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A Lei do Contacto
SINOPSE Casais, pais e filhos, professores e alunos, colegas, empresas... Há uma solução simples para melhorar a sua comunicação e construir relações mais felizes e saudáveis com qualquer pessoa na sua vida. Essa solução é a Lei do Contacto - e ela pode funcionar para si! Com base nos princípios da Lei da Atracção e nas mais recentes descobertas científicas da Programação Neurolinguística, Michael Losier revela, ao longo destas páginas, como criar uma ligação profunda, uma comunicação eficaz e uma relação sólida com as pessoas mais relevantes na sua vida. Este livro oferece-lhe conselhos, exercícios e guiões comportamentais que lhe permitirão criar relações mais positivas - a todos os níveis.
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First published January 1, 2009
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Michael J. Losier
10 books87 followersMichael J. Losier was introduced to the subject of Law of Attraction in 1995 and became a certified NLP practitioner. A faculty member of the Law of Attraction Training Center, he grew up in a blue-collar community in New Brunswick, Canada, and now makes his home in Victoria, B.C., Canada
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September 18, 2009
I think if every person in the world read this book, we could avoid a lot of unnecessary conflict. Losier teaches us to evaluate both our own and others' styles of connection. People generally fall into one of four types of communicators: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and digital. I thought I was a visual learner but learned that I am actually a kinesthetic learner and communicator. I use words like "feel", "touch", and "connect" all the time. I tell people that I "love" when they do this or that. I always say "take care" when I leave someone.
You might wonder why it is even necessary to know one's own communication style as well as to assess others' styles. Here's a business example: you're a sales person and want to sell me something. You would be wise to ask me how I "feel" about the item you have shown me. You might ask me if the item will provide a good "fit" for me. You might give me a brief hug when I leave (if appropriate of course). You are much more likely to sell me something if you know how to communicate with me.
Of course selling is just one tiny part of communication. Think about how world leaders could avoid verbal conflict if they understood each other better. Or what if you could understand better why your child does his homework comfortably with his ipod buds in his ears? What if you could were a teacher and could help each of your students learn better?
There are so many uses for Losier's evaluation and communication skills set that I could go on and on. Read this little 145-page book and practice on your friends and family. Figure out their communication styles. Relate to them better. I had a great time figuring out that one of my friends was clearly an auditory communicator. He frequently said, "I hear ya," or "that rings a bell."
So what's the benefit of all the knowledge about communication styles? It helps people to connect better and build healthier relationships. We all want to be understood; we generally want to understand others. This little volume can give us a very good start on evaluating and developing these skills. Bad communication causes so many problems. Healthy communication using techniques taught in this book can provide the answers.
You might wonder why it is even necessary to know one's own communication style as well as to assess others' styles. Here's a business example: you're a sales person and want to sell me something. You would be wise to ask me how I "feel" about the item you have shown me. You might ask me if the item will provide a good "fit" for me. You might give me a brief hug when I leave (if appropriate of course). You are much more likely to sell me something if you know how to communicate with me.
Of course selling is just one tiny part of communication. Think about how world leaders could avoid verbal conflict if they understood each other better. Or what if you could understand better why your child does his homework comfortably with his ipod buds in his ears? What if you could were a teacher and could help each of your students learn better?
There are so many uses for Losier's evaluation and communication skills set that I could go on and on. Read this little 145-page book and practice on your friends and family. Figure out their communication styles. Relate to them better. I had a great time figuring out that one of my friends was clearly an auditory communicator. He frequently said, "I hear ya," or "that rings a bell."
So what's the benefit of all the knowledge about communication styles? It helps people to connect better and build healthier relationships. We all want to be understood; we generally want to understand others. This little volume can give us a very good start on evaluating and developing these skills. Bad communication causes so many problems. Healthy communication using techniques taught in this book can provide the answers.
June 12, 2024
Good book!
October 1, 2018
The first half was really good; second half really only applies to teachers, or buisnesspeople
July 9, 2009
This practical workbook will teach you about four styles of communication: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and digital. It guides you through self-analysis and stories about communication strengths, problems, and solutions. Bottom line: helpful and clear.
