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Τι κάνουν οι καλοί γονείς;: 75 απλές στρατηγικές για να μεγαλώσετε παιδιά που ξεχωρίζουν και προοδεύουν
Το βιβλίο αυτό παρουσιάζει καίριες στρατηγικές που θα βοηθήσουν τους γονείς να αλλάξουν τις προκλητικές συμπεριφορές των παιδιών τους, να δημιουργήσουν ισχυρούς οικογενειακούς δεσμούς και να καθοδηγήσουν τα παιδιά τους ώστε να γίνουν ευτυχισμένοι, καλοί και υπεύθυνοι ενήλικες. Η ψυχολόγος Έρικα Ράισερ επιλέγει τις πιο χρήσιμες πληροφορίες για την τέχνη και την τεχνική της γονεϊκότητας που προέκυψαν από την έρευνα και την κλινική της εμπειρία και τις οργανώνει σε 75 συνοπτικά κεφάλαια με πραγματικά παραδείγματα, χρήσιμες ιδέες και εργαλεία που μπορούν να χρησιμοποιηθούν άμεσα από τους γονείς. Παρουσιάζονται επίσης τεχνικές που η συγγραφέας διδάσκει σε εργαστήρια για γονείς, και το πώς αυτές συνδυάζονται αποτελεσματικά. Τελικά, μέσα από αυτό το βιβλίο θα μάθετε αυτά που κάνουν οι καλοί γονείς, όπως ότι:
- Οι καλοί γονείς ξεκινούν από την ενσυναίσθηση.
- Οι καλοί γονείς αποδέχονται τα παιδιά τους έτσι όπως είναι.
- Οι καλοί γονείς αποφεύγουν τις διαμάχες εξουσίας.
- Οι καλοί γονείς χρησιμοποιούν την πειθαρχία με σκοπό τη μάθηση και όχι την τιμωρία.
- Οι καλοί γονείς ξέρουν ότι δεν είναι τέλειοι.
75 απλές και αποτελεσματικές στρατηγικές, που ο κάθε γονιός μπορεί άμεσα και εύκολα να εφαρμόσει!
- Οι καλοί γονείς ξεκινούν από την ενσυναίσθηση.
- Οι καλοί γονείς αποδέχονται τα παιδιά τους έτσι όπως είναι.
- Οι καλοί γονείς αποφεύγουν τις διαμάχες εξουσίας.
- Οι καλοί γονείς χρησιμοποιούν την πειθαρχία με σκοπό τη μάθηση και όχι την τιμωρία.
- Οι καλοί γονείς ξέρουν ότι δεν είναι τέλειοι.
75 απλές και αποτελεσματικές στρατηγικές, που ο κάθε γονιός μπορεί άμεσα και εύκολα να εφαρμόσει!
280 pages, Paperback
First published June 7, 2016
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June 7, 2017
The format of this book is readable and easy to follow - most strategies include a tip for how to apply or practice it in real life. Her many examples made it possible to visualize what the strategy means and looks like.
It could probably have been "50 Proven Strategies" since some of them were repetitive or just an expansion of others. Overall, I felt like I learned both new parenting strategies as well as new ways of thinking about things I'm already doing or trying to do.
It could probably have been "50 Proven Strategies" since some of them were repetitive or just an expansion of others. Overall, I felt like I learned both new parenting strategies as well as new ways of thinking about things I'm already doing or trying to do.
May 26, 2020
First-reads Win-Goodreads.
I would honestly give this book a 3.5. It's not a bad book but to me it's a lot of matter of opinion. Helpful hints yes, but I can't see anyone but a psychiatrist responding to and having a family that communicates like this in this book. I don't know if its also a culture clash for me. I didn't agree with some methods. No disrespect to the author, but a bit seems phony-fake to me. Also the whole time I'm reading it, I'm picturing that tv special with Martha Stuart and Ms. Piggy and Ms. Piggy gets irritate with Martha's, "That's why I," am perfect, perfect, perfect (basically.)
