Arrête de te plaindre et bouge-toi ! (DEV. PERSO POCH)

by Larry Winget, Antoine Limare (Illustrator), Danielle Charron (Translator)

Vous aimeriez avoir une vie amoureuse palpitante ? Réaliser un projet qui vous tient à coeur ? Changer de job pour vous épanouir enfin dans votre travail ? Bref, vous voulez que votre situation s'améliore ? Pour commencer : on arrête de se plaindre !

Voici un livre pour reprendre le dessus et mener la vie que vous voulez vraiment

Que votre problème soit lié à vos enfants, votre conjoint(e) ou votre travail, apprenez comment :

Définir clairement ce dont vous avez envie et ce qui vous motive.

Assumer ce que vous faites et ce que vous dites, même si c'est difficile (rupture, démission, promesse...).

Prendre soin de vous pour renvoyer une image positive de vous-même !

Vous cultiver et fréquenter les gens qui vous intéressent vraiment !

Ce livre est une réédition de l’ouvrage du même titre paru en 2013.

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Audiobook, Business, Psychology, Finance

241 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2004

About the author

Larry Winget is a motivational speaker and writer on the topics of money, personal success and business.

Reviews

[Kristie J. · Rating 1 out of 5]

I forced myself to finish this book so I could add it to my "read" list. I struggled over whether to give it 1 or 2 stars. I do think we all need to hear the "shut up, stop whining, and get a life" message from time to time, and some of the advice in the book is practical. However, only the first one-fourth of the book is really about the "shut up, stop whining, and get a life" message. The entire rest of the book is the author preaching about his own personal beliefs and opinions about religion, relationships, marriage, parenting, work, and being successful with very few examples of how this advice has actually worked in people's lives. I finally decided to give the book one star because the author's tone is so annoying and he contradicts himself. He's like the self-absorbed jackass who argues with everything you say and keeps talking because he likes the sound of his own voice.

[Eti · Rating 3 out of 5]

Честно казано ми хареса! На мен явно ми действа добре "ритникът в г*за", но определено не е за всеки. С някои от нещата съм съгласна, с други не съвсем... Но е прав - може и да ти се случват гадости, които не можеш да контролираш, но как реагираш на тях - това вече е под твой контрол!
Друго, което ми хареса е становището, че ВИНАГИ можеш да си намериш оправдание, за всичко... И за да получиш това, което искаш просто трябва да спреш да хленчиш!
Аз лично си взех някоя и друга идея от книгата.

Подходът да те сритат и да те мотивират докато ти се карат, не е подходящ за всеки. Някои предпочитат мило побутване в правилната посока. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Amy VanHym · Rating 1 out of 5]

"You are here because you need to be here." -- the preface

I am here because I picked this book up in untouched condition for about a nickel at a library book sale because the title was funny, and I won't be here for very long. The prose blathers along repetitively at an early elementary school reading level. The content is padded with lengthy yet empty attempts at creating a conversational tone, and the 'wisdom' is unbelievably juvenile. This book reads like it was written for a child, or a borderline mentally retarded adult. It constantly gets off on its own milquetoast edgy posturing without offering any genuine insight to justify the attitude. This is not a useful, funny, interesting or entertaining book. It is a book for people who don't read, and who are so stunted that they are beyond saving. Into the bin it goes.

[Caro · Rating 1 out of 5]

I found this book an absolute chore to read. I was reading this for a class, otherwise I never would’ve picked it up. There is absolutely nothing new about his “tough love” approach. He spends entirely too much of this book trying to convince us he’s different. If he was actually different, would he really have to work so hard to convince us? At the same time, he’s shamelessly plugging his other books, which I assume are equally awful. At the end of the day, he seems to be just as much of a scam as the other self help “gurus” he claims to dislike so much.

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

Loved the part where the author advises to not waste time hanging out with people who don’t read. Good advice!

[Rosie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Tough love in the beginning. Personal life philosophy (emphasis on the *personal*) for about the last 1/3 or 1/2 of the book. It's applicable, but less about the reader than the first part. I don't agree with everything he says, but he sticks to his convictions, and that's something.

[Sara Rosenthal · Rating 5 out of 5]

I listened to the Audible version of this book. I have read a lot of similar books because I enjoy the self-help and motivational genre. So I was excited to read this but didn't really have too high of expectations. I'm really glad I did because if you like witty sarcastic no-nonsense people he really packs a punch! But at his core, he's really not that offensive. I think it's kind of a schtick. Which is not a bad thing because it does suck you in and it works for him. As other reviewers have critiqued, this would have been better narrated in his own voice but honestly, the narrator isn't terrible so it was fine for me. He's actually a very realistic person underneath all of that caustic wit and sarcasm. Everything he says is completely logical and makes sense and I actually did not find myself getting offended at all but maybe that's just me. He's surprisingly liberal for his cowboy/ conservative image. And I couldn't tell you what political party he votes for I just mean he isn't on any kind of moral high horse which I appreciate because I'm not religious nor am I conservative. A good quick read with a lot of helpful advice. Nothing brand new or earth-shattering but definitely good common sense reminders.

