as being defective (a rescue dog wouldn't be good enough for his daughter!) and dogs from a breeder as being perfect. I would argue that point as purebreds often have more health problems due to generations of inbreeding. I have 3 mixed breed rescue dogs myself, and I can attest to the fact that they make wonderful family pets. Dogs don't end up in shelters because they failed their humans. They end up in shelters because humans failed them. With the vast numbers of dogs that are euthanized every single day in shelters across the US, I cannot justify anyone going to a breeder for a family pet. Shame on you Nick Trout!
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Author 11 books116 followers
August 30, 2021
I’ve always been a fan of Nick Trout’s animal stories, so I really enjoyed this engaging and touching story of the authors life. It really makes you think about the effect we have on our loved ones, and how important it is to hold these relationships dear.
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2,470 reviews79 followers
September 6, 2019
Nick Trout is a veterinarian who was born and raised in England but moved to the States after vet school graduation. While Duncan, his father, was pleased and proud his son wanted to be a vet, Duncan had dreams of him living the country life of James Herriot. Alas, this wasn't meant to be because Nick moved to the States, fell in love and got married and made a life there.

When Nick was young, Duncan loved dogs but his mother did not. After a lot of convincing, the family finally got a German Shepherd named Patch. Unfortunately Patch wasn't trained well and wasn't very social around people or other dogs. But Duncan loved Patch and Patch was definitely Duncan's dog. After Patch's passing, his family got two more dogs, Whiskey and Bess. Whiskey and Bess loved Duncan and again they were definitely his dogs.

Nick moved to the States and met Kathy, who had a young daughter named Whitney and a cat named Reggie. Nick was never a "cat person" and it took a long time for Reggie to warm up to Nick. A small dog named Sophie came into the family and became Whitney's dog. Their younger daughter, Emily, has cystic fibrosis and wanted a dog of her own so that's how Meg, a golden lab, came into their lives.

This book is about the pets Nick has had in his life, including his grandmothers' dogs (one dog was nice and the other was nasty) and the lessons he'd learned from them and the experiences he's had with them. I like reading books about animals and have read a couple others by this author. I liked the writing style ... it was funny at times. I found his stories and experiences interesting.

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1,006 reviews
December 11, 2019
I am a sucker for dog books, but they have to be good else it just ticks me off, like the author did not do the animals justice. This book is better than good and explores more than just the human-dog relationship. I love a dog-lover, you know them right away, the way they catch and appreciate "dogisms" like bringing a toy to share with a visitor. My favorite in this book is the one with Sophie and the stuffed animals - hilarious and so very dog.
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488 reviews19 followers
December 6, 2019
Sweet, light, quick. Not especially deep or profound, but just a nice read. They don't all need to be profound or intense, do they?
260 reviews
January 22, 2021
Such a good feel book about animals, mostly dogs and a cat, family and the love between them.
Feels a bit like All Creatures Great and Small, but more about family.
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July 23, 2021
Boy, can I relate to so many of the stories in this book!! Enjoyed this humorous and touching memoir!
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March 5, 2025
Very nice memoir by a British man who grew up to be a veterinarian and went to vet school and practiced medicine on pets in the United States. The book is a tribute to his father and the dogs in their families life, his parents life after Nick moved away to the US for school. Each dog has a personality and it weaves in the parents personalities as well as Nick's sister growing up (she never wanted a dog).

Later in the book it passes through periods of his life when he marries his wife who has a daughter about 7 and they then have their own child. Despite pre-natal testing, their daughter is born with Cystic Fibrosis which is a sad part of the book and a shock. CF limits one's life span significantly and brings the parents into a world of medicine for their own child completely separate from being a vet. That said Nick as an animal physician would understand more than 99 % of the population accordingly to his education and experience.

This was a gentle memoir that the father always wanted Nick to grow up and be a vet in the Yorkshire Dales. That is where the parents ultimately retired to within a tiny village. Nick's Dad had visions of walking in the Dales with dogs and watching his son treat horses and cows, sheeps and assorted "Dale creatures". Nick instead became a most talented vet surgeon within a well respected practice in the Boston area.

I intend to read Nick's next book entitled "Tell Me Where it Hurts" which was his original book. I like his writing style and gentle humor. While he isn't James Herriot and talks about him several times in the book, his flavor of writing is along the same lines.
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1,292 reviews
September 5, 2019
Read this for the library reading challenge to read a book with an animal on the cover, or as a main character. We listened to most of it, but the last disc skipped so badly, I had to finish the book by reading the paper copy.