I would honestly give this book a 3.5. It's not a bad book but to me it's a lot of matter of opinion. Helpful hints yes, but I can't see anyone but a psychiatrist responding to and having a family that communicates like this in this book. I don't know if its also a culture clash for me. I didn't agree with some methods. No disrespect to the author, but a bit seems phony-fake to me. Also the whole time I'm reading it, I'm picturing that tv special with Martha Stuart and Ms. Piggy and Ms. Piggy gets irritate with Martha's, "That's why I," am perfect, perfect, perfect (basically.)
June 5, 2018
Easy to pick up and put down, these quick chapters focus on one small aspect of parenting and how exactly to implement it. Full of a few good reminders:
Great parents:
* show empathy for the way their kids experience the world
* see the goal of discipline is learning, not punishment
* help their children improve their self-control in order to achieve a goal
* give kids previews of the bad things that might happen and give them the freedom to decide whether to proceed. (Then review later in a nonjudgmental way, i.e., observe what happen. express how you think they feel. then ask if they want to make the same choice over again).
* are warm, but not indulgent, firm, but not forceful
* Avoid using shame, blame or fear to enforce rules. Instead, they rely on reasons, are matter-of-fact and consistent, use empathy and fair warning, and focus on the relationship (long-term goal).
* keep the main message: “I love you all the time even when I don’t like your behavior in this minute.”
* provide scaffolding, i.e. as much support as they need in order to progress to the next step in the skill they’re developing.
* walk their kids through how they function (e.g. organize their to-do list) so their child can see how they might do the task or planning their activities for themselves.
* explain how and why they come to decisions that are important to the child
* In advance, create consequences that fit the “crime” i.e. they are 1) meaningful, 2) relevant, 3) proportionate, and 4) actionable (capable of being acted on).
* Teach happiness habits: engagement (activity in which they can experience “flow”; meaningful work/play; gratitude; exercise.
* Teach them the 3 P’s in trying to achieve a goal: practice, patience, and perseverance
* Encourage sensible risk-taking
* Pivot, i.e. use yes instead of no when meaning the same thing. Instead of "No, we can’t go to the park until after your nap” we say “Yes, we can go to the park after your nap”.
* Pause the action then reframe the situation or elect to discuss a consequence at a calmer time.
* Stage rehearsals. Coach real-life scenarios before a potentially stressful event so child can master the situation ahead of time and feel confident they can handle something (like being offered drugs at a party).
Great parents:
* show empathy for the way their kids experience the world
* see the goal of discipline is learning, not punishment
* help their children improve their self-control in order to achieve a goal
* give kids previews of the bad things that might happen and give them the freedom to decide whether to proceed. (Then review later in a nonjudgmental way, i.e., observe what happen. express how you think they feel. then ask if they want to make the same choice over again).
* are warm, but not indulgent, firm, but not forceful
* Avoid using shame, blame or fear to enforce rules. Instead, they rely on reasons, are matter-of-fact and consistent, use empathy and fair warning, and focus on the relationship (long-term goal).
* keep the main message: “I love you all the time even when I don’t like your behavior in this minute.”
* provide scaffolding, i.e. as much support as they need in order to progress to the next step in the skill they’re developing.
* walk their kids through how they function (e.g. organize their to-do list) so their child can see how they might do the task or planning their activities for themselves.
* explain how and why they come to decisions that are important to the child
* In advance, create consequences that fit the “crime” i.e. they are 1) meaningful, 2) relevant, 3) proportionate, and 4) actionable (capable of being acted on).
* Teach happiness habits: engagement (activity in which they can experience “flow”; meaningful work/play; gratitude; exercise.
* Teach them the 3 P’s in trying to achieve a goal: practice, patience, and perseverance
* Encourage sensible risk-taking
* Pivot, i.e. use yes instead of no when meaning the same thing. Instead of "No, we can’t go to the park until after your nap” we say “Yes, we can go to the park after your nap”.
