Maybe the best book I've read so far on trying to make connections between healing in therapeutic settings and structural, social change/collective healing. Even when I wasn't sure that I agreed with some of the specific arguments, I was always sure that this was the quality of thinking and of questions that are desperately needed. I learned a tremendous amount. She did some of her professional studies at the same graduate school I attended (CIIS) and I wish she had named names but she didn't. LOL.
P1. We were trained within and for the System. No matter the oppressive system – we are Gatekeepers (and decently paid ones) in those systems. So, let us begin…
P2. May we find new language rooted in healing justice and possibility. May we have fun cocreating new ways of relating and calling in.
P4. May we make space for big feelings, old teachings and new ways of implementing our elders’ medicines.
P6. We contain and metabolize suffering into possibility.
P8. Any of us who studied Freudian psychoanalysis are familiar with the Oedipus complex and the mother wound. It was like psychology and the practice of therapy were not giving me what I needed, psychotherapy became the “good enough mother.” But like any healthy relationship, I realized that one practice, modality, philosophy, or person couldn’t possibly give me everything I needed; it was not possible.
P11. What would it look like to be able to trust that the care, interventions, treatments, and support received would not just care for the individual, but would also be care-filled for the larger community and the Earth?
P23. Decolonization is unsettling.
P25 To being a great sponge of a student to help deal with the emptiness inside. To understanding how effective therapy cannot be delivered without some form of therapeutic activism.
P31 To convey that decolonizing therapy is the process of collective shadow work. <>
P34 Community, connection, creativity, ancestral engagement, sensuality, energetic boundaries, and joy all combat colonial practices and mentality. […]
We seek to divest from pathology-centered engagement into an ancestral-healig engagement. […]
What combats trauma is abundant collective joy. […]. From Feeding Your Demons […] “The way to change things is to address the underlying issue, through feeding our demons, what they actually need instead of what they seem to want.”
40 Colonization is the core wound – the separation from Home.
44 It involves a return to a more authentic and deeply felt part of ourselves that allows people to fully assimilate their histories and the lived experience of their families and communities.
45 […] pathologizing big emotions that are merely healthy responses to abusive behaviors. […] Emotional decolonization involves coming to awareness, unlearning, grieving, raging, and divesting (slowly) from the lies we have been told by colonizers, perpetuated by a white-centered lens.
46 It is part of our job, historically, to care for the wellness of the village and the children […]
63 […] even more pressing is the need to know one’s self and one’s history as much as possible. It will bring us back Home again.
65 It is our birthright to be free, on our homelands, growing crops, being healthy, and being in relationship with one another. <>
69 […] safety […] Who gets to be safe?
78 […] colonization speaks to the root of the dis-ease […] in this sense of being landless, parent-less, unlovable, and unseen. […] For example, a mental health practitioner may work on relational issues with a person, focusing on childhood events, abandonment, abuse, attachments, and family dynamics – which are all relevant and can be important. However, if ancestry, homeland, mother tongue, or a disconnect from any of these aspects of culture and current political climate are not discussed, then the therapy is incomplete.
79 We victim-blame by focusing on personal deficiencies and trauma, rather than structural violence.
96 Where is Home to you? What is your relationship to that Home?
97 Cultural and historical trauma lead to body and land dissociation. Therefore, it is imperative to begin the emotional-decolonial process with oneself primarily.
102 For the most part, people with colonized histories have been “diagnosed and treated” through a Western, individualistic, patriarchal, and oppressive lens.
103 […] “instilling fear was believed to be the best way to restore a disordered mind to reason” (Walinga and Stangor, 2020).
106 […] advertisement […] 1974 show “an angry” African American man with his fist raised in the air and the caption “Angry and belligerent? Cooperation often begins with Haldol” (Metzl, 2010).
119 The history of the counselor, clinician, therapist, social worker […] is VIOLENT. Separating families. Assisting at interrogations and torture. Drugging the youth and our older adults to “keep them quiet.”
128 Maybe we can note when they had felt this way before and who they called for support. […] expressions, as opposed to symptoms.
135 This ache for home manifests itself in the present. This can look and feel disorganized and result in confusion, lethargy, apathy, loneliness, and even a dissociative quality can arise (to use colonial psychology terminology). This is much like the chemical imbalance that psychology and other fields calls depression.
137 Medicalization and rugged individualism support late-stage capitalism through pathologization of big emotions and attempting to medicate big emotions that are a result of the suffering from systemic inequalities and lateral violence. We cannot diagnose without context.
147 [DSM]. This leads us to simply ask, “What is normal, and who gains from creating definitions and continuums of what is considered normal?”
148 The Western conception of what is “normal” deliberately excludes the experiences and pain of POC. […] turns it into a disease or a disorder, inflicting further harm and sustaining the cycle of colonization.
149 Critics of ADHD see it as nothing more than a list of all the behaviors that annoy teachers and require extra attention in the classroom.
156 You cannot self-care or self-love your way out of systemic oppression. <>
Community care is beautiful […] yet it is not the antidote for systems that continue to kill us. The mental health fields were created to support and justify dehumanizing the less productive for a more profit-driven society. <>
160. Research is highlighting what communities of color have known for eons, that intense behavioral expressions are rational responses to their environment and helps to keep them safe. […] As Harris (2021) beautifully states: “The solution is to change the environment that produces such trauma.”
178 Although traditional mental health models ask us to look within, and to alter or shift our thoughts for a more “stable outcome,” the fact remains that Freud, Charcot, Ellis, Bandura, Fitz, Klein, Mahler, Rank, Linchan, and others all sidestepped a fundamental truth – that there are and continue to be deeply impactful effects of settler and emotional colonization that have been passed on to us.
181 The key question remains, “How is the legacy of trauma transmitted in this person, family, community, and/or ancestry?”