Trout channels James Herriott in this memoir about the dogs and pets in his life. But it is also a heartwarming story about his relationships, especially with his father.

After being without a dog for several years, I thought this might trigger a renewed interest in getting another collie. Yes, my husband has been online looking for one.

Suggest this book for people wanting a heartwarming book, who can handle pets dying, for pet lovers, set mostly in England countryside.
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43 reviews
March 19, 2023
Another amazing work by a thoughtful author.
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327 reviews
February 15, 2024
As always, I really like the books Nick Trout writes, whether they are fiction or non-fiction. The references to All Creatures Great and Small and James Herriott were wonderful. And the dogs were great. I loved the Lab Mix and Golden Retriever duo. I watched All Creatures Great and Small (and loved the books) years ago...makes me want to watch the series again.
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2,213 reviews140 followers
December 3, 2011
Dr. Nick Trout is a veterinary surgeon practicing at Boston's MSPCA Angell Animal Medical Center. He's written some charming books about his experiences with patients; this is an equally charming book about his experiences with his own pets, from the first much-loved but inadequately socialized German shepherd growing up in England, to current pets shared with wife and daughters here in New England.

In addition to the family pets, we meet Trout's family, his dog-loving father, and dog-tolerating mother and sister. If the mother is somewhat more than "tolerant" of dogs, and plays an active role in choosing at least some of those dogs, she's not going to admit it. At least not for many years!

His father, though, is a real dog-lover, although many "dog people" will cringe at the lack of training the Trout family dogs receive. He's also a huge fan of James Herriot, reading the books and watching the BBC tv series religiously, and is thrilled as Nick becomes interested in a veterinary career. He comes to imagine a future with Nick as a country vet a la Herriot, and himself as Nick's practice manager, in the Yorkshire countryside. It's a vision that Nick doesn't embrace, especially once he's in veterinary school and discovers the challenge and attraction of veterinary surgery. This creates a certain amount of tension between them, and the elder Trout creates a bit more pressure with his insistence that Nick give the the two current dogs a "once over" on each visit home, long before Nick has any real veterinary knowledge, and despite the fact that the male in particular is not very tolerant of being examined.

But this is a loving, devoted family. Nick's father wants what's best for him, even when it means giving up his own dream of managing his son's country practice--and even when it means his son moves across an ocean to be a veterinary surgeon in America. Nick learns from his father's dogs, and from his father. And they maintain a close connection even when an ocean apart.

America brings him new experiences, not just in surgery, but in the form of a wife, daughters, and even the new and startling experience of cats as pets. This is a warm and loving memoir, and a different side of Nick Trout than we see in his other books.

Recommended.
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Author 38 books398 followers
December 26, 2010
"Ever By My Side" is the second of Nick Trout's books that I have read. Trout writes not only about his veterinary practice in this volume, but also about the pets in his own life.

Starting with childhood dog Patch and moving up through pets belonging to his own daughters, Trout explores the human-animal bond in the context of his own family. Amusing anecdotes about his father's obsession with James Herriott and Yorkshire abound, including how those obsessions did (or, in some cases, did not) influence Trout to become a veterinarian.

Those who love pets will be sure to recognize themselves in many of the stories Trout shares, as he works to ingratiate himself with his fiancee's cat, Reggie, or as he shares his terror of childhood nemesis Marty, a toy poodle belonging to his grandmother. There are tender moments and funny moments, all written from the compassionate perspective of one who has chosen to heal our animal friends.

Highly recommended.

