Although this is a truly amazing and educational book, I'm giving it four stars and not five because I can't recommend it across the board. While it's an extremely valuable resource, this book is controversial and may really upset some people. So I have to take off a star for that.
Within the text itself he mentions multiple times that his opinion is so unpopular that other Indians want to kill him for it. He's a big fan of the Carlisle School, for a specific example. He proclaims the Oglala Sioux the "Best Indian Tribe," for another example of opinions that may not sit well with everybody. He does use the phrase "squaw men" here, to describe white men who are married to Indian women. I've never heard any Native person use the S word in real life.
The story begins with Luther growing up in a tipi village. The first few chapters are anthropologically priceless. He describes in great detail many aspects of traditional Sioux culture that would be hard for me to learn elsewhere. He discusses things like exactly how to construct a tipi, how to live in a tipi in different kinds of weather, how to move a tipi, and how people were considered wealthy or poor based on their ability to move tipi poles of varying sizes. Truly in-depth and a blessing to read. You can smell the smoke from the campfire.
Importantly, he explains about their naming conventions and other cultural values. He discusses a lot of different specific individuals and anecdotes about their lives. It takes quite a while to digest this book if you are to actually think about it, which is what I recommend. I like to tackle these classic books, which are sitting there for free in my Amazon Prime membership, because I'm stunned that such resources exist for the taking. I feel so spoiled at the amount of information languishing untouched in my tablet. One person from this nomadic culture went to a ton of trouble to learn to read and write, and he wrote this book. I feel blessed and lucky.
He also describes everything about their food, and their traditional games, which were gender-segregated. I wasn't always able to visualize what he was describing, because many of the traditional games used, for example, animal bones that I'm not familiar with.
All of that is a priceless cultural resource. And there is much, much more scattered throughout the book, in terms of understanding the general way of things in the Sioux culture. He describes many different incidents, large and small, that show how a variety of different people responded to all kinds of things, and why.
Some of that makes this book a very slow and uneven read. The biggest issue I had with this book was the "grandpa factor." Grandpa tells his stories his own way, you know. They may be stretched out, exaggerated, or lean in one direction or the other. I truly appreciate that he took the time to share all of this information. I took him with a grain of salt. I'm giving the book a 4. I cannot give it a 5 because people may be offended as I explained above.
I notice that Standing Bear is a very competitive guy. Had he lived to see YouTube, he would be the one commenting "First!" on every video.
The much bigger problem, though, is his relationship to "white" culture and the Carlisle School in particular. For me as a white person whose family immigrated more recently, it's cringe for me to be lumped in with the white people we also assimilated to. Because for one thing, I don't share Standing Bear's fascination with their culture. And it pains me, the conflict of the time he lived in, and how he processed the racism. I will be grappling with understanding his personal process for a long time. I don't exactly get him. I truly don't. I don't get what he sees in those people, Captain Pratt and Mr. Wanamaker. They sound like bad, hypocritical people to me.
Standing Bear was raised by his father, a Chief. His father taught him as a small child not to kill white people -- not because he was such a great fan of them (I don't include myself because I've never been among the white people he describes, the "kill the Indian, save the man" Anglo-Saxon Protestants). Standing Bear was taught not to kill white people because they were weaker and inferior to Indians. It's the same way, in my Italian-American culture, men are taught not to hit or kill women, that it's emasculating. It makes you a punk.
I think that's accurate. The Sioux that he describes are holistically more-robust human beings than the soldiers who ran entire buffalo herds off of cliffs and then left the carcasses to rot. Those people were greedy, short-sighted idiots in my opinion. The more I learn about "how the West was won," the sicker it makes me. None of that was necessary, or even justifiable. That's why we can't have nice things in this country, because of the way we started out.
So it's psychologically gruelling to read about different people, the Ghost Dancers in particular, having to live through this invasion, especially as it's described by someone who very willingly participated in "going with the flow" when he saw the white people coming in like flies, or ants. I forget which way his father described the white people after visiting the cities back East. But it's so weird to me, the way Standing Bear then spends the rest of the book trying to prove himself to the same white people that his father always taught him to look down on. Because Standing Bear himself was very interested in those things of the inferior people. So was his father.
On the one hand, there was the matter of pragmatism, the need to keep up with the changing times. It sounds like from his father's vantage point, it was simply a matter of accepting that the garden had fallen, the old ways were no longer to be a thing, and we were to put clothes on now. I think that was the most poetic thing Standing Bear said. And he did have some good insights.
But his beloved Captain Pratt, founder of the Carlisle School in Pennsylvania, to which Standing Bear volunteered to go as a youth of maybe 12, was a bad person IMO. And Standing Bear thought the world of him. Pratt became another father figure at this boarding school. He chose the name Luther at this school, having no idea what it meant or how to say it. Pratt put him into tinsmithing school. While Pratt says it was always the child's choice what they would learn, Standing Bear describes wanting to go into carpentry, a much more useful skill, and Pratt telling him no.