* Pause the action then reframe the situation or elect to discuss a consequence at a calmer time.
* Stage rehearsals. Coach real-life scenarios before a potentially stressful event so child can master the situation ahead of time and feel confident they can handle something (like being offered drugs at a party).
July 21, 2020
Přehledné shrnutí základních principů férové komunikace a nastavení zdravého vztahu s dětmi, praktické příklady (stručné, ale výstižné) a četné odkazy na zdroje a další prameny. Nedozvěděla jsem s nic moc nového ani převratného, spíš to bylo užitečné zopakovaní většiny důležitých věcí týkajících se výchovy - a právě k tomu je myslím publikace ideální, protože nejde nijak do hloubky, nabízí zkratkovitý přehled. Body plus za důraz na budování vztahu, začínání u sebe, práci s emocemi a pozitivní přístup. Zhruba od poloviny už se autorka začíná trochu cyklit a opakovat.
Každopádně je fajn si při výchově dětí jednou za čas připomenout, že doma nemáte malou zrůdu, která se vás snaží zničit nebo alespoň přivést do blázince, ale spíš neuvěřitelně vytrvalého malého badatele, který se jen snaží co nejdetailněji prozkoumat svět kolem sebe.
Každopádně je fajn si při výchově dětí jednou za čas připomenout, že doma nemáte malou zrůdu, která se vás snaží zničit nebo alespoň přivést do blázince, ale spíš neuvěřitelně vytrvalého malého badatele, který se jen snaží co nejdetailněji prozkoumat svět kolem sebe.
April 27, 2018
As a parenting book, I like the format. As advertised in the title, it gives 75 quick tips for parenting. Many of them overlap as would be expected. The nice part is they are quick and to the point. Here's the tip, here's why it's important, here's a sample way to implement it. Many other books on this topic get preachy. This is a very quick read for these reasons. Many of the tips will seem like common sense. For instance, don't yell at your kids. I knew that but I yell at mine anyway. I like that it gives alternatives and advise on how to reduce yelling instead of just saying it's bad.
March 4, 2023
Great parents.....start with empathy, accept their kids just as they are, give a reason, share their power, practice emotion coaching, teach happiness habits.
Reicher's style comes across to me as permissive, indulgent, too much negotiating with children.
2 stars. Be a parent that is in charge, firm, consistent, loving, but also aware that the prefrontal cortex of the brain does not completely form until age 25 so kids will make bad decisions. That's my explanation.
Reicher's style comes across to me as permissive, indulgent, too much negotiating with children.
2 stars. Be a parent that is in charge, firm, consistent, loving, but also aware that the prefrontal cortex of the brain does not completely form until age 25 so kids will make bad decisions. That's my explanation.
March 13, 2023
An interesting synthesis with very precise examples, easy to read, more difficult to follow, especially when you are sleep deprived and with zero patience. I see it as an easy to access and handy guide.
November 30, 2021
I've read a lot of parenting books, and this was definitely one of the best. Concise, practical, and very on point with good strategies.
October 1, 2022
I thought this book had useful info and there were also a lot of examples of how to implement these strategies into your family.
March 15, 2023
One of the most helpful and best authoritative parenting books I’ve read (and I’ve read a lot!!). Her advice is concise, ACTUALLY gives examples, and is research-backed. What more could you want? Borrowed from the library but might purchase to use for future reference
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February 28, 2024Почала колись під час заняття в Інвенторі, не дочитала, але вже й не буду, тож перенесу в папку прочитаних.
February 22, 2025
Lots of simple techniques to become better parents. Some get a bit repetitive and a lot are common sense, but the book is easy to pick up and put down, and it is simple and concise.
April 26, 2018
Picked this one up off the library shelves without knowing anything about (which I rarely do).
I was pleasantly surprised. The chapters are bite-sized and organized, giving specific strategies and ideas for parenting kids of all ages. Nothing revolutionary, but always helpful to be reminded of ways to improve myself.
