This revised edition is designed to be used as a primer by the non-professional as well as any kind of counsellor. Some of the issues covered include personality disorders, practical steps, morals & counselling, & religion & mental health. Foreword Acknowledgments Introduction The source of personality problems A picture of personality Empathy--key to the counseling process Reading character Setting up a counseling program Confession & interpretation The transforming of personality Personality of the counselor Morals & counseling Religion & mental health References & Notes Bibliography Index
Rollo May (April 21, 1909 – October 22, 1994) was an American existential psychologist. He authored the influential book Love and Will during 1969.
Although he is often associated with humanistic psychology, his philosophy was influenced strongly by existentialist philosophy. May was a close friend of the theologian Paul Tillich. His works include Love and Will and The Courage to Create, the latter title honoring Tillich's The Courage to Be.
Biography May was born in Ada, Ohio in 1909. He experienced a difficult childhood, with his parents divorcing and his sister becoming schizophrenic. His educational career took him to Michigan State College majoring in English and Oberlin College for a bachelor's degree, teaching for a time in Greece, to Union Theological Seminary for a BD during 1938, and finally to Teachers College, Columbia University for a PhD in clinical psychology during 1949. May was a founder and faculty member of Saybrook Graduate School and Research Center in San Francisco.[1]
He spent the final years of his life in Tiburon on San Francisco Bay, where he died in October 1994.
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May was influenced by American humanism, and interested in reconciling existential psychology with other philosophies, especially Freud's.
May considered Otto Rank (1884-1939) to be the most important precursor of existential therapy. Shortly before his death, May wrote the foreword to Robert Kramer's edited collection of Rank’s American lectures. “I have long considered Otto Rank to be the great unacknowledged genius in Freud’s circle,” wrote May (Rank, 1996, p. xi).
May used some traditional existential terms in a slightly different fashion than others, and he invented new words for traditional existentialist concepts. Destiny, for example, could be "thrownness" combined with "fallenness" — the part of our lives that is determined for us, for the purpose of creating our lives. He also used the word "courage" to signify resisting anxiety.
He defined certain "stages" of development:
Innocence – the pre-egoic, pre-self-conscious stage of the infant. An innocent is only doing what he or she must do. However, an innocent does have a degree of will in the sense of a drive to fulfill needs.
Rebellion – the rebellious person wants freedom, but does not yet have a good understanding of the responsibility that goes with it. Decision – The person is in a transition stage in their life such that they need to be more independent from their parents and settle into the "ordinary stage". In this stage they must decide what to do with their life, and fulfilling rebellious needs from the rebellious stage. Ordinary – the normal adult ego learned responsibility, but finds it too demanding, and so seeks refuge in conformity and traditional values. Creative – the authentic adult, the existential stage, self-actualizing and transcending simple egocentrism. These are not "stages" in the traditional sense. A child may certainly be innocent, ordinary or creative at times; an adult may be rebellious. The only association with certain ages is in terms of importance: rebelliousness is more important for a two year old or a teenager.
May perceived the sexual mores of the 1960s and 1970s, as well as commercialization of sex and pornography, as having influenced society such that people believed that love and sex are no longer associated directly. According to May, emotion has become separated from reason, making it acceptable socially to seek sexual relationships and avoid the natural drive to relate to another person and create new life. May believed that sexual freedom can cause modern society to neglect more important psychological developments. May suggests that the only way to remedy the cynical ideas that characterize our times is to rediscover the importance of caring for another, which May describes as the opposite of apathy.
His first book, The Meaning of Anxiety, was based on his d
ثمة كثير من الحكمة في هذا الكتاب وفي تحليله للتدين كسلوك بشري، وفي اعتباره للأخلاق كتجربة فردانية وامتحان لكل إنسان على حدة مع عدم السقوط في هوة النسبية التي يضيع في ظلامها كل نور تقدر المعاني على إكسابه.