[Onur · Rating 2 out of 5]

Çizgi roman formatında self help kitabı, güzel düşülmüş bence. :)

[Lettore di Mondi · Rating 2 out of 5]

Una stupidata che ripete lo stesso concetto dall’inizio alla fine del libro.

[Loy Machedo · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is the third book of Larry Winget that I decided to read and complete and it took me all but a few hours. And as advertized on the label – he is truly the Pitbull of Personal Development.

But herein lies the twist.

What can you expect from this book?

Straight forward wisdom?
A controversial method of thinking?
Something new?

Well you will be a bit surprised, if your expectations matched mine.

I believe this book came in around 2004 when Larry had already released around 8 book before that – most of which I believe are not available anymore or have been discontinued. (I know it because I purchased every single possible product from his website - all at one go).

To my utter surprise, this book was not the Larry Winget we know of him today. I felt he was a bit mellow yet confused and kind of settling into what he has become today.

This book surprisingly walked the typical format what most motivational or inspirational books of the 80’s would follow – Memorable quotations from famous personalities sprinkled at every page, a bit of the ridiculous feel good approach of affirmation and the positive idiot-thinking strategy and yes, to my biggest surprise biblical phrases! Not very good Mr. Winget, especially if you want your brand to be defined.

Through out the book, there were great moments of ‘aha’ moments to the absolute no-no boring grand-father giving his grandson lectures. At times I was tempted to put this book down and just skim through the pages, but it was is classic vintage persona that kept popping up from time to time.

He has not held back to profess his views on sex, love, raising children, not sharing books, benefits of divorce, believing or not believing in god to eating dog biscuit – while making his son stick to his end of the bargain.

I loved the honesty that he did bring forth.

Overall, a great book if you are looking for old wine in a new packaging and some pieces of advice that many authors, writers and speakers feel embarrassed to speak about.

Will I recommend it to anyone? That would be indeed be a big question I have yet to find an answer to. But yes, I loved the book and I am a fan of Larry Winget.

Overall rating 4 out of 10 with sometimes a high of 6

[Diane · Rating 1 out of 5]

Well... I found this in my house while purging my bookcases in preparation to downsize. I know this was a book my ex was to read for a focus group for his franchise. For the life of me, I don’t know what they thought he would really get from it.
The book really should probably be an e-book. The front end is padded with bolded quotes by famous people. The last half of the book is full of two page chapters. Much of the book is anecdotal at best and honestly completely inaccurate at worst.
His comments on marriage and cohabitation are patently inaccurate based on the research. Requiring by federal law that people live together a year before they marriage will not drop the divorce rate by half; couples who cohabit before marriage have higher divorce rates, statistically speaking. (And don’t comment that you know couple who aren’t married and have lived together for 20, 30 or 49 years. I know couples like that too. They are NOT the norm.)
“Second marriages seem to last longer”?? Again not born out of facts but of some emotional feeling or need.
Which honestly the whole book is about feeling. It’s about do you have a positive and abundant mindset or a negative and scarcity mindset.
It’s about you being in control and responsible for whatever your life is like. And if you don’t like it, change. .... which.... the old saying goes “wherever you go, there you are.” If you are unsatisfied with this job or marriage, do you believe changing it —without looking at yourself and the “why” — will make the next one better or satisfying? If so, this book is probably for you.
I do agree that attitude is huge. And a huge part of our collective dissatisfaction and restlessness.
His solutions seem arrogant, condescending, shallow, and a little ignorant. It seems like a self-published book with very little professional editing. I had to skim the last third of the book otherwise I likely would have thrown it hard against a wall.
Overall pretty simplistic and nothing that the title doesn’t give away.

[Tyra · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked Larry Winget's no-holds-barred approach to a better self and a better life and, to my surprise, I found it helpful. The overarching idea is that if you want something, which could be anything from a better job to a better marriage, then go after it! (notice ! for he uses a lot of them).

For example, in one part of the book he explained how he once lived in Oklahoma, mainly because of family. He hated the weather, though, which gnawed at him daily. After doing a little math, he determined that there were only four months out of the year in OK that he enjoyed; therefore, given his age, he would not like where he lived for 20 years of the next 30 years of his life. Consequently, he moved to Arizona, which he now enjoys 10 months out of the year.