Standing Bear describes his group of children coming to a school that did not have beds for them. He says that all of the children were there voluntarily. However even though he was the school's biggest cheerleader, he describes having to connive to get enough food, being cold, and watching other children die. All of the children wanted to go back to the reservation and jumped at the chance, according to Standing Bear, who "loved it" there. I've personally never met an Indian who had a good word to say about a boarding school.
Standing Bear describes a girl's father sending word that he was furious to learn she had died. He demanded that they either return her body or place a headstone at the school. And neither thing was done. He says that the Indians were treated very unfairly. And then he continues on unphased, as though that shouldn't be held against Captain Pratt somehow. 168 children died at the Carlisle school of disease and malnutrition. 10,000 children attended overall. I'm really surprised more of them didn't die, based on Luther's description. This is one of the most shameful chapters of America's history.
Pratt's whole concept was "Kill the Indian, save the man." I'm horrified by both the words and the intention of that. But for Standing Bear personally, in his own context, it made sense. His father had sent him off to die in battle literally. And here he was in Pennsylvania, possibly dying physically. But being made to die culturally instead, learning to read and write English, being in the first class at the Carlisle School, proving himself to his father Spotted Pony and also Captain Pratt, all at the same time.
There's much more to this book. It really helped me to process my own family's immigration and assimilation, and my assimilation with Anglo-Saxon Protestant America and Native America as well. I highly recommend honoring this person who really put so much work and effort into creating this book, against all odds. A true blessing.
Standing Bear's weird relationship with white people, his arrival at the Carlisle School, evolved naturally out of his relationship with his father, a chief. It was important to Standing Bear to prove himself to his father by dying in battle. And within their culture, he was expected to ride off into the sunset and do that as a young adolescent.
During Luther's childhood, "manifest destiny" wasn't necessarily understood yet, in the tipi villages of Nebraska or the Dakotas. As Standing Bear's father went east and saw the white people multiplying like flies in the big cities, he was of two minds. On the one hand, he saw that it was inevitable and felt that the Indians should get with the program, the quicker the better. And on the other hand, he liked dressing like a white man.
Standing Bear's father opens a store like the white men had, and became even more prosperous than he was in the nomadic way of being prosperous -- with a larger tipi, because he had more ponies to carry larger poles and more gear for his two wives and more children.
Another point to address: at times Standing Bear describes the status of women as being somewhere between horses and men. He frequently mentions how, when breaking camp in a tipi village, everyone simply knew their roles and responsibilities and did what was needed without being nagged or ordered around. And I'm sure that was the case. That concept is the #1 selling point of their lifestyle IMHO. He describes many other beautiful things that I have personally experienced among Native people too, their humility, kindness, gentleness, and generosity. And also the constant gambling LOL Keeping it real, I'm not mad.
But he describes his parents' divorce when he is a small boy, maybe 7 or 8 years old. While it is the most painless breakup that's ever happened from a child-custody standpoint, I was left with hundreds of questions.
Standing Bear describes his mother going off to her mother's people's village some ways away. And then she just doesn't come back, and her brother comes to bring him to visit her over there. And when Standing Bear comes back to his father's tent, his father has two new wives.
So did his father send his old wife away because he wanted to upgrade to these two other women, DJT style? He told her it was Sister Wives time and she was like, no thanks, I'm going to my mother? Either way it doesn't seem coincidental, timing-wise, or like his mother had much say in the matter, although Luther felt like it was all hunky-dory.
Later in the book he describes a man chasing a woman and firing a gun at her. Some other men catch him and take away the gun. It's discovered that the woman is his wife. He's trying to kill her because she wants to leave him for another man. They have a meeting of the chiefs. It's decided that she will go back to her husband because he's a good guy after all -- the one who just chased her into the village trying to shoot her. So she goes back to him and realizes that was the right thing to do after all. For me as a writer of true crime for survivors, fuck that.
There are a number of similar things in the book. While working for Buffalo Bill's Wild West Show in London, at one point Luther decides to withhold half of everybody's pay until the end of the show, paying them in one lump sum. This is meant to keep them sober. He assures the reader that he is perfectly honest and all of the performers know they will get every penny that's owed to them. And at the end, everyone was happy with the decision to have their pay arbitrarily withheld, because Standing Bear knew what was best for them after all and did the right thing always. It says so in the book.
I will never understand how he could be so fond of the Carlisle School after all that he saw in his life, so pro-America in general after Wounded Knee as he described it in this book.
Again, this is a book that could really upset people. But I found it highly educational. I am amazed at the amount of leadership and work ethic that Standing Bear had to put into his life to create this book, go through all of the different things that he described. While I don't necessarily always understand him, I am grateful for this book.