(Review based on uncorrected advance proof.)
319 reviews6 followers
February 15, 2011
Thank you goodreads for sending me a copy of the book, "Ever by My Side: A Memoir in Eight [Acts]Pets". In anticipation of Dr. Trout's new book and seeing his first two books (one on goodreads), this is now the third book that I have read. After reading all three books in a short time span, I thought that there was some repetition in the books. After the first two books I had anticipated much of the same type of book with veterarian stories to laugh and cry about (being a dog lover). This book, however, this was more about how Dr. Trouts's dogs, throughout his life had influenced his family. At first, I was disappointed that is was not what I had anticipated, but after getting over that, I truly enjoyed his life story growing up wuth dogs. I even could relate to how when growing up and going to the vet, we had a cocker spainiel from "Hell", who we had to bring in the back door of the vet's office because he was so out of control. I had thought who else would ever have to do this. I hope Dr. Trout's next book lives up to his reputation.
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1,395 reviews19 followers
March 19, 2018
If you love animals you will love Trout's books. I have read them all. This one is a memoir around the theme of animals he has lived with and loved, primarily dogs. It's also about his deep relationship with his father who has an equally deep relationship with his dogs. His writing is both funny and compelling. He has a great empathy for people and animals alike. PS. You should also read his mystery. They're great as well.
PPS. One note of criticism. While he accords animals with respect and dignity, he continues to refer to them as "pets" and humans as their "owners." I don't believe that we can own someone else (except within the institution of slavery where we find so many animals today). All animals are their own beings and if they choose to live with us, we don't own them. We share our lives with them, much as we do with children, friends and partners.
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1,674 reviews145 followers
October 10, 2016
I have Nick Trout's first book on my TBR list, though I haven't read it yet. This is his third memoir, focusing on how the pets of his family influenced not only his career decision to become a veterinarian, but how his relationships with the animals, and his observations of others' (especially his father) informed his philosophy of animal-human interaction and relationships. This book made me really reflect on my own connection to my pets. A really well-written, engaging book that is both bittersweet as animals leave Trout's life, but also hopeful as it explores all that or pets add to our lives.

Review copy courtesy of the publisher via Goodreads First Reads
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76 reviews
January 22, 2011
I loved it! Anyone who loves pets will love this book. I found it interesting that his Dad fixated on All Creatures Great and Small (another book I loved...series too). Although this was a book by a veterinarian, it was quite different from other books by veterinarians because it seemed he told his story through his pets rather than through his patients. At times it made me laugh and at times it was quite sad. It makes me hope he continues to write books so I can see what happens next, and I will definately have to read his two previous books.
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2,948 reviews94 followers
August 24, 2015
Nick Trout may not have followed in James Herriot's exact footsteps like his father secretly hoped, but he did come up with the best possible way to structure a memoir, fitting his narrative around his relationship with various family pets from childhood to present day. The animals are at the forefront of each chapter, but he also highlights strong family bonds and gives us a glimpse into his training and early career as a veterinarian. And I must say, he has had a lot of excellent pets in his life. I loved reading about all of them.
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2,144 reviews53 followers
February 13, 2011
I would give this a 3 1/2 stars if I could, because I have very strict standards about rating. 5 stars is reserved for War and Peace and Tolkien. 4 stars for Eddings and Brooks. I definitely enjoyed this book, because I practically read it in one sitting. Nick Trout is Vet trained at Cambridge, but settled in the US. This memoir is based on his family's dogs, and how they effected his life. I will read more of him.
392 reviews
April 9, 2011
I enjoyed this book and the descriptions of the personality traits of the different breeds. I've owned a German Shepherd and I shed a tear or two about my mine who had an attitude but was my 14 year loyal friend and protector. I currently have a goofy yellow Lab who is "desparate to please" as the author stated in the book about his Lab. This book also explores human relationships. It was a nice break from reading fiction.
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200 reviews23 followers
February 2, 2011
As an animal lover, I was excited to read this book, and it did not disappoint. It was easy to relate to Trout's compassion for all types of animals, and I found myself crying during several parts. In addition, the format was easy to read, a perfect example of a memoir. I am a teacher, and can't wait to share this book with my students. Anyone who has ever had a pet should read this book!
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197 reviews5 followers
October 29, 2020
For how much I love "Tell Me Where It Hurts", I was disappointed by this one. I actually read it twice; one when I first bought it and again just now as I'm trying to purge the shelves of books I won't read again....

It was okay... but just okay.... nothing memorable for me :o(

Giving this one away...
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65 reviews33 followers
February 17, 2011
I won this book from a Goodreads giveaway. I'm not very good at reviews but I can write a little one for you all! If you are a dog lover, then this is a book for you. It shows a kid growing up wanting to be a veterinarian. This book has a lot of love with dogs.
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1,002 reviews4 followers
March 30, 2011
This audio combined two of my favorite things: stories about pets read by a guy with a British accent. What's not to like? Especially since most of the stories were about dogs. Trout made a lot of points that are worth reflecting on for those who love their pets.
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