187 We are not meant (as practitioners) to hold, be, and heal each participant of therapy alone.
201 “Many children pick up on the defensive structures of traumatized parents. Additionally, the children intuitively absorb the repressed, dissociated, and warded off trauma that lurks behind the aggressive overtones found in many adults’ parenting styles” (Auerhahn & Laub, 1998)
202 […] “over time, the experience of repeated traumatic stressors become normalized and incorporated into the cultural expression and expectations of successive generations.”
205 The attachment styles as a mechanism of transmission are relevant to the trauma of colonization, as colonization breeds disconnect from self and others. <>
207 We can imagine that the ownership of trauma and agony filled with grief, confusion, and rage can create confusion around intergenerational boundaries. In other words, What is mine? What belongs to my family? What belongs to my ancestry? What belongs to my culture? The confusion and blurred boundaries can recreate traumatic effects for the second generation and inadvertently continue to perpetuate violence.
212 Get into the habit of asking therapy participants, “Is this yours?” […] Ask yourself “Is this my sadness?”
232 […] an example of what is possible when we reintegrate and allow our duties and presence as caregivers to be a reflection of what our “professional ancestors” provided: presence, compassion, space to grieve, and ritual as ceremony.
235 […] may our mental health practices and practitioners be fluid, love-centered, flexible, humanizing, fun, accessible, and liberatory.
241 “The trauma has you addicted to the drama” […] “That’s the story line; do you want to stay hooked, or can we go deeper?” […]
If our therapeutic providers are not explaining that family, cultural, and collective histories (which I call ancestral trauma) prior to our birth can be contributing to our dysregulated states, then what are we doing? Rage and grief – on an individual, collective, and ancestral level – must be explored when we are learning to metabolize the trauma stuck in our soma and affecting our psychology.
244 We are not being honest about the root causes of current-day pain – likely because we are uncertain how the past collides with the present […]
248 Grief is just love with no place to go.
252 […] grief reactions are the quite normal symptoms of being distracted, sleepiness, regressive or “acting out” externalized behaviors, as well as bursts of anger and irritability. This is also true for adults; however; children and teenagers have a biologically lessened impulse control. <>
260 Understanding our past can inform, liberate, and bring joy to our future.
271 It is crucial that we engage in a process that reacquaints us with our basic goodness and cultivates our capacity to embrace the ignorance of the world and ourselves with tenderness.
272 Disguises attempt to hide what we fear, but they have a way of creating more fear in our day-to-day lives and in the lives of others. […] Disguises are symbolic of what is ungrieved [….] Disguises are ambassadors of the past – old stories of rage that require our loving attention.
We have unconsciously, or consciously, created aspects of ourselves that are still craving control and the release of rage.
273 <> This is an indictment of how diagnosis was only ever meant to subvert and control.
274 It is important that we apply a lens to critically analyze the fields we so love and protect. Because the people for whom many of us hold space are not receiving what they fully need.
300 One of my favorite practices is to simply ask the participant if they would like to hear/know some insights that are arising.
306 One of my favorite ways to follow up is by asking: “And what do you feel capable and willing to do about this?” <
313 It is irresponsible to be a container for suffering and overwhelm, without also ensuring you are tending to your own energy.
314 I am allowed to release or put down what I cannot hold for the moment.
336 It’s essential to allow ourselves to see love, vulnerability, and the possibility of trust as part of a decolonial frame. Choosing to engage in trust, after centuries of ancestral gaslighting and deep harm takes courage. <>
348 Research tells us that abused children have an innate belief that love can coexist with abuse.
355 Chew on the difference between therapy and healing.
359 What conditioned response do we hold that needs to be observed, and cleared in order to allow ourselves to receive and give in healthy reciprocity?
365 Work from a historical generational wound lens, not just a childhood trauma lens.
P9. Listing of elders and resources for liberation psychologies
P13. ??? to ask self for practitioners
P14. Truth-telling and trauma healing
P41. Compare to Thomas Huebl’s vision of collective healing; also re AEDP – phenomenology taking environment outside into account
66. our own trauma impacting tx of others
75 migration experience
89 the trauma burger
92 intergenerational tree of transmission (and suggestions for practitioners)
109 drapetomania as relates to ADHD, defiance etc.
126 intergenerational trauma requires politicized tx
136 immigrants 80% of NYC asylum 1847-1870
138 oppressive vs anti-oppressive mental health language
143. APA psychology and whiteness (and no engagement with histortical experience of Jewishness as it shifted from Vienna in 30s and 40s vs US in late 20th century)
145 “empirical evidence” (like AEDP phenomenology) as tool to whiteness/coloniality of discipline
153. modern vs decolonized psychology
159 risks to Black people in over-explaining grief and rage to “helpers”
182 Dr. Hickling, Jamaica
184-5. examples of early efforts at decolonial healing
187 collective liberation of all people
203 projective identification and repetition compulsion
215 Freud associates religion with hysteria
216 Ellis research showing religion correlates with mental illness (later research contradicts)
221 rules rx with well-being
222 Maslow’s hierarchy as cultural appropriation
237 when client hears voices (also p307)
239 behavioral diagnoses and white supremacy
257 disenfranchising the legitimacy of grief
258 historical unresolved grief
267. rage vs anger
272 rage types
275 social purpose of sacred rage felt by individual
276. rage & release
279 work w/ rage-grief axis
285. what the spirit wants, what brings healing (quote)
294. redefining/populating psychology canon
296. no critique of Jung… sigh
316. central dialectic of psych trauma
332 professionalism code for white
344. ??? to consider
361 planning as prevention
363 practitioners can have fun
364 encourage group healing spaces/invite joy
366 What else is possible?
387-9 clearing energy between sessions