I gave it only 3 stars because of the writing itself. It's conversational, which is OK, but better editing could have made the writing powerful. In the following, Winget talks about learning to relax and he says: "In fact, just the opposite is true for most. They relax so much they do not get anything done. But people like me do so much they are not comfortable when they are doing nothing." Huh? Anyway, other than that, it's a good read.

[Angel · Rating 4 out of 5]

2005 was a pretty good year for reading, since I read a lot on the commute when I lived in Houston (about the only good thing out of that hideous commute to the city). Anyhow, here is my impression of this book from my journal back then:

>>This is a good, smart, straight forward self-help advice book. I think my director selected it for the business section, but the author addresses all walks of life. Basically, the idea is to take responsibility for your life. Don't like it, change it, but it has to come from you. Also, reminds me of little things like "a deal is a deal" and treat others better than you would yourself. A lot of it actually boils down to love and happiness. If you love what you do, and you are happy, success will come. Things happen, that is life. But get over it, learn and grow, and move on. Winget even does a bit of advocating for reading. He even talks a bit about sex, which is the coolest thing, and a right thing (as in good, not right wing). Teach children this with respect, responsibility, and safety, and the kids will be fine.<<

Definitely a book with something for everyone.

[Дени ★ Проданова · Rating 3 out of 5]

Какво да ви кажа... Купих книгата за приятелка, която има нужда от помощ и рекох да я прочета, за да съм сигурна, че ще има файда. Като цяло съм съгласна с 98% от написаното. Наистина моята философия за живота съвпада до голяма степен с възгледите на автора. Разбира се прочетох и големи глупости (заради които падна едната звезда), а другата падна заради самия автор.
Абе, Лари, пич, осъзнай се! Противоречиш си! През 15% от книгата обяснява каква щяла да бъде тя (директна, изпълнена с болезнена истина и т.н.). Това го пише и на корицата, за това съм я купила, така че давай по същество.
Казваш, че не те интересува мнението на хората и тяхната история? Познай какво: и мен не ме интересуваше твоята.
Стила на писане на пича Лари е добър, обаче изобщо, ама хич, не ми пука колко и какви хора познава, каква къща има и колко обича жена си. Пише как трябва да предоставяме най-добрата услуга на своите клиенти (което е така) и същевременно твърди, че не му пука дали той прави същото за своите читатели? Малко ме загуби тука...

[Viktoria Anna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Genau das, was ich gebraucht habe: ein kleiner Tritt in den Hintern.

Lieblingsstellen: Viele! Hier nur zwei davon.
"Stress kommt daher, dass man weiß, was richtig ist, aber das Falsche tut."
"Es gibt immer ausreichend Zeit um die Dinge zu tun, die du wirklich tun willst. Wenn du es nur stark genug willst, wirst du die Zeit finden oder sie dir nehmen."

[Yves · Rating 5 out of 5]

Certain people are tough and frank. They have issues but they are smart enough to see through the flimsy motivation books out there in the first chapter, the books do not measure up, and said book sails though the air into the bin.

Enter “Shut Up, Stop Whining, & Get a Life”.

Tough, frank, no-nonsense people that need help (but do not want to be babied) ... step up: this book is for you.

The title tells you it was written by someone just ... like ... you. Life’s disasters? Been there. “You’re angry?” You get schooled with real input. No feather bed this book intentionally takes a firm line with the reader: Read, understand, and put the pity parade in the garage for a while.

Sometimes the unvarnished direct scoop is what people need. Love this book.

[Francesca · Rating 1 out of 5]

I read grow a pair first and it was a fun easy read with good points made. The title certainly caught my attention.

However i couldnt wait to finish this book and not for the right reason. My goodness, What a self absorbed, arrogant, ego centric person.

Half of the book is about him telling the readers about how he is the best in everything and everyone else in his industry are a bunch of scamming bozos. I dont understand why someone who is supposed to be so succesful in life has the need to criticize and undermine his colleagues, talk so much about himself and needs cash in his wallet to make him feel important, How is it that someone so above everyone else needs cash in his wallet to prove his worth?

He needs to read his books and follow his own advice with a little humility.

