"A powerful and essential memoir of self-discovery . . . Brimming with beautiful remembrances of his grandfather and terrifying stories of abuse and homophobia, this is an essential book that shines a much-needed light on the intersection of Arab and queer identity." —Abdi Nazemian, Lambda Literary Award–winning author of Like a Love Story, a Stonewall Honor Book
The grandson of Hollywood royalty on his father’s side and Holocaust survivors on his mother’s, Omar Sharif Jr. learned early on how to move between worlds, from the Montreal suburbs to the glamorous orbit of his grandparents’ Cairo. His famous name always protected him wherever he went. When, in the wake of the Arab Spring, he made the difficult decision to come out in the pages of The Advocate, he knew his life would forever change. What he didn’t expect was the backlash that followed.
From bullying, to illness, attempted suicide, becoming a victim of sex trafficking, death threats by the thousands, revolution and never being able to return to a country he once called home, Omar Sharif Jr. has overcome more challenges than one might imagine. Drawing on the lessons he learned from both sides of his family, A Tale of Two Omars charts the course of an iconoclastic life, revealing in the process the struggles and successes that attend a public journey of self-acceptance and a life dedicated in service to others.
The Publisher Says: The grandson of Hollywood royalty on his father’s side and Holocaust survivors on his mother’s, Omar Sharif Jr. learned early on how to move between worlds, from the Montreal suburbs to the glamorous orbit of his grandparents’ Cairo. His famous name always protected him wherever he went. When, in the wake of the Arab Spring, he made the difficult decision to come out in the pages of The Advocate, he knew his life would forever change. What he didn’t expect was the backlash that followed.
From bullying, to illness, attempted suicide, becoming a victim of sex trafficking, death threats by the thousands, revolution and never being able to return to a country he once called home, Omar Sharif Jr. has overcome more challenges than one might imagine. Drawing on the lessons he learned from both sides of his family, A Tale of Two Omars charts the course of an iconoclastic life, revealing in the process the struggles and successes that attend a public journey of self-acceptance and a life dedicated in service to others.
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My Review: Everyone, no matter their looks, their socioeconomic status, or their talents, has got somethin' to carry that just won't quit hurting them. In Omar Sharif Jr.'s case, it was a lot of things based on expectations he was not going t meet and things he simply couldn't see how to fix or avoid. Yes, his life was privileged compared to most lives; yes, he had a lot of advantages that he seems to shrug off as unimportant; but in the end he was a damaged gay kid who fell for traps and snares that did him harm.
The happier part of the story is the gentleman's QUILTBAG advocacy in a country very much on the bubble socially. Egypt's neighbors are not especially stable democratic societies and that has an impact on the country's ability to deal effectively with its unpopular minorities fairly and equitably. To his credit, Sharif is in the trenches swinging his ax at the offenders and working his hardest to fix his chosen corner of the world. Very clichéd writing doesn't dull the gleam of his message of hope and his call to act, to support our QUILTBAG siblings around the world.
This is an important read, and one I highly recommend.
Omar Sharif Jr. laid himself completely bare in this memoir, opening up entirely. He shares details of his upbringing, his relationship with his parents, the most difficult times in his life, and of his advocacy work for LGBTQ rights. While it's obvious from the book that Omar comes from enormous wealth, and it can be quite overstated at times with talk of Hollywood, private nannies, and the world's most exclusive restaurants, I still felt I could relate to his story in a more down to earth manner.
His prose is vividly descriptive, taking the reader to wherever he is at the particular moments he discusses in the book. He does so with such accuracy at times that I feel as though I could be seated next to him, even in the most tragic of situations. While it might seem from the outside that he lives a life of luxury with access to all the things in the world, it seems it couldn't be further from the truth. I believe what he seeks most, is acceptance.
I found parts of the book difficult to read for a few reasons. Mostly because I couldn't imagine what it was like for Omar to go through what he did, which you'll read about in the book. I was shocked at some points, my heart dropping to the pit of my stomach. But despite it all, he seemed to come out stronger, at least on the outside.
