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5 +++++ star rating!!!! Every once in a while we listen to a book that you want to put in the hands of every single person on the planet and especially the people that you love —
especially to anybody who has experienced any amount trauma in their lives. Especially to the people who haven’t.
I’m out hiking… I’ll write a more complete review later— but for now I want to deeply thank my friends who read this book before me.
Read the other five star reviews on Goodreads— I agree that this is a MUST READ (read every single word from beginning to end) — the AUDIOBOOK IS EXCEPTIONAL!!
Nobody is beyond or above the content in this book —-
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UPDATE REVIEW ….
Laura Chinn struggled with acne. It almost feels humorous that her zits (a form of inflammation-blocked follicles-and possibly too much stress), could upstage the trauma of her parents divorce and her brothers brain cancer.
Ha…
…but welcome to the neurological development of the teenage brain —a time when the frontal lobe is not fully developed ….yet — (the rational part of a teenager’s brain isn’t fully developed and won’t be until around age 25 or so).
Here’s an example of the way Laura was thinking during her teen years):
“My Brother was blind and deaf and in a wheelchair, and I was still jealous of his clear skin”.
Laura was growing up fast — in ways most parents ‘pray-to-god’ —‘not-my-kid’……(witnessing gang bangs, drinking, smoking, hanging around with other teen friends where the majority of them had been having abortions for years (ages 14-16), jello wrestling, mechanical bull-riding at a strip club, drunk driving, High School drop out,……
all the while,….’years’ of searching for solutions to clear her skin:
Accutane, diet, anabiotic‘s, and purification rituals.
One of the things that might have saved Laura is she (herself) never did hard core drugs.
Laura’s parents were not like most parents — (they were non-conformist/Scientologist)- they also had a messy divorce.
Laura was not an average-‘All-American-Kid’.
… her dad was Black…..her mother White….
Laura simply felt like ‘OTHER’.
Laura spent many of her primitive years bouncing back-and-forth between living in Clearwater Florida, and Los Angeles…and a short time in Tijuana). Her parents, (in Los Angeles), were focused on trying to save their son, Max’s life.
For awhile, at age 13, Laura lived by herself in their Florida home. Her mom‘s alcoholic-boyfriend lived in another room behind the house.…(he gave Laura money for food when she needed it).
Laura’s dad lived in Los Angeles
There were several parts in the book where Laura talks about how blatantly racist people were around her. Yet in her own family she grew up with everyone being a different color.
Because of her identity she was able to add some interesting insights into racism. (very real - very thought-provoking).
There is much more to say about this book — much to contemplate—A BOOK WORTHY TO BE READ BY MILLIONS….
Soooo much tragedy- loss- deaths-
Fact is ….it’s heartbreaking!…..
But…..
…..Yes….there are funny parts (because Laura Chinn is adorable— with a spunky lovable personality)…..
and like ‘real life’ ……tragedy is often braised comedy.
Towards the end …. there are several opportunities to shed some tears…..(it’s possible for sure)…..but might not actually happen to readers….
The sadness is sad
The growth, healing, and forgiveness is LIFE ALTERING significant/ important/ difference-making….leaving an impressive impression.
Today….Laura Chinn is the creator and star of a series called “Florida Girls”. (Paul and I purchased the 11 episodes/series last night for $11)….haven’t watched it yet.
Laura was brutally honest in this memoir —(an ex-zit-it-girl) —
So…..ha…..
feeling ( somewhat) like proud parents ‘for her’ — Paul and I want to see the show that she created.
Gotta love this quote by Tina Fey:
“You know how people justify insane horrors by saying ‘It was a different time’? Laura Chinn will transport you to that time. This book is funny and heartbreakingly honest”
A few excerpts from the books:
“Things get very real when you’re in the shit”.
“I learned very early that doing the work was the only method to achieving things I wanted”.
“It’s hard to become innocent and pure on the outside when you feel broken and corrupted on the inside”.
“There is nothing like finishing off a pack of cigarettes and then crawling into bed with your mom”.
“When it was my turn to be a teenager there was no curfew, no dinner to fight about, and nothing to rebel against. My mom had already given up being my mom, but she was my friend. My best friend. I told her everything. I was my genuine self around her because I knew she would never judge me or punish me. She was the person I could go to who would listen and show me compassion and love. She was my unconditional friend”.
Seriously astonishing …..
Laura’s memoir speaks with an understanding of the unconscionable……
….. stunning— heart wrenching with a lovely ending.