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Find How To Be Whole Again: Defeat Fear of Abandonment, Anxiety, and Self-Doubt. Be an Emotionally Mature Adult Despite Coming From a Dysfunctional Family
Did you have emotionally immature, selfish, distant parents or partners? Is their painful heritage still lingering in form of abandonment issues, anxiety, or anger? Were you emotional needs often unmet, your opinion and emotions dismissed?In this essential book, bestselling author and former confidence coach, Zoe McKey exposes the harmful consequences emotional unavailability and toxic relationships can have. Experiences with such people create a feeling of neglect, inadequacy, or unworthiness. Find ways to heal from the pain. Within your environment toxic people can be found; in your family, relationship, workplace, even places of worship. Free yourself from emotionally immature people and regain your true nature. -control how you react to them; -avoid disappointment; -learn how to create positive, new relationships and build a better life.Heal from emotional abuse. Find love and acceptance for the self and others.Most emotional trauma survivors have symptoms long after the relationship is over. Feelings of numbness, emptiness, depression, perfectionism, substance abuse, and many more can stay with you even if your perpetrators are not. You can heal these scars. You can pivot in your life. Practicing mindfulness, introspection, and exercises using specific tools, you can: - learn to identify the defense mechanisms you've developed; - uncover your core self, so that you can finally move on to live a full and authentic life;- feel light, free, and whole, and ready to love again.The danger of emotional abuse is it leaves no bruises. There are no bleeding scars. There are no broken windows. The scars, bruises, and brokenness are buried within the memory of the victim. If you were involved in such a relationship - or you want to prevent it from happening to you- read this book. It gets to the heart of the matter of self-worth, self-protection, and personal boundaries. These skills are critical for anyone who wants to become more confident, improve relationships, and prevent emotional harm.Take a stand for yourself and your life, and communicate your worth to others in a real and practical way. You get to decide how you want to live. Find your courage. Live in an authentic way. Protect yourself and what's important to you. Gain self respect and the respect of others. Find How To Be Whole Again will help you do all of these things.
272 pages, Paperback
Published January 28, 2020
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March 3, 2020
A Life-Changing Surprise!
What is emotional maturity? Yesterday I thought I knew. I thought I was a mature well-adjusted adult fully prepared to have kids. Today, after finishing McKey's book I have a new, refreshing perspective!
In her book, McKey gives the most clear definition of emotional maturity I've very read. She discusses what it looks like, where it comes from, and how to develop it?
Initially, this didn't seem like it was important in my life, but after reading this book I'm beginning to realize that emotional maturity takes practice. It's a daily exercise of recognizing the source of your feelings and how to master them. If you're reading this review, you're probably already more mature than you realize, but this book will give you a knew perspective.
On top of everything I've said, McKey is a great storyteller! She shares pieces of her life that will keep you turning the page and move you to be a better person.
Every adult should read this book, especially if you have kids, work with kids, or even deal with difficult people on a daily basis!
What is emotional maturity? Yesterday I thought I knew. I thought I was a mature well-adjusted adult fully prepared to have kids. Today, after finishing McKey's book I have a new, refreshing perspective!
In her book, McKey gives the most clear definition of emotional maturity I've very read. She discusses what it looks like, where it comes from, and how to develop it?
Initially, this didn't seem like it was important in my life, but after reading this book I'm beginning to realize that emotional maturity takes practice. It's a daily exercise of recognizing the source of your feelings and how to master them. If you're reading this review, you're probably already more mature than you realize, but this book will give you a knew perspective.
On top of everything I've said, McKey is a great storyteller! She shares pieces of her life that will keep you turning the page and move you to be a better person.
Every adult should read this book, especially if you have kids, work with kids, or even deal with difficult people on a daily basis!
January 7, 2023
More a memoir than a "tutorial"
The book isn't what I expected, but it's an interesting read. It reads more like a journal of someone working through their hurt and healing than instructions on how someone else can do the same. Maybe my learning style is different. Still, I finished it in about a day so that's saying something.
The book isn't what I expected, but it's an interesting read. It reads more like a journal of someone working through their hurt and healing than instructions on how someone else can do the same. Maybe my learning style is different. Still, I finished it in about a day so that's saying something.
February 18, 2020
I got a lot out of this book! It should be required reading in school, it is that good. I especially liked reading about family dysfunction and abuse that can happen. This "Little" book gave me such clarity into my own behavior as well.
March 11, 2022
I saw myself in the biggest part of this book! Very helpful advices have been provided and it is really nice to know that other people are facing the same ‘difficulties’ as you - it is great to know that you are not alone
November 3, 2024
The writing is not good. It's kind of just a "brain dump" of a lot of different topics and her life experiences on a very surface level. No in depth information or real actionable steps. Mentions codependency, narcissism, gaslighting, etc, but doesn't explain well. Might be a good book for a teen or someone juuuuusssst dipping their toes into self help/understanding their dysfunctional life. But will have to research topics in more depth to achieve any real understanding or plans for moving forward.
June 1, 2020
I found this book endearing to read and mostly really enjoyed it. After just finishing it, I found I only related to one or two of the chapters and got slightly bored in parts. However I pushed on and really glad I did. It's worth baring in mind this book comes across as friendly advice rather than scientifically backed up practical advice, but sometimes we all crave a shoulder to cry on rather than a doctor. Give it a read :)
June 16, 2020
Great read!
Great read! Took my two days with my busy schedule. I would recommend to anyone who has that view they are alone. You are not alone, we all have experienced or dealt with it. I just felt I needed more advice for myself that I have gotten with other books but it was still full off tips and advice.
Great read! Took my two days with my busy schedule. I would recommend to anyone who has that view they are alone. You are not alone, we all have experienced or dealt with it. I just felt I needed more advice for myself that I have gotten with other books but it was still full off tips and advice.
May 26, 2024
I generally enjoyed this book. The author felt genuine and I did think sharing her personal story was helpful. Some parts were a little repetitive, but she gave good questions to ask yourself for further reflection regarding your own behaviours and why you are the way you are. Grammar was a little off sometimes but not too bad. Felt like she genuinely wanted to help her readers.
August 30, 2020
Not quite what I was hoping for. This read more like someone’s doctoral thesis with their own personal anecdote dictating the information. There were a couple chapters towards the end that I found meaningful but not sure I gained anything.
May 4, 2021
A succinct and useful guide to overcoming hangovers from childhood that have left a person feeling less than. Warm, wise and inspiring.
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