I first learned about NeuroLinguistic Programming when I was in medical school in California. It applied to what I was learning about doctor-patient relationships then and still is useful now, 30 years later. The climate and circumstances of health care delivery have changed a lot but people are still people, with similar needs for understanding and connection. I will use this book in my teaching and supervising. Many of my friends will find it beneficial as well.
I first learned about NeuroLinguistic Programming when I was in medical school in California. It applied to what I was learning about doctor-patient relationships then and still is useful now, 30 years later. The climate and circumstances of health care delivery have changed a lot but people are still people, with similar needs for understanding and connection. I will use this book in my teaching and supervising. Many of my friends will find it beneficial as well.
August 23, 2011
This was a really good book. This book introduces a 4th type of learning style, the digital learner. Prior to this, authors talk about the main 3 styles, auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. In addition there were clear examples based on relationships on how the learning communication styles interact with each other. Parent/child, Teacher/student. I found this very helpful. In Part 7, it provided a clear demonstration of how the Teacher-Trainer could improver the interaction with their class/session with their student/attendees. The questions to ask to improve participation in the course and to ensure that everyone participated and understood the material being presented. I would recommend this book to anyone that is in the teaching, training, and team development arena.
July 3, 2009
A very concise and interesting approach to using psychology to better your interpersonal communication.
The book was a fast read (taking only a couple hours) and structured to be appreciable to all the communication styles. With its included worksheets and tests, the author allowed for self assessment, and subsequently, personal development. It felt good to grasp the big picture early on in the text, and then have the smaller applications told to you with care and expertise. I recommend this as a guide to further good communication skills if you are so gifted, or to completely overhaul your styles if you seek to express yourself and understand others more fluently.
Well done!
The book was a fast read (taking only a couple hours) and structured to be appreciable to all the communication styles. With its included worksheets and tests, the author allowed for self assessment, and subsequently, personal development. It felt good to grasp the big picture early on in the text, and then have the smaller applications told to you with care and expertise. I recommend this as a guide to further good communication skills if you are so gifted, or to completely overhaul your styles if you seek to express yourself and understand others more fluently.
Well done!
September 21, 2009
It is definitely not a typical reading choice for me. That being said, I found it to be interesting. I definitely agreed with many of the scenarios presented and said "Oh yeah, been through that before." He gave names to some of the actions I already find myself doing but he also introduced me to some new things to try, particularly when I return to work. I'd recommend it for people in human resources, managers, etc. to assist with improving communication in the workplace, though I'm sure the concepts would apply to your everyday relationships with family, kids, spouses (and he does use examples of those relationships in his audiobook).
June 27, 2009
Breaks people into the 4 types: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and digital. For me, it was useful simply by being another way to classify personalities, to better understand and work with them. The whole book presupposes (to use NLP terminology) that you already understand that different people focus on different modalities in their own mind. For example, some people focus on images, others on sounds. The author never explains that, but knowing that from reading about NLP elsewhere helped me to get value out of this book.
November 10, 2009
A quick easy read, probably most likely tagged a business book but applies to personal relationships as well. Used this as a book club selection for my team at work. The good news is Losier makes his point and provids take-aways quickly. Fortunately he manages to end it before it gets too hokey, can be read in a couple of hours.
August 12, 2009
I think this book would be great for anyone that has employees to manage. It will help with your own style of management as well. It helped me to see how I relate to other people. Parents can also get an insight into why their children behave as they do based on the book's archetypes.
July 5, 2021
The author is an NLP practitioner, so I assume this books is taken from the NLP teachings. which I have some doubt here n there, because there are discussions on it being unscientific.
Nonetheless, I've read through this book, and found that the points are practical on how to evaluate different people approach based on VAKD - visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and digital. Though I'm not sure the VAKD is scientifically proven, the description is quite detailed and pragmatic. I figure I may get something out of it and try out changing approaches based on prominent VAKD displayed by different people... and see if the outcome changes.
Nonetheless, I've read through this book, and found that the points are practical on how to evaluate different people approach based on VAKD - visual, auditory, kinesthetic, and digital. Though I'm not sure the VAKD is scientifically proven, the description is quite detailed and pragmatic. I figure I may get something out of it and try out changing approaches based on prominent VAKD displayed by different people... and see if the outcome changes.