I appreciated reading about the work Omar is doing when it comes to advocating for the rights of others, despite not initially being accepted by the LGBTQ community. He was facing death threats from Egypt then told by the queer and activist communities, “He’s just privileged, what could he know about struggle or sacrifice?” Reading this memoir, I was able to see that despite his privilege, he has suffered just as much as anyone who identifies as LGBTQ and struggles to come out.
Despite all of this, I believe he has done what he can for LGBTQ rights in Egypt, and is still fighting for his own freedom and the freedom of others. This memoir truly broke my heart, but also inspired me greatly. It's my hope that one day things will change in countries where people are forced to hide in the closet, where they seek nothing but freedom and the right to be who they are.
To deploy a cliche since cliches were rampant in this memoir, Omar Sharif Jr. could use a lesson in showing not telling. Sharif made clear, over and over again, the point he was driving home. By the end I was like, I get it, you've been living two different lives; you're torn. However, what was sorely lacking were the honest stories that let the reader in to see for herself. Sure there were stories which were the strongest points in the memoir. However, with each story came Sharif explicitly driving home the take away message. This book could have been a success if he would have let the stories stand on their own and trust the reader to come to her own conclusions.
Sharif does seem like a cool guy. He did a good enough job to pique my curiosity about the man himself. I also enjoyed his exploration of his complex feeling about Egypt, country of which I've always been fascinated. I do hope he continues to write, hopefully become a better author along the way.
3.5 stars. This book may not be groundbreaking--it contains lots of coming-of-age experiences that have become cliche in gay literature--but Omar Sharif, Jr., crafts a touching memoir that manages to explore celebrity, internationalism, gay identity, religion, and intersectionality all at once. The writing is polished and accessible, and it was refreshing to see the family members of a Hollywood icon living and struggling like everyday people. Even if you don't know who Omar Sharif was or you've never seen any of this films, that doesn't matter. This book is about his grandson, first and foremost, and it's a good read.
Two things first attracted me to this book ; the gorgeous cover and the name Omar Sharif. A name , that since I was a teenager (30 years ago) evoke , in my mind , one of the most attractive , virile , human male specimen of all time.
A Tale of Two Omar is an interesting and very intimate story of growing up in a culture and world were your life and sexuality has been pretty much planned out from the start.
Pride Month Read #1- Memoir. I am not really sure why I wanted to read this one, other than the fact that Omar Sharif Jr is really hot, but I knew very little about this young man. I did know a little about his famous grandfather, but that is primarily from the movies, “Top Secret,” and “Funny Girl,” although I did finally see Doctor Zhivago a few winters ago. This memoir does give readers some information about Omar Sr but there is little to no Hollywood gossip. Memoir fans should be satisfied with this one as Omar has lived a fascinating life and the details and lessons learned are universal enough for us all to benefit from his words. Omar Jr’s story is actually a great read for Pride Month because the LGBTQ community was still under threat of harsh attacks from the government of his homeland of Egypt. Parallels can be drawn to what is going on in the US now. I recommend this one with a 3 out of 5 stars ranking.
Growing up the beloved grandson of Omar Sharif and living a life of privilege would be an entertaining tale on its own, but Omar Sharif, Jr. poignantly and beautifully writes here of his struggle as a half-Jewish gay man in Egypt, and his continuing work for LGBTQ rights. He also shares some terrifying situations that are difficult to read, but his strength and continuing advocacy are inspiring. 4 stars.
I received an ARC from the publisher, via NetGalley, in exchange for an honest review.
Thank you NetGalley for the ARC of this book. I was riveted by Omar’s account of his still young life and look forward to what he still has to offer the world.
This book is an enthralling, desperately honest look into the life of a handsome gay man growing up in homophobic Egypt, who happens also to be the grandson of one of the most famous (& handsome) movie stars of all time. Omar Sharif Jr. is courageous, self deprecating, honest and his writing is mesmerizing. Bravo.