وكذلك رؤيته للدين كموقف من الوجود (وهو ما عبر عنه بحكمة واقتدار كذلك بيجوفيتش رحمه الله)، وكيف أن الإلحاد الحقيقي انتحار للمعنى، وفقدان للبوصلة بشكل لا يبقى معه اعتبار معقول للأخلاق أو للصحة النفسية.
وتفرقته بين الدين كمعنى مطلق، والتدين كسلوك فردي جزئي مهم، وكذلك الإشارات المفيدة عن حساسية استخدام الدين في مشاكل النفس، وحساسية النصيحة من موقف أخلاقي متعالي.
May's gives a brief and clear overview of counseling. He discusses how personality problems and neuroticism stem from the lack of adjustment in the personality. He covers some personality theory with ideas from Freud, Jung, and Adler and how these ideas guide how a counselor can help a client. Next, he covers the key to counseling: emapathy. In the second section, he discusses guidelines, not absolute rules, about reading character in terms of nonverbal communication and family backgrounds. He also talks about how to set up effective counseling programs and a bit of logistics. An important part of the counseling process he covers is the confession of the client, and how a counselor can help the client's interpretation of their confession. In transforming personality, a counselor must not give advice, but suggest and direct the client to creative and constructive outlets. In the third section, May writes counselors must understand themselves. As for morals and counseling, instinctual urges shouldn't be deemed immoral, but accepted and used constructively in self-expression and guided by a universal structure which May argues is religion. And finally, May writes about relgion being used neurotically in separating oneself from others, and how it should be used to form closer attachments with others. I didn't particularly agree with his view on using Christianity as the sole guiding structure, though I see its value and agree that self-expression should be directed with a structure, but a subjective, unique structure which can accomodate those with diverse belief systems. Regardless, May's humanistic and existential ideas have implications for personal growth.
مش بسهولة بقدر أدي أي كتاب 5 نجوم كده. بس الكتاب ده مختلف جدا جدا..هو كتاب.رائع للمبدأين في المشورة أو مهتمين بالمجال ده. رولو ماي من علماء اللي علي اكتفاهم قام و تطور علم المشورة...شفت في الكتاب قدسية الانسان و ان يعني ايه المه دي مقدس و ازاي كبشر مفروض نسند بعض و ايه ضرورة كل خطوة و انا بعلمها و انه يعني احترم الاخر....اري انه خطوة جيدة لمن مهتم بالأمر. كتاب ده مقرر علي في ماجيستير المشورة مفروض اطلع منه 25 معلومة بس انا لو اطول اكتب 1000 ....انا ملونة كتاب كله اصلا و مخططاه...شكرا رولو ماي علي الانسانية
I love this book. Rollo May has a beautiful spirit. He sees the role of the counselor not to mold the client, but to free the client to express and become themselves. He recognizes empathy as being so tuned into the state of another person that you lose your own sense of identity. He recognizes the influence of both biology and society on the development of humans and human relationships, and gives counselors tools for helping their clients to understand these influences.
بوصفي مُشيرًا أتحت له الفرصة للإستمرار في الكلام، فاستمرّ كي يشرح لي عدم رضاه عن العمل الدّيني في الجامعه فقد كان ينقصه "الحميه" على حد تعبيره، وعبّر عن رغبته في الإنخراط في العمل الطّلابي وإصلاحه وعند هذه النّقطة كان صوته يجيش بالمشاعر بعد أن كان في البداية هادئًا مُنْضبطًا، كان كما هو واضح شخص شديد التّدين بالمعنى المعتاد للكلمه .. سألته عن صداقاته الدّائمة وهي منطقة ذات دلالة هامّه في حالات عدم تكيف الشخصيه: أجاب جورج أنه يشعر بالوحده في الجامعه، كان من الواضح أن هذا الشّاب يقترب من أزمه محققه في خضم تطور شخصيته الواضح، وأثناء هذا الشّهر كانت حالته تزْداد سوءًا.. يضم الكتاب ثلاثة أجزاء، يتحدّث الكاتب في الجزء الأول عن الشخصية ومصدر مشاكل الشخصية وكيفية تكونها حيث يناقش الكاتب سؤال يطرح دائمًا عن إذا ما كانت الشخصية قدر محتوم على صاحبها كما قال فرويد، أم أن الحرية الشخصية وإمكانية التغير هي الأصح لكونها عماد علم النفس الحديث؟ وفي الجزء الثّاني يتناول ببراعة وسلاسة خطوات ومكونات العملية المشورية والعلاقة المشورية وكيفية الحصول على التغير في الشخصية، أما عن الجزء الأخير في الكتاب فيتناول "رولو ماي" شخصية المشير ومواصفاته، والأخلاق والمشورة، كما ويطرح عدة أفكار أصيلة ومتميزة بشأن العلاقة بين الدين وعلم النفس يقدم فيه احتياج علم النفس للدين للحصول على المعنى.