August 24, 2023
Excellent content on connection, worth reading, and using as a reference.
Michael Lozier expertly goes into the NLP, perceptual, preferences, and adds unique and interesting information such as what happens when a person with a.particular perceptual preference is annoyed.
The information about how to connect when training and on websites is excellent advice.
I already start reading it for the second time to see what I missed!
Michael Lozier expertly goes into the NLP, perceptual, preferences, and adds unique and interesting information such as what happens when a person with a.particular perceptual preference is annoyed.
The information about how to connect when training and on websites is excellent advice.
I already start reading it for the second time to see what I missed!
March 6, 2020
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Am not one for using emoticons in book reviews. This one was mind bogglingly accurate. Understanding my strengths and weaknesses as well as of those around me. Am already seeing how subtle changes in the phrasing of questions can get better response and avoid frustration for both.
Am not one for using emoticons in book reviews. This one was mind bogglingly accurate. Understanding my strengths and weaknesses as well as of those around me. Am already seeing how subtle changes in the phrasing of questions can get better response and avoid frustration for both.
September 5, 2024
Finished. Remember basically nothing from it at time of this writing. I know that it didn't feel substantively different from the law of attraction except that it involved NLP and deliberately using conversations with other people to navigate toward your desires.
July 30, 2017
Super interesting! I love that he gave so many examples for each section. I definitely was picturing different people with the different styles.
January 6, 2019
Very useful book, gave me some practical information to work through.
December 6, 2020
I mean sure. Its a great place to learn the basics. Its short like a self help book should be and encourages you to learn through practice.
August 5, 2021
Short and sweet
September 25, 2021
Good for starting but it’s not enough.
January 26, 2022
Berisi syarat berhubungan, penilaian diri gaya komunikasi, 4 gaya komunikasi NLP, mengalibrasi percakapan, metode, dan teknik-teknik khusus untuk berhubungan.semuanya tersaji di buku ini.
November 25, 2022
Phenomenal. Nobody has a better look at rapport and calibration for beginners
March 8, 2023
Had some good ideas but over all too simplistic.
August 6, 2025
Pseudoscience and not worth your time.
July 1, 2009
When I am saying "it was OK" it does mean just that -- it was OK. Not bad at all. After I added several all time favorites with five stars, I have a hard time to give out five or even four stars to everything else. I wonder if it will just pass with time.
Anyway, I won this book on First Reads and I enjoyed it simplicity and lightness. The author says on the title pages that the book is meant to be read in several hours, and he means it. It reads fast. It is fun to read with a partner and talk about what you've just read or done. It is a very nice book, too. Feels good to hold it in your hands -- a nice smooth hardcover with a pastel green binding and a lemon yellow color. Won't give that one away!
The basic premise of the book is that we all have different communication styles, different ways we like to receive and perceive information. So, it will do us good to learn our own style and the styles of others. The assessment test of your style is included. Author suggests to read the text first, and then take the test, but we did the opposite, and I liked the way it worked for me. I was in for some pleasant surprises -- recognizing myself in my second prevalent style as much as in the first one.
The book has a not-so-useful intro, the assessment test, the description of four styles (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, and Digital). The descriptions are written short, to the point, with some nice tables and not so much text in between. Favorite phrases, the questions that are likely to be answered with speed and ease, what other people like and dislike about these styles, all of it short, clear, to the point and well organized.
The other half of the book is less interesting. It has a sort of tack-on section on positive reframing of events, presuppositions of future ("who here would like to come over and discuss how this section is inferior to the other ones?") and other communication tricks that can be used, apparently, on anyone regardless of their communication style.
The last part of the book gives some specific recommendations on how to make use of the knowledge on communication styles in different spheres of life -- dealing with your family, making a sale, developing a website, teaching a class, etc. The final section is designed specifically for the teachers and trainers (who always have to deal with all types present in the room). Some of the recommendation were good, some I would never think of applying to a college classroom ("repeat after me" -- give me a break!).
My big question is, how does this book connect to NLP. If this connection exists, it was not made clear.