Overall? This is a good resource and I recommend.
* I'd probably give this a 3.5, but .5's aren't possible on goodreads. ;)
I was pleasantly surprised. The chapters are bite-sized and organized, giving specific strategies and ideas for parenting kids of all ages. Nothing revolutionary, but always helpful to be reminded of ways to improve myself.
Overall? This is a good resource and I recommend.
* I'd probably give this a 3.5, but .5's aren't possible on goodreads. ;)
November 2, 2018
~ تعرض الكاتبة خلاصة التجارب ونتائجها على الأبناء..تعطي النصائح وطرق التعامل مع صغارنا بنقاط بسيطة..كما أعطت بعض التدريبات لتعزيز السلوكيات المطلوبة سهلة التطبيق..غطت الكاتبة أهم الجوانب التي تأرق أولياء الأمور بأبنائهم وتساعدهم في تخطي صعوبات التربية التي قد تكون مبهمة..
وهو كتاب مهم لكل من يسعى لتحسين أسلوب تعامله مع أبنائه...
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وهو كتاب مهم لكل من يسعى لتحسين أسلوب تعامله مع أبنائه...
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January 7, 2022
Extremely surprised this book has received less than 4/5. An amazingly compact book which ignores the fluff and teaches key skills needed by every parents. Usefully titles each habit, gives examples of how to use it and the Ill effects of not using it. Often links between skills when giving example conversations.
January 4, 2022
If you are looking for a concise book of parenting advice across a multitude of themes, this is a great one. The chapters are short, and I love the cross referencing throughout the book pointing to where subjects overlap.
July 15, 2017
Giving this one four stars mostly because the principles are sound, not that there's anything especially new for me here. Good examples, though, and I liked the concise format.
February 13, 2019
كتاب مميز في مجاله .. أطلت مدة قراءته عمدنا لأقف على تدريباته ومحاولاته فهو عملي بدرجة كبيرة ويغذي الجانب التواصلي مع الطفل
أنصح بقراءته والوقوف على نصائحه
أنصح بقراءته والوقوف على نصائحه
December 9, 2019
الكتاب راااائع يشرح اسلوب التربيه بطرح امثله وااقعيه ..ممتاز جدا
April 1, 2020
I've been in a reading slump for a couple of months now, so maybe it's me, but I found this book tedious, repetitive, and difficult to get through despite its brevity. Not because the content itself is difficult to understand (quite the opposite), but because so much of it cross-references and repeats.
The advice is clearly well-intentioned, but the bite-sized chapters are too brief to be meaningful, and the constant cross-referencing between tips made me feel like I was reading the index pages of a much more helpful book on the topic of parenting.
The advice is clearly well-intentioned, but the bite-sized chapters are too brief to be meaningful, and the constant cross-referencing between tips made me feel like I was reading the index pages of a much more helpful book on the topic of parenting.