Okay so I really wanted to like this because I hate not enjoying memoirs. There were definitely parts I enjoyed, and those were the ones when his story didn’t feel disjointed, and when he discussed his emotions during different parts of his life. Like when he talked about finding identity in college and finally fitting in.
What I didn’t like so much was the descriptions of other things like “oh I lived in London and learned about myself and wore designer clothes while my family payed for it.” This isn’t to diminish his struggles at all but I just felt those parts weren’t as necessary.
Another thing was the language surrounding action and things like boycotts. He said something about how collective freedom is all of our individual acts of liberation put together and I liked that, but then he said that he preferred not to take sides because he believed having difficult dialogues is more pragmatic. Personally I think that me taking a side is engaging in difficult dialogue but whatevs. I enjoyed most of the epilogue and several of the personal anecdotes.
The grandson of Hollywood royalty on his father’s side and Holocaust survivors on his mother’s, Omar Sharif Jr. learned early on how to move between worlds, from the Montreal suburbs to the glamorous orbit of his grandparents’ Cairo. His famous name always protected him wherever he went. When, in the wake of the Arab Spring, he made the difficult decision to come out in the pages of The Advocate, he knew his life would forever change. What he didn’t expect was the backlash that followed.
An interesting look into Omars life. Loved the Montreal bits of course.
What a great read! Very inspirational, especially for those who have similar truths buried within and need to muster the courage to be their authentic selves. Omar jr. found a way to do that and hopefully others will follow.This story has all the elements of an exciting film and who better to play the leading role but Omar jr. himself!
A fascinating and honest telling of a Story worth reading. I was interested not only in the story of a famous heartthrob but also in the story of his grandson whose life has had an unusual path. I appreciate the openness of the younger Sharif as he has navigated some rough waters and at a relatively young age. His story should continue to be told. I highly recommend this book
Having been a fan of the first Omar Sharif, this was an interesting read about his grandson. Coming out is never an automatic, one-time-and-it's-done event. How Omar Jr faced the task, and the view of his grandfather had me turning pages. I recommend this book.
It's actually the tale of only one Omar, and not the one I was interested in learning about. Honest and sincere, though, and a memoir of someone who truly has dedicated himself to making a positive difference.
Omar Sharif Jr is actually not son of the senior Omar but the grandson. His grandfather was the Eqyptian actor who performed in many movies including Lawrence of Arabia. He is presented by his grandson as a Christian, and I believe he said he was Coptic but google says no, he was actually part of a slightly different group, but in any case he was apparently raised as Christian but converted to Islam in to marry his only wife Faten Hamama, who he was married to for about 15 or years and never remarried after they separated. Their only son was Omar Jr's father, Tarek.
The only reason I found this work was because I was, as I often do in my reading efforts, looking for stories about gay Muslim/Arabs. Jr is, however, of mixed heritage with his mother because the daughter of a survivor of the Nazi Death camps and Jewish. So he grew with a varied family. He often found himself between the different branches and living or trying to live a life that each of them would approve. As a gay man, struggling with that indentity he was far less secure than the vast wealth on the Eqyptian and the happy family on his mothers Canadian Jewish family would have seemed to suggest.
Omar, although pretty well off having anew Mercedes at about 18-20 years also has struggles. He has to fight to learn to accept himself as he is. Part of the problem is that his family often has great hope for him to do well. Does he want to be in business? Or maybe he would rather be an actor. Again, expectations enter and cause him confusion. How is he going to handle loving Eqypt but not feeling safe to go there...as though his life might really be in danger because of his sexuality.
What I have to confess confounded me is that I tend to thing people coming from a priveleged life and family automatically have it easy. This book made me have to exact that biases and expection about how wealth affects those that are for whatever reason feeling alien.