In addition, I hate to say it, but I am not sure that the names of the communication styles actually match the essence of the style. For instance, a speedy time-valuing person who likes to get the big ideas and little to none details is a visual style. Why? How? A person who thrives on personal connections, likes to be comfortable and have fun -- kinesthetic. What's that got to do with body motions? Auditory type struck me as "verbal", and the Digital -- as "logical" or "sequential".
Overall, I think this book can be a good fun intro to learning and communication styles, a fun family activity piece, and a springboard to learning more on learning and communication styles (if this is what you are interested in).
Anyway, I won this book on First Reads and I enjoyed it simplicity and lightness. The author says on the title pages that the book is meant to be read in several hours, and he means it. It reads fast. It is fun to read with a partner and talk about what you've just read or done. It is a very nice book, too. Feels good to hold it in your hands -- a nice smooth hardcover with a pastel green binding and a lemon yellow color. Won't give that one away!
The basic premise of the book is that we all have different communication styles, different ways we like to receive and perceive information. So, it will do us good to learn our own style and the styles of others. The assessment test of your style is included. Author suggests to read the text first, and then take the test, but we did the opposite, and I liked the way it worked for me. I was in for some pleasant surprises -- recognizing myself in my second prevalent style as much as in the first one.
The book has a not-so-useful intro, the assessment test, the description of four styles (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, and Digital). The descriptions are written short, to the point, with some nice tables and not so much text in between. Favorite phrases, the questions that are likely to be answered with speed and ease, what other people like and dislike about these styles, all of it short, clear, to the point and well organized.
The other half of the book is less interesting. It has a sort of tack-on section on positive reframing of events, presuppositions of future ("who here would like to come over and discuss how this section is inferior to the other ones?") and other communication tricks that can be used, apparently, on anyone regardless of their communication style.
The last part of the book gives some specific recommendations on how to make use of the knowledge on communication styles in different spheres of life -- dealing with your family, making a sale, developing a website, teaching a class, etc. The final section is designed specifically for the teachers and trainers (who always have to deal with all types present in the room). Some of the recommendation were good, some I would never think of applying to a college classroom ("repeat after me" -- give me a break!).
My big question is, how does this book connect to NLP. If this connection exists, it was not made clear.
In addition, I hate to say it, but I am not sure that the names of the communication styles actually match the essence of the style. For instance, a speedy time-valuing person who likes to get the big ideas and little to none details is a visual style. Why? How? A person who thrives on personal connections, likes to be comfortable and have fun -- kinesthetic. What's that got to do with body motions? Auditory type struck me as "verbal", and the Digital -- as "logical" or "sequential".
Overall, I think this book can be a good fun intro to learning and communication styles, a fun family activity piece, and a springboard to learning more on learning and communication styles (if this is what you are interested in).
October 7, 2009
It took me a long time to get through this one for such a small book, but the exercises took some time. You can't just sit down and read it cover to cover and be done. I really enjoyed learning the concepts in this book and I have been applying them to me. I find myself using words that I didn't ever use before in my conversations and my husband teases me "wow that's a big word for you!" I am really glad I read this book. I am a generally outgoing person except for when I just meet someone then I clam up and am shy. I think this book has helped me to work past that. Yay for the goodreads book give away or I never would have even known about this book!
June 26, 2009
This book helped me realize the way that I have conversations. I found it intresting to figure out which style of conversation that I use. Hopefully now that I know I will be able to have better conversations with everyone around me.
February 5, 2013
I listened to this book on CD. It is read by the author who has a monotone voice and reads as if he his bored to death. The text is quite repetitive and predictable. Though the information is useful the delivery method isn't.
August 25, 2013
reminds me of kinda a 'meyers-briggs' test lite. if nothing else it spells out again and again the concept of trying to see a conversation through the other person's eyes and thereby having better communication. Perfect for someone who just wants an overview reminder of common courtesy.
March 26, 2016
Excelente libro para comprender y analizar los diferentes estilos de comunicación, es sencillo y corto de leer (en 3 ó 4 horas). Habrá que revisarlo varias veces para poder aprovecharlo e ir asimilando mejor las ideas que allí de proponen.
June 28, 2009
Very interesting read. Perspective on your own communication style and how to build rapport with those of other communication styles. Perfect for personal and professional relationships.
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