June 2, 2020
رأيي عن الكتب التي تتناول مسألة التربية أنه لا يوجود كتاب واحد يمكن أن يغطي كل نواحي الموضوع
من الطبيعي بالنسبة لي أن أعتبر الكتاب ناجح حتى لو لم أحصل منه سوى على معلومة واحدة أو أسلوب واحد أحس أنه كان غائب عني أو دفعني خطوة بسيطة في هذا الطريق الطويل والمتعب
في مسألة التربية مشاركة التجارب شيء مفيد جدا وضروري جدآ
صعوبة واجهتها غي هذا الكتاب حاله حال كل الكتب غير العربية غي موضوع التربية وهي مشكلة أجزم ان كل القراء العرب واجهوها مثلي وهي صعوبة توأمة أو أسقاط جزء كبير من فقرات الكتاب على واقع مجتمعاتنا العربية
من الطبيعي بالنسبة لي أن أعتبر الكتاب ناجح حتى لو لم أحصل منه سوى على معلومة واحدة أو أسلوب واحد أحس أنه كان غائب عني أو دفعني خطوة بسيطة في هذا الطريق الطويل والمتعب
في مسألة التربية مشاركة التجارب شيء مفيد جدا وضروري جدآ
صعوبة واجهتها غي هذا الكتاب حاله حال كل الكتب غير العربية غي موضوع التربية وهي مشكلة أجزم ان كل القراء العرب واجهوها مثلي وهي صعوبة توأمة أو أسقاط جزء كبير من فقرات الكتاب على واقع مجتمعاتنا العربية
October 15, 2022
Практична книжка, головним посилом якої буде - проявляйте емпатію до своїх дітей, будьте послідовними у вихованні, виконуйте свої обіцянки, розвивайте стійкий емоційний зв'язок з дитиною. Також, було декілька практичних порад як вирішувати ті, чи інші проблемні ситуації або конфлікти з дитиною. Так, як я не супер обізнана в літературі з педагогіці, мені книжка загалом сподобалась - легко читається, мало води та містить практику, однак багато стратегій дублюють самі себе. Прочитавши рецензій англійською, зрозуміла, що не одній мені так здалось, можна скоротити на 25 стратегій.
May 25, 2023
Erica Reischer has written one of the finest parenting books available today. Her ideas feel practical, easy to follow, and beneficial to children. Families following her suggestions will be healthier. When I wrote my parenting book, I repeatedly returned to Reischer.
Reischer's suggestions come from professional experience, as well as personal concerns for children. Although not a touchy-feely text, the suggestions will foster family love as well as a commitment to raising healthy children.
Reischer's suggestions come from professional experience, as well as personal concerns for children. Although not a touchy-feely text, the suggestions will foster family love as well as a commitment to raising healthy children.
June 15, 2017
Dr. Reishcher takes a wealth of parenting, nurturing and counseling resources and skills, simplifies them and lays them out for nurturers to skim or devour. A handy guidebook for raising children from early years through young adulthood. Her first strategy is empathy. Reischer has example scripts for parents to practice and examples of how to implement empathy and the other strategies. These strategies are useful in the workplace and in volunteer situations as well as in the home.
November 14, 2018
Easy to read, lots of information, and very straightforward. I would highly recommend this for new parents, parents who feel like they are having trouble connecting or communicating with their children, and parents who need help getting back on track after a major life disruption (divorce, mental heath lapse, a period of unemployment, etc) which may have affected their relationship with their kids.
July 29, 2024
A great book in helping to understand the Psychology of children/parents and interactions between the two. A few strategies (like 'replaying') reoccur more often than others throughout the book, highlighting their importance in changing behaviour.
Evidence based, with alot of practical tips and examples parents can use with their children. Comprehensive as it touches on alot of different aspects of child rearing.
Evidence based, with alot of practical tips and examples parents can use with their children. Comprehensive as it touches on alot of different aspects of child rearing.
December 11, 2019
Easy to read with bite size chapters with ideas and tips on parenting. I found this insightful and thought provoking on what not to say/do and alternatives which I will already be trying to take on board in day to day life. I would have liked a little more science and psychology but think it will be great for my husband to read.
September 21, 2020
Great, quick read to solidify parenting approaches we have in place as well as consider new ones. It’s often about being open to different perspectives of situations, behaviors and feelings and this book gave a lot of food for thought for how to view things in a new light. The examples make it easy to act and relate. Would recommend to other parents.
December 17, 2021
Best parenting book ever, maybe, which I don’t say lightly. Fast, readable tips that are 1-4 pages long,are concise, offer examples and recommendations on how to enact them including scripts on what to say and how to say it, all backed by research. Basically compiles all the best parenting advice in one book and tells you how to put it all together. The best.
January 30, 2022
Let's of great, immediately actionable suggestions. No need to read in order, or even cover to cover if you don't want to. Just flip to the relevant number/numbers to address the behaviors you want to target for improvement and you're good to go. I love that many of tips support and reinforce the underlying characteristics of being an authoritative parent.
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