I recommend this book for those who would like to understand the Muslim/Arab experience and how that interacts with being part of the LGBTQ community living in a more restrictive conservative and in some cases (like Saudi Arabia as an example) authoritarian government. I also find myself hoping that we are not headed for the exact same situation in this country at the present moment. Tolerance is not as iffy in th is country as I have ever seen it.
With not enough material, discussion or analysis to fill a book this should have been a magazine article. Most likely it was published because the name would attract buyers. The basis of the story is interesting and his bravery in coming out as an Egyptian and Middle Easterner is interesting and to be commended and sadly has caused him immense pain and criticism. However, much of his commentary about it is repetitive, and reveals the absence of a good editor. His tales of childhood and adolescence, when not referring to his Grandfather and satisfying the readers curiosity with tales of the old Omar, are over blown. Unfortunately, the jacket cover photograph suggests even more about the author's sense of self and the realities of the particular world he inhabits, Sure he has connections to many countries and cultures, and notably is both Jewish and Arabic, but at heart he seems to identify most with that international/Hollywood set where name, appearance and physique make all the difference - and the comfort and blinkers that come with that.
I’m not sure what I was expecting but this memoir was full of surprises. Omar Sharif Jr reflects on growing up as the grandson of iconic Egyptian film star Omar Sharif while also being raised by his maternal Jewish grandparents, both of whom were Holocaust survivors. Raised in Montreal, Sharif (who is half Muslim) attended Jewish Day school, had a Bar Mitzvah, affectionately called his grandparents Bubbi & Zaide and hid from EVERYONE that he was gay. This is his coming out story, as well as a love letter to Egypt, where he is no longer allowed to visit for fear of retribution for his homosexuality. Sharif lays bare some terrifying situations he found himself in, his road to becoming an activist, the backlash he received from both the gay & straight communities and how he found his personal freedom.
Omar Sharif, Jr. grew up under the shadow of his world-renowned grandfather, an acting legend and a hero in his home country of Egypt and beyond. The fact the younger Omar is gay will likely be sufficient to pique interest in his memoir from LGBTQ+ readers, and being in the closet, living a double life, and coming out are indeed major themes. More than that, Sharif has a heart-rending and at times surprising story to tell about how he became a global spokesperson for tolerance and intercultural understanding.
dnf @ 80%, only read this far out of devotion to book group. between the poor writing quality (similar to my essay writing in high school, clear not note remotely engaging) and the level of padding, this was a painful read. Sharif desperately needed a better editor. this could have succeeded as a short essay collection of heavily edited. the writing was so lackluster and padded that i edited sentences in my head as i listened along
narration: not much a performer could do to improve the material, but Sharif didn’t do it any favors bringing his literal own voice to tell his own stories.
*Started slow but then got better *Content warning for sexual assault *Interesting and insightful regarding the intersections of family, culture, and religion and on the ways in which they impact the big and small decisions we choose. *Important reading to not forget the value of progress, even amidst setbacks *Reminder that for all the progress LGBTQ folks may have achieved, there's still more growth needed everywhere. I first bought the audio (rarely can do better than listening to an author narrate) and then bought the book to share.
A brave and personal memoir. I found it a very interesting and an emotional read. So sad to learn about the struggles of being gay in Egypt and so sorry to read about the horrific experiences that Omar Jr suffered. So very admirable that Omar Jr chose to advocate for LGBTQ rights! A captivating book! Bravo Omar!
This is not a book I’d recommend. Frankly, I considered quitting midway, but I generally like to finish a book I start. The author's constant flaunting of wealth through brand names like his car, watch, and necktie was off-putting as was his self-importance. Some stories seemed more fictional than factual. Fortunately, it was a fast, effortless read.
There seemed to be parts that were a bit vague and not quite adding up, but given the timeline, I assume this was due to safety concerns about retaliation.
I'm glad to see he's shared his story and I'm hopeful that he's able to find a true career he enjoys, not just being handed down.