[Asuman Ovalı · Rating 2 out of 5]

Çizimleri güzel. Çizimleri bazen yazılanlar hakkında daha fazla düşünmeye yardım ediyor. İçerik çok zayıf, yer yer klişe. Eleştirdiği kişisel gelişim kitaplarından çok da bir farkı yok. Bazı tespitlerinde hakikat payı var ama aşırı iddialı üslûbu beğenmiyorsanız eğer bahsettiği gerçekler de umrunuzda olmayacak. Bazı göreceli değerleri de mutlakmış gibi ifade etmesi hatalı. Çevirisini de zayıf buldum, bu zayıflık da içeriğe mesafeyi arttırıyor. "Onlar işin hayat kanıdır" nasıl bir çeviri oluyor mesela? Türkçede böyle bir deyim var mı? Neyse. Sırf merak ettiğim için almıştım. Merak edilecek bir şey yokmuş. Tek yıldız yeterdi ama ikincisi çizim fikri için...

[Sinondang · Rating 4 out of 5]

Buku tentang pengembangan diri yang unik karena 2 alasan, pertama disajikan dalam bentuk komik, kedua gaya bahasa dipakai cenderung ke negatif, sehingga bisa jadi membuat tidak nyaman pembaca. Terlepas dari gaya bahasanya, menurut saya hal tersebut tidak mengubah tujuan dan isi buku ini, yaitu untuk mencapai hidup yang lebih baik. Buku ini juga mengajak pembacanya untuk mempertanyakan nilai-nilai yang sudah ada dengan sudut pandang yang tidak konvensional. Hal-hal yang disampaikan buku ini sangat masuk akal, sehingga tidak menimbulkan perbantahan yang panjang.

[Charles A. CALLARI III · Rating 5 out of 5]

“Shut Up, Stop Whining, and Get a Life” by Larry Winget is a no-nonsense, straight-shooting book that tells it exactly like it is—with zero sugarcoating. I give it five stars. Winget doesn’t waste time—he hits you with truth, like when he says you’re broke because you want to be, or when he calls out the ridiculous excuses people make instead of taking responsibility. This book kicks you in the butt and makes you think. It’s part motivation, part tough love, and all reality. If you’re tired of fluff, this is the wake-up call you need.

[Iain · Rating 2 out of 5]

I guess there might be some stuff in here that people find relevant, but there are other books which are better. I did not find it particularly motivating and some of his opinions, e.g. time management is pointless (you can only manage priorities), come from a lack of understanding of those subjects. There is advice on how to treat your wife, your children, friends, boss, work, etc. It is not worth going out of your way to read this when better books exist.

[Johanna · Rating 4 out of 5]

On a recommendation of another friend I picked this up from the library. As personal development books go, it's not kind or gentle. The presentation is quite harsh but has solid advice. The advice is not new, I've read it elsewhere, but the delivery is different. This book figuratively tosses ice water in your face or dangles you out a window by your ankle to get you to listen. On the plus side, it's a graphic novel, so there are pictures and it's a quick read. If you are well aware of your own participation in your place in life or have 100s of reasons outside your control of why you are where you are, this is going to be a hard, HARD book to read. If you get through the first part, to the solution section there is beneficial information. This is defiantly a book in which you need to read for the gems and let go of the parts that don't resonate with you.

[Jennifer Anderson · Rating 3 out of 5]

The final 40 pages made up for the beginning of the book or I would have given it one star. The beginning of the book did not fit this time in my life but may have been more beneficial when I was younger. There were numerous references to “god” throughout the entire book which I would have been happier without. The last few chapters helped redeem the rest of the book.

[Alexander · Rating 5 out of 5]

Много добра книга разбиваща митовете за позитивно мислене и нагласи. Всичко се постига със здрава работа и учене. Останалото е хленчене и оправдания. Около това се върти идеята на книгата. Доста груб език и авторът не се извинява за това. Приема го като част от мотивацията... И той не вярва в мотивацията ;)

[Denise Parker · Rating 1 out of 5]

Hated it - I felt like I was being yelled at with every word I read. I finally closed the book and stopped reading it and chose another book in a different style that was much better in my opinion.

[Emily · Rating 2 out of 5]

a book that bullies you into becoming a bit better at life. (Or actually: into working on becoming a bit better at life)

i just had it on my shelf for years and always started the book but never got past chapter 10 or something so I figured I could finish it today.

[Kophie_books · Rating 4 out of 5]

C'est un très bon livre qui permet de se fixer véritablement ses objectifs. Il nous fait réfléchir à ce que nous voulons et comment nous pouvons le faire.

J'ai par contre décroché lorsque la question des relations ou de la religion sont arrivées.

[Craig · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of the best

[Andrew Njoo · Rating 4 out of 5]

funny!

[George Ovidiu · Rating 5 out of 5]

Read it when i was 21 and didn't had a clue about life.
Changed my life and went fast forward around 5 years reading it.
Got a new responsible mind set !