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In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior

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It's 3:30 a.m. and Kevin is still online, absorbed in pornographic images flashing across his computer screen, and searching for more. Hours ago he tucked his children into bed and said good night to his wife, retreating to the computer to "finish up some work." Although his late night ritual leaves Kevin ashamed and exhausted, he is too embarassed and guild-ridden to seek ...more
Paperback, 256 pages
Published February 24th 2004 by Hazelden (first published April 1st 2001)
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Sep 10, 2012 rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: therapists, sex addicts, loved ones of sex addicts
As a mental health therapist working in the community mental health system, I'm constantly challenged by a myriad of presenting problems clients would like to work on in therapy. While I've been working in the field of co-occurring disorders (ie, addiction and mental health)since 2005, there are certain disorders I'm very skilled in and others I have very little knowledge or experience to draw from.

I'd venture to guess that an individual presenting to therapy is confident that their therapist c
Aug 14, 2011 marked it as to-read
I very seldom read non-fiction. But every now and then I need to brush up on the human condition. This book is very relevant to our times. It would not have existed 20 years ago. That alone says a lot.
Oct 02, 2008 rated it liked it
This book is extremely similar to Carnes' other book "Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction". The book contains some of the same passages almost verbatim. This book gives interesting case studies and a 12 step program, adapted from A.A.'s 12 steps. I would say that if you read "Out of the Shadows" there really is not a need to read this book as well. Basically the main premises of the book is that sex addicts form distorted relationships with the act of sex not with people. The twelve ...more
Jan 23, 2009 rated it it was amazing
Shelves: spiritual, self-help
Yeah, so to those friends who don't know, I guess this is as good a place to confess as any. Brilliant book, and probably should be read by anyone who finds themselves, or a loved one, with a problem with internet pornography. Insightful, well-researched, and moving. Helped save my sanity and my marriage. I'll probably be reading it again soon. (On a side note, if any of my friends are surprised about this, give me a call, I have no secrets from friends!)
Jul 02, 2012 rated it it was ok
Read for a research project on sex addiction.
Oct 14, 2012 rated it it was ok
Seems a little dated from a technology perspective but some good insight. Read Out of the Shadows before this one.
Randy Weled
A good read for someone looking at whether they have a problem with porn. Some good exercises that therapists might use with their clients. In some ways it seemed very elementary.
Jan 02, 2015 rated it liked it
It's a good read if you or someone you know struggled with online porn. It will open your eyes to realities of what it's doing to the brain, how it destroys real relationships, and how easily it escalates into extreme sexual problems and crimes (it's full of real life stories). But I also felt like it was a little heavy on the "horrifying stories", while being light on the "how to help". I felt like I was just left feeling sickened, instead of hopeful. I think it was good to add the the collecti ...more
Aug 14, 2015 rated it really liked it
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Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D., is an internationally known authority and speaker on addiction and recovery issues. He has authored over twenty books including the bestselling titles Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction, Facing the Shadow, Betrayal Bond, Don’t Call It Love, A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps and The Gentle Path through the Twelve Principles.

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