If you know the responsibilities it takes to be a leader or what it's like to contribute to a team, this book is for you. No one wins alone, a memoir by Mark Messier, a former six-time Stanley cup winning NHL player who has countless years of experience in the pro hockey world, writes about his life experiences through hardship, lessons and balancing everything that is important to him. This memoir kept hooking me for more as it continued to give lessons and inspire self change, through Messiers deep call to action upon the reader through being self aware and always pushing to be your best. The reason this memoir is so good is because of its deep description on the life of Mark and the meaningful moments that call for change in others, teach you to focus on your importance, adn to look in the mirror to see if you're impactful.
In No one Wins alone, the author Mark Messier uses thoughtful and easily connected ideas to reveal an unique underlying theme of family, pride and lessons. In the first sentence of chapter 1, Messier writes, “To understand me, you have to know that hockey is not the most important thing in my life—family is.” This first sentence quickly reveals a major theme of family that continues on through this entire book. Messier admits that even though hockey is a very substantial part of his life, family is the most important to him. Messier than states; “In a family, like any team, there are always going to be different personality types. Not everyone looks at a piece of art and has the same response. Not everyone hears the same message in a speech. Each person is a unique combination of their genetic wiring and life experiences. As a leader, you learn to accept and appreciate that each of your teammates might react differently to the same situation. With that knowledge, you can resolve any conflicts that arise from a place of understanding.”. Messier not only understands the different types of people in his family but also outside of his house in a team environment. Messier harps on two major things revealed by these two moments from this memoir. Messier looks to connect with the reader through revealing an early theme of; although you might have important things in your life you can still find time to prioritize your family and also that you can use many of the lessons you learn in your early or childhood life to make you a better person everyday. The mix between storytelling and lesson learning is the most effective yet fun part of this memoir. I believe this memoir is very easy to connect with and will teach you a lesson you never even thought about; this is why you should give it a read.
In No one wins alone, written by Mark Messier uses simple life experiences, to enhance reflection in the reader. Messier asks himself later in the book, “ It made me think about my own actions and how they’re perceived. How can I be more sensitive to others? What kind of energy am I emitting?”. These are questions we can all ask ourselves, as we go through our everyday life. Messier asks himself these questions, but wants the reader to ask themselves these questions as well. Messier earlier in the book asked himself, “Was I going to return to Portland in the fall and play a full season of major junior? Or was I going to stay with the Mets in tier-two hockey, which would preserve my amateur status, and give me a path to playing in college, like Paul was doing?”. Messier wasn’t sure about what his future holds, just like many of us. You as the reader might be wondering what your life is gonna look like 5, 10 years from now and that’s okay; because it is okay to ask questions about your future and be curious about it. Messier looks to these simple questions to enhance reflection in himself and also others reading. I would absolutely recommend this book due to the intricate focus on improving yourself and ways to learn how to work with others.
In No one Wins alone, Mark Messier illustrates the main themes of lessons learned and pushing through adversity to highlight his main goal of pushing growth and innovation on his readers. Early in this memoir Messier speaks about the time growing up when he had to play up an age group on his older brother’s hockey team and how it was difficult but he learned. Messier states, “In my second season as a pewee, I was still playing up and learning how to shoot and skate, but I was also learning, just as much, on how to be a part of a team, and how to win”(p.31). Messier states that even though it was difficult to play with older kids because he was still working on developing his skills; Messier seeks to focus on that hardship he ran into and forced him to take a bigger lesson from this challenge which was learning how to be a part of a team. Messier used this lesson for the rest of his lifes, as he was named captain of many teams after this and showed this was his first step in developing his teamwork and leadership skills. Another example of growth revealed in Messier's life was when he finally won the stanley cup for the first time, the biggest trophy you can win in all of hockey. Messier said “I don’t want to say the days after were depressing, but what I quickly realized was that the soul experience was the journey”(p.97). Messier revealed that through achievement the reward seems different on the other side; Messier talks about how he learned his favorite memories were the process and not the actual reward. Many readers can take much away from these two quotes and connect it to their own life in order to grow and become a better person. This memoir, No one wins Alone, written by Mark Messier not only deeply reflects on experiences but seeks to learn lessons that you use to attack challenges in your everyday life. Because of these highly effective everyday lessons, I highly recommend this book to readers who are looking to improve themselves.
In the memoir, No one Wins Alone, the author Mark Messier uses keywords to reveal an underlying theme of connection to people and fine focus of everyday jobs. Messier language throughout is very calm, but also uses many literary devices to take you through his crazy life of an NHL hockey player. “At the professional level, however, just about everything you do on the ice is meticulously organized—the routines for practice, the way guys work together. Of course, mistakes are made, but it’s much more structured.”(p.43). Messier states how “Meticulously” organized everything is in Pro Hockey, revealing how focused everyone is through their everyday job. THis also reveals how hard you have to work top down, from the owner to the players to people who work for the team, everyone has to do their job and do what they're paid to do at a high level, or nothing is successful. Messier later in the book states, “Back then, there was no fraternization between players from different organizations. If your coach caught you talking to a guy on the other team during warm-ups, it was looked at as a betrayal. ”(p.102). Messier in this passage uses the word Fraternization, to reveal the bond between him in his teammates. This reveals that Messier made sure his team’s were not just a team but a family or close knit circle of guys all pushing for each other. This prioritization of each other made it easy to support each other no matter what they did or how they played on the ice, this is what the best teams are made of. Because of the language used throughout this book, Messier hooks the reader
through keywords and never ending stories to reveal life long lessons.
If you're having doubts about this book that's completely fine, I’ll leave you with one last quote from Messier to reveal how special of a person Messier truly is. ““EVERY TEAM I PLAYED ON was special to me. The personal relationships, the sense of adventure and the unknown, even the disappointments—together, they added up to something bigger. It was all about the human connection through the game. Professional sport is defined by winning and losing, but you’re missing out if you’re only concentrating on the end result instead of the journey. And the irony is that if you’re paying attention to the quality and depth of the experience, it will lead you right back to the thing you were seeking in the first place: success. I played twenty-six years, but won the Cup only six times. Does that mean that the other twenty seasons should be considered a loss? Absolutely not. I felt I was able to take something positive away from every losing season, that each one could be harnessed, and learned from, to create a winning culture in the future.
My hope is I’ve been able to convey how powerful it is to be part of something bigger than myself, and how much gratitude I’ve found in the collective experiences with my family and my teams, which is the most important lesson of all”. Messier understands the true meaning of what it takes to be a kind person, and at the end of the day that is the most powerful thing in our lives.