I learned a lot from this book. Hence the 5-Star rating. I completely disagree with the author’s viewpoint in the last chapter on Religion and Mental Health about Atheism. He defines atheism in his own way (as the “theoretical formulation of the discouraged life”). It sounds very condescending (this was published in 1939 originally). Other than that I felt it was a very worthwhile book and a good recommendation for anyone dealing with people in a counseling situation but not going on to become a Psychologist or Psychiatrist.
The Art of Counselling atau lebih tepatnya Seni Konseling. mungkin karena penulisnya adalah seorang Psikoterapis. jadi pembahasannya lebih banyak tentang gangguan Abnormalitas Konseli. menurut saya pembahasannya agak sedikit filosofis, jadi akan lebih baik kalau memahami dulu konsep dasar Psikoterapi sebelum membaca buku ini. buku ini memang sudah tidak terbit lagi. buku yang saya baca ini adalah cetakan ketiga yang diterbitkan sekitar satu dekade yang lalu. kalau dilihat dari daftar isinya menarik memang. dari mulai mulai hakikat Transformasi kepribadian, membaca karakter hingga Agama dan Kesehatan Mental.
lebih dalam, buku ini seakan lebih mendukung teori Psikoanalisa Sigmund Freud ketimbang Psikoanalitis Carl Gustav Jung. Padahal biasanya buku-buku Rollo May yang saya baca sebelumnya itu kebanyakan lebih mendukung teori Carl Gustav Jung Ketimbang Sigmund Freud. well. tetapi buku ini bagus untuk referensi terlebih bagi siapapun yang sedang menyusun tugas akhir kuliah bidang Psikologi, Bimbingan Konseling dan Tasawuf Psikoterapi. karena buku ini sudah langka.
Моя психотерапевтка порадила мені цю книгу, коли я запитала у неї про віру та психотерапію. До цього мені чомусь здавалося що більшість терапевтів не вірять в Бога і я хотіла більше дослідити це питання. В своїй книзі Роло Мей дуже цікаво та глибоко пояснює важливість віри для психологічного здоров’я людини і його тези дуже відгукуються і у мені.
Але загалом книга не тільки про це. В ній розповідається про те, які якості потрібні консультанту, а також про те, чим є й чим не є психологічне консультування. Про перешкоди на шляху до психологічного здоров‘я та які шляхи для їх подолання можуть бути успішними.
Мені дуже сподобалась книга і я знайшла в ній багато корисних та цікавих думок. Єдиний мінус для мене - написана вона трохи заскладно, не в плані спеціальних термінів чи складних ідей, але в плані побудови речень та складних оборотів. Тому читала я її дуже довго, не зважаючи на її невеличкий об‘єм.
In generale è un libro valido: l'autore è decisamente competente e possiede un autentico desiderio di aiutare gli altri, il tono è fluido e piacevole. L'unico serio appunto riguarda la posizione religiosa dell'autore, che lo porta ad esserne condizionato nella sua visione e ad alcuni pregiudizi. Ad esempio, ritiene inevitabili i sensi di colpa (cita persino il deprecabile "peccato originale"), confonde l'ateismo col nichilismo (secondo l'autore, ogni ateo è privo di speranza), e ritiene la religione necessaria per trovare un senso e un benessere. Per il resto, è un'ottima introduzione ad alcuni elementi chiave del counseling.
Exceptional in many ways, downright daft in some others.
The emphasis on religion and collectivism seems out of place and outright biased, and opposed to apparent principles of not telling the 'counselee' what to do or to force something upon him, yet at the same time, May argues that one cannot develop as a person without religion and god.
While in some parts one might take this religion and "god" in the sense of a Spinozaist spin, other times it's just outright religion.
On the other hand, many other aspects of the book seem impressively up to date, which makes it a shame that we've progressed so little in so much time.
Еще одна книжка по психологии. Дает понять что такое работа психолога и заодно интересно рассказывает о человеческой психике.
Ну как интересно, рассказывает-то убого, а вот сами мысли интересные.
Перевод так себе.
И главное.
Ролло.
Мэй.
Я, блядь, понял что ты верующий. Сука, ну нахуя мне абзацы (или даже целые главы) о том что, блядь, видите ли, только, сука, истинно верующий человек может стать хорошим психологом, блядь, отъебись со своей верой. Я понял, хватит. Нахуя в конце еще страниц 40 про религию.
В вере в бога нет ничего плохого. Плохо только навязывать ее без просьбы.
This book, I can imagine, will have been very popular in 1939 but, for me, it just fell a bit flat. The blurb promising ‘a timeless, accessible guide to giving good counsel,’ the title of the book and even the beautifully designed front cover lulled me into a false sense of excitement.
Perhaps I just wasn’t in the right mind set and there was tension in my psyche or maybe I had read too many books on the topic to learn anything new.
What I did love for a book of its age however is the emphasis on empathy and how giving advice seldom brings ‘results.’
It was well done but simple. Rollo is clearly synthesizing those who came before with some of his existentialist ideas. He's big on religion and anti-neurosis....and he can be a bit glib at times. however there something deeply sincere about his attempts to understand people and he is deeply humane in the way he relates the tales of clients. Its not a technical or deep book, but it provides some good ideas, on freedom personality and religion, and is fairly enjoyable to read.
The tone of this book is gentle in approaching the topic of counselling, covering all the usual suspects: develop the self, have empathy, encourage creative breakthroughs in counselee. What made this a 5/5 book was the last chapter discussing the intersection between religion and mental health. Rollo May points out how overt practice of religion (or the lack of) indicate a person’s maladaptation, and I think this is one nuanced view that badly needs to be expressed more in today’s world.
في الحقيقة لم يعجبني فكر الكاتب رغم اعجابي و استفادتي من ثراء الكتاب
أري بين طيات الكتاب نزعة للحكم تحت غطاء التوصيف و التحليل و ذاتية شديدة اثناء حديثه ،
رغم ان الكاتب انتقد كلاهما اثناء حديثه عن المشورة
في الحقيقة أري في أغلب التحليليين نزعة للحكم و منظور سلبي لشخصية المرء يميل للإدانة و الحكم علي دوافعهم في كل صغيرة و كبيرة بداعي و بلا داعي... رأيت بعض من هذا في تحليله للأمثلة التي ذكرها !
من الكتب الرئيسيه للناس اللي بتحب المشوره ، كتاب رائع جدا و طريقته سهله ، و بعيدا عن المشوره الكتاب علي الجانب الانساني بيعطي للقاريء بعد انساني جديد جدا و مختلف في التواصل الانساني بينا و بين بعض ، برشحه للمشوره و كمان لمزيد من التواصل المبني علي فهم حقيقي للنفس البشريه
نقطة الضعف من وجهة نظري ان مفيش تجميع للنقط في اخر كل فصل
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This little book is both dated and rich in theoretical and practical insight. I highly recommend it for anyone who counsels others, professionally or informally.
DNF : Because this book is dated and I'm in graduate school right now for a field similar to counseling psychology, I could not get into or finish this book. He made some very good points but the writing style isn't for me.
Insightful information associated with counselling. May delves into interesting aspects linked to counselling, such as: empathy, neurotic personality, tensions in personality, character reading, understanding of oneself, and more. Recommend for those intrigued by counselling.